Yeah I can’t defend you this time. This is a repost under a different title.

I’m the youngest child and when I notice that my parents aren’t listening to my brother I make sure to say “‘brothers name’ wanted to say/ask something” I know what it feels like to be ignored by people you love and I won’t let that happen to my brother

I can understand why people called out OP for “lying” but again this is a traumatic story for him and also one person proof reading a whole story is a lot. Even after I reread my own work somehow there’s a misspell or I didn’t get the point I went across clearly and didn’t realize in time. Some inconsistencies such be expected. It’s hard to recall all the information perfectly. Especially sadder ones. Our Brains want to protect us so they make you forget all the traumatic things. I hope OP can live a Nice live and find love. adulting is hard Omg

With the little girl, she was nine and demanding a car? WTH man this is why you never spoil children.

31:08 This is called a trauma trigger, my friend. OP definitely is making a good call to stay off reddit if it's going to pull him back to dark places.

I myself haven’t experienced this, however I have a good friend who (from the day he was born; till he was 17 when he moved in with me) had to put up with his parents favouritism for his twin brother. Needless to say he hasn’t spoken to them since he moved, and I can clearly see that the dude is much happier, and has no regrets about the decision to leave them.

Man, i don’t understand people who damage their children and their future and everything by spoiling them. You don’t love them when you do this. They destroyed her, she is a victim and the parents should be in jail for child abuse. I hate these people

No one should have kept telling OP they’d put the wrong ages etc.. out of everything that shouldn’t be what people focus on. There’s so much more to focus on. Get over the fact someone’s said something incorrectly. Whatever age it started at, it still started whether the OP was 8 or 10 or whatever age

I've heard the first story, since then I've heard like 5 more stories of favoritism by one or both parents destroying the childhood of one kid by neglecting him/her and other kid by placing them at their heads.

I know all too well the pain of parental favouritism. My brother usurped my life, my family sacrificed my future for his luxuries.

the hitting her head on a wall is something i used to do when i was really stressed and was deppresed when i was being tormented by a girl in school (im a boy) and my family just said "oh she just likes you" so far the self harm has stuck with me when i get stressed or deppresed and i still remember the whole name of the girl that tormented me and its been around 3 years ( sorry for bad spelling im horrible at spelling long words)

You know, stories like this remind me that I have a good relationship with my family, and that I should never let go of that. And that I feel bad for a majority of people.

Shame on the parents, who let the Golden child sister have two birthdays instead of letting Op have a birthday about himself.

My bio mom was the same way with my two sisters. She had abandoned me to live with my dad while she collected Child Support for me. Then only wanted something to do with me once she had to pay back the money and pay my dad Child Support. Later on in life she told me she wished she had an abortion.

imagine this sister in court as an adult for a crime she commits… Judge: Ma’am, how do you plead? Sister (sobs): I’m innocent! My brother did this! Prosecutor attorney : Objection! She murdered the officer in his house for taking her car after speeding!

Really sounds like the mother just overly doted on the sister after the rough pregnancy, and dad didn’t put his foot down at all.

"I am bad at Math" I fell that bro, I really do

The Grandfather is a good man. He easily made the most effort for the lad

This makes me wanna hug him and tell him everything's gonna be alright and that if I was his friend through all this, I would make a mini party in secret every year just for him.

These stories are so sad and crushing to know when you have a good family and sometimes take them for granted

Im shocked that OPs parents were allowed to stay as her guardians, in some places child services would step in and take over her guardianship, meaning they had the final say in when your sister was allowed out, with who and for how long

Reddit hounding this kid so bad for telling his story they gave him a stress induced mental breakdown. Weird how they all become Sherlock Holmes whenever the victim of the story has a Y chromosome.

The updates are definitely worth hearing. Sorry about the trigger, OP. I suspect my parents to both have severe PTSD from growing up through the Cultural Revolution in China, though they both refuse to tell me their stories. They’re terrible at emotional expression and it’s very difficult to have a conversation about anything with them without devolving into a horrendous argument if they feel they’re being told they’re wrong. They both have hair trigger tempers, and they regularly set each other off. Being with them is like walking on eggshells and it’s exhausting having been repeatedly told growing up (and even now) that “if [you] just behaved/did better, [we] wouldn’t be feeling this way.” I have no siblings to help alleviate my burden. Still, I’m not holding anything against them. Their only job was to survive the special hell they grew up in and escape poverty. To that end, they were successful. They’ve still done a lot for me on all other fronts. I have my own career and marriage now. My job will be to make sure their trauma does not pass down to my future kids.

