My Late Life Lesbian Journey Part 3- How I Realized I Was Gay

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The Late Life Lesbian

5 жыл бұрын

The final part of my story on how I finally realized I was truly just gay.
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@beautyintheskies 4 жыл бұрын

Well all I can say is welcome to the club! Although I knew I liked females from the age of 16, it took longer to realize I WASN'T interested in men.

@tingtingteila 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. When you said that with a man you always wanted to be with a girl, but with a girl that desire for a man is gone, it hit me so hard. I've been struggling with my Sexuality and curiosity and hearing that makes so much sense to me.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Aw you're welcome! I'm glad it could help!

@dunjapaj8849 Ай бұрын

Same problem here, and a good insight.

@michaelmccauley648 4 жыл бұрын

Emily: As a straight male, it pains me to see the comments from the emotionally and sexually stunted men on your channel, especially the ones invoking the name of God in their attempts to sit in judgement of you. You are an intelligent, articulate and beautiful gay woman who’s evolving into whom she is meant to be and the fools who’ve had their own development arrested at the age of 13 who feel the need to denigrate you aren’t worth a response or your time. Each person’s journey takes a different and complex path. We’re granted only a blink of an eye time-wise in our mortal lives. Live the life you believe you were destined to and ignore those who haven’t the courage or integrity to pursue their own true path.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you so much Michael!... I know there is going to be hate in this world no matter what happens and I always try to meet it with love and will always just be me. But I did block the individual I believe you're referring to because the hate and negativity is not needed. Thank you again for your kind words. Have a great day!

@jodyqueen8498 3 жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much. I too have been married and divorced to a man (no kids tho). I've always interest in women from middle school. But always assumed that I was bi. It wasn't until I had my first serious relationship with a woman recently (I'm in my early 30s) that I realized I was gay. Everything just clicked and just felt like "This. This is how it's supposed to feel." Great video!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks girl! It seems to happen more than we realize!

@arthousefilms 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing. In my own life, I know 4 late out lesbians. You are not alone. Good for you!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@owalshify 3 жыл бұрын

Just found your story and it blows me away how many similarities there are to own my journey, and it's so nice to hear that someone else went through this! Thank you for sharing!!

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and there's actually quite a few people who have!! You're definitely not alone! 🤗

@preciousucheoma45 4 жыл бұрын

All my life I always want to be with women, but my religion/culture background made it so difficult for me. I pray 🙏 to settle down in one of the gay friendly country soon.

@aidilconcult 4 жыл бұрын

Be soft is enough,no need to be gay

@MelinEvie 2 жыл бұрын

As a 20 year old this is so interesting to me. I came out as bisexual when I was 16 and identified with the label ever since. I also fell in love with a boy shortly and only ever had experiences with men. However I regularly have a very strong desire to be with a woman, sometimes despite being in a relationship with a man. And the only way I see myself getting married later in life is with a woman by my side. I also feel like my life would be incomplete if I never ended up dating a woman at least once. I always figured that since I enjoyed being with men I would be considered bi but I come to question myself whenever I feel especially attracted to women. Is this normal? And how does someone differentiate between being bi with a fluid sexuality and being secretly gay?

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I think we have to have more experience to figure that out. I felt very similar to you until I was actually able to be with a woman and it was all suddenly different for me

@MelinEvie 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thank you for your answer! And your input seems reasonable, it's a bit frustrating to just kind of wait for now but at least I can always identify as queer 😅

@michellerenee6773 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! It's so great to hear that someone else's experiences are so similar to my own.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Aww you're welcome! There's a lot of us with similar stories actually. You're not alone!🤗

@thematurelesbian4087 4 жыл бұрын

I came out at 44 and that was 10 years ago. Thanks for sharing. All the best

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome and thanks!!!

@laurenlittlewood3913 3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god. So much of the same!!! So glad I’m not the only one!

@ab-m8124 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this story. I'm younger, in my late teens, but this really helped me feel okay with my feelings, with the chance it isn't me being bi. Thank you, really.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Awww you're very welcome!!!

@buffy455 4 жыл бұрын

First time in your channel! Welcome to the lesbian family! Be happy and greetings from Mexico! ❤️

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Hey!! Thanks so much!!

@aprylnicole2518 4 жыл бұрын

Quick and straight to the point...

@LifeofStar247 5 жыл бұрын

Happy Pride🏳️‍🌈👭loved it, I just told my coming on my story on my pageeee.

