9 Things About Borderline Personality Disorder You Need to Know

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning. People with the condition typically experience an intense emotional instability that deeply impacts everyday life. To better understand this condition we’ll be discussing a few things about BPD. Please help share this video to help raise awareness.
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Disclaimer: Do not use this video as a self-diagnosis. But If you see yourself with these symptoms, it's best to consult a professional.
If you would like to learn more about BPD and the signs of BPD, we have a video on that too: • 7 Hidden Signs of Bord...
Writer: Sidney Thompson
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Deanca Rensyta Mihardja
KZfaq Manager: Cindy Cheong
Editors of Mayo Clinic. “Borderline Personality Disorder.” Mayo Clinic, Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, 17 July 2019, www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20370237.
Editors of NAMI. “Borderline Personality Disorder.” NAMI, 2017, www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Mental-Health-Conditions/Borderline-Personality-Disorder.
Editors of NIMH. “Borderline Personality Disorder.” National Institute of Mental Health, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Dec. 2017, www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml.
“What Is Borderline Personality Disorder?” Performance by Harmit Singh, Chihealth.com, CHI Health, 20 Jan. 2020, • What is Borderline Per... .
“What It’s Like to Live With Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).” Performance by Sammy Marie-Grimm, KZfaq.com, MedCircle, 21 Feb. 2019, • Living With Borderline... .
Do you know someone who has BPD? Share this video to create awareness about BPD. Also, if you have any personal stories or video requests that you'd like to share with us, email us at editorial@psych2go.net

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@footed_190 3 жыл бұрын

My gf has bpd and im trying to understand her the best i can

@angeltornay8504 3 жыл бұрын

It’s hard but she probably loves you very much. It’s not her fault, it’s how her brain in wired.

@THE_VOID_14 3 жыл бұрын

Aww that’s really sweet and it makes me really happy to hear when someone is really trying to understand someone they know who has an illness/mental illness 🥺

@sarahbackman7512 3 жыл бұрын

I think that you’re a great boyfriend for doing that for her

@Christian3174 3 жыл бұрын

Make sure you set boundaries though.

@djdarq6311 3 жыл бұрын

It’s so hard. That’s why I’m here too. It’s not their fault but we need support ... it’s draining.

@vivy8420 3 жыл бұрын

BPD makes my life extremely hard, i lash out easily, isolate myself, and get paranoid at the smallest things

@tararosabelle7368 3 жыл бұрын

I dont have it, or rather I dont know enough yet to say that and cant get help from a professional, but I hope you some day get the help you need

@Kirby_is_calling_the_police_ 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve learnt to control my emotions a bit better and I only lash out at my mom mostly 😌

@asiasmith705 3 жыл бұрын

U arent alone.

@shay529 3 жыл бұрын

Me to

@jisoowlw8682 3 жыл бұрын

does bpd people having a hard time maintaining friendship or relationship Im just curious ?

@courtneysempsrott7692 Жыл бұрын

As someone with BPD (quiet subtype) I can tell you this has ruined every relationship I've ever had, mostly romantic, but some friendships too. Now I isolate because it feels safer. It is a very lonely existence.

@hannahlily11 11 ай бұрын

Same here.

@sarahmottram3369 10 ай бұрын

❤

@monishmohan6212 8 ай бұрын

And it is exhausting ..

@Red-rr2tp 7 ай бұрын

Yo really late but I suffer from the same thing (quiet BPD subtype) and I've ruined so so many relationships and I still am and still will but isolating I promise only makes you feel worse, you need to get out there and make connections. Maybe we have more unstable relationships but that doesn't mean that every single one will be or that we don't deserve human connection because of it. My bf understands very little of BPD and he is the most stable and best relationship I have ever had. You have to take the risk of losing people and man it hurts like hell but I promise when you find that person, you wont regret everything it took to get there. I'm here if you need anything!!!!

@homegrown1785 7 ай бұрын

Same here.

