Link to all my resources: linktr.ee/narc... CHAPTERS 00:00 introduction 0:50 The event of my life 06:46 Narcissistic abuse is real 07:24 All of my experiences have been with narcissists
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@narcabusecoach Жыл бұрын
Link to all my resources: linktr.ee/narcabusecoach
@dhashristars Жыл бұрын
blessings to you
@ChavoMysterio Жыл бұрын
I would just want to give you a full hug right now because of your experience.
@rajaazhaar1642 Жыл бұрын
ALLAH bless u bro Stay Strong 👍
@yolandaz2706 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Danish!! Awesome!!😃 God bless you🙏
@queeni5212 Жыл бұрын
🙏🏾♥️
@ioana3946 Жыл бұрын
That man didn't only saved your life. He saved our lives too. Because without him, your life saving channel wouldn't been possible. God bless his soul!
@angelcoyote9802 Жыл бұрын
Yes! Bless !!
@LadyRobertaL Жыл бұрын
Amen!
@FlyingDogStudio98 Жыл бұрын
Exactly what I was thinking. God blessed all of us through that man.
@yolandaz2706 Жыл бұрын
God bless you for your insight!🙏
@starseedlightworker6539 Жыл бұрын
I'm sure it was an angel, or someone sent by God.
@jenniferrusso1006 Жыл бұрын
That "man" that saved your life was an angel in disguise. You are helping so many people, Danish.
@sammie20 Жыл бұрын
this is my thought as well...angels do walk among us...I fully believe
@khadijahoneybadger1 Жыл бұрын
Yes the man was an angel !
@kw3113 Жыл бұрын
Yes I believe also angels walk among us.
@Prometheuspredator Жыл бұрын
Angels walk among us.
@life-rethought Жыл бұрын
angels saved me many a time, or gave me miraculous encouragement in my darkest moments. God and angels listen and act when we are in need.
@juliaedi111 Жыл бұрын
Having narcissistic parents is the worst thing that can happen to child.
@a.garcia7127 Жыл бұрын
The USA is the greatest country because they're very much aware of narcissistic parents and have all kinds of mechanisms to prevent and protect children from abuse. They invest billions of dollars into this field. They know well that a future star can be crippled by a narcissistic psychopath parent.
@nandinigogoi2584 Жыл бұрын
v true..worst kind of abuse..u dont have any escape
@ChristopherMHeaps9 ай бұрын
Yes it is.
@brigitanovinec4399 ай бұрын
If your mother is a narc murderer you don't know what love is.
@kripaanish7969 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists are the deadliest creatures in this planet
@avarose20387 ай бұрын
Along With Sociopaths/Psychopaths, & Other Personality Disorders ( Cluster B ? ) Who Lack Empathy. } WATCH OUT FOR !!!! ⚠️⚠️⚠️ Other = Borderline Personality Disorder & Autism. I Read in Description Of Book : ZERO EMPATHY. By : Simon Baron Cohen. This Should Become GENERAL KNOWLEDGE !!!
@IandU-ue1vt Жыл бұрын
I said to myself: "That creature is not a narc, is a psychopath!" a few seconds earlier than you did yourself! That "man" who saved you maybe was an angel. I love you, stay safe!
@sherrymurphy855 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists always morph into a deeper level of evil.
@dakoderii4221 Жыл бұрын
Hebrews 13:2 “Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.”
@SamarArons Жыл бұрын
Drop "maybe"... 🙏
@narellemacpherson9759 Жыл бұрын
@@dakoderii4221exactly!
@susanaqueiroz9366 Жыл бұрын
Psychopath pure evil!!! Thanks for sharing 🙏God bless you
@rachelreed68 Жыл бұрын
Horrifying. I am a child of 2 narcs that had 0 concern for my welfare although they pretended to the world that they did. Only in having my own children, did I see the stark contrast in motivations. Every day was a new 'wow' for me for many years. Being raised by narcs is worse than being alone in the world, it's being in the custody of enemies.
@realhealing7802 Жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@ZeeJayEssJay Жыл бұрын
@rachelreed3726 Same for me. Both parents physically abusive on a near daily basis. In between all the other kinds of abuses. Never-ending torture. A prison camp childhood. Then as an adult had a totally skewed wrong view of what a healthy relationship was. Red flags weren’t red flags! They were my “normal”! Led to a physically abusive 1st marriage at a very young age just to escape my now ex-family prison. 10 more years of torture. But at least I was away from ex-family. Then I woke up on my own and walked away with nothing-just so I didn’t have to be in any contact to “negotiate”. Best time of my life. But then now ex-family re-emerged and hoovered me back. I fell for it. Maybe because I was alone in the world. They abused me as an adult verbally, mentally, spiritually, sexually (covertly as they did in my childhood). When I went full No Contact they retaliated and escalated with an extremely violent surprise weapon attack. A criminal felony. I called police who were clueless about domestic abuse and of no help regardless of one party whose face and head were bludgeoned and bleeding profusely. And the others had not a mark on them. But that’s sadly typical. But it led to my resolve to have No Contact permanently with them and ANYONE who accepts the abusers and embraces such violent evil people. I don’t want those kinds of people in my life-abuse enablers and embracers. They do not care about what happened to ME. The victim. It’s lonely. But far better! I’ll make new friends and a “family of choice” slowly but surely. Did I mention all my ex-family profess (falsely) to be born again Christians? Lol. The masks they wear in public to hide how evil they really are. And the masks work! They dupe most people. Even pastors. But I am a true born again Christian and Jesus follower. And He is FOR ME. I am a true child of the Most High God. And He will help me rebuild my life! No doubts. 😇
@decadentdragon6217 Жыл бұрын
" Being raised by narcs is worse than being alone in the world, it's being in the custody of enemies." -- wow -- this is so perfectly said.
@rachelreed68 Жыл бұрын
@@ZeeJayEssJay It is easier to see it than to get out of that head space. You kind of have to rebuild your own psyche and do a lot of counterintuitive things to get out of the game and not get into another. Sounds like you're doing that. Go team! ❤✊️✌️
@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger Жыл бұрын
😣 how can children be protected from this, a narcissistic parent is too smart and cunning. To intervene could cause more harm to the children, but the narcissism is a very big rampart problem and it’s children who pay the price because parents don’t think of the kids, only themselves benefitting. It’s very sad!
@mstyles2667 Жыл бұрын
Hearing stuff like this kills me. I was raised by 2 narcs as well and my mom tried to kill me almost everyday for 17 years. Horrific. I wish narcs couldn't have kids.
@SN-bl6xm Жыл бұрын
My mother always refused medical help for me when I needed medical help. I guess that was one way how she tried to kill me. Yes, narcs should not have any children!
@FindYourFree Жыл бұрын
im so sorry 😢
@elennyfication Жыл бұрын
@mstyles2667 so many parents should not have children, wish people would get tested they are psychologically fit to be a parent
@johnthedespicabledutchman7406 Жыл бұрын
Agree 100% with you.@@elennyfication
@avarose20387 ай бұрын
YES, I AGREE With The Mental Testing !!!! & That ALL Men Must Use Protection } Condoms. When I heard from my mom that he made Her Alone be Responsible for Child Prevention ( Anti Conception Pill, Abortion ), I Got SO Mad at Him. He Took Absolutely NO Responsibility On That Area. Before Anyone = Allowed To Drive A Car, we have to do So Many things before to be Qualified. Why = There Absolutely NO Control What So Ever, When it Comes To Being A Parent ?? They Are Held To NO Criteria At All. Nobody Checks Them. There = NOT Even A Question If They Are Capable At All !! It’s like Everyone = Allowed To Be A Doctor/ Surgeon WITHOUT Going To Medical School.
