NOPE. You're speaking from the perspective of ONE country and a very Westernized country at that. Phillipines, Colombia, US, China, Japan, and more have WILDY different perspectives on what is attractive and desirable. You have a Myopic Westernized Muslim traditional view of the world.

You are correct about delusion the. If people cannot attract what they want in a given area, like a Hunter, they should change their territory.

But what about your respect to him/her depending on your gender ofc.... If you have to change your type to get with who choose you.. cuz you didn't choose them in the first place... Choice paradox.. isn't it ??

@@am1tk_tales agree

..someone who chooses *you.* All too often we get preoccupied with the one that doesn't.

I married someone who chose me…and after a while he told me I settled for him.

Bullshit

Discern character, disposition and behavior. Romance attraction and chemistry does not create relationship success. When you meet some one that you feel, comfort ease and safe with its a good sign. Appearance and chemistry is greatly overvalued. Common sense before emotions. Chemistry is basically lust and limerance. Never doubt patterns AKA The Track Record When you choose someone with NONE of the dealbreakers you'll have peace and stability There is no unicorn or perfect person. Healthy relationships are based on equality mutuality and reciprocity. Partnership. Team Players. Compatibility is shared core values emotional maturity and a blendable lifestyle. Chemistry is the tip of the iceberg. People are either focused on the external, superficiality or totality, substance and depth. The complete package.

@@sherriflemming3218 I definitely agree!

@@rebeccaj7164 👍 These matter most of all. How someone will treat you.

Do not forget compatibility. 😃👍😃

Yes all those things + pheromones. Women also choose from the male scent unconsciously. So you could do all those things as described but may still not be chosen by that one who you view as your type on a physical level, because that element isn’t there also. It’s very complex the mating game.

Men want women to change their type but dont want to change their own type to someone more appropriate. Lmao the delusion is real.

In college I joined a Fraternity. I learned lessons in social skills and etiquette. In addition I had a group of brothers who backed me up thus giving me confidence. I learned teamwork and how to achieve common goals. Great stuff which made me more marketable socially.

And what if no one else ever invests?

​@Vivacomunismo😂😂

​@Vivacomunismo savage! 😂

In the real world (at least in my area) most people get married bc they feel it's time (i.e. pressure, bio clock ticking, they know nobody else wants them, they know the type of men/women they really want will never go for them) and get with whoever is in their vicinity that says yes to them. Gotta be careful with who you end up marrying bc they may actually not be that into you. I say watch out for those with rap sheets, low self esteem, narcissists, divorcees & those with kids. These types usually know that it will be hard to find someone that'll entertain them with all that baggage (much less an attractive, smart, single, never married, etc man/woman) so they hold on for dear life to anyone that shows interest.... whether they're into them or not.

Perfectly stated. Yes!

I find Sadia's insights very attractive

I like the way she models relationships like a process analyst. Understanding the process is essential to obtain process outputs.

>Taurus energy

@@deprecated8036 Practical.

all good until the taurus BS

Very true

Fact.

I am interloquating with all these different beauts on Facebook, and the fact is I feel exuberant and so motivated and def tranquil at mind. 😇

Well said. Sounds like my life. We were married 50 years until her passing.

@@elaineen1 I am sorry about your loss. One day I will have to face that too. The day when my father in law died, he was very sick. I told him not to worry because I would take good care of his daughter. A few hours later he died. And here I am honoring the promise I made to him. If one day she passes away, the only thing I will be able to say is "mission accomplished" by honoring that promise to the last moment. There are people who wasted their life doing stupid or bad things. You spent your life doing your best, and that matters a lot. Not everyone can say they were married for a long time.

Unfortunately most people are just complaining and not doing the work..

Anima gonna anima

Bro, you got a real valuable lesson and learned from it. Blessings to you moving forward. Keep your head up and stay 💪🏽

A lot of us have been there buddy, don't beat yourself up. You didn't say one word in your comment that made me think you aren't a nice, caring guy. You sound like you are a lot wiser at your age than I was, I was stuck in a decade long relationship with my high school sweetheart. I never felt she was the one but we loved each other very much. I moved 12 hours away to give her space to be happy in the end. It sounds like you've been thinking and learning from your ex, that's good. If I can pass on any advice to you, if it's appropriate, don't leave on bad terms. If you've said something you may not have meant when you were really hurting, apologize for it. Be sincere. Neither one of you will benefit if you leave on poor terms when it's not necessary. I was pretty disappointed in the complete loser my ex married...the last thing I said to her before I blocked her was "please don't ever ask me for any help again." My regret is not telling her I'd always love her and the best of luck, I'm a lot better man than the last words I said.

there is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

@@Kurt5Dobson its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

@@DarylSimpson58 this is helpful, I will look her up. I hope this works for me too, I really miss her.

