blessings to you

I would just want to give you a full hug right now because of your experience.

ALLAH bless u bro Stay Strong 👍

Thank you so much Danish!! Awesome!!😃 God bless you🙏

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Yes! Bless !!

Amen!

Exactly what I was thinking. God blessed all of us through that man.

God bless you for your insight!🙏

I'm sure it was an angel, or someone sent by God.

this is my thought as well...angels do walk among us...I fully believe

Yes the man was an angel !

Yes I believe also angels walk among us.

Angels walk among us.

angels saved me many a time, or gave me miraculous encouragement in my darkest moments. God and angels listen and act when we are in need.

The USA is the greatest country because they're very much aware of narcissistic parents and have all kinds of mechanisms to prevent and protect children from abuse. They invest billions of dollars into this field. They know well that a future star can be crippled by a narcissistic psychopath parent.

v true..worst kind of abuse..u dont have any escape

Yes it is.

If your mother is a narc murderer you don't know what love is.

Along With Sociopaths/Psychopaths, & Other Personality Disorders ( Cluster B ? ) Who Lack Empathy. } WATCH OUT FOR !!!! ⚠️⚠️⚠️ Other = Borderline Personality Disorder & Autism. I Read in Description Of Book : ZERO EMPATHY. By : Simon Baron Cohen. This Should Become GENERAL KNOWLEDGE !!!

Narcissists always morph into a deeper level of evil.

Hebrews 13:2 “Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.”

Drop "maybe"... 🙏

@@dakoderii4221exactly!

Psychopath pure evil!!! Thanks for sharing 🙏God bless you

Exactly!

@rachelreed3726 Same for me. Both parents physically abusive on a near daily basis. In between all the other kinds of abuses. Never-ending torture. A prison camp childhood. Then as an adult had a totally skewed wrong view of what a healthy relationship was. Red flags weren’t red flags! They were my “normal”! Led to a physically abusive 1st marriage at a very young age just to escape my now ex-family prison. 10 more years of torture. But at least I was away from ex-family. Then I woke up on my own and walked away with nothing-just so I didn’t have to be in any contact to “negotiate”. Best time of my life. But then now ex-family re-emerged and hoovered me back. I fell for it. Maybe because I was alone in the world. They abused me as an adult verbally, mentally, spiritually, sexually (covertly as they did in my childhood). When I went full No Contact they retaliated and escalated with an extremely violent surprise weapon attack. A criminal felony. I called police who were clueless about domestic abuse and of no help regardless of one party whose face and head were bludgeoned and bleeding profusely. And the others had not a mark on them. But that’s sadly typical. But it led to my resolve to have No Contact permanently with them and ANYONE who accepts the abusers and embraces such violent evil people. I don’t want those kinds of people in my life-abuse enablers and embracers. They do not care about what happened to ME. The victim. It’s lonely. But far better! I’ll make new friends and a “family of choice” slowly but surely. Did I mention all my ex-family profess (falsely) to be born again Christians? Lol. The masks they wear in public to hide how evil they really are. And the masks work! They dupe most people. Even pastors. But I am a true born again Christian and Jesus follower. And He is FOR ME. I am a true child of the Most High God. And He will help me rebuild my life! No doubts. 😇

" Being raised by narcs is worse than being alone in the world, it's being in the custody of enemies." -- wow -- this is so perfectly said.

@@ZeeJayEssJay It is easier to see it than to get out of that head space. You kind of have to rebuild your own psyche and do a lot of counterintuitive things to get out of the game and not get into another. Sounds like you're doing that. Go team! ❤✊️✌️

😣 how can children be protected from this, a narcissistic parent is too smart and cunning. To intervene could cause more harm to the children, but the narcissism is a very big rampart problem and it’s children who pay the price because parents don’t think of the kids, only themselves benefitting. It’s very sad!

