Older Adults! Why Dysphoria Suddenly Won't Let You Sleep!

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10 ай бұрын

If you found yourself suddenly thinking about transition and unable to stop, watch this video.
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@marti7343 10 ай бұрын

Dr. Z does it again! “Your Brain is opening - this is possible.” “Gender affirming care is accessible. You Know there is a solution.” “You cannot stop thinking about it.” It interferes with sleep. I suffered from insomnia because of anxiety before transition. It now seems to have worsened a bit. I also would add when you start to transition there are many choices to make and if, like me, you have strong existing relationships including a spouse, there are huge challenges. The best advice is to “Slow down!” Try to be present. Continue to do the things that interest you. Feel your contentment as you become more connected to your authentic self. See how better your life is. Try your best to enjoy the journey, though is seems so overwhelming at times. Being trans is beautiful.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Great point. Often we disregard the process but it is so important.

@DrJamieTalks 10 ай бұрын

Great topic. It also speaks to the apparent ‘rise’ in the prevalence of transgender people, which is not a true rise at all (trans people have always been here), but a reflection of better language, increased acceptance, and greater access to care. Just like spiritual enlightenment, gender transition requires the right conditions. It is a true blessing to have the conditions to live one’s authentic self! ❤

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing. I agree its not a rise per say in adults but I would say it seems so because so many finally can speak up, show up, and have resources to do something about it.

@matildautz2350 10 ай бұрын

Being Trans is COOL!!

@AngelicNTT 10 ай бұрын

@@matildautz2350 totally x

@kevinbrooks9074 10 ай бұрын

Debunked

@OneOneSquirrel 10 ай бұрын

Hearing you stop short on a "sh" sound when describing a large number, then opt for a different wording is very endearing, Dr. Z!

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

lol, thanks.

@Genevieve111 10 ай бұрын

@@DRZPHDYou should have continued on saying what you were originally going to say Dr. Z... 😄👍

@user-mu1dt3gk9f 10 ай бұрын

As an older adult (59) I struggle with transitioning this late in the game . As a young person I identified as gay (in the 70s/80s we didn't speak of Transgender) and was bullied for years ,well into my twenties. Many awful memories. So to transition in the last quarter of my life , do I really want to go through more harassment? I still have emotional scars from the early years.

@vanessaleblanc2583 10 ай бұрын

After years of believing I was living a normal life I realized the incredible energy and time I was spending to maintain that narrative and convince myself life was normal. I think that realization, as Dr.Z explains, was because I finally understood I had more options available that were much less taxing than lying to myself every day. After begining my transition I began to understand what a *real* normal life was. I had never experienced that concept in the past. Dr.Z, thanks again for sharing these valuable insights that the vast majority of us have struggled to understand, let alone put into words. ❤

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Its so sad how many are detached from what you call a "real" life. So many spend years in guild and shame reinforced by society transphobia.

@Genevieve111 10 ай бұрын

'Just be yourself ' they said... 🤔

@666Tomato666 Ай бұрын

@@Genevieve111 "but not like that" - society eff that, that's my approach now, and I'm so much better for it

@Genevieve111 Ай бұрын

@@666Tomato666 😊👌

@OsirisMalkovich 10 ай бұрын

Yes! When it seemed impossible, it was just a quiet voice in the back of my mind, a "wouldn't it be amazing if that were a real possibility?" Throughout my life. But now it looks like it might actually be possible, and that quiet voice has begun to speak up.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Yes and for a reason too! That voice wants to also better your life.

@zephyrkendzierski5283 10 ай бұрын

I experienced what Dr Z describes. In addition, when I turned 50 I realized I didn't have as much time in front of me, and I didn't want to waste any more time not being my true self. I wanted to make the most out of the time I have left in this body on this planet, so I made some big choices and changes that I've never regretted since. Thank you for sharing your insights and creating safe space to share, learn, and explore.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Glad you decided to focus on yourself! Wish you all the best.

@christinel6616 3 ай бұрын

Same here.

@user-fv2zu3yr7v 10 ай бұрын

Its in my every waking thought. I must medicate to get any relief. I find it interferes with daily activity. I'm 5yrs in on HRT, and arranging surgery and dealing with the constant denials from insurance company. Knowing my clocks ticking and I've wasted the majority of my life, suffering and denying what I am. It's maddening

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

I am so sorry to hear of your struggles.

@lovisakevatdottir8909 10 ай бұрын

This video spoke to me for sure. I’m in that exact boat to where I can’t stop thinking about transition. Even when I try not to, when I try to rationalize, and make myself attempt to be beyond transition. I am always thinking about it.

