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Eckhart Tolle explains the ego's role in love relationships.
@kellyshpeley 13 жыл бұрын
My friend sent me this quote: "We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and -- in spite of True Romance magazines -- we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely -- at least, not all the time -- but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don't see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness." - HST
@peaceblessings7008 5 жыл бұрын
Finding true love begins with Loving yourself. You must know that you are whole, complete and do not need another human being to complete you. Then you will recognize and attract people who are vibrating at the same frequency. Your life is a mirror. You will only attract that which you are on the inside. Love attracts love. Two halves will never make a whole. You attract your soulmate by becoming your soulmate.
@Ace1973ish 6 жыл бұрын
You literally saved my life with the book The power of now. From a crazy stressed aggressive addict through 25 years, to almost normal in no time. Thank you.
@charles727727 5 жыл бұрын
Almost Normal LOL ! Good for you to keep it honest
@ammusi 12 жыл бұрын
learn to meditate - it's easy to do. It takes time and the 2 obstacles your ego will put up are bordom and sleep. Your mind will tell you it's stupid, a waste of time, make you sleepy, tell you you should be DOING something else etc. It will kick up a shit storm before it starts to slow down. But with persistance, it will slow down and then - stop. And in that silence is where your answers are. Good luck friend.
@jimvanm 12 жыл бұрын
One of the things that causes me to trust a spiritual leader is whether they have a sense of humour.
@goalwinner2020 11 жыл бұрын
A better answer is love is about giving of self with out hooks. Most people think a relatinship is about taking something when really it is about giving something freely.
@anneking8980 6 жыл бұрын
I like that "ping" in the beginning
@sandeshgawai 5 жыл бұрын
Ting :)
@leahlacerte3941 4 жыл бұрын
me too haha
@gaynellejasper4015 10 жыл бұрын
Egoic attachment, exactly, that's all! Few of us understands what "love" truly is.
@richardbarany6009 7 жыл бұрын
What is called love is that deep seated need of the ego....jeez this man is amazing
@cabbagedavidge 9 жыл бұрын
I am 63 yrs old and was married for 15 yrs many years ago, have had relationships over the years, but none ever seemed to be 'Right'. About four years ago I was in a relationship with a good man for three years and began to feel unsettled and depressed (but didn't know at first it was to do with the relationship.) Once I realised I was devastated as I knew I couldn't carry on with the relationship but more than anything the pain it would, and did cause him. I knew from that moment on I could never have another relationship until I knew why I had made all the previous mistakes with my relationships and to understand the overwhelming feeling I had at the end of that last relationship, and that was - 'It's not enough'. Eckhart explained it to perfection. I need to make me 'whole' I can't look for a relationship to do that! I suppose I always knew that but really 'knowing' it now I feel I can achieve finding 'The One' with getting to know myself more and more! It's never to late to learn and change and develop!
@Sabella11 8 жыл бұрын
+Ann Redgewell Very genuine and thoughtful sharing. Thank you.
@debbiejenkins9515 7 жыл бұрын
Ann Redgewell
@beneaththesurface5327 7 жыл бұрын
Nah thinking about it will hardly solve anything... In love you must be lucky to find someone you really click. I am 23 have been in love (not real love just strongly attraction) with 3 girls but due to circumstances i had no control over it never worked out. The girls who liked me i couldn't like them back, i wish someday i can be lucky too...
@hroctime1011 7 жыл бұрын
Ann Redgewell you just need a man who will protect you from yourself.
@johnnightingale7680 7 жыл бұрын
Have you researched into ROCD?
@MrJeffrey938 10 жыл бұрын
this video offers a cure for romantic love so simple and concise you could carry it in your pocket and never be blindsided again. anyone who watches this video and then repeats the same mistakes is not interested in a cure, and should ask themselves what it is they're getting out of having chaos and deception at such a deep level of their being.
@tifftreads 6 жыл бұрын
This is true. I started to hate a person and become extremely aggressive and possessive. I was exhausting myself. I just dropped it. I feel lighter now.
@michellehayton8984 10 жыл бұрын
He has such a calm and mesmerizing voice. I always feel good every time I hear him speak. I know exactly what it is like to love someone who did not love me back. Funny thing is, there was always this little voice of intuition telling me something was not right. The last night we where together, I cried myself to sleep. Just a few days after that,he broke up with me. I think it was his pain body clinging to me for a while, and he was flattered that a women could find him so attractive because he had never had that before. I know that the pain is egoic and that I do not need another person to complete who I am, but it was still extremely painful and all these years later it still hurts a little when I think about it.