@lazywolf71 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing :) so interesting to hear your story

@VickyGeagan 4 жыл бұрын

Thank-you for posting Emily. Seems like all out journeys are similar. I never married dated women, thinking I was bi. Until I got to a point were I just could not live with myself anymore. I just had to come out and be myself. I got involved with a support group that was really great. My group does not exists anymore but all of us are still quite close like family. One of my dear friends that I have known for a good portion of my life, who has a very supportive partner started a new social group which I am now a part of. Which is made up of a lot of us from our old support group. Sometimes I wish I had a partner though still looking. Your very inspiring.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Hey Vicky! Thank you for sharing! I think a support group would be great! I've just connected with a lot of people here which has been nice! You'll find that special someone!!🤗

@VickyGeagan 4 жыл бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian Thank-you I do to. It is a lot different these day then when we were younger so much easier for the kids growing up. They have such an easier time just being themselves.

@teteartes791 2 жыл бұрын

I liked you vídeo. I've been gay all my Life, but now I'm married with a Late Lesbian for 7 years. This is amazing

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you!

@elia9883 5 жыл бұрын

Great to hear your story!

@Nephthy666 2 жыл бұрын

So glad to find this channel. I think I’ve known most of my life I was gay but was raised in a religious home where that would never have been an option. I just thought something must be wrong with me. Now that I’m older and away from family and 100% in the best relationship with myself that I’ve even been in I feel ready to come out but I’m scared to tell my sons father. He knows I’m bi but lately it’s more then that. I’m always lying about either having my period or just not feeling good so I don’t have to have sex with him. This is no way to live. It’s not fair to either of us.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Awww I'm glad this can help! There are many more like me and you who've been through this and all with similar religious upbringings. Shoot me a message on IG if you're on there and I can connect you to some other good support pages!

@claytonloringnhti 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Emily, I just wanted to drop by again and say what an amazing world this would be if all the gay people didn’t have to hide their true feelings.🥰 I know of the stories where young adults have been hurt by bigoted people and never feel “safe”.😞 a gay friend used to tell me how “paranoid” he’d get at gym class. I’d ask what’s wrong and he’d explain the showering with us became “awkward”, (I think you understand) so he’d make up excuses to miss class. And he was great at sports. I also wanted to mention the straight former partners in these relationships (like yours) who are now free to find someone who truly desires them and isn’t just “pretending”. If only open and honest relationships could be the norm. I just heard a man was married to a woman for 45 YEARS and only after she passed away, did he come out as gay. His story is sad 😢 because the man he truly loved had also died. Imagine waiting till you’re in your 70’s to find true 💕

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Wow! But yes, I do hope that eventually people went have these fears or have to hide. It's part of why I'm sharing my story!

@annette9150 4 жыл бұрын

Hi. thanks for making this video it’s really appreciated! I’m wondering when you felt like you were comfortable and satisfied with being in a relationship with a woman, did you ever miss any aspect of being with a man physically or at any level?

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome. And no I haven't missed any aspect of being with a man. I will say that men are emotionally easier but I don't miss it.

@annette9150 4 жыл бұрын

ana luisa mariano oliveira thx so much 😊

@backho5882 2 жыл бұрын

Not to mention my entire life people have often wondered if I was into women, I would even confuse women unknowingly.... I would always deny in shame .... but the feeling is so strong

@backho5882 2 жыл бұрын

I first kissed a girl when I was 10, from there on I knew....fast forward, i repressed those feelings... along the years I noticed I attracted women alot! I also noticed many times that the girls that would be mean with me, would always end up showing interest in me, to my surprise!....I've always had an eye for women and daydream alot whenever I see an attractive woman. today am in a relationship w a man who loves me dearly, and I love him to. But I still feel like something is missing, and the thought of me spending the rest of my life w him and never exploring the other of me, scares me! Not sure am willing to give that up...

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

You're definitely not alone in these feelings

@steveclaflin2573 4 жыл бұрын

Enjoying you path, thankyou for sharing 🙏

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Aw thanks for watching!!

@bigred0079 4 жыл бұрын

Concise,articulate and Hot!

@jimjimgl3 3 жыл бұрын

So lucky to have had the marriage and a son and then also find your way to your true self.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

I truly have been lucky, especially that my ex husband and I are still friends and can work together well to co parent our son!