My mother always refused medical help for me when I needed medical help. I guess that was one way how she tried to kill me. Yes, narcs should not have any children!

im so sorry 😢

@mstyles2667 so many parents should not have children, wish people would get tested they are psychologically fit to be a parent

Agree 100% with you.@@elennyfication

YES, I AGREE With The Mental Testing !!!! & That ALL Men Must Use Protection } Condoms. When I heard from my mom that he made Her Alone be Responsible for Child Prevention ( Anti Conception Pill, Abortion ), I Got SO Mad at Him. He Took Absolutely NO Responsibility On That Area. Before Anyone = Allowed To Drive A Car, we have to do So Many things before to be Qualified. Why = There Absolutely NO Control What So Ever, When it Comes To Being A Parent ?? They Are Held To NO Criteria At All. Nobody Checks Them. There = NOT Even A Question If They Are Capable At All !! It’s like Everyone = Allowed To Be A Doctor/ Surgeon WITHOUT Going To Medical School.

Yea, that’s horrible. I can imagine it. I’m not sure what my father would’ve done… part of me thinks he wouldn’t have sent me into the street. But part of me isn’t sure. For sure, the minute he saw someone else try to protect me he’d become the “good” guy. He’d probably blame me for going into the street. If I said, you told me to get the books then he’d say, “ I thought you’d wait for traffic to clear, are you stupid?” I’d get beat for sure for the damaged books. Which is fine. I preferred that over him “lecturing”me for an hour, which was nothing but ridiculing me and making me feel small.

@@Kharizmah Im sorry you have had to experience a parent narcissist. Narcissistic parents are demons. Pure evil

I'm sorry you experienced that. I pray your strength in the LORD IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. AMEN. I pray that you don't harbor resentment and unforgiveness towards her in order to free yourself and choose to give it all over to the Lord in JESUS' NAME. FOR YOUR SAKE. AMEN.

@@ladennayoung2939 thank you. It is very hard as the abuse still continues today. I am not allowed to see any member of my extended family. My brothers and sisters, my nieces and nephews etc etc. I am excluded from everything. Because I am the scapegoat. I once said to my mother - its ok, I know you need me to be the scapegoat so you can 'survive', you can continue lying about me etc to the rest of the family, its ok. I begged her, I said just in private, between you and me, please can you be my mother, please can you love me and accept me. That's how desperate I was. Of course that never happened. And yes Jesus is my Saviour

I sincerely hope things are better for you now ❤️

@@meeperbirdI truly belive I never had a father here on earth, but I have a real father. My father is God. My parents never wanted me to be born, they never loved me, bit God wanted me and gived me life, and he takes care of me. He is my father.

@@Klikka1 This comment is soo powerfull! ❤🙏🏼

Thank you. He really does love us 💖

Yes. "When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me." - Psalm 27:10 ❤❤❤

I am sure about God's protection. And that He sends some people to us. I have the same experience with me and my daughter. I wonder many times how come we survived.

His father should have been put in prison.

they do be crazy like that… as an adult, u know rationally that it won’t cause that much harm. but as a child in the clutches of an angry abuser, u are so traumatized u won’t know the difference

This is a wonderful idea!

Such a beautiful thought! ❤

Ah that's beautiful.x

I love this! Brought tears to my eyes. So beautiful.

This brought literal tears out of my eyes and down my face.😢 A most beautiful thought.

I applaud you for not allowing the abuse from your father to spill over to your children. It is a testament to your strength and sense of true self. I chose to not have children because I recognized some of my narc father’s traits come out in me towards my youngest sibling when I was at a young age (11 or 12) and it terrified me! It only needed to happen once for me to never treat her that way again with verbal abuse. But I realized that unless I could be 100% certain that he is no longer a part of me, I should have no right to chance it on my own children. It destroys me every time I think back to that moment (which she does not recall) and I know that if he ever came out through me toward my, or any child, I would be ripped more to shreds than anything he has ever done to me. You and your children are blessed in that you have broken the cycle of abuse. Good for you! 🙏

I understand.

Yeah me too

Exactly.

Right.

Truly. There are diffrent types of narcissists, but what Danish speaks of is narcissists with features of psychopathy. I say all in all a full blown psychopath.

As am I you!

My father put a noose around my sister's neck and hung her from an apple tree while he threatened me with her death if I didn't find a tool that he thought we had taken, but which he himself lost. Yeah, not your typical narcissist. But all of us kids survived, though it wasn't easy. I have found some measure of peace because of my faith in Jesus, and truly hope to see my father in Heaven some day.