@malcolm5969 7 жыл бұрын
Hang in there dear Michelle! Observe thoughts, emotions you are going through. Although it could be difficult but consider your breakup as catalyst to the awareness. Awareness to the 'essense' that exists beyond our ego. That is intrinsically pure and fulfilled already. I myself tried this so I thought it might help you. Take care!
@rosisunny9302 6 жыл бұрын
Michelle Hayton Always listen to you inner Voice,she says not the one,it is so!!And Man don’t need Relationships,they want to be free and they want to go do there thing alone and if they need something only then they back,and here they go again!Its Creasy we are sooo different,a relationship is a big Challenge!!Most times not right!
@jyotsnavashi8988 5 жыл бұрын
Vv
@fractalbeliever 11 жыл бұрын
True love requires patience. Love is not "feelings" or attraction. They are only a catalyst for "energizing" interest beyond basic aquaintace. Feelings are temporary and are meant to be. Problems occur when couples get involved sexually, or enter into marriage BEFORE the possibility of experiencing TRUE LOVE. After feelings, the next POTENTIAL phase is love (e.g. when a man and woman seek to "give" more than "receive" from each other). Few couples have that kind of patience.
@ToothTalksTaste 10 жыл бұрын
True love is the knowledge that all life is one life. Egoic love is no more than a preference that changes as we grow. The further we have to grow, the more likely it is that our preferences will change, thus relationships are more likely to last when we know whom we really are and what it is, on a spiritual level, that allows us to be content. That contentment comes from within, not from without. Without is a place where something is missing and nothing is missing - we are perfect just the way we are.
@huepix 11 жыл бұрын
Man. I just went thru this. I knew what was happening, that i was attaching to illusion. I thought i could handle it and just enjoy the feeling. It totally exploded in my face. The pain was horrible. Gettin over it. Bit lonely tho! Good lesson
@RandomLoveWorld 6 жыл бұрын
huepix same... 😭
@ginacrowley8350 11 жыл бұрын
The pain of not being loved back is real. It is not an ego-mind speaking. It is so sad that so many true feelings of people’s hearts: the need, desire, heartbreak of rejection, longing and passion for the other person are laughed at and called unspiritual. It’s true that the ego-mind can grab onto those feelings and make it all about oneself. But those feelings arise for the Beloved, in the relationship to the Beloved, and out of love. And that’s worthy of respect, not laughter.
@FreekeeChakra 6 жыл бұрын
Marten Dekker thank goodness you are here patrolling these videos to rescue us from Eckhart’s evil clutches!
@sahanas2574 6 жыл бұрын
The laughter is not at the person with the pain. The laughter is seeing how we're all so susceptible to that feeling, but in the moment we don't realize the pain doesn't need to exist. When you realize that, it becomes a joke. The pain is real, the sensation is real, Tolle is not taking anything away from that. In fact realizing your pain is a step forward in a spiritual journey. But the truth this, if you really become open, the pain you're experiencing is not a direct result of someone rejecting you. How do you know? Because if the person you loved pretended to love you and you didn't know, you would still feel the happiness or the high. If you could REALLY sense someone's love for you, you should be able to know when someone's pretending. Thus the pain is not really caused because of the rejection. The pain is because when you're rejected you immediately feel worse about yourself. You think you're unworthy, you assume you're incomplete and you always will be. These are the symptoms of the "Ego", unfortunately, they are not out of love. If you really loved someone, you would love them even when they don't love you. You wouldn't bother them. You'll let them be. You love them for their existence and being, not because they're providing you with love. This kind of love is possible. And you can only do this if you look past the "ego" and love yourself first. You must love yourself first. You must realize you do not need to long for someone else, because you can feel complete without someone else. All the best to anyone experience pain.
@ginacrowley8350 11 жыл бұрын
It’s true that in our selfishness we tend to make a mess out of falling in love. But the mess comes from the ego taking over the true love, desire, need, affection and devotion to the other person. The ego wants to GET love, GET fulfilled, GET happy. It has its use of love. But to love truly is to stay with the heart, love & care for others, regardless of ones own benefit or loss, pleasure or pain it could bring. True love IS possible. It needs to be protected from the ego & its twisted mind.
@lemostjoyousrenegade 7 жыл бұрын
Gina Crowley 👍🏼
@Trailblazers323 6 жыл бұрын
Love =Giving Ego=Taking
@faith5361 6 жыл бұрын
Gina Crowley your comments❤
@couldliveonyoutube1841 7 жыл бұрын
Nobody can 'make' anyone 'happy'. If that's why we seek a relationship it's a set up for failure. It's a burden and an impossible task with impossible expectations of the one you assigned to hand you a life of happiness. Besides - happiness is a passing feeling, as opposed to contentment and joy which I feel we are really looking for. In love, there's not much to say. There's peace just being together.
