Why Baby Steps are THE Holy Grail of Gender Transition!

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You hear me speak of baby steps all the time, well there is a reason for it.
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@pridetherapy

As a gender therapist myself, this is amazing advice. Small, small steps. I love your channel and binge watch it all the time.

@aer2195

So true. I've taken baby steps since I'm out as transgender (it's been only 18 months). So far, I succeeded in telling my pronouns to my family and friends (almost everybody except two people I know to be quite intolerant), with my co-workers and basically eveywhere I go. I began voice training one year ago and did giant progress. I changed a lot physically even without HRT (hairdo, clothes, piercings, tattoos - it may seem stupid but piercings and tattoos can help queer people a lot)... And I work out a lot.

@elsiemaep20

I'm the epitome of the "giant leap" case. As in, I went from, "Oh wait I think I'm trans" to SRS in 13 months. Even so, I still approached it in terms of baby steps. Transition is the cumulative result of thousands of tiny steps. Taken together, it seems completely impossible. But can I send an email? Can I fill out that form? Can I go to that appointment? Can I do some research? Those baby steps are so much more doable. Even though there wasn't a shred of doubt in my mind, I needed that mindset too.

@SPTunnelMotor

Unfortunately, the first gender therapist I've been consulting not only had choleric tendencies and ended up screaming at me - he also wanted me to change EVERYTHING the next day. Unsurprising, I couldn't do it. I felt horrible - thinking that if I could not do this, it somehow made me less legitimate as a transgender person. - Up to this point, before consulting the therapist, I had been making baby steps like talking about my dysphoria to my best friend, who encouraged me to be and dress as who I really am, without any boundaries or judgements. After all these years that I've been locking away all my feelings of dysphoria, it's been a giant relief. Although said therapist really did some damage because he got me scared away from myself for about some months, I've been slowly but steadily progressing towards my new, self-determined female life ever since. I mean, Ive been so incredibly hardened and locked away within my psyche with all of this, how could one ever expect me to just flip a switch and be alright? I am so happy this sad man is in retirement now and won't harm anyone else anymore. - Oh, and I still oftentimes struggle with the doorstep. It has been the worst, but sooner or later you just want and NEED to walk past it. Being free on your own terms - for some people, this must be a minor, given thing. But for trans people, it's a really hard fought battle to get there. - Being trans is hardcore work, mental, physical, expensive depending on your possibilities (clothing, makup, medical bills, time consuming)... - oh I do have a good therapist now who I really enjoy working with. (Although I could imagine working with Dr. Z is like the icing on the cake in transgender care). My point is... EVERY BABY STEP COUNTS! Whatever it may be. It's YOUR life. Be your own canvas. Love yourself more or maybe learn how to do it. ♥

@pauleyj8

Baby steps throughout our entire transition also allows the people in our lives to take baby steps with us, even if they are not conscious of this. I have conversed with several trans people, who have never demanded pronouns, focusing on their journey of transition and allowing those around them to come on board over time. Now everyone uses their correct pronouns and more importantly, they have maintained their relationships with family and friends. One of these people transitioned 25 years ago when there was far less acceptance, but he says he had a great transition journey.

@Briannadawn20

I have found for my situation that doing little things like shaving my entire body smooth helps me a lot. Since body hair gives me dysphoria. Before realizing I was transgender I had done eyeliner tattoo, and also eyebrow tattooed. I had almost no eyebrows because of years of plucking, shaving and waxing. Pencil thin arched is how I liked them the most. Now eyebrows are average thickness.

@robynrox

Yes indeed, I conducted experiments to determine my gender identity - you're calling it baby steps - exactly the same thing. Painting my nails. Wearing some subtle makeup pre-transition. Getting my eyebrows waxed and tinted! Putting on a dress at home. Shaving my chest and pit hairs. I talked it through with a therapist. So in the end, I was sure I was trans - the question then became should I transition. I had to consider my feelings about transitioning versus not transitioning. That's when I went all in. And I did have a wife and daughter - I thought they would accept me, and I was right, but it was a risk that I had to take.

@miyahollands6136

baby steps helped me to confirm I am transgender. I started out questioning "why do I have these sudden urges to be more feminine. start fantasising how life would be like, if I was female?" these feelings have always come and gone throughout my life.

@ABLW013

My next step is to play with glasses and makeup tomorrow, and look up a jewelry product that could be really affirming for me. Thanks Z!

@GwennGates

Wonderful advice Dr. Z!

@Omti9

I think this is very good advise and balm to my soul to be honest. I've had my inner coming out three and a half months ago after basically denying my trans identity for two decades since I first remember serious GNC feelings. And to be honest first I was paralized. I didn't really know where to go, but I knew I couldn't go on like that anymore. In the end I did come out to my best friend and my sister and got some really helpful advice from them what to do next. I did start buying feminine clothing online, tryed and mostly failed at makeup, did actually start wearing nailpolish in public. Join a local transgroup, get a therapist, make an appointment with an endocrinologist. I started wearing feminine pullovers to work this week and I'll have a hairdressers appointment tomorrow.

@bodybait

yes small steps add validation you are on the right track. I was able to fast track my social transition in two weeks. Through validation.

@randirosehooper8315

Thank you Dr Z doing something even small definitely helped me a lot. Having a goal to work for helps me a lot..I recently purchased a laser hair remover it's going to take time but it's very satisfying and gives me something to look forward to.

@user-ec4fh6pq1g

Your guidance and advice has been instrumental to my improvement in my self image and self love. T

@davidbezer5011

I'm in baby steps now myself and it is really helping. Thank your Dr Z your videos are so amazing

@frsm_

As mentioned in your other video, i am doing this step by step in the past,.. almost unconsciously and yes it really is like you say. accomplishing each step does give you a great sense of being able and confident to do the next without fear. sure,... right now i am a bit confused, because i am at the point of thinking about integrating my crossdressing into my daily life which appears to be a very big leap for me. today i was specially confused because lately several thinks happend that push me towards the realisation, that it might be more then just crossdressing and to give my femine side more room.

@RonLo

Watching your videos are my baby steps. The ones that I don't want to watch are the ones that will help me the most because I'm afraid.

@MiaBonita-lx8ez

I did something so odd. I was at a sandwich shop when a woman came in wearing a Maxi dress. I thought, that dress would fit me. As soon as I arrived home I looked it up on the Internet. I couldn't find the exact one but one in the same style. When I put it on I said something I never ever thought I would say. It was so amazingly comfortable I declared, I hate men's clothes! Then I added a slip and wow! I don't feel like the other transgendered folks. Although my hair is to my bra line. I usually wear it in three different styles during the day, half up, ponytail, and with a hair claw. I think about getting my ears pierced every day. It's a battle being me.

@mrs.eileen8620

This video!! 🥹I needed this language. I realize I want big leaps and my partner who is transitioning wants baby steps. Thank you🥰 could you do a video on examples of baby steps?