The ‘unknown disorder’ is likely something similar to BPD or other attachment/emotional regulation related disorders. This can happen with both spoiled and abused children due to the irregular ways in which they were raised, and never taught how to properly regulate their emotions in a healthy way or acceptable way. Considering the mom’s outburst and the physical altercation that took place i’m assuming that it may be BPD related to PTSD that’s caused such a strong and unhealthy attachment between the mom and her daughter which lead to her daughter exhibiting similar symptoms and behaviors. Also OP should go to a therapist to really talk it all out with a professional who knows how to help. I know how badly abuse from a mentally unwell parent and siblings can effect someone and if it all gets buried it’ll just come back up in larger and more detrimental ways later. Dealing with everything surely won’t be easy or fast but it’ll give you a more stable foundation to build on that won’t all come crumbling down on a bad night. I realized later in life that therapy isn’t just a one way road to medicating and dealing with the fallout but rather a chance to express everything in a safer place so you can finally work on moving forward in a healthier way.

No matter how many channels upload this story, I never get tired of hearing it.

I didn't know about the last update too. But there is an story who is similar about an OP with his autistic a-hole brother and his enabler parents. The 1st story is how the parents cancel his 14th b-day and was get it again because everyone literally gang up on the parents. The good news is, different than the sister in this one, the brother realize how much of an a-hole he was and how much of the parents fault too. Yet, the mother was the one had to get admit into a mental hospital in the last posts.

Some people don't deserve to have children

Every child deserves a parent. Not every parent deserves a child.

Gummy bears on mashed potatoes....now i know the type of people that keeps making such food abominations like pickle cake....

What terrible, toxic parents! My mother says, "You love your children equally!"

Hearing this, I became grateful that my parents are great people and don't discriminate me (oldest) with my brother(youngest)

This is a lot more heartbreaking than I remember.

Every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child

Even if this story is false or real You can’t say that this situation doesn’t happen

24:19 You don't get Baker Acted because of a diagnosis - you get Baker Acted because of specific behaviors. NPD isn't just being extremely self-centered. Someone with NPD is manipulative, self-interested, and constantly seeking validation. If they can't get validation, suicide threats are absolutely on the table, and this is one of the surest ways to get Baker Acted. Anyone who says "this seems unlikely because of x diagnosis" is an idiot. That isn't how you assess psychiatric holds, not short-term, not long-term. Your assessment is always based on your behaviors, specifically relating to the likelihood of harm. It's also worth addressing the actual diagnosis, since it gets brought up later. The way that we diagnose children for mental disorders is different from the way that we diagnose adults, this is because there are some symptoms/traits that can be socially reinforced. You don't want a kid growing up being told that they're a narcissist, because many of the traits they have they could grow out of with the proper social supports. So, most personality and mental disorders (except for disorders with neurological components, like ADHD) will have a counterpart with similar symptoms for people under 18, almost always defining symptoms that existed prior to 15 years of age. Basically, you don't start really collecting data for things like NPD or APD or BPD until around 15 years old, and an official diagnosis can't take place until after 18 years old.

That's one thing I hate about Reddit; the amount of people who go, "MnEeHh ThIs Is SoOoO fAkE" or nowadays thanks to AI, "ThIsSsS iS AI gEnErAtEd!". 8-9 billion people on this planet, you don't think something like that or this can happen to anyone other than in a story? As the late and great Andre Braugher, who portrayed Captain Raymond Holt on the sitcom Brooklyn 99 said, "Apparently that is a trigger for me."

just because OP mom had a difficult pregnancy doesn't mean little miss sunshine is entitle to whatever she wants

Yk as the saying goes every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child.