@user-sv6on1rr3f Жыл бұрын
My 'mother' is an A Grade narcissist. In this situation she would have run over to the man who saved you and asked for his forgiveness as you were, and I quote from my childhood, the devil's child and a whore. She would have said how traumatised and terrified she was to have such a difficult child. Then she would have re-told the story to all of my brothers and sisters and ALL of the extended family about how I tried to kill her by dropping her precious books. I agree. It is not a personality disorder. It is pure EVIL!!! It is SATAN. Pure, pure EVIL.
@Kharizmah Жыл бұрын
Yea, that’s horrible. I can imagine it. I’m not sure what my father would’ve done… part of me thinks he wouldn’t have sent me into the street. But part of me isn’t sure. For sure, the minute he saw someone else try to protect me he’d become the “good” guy. He’d probably blame me for going into the street. If I said, you told me to get the books then he’d say, “ I thought you’d wait for traffic to clear, are you stupid?” I’d get beat for sure for the damaged books. Which is fine. I preferred that over him “lecturing”me for an hour, which was nothing but ridiculing me and making me feel small.
@user-sv6on1rr3f Жыл бұрын
@@Kharizmah Im sorry you have had to experience a parent narcissist. Narcissistic parents are demons. Pure evil
@ladennayoung2939 Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you experienced that. I pray your strength in the LORD IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN. I pray that you don't harbor resentment and unforgiveness towards her in order to free yourself and choose to give it all over to the Lord in JESUS' NAME. FOR YOUR SAKE. AMEN.
@user-sv6on1rr3f Жыл бұрын
@@ladennayoung2939 thank you. It is very hard as the abuse still continues today. I am not allowed to see any member of my extended family. My brothers and sisters, my nieces and nephews etc etc. I am excluded from everything. Because I am the scapegoat. I once said to my mother - its ok, I know you need me to be the scapegoat so you can 'survive', you can continue lying about me etc to the rest of the family, its ok. I begged her, I said just in private, between you and me, please can you be my mother, please can you love me and accept me. That's how desperate I was. Of course that never happened. And yes Jesus is my Saviour
@LadyRobertaL Жыл бұрын
I sincerely hope things are better for you now ❤️
@GabrielsTears Жыл бұрын
That man was an angel. God was watching out for you from a young age. Even if our fathers don't love us God will always love us.
@Klikka1 Жыл бұрын
@@meeperbirdI truly belive I never had a father here on earth, but I have a real father. My father is God. My parents never wanted me to be born, they never loved me, bit God wanted me and gived me life, and he takes care of me. He is my father.
@y.d1272 Жыл бұрын
@@Klikka1 This comment is soo powerfull! ❤🙏🏼
@garycooper920711 ай бұрын
Thank you. He really does love us 💖
@_sarah.11 ай бұрын
Yes. "When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me." - Psalm 27:10 ❤❤❤
@brigitanovinec4399 ай бұрын
I am sure about God's protection. And that He sends some people to us. I have the same experience with me and my daughter. I wonder many times how come we survived.
@jilross4892 Жыл бұрын
Your guardian angel saved you that day and your father should have been put into a mental institution! I worry about so many children suffering with their insane parents
@Prometheuspredator Жыл бұрын
His father should have been put in prison.
@jackcheung3200 Жыл бұрын
My mother threatened to kill me with scissors holding them up to my face, screaming incomprehensibly, leering like a crazy person, when I did not do my homework. I was 10.
@therealpancakegirl777 Жыл бұрын
they do be crazy like that… as an adult, u know rationally that it won’t cause that much harm. but as a child in the clutches of an angry abuser, u are so traumatized u won’t know the difference
@LadyRobertaL Жыл бұрын
Danish, next time you think about that horrible situation, would you please imagine all of us with you that day, the same age as you... imagine it as a stage set up, with the most realistic props.... and we are there at the sidelines cheering you on when you got rescued!!! That the story takes a shift right there, and we all rush around you cheering for your life. That each of us hug you and encourage you to stay strong for a few more years until you're free!!! That we tell you that you make it and eventually help us with our hard times too! Then you can get back on that bike and continue surviving until you eventually thrive... and bring us along with you!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@crystalmiller4463 Жыл бұрын
This is a wonderful idea!
@winnieamar9368 Жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful thought! ❤
@dawnieholland8368 Жыл бұрын
Ah that's beautiful.x
@ambera.7668 Жыл бұрын
I love this! Brought tears to my eyes. So beautiful.
@naowright9308 Жыл бұрын
This brought literal tears out of my eyes and down my face.😢 A most beautiful thought.
@brendawarner5415 Жыл бұрын
I was worried that my dad would accidentally kill me when he would get in a rage and beat me.Danish, your story made me cry. It's devastating to achild to be raised by such maniacs. The happy part of my story is that I raised my sons differently. I never hit them or yelled at them or called them names. I hugged them and told them I loved them every day. They are kind,happy adults,and we are very close.
@marcs93207 ай бұрын
I applaud you for not allowing the abuse from your father to spill over to your children. It is a testament to your strength and sense of true self. I chose to not have children because I recognized some of my narc father’s traits come out in me towards my youngest sibling when I was at a young age (11 or 12) and it terrified me! It only needed to happen once for me to never treat her that way again with verbal abuse. But I realized that unless I could be 100% certain that he is no longer a part of me, I should have no right to chance it on my own children. It destroys me every time I think back to that moment (which she does not recall) and I know that if he ever came out through me toward my, or any child, I would be ripped more to shreds than anything he has ever done to me. You and your children are blessed in that you have broken the cycle of abuse. Good for you! 🙏
@aesha-chitkara Жыл бұрын
The pain was real Only those who have been thru this will understand
@iamhere3442 Жыл бұрын
I understand.
@gaylaaustin7468 Жыл бұрын
Yeah me too
@ambera.7668 Жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@ladennayoung2939 Жыл бұрын
Right.
@Prometheuspredator Жыл бұрын
Truly. There are diffrent types of narcissists, but what Danish speaks of is narcissists with features of psychopathy. I say all in all a full blown psychopath.
@gwendolynbien-aime1536 Жыл бұрын
When the devil can’t get to you, he sends a narcissist. Thank you for sharing your experiences….and your knowledge.
@momonline101 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists are pure evil. Both my mother and ex-husband were Narcissists and the cruelty and abuse I experienced at their hands was unbelievable and very, very real. I'm so glad you survived and made it through.
@V1LL1N7 ай бұрын
As am I you!
@maureenwright5670 Жыл бұрын
That man was God sent and proof that God was not blind to what you were going through and he's on your side.
@karenkennedy6331 Жыл бұрын
My narcissistic husband is in a skilled nursing care facility and I do not miss him at all! I have taken so much abuse. An angel helped you. A drunk mom driving on the freeway had a suitcase come lose and just stopped, halfway off the road, asked her young kids to get the suitcase, both kids killed by cars. The mom charged with murder.
@imnoel8214 Жыл бұрын
It is mind boggling how a complete stranger will step in and do the right thing, while the narcissist parent does nothing to save his own child. God was truly looking out for you that day. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, that was difficult for you I know.