@slim1275 Жыл бұрын

I have BPD. When I went for a "formal" diagnosis for it, I explained the symptoms I have, and detailed how I met all nine criteria for the disorder. After an exhaustive battery of tests, the psychologist "ruled out" BPD. He determined I knew too much about the disorder, and "exaggerated" my test results. The test wasn't just for BPD, but also ADHD, which he also ruled out for the same reason. We are expected to be completely ignorant of the disorders that plague us. I studied psychology in college, was married to a licenced counselor, and spent many years in therapy. For me to be ignorant of my particular disorders is not possible, and for me to be expected to act ignorant of them just to receive an "official" diagnosis (even though I was already diagnosed from my therapist and her supervising psychologist) is absurd. I hope none of you have had the experience of being nullified by psychiatric "professionals" as I have . If your overwhelming symptoms are "ruled out", do not despair. Not all professionals have the ability to lack bias in their practice.

@koopawarss9162 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, this really isn’t said enough!!

@troyenelson8124 Жыл бұрын

Diagnosing psychologists tend to have an ego that hinders people's access to mental healthcare and wellness which is absolute bullshit although doesnt mean people should self-diagnose. I had to get a 2nd psychologist that was referred through my therapist the 2nd time to get a real assessment for ADHD. I went through my PCP the first time who I had to push to get a referral from because she said I didnt have it because I didnt have bad grades at the moment and therefor I didnt need treatment. That's bullshit too. 2nd guy was awesome tho.

@Youidiott Жыл бұрын

Well said ❤️❤️

@RaptureDragon1 Жыл бұрын

This is exactly why I do not nor will never trust or support doctors. There are a few good ones but the entire medical industry is corrupt as hell and a lot of the things going on are incentivized by the insurance companies so you do not get proper care and people get to continue to sell you stuff you do not need. I will fight anybody that says self-diagnosing is not okay. It is perfectly fine Just do it correctly and make sure you are studying the DSM-5 and doing mass amounts of research not just watching one video and deciding oh I have a disorder which is Just as ridiculous as all these doctors pushing stupid things or misdiagnosing people multiple times.

@Backtheblueorleave Жыл бұрын

I did an intake for a psychiatrist for my adhd and she said idk I think you have something else like bpd which yes finally someone acknowledged it. But I went to the psychiatrist and he doesn’t believe in labels -.-

@susanreyes1338 3 жыл бұрын

Hello people from the future!

@k.t3888 3 жыл бұрын

Hello.

@zehalberto3644 3 жыл бұрын

Hello.

@kudari.nobori 3 жыл бұрын

Hello.

@SkuggiesKai 3 жыл бұрын

@HeyItsTiWordell 3 жыл бұрын

Hello.

@xLadyMary 3 жыл бұрын

having bpd is literally a nightmare. to feel emotions so intensely and have suicidal thoughts from a small trigger is exhausting. Our anger is so intense we do impulsive shit we don’t mean to, then get extra guilty and depressed. I’ve had it since I was 15. To a borderline something small can be the end of the world. Don’t self diagnose by watching these symptoms, go to a doctor this is pretty serious shit that takes lives everyday. And for all of you that can’t afford a doctor, focus on your symptoms instead of labeling yourself. Do a lot of research. Self-diagnosis might do more harm than good since bpd symptoms overlap with other mental illnesses. Take care :)

@ffrraann123 3 жыл бұрын

People dont understand why we are angry """all the time""", or lat least for me people always said that im so weak because i feel so bad with something little... They never understand

@Trollestiatumblur 3 жыл бұрын

Yikes y’all... I’m diagnosed with bpd but I do not get angry. That’s how your experience is, let’s not group everyone the same.

@ryderlead 3 жыл бұрын

shit man, you like perfectly described it, i feel almost exactly the same. i was diagnosed with it when i was 13, but i showed signs before then and i remember feeling like a fucking demon. i’m glad there’s other people out there that know the struggle, i’m glad i’m not alone. take care of yourself.

@ryderlead 3 жыл бұрын

@@Trollestiatumblur same here, there’s something called hidden bpd where your intense emotions get bottled up and it turns into self-hatred, psych2go made a video on it, it made me feel like less of a weird borderline, so if you feel like that, i recommend the video to you

@balls9850 3 жыл бұрын

Laughs in British

@brotherbootlegger1777 Жыл бұрын

As a man with BPD, getting more awareness out about this disorder feels so important. It's more than just "sociopathy in women". It's an actual distinct mental illness that requires a very delicate approach to deal with.

@zeah Жыл бұрын

What is that approach?

@terhisomersalo8588 Жыл бұрын

@@zeah the stereotypes do a lot of harm. Women get diagnosed quite easily with bpd and men are underdiagnosed. As well as men get diagnosed easily with adhd and women are underdiagnosed and/or misdiagnosed. Those arrogantly formed stereotypes in society as in "women are crazy" & "men/boys can't focus and are all over the place" being normalized make life really hard for us.