10:18, yes, One good party doesn't undo 8 years of favouritism. Absolutely. But you can't tell me that your entire extended family throwing a full on party hiding it from you didn't get ya slightly emotional. Honestly speaking, the extended family proved to be better people than your parents and sister. (Let's not blame that entitled brat yet, its the parents fault for the way she behaves at this age)

Huh. This kinda reminds me of myself. "Mother" and father had seperated before I was born because my dad just couldn't stand my "mothers" behavior (she was constantly shouting at him for every small reason, demanded him to do all the household chores after coming home from work while she did nothing, that sort of stuff). When I was born, from what I was told, my life was at least somewhat alright. I did show signs of mild neglect, according to my Grandmother, but nothing too severe. Obviously my "mother" got full custody, because even nowadays it's hard for good dads to get their own children away from shitty "mothers" and back then it was pretty much completely impossible). Then, about 2.5 years later my sister was born. Fathered by the same man as me, as weird as that may sound. He was absolutely not interested in my "mother" of course, but, despite him trying to get her to have an abortion, once I was born he absolutely fell in love with me. One day she called him in the middle of the night, telling him that I was terribly sick and he should be there. So he got out of bed, and without even changing into regular clothes, he just put his motorcycle clothes stuff on top of his pyjama and rushed to get to where me and her were living. Once he arrived, I was sleeping peacefully (and probably was never sick at all) and she somehow tricked him into having sex with her, probably because his guard was down due to all the stress and worry for my wellbeing. Once she was born, everything went to shit immediately. She'd get literally everything she wanted. If there was a song in the radio and I was singing along, she'd scream and our "mother" would shout at me to stop because my horrible singing was "hurting her fine musically attuned ears" (or some shit like that) - fun fact: I was actually talented at singing as a child, even was taken into the school choir without really any effort of myself and that was appearently not easy to get into. Later I had lost absolutely all talent for singing and now I actually sound like shit when I try to. When asked about how that could have happened, a friend of my grandma - without knowing any of the backstory - told her that a child could lose the talent for singing (or any other talent) if it's consistently told that it's bad at it. Similarly, there was one incident my Grandma told me about (I can remember very little from that time, so most of what I know is through stories from when my Grandma or Dad were visiting - mind you, those were the days when my "mother" was on her best behaviour and at least somewhat tried to make my sister act normal - I myself don't even want to know how bad it was when they weren't there and I was alone with both my "mother" and sister). Basically, my mother, sister, grandma, and I were walking somewhere. There was a rather strong breeze blowing and I loved the feeling of wind rushing over my skin and through my hair, so I started to run ahead with a bright smile on my face. Then my sister started screaming, and our "mother" ordered me to come back in a very stern tone. When my grandma questioned her about it, she explained that my sister was actually faster than I was (which she obviously wasn't) so she wanted to be in front of me. My grandma obviously told my "mother" that if my sister was faster, she should just run to get ahead of me, but my mother said that my sister didn't feel like running so I had to slow down to walk behind her instead. Another time I got a pretty nice toy from my dad that I really liked and immediately started to play with. My sister came up from behind the chair I was sitting on and, while my grandma was watching, she hit me on the head, immediately grabbed the toy I was holding, let herself fall to the ground behind the chair, and started crying. Our "mother" obviously immediately rushed in shouting at me for hitting my sister, and only calmed down when my grandma explained what had actually happened, though it was obvious that my "mother" wasn't happy with it. My sister would also, obviously, break any of my toys soon after I got them, simply because she absolutely couldn't stand me having anything that she didn't, and if I even so much as told her to please not do it, I'd be at risk of getting shouted at or beaten again. I'd also often get shouted at or beaten for things my sister did, or sometimes for annoying my "mother" while she was busy drinking and talking to some friends on the phone just because I was hungry. I remember one time I tried eating cat food and it tasted actually pretty nice, much better than I expected (obviously it was the dry cat food stuff, even back then I probably wouldn't have ever touched the wet stuff). When