@quentindixon5706 Жыл бұрын
Had/ have a narcissistic father, who is also is an alcoholic. I can also say first hand, these people are evil and sadistic. Run from these people do not think you can change them because you can’t. Things you say on your channel are spot on, keep up the good work.
@ItsMeJaneW Жыл бұрын
You are your father's biggest disappointment - he spectacularly failed to destroy you. Thank you for sharing Danish. My family member tried to end me by putting a rope around my neck and I remember losing consciousness. And I thought it was only me because 'normal' narcissists only psychologically and verbally abuse others. You are a guiding angel to so many of us. Love you Danish! 🧡
@ValSMITH-it4lg Жыл бұрын
My father put a noose around my sister's neck and hung her from an apple tree while he threatened me with her death if I didn't find a tool that he thought we had taken, but which he himself lost. Yeah, not your typical narcissist. But all of us kids survived, though it wasn't easy. I have found some measure of peace because of my faith in Jesus, and truly hope to see my father in Heaven some day.
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
@@ValSMITH-it4lg that IS a typical narcissist, life and death is a game to satisfy their whims Keep reading your Bible and your faith and hope will grow, God's Spirit will strengthen you
@ValSMITH-it4lg Жыл бұрын
@@shaunhunterit342 Thank you. I try to hand it over to God and let Him bring some blessing out of it that He may be glorified. That way the bad stuff isn't wasted,but can be transformed into a blessing.
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
@@ValSMITH-it4lg he will show you that there is more than some blessing or some measure of peace but blessing and peace in abundance
@Rosalie-ct8mi Жыл бұрын
Woww he /she put a robe around your neck? WHY
@valerieselig5319 Жыл бұрын
My narcissist parents were negligent, no one was watching us - as a young child I was expected/told to go outside to play and only come back for lunch, dinner and dark. One example was at 6 yrs. old, was out trick or treating with my 3 year old sister, by ourselves.... it is a miracle that we both survived to adulthood ! I think neither of my parents wanted any children and felt burdened by us.
@JustMe-uu3bh Жыл бұрын
my mother convinced me I was "bad" if I bothered her for anything, I was to leave her alone because I was guilty for having needs and wants. certainly no hugs given ever. I was supposed to suffer she said, "as Jesus would do" or God wouldn't love me so I was supposed to do without in order to be considered, "good". my life has been one long suffering hell ride, many times I almost died and I was always alone. my mother did kill my siblings (5 abortions) and the ONLY reason I truly believe she allowed us to live was to try to keep my good looking charismatic Dad with her. and in hindsight, so funny, on my birthdays I always thanked my mother for "allowing me to live" and not "flushing me down the toilet". I kid you not. Now why would a grown person even think that? She always just laughed and kidded about it but I meant it, honestly. I know she didn't want kids and she always told me she didn't like me. I think my mother was psycho really, so insanely angry and jealous. I am here like the rest of us. At least we have each other and Danish understands totally, God bless us.
@yosra3551 Жыл бұрын
I know exactly what you mean. Ive been through exactly the same. Internet can be a blessing
@Narrgeog Жыл бұрын
You've stated it perfectly. It's a very lonely journey. Of many incidents, my mother tried to choke me in a rage. I told my dad the next day. He suddenly got angry and shouted, "Yes, but only once!" End of conversation. I reckon anyone who has been in this type of family could write pages and pages of similar moments. Yet, no support from family or childhood friends. As I age, I get healthier but lonelier. I have to say, KZfaq info and communities really help, therefore thanks so much for sharing your story, which must have been very hard since you also know some of the more negative reactions the truth can attract.
@dyutichatterjee5486 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely horrifying 😢 you were, and always will be your own best friend and heal from all this. Have faith❤
@letgomyeggo876711 ай бұрын
My dad would choke me all the time for any perceived transgression like if he thought I rolled my eyes at him.. and my mom would just stand there and watch. I remember being 16 coming home from volleyball practice and going to my room to do homework in one instance. I swore I was the only one. 😢
@brigitanovinec4399 ай бұрын
I used to wake up many nights at 2 a.m. with a feeling somebody was choking me when I was married to a narc husband. After I left that stopped. He had a lot of attempts to murder me, not only threats that I need to be killed.
@avarose20387 ай бұрын
OH My GOD, I’m SO SORRY On Their Behalf.. 🥺🥺 & Your Dad Defended Her ?? 😦😦😦 Jesus Christ 🤯🤯🤯😱😱😱 😭😭😭😭 #TotalJawDrop. HOW Did You Make it Out Alive ??
@iahelcathartesaura38876 ай бұрын
I think we get lonelier as we get older and a lot of this simply because the world is such a extremely narcissistic place right now❤
@kyezustiak Жыл бұрын
When I spoke with my mom about how hard it was that she abandoned me as a child, she looked me in the eye and said I ruined her life. She then went on a 30 min rant about how hard her life was, especially because I was born. True narcissistic people never show remorse and will always blame you for their problems.
@a.y.7738 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for demonstrating how evil and soulless these people can be. Children shouldn’t go through the horror that they couldn’t articulate themselves. Narc parents think their children are adults and forget they’re only children.
@dolores2716 Жыл бұрын
I think it's more that they think their children are objects.
@a.y.7738 Жыл бұрын
@@dolores2716 Yes, objects that they own.
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
They're not forgetting anything and they're not mistaken about anything. They are living in reality and choosing to be evil. They know you're living, breathing, feeling human beings and they're glad of it as it enables them to torture you.
@Prometheuspredator Жыл бұрын
@@dolores2716, And their children as in my case it was my brother......disposable.
@TheJoyofCooking24 Жыл бұрын
Because they don't know how to deal with their vulnerability. They only know their emotions, but not other people's emotions.
@thereseschab5042 Жыл бұрын
My father was a psychopath also. I'm so sad we have experienced such evil.
@Edgar_84 Жыл бұрын
While experiencing countless acts of abuse myself I really think that your father was beyond narcissistic- I think he’s a psychopath too. Even narcissism has it’s own limits. But you are still very lucky with the hero that saved you.
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
A malignant narcissist is also a sociopath.
@elkadosh47268 ай бұрын
The colloquial term is narcopath and yes they do exis. In fact in the psychological anals, from the DMS-V Cluster B section (Personality Disorders et al) Malignant Narcissism or NPD is actually the MOST dangerous disorder because they know exactly what they AND they conspire, they plan, they devise. They other disorders generally do not.
@GrannyLinn Жыл бұрын
My son-in-law had a similar experience and he said he knew it was an angel. Thank God the angels were watching out for you when your father didn’t. What incredible evil. You had important work to do.
@manapeace Жыл бұрын
My backstory is similar and it’s led me to conclude that guardian angels do indeed intervene at critical moments to shift our life paths onto healthier tracks.
@sherrymurphy855 Жыл бұрын
No empathy = no conscience = danger to others. My children's father is much the same... setting up extreme situations for his daughters. Those who need to understand, don't. Your sharing is infinitely imperative. Thank you, Danish.
@firstname9670 Жыл бұрын
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@mrsshahid51179 ай бұрын
As a Narc or a Psycho, (according to your description) he was doing so in order to create a trauma bond and to further deteriorate his victims
@1986nitya Жыл бұрын
Hey Danish, I was about to ask you if you were from India or Pakistan/Bangladesh and lo! you mentioned the Indian school bag. Fellow Indian here. I'm sorry you had to go through such a horrible and scary experience, and trust me I can relate. I am a daughter of a narc mother and a narc father. My grandparents on both sides were narcissists and bipolar. It is a generational curse which continues to perpetuate. I am the only one actively trying to break it and free myself of the toxicity. I can totally relate to the narc parents' complete lack of empathy. Zero. Zilch. Nada. There's no one in there. Scary indeed. We survivors really need to pat ourselves on the back to have survived these garbage bags.