@Noel_Wood Жыл бұрын

my psychiatrist told me i may have a possibility of BPD, but I have ADHD which makes it really difficult. like it's possible to have both, but that's so difficult to diagnose, and i'm scared i might have BPD.

@alisoncashner28 Жыл бұрын

@@Noel_Wood I have both, and I go through therapy a lot. BPD is usually trauma related, which is very common for people with adhd because of how invalidated their disorder is. Not everyone who has adhd had BPD and vice versa, but is definitely not uncommon either.

@jacksonrelaxin3425 Жыл бұрын

@@terhisomersalo8588 sadly it’s because there are also many women who are fakers and women are more likely to fake a disorder for attention than men. It’s also because generally men are less likely to seek help for problems to begin with and understandably because there is a higher chance they won’t be taken seriously. I would know from personal experience when I was literally told I’m not allowed or supposed to have suicidal feelings or depression.

@arielhavik6693 Жыл бұрын

Two of my childhood best friends had BPD. Unfortunately, earlier this year, we lost her. If ur someone that has BPD, and ur thinking about doing something u shouldn't, please don't. I wish I could've told her that I loved her one last time. Told her how there's still more steps to take, more things to try out that could help some of it. So if ur here, reading this, and you have it. This is your sign. You're meant to live. You're meant to survive this, trust me, you've got it in you, you really, TRULY do. I love you, to the ends of this world and back. I think I may struggle w BPD or something w similar symptoms, besides my diagnosed ADHD. I say that to tell you: Idk wtf I do or don't have, but I do know life is dog shit a lot of the time. But some day, you'll get to choose how you want to live it, everything decided by you, meaning you might be able to find ways to cope, find small ways to make your days brighter, and make those bad days less frequent. I believe we can do it. You AND me. But you've got to trust me, I cannot stress this enough; the "easy way out" isn't a way out of it at all. That's way less than what you deserve out of life. WAY less. You may find urself to be unstable and unpredictable, but then again, so is the beautiful universe out there. It's dark and twisted and complicated. But from what I understand about it, and from what I've seen from pictures out there, it's also absolutely beautiful. So don't do anything harmful to yourself dear; we're not even close to being done w learning about the universe, we've barely seen anything, so why do you think this is all there is to and for you?:)

@exploronautrizz Жыл бұрын

you’re such a beautiful person… more power to you and the kindness you have in you

@semosjj38 Жыл бұрын

i cried reading this thank you have a beautiful day ❤

@xallisonpaige Жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤

@barbaraborgato3915 Жыл бұрын

i cried a lot while reading this, thank you for your kind words 🥺💖

@ToriDitizio Жыл бұрын

i don’t know who you are, or where you came from, but to me tonight- you’re my angel. thank you so much for writing this message, words will never express how much gratitude i have towards you in my heart right now. just thank you so much. please keep spreading your beauty to this earth ❤

@dyannatodd2270 2 жыл бұрын

My best friend has BPD. She's one of the warmest, kindest, most creative people I've ever known...and she can also be volatile and a little exhausting. She feels things in extremes. When she's happy she's endlessly creative and funny; when she's hurting she's a live wire. She's not the easiest person to be friends with, but I wouldn't trade her friendship for anything in the world.

@Komoreby.studios 2 жыл бұрын

That is so beautiful 🥺not everyone is willing to put through our mood swings but thank you for being there for her... I know it's not easy

@princessaur 2 жыл бұрын

You're an absolute peach! A lot of us understand that we're not the easiest people to put up with sometimes, so when we meet someone who is willing to put in the effort, even if we don't feel deserving of them, we appreciate them with all of our hearts for sticking by us through the highs and the lows. ♥️

@illidelphian1508 2 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭 I love you for this comment

@dyannatodd2270 2 жыл бұрын

@Bradley Walton I hope you can get the help you need! A correct diagnosis can be a lifesaver in a lot of ways. Wishing you the very best of luck 😊

@angelicadesjarlais485 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for not giving up on us (people with bpd)

@stephanjones8424 2 жыл бұрын

Something that wasn't mentioned is the chameleon effect. People with BPD can have tendencies to adopt other people's behaviors and lose track of who they are or how they thought about things before. They can then become paranoid thinking they are being controlled. It's a very strange interaction if you don't know that they have a disorder.