@@ValSMITH-it4lg that IS a typical narcissist, life and death is a game to satisfy their whims Keep reading your Bible and your faith and hope will grow, God's Spirit will strengthen you

@@shaunhunterit342 Thank you. I try to hand it over to God and let Him bring some blessing out of it that He may be glorified. That way the bad stuff isn't wasted,but can be transformed into a blessing.

@@ValSMITH-it4lg he will show you that there is more than some blessing or some measure of peace but blessing and peace in abundance

Woww he /she put a robe around your neck? WHY

my mother convinced me I was "bad" if I bothered her for anything, I was to leave her alone because I was guilty for having needs and wants. certainly no hugs given ever. I was supposed to suffer she said, "as Jesus would do" or God wouldn't love me so I was supposed to do without in order to be considered, "good". my life has been one long suffering hell ride, many times I almost died and I was always alone. my mother did kill my siblings (5 abortions) and the ONLY reason I truly believe she allowed us to live was to try to keep my good looking charismatic Dad with her. and in hindsight, so funny, on my birthdays I always thanked my mother for "allowing me to live" and not "flushing me down the toilet". I kid you not. Now why would a grown person even think that? She always just laughed and kidded about it but I meant it, honestly. I know she didn't want kids and she always told me she didn't like me. I think my mother was psycho really, so insanely angry and jealous. I am here like the rest of us. At least we have each other and Danish understands totally, God bless us.

I know exactly what you mean. Ive been through exactly the same. Internet can be a blessing

Absolutely horrifying 😢 you were, and always will be your own best friend and heal from all this. Have faith❤

My dad would choke me all the time for any perceived transgression like if he thought I rolled my eyes at him.. and my mom would just stand there and watch. I remember being 16 coming home from volleyball practice and going to my room to do homework in one instance. I swore I was the only one. 😢

I used to wake up many nights at 2 a.m. with a feeling somebody was choking me when I was married to a narc husband. After I left that stopped. He had a lot of attempts to murder me, not only threats that I need to be killed.

OH My GOD, I’m SO SORRY On Their Behalf.. 🥺🥺 & Your Dad Defended Her ?? 😦😦😦 Jesus Christ 🤯🤯🤯😱😱😱 😭😭😭😭 #TotalJawDrop. HOW Did You Make it Out Alive ??

I think we get lonelier as we get older and a lot of this simply because the world is such a extremely narcissistic place right now❤

I think it's more that they think their children are objects.

@@dolores2716 Yes, objects that they own.

They're not forgetting anything and they're not mistaken about anything. They are living in reality and choosing to be evil. They know you're living, breathing, feeling human beings and they're glad of it as it enables them to torture you.

@@dolores2716, And their children as in my case it was my brother......disposable.

Because they don't know how to deal with their vulnerability. They only know their emotions, but not other people's emotions.

A malignant narcissist is also a sociopath.

The colloquial term is narcopath and yes they do exis. In fact in the psychological anals, from the DMS-V Cluster B section (Personality Disorders et al) Malignant Narcissism or NPD is actually the MOST dangerous disorder because they know exactly what they AND they conspire, they plan, they devise. They other disorders generally do not.

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As a Narc or a Psycho, (according to your description) he was doing so in order to create a trauma bond and to further deteriorate his victims

God bless you and the man who saved your life. Shine bright.

Truly generational curse indeed. Experienced that my whole life, lost everything.

What I experienced with my parent was maybe not this extreme, but i had the same feeling Danish described, that absolute disbelief of the reaction i got for a small mistake . I was lighting the diya in the evening and the jar of ghee which we used to light the diya fell out of my grasp because there was traces of ghee on the outside of the jar which made it slippery. It was a glass bottle (the old horlicks bottle with the handle) so obviously it smashed to pieces when it fell on the floor in the pooja room and the ghee spilled all over. She came running out of the kitchen but there was no concern there for me she screamed at me how she has to now clean up all the mess, and i kept telling her it slipped from my hand and i dont mind cleaning it all up, that she doesnt have to do it. But she was not listening at all she kept yelling at me for smashing the ghee jar and then she proceeded to take the kitchen ladder (the bathla aluminum ladder) she picked up that entire ladder which was just outside the pooja room and she hit me right on top of my head with that ladder. I was so so shocked at that, i mean i became very quiet, my head hurt, the ladder isnt exactly lightweight. and I just watched her rage. I think at some point that year i confronted her about that incident i said "u didnt even think thats a glass jar thats broken lets see if my daughter is injured in any way, no no concern for me, only anger that i broke the jar. instead of checking me for injury you injured me more" and she justified herself by saying "you are always dropping things, you are so clumsy, and then you will say you didnt do it on purpose" . I dont know this incident happened when i was maybe 21-22 yrs old..im 33 now. I still cant get over it. I still feel that horrified fascination when i remember it. I still feel like how can she have done that? How can she be so unconcered about me but have that much importance placed on objects rather that humans