@1986nitya Жыл бұрын
God bless you and the man who saved your life. Shine bright.
@aartivyas7190 Жыл бұрын
Truly generational curse indeed. Experienced that my whole life, lost everything.
@kruttikahegde8284 Жыл бұрын
What I experienced with my parent was maybe not this extreme, but i had the same feeling Danish described, that absolute disbelief of the reaction i got for a small mistake . I was lighting the diya in the evening and the jar of ghee which we used to light the diya fell out of my grasp because there was traces of ghee on the outside of the jar which made it slippery. It was a glass bottle (the old horlicks bottle with the handle) so obviously it smashed to pieces when it fell on the floor in the pooja room and the ghee spilled all over. She came running out of the kitchen but there was no concern there for me she screamed at me how she has to now clean up all the mess, and i kept telling her it slipped from my hand and i dont mind cleaning it all up, that she doesnt have to do it. But she was not listening at all she kept yelling at me for smashing the ghee jar and then she proceeded to take the kitchen ladder (the bathla aluminum ladder) she picked up that entire ladder which was just outside the pooja room and she hit me right on top of my head with that ladder. I was so so shocked at that, i mean i became very quiet, my head hurt, the ladder isnt exactly lightweight. and I just watched her rage. I think at some point that year i confronted her about that incident i said "u didnt even think thats a glass jar thats broken lets see if my daughter is injured in any way, no no concern for me, only anger that i broke the jar. instead of checking me for injury you injured me more" and she justified herself by saying "you are always dropping things, you are so clumsy, and then you will say you didnt do it on purpose" . I dont know this incident happened when i was maybe 21-22 yrs old..im 33 now. I still cant get over it. I still feel that horrified fascination when i remember it. I still feel like how can she have done that? How can she be so unconcered about me but have that much importance placed on objects rather that humans
@1986nitya Жыл бұрын
@@kruttikahegde8284 My goodness! Sucks that you had to go through something like this. But it is a fact that narc parents place more importance on objects than their own kids/humans. My parents are like that as well.
@kruttikahegde8284 Жыл бұрын
@@1986nitya Do you also feel guilt or pain or shame if you are acknowledging to yourself that perhaps your parents are not the best of the people? I mean a few months ago when i had to finally finally admit to myself that my parent was gaslighting and manipulating me my whole life , I felt so much guilt and shame , then i would feel much anger and then i would find myself downplaying the whole thing in my own mind.. "like no no it wasnt that bad also"
@deannadiaz-melendez8795 Жыл бұрын
Now, I can begin to understand, the terror of having a most horrid, cursed at as a small child. Having coffee thrown in my face, slapped , I couldn't,t keep count, as he would grit his teeth, hurting me... One day , all I could remember was- it must have been before age kindergarten, he came up to me and said only that I was going ... where?... to be sent , to a place because I was ' too fAt'. I was to stay with his brother, whom I had never met.. He was abusive to his own son, also... as I could tell. I never could remember if I ate anything.. even. a bowl of cereal there... Or anyone helping me to comb my hair.. or talk to me... I played alone with insects. and ladybugs in the grass.. I had no words to comfort me as my words were only a 5 year old... But, I somewhere knew...somehow...not to cry, because it would only feel worse... One long day, my parents came to get me. My mother tho she never hugged me, said 'O De Anna, you're sooo skinny!.... I now live for our Lord and merciful God , Jehovah, who was always closy by, and who watches over those he loves, and to all...who are crushed in. Spirit...
@estherticharevamusic4221 Жыл бұрын
I think that man who saved you was as an Angel!
@johnvares7434 Жыл бұрын
So sorry you went through that as a child. I feel Narcissist are murderers and either want someone else to take the victims life or they push the victim into committing suicide. After being discarded by my ex narc, I was one weekend away from taking my own life but instead decided to check myself into a hospital. It took me a year an a half and a lot of medication to pull out of it. Thank you for sharing your stories.
@sandrathomas2893 Жыл бұрын
Jezebel spirit, operating through them,is a murderous spirit! Along with Leviathan; the king of pride; a twisting spirit. Everyone is lucky to make it out alive!
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
@@sandrathomas2893Yep! Leviathan, Jezebel plus green eyed monster because their envy is off the chats
@SN-bl6xm Жыл бұрын
My narcissist family members are trying to push me into suicide. It’s now 10 years of terrible psychoterror with them. Terrible smear campaigns and them even stirring up the authorities against me. It’s hell on earth. I do not want to know how many people have done successful suicide because of narcissists.
@a.garcia7127 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. I agree with your comment. I wish you well. God bless you. Greetings from the Bronx NY.
@icytimboslyce7939 Жыл бұрын
You might be sold and chipped from birth by your govt parents like me
@Ajnametti Жыл бұрын
Danish you are my hero. I am so grateful to brave souls like you who come forward and share your story. It’s so much more healing to hear this from someone else who has actually been through it and not just a psychologist whose only studied it from a book. I’m in a much better place now because of people like you ❤
@Rosalie-ct8mi Жыл бұрын
Exactly! He is an expert on narcissism and I am thankful that Danish survived all these evil deads! 🙏 May God bliss his soul 🙏
@crystalmiller4463 Жыл бұрын
Wow thats insane! A book was more important to him than his own childs life! Your father should have been charged with child endangerment!! Thank you so much for helping all of us
@life-rethought Жыл бұрын
the book an object to b used to be rid of responsibility, and have sick satisfaction in terrorizing another human being.
@dyutichatterjee5486 Жыл бұрын
In India it's hard to find anyone in the public who would press such charges. If people see child endangerment, they would definitely help/save the child in that particular incident, but would not care afterwards. Just like in the case Danish described. People here have heart, but they lack that level of social responsibility. Besides, child support services are not up to the mark in India. Most people have little understanding of these terms even.
@gracemercy11 Жыл бұрын
God sent you an angel. May the Lord heal your broken heart Danish. You and all of us who have been crushed by our experiences. 🙏
@JamesNGames Жыл бұрын
I vividly remember a distressing incident from my childhood that continues to have a profound impact on me. When I was just six years old, I found myself in a situation where the tailgate of my father's Chevy truck struck me in the head. Prior to this unfortunate event, my father had warned me to move away from the truck, cautioning me about the potential danger. However, his frustration seemed to escalate, leading him to forcefully slam the tailgate down, resulting in a fracture to my skull. The physical evidence of this incident is still visible as an indentation on my forehead. Throughout this ordeal, there has been a consistent narrative portraying the incident solely as an accident, with no acknowledgment of my father's anger or his deliberate action of swinging the tailgate down, which ultimately caused it to strike my skull. Nevertheless, I am immensely grateful for surviving such a traumatic event. I also want to express my sincere appreciation to Danish for sharing his own story about his father. It takes great courage to open up about personal experiences, and Danish's willingness to do so can contribute to raising awareness and fostering understanding in similar situations.
@SamarArons Жыл бұрын
So terrible James, what your father did. I'm so sorry you had to experience that at such a young age. No doubt the the years before and after were no picknick either. Amazing you're here and on the healing path 💪. Me too, and we can be proud👊.