@caroh2809 6 жыл бұрын
CouldLiveOnKZfaq I love your name. I just about do....😄
@Incontinentpen 16 жыл бұрын
I like the analogy of 'completion' that we seek from a love relationship. I also appreciate the obvious extrapolation from there of why it hurts so much when it is not reciprocated. Love requires courage. It requires devotion and acceptance. Whether reciprocated or not- Love is love.
@enlighteneddragonfly6813 6 жыл бұрын
"it was never love in the first place" -- love it!
@dustyrose1 15 жыл бұрын
Eckhart has a deep understanding of the thing we call love. He's gotten deep down into the DNA of pain body heart, and his words and understanding are so clear. I thank you.
@edmilan1 11 жыл бұрын
Being kind in offering that joy to another springs from love and compassion.
@Sumpfina 6 жыл бұрын
Someone is asking what to do because they are really in love and it is not reciprocated. Tolle's answer: Relationship sucks anyway. Because it is just co-dependency and you will realize sooner or later that the other person cannot give you happiness and then you will be disappointed. So litterally he is saying: You are better off without a partner. My thoughts: It doesn't have to be like this. If you are already happy, fulfilled, someone else can also make you happy. Making someone happy doesn't mean they are not happy already. This is what real love is.. enjoying the other person, appreciating them, being romantic, being in love, cuddling, being wild, being funny and joyful. Just having a great time together. And this has to be constantly being worked on. You have to be in communication, speaking about your feelings, desires, problems. There is always a solution. And you have to be willing to face yourself and your shadow.
@joannealexander4131 6 жыл бұрын
Exactly Right! Totally Agree! HAPPY GETTING ALONG WITH HAPPY 😃 = HAPPY
@thunderkitty8245 5 жыл бұрын
That's not love, that's company. A robot could do it and be your partner so you won't feel lonely. Alexa will end up giving conversations in a full body and the marriage percentage will decrease by half. I got over relations since I don't want my mood to be dictated by someone else's mood. If you leave me alone I'm literally 99% of the time happy. And I'm really glad that I realized it.
@lilystarr226 5 жыл бұрын
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't believe Tolle ever said that??
@wakethefrakup 11 жыл бұрын
I think they're laughing at how ridiculous the idea of a relationship is after listening to how Eckhart describes them, rather laughing at the persons pain. He makes alot of sense; it's quite scary in fact!
@jagoisvara8178 10 жыл бұрын
I would like it if someone like Eckhart Tolle would shed light on the topic of soul mates.
@attachedfile 12 жыл бұрын
the one i thought would be my life partner has just left me thank you this brought me back
@justaprojection 11 жыл бұрын
Dear Olaf, Eckhart's power shows in the fact that this video alone has been watched 388829 times, to date. He is already the most powerful spiritual teacher living. Whatever his "image" appears to be to you or to me is merely form, as perceived by our egos, and has no meaning. Glad you love his work. So do I.
@777palena 10 жыл бұрын
I Love Eckhart! what a great soul.
@prayunceasingly2029 6 жыл бұрын
777palena The only thing great about him is his ability to repackage and market old lies for the modern era. His soul is not great it is deceived.
@EdsVideoCafe 14 жыл бұрын
This wisdom about love being a need to fill an empliness and the myth that relationships are, is very helpful to me, because I have spent a great deal of my adult life trying to fill that hole in a feudal search for the right mate. Echhart is a great teacher, and moving our understanding to another level.
@trevorbadger 11 жыл бұрын
We are not complete. We love another because they give us something we could not give ourselves. When I fell in love, it was because I believed I had found someone who taught me goodness. With them, I discovered a part of myself I hadn't seen since my childhood. And there were wordless things there. I felt truly touched by nature in a way that led me to become naturally LESS egoic. To say we shouldn't love others because their "form" is to say we shouldn't choose friends with similar interests.
@MrDrofinnah 10 жыл бұрын
i love me... (that is a one-sided relationship isn't it) i am never lonely... i enjoy solitude... stillness... emptiness... i am the nothingness... which means... "IT'S A WONDERFUL DAY IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD"...
@johnnybgood946 10 жыл бұрын
I like you MrDrofinnah :) Even though you look like a grumpy old man. Peace.
@MrDrofinnah 10 жыл бұрын
most times grumpy... always old... yet life is always in the moment... seems a very hard place for most to dwell... "whirled peas"...