I don't believe that she is in love with you and respect you. Am I right?

dude, she divorced you and you took her back?

Have you taken the time to get to know these people you are calling insecure? Her advice is look within that pool for the ones you ARE attracted to. Your question isn't the same. We all have assumptions about the other person. Getting to know them can change how we see them or are seen ourselves. So they may be assuming you are meek. They don't know you yet. Their assumption (or your assumption they think this) has nothing to do with whether they can deal with and like the real you. Just because someone is interested in a person who seems to have a certain trait doesn't mean they are looking for that trait in a person. Likewise, just because you assume someone is insecure doesn't mean they are insecure. They could be going through something at the moment. This includes the environment you see them in not being conducive to them. It could be because you are in the room and they are interested, they are simply nervous. It could very well be that this thing you are seeing is a weakness in people who are better suited for you but one that can change or you can accept if you actually gave those people a chance. So often we are attracted elsewhere because we working through things. We miss and make up excuses because we are more concentrated on our trauma than we are on building good things for us. Plus type is nothing more than preference. So you prefer peanuts to almonds but you have a peanut allergy. You don't have to give up nuts but you really should give up peanuts. You can continue to take the risk with the excuse that you have an EpiPen cause you just love your peanuts. Or you can try not just almonds but other nuts. Extra points for realizing that peanuts aren't even a nut just like "my type" may be masquerading as a possibility when it isn't.

@@siluogompah4463 Thank you for your perspective. I hear you loud and clear. I’ll have another listen, and maybe not come from a place of being defensive.🫣

Yes you will

She's makin the same fuckin points in a nicer way..smh

@factswise-psychologicalfac84 she really isn't though what are you talking about half her pint are completely opposite from red pill, red pill says go for the tall man where as she isn't, they say oh yeah well you're having a problem well sucks for you, but she doesn't say that she says change your type because you don't deserve it, lol,, lmfao,,. what are you talking about what are you not listening, why are you not listening, lol,, lmfao,,.

common sense but most women do not think with common sense, she has all the options in the world and it telling other women to lower their standards for the man they wanted but cannot get, she would not settle herself but is advising other women to do so and it is not realistic based on how women think, but closer to rational thinking like a man.

She is incredible

The entire MGTOW pick up culture and neo feminism is to destroy true genuine love and connection if you've noticed the single epidemic has grown massive 50.01% of pop Is single and childless in western world (Jordan Peterson).........every man needs to listen to RC Blake's

Yea absolutely true. Women within 5 seconds of you entering a room, know if they want you or not. Then she'll maneuver herself into position to communicate. She just picked you, without you knowing it. If everything goes well, she chooses to either have sex with you or not. That's your confirmation she likes you. If she continues to communicate with you after sex, does extra little things for you, like sending cute little emojis, setting up dates etc. Then she wants a relationship. This is where the man turn comes in. Now it's the man's turn to choose If he wants her in his life. A serious relationship. Women control access to sex, men control access to long term relationships. Women picks the man, the man then picks the woman. And time is a woman's worst enemy.

Actually, men pick first, and women can only pick from who approaches. I could want a man any how I want but if he doesn't approach, I wouldn't stand a chance.

​@@TheQueenIsWithinHm, exactly. At the first encounter you already feel whether he is attracted to you or not. If not, he'll never really and fully choose you. You might be useful, might become the wife even, but you'll always be reminded of this somehow. Wise men who change their type and deeply and they're no users or overly rational? I should still meet one😂.

women do not love men.

Need more women like you in this world. Glad it's working out for you. Thanks for sharing 👌🏽

Nice Convos here, I’ve never had a type, thats been my type, luckily i’ve organically chosen the girls that have chosen me but i’ve luckily had a blessed and gratitude amount of choosers to pick from, its simple like breath-work and no expectations and just strengthening my own temple always, I’m 47 & idk whyTF ppl are stuck in their heads so much these days, overthink more than ever, it’s amusing & random to me, thinking theres some algorithm to hooking up, just plain logic & intuition and willing to not have it all is what then drops it all in ur lap, letting go for timing to hug you, I’ve never gotten the “most pull” whatever that is, but definitely plenty of pull to make my wildest dreams feel always possible & will happen

You have to be the most amazing person I have come across. Y are mY type smart and beautiful.