@JamesNGames Жыл бұрын
@@SamarArons Thank you for your kind words and understanding. It means a lot to me. Looking back, I can't deny that I went through some incredibly challenging times with my parents, and at times, it felt like I shouldn't even be here. However, I truly believe that there is a greater purpose for me, and I've come to realize that I have the strength to overcome those difficult experiences. While I may have wished for things to be different and for my parents to have made better choices, I've learned to focus on my own healing and moving forward. It's not always easy, but I believe in the power of personal growth and resilience. Thank you again for your support and empathy.
@winnieamar9368 Жыл бұрын
That's horrifying. I'm so sorry that you had such an experience. Do you watch Dr Ramani's videos as well? I don't know why I feel I have seen your comments on her channel as well 🤔
@JamesNGames Жыл бұрын
@@winnieamar9368 Thank you so much for understanding and acknowledging my experiences. I truly appreciate your support. Yes, I have been actively sharing my stories and insights on Dr. Ramani's channel for the past month or so. It has been my goal to speak about my situation and provide help to others, whether it's by understanding or validating their own experiences. I'm grateful for the opportunity to contribute and make a difference. Thank you again for your kind words and concern.
@Prometheuspredator Жыл бұрын
Blessings to you. So glad you are here with us. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it helps talking about it. Healing comes this way.
@denisereeves8693 Жыл бұрын
Even after working on getting out of relationship that I have survived 37 years I still cannot grasp how someone can ever be so evil. I get angry that some people do act like I am just playing the victim. I'm not playing I AM A VICTIM! I don't need anyone's pity just understanding and a little compassion. I'm so tired and done with trying to explain. How bout believe me because it's true and why the hell would anyone ever want to feel like this? I have a constant feeling inside of all the pain, emptiness sadness and grief that just sits there and I know it isn't going to move until I get out of this situation.
@tarey05 Жыл бұрын
And this is the reason why you are such a tremendous blessing to us, Danish! This evilness is shattering, as what happened to you was NOT an accident, but an assassination attempt on you by your own father and at the sweet age of 10!. So many tears I have at this realization! That man who pulled you back was God's most vigilant guardian angel, making it clear that your life from that day forward will have a divine mission. That you have been chosen to save others from an evil that they cannot begin to fathom!. I share this feeling, having been surrounded by demonic narcissists all my life, be it family, friends, colleagues, work places and now government. Danish, we have nothing but love and compassion for you at every turn for all you do for us. You are one of the most courageous men I've ever known. Long, warm healing hugs to you, sweet Danish! ❤❤
@nancylang4294 Жыл бұрын
Danish speak your truth. It is not to gain sympathy but for all of us to acknowledge with compassion the horrendous experiences we have had.
@lindarosebuchanan1650 Жыл бұрын
Thats right.
@bluemagi1656 Жыл бұрын
The worst person in the world is a narcissist parent.They will break even their family's hearts and will to live just for the sake of it. I was so young back then but I can still remember how my narcissistic father painted my mother as crazy, stubborn, or any negative things he can think of to his family and friends every time he was upset on something which happens to be everyday, the most frustrating part was, they believed that demon. When my mother died, he shifted his focus on to me, the only reason I can think of is because I'm the one who caught early on that there's something wrong with him and say it directly to his face, I always answered back, pointing out his irrationality. But he made my life a living hell. He made a rift between us siblings, making sure we won't "stick together". The demon loved chaos. Throughout childhood until the start of his decline before the pandemic, I never felt so alone. The only consolation is he died like how he made us feel, alone, even our relatives and his "friends" was never beside him during his final moments.
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
Narcs hate truthtellers. I wish you the best as you strive to heal
@lorrismalls4736 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, for telling your story. That was deep. I think you might've saved a few people from commiting suicide because they feel alone battling their childhood trauma.
@brigitanovinec4399 ай бұрын
If they tell their story, nobody believes them, finds them stupid, nonrealistic, etc. That's why listening to Danish, who claims we do not fantasize, who expresses his anger and claims that is pure 'evil', makes you feel alive again. I would call that satanism. My narc 'mother' and ex-narc husband both claim I am mad. That saved them from court and prison. Even my female lawyer has been saying to me I am afraid of every shadow and after 10 years she said I will not persuade my daughter I am not mad. When an ex-narc husband follows you for 10 years after murdering your child and a lot of attempts to murder me and the only living child, you are not mad. Mad are those who do not do anything to protect you against narcissistic killers.
@lorimiller7261 Жыл бұрын
So many parents are ruining their children. Then we are left with healing for the rest of our lives. May Peace with you and thank you ❤
@Rosalie-ct8mi Жыл бұрын
and that is so unfair in my opinion!
@LadyGoddessSephiroth Жыл бұрын
My mother tried to strangle me to death. I feel your pain. I am so sorry we both went through this. I have to watch this in segments bc I am triggered. But I'm still so, so sorry Danish. I'm glad you made it. I'm glad you're away. Please stay away and stay safe. You give so many of us hope, including me. ❤
@magpie1492 Жыл бұрын
My husband tried to strangle me when I was 7 months pregnant. Still, I stayed with him for another 4 years. Fear for my children finally caused me to run 😢.
@LadyGoddessSephiroth Жыл бұрын
@@magpie1492 I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you're safe away from him.
@FindYourFree Жыл бұрын
healing and recovery for all of us
@moonpleiades99 Жыл бұрын
My mom did the same to me, along with repeated horrific beatings. I feel your pain. It hurts so bad, because these are supposed to be the people that love us the most and that we are supposed to look up to.
@nandinigogoi2584 Жыл бұрын
@@magpie1492 I am so sorry ..such a thing happened to you...Luv and healing to you
@SheldonBrown567 Жыл бұрын
This message touched me deeply. Because in my own childhood, it often felt as if my parents could care a less if I was abducted or killed. Believe it or not, at two years of age, I was permitted to Rome the city streets with my 6 year old brother. Sometimes after soccer practice, my parents would forget to pick me up. And I’d be alone in the public park, with homeless people and all, into the dark, at age 9, 10, and 11. It would have been so easy for me to disappear and never been seen again. I only ask that God can help me forget these memories. God bless all of you survivors. God draws close to the broken hearted, so in my opinion, it was all worth it, to have Jesus in my life, and to feel His awesome love!❤
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
Wow! I can not imagine how scary that is. Even my body is freaking out!
@SheldonBrown567 Жыл бұрын
@@user-ib3mt7iu6z Many have had to tolerate much worse, yeah? But God will wipe away every tear. Revelation 21:4. 😍
@背bせ11 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏🌟💖✌️😊
@snowstormonsat Жыл бұрын
I've been stuck on this page, these terrible memories of what they did to me. My evil parents put me in danger so many times. They had a miserable, abused neglected dog that bit my ear off twice as a small child. I had plastic surgery both times. They had me lie at ER second time and say I caught it on the dog chain. They didn't want to get in trouble or be held accountable. They still kept the dog after two bad bites to my face!! I was so afraid of my evil parents , second time I got bit, I hid under my bed blooding out bad for hours until my sister found me. That dog took my whole ear off and I was more afraid of them finding me like that and what they would do!! That's how bad it was.
@chris-b Жыл бұрын
My heart goes out to that little child in you who had to go through such terrifying experiences.