@MrDrofinnah 9 жыл бұрын
in stillness... there is no thing to love... no thing there... no thing ness is the thing people fear most... spirit has no feminine or masculine side... for it is no thing... this "thing" called "spirituality" is not found by what one think one knows of things... but in one's ability to let go of what one thinks one knows... ya know...??? :-) is "awareness" a thing... is it masculine or feminine...??? true "awareness" is "LOVE"... for if one is "aware"... one "knows"...
@tanvikasingh9294 8 жыл бұрын
+MrDrofinnah very cool.
@markduncan-brown4717 8 жыл бұрын
+MrDrofinnah ..if you can laugh at 'those'.. not your .. thoughts.. thoughts that create tense and 'grumpy' feelings (young or old), then you have actually created that little space between them and you.. but we just can't feel it yet. We just need a little more acceptance..or inner stillness .. surrender to the shape of now.. all shapes.. start with a beautiful tree!! so portals ..listening .. or as I do.. listening to ET .. or someone in that space of now.. between thoughts .. This will help those feelings dissipate.. still moments happen.. manifest and peace feelings follow.. this is how we all find our way. grumpy? .. we can all say yes to this feeling yes :)
@clubfishersd 6 жыл бұрын
So darn freeing, so darn hysterical. How I appreciate Mr. Tolle's clarity.
@heikanaomi4426 7 жыл бұрын
This man has changed my life. Wow. Thank you. 😊
@Johnphilips1234 4 жыл бұрын
Wow how did he manage to make me laugh - this subject is very raw to me. had a girl who was totally into me and then just lost interest. I realise now its not personal, its my ego hurting. and that she could never make me truly happy anyway. Brilliant Eckhart.
@impressionsbysimon 11 жыл бұрын
I think Eckhart sums relationships up well. People getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons with people they don't really love. People wanting their partner to show them they are loved by giving them the attention they want and the right words. I often look at couples and ask myself if they are happy or really in love. When one relationship ends people just enter another relationship to fulfill what they are searching for.
@lvnz2689 4 жыл бұрын
Oh no. This is about my last relationship. I had so much love for her and tried so hard to make it work. I had romanticize an idea of a life with her so much I couldn't see that we weren't right for each other. It was exhausting and traumatizing but I'm healing from it and ready to move on. I definitely won't make those mistakes again... No matter how badly I want it to work.
@katrad333 13 жыл бұрын
A few years ago, I was going to ask the Universe for a million dollars, but then I thought, that I really need to improve my state of mind first. So I sent that intent out. The very next day, a friend came by and said, " maybe you can get something out of this book." He handed me "The Power of Now". I started reading it and thought, "This is exactly what I am looking for". I read more and more. Slowly applying Eckharts teachings. I have experienced real life improving results.
@Meril.511 11 жыл бұрын
what about unconditional love. you don't require the other person to complete you..let them go and be happy for them.
@transparent4847 10 жыл бұрын
Stef, Hang in there...you will be ok. Accept that you are hurting and that it is ok to be hurting over being alone. The pain you are feeling is not who you are, it is what you are going through. You have all the beautiful, radiant energy of life inside and around you; let that naturally come back into your life. I once lost a 7 year relationship and felt pain for months, maybe years on and off. At the time, I thought my life was over and I could see no good reason for this to happen. Now I have a wonderful person in my life again and I would not have met her had the prior relationship not ended. If you believe that life will give you what you really need, then a great comfort comes, and things will move in that direction. You will be open and ready when life hands you those opportunities. Please work on loving your life, your family, and any or all of the small things around you. Start your day with a sense of gratitude for all the gifts you have and build from there. Try not to focus on your loss, but all that you have, and including your amazing life. Everyone will likely have to start over again at one point in their life. Something amazing will happen for you soon. Be ready and open for it to happen:! Byron Katie is another great source besides Tolle on finding your way out of pain. Do the work and you will feel better, I promise.
@missstef196 10 жыл бұрын
Thank you. :) I can't get him out of my head. I just want to be with him.
@jahbeauty99 7 жыл бұрын
Thank You!
@carolynwhite1768 4 жыл бұрын
this helped me so much, thank you
@MarcoLunaMan 13 жыл бұрын
I need to see Eckhart videos more often, and find people who are into creating a "New Earth"
@LindaBinns 15 жыл бұрын
Looking to another person to complete you and make you happy will never work. You are complete already. When you are happy within yourself then you don't need a relationship to complete you, that's when your relationships can thrive.
@nom5205 4 жыл бұрын
when we love some and they dont love us back, it means two things. (a) the person we love has met up to our expectation ( b) the have not lived up to the expectation of the person we love. Many persons today fallin love because their needs are being met...BUT they fail to realize that the other person has needs as well. So dont complain when you are not loved in return. Do a self analysis. Most women are guilty of not "giving"...because they feel they are queen and only men need to give give give. Give emotional support, love, money, material things. Ladies...this is not the way. Ever heard the saying..."love is a two way street "?