@@kruttikahegde8284 My goodness! Sucks that you had to go through something like this. But it is a fact that narc parents place more importance on objects than their own kids/humans. My parents are like that as well.

@@1986nitya Do you also feel guilt or pain or shame if you are acknowledging to yourself that perhaps your parents are not the best of the people? I mean a few months ago when i had to finally finally admit to myself that my parent was gaslighting and manipulating me my whole life , I felt so much guilt and shame , then i would feel much anger and then i would find myself downplaying the whole thing in my own mind.. "like no no it wasnt that bad also"

Jezebel spirit, operating through them,is a murderous spirit! Along with Leviathan; the king of pride; a twisting spirit. Everyone is lucky to make it out alive!

​@@sandrathomas2893Yep! Leviathan, Jezebel plus green eyed monster because their envy is off the chats

My narcissist family members are trying to push me into suicide. It’s now 10 years of terrible psychoterror with them. Terrible smear campaigns and them even stirring up the authorities against me. It’s hell on earth. I do not want to know how many people have done successful suicide because of narcissists.

Thank you for sharing your story. I agree with your comment. I wish you well. God bless you. Greetings from the Bronx NY.

You might be sold and chipped from birth by your govt parents like me

Exactly! He is an expert on narcissism and I am thankful that Danish survived all these evil deads! 🙏 May God bliss his soul 🙏

the book an object to b used to be rid of responsibility, and have sick satisfaction in terrorizing another human being.

In India it's hard to find anyone in the public who would press such charges. If people see child endangerment, they would definitely help/save the child in that particular incident, but would not care afterwards. Just like in the case Danish described. People here have heart, but they lack that level of social responsibility. Besides, child support services are not up to the mark in India. Most people have little understanding of these terms even.

So terrible James, what your father did. I'm so sorry you had to experience that at such a young age. No doubt the the years before and after were no picknick either. Amazing you're here and on the healing path 💪. Me too, and we can be proud👊.

@@SamarArons Thank you for your kind words and understanding. It means a lot to me. Looking back, I can't deny that I went through some incredibly challenging times with my parents, and at times, it felt like I shouldn't even be here. However, I truly believe that there is a greater purpose for me, and I've come to realize that I have the strength to overcome those difficult experiences. While I may have wished for things to be different and for my parents to have made better choices, I've learned to focus on my own healing and moving forward. It's not always easy, but I believe in the power of personal growth and resilience. Thank you again for your support and empathy.

That's horrifying. I'm so sorry that you had such an experience. Do you watch Dr Ramani's videos as well? I don't know why I feel I have seen your comments on her channel as well 🤔

@@winnieamar9368 Thank you so much for understanding and acknowledging my experiences. I truly appreciate your support. Yes, I have been actively sharing my stories and insights on Dr. Ramani's channel for the past month or so. It has been my goal to speak about my situation and provide help to others, whether it's by understanding or validating their own experiences. I'm grateful for the opportunity to contribute and make a difference. Thank you again for your kind words and concern.

Blessings to you. So glad you are here with us. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it helps talking about it. Healing comes this way.

Thats right.

Narcs hate truthtellers. I wish you the best as you strive to heal

If they tell their story, nobody believes them, finds them stupid, nonrealistic, etc. That's why listening to Danish, who claims we do not fantasize, who expresses his anger and claims that is pure 'evil', makes you feel alive again. I would call that satanism. My narc 'mother' and ex-narc husband both claim I am mad. That saved them from court and prison. Even my female lawyer has been saying to me I am afraid of every shadow and after 10 years she said I will not persuade my daughter I am not mad. When an ex-narc husband follows you for 10 years after murdering your child and a lot of attempts to murder me and the only living child, you are not mad. Mad are those who do not do anything to protect you against narcissistic killers.

and that is so unfair in my opinion!

