This man is literally changing my life.

*A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.*

"Comparison strips you of your individuality" - Father Alex Now this should be on a big poster!

im hurting right now, i have an anxious attachment style and he was a dismissive avoidant, WORST combo..i get close, he panics and shuts it down, steps back....2 yrs of this shit, i ended it 18 days ago. im hurting, its a deep heart pain.

This was more helpful than the chunk of money I’ve put into therapy and leaves me feeling lighter, safer and more in tune with myself and the world around me. Wow. Thank you so much.

To me that’s what causes the most intense fear is watching how other people throw people away without any thought about valuing other people in society. Everything’s always better somewhere else and we loose appreciation for the people we have right here in our lives who love us.

Once we Stop needing and start wanting, it all changes.

it took me such a long time to get to this level. it’s really takes a lot of self development

If “love” is wanting other people and yourself to feel safe, secure, accepted, understood and appreciated, and “loving” is to act in a way that you and the others feel secure, appreciated, accepted, understood and safe, then you are loving them when you leave them of whatever reason. You need to leave if you find that they don’t feel safe with you, and you need to leave if you don’t feel safe with them - unless of course you can work on your love together for a deeper connection. Chasing, pleading, begging, manipulating, threatening and bread crumbing someone is not love imho; it’s more like using someone with the goal of releasing yourself from your own anxiety, while creating anxiety in them as well.

I've been listening 2 years to you and I feel blessed as your advise helped me through break ups and preventing of getting played. But this video is one of the best, profound teachings on self mastery! Thank you so much Alex for giving to us unconditionally. Bless your beautiful soul❤

I’ve watched many videos about this topic but no one explains it like you do. It’s like they are all copying eachother but you do your own thing. Next level. I appreciate you and the work you put in your videos

Love how you teach Buddhist principles in meditation. I’m a Buddhist by birth and I practice the spiritual side of it Found your content so profound and practical

Your knowledge is getting so HIGH, above any other youtube manipulation videos, cause you really explain whats behind every act. congratulations!

I can detach easily but I think it’s because I grew up without my birth parents. The hardest thing I’ve endured was my teen son drowning. But ending romantic relationships and/or friendships don’t rock my world.

very true. Truly liberating when you get to that point of no selfconsciousness…😊

We are not connected with ourselves thus people feel we not connected to them as they are, but we use them as object of our self esteem. And as a result they don't like us. You're genius, Dalexis! Thanks a lot ❤

I usually only watch one or 2 channels for my relationship advice, but I’m really grateful for your perspective & that I’ve found this channel

You out here healing ❤️‍🩹 the collective. Bless your soul

You are so consistent too!

You know how I feel about finding your channel? Better late than never ❤ thank you so much

Why they always come back when you don’t give a fuck no more?

I would just buy your course at this point to support you. Because you do a lot for us , plus you are funny 💚

Thank you for this. It is tangible and I can actually do this. Feel calmer already ❤

You’ve helped me so much with my current situation. Thank you for being so dedicated to sharing your knowledge with us!

THANK YOU ALEX FOR TEACHING ❤

Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable with us

I can’t even put into words the amount of education I’ve received from this video. It’s in my head but I can describe it. I’m really trying to tap into myself. When you said not feeling your feet on the ground. That hit me like a ton of bricks. My mind is blown Father Alex. You have so much knowledge

This socie try encourages to date around and try people out. That is just not for me. I never try anyone out, if I love someone I’m going to love them all the way or not at all. That’s who I am. I don’t believe in doing anything without a purpose and I don’t believe in dating around.

Mind-boggling content ❤. Love from India ❤. I have been doing Vipassana for 8 years now, and meditation has brought that detachment thing in me. It's good you practice everyday. If you continue practising Vipassana, the sky is the limit.

Dalexi, you’re the older brother I need ❤ thanks for all you’re advices 🎉

Yet another amazing video by our favourite Father Alex.

Please teach us how to never start caring in the first place, its always à waste of time.

That's like Will Smith pretending not to be bothered by Jada's "entanglement"

I've been trying to have healthier relationships and found your site. Sooo glad you are doing your thing. You explain everything so well. You are helping me to understand what and why it makes a healthy relationship 💓 Much love to you ❤️

I think this is the best video you have ever made.

The music you are playing is one of my favorite pieces 🥰. 🎶 Satie - Gymnopédie … I love the synchronicity ✨

This makes so much sense!! Thank you 🖤🫶🏼

Maybe one of your best videos yet Alex.