@ileensaravia6427 2 жыл бұрын

Omg 19 years of my life feeling like this

@beverlyteh4676 2 жыл бұрын

It’s in the DSM 5 criteria as unstable sense of self.

@userm180 2 жыл бұрын

@@ileensaravia6427 is it a feeling that comes and goes or is it permanent?

@ileensaravia6427 2 жыл бұрын

@@userm180 permanent, i always have to second guess, rethink every situation out or have to reask myself if i really feel what im feeling.

@userm180 2 жыл бұрын

@@ileensaravia6427 im sorry about that :/ is there any treatment u can get?

@demblossom2328 Жыл бұрын

My girlfriend has BPD, and we've been together for almost 3 years. Sadly, I never fully understood how to be a support, and that has caused our relationship to become unstable. But here I am, watching this video to be able to have a healthier relationship for both of us. I hope it's not too late, I love her

@kadenhays2331 Жыл бұрын

What do you do when she is very mad and yelling at you because of her mood swings? Do you have any suggestions?

@kadenhays2331 11 ай бұрын

@hippieflower Oh ok thank you, ill do that

@user-js6ch1mf8g 10 ай бұрын

More hugs more I love yous more often. 💗

@TamWam_ 10 ай бұрын

these replies... they're so wholesome 😭 i literally have most, if not all the symptoms of BPD, the weirdest thing is that when I was way younger i used to have most, if not all signs of ASPD which doesn't make sense. im so confused.

@dollbunhun 10 ай бұрын

I wish my boyfriend would have done the same for me. He always said he would inform himself and work WITH me but in the end he just accepted me aprubtly ending the relationship,.......

@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU Ай бұрын

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

@elizabethwilliams6651 Ай бұрын

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

@Jennifer-bw7ku Ай бұрын

Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@IkamiLog Ай бұрын

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

@elizabethwilliams6651 Ай бұрын

Is he on instagram?

@Jennifer-bw7ku Ай бұрын

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

@illegal1663 3 жыл бұрын

"dont self diagnose" i'm trying not to. o swear

@dhavalshah7077 3 жыл бұрын

Same ;)

@Cheekybunny1693 3 жыл бұрын

Same...bpd isn't fun.

@catzilla6279 3 жыл бұрын

I got diagnosed with schizophrenia but I'm pretty sure It's BPD

@Cheekybunny1693 3 жыл бұрын

@@catzilla6279 how so? (Not being rude. Im just curious, I tend to overthink things...so I have to clarify that lol)

@elys-p58 3 жыл бұрын

@@catzilla6279 I highly doubt that, BPD and schizophrenia are EXTREMELY different types of disorders

@jvcscasio 3 жыл бұрын

I feel that the worst thing is becoming "that anoying person who gets angry at everyone" and then get excluded

@mayakhaled1712 3 жыл бұрын

Same 🤦🏽

@kiwiabcdefghijklmnopqrstuvw 3 жыл бұрын

That's me

@Luna-ii4mx 3 жыл бұрын

Happens to me all the time , it fucking sucks

@CapeEniEer 2 жыл бұрын

... hurts to even read it, happens all the time

@averie8815 2 жыл бұрын

@@mayakhaled1712 we can heal

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk 5 ай бұрын

I could remember several years ago, I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Was actually diagnosed with BPD. Not until my husband recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@Paul_Michael 5 ай бұрын

they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here. and mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on this planet i wish people would all realize. they could solve a lot of problems, more than just mental treatments, environmental clean up; the possibilities are endless with fungus.

@Malikrooney-hq5jj 5 ай бұрын

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Greece. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

@TomSanders-qv8bv 5 ай бұрын

YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Edennnn926 5 ай бұрын

I hate that psilocybin gets grouped with drugs like cocaine and heroin. Mushrooms are a remedy, not a vice! I went on a microdose treatment for a couple of months and within the first week, every sight of a cigarette got me questioning why I was doing all that to myself. It really works.

@JacksonSmith-wc8oo 5 ай бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

@abhiramyadagiri4649 Жыл бұрын

For people that don’t know, psychiatrists diagnosed Anakin Skywalker from the Star Wars franchise with BPD. Watching this video made me realize how many of these traits perfectly describe Anakin and has made me view his character in the prequels in a whole different light, while also helping me understand BPD more. It’s a shame people didn’t really understand or like his character when the prequels first came out.