I was about 6, after a particularly bad beating, things were so bad, that I actually rushed into the kitchen, grabbed the biggest knife I could find, pointed it at myself, and told my "mother" that I'd kill myself if she ever beat me again. Obviously she took the knife away, shouted and beat me some more, obviously followed by her manipulative af bullshit, like, her crying and telling me how sorry she was and that she loved me more than anything else and I'm the most important thing in her life and all that crap. All while this was going on, my dad and grandma fought tooth and nail in court to take custody away from her, but it didn't work out due to the "justice" system being the way it was (and, sadly, kinda still is). I ended up spending 12 entire years of my life with that so-called "person" that even now has the audacity to call herself my mother before my grandma finally managed to come up with a (probably not entirely legal) trick to get me away from my "mother" and then I finally got to live with my grandma until I was 16, at which point I decided to move in with my father. It is mostly thanks to my grandmas efforts that I am able to have any semblance of a normal life today, and I will forever be thankful to her for that. I consider her my real mother, since she was the only woman in my life who ever made any effort in actually raising me, and tried her best to give me as much of a childhood as she could to make up for the first 12 years that were completely lost. As for my so-called "mother" and sister, once I was out of the house and my "mother" didn't have anyone else to beat up and abuse, she turned on my sister. This, of course, turned my sisters world upside down immediately. For me, living like this was all I knew so it was normal to me and I wasn't really able to fully comprehend that this was wrong or even consider calling anyone for help. My sister, though, who was used to being treated in the exact opposite way, wasn't able to stand such treatment for long, and she ended up calling police and child protection service pretty soon. From what I've heard, neither police nor child protection services did much of anything, despite my sister calling them twice, but somehow my sister still eventually ended up in a foster family, which had a really good effect on her personality and now she's also able to live a pretty normal life and does not act like the spoiled manipulative lying brat that she was all those years ago. We're not exactly close, but we do talk occasionally, and I don't hate or even dislike her in any way because I realize that she was just acting the way she was raised, and she proved to me that she can be a better person than that with the way she started acting once she was taken away from our "mother". Needless to say, I've completely cut all contact with my "mother". It took me a long time to get to that point, since, for some weird reason, I still liked her and wanted to be part of her life and all that (maybe some weird form of stockholm syndrome?). I also wanted her to understand and feel true remorse for what she did and apologize sincerely. But by the time I had turned 21 or 22, I had given up hopes of that ever happening since all I ever got was more of her downplaying everything and trying to twist the truth to make it seem like my father was actually the bad guy (for which, of course, she was not ashamed to utilize my own very spotty memory against me - which she herself caused with her atrocious actions), so I just stopped talking to her entirely. From what my sister told me, she's also currently in the process of cutting contact with our "mother" so once that is done, our "mother" will be truly and completely alone (she also doesn't really have any friends left due to her highly abusive and manipulative nature). I gotta say that this brings me at least some small satisfaction. Due to this, I think OP is obviously right to never want to speak with his "parents" ever again, since, much like my own "mother" they are both an absolute disgrace for any human being and should be shamed and humiliated for even daring to consider themselves as parents. I wouldn't even treat a strangers kid as poorly they did their own, and that's despite the fact that I very strongly dislike children in general. I think they deserve absolutely no respect, sympathy, or kindness from anyone for anything. The only thing they deserve is to spend the entire rest of their (hopefully *very* long and healthy) lives completely alone, disliked and shunned by everyone they ever knew. There is still hope for his sister. She's still very young and there's time for her to learn to become a decent person with the help of people at the mental institution and probably some years of therapy afterwards. I hope that OP and his sister will eventually be able to reconcile and have an at least amicable and friendly relation with each other, like I do with my own sister. She might not be evil or a bad person, it could be that she was just acting according to how she was raised. I guess in the case of OPs sister, only time will tell.