@David3624 10 жыл бұрын
if u love some one and u expect him/her to comply or surrender to ur well, or to give u the attention u wish,,, this is not love,,, the real love is to love somebody where ever he goes and whatever he decides without expecting any thing back.
@mabel8179 8 жыл бұрын
+David3624 Yes love is altruistic!
@gwenmolfetas8908 7 жыл бұрын
Yes!! True & Selfless Love!!! Only God Loves Us Totally with out condition!! Though I Love someone for over 40 years Unconditionally and we have not been together since!!
@brokenjellybean 6 жыл бұрын
Bull
@yoli5779 6 жыл бұрын
So you're saying cheating is okay? :/
@ngotien6179 5 жыл бұрын
@Jane I know it is easier said than done to love unconditionally. But ultimately we will realize our action is never contingent on others ' doings . Just like the saying goes : "Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional " Power of CHOICE indeed . In my experiene , most ppl including me turn to spiritual side of life when the ego is hurted and in pain . Sometimes going inside pain is the way out of pain . Because you can only let go of st when u understand it .
@bobbyadk 11 жыл бұрын
operation succeeded. My heart has been healed. :)
@big0giant 14 жыл бұрын
THE WAY HE LAUGHES IS UNIQUE, i love it!
@vinylmerchant 15 жыл бұрын
I love the way he analyses and explains these dilemmas. I too feel calm listening to his voice and can relate so much to the points he makes. He is also very funny with it in a subtle way. I can understand why the audience laughs out loud. It is generally to do with the absurdity of how we perceive life in and the problems we make out of it.
@aj_wuwei 4 жыл бұрын
He just took out every strand of the fake love... What a great human... Love is simple and without unwanted drama
@digoe04 11 жыл бұрын
I guess i was a smart kid because somehow i always knew most of this. You feel the truth and relationships seem so corrupt. But true innocent love is a different story.
@RUSSKAYAG 13 жыл бұрын
In personal relationships we attract specific people who help us work out our karmic debt. Pay close attention to the issues with that person- those are exact lessons you have to learn otherwise same situation/relationship will keep on repeating..unless you learn that karmic lesson. Some lessons are very hard, yes. One has to be clear on what he has to work on-then forgive, let it go and move on.
@mabel8179 8 жыл бұрын
Eckhart speaks true wisdom- he is spot on with this subject!
@sally3024-h4c 4 жыл бұрын
I like his laugh and sense of humor
@alchemist9182 10 жыл бұрын
two half full glass meet to feel full. but in order for one to be full, the other as to be emptied. when two full glass meet, they leak on each other.
@littledreams77 7 жыл бұрын
Erik Lemay what do u mean they leak on each other?
@Lisa_M_V 5 жыл бұрын
Self love first. The relationship with the self the soul. Find real love and harmony there and everything in external world mirrors that. The external is a mirror or every individuals interior. It’s really that simple. Two healthy individuals partnering up makes a healthy happy relationship. Interdependent relationship. Not co-dependant. Plus someone will die first anyway so if your self worth comes from another that’s not good. We come into the world alone and leave alone. So cultivate the relationship with yourself.
@AxelTiger 12 жыл бұрын
people need to be whole and complete BEFORE the enter a relationship love without this self completion on both sides is doomed to fail in my opinion.
@cenkkiral 10 жыл бұрын
one of the best love longs ever created...and strange to see it in a film like this
@ammusi 12 жыл бұрын
It's the difference between coming from a place of need and coming from a place of having joy to offer another person. The 'trying to fill a hole' notion is a dead end - it keeps you in that hole. Happiness is inside YOU - your loneliness and sense of separateness is your ego. YOU are not your ego (your thoughts). You are not your mind chatter - there actually IS joy inside you, you just haven't gotten to it yet.
@brunischling9680 8 жыл бұрын
If, what Eckhart describes here as the essence of love for another person, he knows indeed very little. We all fall more or less for the fakery of romantic love illusion, but there is another love for another human being, a love that takes you out of your egoic concerns and allows you to experience the true wonder of the other person. It is a love for that one person which opens you up to the love of all human beings, to their divinity. It is a love that can also be enduring. The Sufis know a thing or two about this and can teach you what it is truly like to be human.