@mdmurshid5187 8 ай бұрын

I came from that video

@TheErikapal20 4 ай бұрын

Awww I loved that starwars. That’s pretty cool

@psykicksyndrome9100 3 жыл бұрын

"cut contact with others to protect themselves" yes that's me

@sihdie1534 3 жыл бұрын

I feel like it’s best to just be alone lol

@Trolldollz 3 жыл бұрын

Yes me to

@avabean5853 3 жыл бұрын

yep. i will hate a job so much that i quit without notice to get out and protect myself in the moment. two weeks later i’m full of guilt and regret because i’m broke. then i beat myself up about it.

@MickyGeeGee 2 жыл бұрын

Aside from many of the symptoms listed, my sister cut contact with her entire family about 12 years ago over nothing, literally. The strange thing is that we all live within a 10 mile radius of each other and often see her in different places with no interaction on her part. Both our parents have passed away in that time span and she didn't acknowledge either of them.. we have always been a close family, so this was /is extremely difficult for us to comprehend. We had no falling out or argument or hard feelings.. she simply cut us ALL out one day, just like that. It's been very painful to understand and we've made many attempts to reach out with no cooperation on her part. Very strange disorder.

@maddy4690 2 жыл бұрын

I cut contact when I find flaw in ppl. Like they do mistake or hurt me (unintentionally). I just change myself so much so that ppl will stay with me and like me. I give too much then expect same from them. And what not. So yeah I do this. It comes to a point questioning myself that should I follow my gut instincts about them or should I be totally fine with their behaviour and following their rules.

@AuthenticMentalHealth 3 жыл бұрын

If you’ve been diagnosed with BPD you are not alone❤️

@vito3510 3 жыл бұрын

Yet alone im real life.....

@goots4585 3 жыл бұрын

@@vito3510 me too probably

@MournfulMystic 3 жыл бұрын

Yes we are.. alone in torment

@mimisart 3 жыл бұрын

Shaking your virtual hand and giving a hug. We indeed are not alone 🌸💙

@kipblank4993 3 жыл бұрын

I may not be, but I wanna be.

@WhatDoYouFeel1 Жыл бұрын

Diagnosed with BPD, used to have a Favourite Person for 9 years. This person abandoned me in January, I'm still grieving. It's been the most painful thing I ever experienced. We should talk more about what a FP is and how does it feel to have one - or lose one, which is even worse

@j.m2187 11 ай бұрын

Going through exactly the same phase . We will heal ❤️‍🩹

@Stephania006 11 ай бұрын

Omg guys, I can't believe how all of you are so positive! I have the exact same situation - abandoned me before New Years and it was almost 7 years. You wrote 3 months ago that you still grieving, now it's almost 6 months and I feel like it's getting worse than before, like if I don't get them back I'm gonna die... All of you wrote about the FP thing and "there is only one person for us" mentality and I just can't believe y'all feel the same way as me, it's so true but the worst part is I don't know what to do with it! I can't even go to work, he left me alone with everything, mother is a nightmare, I have nothing... Therapy is expensive and I don't wanna change my mind I only want him, everything you wrote is so true but I don't know what to do about it😭

@rimmalikover9724 10 ай бұрын

@@aidandempsey6493There are many people in this world. Find others who are supportive of your emotional needs..

@emclaire18 8 ай бұрын

Did they abandon you or did your actions have consequences? Every person with BPD claims to have been "abandoned" when in reality their ill behavior causes people to not want to be around them. My sister, for instance, is a miserable human being and when I went no contact she claims I "abandoned her" to other without fully disclosing the absolutely bonkers behavior she displayed. Enough victim mentality.

@shark_boytoy 5 ай бұрын

@@emclaire18Ableism, Homophobia, Transphobia are all rooted in racism

@pearlynchua8195 2 жыл бұрын

A summary if you don't want to watch the whole video: 1. Fear of abandonment 2. Persistent and wide mood swings 3. Paranoid thinking 4. Emptiness 5. Impulsivity 6. Splitting (in emotions) 7. Trust Issues 8. Risk factors for development can be environmental and/or inherited 9. Changes in interest or value

@ikhebdieishetnietgoeddathe4057 2 жыл бұрын

The video misses selfharm

@kaileyb8942 2 жыл бұрын

It’s like being trapped in a mind and body that you don’t even understand yourself. It’s exhausting

@jimperry7808 2 жыл бұрын

I described it as being in a mental fight with myself and getting my ass kicked!