Oh wow, that's a really tough story. I hope OP finds help, he desperately needs therapy to work through all this crap. I'm glad for OP that he had the rest of his family on his side, unfortunately that's often not the case. I wish him all the best for the future and hope he will find peace with the situation and also hope that the sister, who can't help her messed up upbringing, gets better at some point.

I remember this story I really did hope for update. Thanks for them

Something I always say: DO. NOT. let the first consequence your child faces be a cop. Kids learn how to handle disappointment as an adult by microdosing it as a child in age appropriate ways. If you don't feel comfortable with an "adult no", find a "kid no" instead of saying yes. "No honey, you can't blow the candles out on your brother's cake. How about we go light the scented candle in the bathroom and you can blow that out?" Great way to calm a toddler that's having trouble understanding what's happening and why. Then as she gets older, the no gets more adult. You tell her it's not her birthday and she doesn't always get something because someone else does. Then more adult still to calling her out on being entitled and selfish. You don't have to be hard-nosed about saying no, but you do have to say it.

Wow, that was hard to take. It kuat be horrible as the OP, but I do think the dad is wrong to keep Sunshine's conditions private. Basically, throughout the story, OP felt ostracized and betrayed from how his parents coveted their daughter... and now to "fix it," the dad is repeating the sins with the diagnosis, reaffirming that he doesn't care about OP.

>IQ 110 >Smart 😂

I know two people who were treated like this and worse by their parents. So sad.

The parents and the brat should've never been invited to the 19th bday party or any other party again.

Sometimes i'm just glad not having a any sibling for experience this kind of torment.

Yeah if i was OP i be keeping low contact on the sister. The sister sounds really dangerous, on top of being violent she’s also very smart. It doesn’t sound like she’s going to change anytime soon and will hold on her resentment towards her brother into adulthood.

the mother sounds like the type that if the sister killed someone she bail her out being like my baby didn't mean it or something

Why wont the sister learn her lesson!?

I'm glad the rest of the family finally did say something. Still cruel.

Your sister is slowly becoming Azula. You know the crazy girl from Avatar

I think all that gummy bears made the OP's sister a bit ko ko from the head💀💀

Heard this story before but yea terrible parents that’s wat happens when u spoil your kids or in this case one child and black sheeping another one.

Whats funny is that i have read both this post and the post op(1) mentioned about their cake being cut the night before, in which the father even told op(2) to fuck off when op(2) asked father to pay him for ruining the cake.

Guy didnt get to celebrate his own birthday for years. Did you really expect him to remember any of them? It's no wonder he's getting confused with dates. Parents can really do stuff like this and congrates to people who dont think so because that means you lucked out with decent parents.

holy fucking shit, this is gonna give me a mental breakdown, oh my god, oh my fucking god, bless this poor poor soul, what did he ever do to get that little demon as a sister

Hope this dude really does move forward; best thing for him now.

It sounds like she may have NPD/HPD. (Narcissist personality disorder/ histrionic personality disorder). My ex has both and while he behaved differently, he physically hurt our son after i fled (abuse situation and our son lives with his parents)

My nephew and niece are just like this. Spoiled and will hit and bite. They made me reconsider if i wanted kids then i relized my kids won't be like that.

These people fucked up big time on parenting. Yes, it is tragic what happened to the mother during pregenacy and afterwards, but to take golden child favoritism to the extreme is not a good look or way to raise a child. Their daughter turned out like this because of their enabling, doting, giving never take, spoiling, etc. The way how it looks, she may never grow out of that mindset the parents implanted in her from day 1. Everything should be hers? B-days, cars, apartments, phones, money? This girl is just gonna take everything without remorse nor regret. Sending her to boarding school may not have been an idea as for how she is now, that pretty much made it worse by endangering other kids around her age. The only time they actually are doing right is when they got called out by the entire family, after like what 8yrs of hell for their oldest. Now they see the fk up they created into this world, they have to double everything they paid for her from the beginning of enabling her and spoiling to using to help this child. If they arent able to set and help this girl before 18 years of age, its gonna get worse from then on. She'll be an adult, she can easily leave her parents and not go to wards or seek medical help unless it is KNOWN she is a danger to others or herself. And to add onto it, if she cause property damage and assault someone just cause they said no to her, guess who gonna be behind a jail cell and whos gonna be crying and pleading for mercy. All honesty, I feel bad for both kids as its not their faults, its the parents. They started this, now its coming back to bite them in the ass.

If a post gets too big Reddit users will start saying it’s fake. I’m sure there are plenty of fake ones but why are they so afraid to believe some random family drama? It’s like they can’t stand being outsmarted or something. Chill, it’s a family drama, whether it’s true, slightly true or false, you can only give your opinion and hope for the best.