@camrynelias426 4 жыл бұрын

I've always been into women thank you Emily for making this video it made me realize that I've been into women and I want to find one and date one but I'm a teen and I've had crushes at my school who were girls but they had bf and I have no one and I just want to a find a pretty hot pretty girl who I can date and I'm lesbian and I cant tell my parents but I ahve been keeping this in me since for like 3 years I've been lesbian since the age of 12 and and I'm 15 now and I'm still lesbian how do I find pretty pretty hot lesbians around me

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Hey! I honestly don't know. I'm 34 so I have no idea what it's like in the teenage dating world 😬

@gabbysthoughts4745 Жыл бұрын

Well shit I think I'm gay! I felt pressured by religion to be straight, so I started dating this guy. We got engaged and I had to call off my engagement for a few reasons, but mostly because I was tired of trying to force myself to love him in that way. I just can't be happy with guys, never could. I've always been happier with women, but I'm Catholic so it's a hard thing to deal with.

@orangestoneface 4 жыл бұрын

so , in teens, some girls dont masturbate , but if you did , did you think about guys or..well, guess some dont think about a lover.....would be strange if were les , or did you change later into les. ....also , wondering . if , women seem so interested in each others company, some, many , guess in nature that is for standing together against attacks on group , fighting together is stronger , maybe attraction and sex is a part of it for many that still want males but maybe some dont have attraction for men , cold that explain feeling les , ingrained in most but ....and in nature males would dominate and impregnate all despite will.

@warrenharding5994 4 жыл бұрын

I truely love your story i love how you came out and realized that you were gay and how you handle d it like i said before i do have a lot of gay friend and i really want to be friends with you plase dont be afraid to talk to me iam on Instagram as well

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you Warren!

@oliviersoable 2 жыл бұрын

🌈

@senibekele5916 2 жыл бұрын

I love my boyfriend so much but I literally am not sexually attracted to men (I am to women) I just don’t kno if it’s really worth leaving someone I love 😭

@backho5882 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@backho5882 2 жыл бұрын

I don't even care for penetration as much lol

@Android-ds9ie Жыл бұрын

@@backho5882 80% of the female population don't like penetration which conforms my theory that almost all women are either lespeans or bisexuals

@Android-ds9ie Жыл бұрын

How did your boyfriend miss that you are not attracted to men as a man I would not be with such kind of women

@nianadia2000 4 жыл бұрын

Make a video with your girl 💕💕💕

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

Just posted one!😁

@arulkumaran3773 Жыл бұрын

How to tell my parents about this😭

@mariotrujillo8860 2 жыл бұрын

gotta send this to a friend of mine. Came out to her husband in the middle of the delivery room after birthing their daughter. Long story short they married right out of high school, and we all thought they were great together. Then his parents die in a car crash barely a year into their marriage, and to make a matter worse her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer not long after. Fast foreword five years after a son born premature, her mother dying of breast cancer, and whole lot more but point is they went to hell and back together; she's doped up pain killers as her husband hands her their little girl and says their should name her after her mom. As she put this broke her, she could no longer lie this man who's has been nothing short of the perfect partner. Turns out her husband is ace and as she put it "sex does not mean love, sex can come as a result of love, and love can come from the result of sex, but they are not one in the same". As an ace myself this gave me hope for my own relationships because they deeply love each other despite their sexualities.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Awwwww wow!! Quite the story!! I do think that you can love someone no matter what but it comes down to, can you stay in a committed, monogamous relationship with them due to incompatible sexualities?

@mariotrujillo8860 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian from my own experiences it does make things a lot harder. Being an sex favorable ace (in my case anyway) sex is just another physical need like sleeping or eating; can be enjoyable and even emotionally satisfying. However most of the time it's just "well guess it's lotion alone time". Gets a little awkward since I do send out the wrong signal from time to time. However as a mostly outside observer, I've learned that for most people sex is a physical expression of emotional connection. For a lot of people they need that connection in a relationship but for some it's not what make their relationship work. Anywho don't want to ramble on, thank for the video