@cockatootledo 2 жыл бұрын

It is so so so sucky I'm with ya.

@carlaehlert2190 2 жыл бұрын

Yes yes. It is. Every day.....I know they say things will heel wen you loose ur child and mom .but omg it still hurts.

@thehyliansheep5604 2 жыл бұрын

exactlyyy

@MaiteAbreu 2 жыл бұрын

exhausting!!!!!!!!

@redbeard9996 3 жыл бұрын

The way I picture BPD is that your mind is split. Your constantly trying to figure out what you feel about things, and when you think you have an idea you mind decides to flip on you and you feel the complete opposite. It feels like my mind is shattered into different pieces and there constantly changing.

@luckyguerin13 3 жыл бұрын

It’s exhausting. I overthink EVERYTHING because of it. I drive people crazy because I lose my shit one minute and then I feel sooooo awful and apologize like crazy.

@bugs59dd86 3 жыл бұрын

Excellently put! Totally identify with you

@ruchaj1748 3 жыл бұрын

Totally true! It's like I cannot make a decision and the moment I do, my mind starts cross questioning. And there I go submerge my head into self doubt and paranoia.

@redbeard9996 3 жыл бұрын

@@ruchaj1748 it's a huge struggle in life we have to deal with and can take years to slowly figure out, if ever. I hope you and everyone else can figure your journeys and struggles out. As hard as it may be to believe, peace can be achieved and I hope you find it someday.

@hihi-nm3uy 3 жыл бұрын

YES

@rossgofield Жыл бұрын

As 38 year old with BPD I can safely say I am still completely lost in life! From the outside I have a very successful life with a good job, house, cars, etc however this condition has taunted me from ever since I can remember. I have lost friends, family and now my Wife because of my inability to be "normal". It is amazing how quick people are ready to abandon you when you need help the most. The NHS seem unwilling to help and the numerous drugs they prescribe appear to do nothing for me.

@sugarcope4253 Жыл бұрын

One thing I hear that’s been working is DBT or dialectical behavioral therapy. Worth looking into for acceptance mind fullness and tools for emotional regulation

@rossgofield Жыл бұрын

@@sugarcope4253 Thanks.

@danieltriana4228 2 ай бұрын

Im 34 and still feel lost. I have no idea what Im doing or want. I understand you completely. I have someone who tries very hard to keep me happy and I love them but it’s always the abandonment issue that makes me push them away.

@irenastojadinovic1393 Ай бұрын

Try Deep PEAT, Basic Peat or Dp4. Techiques were invented by Živorad Mihajlović Slavinski.

@yulisam.o.7488 2 жыл бұрын

This whole time I’ve been thinking my depression has come back but I truly believe it bpd now . The guilt I get for the strong hatred I sometimes get towards close people to me for the slightest errors . Even more the feeling of being empty and not understanding who I am for years on end :(

@AMNmrrll 3 жыл бұрын

My partner has BPD and after a lot of therapy (before we met), she feels she has a pretty decent handle on coping with it. Sometimes she still needs to hear me reassure her of my feelings and intentions. And sometimes a mood swing will catch us off guard, but we carefully work through it together. If you have BPD, your life can get better and you can have healthy, fulfilling relationships. Please don't give up.

@meet.me.on.venus. 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your supportive and encouraging message

@dantesinferno1258 2 жыл бұрын

I know your intentions are good but the BPD in me can say stfu what do you know and don’t be so patronising to tell me not to give up… I’ve lived like this for 30 years. That’s the black and white thinking cas on another day I’d say your g/f is so lucky to have you and your clearly empathetic. That is the joys of splitting…. I know your intentions are good, no offence, I’m just using your comment to show the craziness that is BPD. (And your g/f is very lucky to have you!)

@annelisepieratt7494 2 жыл бұрын

This is just the best comment and it gives me so much hope. Thank you.

@Athenainspiring 2 жыл бұрын

your comment brought tears to my eyes, thank you for sharing this and thank you on behalf of your partner for being such a steady, understanding and caring presence for her.