@lynneleverton8825 Жыл бұрын
I will NEVER forget and nor would I allow ANYONE to gaslight my entire existence with these evil monsters away! I'm so sorry to hear yours and everyone else's vile experiences with these pitiful excuses for human beings! Much love to everyone!
@user-yy5rv9of6d Жыл бұрын
the Bible says escapes from death belong to the Lord. Your story stunned my heart. Very brave of you to tell the story and to help rescue others by snatching them from destruction. Your sword is very dangerous, keep fighting this demonic enemy.
@susantower Жыл бұрын
I think that was a genuine angel who pulled you back at that last second. My mom was a covert narc and no one saw the abuse. Your videos are helping me heal. Blessings to you.
@Bebetheloveofmylife Жыл бұрын
*May Allah fill your life with joy, happiness and success, the biggest pain in this world is being orphan and the worst is having bad parents*
@AliciaGuitar Жыл бұрын
I cannot even imagine because my experience was nothing as severe. My mom had a little dog and our swimming pool was frozen over. The dog was walking around on the ice, and my mom had to go to work. She instructed me to watch the dog, and if she fell through the ice to jump in the pool and save her. I was like, "NO WAY!" I knew asking a 10 year old skinny girl to jump into freezing water was wrong wrong wrong. She could have just brought the stupid dog inside. Instead she made me feel like a terrible animal abuser because i wouldnt risk my life to save her dog after her negligence. She LOVED telling stories that made me out to be cruel to animals and i never wanted to harm anyone or any animal 😢 i couldnt even stand fishing because of the blood.
@Lyndsydypyty Жыл бұрын
I can SOOOO relate!! My father was evil as well. I have so many stories like this as well....😔 So many strangers have saved me. Once he set me up at the beach. I was very young but i swear God let me breathe under water as i tumbled at the bottom of the ocean. Held down by the waves until some man grabbed me up and pulled me out. I remember hearing my dad laughing.... I hate that i can still feel that day and 40 years later it still hurts as I'm sitting here crying. I've been tourtured by narcs my whole life I'm learning. And this is the very first time for me as well to finally be free (at a home) and to experience peace there. I was granted my freedom this year after a 23 yr marriage to a malignant narc!!!🎉 I'm liking it! Think I'll just stay alone from here on out. Thank U for sharing!! And I'm sorry.....i understand your pain.
@justmemother2 Жыл бұрын
I was also drowning, signaling to my dad who sat on the shore just laughing. I finally found my footing and balance, thank God. He had no intention of getting up and helping me. Evil til the end, these Narcs. He let my mom die years later of heart failure. Three phones in the house, didn't bother to call anyone. Blamed me when I got there fifteen minutes later, because I was not there.
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
That's madness! I pray you can totally heal and enjoy a normal life.
@user-ib3mt7iu6z Жыл бұрын
@@justmemother2Stories of survivors of narc abuse are stranger than fiction. My mom once told me to go drown in the lake so she would not be called upon to burry me. Huh! Thankfully I wasn't suicidal.
@Lyndsydypyty Жыл бұрын
@@justmemother2 Hard to believe this kind of evil exists even tho i know first hand. I'm just glad I'm not like him! I'm sorry.....
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
As a kid my narcissistic parents knowingly put me in a situation where I was crossing a busy road, knowing that I didn't have the maturity to handle it, and I ended up getting knocked down and my leg broken, but I could have been killed. Afterwards my mother went around collecting signatures to petition the council to get a crossing put in that location. Supposedly it was only afterwards that she could see this was not a safe road for a young child to cross. She later told me this was the start of her interest in politics, seeking to reframe her own irresponsibility as courage in the face of an unjust society that doesn't look out for children (projection). I totally relate to this feeling that your life, safety, wellbeing means nothing to them, and they can see you die and all they will need to do is adapt their story to somehow make themselves the victim. The only thing I question is the idea that they don't have empathy. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in another person's shoes. That can be used for good or evil. They need to know how it feels to be you in order to make you suffer. Having parents who are just oblivious to your experience would be a massive upgrade.
@life-rethought Жыл бұрын
thank you for the gift of seeing the projection in fierce politicking. that is an eye opener and absolutely logical for me.
@ValSMITH-it4lg Жыл бұрын
I think that another component of empathy is compassion, which the narcissist lacks. Perhaps what the narcissist has is an evil imagination, which enables him to visualize his victim's terror and suffering, without feeling compassion for the victim?
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
@@life-rethought this was one of the most exasperating elements of my childhood, my mother's constant posturing as a moral crusader. People definitely use this kind of act as a shield and as a way of indirectly attacking others.
@shaunhunterit342 Жыл бұрын
@@ValSMITH-it4lg they definitely lack compassion and feel quite the opposite, vindictive vengeful wrath towards their victims. Empathy is a bit of a hard concept to pin down. Take this definition: "the ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person's situation". What does it mean to share another person's feelings and experiences? Does this mean you have to sympathise with their situation? Or does it just mean that you know how it feels to be them, and that you can use that awareness to do good or evil?
@emlynjessen2957 Жыл бұрын
In a sense we can expect nothing but murderous motives from parents and other people like that. It is helpful to identify that and to realize that the evil they projected onto us was their own evil. Recently I reconnected to a friend from my early 20s who confirmed that my mother was very mean to me, and he wouldn’t have seen the worst of it because narcissists usually keep their worst treatment for private occasions. This encourages some of us to consider that these people, if not demons themselves, are at least driven by demons.
@brigitanovinec4399 ай бұрын
They act like demons inside and on private occasions, especially during the night. During the day they present themself as very nice creatures in public and victims in offices, when they are exposed. And they believe them because they claim we are mad. They usually sleep during the day because they think no one sees their crimes and murder attempts during the night. But God almighty does.
@sharondunphy6737 Жыл бұрын
I understand everything that you're saying it's terrifying being with someone like this walking on eggshells waiting for the next drama
@matrig6 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this very hard story. My heart goes out to you, and to the helpless, terrified little boy you were. My narcissistic ex-husband has sometimes put our 3 children in dangerous situations for his own amusement. Sometimes he asks them confusing questions or otherwise riles them up emotionally, also for his own amusement. Fortunately, I have not seen him really accuse, blame or yell at them -- yet, anyway. That behavior has been reserved for me. And thank God, he found raising them too inconvenient, so I have them with me almost all of the time now! I pray your healing continues, too.
@Gabriel-ps3xq Жыл бұрын
you are one of very few who call it as it is...pure evil and I am with you 100 %
@MaileyMcAslan Жыл бұрын
That was God at work, Danish. I cried for your story. Thanks for telling it and WOW for your strength and wisdom - you’ve helped me so much! Love to you, brother. ❤
@isabelolsson1890 Жыл бұрын
My only son, who is a malign narc. Tried to kill me. God bless all of us that have narcissists family members, I had to move to another Continent to be safe.
@SelamHaile.com. Жыл бұрын
This is so painful yet fascinating Danish. I think that was an angel. Like a real angel that your father probably didn't even see otherwise he would have got off his bike to fake a caring show like narcissist do. I'm so grateful to God that you survived and thrived this family and at a place where you can open up to us about it. Sending so much love.
@selinarose3537 Жыл бұрын
Danish, you have changed my life. As the daughter of a narcissistic mother (and no father figure since 6yrs old) I have only recently broken free from her. Your videos have become a HUGE part of my healing. You are so on point at times it's like you are speaking directly to me. Thank you for sharing this traumatic story. Stay strong brother. We all support you.