You are correct you try to get them to not change but what they presented themselves as, at times ; they do this to get you. Then hit a 360 degree on you.

I don't know, I don't think attraction is a choice. I'm not attracted to fat men. I never will be.

I'm surprised that she calls herself a psychologist but she never mentions any research data. I can feel comfortable with her answers, but are they realistic and researched or just her opinions or her bad experiences.

It will lead to that anyway if your type is “settling” for you as your not her type. Women tend to overlook lots of physical shortcomings in men more so than men do regarding women on average. So if you continue chasing a fabricated type that’s been formed for example from porn or models etc and you look for say that goodlooking hot body woman and your average or balding or not ripped at these women are attracted to that guy. In a time of scarcity or desperation they may choose you but will not be happy in the long run and will be tempted as just like what you said about men will lead to cheating. Weigh up what is more important to you. Short term pleasure with pain at the end or peace and longevity. So that’s one part of the choice. The next is character & integrity/morals. You need both for a successful outcome.

MAYBE CHANGING RESIDENTIAL LOCATION MIGHT WORK IF YOU ARE IN A HURRY OF GETTING IN A RELATIONSHIP .frankly Changing your type is a big mistake

@@fungaifakaziyou’ll change ur type if it’s not working and ur desperately wants to be in a relationship ..it might end up working BTW and u end up seeing and loving things u didn’t see before If ur not in hurry ..then stick to ur type and good luck searching

Attraction though changes with time and is fed. We are attracted to more than one type and in different ways but we love to focus on the one that we feel will give us the most status because part of the journey in life is one of self worth. I've known guys that I know aren't good looking yet I appreciate the way they look and an open to them. And there are people it took me longer to truly see just because they hadn't found the right style or haircut. She is saying look at who you are attracted to only within the group who are also attracted to you. I've seen men obsess over women who don't want them who aren't even pretty. It's wonderful when people see us as so valuable so I'm not trying to say that much about looks here. Just that they are loving the person has figured out their best look but they are missing so many other people simply because the other girl is a thin blonde who has triggered a rejection response. This is one example. Women do it, too. No one is saying don't like blondes or thin women. Just realize where interest is not reciprocated is not a wait and see prospect. Look for interest and investigate attraction and compatibility from there.

There’s no such thing as relationship or sexual compatibility if the attraction isn’t mutual.

I used to have this issue until I learned how attraction worked and met my husband. Did a lot of healling work, now I have zero interest in men who cause me any grief.

@@sophien5416but are you sexually attracted to him

Lucky you. I'm on the tall side (just under 6ft), slim physique but seem to attract short guys-considerably shorter. With off putting qualities like control issues, big drinkers. So not my type 👎

@@britjj5126 move to Scandinavia/NL/Baltics lol lots of tall people there

@@britjj5126 lol, I'm 6'3 and it seems that I attract small girls, but i know that is some common selection in our nature

@@britjj5126you don’t attract short guys, you just taller than majority of men.

she knows nothing about reality bro. she think the dating world is the same for men and women.

@@dm1795 Honestly, I think she is right on a lot of things. She is a million times better than manosphere. She's helping us to have realistic expectations rather than fight feminist/manosphere ideologies - she's the only woman preaching peace amidst this gender/sex war, reminding us that we need each other. She has my attention.

It is on her channel on KZfaq.

​@@andrewgora3672 isn't this her KZfaq channel?

@@DavidMatias79 yes it is. The full podcast should be there if you Google sadia Khan psychology. It was there when I saw the full podcast over a week ago. But the full version may have been taken down I am not too sure.

This is very poor advice. Guarantees dissatisfaction in relationships. Instead of changing your type do something else. 1. Find the Guy/Girl you are attracted to. Find your type. 2. Find the Guy/Girl your type would be attracted to. You can even ask some people. 3. Become that person by improving yourself!!

Exactly 💯 Her advice is logical and makes sense, but it's also contradictory because if you're not attracted to people who are choosing you but you pick from THAT pool, you will end up disrespecting THEM cuz you don't want them genuinely. At the end of the day, you have to MUTUALLY choose EACH OTHER. And that's what will always be the challenge: finding a partner with equal and mutual interest!

😂

No human should ever go to California or San Francisco for that matter.

@@YourManifoldWorld your not invited