@emmyc9411 2 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend and i have worked together through it and like you said still struggle sometimes. Its nice to hear a good similar situation. Sometimes i still panic when I realize ill have this mental illness forever

@ReynaSingh 3 жыл бұрын

people with BPD are often misunderstood and mislabeled as "crazy". thank you for sharing this, hopefully we can all understand each other a little better with these videos.

@Psych2go 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, we hope these videos can help promote awareness.

@DrayWasTaken 3 жыл бұрын

agreed

@chandlerrose4545 3 жыл бұрын

We are a very misunderstood group.

@Miarahdd 3 жыл бұрын

Yea and it doesn't help that in movies the person with BPD is always the crazy ex-girlfriend or the crazy girl trying to get this one boy and willing to kill for it..

@cur1lia 3 жыл бұрын

media portrays us very poorly, but i also feel like the people that end up having a platform that have bpd have self diagnosed themselves or end up further stigmatizing the disorder

@kianaaurel7005 Жыл бұрын

I'm not diagnosed with BPD and am not self-diagnosing either with this video. But these similar symptoms I go through really cost me my relationship with people. I have always assumed things and made impulsive decisions without even thinking. I overthink a lot and end up thinking the wrong thing. I just hope I get the help I need whatever the case is.

@thebluewolf2472 Жыл бұрын

ADHD is very similar with its symptoms, I thought I had BPD, but I was diagnosed with ADHD and it makes complete sense. I'd look into the possibility of both, maybe even mild autism would be a good idea to look into, as it can present in similar ways.

@Erika-pq7ip Жыл бұрын

SAME!!😢

@aryansigrid Жыл бұрын

Find some support.

@yourname... 9 ай бұрын

The worst part about bpd that has really affected me is the intense mood swings and suicidal ideation. I don’t think i can take it much longer but i will try to keep living for my friends and family. Im just starting high school so i hope its better than last year. I wish all of you luck whoever is reading this. We can get through this ❤

@khairuna- 7 ай бұрын

Hey, just so you know, I'm rooting for you 🤍 hang in there you can do this

@Ctsone2 5 ай бұрын

Hey dude trust me, I’m sure this prolly sounds dumb and you’ve heard it a thousand times already, but it always gets better. Even if it seems like this is it, this is the end, it’s too much. It always gets a little better, just focus on the good stuff you do have and don’t ever listen to the suicidal voices, they can’t be trusted and they lie abt everything. One thing I think to help is “am I better than I was six months ago?”

@m.h.4144 4 ай бұрын

@@Ctsone2It won’t get automatically better tho. There is a reason why People commit suicide etc. it will get worse if you do nothing about it. It’s like a disease you have to take measures to not let it escalate. Just sitting around and hoping it will get better won’t happen. Everyone has to find out how they can battle it for themselves.

@vintage_peace 4 ай бұрын

It gets better. I felt so relieved after I graduated high school. Something about school settings just make everything worse. The social anxieties of it all can seem unbearable but please hang in there! It’s amazing that you’re so self aware at a young age. Also avoid narcissistic people they make BPD worse. Praying for you ❤

@m.h.4144 4 ай бұрын

@@vintage_peace definitely 💯

@Jakob123999 3 жыл бұрын

“People with PBD are not necessarily bad people, they are people in need of support.”

@rachelrosen5501 3 жыл бұрын

That line really bothered me. Most often, people with BPD were victims of childhood abuse...at the hands of people who were not necessarily good people. That one line soured me, so trite and condescending.

@reticull7035 3 жыл бұрын

@@rachelrosen5501 almost implies that most people with the condition are.

@yuukoichihara5109 3 жыл бұрын

@@reticull7035 she's just saying that we have to be careful with our judgements.. that BPD doesn't make a person bad, even though in some situations that's what it seems.. if a person is really bad, it's not from having a borderline personality disorder.

@reticull7035 3 жыл бұрын

@@yuukoichihara5109 what makes someone really bad?

@yuukoichihara5109 3 жыл бұрын

@@reticull7035 basically, people who do bad things to others.. intentionally. so, they use people for their own gain and don't care if their actions cause harm to others. most cases they do just to cause harm to them.. just because they think it's fun.

@goodnightspooky 2 жыл бұрын

Shoutout to all my fellow bordercups trying to educate themselves about their condition. You’re on the right path to improving mental health.