@naveenballur 8 жыл бұрын
Well said Bruni :)
8 жыл бұрын
+Bruni Schling But I think for this kind of love, you need self-love first
@Kareena1988 8 жыл бұрын
+große Träumerin und wie kriegt man das? auch fast unmöglich, wir zweifeln alle an uns
@brunischling9680 8 жыл бұрын
+große Träumerin Of course, one cannot love another, if one hates one self. But aren't there degrees on this spectrum of love, self-love. To go through the process of learning to love is one of the greatest spiritual task life metes out to us. I don't understand why Eckhart only sees the negative and needy side of something that is only infatuation, but not love.
8 жыл бұрын
Swades4ever Also ich merke, dass meine Selbstliebe immer größer wird. Ich beschäftige mich sehr intensiv mit mir selbst, meinen Gefühlen, meinen unterdrückten Gefühlen, meinem Unterbewusstsein, meinen Energieblockaden, meiner "Schattenseite". Es ist nicht einfach, aber ich merke, dass sich Blockaden lösen und immer mehr Licht und Wärme aus mir selbst kommt. Dadurch habe ich nicht mehr dieses "Ich brauche unbedingt Licht und Wärme von jemanden anderem, der mich liebt, sonst sterbe ich!"-Gefühl
@shelbynicholson6749 6 жыл бұрын
I have a deep-seated need for love. Even though I am a Present person, and not presently in a relationship - in fact, I just broke up with one - hooray me! - even as I remove the layers and layers of unconscious ways I express my desperate, unconscious need for love and become more conscious of the way I grasp fulfilment of this need in the external environment, it continues to amaze me how sneaky this unconsciousness of mine is. I've just discovered phobias - google passive dependent personality disorder....and it's revealed a whole new world of how this desperate grip of needing external emotional support from the external world controls my life. Oy veigh! Mindfulness.... breaths.... thoughts....
@kelleyjerred8032 6 жыл бұрын
he's so stinking cute
@SuperLalalablablabla 12 жыл бұрын
I think he explained it perfectly...I saw your comment before watching it but he answered every part of the question there was...
@flygirl2172 10 жыл бұрын
your writing about finding a man like your father made me relate, thank you
@Nothingness_itself 4 жыл бұрын
He's so cute when he laughs 😍
@DontFearNeoIsHere 15 жыл бұрын
"You can't love someone, until you love your Self." - Basically what he spent 9mins explaining. lol
@noklarok 14 жыл бұрын
@postmasterw00t : well said. no point in dating a girl that only responds to being treated badly.
@creator8503 6 жыл бұрын
U calm me down ... Ekhart tole you move in a way that makes me feel calm
@Curiousonic 13 жыл бұрын
Imagine what those in a relationship in the audience thought about themselves after this session. The only solution Tolle suggest is to bypass the need of a partner. What would the long term consequence be for the world? I think using his philosophy to practice unconditional love would be better.
@AnthonySauceda 14 жыл бұрын
you don't have to suffer for art sake, in fact some of the best art is created by artists who live life.. that is really all you need.
@mahendarsparrow 12 жыл бұрын
I know what you are talking about, I too brought a yes to the deep longing and now, the "unrequitted love" is still unrequitted, but the painfull sense of lack is actually replaced by a joyous outpouring of love, in which everyone is welcome. of course I keep losing that state and keep falling back. my inner state resembles a yo-yo :D
@nieves571 8 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS SPEECH FROM ECKHART NEVER GET TIRED TO LISTEN TKS ECKHART TOLLE
@mariahspapaya 7 жыл бұрын
This is really helpful to hear, I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and he has bipolar depression. When we're good we're great but then out of nowhere he will become withdrawn and very agitated with me for small things, its effects me a lot when I'm around him although I know it's not personal it makes me feel inadequate. He takes antidepressants but it only works for a couple months then he gets bad again and we fight about nothing. I'm tired of worrying about him and his depression and I know it's slightly codependent because I almost worry about it more than he does and urge him to go to the doctor because he never wants to go when he's feeling depressed again. I love him so much but I don't know what to do anymore and I want to worry about myself and better myself, being around him isn't good for me when he gets like this. I know relationships go through hard times and I don't take it personally but walking on eggshells around him is getting so old. I'm lost for what to do
@iwishyouknew3413 7 жыл бұрын