@wayneanderson3063 10 ай бұрын

73 years now every day, every night....you're giving me all the answers to what I need to know to actually BE. Thank You!!...Elayne

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@Genevieve111 10 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that you are being harassed... do you live in a small community... ? I'm 59 y/o aswell, (60 in Nov)... I too have often thought is it worth it to go through the rigors of transition this late in my Journey. We only get one shot at life... life is about experiencing different things, different places, different people... I want to experience the real me as far as I can achieve... even if it means achieving it in the last 10-20 years of my life...better late than never... Don't give up... just think... 20+ years of Happiness... 💕

@patm9904 10 ай бұрын

I have wanted to transition for so many years with gender affirming care , but there are many road blocks as you grow older 😥

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Wish you all the best.

@jbw6823 10 ай бұрын

Im losing sleep because conflicted. Suppress again or move forward. Im 68. married. 2 grown kids..

@joanbrunswick813 10 ай бұрын

Thank you very much for making this Clear, I have been struggling with this most of my life and Now I feel I have to do something about it, I am up in age 69 and thought there was no way to get where I wanted to go. But now I have started to look around I am still in the closet in a manner of speaking, and been retired for about 4 years now. But i am not getting no rest not sleeping, fatigued, No will to do anything, But thanks to You and others I have now started on my Hormones I know it is but a Small step but a step none the less. And I know I may not complete my journey. But I now look forward to the next day. and finding better sleep and Peace, baby steps. I keep in mind that the end reward is not getting to your destination, But rather it is the Adventure of getting there. God Bless and keep you Safe in these crazy times.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

So glad you are finding better sleep and peace. It is a process but one that will continue to better your life. Wish you all the best.

@robynrox 10 ай бұрын

This was me four years ago. But not just that it was possible, but that I could live a normal life having transitioned - that was the knowledge that set me in motion!

@DrayseSchneider 10 ай бұрын

This is so true Dr Z. It was my marriage falling apart that lead me to realize that what I needed was possible. It took me a few more years as I resisted but once the divorce was realized I felt the constraints I placed on my self fall off. Kind of sad in a way. But I think it's just another story that proves your point.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear and wish you all the best.

@Preciouspink 10 ай бұрын

This content is helping so many people

@randirosehooper8315 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Z I agree with you fully. Realizing that it is possible changes it all.

@FrozEnbyWolf150 10 ай бұрын

This is why the "brain before sleep" meme is so popular in the trans community. I think it's not just older trans adults, but all ages and all stages, including those who are questioning. I've been having this experience most of my life.

@jimjones7912 10 ай бұрын

I'll add my voice to the chorus of those Expressing thanks! DISPHORIA is a term that started my realization of what has been going so long! I'm 79 and about to start SRT! I'm excited!❤

@Christine_Robyn 10 ай бұрын

I am currently experiencing this insomnia. It is not uncommon for me to be tossing and turning being eaten alive with dysphoria. At times I have to get up and get fully dressed in female clothing, wig, make up just to de-stress. I sleep better when I am in female clothing, wig, and make up. Not great for my outfit, but at least I sleep peacefully.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing.

@WarMachineSSVHoldenG8 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Z , this happened to me . Went through years of dealing with this . Thank goodness I sense I start my Transition. It’s calmed down

@missfatcat 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. You hit the nail on the head. So powerful to feel understood 🖤

@Lauren.j.m 10 ай бұрын

I think I have felt this for a while, the good thing is that I am going ahead with my transition one piece at a time. I started a slow social transition at 54. I think I should be starting medical transitioning with HRT in a couple months. As for surgical, we'll see. I'm not opposed to it, I'm just not getting any disphoria or euphoria to feel I need it yet.

@AudreyLaura 10 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr Z, this is exactly the video that I needed today. I grew up back in the "stone age" (I'm 61) and this video describes the evolution in my thinking over the years perfectly. I hope I can summon up the courage I need to transition, now that the opportunity is here.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Wishing you all the best.

@laurenemilykoster7362 10 ай бұрын

DrZ, thank you for answering questions that so many of us struggle with but think we are the only ones that have those questions. This is one of them and I honestly thought I was weird and unique among trans women with new sleep issues. I think I will call it Post-trans awareness sleep disorder, or neo trans insomnia.