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

@@mariotrujillo8860 very interesting! I can understand what you're saying

@mariotrujillo8860 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheLateLifeLesbian just got off a busy work week, and I just wanted to thank you for your understanding. Figuring out I'm a SF ace has been hard journey, even in this day and age Info on Asexuality can leave a lot to be desired. Explaining my feelings gotten a far share of WTF over the years; I've been called everything from lair to a psychopath and at times it's been really lonely. Thankfully my current girlfriend has been very understanding. We've had our issues, even knowing it's not her she'll still feel hurt if I tell her "not tonight" several days in a row. It makes me I feel like a selfish bastard knowing I can't be the man she rightfully deserves. We both know life be easier with seemly anyone else but through it all we love each. I could go on all day about all the things I love about her and for the life me I have no idea why she's still with me. This is our first week (Edit)living together and every morning I'm scared I'll wake up to an empty bed. And damn I went on a tangent! Again thank you for your understanding and I hope I didn't bore you or anything as such

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Aw well you're welcome and I wish you both the best!! I think anything is possible with the right person and the right mindset 🙂

@carmeladellaposta8582 2 жыл бұрын

It must be the wrong one. I hate computers

@joycegabriel9312 3 жыл бұрын

29 single lesbian here,, can we date ????,

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Haha I'm actually taken 😏

@dl-iy8jf 4 жыл бұрын

probably i am straight. coz i never dream about woman nor man.

@orangestoneface 4 жыл бұрын

asexual...not sexual . google it

@Android-ds9ie Жыл бұрын

@@orangestoneface yes

@lifewellloved0204 2 жыл бұрын

Your story is interesting because I am 50 and have zero interest in wanting to date another woman. In fact that thought creates the same feeling within me as wanting to date a cat. It’s just non-existent and not to be disrespectful but… cringy. So I guess this is the other perspective for you to know what we feel like.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 2 жыл бұрын

Yep I think that's exactly how a truly straight woman feels.

@dl-iy8jf 4 жыл бұрын

why am i scared see u.. hmm but i am ok with ur voice

@vickybiagini8623 4 жыл бұрын

You're not really considered late life yet. After forty I'd say would be considered late life. Enjoy your thirties, and find someone I'd say before forty. Aging happens exponentially after that age.

@Sssssssslf 4 жыл бұрын

Is she still only in her thirties?!

@user-lz6ko8wj5u 4 жыл бұрын

She's in her 30's?! Damn I thought she was around 43/44 at least 😕when i seen her with her girlfriend it looked like a mother and daughter

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

I'm 34 and often still get carded so..... 🤷🏼‍♀️😜

@rebekahaltizer9887 3 жыл бұрын

Wow, there are some real asshatted comments here. You look great.

@TheLateLifeLesbian 3 жыл бұрын

Lol thanks! 😁

@lilithfairxo7068 4 жыл бұрын

You keep using "gay" but that's an umbrella term, includes gay men primarily. Are you saying you're a lesbian? I am, & it really bothers me how so many women shun the word "lesbian" which specifically defines you as a homosexual woman, & use the term "gay" which is primarilly a term used by men to describe their same sex identity.

@tipgo2 4 жыл бұрын

“Gay” is a unisex term (at least now since decades ago, when the idea of homosexuality started getting more light, people didn’t see women as having the ability to identify that way, smh.) Gay just means “attracted to the same sex” Lesbian is more specific to women but gay can be used for men or women (or others who self-identify differently.) Its like the Spanish language. In Spanish, a group of men and women are called “amigos” but a group of only women is called “amiga.” Hope that made sense :)

@TheLateLifeLesbian 4 жыл бұрын

👏👏 very well said!

@user-rm7os2lx2m 2 жыл бұрын

The word "gay" used to mean "showily dressed" and "shining." People starting using it to describe homosexual male bath houses in the late 1800s and then gay men used it to describe themselves by 1940. If gay men want to use the term fine, but it describes moreso the very flamboyant gay men, and even though most lesbians are feminine they are not flamboyant. So as a lesbian, I don't call myself gay. The word lesbian was used before 1900 to describe the writings that came from the island Lesbos many centuries ago and the writings included poems about women written by a female homosexual poet named Sappho. Thus, "lesbian" is fitting for female homosexuals.

@Gatorgetfresh Жыл бұрын

What is going on in the world these days 😢

@mrjoker1303 2 жыл бұрын

is there any straight girl?🧐

@altruism8637 2 жыл бұрын

I'm also a lesbian but trapped in a mans body

@georgemonde8237 7 ай бұрын

You just havnt met the right guy

@TheLateLifeLesbian 7 ай бұрын

Lol and never will! Remarried to an amazing woman and happy, satisfied, and content in a way I never could be with a man. You do realize your comment is the equivalent of me saying "you haven't realized you're gay yet just because YOU just haven't met the right guy" right?