Anonymous Dawg I hope you choose to save your life now while you still care to have one. I have been through this before with my husband and we are going through the divorce process now, its still hard.He lacks empathy, insight and true purpose or vision for life ( minus his need for perfection and high achievements at the expense of losing everything . Transparent or Authentic people are climbing high in their relationships and thats the ultimate freedom, autonomy, partnership, fulfillment and peace when you majeba choice to be kind and loving without the need to self protect or play with the hearts and minds of others. HE is living in the past, he has a fixed mindset and Im all about wanting to learn and become the best I can be. I have done what Is right by him, myself and my core values. Im not spending another day trying to convince him otherwise nor do I allow him to bring me down about my decisions to live with myself, truly able to risk a lot more than most despite the betrayals and I am vulnerable as well as forgiving of his hateful, manipulating indirect passive agressive that is the quickest way to chase me out. My strengths are his weaknesses and I'm authentic and confident about the vakues I bring in others life. My heart, mind and body are not damaged by the past bc ive done extremely difficult work to heal the trauna but now he feels challenged by my changes ( for the better)as its not anything he sees in me. He has changed since the 4 years of longterm commitment and the marriage was not a value HOWEVER its all his fantasy, false sense of power and control. This backfired bc hes full of anger, resentment, powerless and its caused his health to decline and he's lost his overall sense of self, integrity and self respect. PLEASE care, love and respect you, your wellbeing and future bc its sounds as though he is not disclosing himself or making the relationship a priority for the both of you. The truth cant be told if one person is in denial about how to move forward with a secure, happy and functioning partner with them being the other equation for the outcome. The more you try, the more he will repeat his behavior and resent you for pushing tge issue even THOUGH WE HAD NO CHOICE, He knows that he'd rather seek pain by dismissing your needs and discarding any uncomfortable emotions or conversations that He will not be able to control EXCEPT WHEN HE NEGLECTS YOU AND YOUR WELLBEING M, NEEDS AND COMMITMENT TO HIM. He cannot see his blind spots AND that has to be exhausting living a FACADE. He doesnt want anyone including him to be known, understood or exposed bc of fear of rejection, loss or criticism and its ALL FEAR BASED ego. There is no trust, honesty, reciprocation, desired intention, conscious and reasonable excuse for that. Its self deception and it is negatively impacting you every day. Im certain you will have an opportunity to be with someone who has no insecurities about showing up in the relationship with courage and strength to lead the two of you in a much beautiful place. I wish you peace.
@charnitaarora 7 жыл бұрын
What would someone who loved herself do in this situation? Do that!
@suniltshegaonkar7809 8 жыл бұрын
Very nice answer. And that is always with Eckhart. I love your videos, speeches, discourses.
@darkling2211 11 жыл бұрын
If you are truly Awakened, then nothing "sucks".
@piricarmen 14 жыл бұрын
Love is real. I can't see it, taste it, or even smell it. Yet it is very real and to deny the natural tendency to love or deny the belief that love is just some sort of smokescreen is wrong.
@CaptainAMAZINGGG 7 жыл бұрын
he took so long to discuss this, and he literally never actually answered the question. he answered various other questions others may have - but did not answer a question of love not being reciprocated - which would likely be....... that the person in question has blocks and activated things within that repel love from flowing in for them, or, their ability to receive it even if that person actually does FEEL it but may for whatever mysterious reasons feel unable to express it. SHEESH!!! Be the love, see the love in various places that does flow in like universal, from pets, from your SELF - both higher and the personality, and cultivate that, even love from nourishment from food, water, star beings etc. That is activated more and more, the person is then emitting that, hopefully a feeling of fullness comes about in the person as they are connected to self and whole/universe and resonating at higher frequencies..... love likely will flow in pretty fast, even from that specific loved person (just kuz your ego is effing things up, doesn't mean you also don't love the other fully/from a deeper space as well........it's just maybe also mucked up and can be uncovered, lit up, whatever, as the perception is purified/elevated..)....
@borncrazy123 13 жыл бұрын
Thank you Eckhart for all your inspiartion. My heart and soul is changing. Im so thankful. I always have your book near me. It always saves me. T
@jantje100 15 жыл бұрын
i wish you a peacefull mind! have a nice day
@ShunyamNiketana 12 жыл бұрын
Maybe "falling in love" is not the good relationship, because it is based on hunger, desire, longing, etc. Maybe a lighter partnership is longer lasting and, in its way, more fulfilling. I can't live without you? B.S. I need deep connections with others--true.
@kaynakbu 11 жыл бұрын
Awakened and not awakened cannot have a chance to be together... maybe possible if not awakened begins to studying personal development...
@merylste 13 жыл бұрын
Spiritual practices have appeal because through them we get more and more whole by awareness of the bliss of the Self. When one finds peace & contentmen within, the fear of separation dissipates. We are able to love for loves sake, like we live to breathe.
@mint83 15 жыл бұрын
I love his laugh
@queenie3885 4 жыл бұрын
When you realized that the very nature of human is LOVE. You won't seek for it from the other person. Just like joy, peace and abundance they come within. It's not something outside of yourself. So you can love the other person without him/her reciprocating because love is already there. It doesn't depends on the other person.