My husband tried to strangle me when I was 7 months pregnant. Still, I stayed with him for another 4 years. Fear for my children finally caused me to run 😢.

@@magpie1492 I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you're safe away from him.

healing and recovery for all of us

My mom did the same to me, along with repeated horrific beatings. I feel your pain. It hurts so bad, because these are supposed to be the people that love us the most and that we are supposed to look up to.

@@magpie1492 I am so sorry ..such a thing happened to you...Luv and healing to you

Wow! I can not imagine how scary that is. Even my body is freaking out!

@@user-ib3mt7iu6z Many have had to tolerate much worse, yeah? But God will wipe away every tear. Revelation 21:4. 😍

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My heart goes out to that little child in you who had to go through such terrifying experiences.

I was also drowning, signaling to my dad who sat on the shore just laughing. I finally found my footing and balance, thank God. He had no intention of getting up and helping me. Evil til the end, these Narcs. He let my mom die years later of heart failure. Three phones in the house, didn't bother to call anyone. Blamed me when I got there fifteen minutes later, because I was not there.

That's madness! I pray you can totally heal and enjoy a normal life.

​@@justmemother2Stories of survivors of narc abuse are stranger than fiction. My mom once told me to go drown in the lake so she would not be called upon to burry me. Huh! Thankfully I wasn't suicidal.

@@justmemother2 Hard to believe this kind of evil exists even tho i know first hand. I'm just glad I'm not like him! I'm sorry.....

thank you for the gift of seeing the projection in fierce politicking. that is an eye opener and absolutely logical for me.

I think that another component of empathy is compassion, which the narcissist lacks. Perhaps what the narcissist has is an evil imagination, which enables him to visualize his victim's terror and suffering, without feeling compassion for the victim?

@@life-rethought this was one of the most exasperating elements of my childhood, my mother's constant posturing as a moral crusader. People definitely use this kind of act as a shield and as a way of indirectly attacking others.

@@ValSMITH-it4lg they definitely lack compassion and feel quite the opposite, vindictive vengeful wrath towards their victims. Empathy is a bit of a hard concept to pin down. Take this definition: "the ability to share someone else's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person's situation". What does it mean to share another person's feelings and experiences? Does this mean you have to sympathise with their situation? Or does it just mean that you know how it feels to be them, and that you can use that awareness to do good or evil?

They act like demons inside and on private occasions, especially during the night. During the day they present themself as very nice creatures in public and victims in offices, when they are exposed. And they believe them because they claim we are mad. They usually sleep during the day because they think no one sees their crimes and murder attempts during the night. But God almighty does.

Congrats on breaking free from your mom. I didn’t even realize I was horrifically abused til I was 34 or even what narcissists were. It’s so confusing. Best of luck healing

That is also horrific to hear that your dad choked you many times as a child, pfffff I get emotional hearing all thes abuses from the victims here ! We all can use much healing, sending you a big hug!

Not for borderlines. They still have empathy and remorse.

@@Vanessa-vz3kn good call out, absence comes with narcissists and psychopaths. I’ll edit that now. Thank you 😊

Reminds me of the time we were at a relative's house when I crashed on a bicycle. After I came inside, my mother yelled at me, berated me, and made me scrub my blood off of their wall.

Scaregivers! Oh, yes!

oh so true. well said.

Thanks. My own Dad told me, (when I was an adult,) that when I was an infant he used to stand over my crib and look down at me while holding a pillow and think about smothering me. He didn't apologize or say he was wrong, and this just came out of a clear blue sky. I have wondered for years why he wanted to tell me this. I think he was trying to hurt me one more time. I think you just clarified that for me. But he died years ago and can't hurt me anymore, so I try to learn whatever lessons the Lord wants me to learn and not accept my earthly father's valuation of me, but rather my Heavenly Father's love for me.

Dearheart, you are worth better than you have been getting. A life filled with joy and self respect awaits you. There will be bumps on the road, of course, but you CAN do this! Lean on the Lord in all things. He is your true, Heavenly Father and loves you more than you can ever know.

@@ValSMITH-it4lg 🥺🥺🙏🏽 God sent you my friend. Thank you May God's blessing shower upon you.

Unbelievable as well that your dad left you in the desert! Woww that is an covert attempt to kill!