@aatadvancedaditraining2535 9 ай бұрын

Hi Dr Z. I love all your videos. They are so helpful. What I'm struggling with at the moment (as a 60 year old) is to how to start 'socially' transitioning. By that, I mean how do I go about fashion, make-up, feminizing my voice and mannerisms. I lived 60 years as a MAN and have know idea where to start. I bought some clothes, make-up, a bra etc but I've got it 'all wrong' wasted a lot of money and feel totally stupid. Appreciate this is something you can't advise on, but would be awesome if you could interview some specialists who can give some guidance to people like me. I know there's a lot of content on-line for younger trans folk - but not that much out there for the older generation. XX

@adamcarfield7201 10 ай бұрын

I've quite watching you and others purged everything for probably the last couple months it's been really a test there's other words for it but I'm happy as a man but just feel that I can't live like this anymore I spent over 2 hundred dollars yesterday just to get my clothes back I don't know what to do

@toddandrews9829 10 ай бұрын

You don't think about as we age and it wasn't a possibility that we knew of before, now it's finally known and many of us feel like we're running out of time to arrive at our true selves to finally feel like ourselves with what little time we have left and enjoy feeling right finally.

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Wishing you all the best.

@user-bc6kx4fq8y 10 ай бұрын

But all need like 2 letters and ridiculous requirements

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

Hi. That depends on the state. WPATH has lifted the need of two letters down to 1.

@Genevieve111 10 ай бұрын

@@DRZPHDOne letter and one year on HT... They say 'living as' your true gender for at least one year... what do they consider 'living as' to be... ???

@cory99998 10 ай бұрын

All areas of my life got easier once I started. Huge weight off my shoulders

@robercrombie_ 10 ай бұрын

So this is also the reason why we watch your videos more than once

@apocalypse12345 10 ай бұрын

I'm 33 years old and I have insomnia. 😢 What can I do . I don't know if it's dysphoria or something else .. I take sleeping pills and I can't sleep ... I had dreams 2 times when I dream I'm a woman

@DRZPHD 10 ай бұрын

So sorry to hear of your challenges. I would suggest seeking support of a local therapist.

@apocalypse12345 10 ай бұрын

@@DRZPHD thank you Dr z

@johnmccormick1478 9 ай бұрын

I'm 64 years old and I have always felt like a girl but I wandered what God thinks about it that keeps me at bay.

@nicklee5809 7 ай бұрын

If you believe in God, You know he made you and that includes those thoughts and feelings. If, as the bible says, he loves you, then he wouldn't want you to be tortured by a constant nagging and fear to be yourself. There is nowhere in the bible where god says you cant be yourself. There are many LGBTQ friendly Churches and LBGTQ minsters and preachers and God hasn't smited them. Don't end with regret.

@MsLisaThomas-ps2xe Ай бұрын

Imagine how many Boomer/GenX generation people have been living an entire life untreated, and/or undiagnosed 😳

@BobbiFarren Ай бұрын

You are right. The little elements/experiences of life since childhood that were the clue, but clouded by tge need for mere survival, social/family expections, obligations, lack of personal awareness and self-help and medical resources, and, of course, traumas, etc. I've been doing diet and herbal supplements for over a year, even got a solid A cup already. I already started VA(!!) provided counseling and full medical to start HRT. Start E in a couple weeks....and I'm 57...(and I've truly been told I'm the ultimate MILF😘) Cheers

@AngelicNTT 10 ай бұрын

I would like to share this. Hope it helps in some way. I'm a trans woman. I also care beyond myself asI have family of cis women and want their safety assured. With that the female family members identify as women due to assigned at birth via a doctor recognising them at the obvious way at birth. Nothing about they are female due to cervix. In fact they all have said is they find that is offensive to them. With that is any female being clarified via a scan to verify a cervix.... no. So we all know why cervix is being used as an attempt to debunk trans fokes and why they are doing this. My point, a woman got in my face the other day cos I'm trans and in a random reply on the spot I said. "I'M ME, I'M A TRANS WOMAN. I'M NOT CIS AND NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS". (she said I'm not a woman at birth etc)... "WHAT THE EFF DO YOU THINK TRANS MEANS. I'M A WOMAN AND IF IT HELPS I'M A WOMAN WITHOUT A CERVIX" Without thinking I subconsciously flipped the point that only can be a woman if with cervix and she had no reply. The key was "I'm a woman without a cervix" When I used their trans biological attack against her she was stumped for any reply. X

@AngelicNTT 10 ай бұрын

So allow me to introduce myself "hi, I'm Elle I'm a woman without a cervix" still a woman trans or otherwise. ☺