@johnschmid8655 ай бұрын
Congrats on breaking free from your mom. I didn’t even realize I was horrifically abused til I was 34 or even what narcissists were. It’s so confusing. Best of luck healing
@patr7115 Жыл бұрын
Your story resonates a lot with me. My mother was a narcissist and often told me that she wished I was dead, because I was ugly and stupid. I am sure that if you had died that day, your father would have pretended to be full of grief and that it was all your fault, so he could have attracted a lot of attention on him.
@LaNa758 Жыл бұрын
Sorry, Danish, that you had to endure this, especially when being so young. Thank you for your work and efforts of bringing light to this world.❤
@sushmayen Жыл бұрын
Very sad and painful experience 😢
@jacalynanderson1340 Жыл бұрын
When I left home at 18 years old I felt lucky to have made it out alive. My dad choked me many times from the age of 3 to 16 years of age. I finally got the courage at 16 yrs old, threatened to report him and that’s when it stopped. Not everything stopped but the choking, punching and kicking stopped. I am so sorry you went through this horrible experience, I’m sorry you had such a nightmare of a childhood. Thank God that man saved you. Your father is a narcissistic psychopath.
@Rosalie-ct8mi Жыл бұрын
That is also horrific to hear that your dad choked you many times as a child, pfffff I get emotional hearing all thes abuses from the victims here ! We all can use much healing, sending you a big hug!
@amaliasher2832 Жыл бұрын
All of us raised by selfish parents have a story. I related to your story, Danish. I was also 9, just about 10, when I felt the pain of appendicitis at a church 4th of July picnic. It was too painful to stand up straight and walk to the car. Father told Mother I was just trying to get attention; she believed him. Went home to lay in down in bed and, by the second night, the gut pain was so unbearable, I couldn't sleep. I knew there was no one to ask for help except myself. To relieve the pain, I punched myself in the stomach repeatedly (and ended up saving my own life). With enough punches to my gut, the pain stopped and I could finally sleep. The next morning, I woke up in a pool of green pus, having thrown up infection during the night. At this point, Mother called the family doctor, I was rushed into exploratory surgery which turned out to be peritonitis, stayed in hospital 5 weeks to recover. My father complained about the medical cost for many years afterward, never being accountable for his part in a near-tragedy, just like your father. Thank you for telling your story, Danish. It helps put perspective and predictability to my parent's selfish behaviors. I am not responsible for their behaviors, but by luck or pluck, like your experience, I didn't die from their craziness. There has to be a reason one survives: your deeply insightful videos from your own experience help heal the thousand cuts to a person's soul.
@tatianamancino6985 Жыл бұрын
❤️ I went through experiences like these several times. I tried to tell about this, but nobody believed me.
@leviwhite3553 Жыл бұрын
I watched through to the end of your story. Thank you for sharing that and it is why I feel an affinity towards the things you say. I hold this moment of silence for that child Danish and for the man you have become.
@patriciapaulineguevara4123 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. During the years that my mother terrorized me I was told by people that surely she loved me. But I knew.
@lindamoore9729 Жыл бұрын
I had wonderful parents, but my husband of over 50 years has been a source of trauma for me. You are right to call them evil, because they ARE!!! Such hateful, hate-filled creatures. Your father sounds like a monster. How awful for you to have had to deal with that. And they thrive on putting others in fear.
@Bornintoclusterb Жыл бұрын
Oh Dinesh your courage is amazing thank you for sharing such a difficult story. Something you mentioned is so vital for people to understand - with narcissists and psychopaths it’s all about ABSENCE. Absence of empathy. Absence of love. Absence of care and understanding. Thank you for all that you are doing to help us. Much love to you.
@Vanessa-vz3kn Жыл бұрын
Not for borderlines. They still have empathy and remorse.
@Bornintoclusterb Жыл бұрын
@@Vanessa-vz3kn good call out, absence comes with narcissists and psychopaths. I’ll edit that now. Thank you 😊
@LiftingUrVeil-LUV Жыл бұрын
Man I’m so sorry you had to go through that, but glad your healing. This was a little triggering cause I remember driving my mother car for the first time when I turned 16 and I had a wreck. I was so scared and startled and couldn’t wait to my mother got there. But when she showed up she was as worried about the car and then berated me in front of people checking on me. I knew something was missing inside my mother
@nightnurse77778 ай бұрын
Reminds me of the time we were at a relative's house when I crashed on a bicycle. After I came inside, my mother yelled at me, berated me, and made me scrub my blood off of their wall.
@ladydrzn4343 Жыл бұрын
I’m genuinely sorry that happened to you. I also have a very narcissistic father. I just turned 40 and he still has negative impacts in my life.
@jlcmsw Жыл бұрын
It sounds like that man was an angel. We have angels watching over us and that man knew your exact situation because he was sent by God to save you. Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable and terrible.
@coralmccrystal4606 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this, Danish. It can't have been easy for you but it is so validating to yourself and others who had narcissistic parents. They really don't care - at all - but still are alert enough about it to cover their tracks for appearances. So no one believes the child even if they weren't too terrified to speak up. No doubt your father would have spun some plausible story if the worst had happened to you and lapped up sympathy on the loss of his child while smugly enjoying escaping accountability. Such sickening subhuman creatures. I have just finished a therapy session and was talking about my suicide attempt aged 12. I had heard if you took a lot of aspirins it would kill you so I took six because I thought that was a lot. I was quite disappointed when nothing happened. I learned to dissociate instead but that severely restricted my life. Having been helped by my therapist to connect to my child self, I feel completely different now. There was nothing wrong with me but plenty wrong with the cold hearted, critical people around me. My therapist calls them scaregivers instead of caregivers.
@fetijajasari9522 Жыл бұрын
Scaregivers! Oh, yes!
@life-rethought Жыл бұрын
oh so true. well said.
@LadyRobertaL Жыл бұрын
Thank God for saving you!!! Thank God for your life!!! Yes, that evil is real. She looked me in the eyes and told me how she imagined killing me while she beat me... she is a Reverend. An outwardly godly woman... pure evil to the core.
@ValSMITH-it4lg Жыл бұрын
Thanks. My own Dad told me, (when I was an adult,) that when I was an infant he used to stand over my crib and look down at me while holding a pillow and think about smothering me. He didn't apologize or say he was wrong, and this just came out of a clear blue sky. I have wondered for years why he wanted to tell me this. I think he was trying to hurt me one more time. I think you just clarified that for me. But he died years ago and can't hurt me anymore, so I try to learn whatever lessons the Lord wants me to learn and not accept my earthly father's valuation of me, but rather my Heavenly Father's love for me.
@SheldonBrown567 Жыл бұрын
I think that man that pulled you back, may have been a guardian angel, or simply an angel. God is good ❤
@sitascott8446 Жыл бұрын
That does sound like Divine Intervention. I'm so glad you were saved! What a horrible treatment by your father.
@sonalijootun1712 Жыл бұрын
Brother thank you so much for your videos. Whenever I speak out no one believes me.. My father is a narcissist too am learning to heal everyday,soon will leave the house.. Am 31. My life's been hell. You give me hope. Thank you From Mauritius 🇲🇺❤️
@ValSMITH-it4lg Жыл бұрын
Dearheart, you are worth better than you have been getting. A life filled with joy and self respect awaits you. There will be bumps on the road, of course, but you CAN do this! Lean on the Lord in all things. He is your true, Heavenly Father and loves you more than you can ever know.