You know it’s gonna be a fire story when you wanna punch a character so badly

Trust me, ppl expressinh their trauma freely van be a way of destressing. That happen to me to. I have no problem telling my trauma

What a crazy path of enablement and parental neglect. Mom enables sister. Dad enabled mom. And everyone’s enablement were paid for my OP

Shout-out to the grandparents

Omg those parents hurt her daughter even more than OP I've seen spoiled children growing up. They weren't as extreme as her. But still, adulthood was really difficult for them, they can't regulate their emotions, unrealistic expectations and are soo difficult to be around.... life will teach them what theit parents didn't. And sometimes life is cruel. I wonder what kind of disorder OPs mother and Sister have. Not telling OP looks to me that they don't see them as family at all. I understand the thought of his father. OP shouldn't concern himself with it, but I do think it would bring him some closure. They are bad parents. It sounds to me like sociopathy. Because mother and daughter are constantly acting really bad.

some people just don’t understand that homicide is justifiable in some circumstances, like story 1

bro i could not be a parent. Im tryin to put myself in the parents shoes having to deal with unspoiling a child and my first idea was to lock her in a room and giver her nothing but bread and water until she calms down. and each time she tantrums, back into the room u go! I'd never do that but i'd also never let my kid get to that point in the first place

Dang.... 22:26 hit hard... I thought she was like 13, with the story having progressed over the years, but no... how horrible.

He forgot about manipulation as well as the 2 he mentioned

Honestly, it feels a lot like the parents doubled down extra hard on the daughter as a scapegoat for the family

Grandpa like a mob boss fr

I've watched this video before but not the entire thing. The dum sister really got sent to a ward because she threaten to harm herself if they didn't give her candy and let her leave! The parents really messed her up. She even got the parents fighting to the point where the father was sent to the hospital and the mother in a ward and therapy! At least now, she's in a place where no one give a dam about what she wants.

17:15 don't think about the ban too much. Reddit mods will ban anyone for no reason

When my autistic little brother was 5 he hit his head on the floor to get his way, he did do other stuff but I won’t talk about for privacy

There is sad music in the background but I can't stop laughing.

He was born at the end of july? Me too What a strange co-incidence

Don't call her Cartman, she's nowhere near that smart.

Too many corrections, one or two mistakes sue but this is like when I kid gets caught and has to retell the whole story.

I'm aware that i myself am a spoiled princess but even this little miss sunshine scares me to be around 🥶🥶

It’s nice to hear the updates

if narcism leads you to be a danger to yourself and others then yes you could be put in a psych ward for it

nah imagine if the boss only let her stay because she was a good worker but had her stay home because he didnt want her there

OP is an adult, but if this story is true, OP's parents should be paying for his therapy.

Bro shares a birthday with Harry Potter

The food combination needs a trigger warning 🤮🤮🤮

yeah, its not the kids fault the entire reason she's like this is just and fully the parents, no amount of past trauma can equate ruining a whole child's future. here, both of them

Someone once said to me : " forgive but not forget" and I think the guy from the 1st history could have made something about it

Honestly salvageable, also the way he described the sister made me think she was older 💀

32:30 I've heard this post too. Feeling sad for that boy.

Gummy bears on mashed potatoes 🥴

i was 20 minutes in and then remembered she WAS 9 YEARS OLD

You'd think it would be the other way....that the fact the sister nearly killed everyone

Hell! OP described my childhood, but with my cousin! 2 years younger girl, but it was the same! I was 5, when I was forced to let her blow out my birthday candles, get presents on MY birthday, what I was forced to switch to mine, because she always wanted what I got! I'm 38 now and she is 36, but I hate her from the bottom of my heart! Once I was forced by her mom (my aunt) to stand up from my chair, because that bastard needed a chair for her SNACKS, so I couldn't sit at the table! (and I have many more of these stories!) I will never forgive them!

OP's sister having an IQ of 110 is very hard to believe.

If coffee makes your heart pound then you're suffering from anxiety, avoid caffeine

same with me but the only difference is that im the middle child

I have seen that other story where the golden child was given a piece of custom cake