"Spraying cologne on a piece of shit" 🌬🫧💩 😂🤣☠️💯

How long have I been a fan of yours?🤔 Feels like 15+ years thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

Great video as usual!

You are an amazing soul!! Thank you

I love this!! Thank you for the message ❤ 🙏

This was super helpful, thank you!

Thank you. I really did enjoy this. And I’m going to do body scans.

Great video!!! Thank you Alex!!❤

I really love this and am learning alot. Thumbs up

Alex...You're the TRUTH!!! 💯 🙌🏽✨✨✨

Excellent!! Thank you

Thank you so much, this was the best advice i have gotten in a really long time! ❤ i have always wondered how sometimes i'm a magnet, especially in love... and how sometimes it seems i literally push people away without wanting to. ~ that just made soo much sense, thank you!! ✨️💎

This information is pure gold!!!!

All I know is you better not close the channel……🦋

Gold! Much appreciated ❤

This video is EVERYTHINGGGGGG. New follower❤

I liked this video and info very much. Thank you! ♥️

One of your best videos. Thanks.

I love your reaction videos, you are so entertaining to listen to while I work. I just love your voice and you are so talented and smart

Thank You for the gems and you have a great voice. 🙏🏽😌❤️✨

He is THE MAN! ❤❤❤❤❤

Thanks for this video, it’s really helpful

Father Alex - you’re the best ❤ thank you

Wow I am so blessed to have found this ❤

You are a freaking genius man! Only if more people understood this and practiced meditation, to heal themselves and project less onto others.

Thank you Alex!

This right here. Is some good advice! Wow wow wow

"when someone tries to control you it means they can't control their own emotions. Because your actions control their emotions." This is quite accurate! I had a narcissistic mother who did this with me. As a result, it's the number 1 deal breaker for me in dating. The first sign of attempting to control me, I have to walk away regardless of how strong my feelings are.

wow, you are so gifted and wise beyond anyone else I've listened to -- I am hooked. thank you so much

This video just changed my life

I love watching your videos , when I apply some strategies. I see improvenent

Great video ❤❤

Love your videos!

Helping us crack the codes lol thank you 😊

This is hard bc you need to be vulnerable to see if it’s your person but then the minute your vulnerable you get screwed

Thank you Father Alex.

Omg I love your accent. I think it's dreamy ❤

I love your accent it actually made me want to watch your video more

I need to find one of those retreats because I am numb everywhere, I literally cannot feel any part of myself

I appreciate you so much Alex🫶🏽

The way you grabbed the mic 🎤 and said "Holidaaaay Special" lol haha 😂❤💯

This one was excellent

You’re awesome!

Omggg! I’m from DR 🇩🇴 too, lov ya

the video i needed .

Great video...(love your hair)

13:23 I absolutely love when you get in your bag! I need to watch this part daily.

Hey Brother! When is your meditation retreat??? Im waiting while taking notes ✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽...Oh and the music in the background is genius.🫶🏽

I disagree . Intense passion isn’t always a bad thing and people throw other people away like old pairs of shoes. That to me will never be true love to me. I’d never love someone who is not afraid to lose me and people with intense passion through pain are usually the ones who change the world. Most world celebrities or inventors were really passionate about what they believed in. They made changes. I’d love is conditional from anyone then I don’t want it and you can still love someone unconditionally without allowing someone to disrespect you.

High intentions vs low attachments I need to remember this for my next date as I literally jinxed a recent one because of this high attachments😮

Your illustrations are kinda brilliant, Alex.

I know this is unrelated to the video content but I love Scarlet O’Hara!

Preach! 🧡🧡🙌🏿

You’re my kind of people

Omg really. I've always thought like that I was so aware the only difference is I grew up in northern ireland.

Professional body massage is very helpful when there is body mind disconnection .

Alex you're flowing in this video

Thank you❤

🙏🏻Thank you!❤️

I love the points you made, however, when you’re with the wrong person or putting your energy into the wrong person, it’s much harder to stay within self because love requires you sacrificing your emotional self because you are tied to them in some way. If we were all mindful human beings then this would work but because we have that (human) side of us filled with emotions (fear, anxiety,etc) even if we meditate, if that other person isn’t on the same level, this approach will NOT work.

Can you do more about becoming self focused?

oh lord Alex is soooo CUTE .. "and, dont forget we are having a holiday special". lol