@sonalijootun1712 Жыл бұрын
@@ValSMITH-it4lg 🥺🥺🙏🏽 God sent you my friend. Thank you May God's blessing shower upon you.
@cricfeed Жыл бұрын
This is sad. We feel your pain. Thanks for sharing your personal experience.
@Charmainecharmainecharmaine Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry Danish. They are absolutely evil. May you find much peace, happiness and abundance.
@marinabliznac2719 Жыл бұрын
Listening to you, I'm starting to question all situations where my life was in dangeour or where I was in pain, that those maybe were not accidents how it seemed to me. For example one time I was 6 or 7 he was trying to lock the fence door while my hand was in between, I started to scream and he was continuing to push the door against lock, he asked me "what's wrong?" like he don't see that my hand is in between. And to my shock I remember now how he was looking around while doing that. I assume now that he was looking if anybody is watching. After a while he stop pushing the door and was acting like it wasn't on purpose. He could fool me then...but I'm thinking to myself now, your child is screaming in pain, if it even wasn't on purpose how does your instinct didn't tell you to leave whatever you're doing now and to skip helping the child. There are so much situations like this where I misinterpreted was accidents. Lot of situations I can not recall clearly, because main weapon of my father was confusion. 9:54
@Grainne007 Жыл бұрын
Bless you Danish for bravely sharing this. Your description of what you felt and still feel from that experience deeply resonates with me. I too experienced those same feelings as a child and into adulthood, with both of my parents. I was the only child of two psychopaths. It's taken years to unravel and dissect my parents and my upbringing. We are survivors and deserve to live out our lives in peace, surrounded only by loving, supportive people. Thank you so much for these videos. It is so good to know some of us are not alone in these experiences. ❤✨️
@natalietaylor2009 Жыл бұрын
That is so devastating. I’m glad someone was watching out for you. It amazes me how narcs want to see someone die or get hurt. Looking back I remember many times in my life when a narc or group of narcs either encouraged a dangerous behavior or failed to protect me from danger. There have been times when I just didn’t hang out with certain people because I might get hurt and if I did I knew I’d be on my own dealing with it. As a child we have no choice though, sadly.
@justmemother2 Жыл бұрын
That was a guardian angel who grabbed you. That was a horrific story and I was fearful for you, just listening to it. Yes they are evil, but God sees it all, and justice will be served one day. Bless you, Danish for helping us, even though your background was also a nightmare. 👏👍🙏
@cindymccafferty8346 Жыл бұрын
Driving drunk down the highway with his family in the car at 110 mph. Then he swerved the wheel several times acting like he was going to run us off the road. When we screamed, he thought it was funny and laughed. That day I saw the devil’s eyes black and cruel. It’s been 55 years. He did us all a favor in 1971 and died. TG I don’t have to deal with him anymore. But I wonder if the memories and fears ever go away? Maybe when I go to heaven. Thank you for telling us your story. That took a lot of courage.
@teresitaekim2565 Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry, Danish, that you went through so much. I could feel your grievances. I know exactly what you're talking about. Thank God he saved you to save us as well that you're around to warn us of the danger. God is love. He'll spare the good people.
@n0426 Жыл бұрын
I thank god that i lived my childhood with my aunt and grandma. My father never cared to ask about me he actually once came and saw all my siblings but left without asking for me. As an introvert My younger self asking him why he did that he blatantly lied that he came and I wasn’t there. Why didn’t you care to ask about your daughter or if she is upset about something. Completely crazy. But I knew he never saw me as a daughter. No empathy with narcissists. Their cup is EMPTY. He would tringulate me and smear me but i keep on rocking and rolling with my no-contact. Narcissists do get bored just stay detached and let them have their fun time because god is watching.
@a.garcia7127 Жыл бұрын
I'm an only child, fatherless, of a psychopath mother. On my 5th birthday party, my mom tied me up to a tree, and kids were playing around me! On my 35th birthday, she called the police. She's done worse than that. I thank God that I grew up in the Bronx, New York where people have no choice to be emotionally and physically tough so we can handle psychopaths. Thank you for sharing your story and knowledge. Greetings from New York City.
@queenlj12jax97 Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry that you had that kind of experience with your father, and I was so relieved to hear that the good stranger pulled you out of traffic and saved your life. What a blessing that you are able to share your story with us and help so many people who have had narcissistic psychopathic parents. Your story triggered a memory I had of my own father, who was very much like your dad. Once, when I was about 20 years old, I went to visit my mother and as soon as I was in the house, he screamed and berated me with such foul language and for so long, my mother had to rush me to the Emergency Room. I was hysterical and throwing up green bile like the girl in the Exorcist movie. My entire childhood is full of stories like that and although my father has been dead for many years now, I never learned to forgive him because forgiveness wasn't necessary. I accepted that he was the kind of father, husband, and man he chose to be, along with the fact that he was simply being who he was, no matter how repugnant. I went no contact for my own well-being and with good therapy, and a wonderful spiritual life, I have come out on the other side, bruised, but not broken. BTW: My father died a long, slow, painful death that included two amputations by the time he came to his end; and not one day has passed where I have missed him. His death was a relief to more in the family than just me. Thank you for creating this channel. Through you and others I have learned that I am not alone. Peace & Blessings.
@zg6045 Жыл бұрын
Your father in heaven loves you. He was sending an angel to save you! You are special in his eyes and you do have a greater purpose. You are helping others with your videos!
@lindaschweitzer5349 Жыл бұрын
That was an angel that saved your life. A literal angel.
@PeureDharma Жыл бұрын
Wow Danish.. it’s amazing that man was there just to save you on that day. Your definitely living your true purpose now living with the strength and ability now to help others. You were protected throughout your whole life believe it or not, because you did not become like your father you were majorly protected from birth the experience was just an important lesson for you in this life
@nh255 Жыл бұрын
the part where you said “i don’t give a damn if it’s a disorder or not, it’s evil” so true
@prernaofficial2724 Жыл бұрын
It's very heartbreaking..to listen how could parents do that to their own child..don't worry brother.. We are with you..move ahead and achieve most of the success in life.. 🌹😇
@Cat-oj4oz Жыл бұрын
Wow... just wow... it really helps to hear other people's stories... you feel so alone in this craziness until someone lets you know it happened to them, too. I couldn't tell you how many people told me what I experienced was other than what I knew it was... my narc-father was brutal as well and hated us kids (there were 4 of us) ... one day he took us out to a desert some hundred miles from home and left us there for a time until one of my brothers got sick from the heat. He piled all of us back in the car and went back home. To this day, I believe he meant to kill us by leaving us there, out in the middle of nowhere, as he was eerily silent on the way back.
@Rosalie-ct8mi Жыл бұрын
Unbelievable as well that your dad left you in the desert! Woww that is an covert attempt to kill!
@Inflec Жыл бұрын
I watched this video hearing the description of your father and thinking, "he's got to use a stronger word than narcissist for this man." And then I heard you say "psychopath." If you hadn't said it I would have said it here. It's amazing that you survived at all with that sort of family. (Come to think of it, how did your siblings fare?) And I'm not completely sold on the idea of spiritualism, but I have read so many stories of people who's lives are saved at the last second by _someone_ who just appears seemingly from nowhere and is gone without a trace after doing the good deed. I don't know, but you just might have met your guardian angel in that moment.✨
@SlingsAxes Жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right; it's not a disorder, it's just evil.