@johnmacleod4481 6 жыл бұрын
One way love is the sadness and epitomising loss of our identity to be who and anything each of us might one day assimilate to become,zealous and at times begrudging thought of what another has never fills the person requiring and wishing love as a fulfillment
@maggiedon1 15 жыл бұрын
He delivers his teachings in a wonderful way :) LOVE it. Some people will not be ready for this yet, and thats OK Love XX
@TheStrossus 15 жыл бұрын
The ding at the start? It's just there to kind of "center" you to the moment, so to speak. That and it's just Eckhart's entrance.
@Jaesonlee1 4 жыл бұрын
This video popped up on my recommendation as i was going through ego struggle with my wife.
@johnnymoondog 15 жыл бұрын
Mr Tolle, your insight is impeccable, and your explanations and guidance are unmatched ! Thank you so much for your wonderful teachings and signposts !
@redlady935 6 жыл бұрын
Wise words. It's a shame about mocking the person's question though at the beginning
@thepowerofnow 12 жыл бұрын
in time I learned to learn from every spiritual teacher, human..and not to compare thing..enormous wisdom comes with this and relief
@disb0ijimmy 14 жыл бұрын
I think after a few relationships, I'm pretty much pessimistic about dating again for awhile.
@robandjasrecipes 15 жыл бұрын
This will pass too... just when you want to stop suffering you will then realize and feel lucky to know of a form that can speak words to show you another dimension of conciousness. Your ego and pain body are still unaware of all of this. Beleiving is not the case, wanting to live peace and removing all the unnecessary hehhe turbulances in your mind is what matters most. Eckhart Tolle is an amazing form just for who is ready for the shift.
@lumararose4932 9 жыл бұрын
really identifying with the last minutes 8:45... :( damn our ego! and damn the things we do to ourselves or endure for in the name of "love"
@ammusi 12 жыл бұрын
btw - if you haven't gotten to it yet, your mind will have you convinced that happiness comes from having or doing something outside your skin - that vacation, relationship, $, etc. Happiness or joy isn't out there. Have you ever just watched your mind? You are not your mind, it's something you own like you own your body. Right now it sounds like your mind owns you, it's an un-trained puppy bumping into shit. When it does that it causes emotions and you say "I can't help it, that's how I feel."
@turkkisydamessani 15 жыл бұрын
I get so calm to listening to him....(even if I would not listen to what he says...!) (His voice calms me down...)
@wakethefrakup 11 жыл бұрын
You mustn't have gotten the message...if you understood what he says, you would realise that the idea of a relationship is so flawed that it's actually funny for someone to let themselves feel so hurt from being in one. It's not a heartless personal attack; in fact it's more than likely that they have felt 'love' and 'rejection' themselves and they were actually laughing at themselves for being so silly :)
@PhyllisMoon 5 жыл бұрын
I would really like to hear the end of Echardt's answer to the question. Is there a link to part 2?
@hohumheyyy 13 жыл бұрын
what a beautiful happy man, i hope i get to meet you one day, I havent quite grasp all concepts, but i hope to one day, what i know so far, is priceless! I understand you mor than any other spiritual teacher, god bless you..
@tofujelly 6 жыл бұрын
I don't like this at all. It's through the toil of a long term relationship that people really truly grow. If they both have good intentions, the result is better, more empathetic, altruistic and patient people who grow old together.
@suzihazlove4979 8 жыл бұрын
we feel a lack, from childhood.... we seek others to help fill our holes/needs. nothing wrong with that. but once that home is healed, it may feel unsettling, we want to move on to next need. yes it would be nice to fill our own needs, but we are interconnected and not all holes can be filled alone. many times we can and should complete ourselves, THERAPY. but again we do need each other. but that will not complete us. cuz we must be OK with ourselves... that person can only share their life with you not complete. this is not black and white....
@charliechase7390 6 жыл бұрын
I love to fill a woman's holes. That is what life is all about in many ways. The more holes the better!
@Trailblazers323 6 жыл бұрын
Charlie Chase lol
@romandomansky7318 6 жыл бұрын
Charlie Chase The most enlightened comment on the vid LOL
@tim3854 6 жыл бұрын
Ha thanks charlie, I thought surely noone will mention that other kind of hole when I expanded the replies, but you proved me wrong!
@pierramatthee3993 5 жыл бұрын
The audience are not all on the same spiritual level as Eckhart. That is why they laugh. You can sense a lot from the audience. It's not just the speech of the teacher but also the reacting of the audience. So much to learn.
@Alphacentauri819 5 жыл бұрын
Pierra Matthee they are laughing because he’s being funny and they can recognize the truth...yet, so many of us engage in the silliness. So, you may be missing the humor ;)