@cjmoore1231 2 жыл бұрын

I've never heard the phrase bordercup used before, but it honestly just made my day lol

@DirigiblePlum 2 жыл бұрын

@Digby Dooright it sounds like a brand for a menstrual cup...

@cjmoore1231 2 жыл бұрын

@@trapcounty4648 then that's totally fine too, you're still trying to educate yourself with the intent of improving your mental health ^^

@hsholtz06_22 2 жыл бұрын

Hell yes! Bordercup, I love it. My new self descriptor 😎

@emprosiumempi3184 2 жыл бұрын

its so fucking tiring though lol.

@VanessaIrene._ Жыл бұрын

I think i had BPD and accidentally healed myself from changing my patterns, reading scripture and not giving up. I’m like amazed at how i seen this years later.

@user-ol4eo2ln1d 2 жыл бұрын

my mom has BPD. Until I watched this video I had no idea what BPD really was. I think now I know how to understand from my mom's perspective. I was so blinded by my own anger toward her that I never thought of how she felt. Hopefully, I can improve myself from here and on.

@heretakeachickennugget4899 3 жыл бұрын

the fact that no one knows who I really am makes me depressed. and by everyone that means me too

@itsiraa 3 жыл бұрын

I feel this. The unstable self is one of the worst symptoms imo.

@rosaliewildeman8042 3 жыл бұрын

I know... I got diagnosed with depression 3 years ago, but it turned out to be bpd. It's confusing, even for us. Separating your mental disorder from you as a person is probably one of the hardest things you'll ever do, but it's so worth it. You aren't your bpd. I know every mood swing feels like a tsunami, but that's okay. Keep going love

@thesexiestbaby 3 жыл бұрын

same

@DanieMylesK 3 жыл бұрын

Me too.. my boyfriend questions my honesty a lot😪

@evelin7843 3 жыл бұрын

i really felt the last line, it feels like i dont know myself and my emotions and how to handle them, just feels empty

@inbasicterms-popculturevid1704 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.

@Psych2go 3 жыл бұрын

Is there ever truly an end?

@strangewayfaringstranger 3 жыл бұрын

@@Psych2go You know that's a good question. Guess it all depends in what you believe in and what happens after. But they also say everything eventually ends right? That both good and bad things, eventually come to an end.

@tarahendrickson1208 3 жыл бұрын

@xuxalush same. I'm currently on a break from my bf because of this.

@kay-sp4gk 3 жыл бұрын

Man i feel the exact same way, i’m very good at connecting with people at first, but the moment i started really being friends with them i start to isolate because i’m so terrified of them leaving me or whatever and end up saying things i regret to try and keep them at somewhat of a distance

@julian-xy7gh 3 жыл бұрын

@@tarahendrickson1208 same here I lost my girlfriend because I got to paranoid over a long distance relationship. The only way I saw to get her back was trying to get more and more attention. I love her so much, but now I hate life

@BucketHeadianHagg Жыл бұрын

The only thing about my experiences with getting professional help, was that they always wanted me to take medications that made me act and feel really weird. They want you to taper UP, to higher and higher doses, and tell you right away that it’s for the rest of your life. I’m sure many of you will disagree with me on this, but I stopped taking the meds because I couldn’t properly care for my children or focus at work. I was on medication adjustments for two entire years! I tried them all.. and finally said screw it, and decided not to take anything at all. I continued going to therapy and group meetings, and learned how to recognize and deal with my swings so that I could live my life,instead of being strung out on government checks afraid to leave my own house. (That’s how it was for me on those meds) I’m not giving advice. I’m not suggesting anything, either. I’m just sharing how I’ve been doing it for almost 35yrs. My roommate takes the meds. It works really well for her. She’s been using them for many years too, so there’s the other side of the coin. I love channels like this one, and several others on YT, too. They help a lot!

@danamacosko3488 Жыл бұрын

Could I ask which medications were making you feel that way? I have my first appointment for medication referral soon and I’m worried

@BucketHeadianHagg Жыл бұрын

@@danamacosko3488 Hi Dana, listen my friend, these drugs effect everyone differently. I, myself, have adverse reactions to every damn thing! Lol! Pain meds make me want to clean my house. Antihistamines make me feel like I’m on crack and about to have a heart attack. Motrin makes me really sleepy. Lol! I’m a mess 😂 So, for me, it was Prozac, Wellbutrin, Zoloft, Lexipro and a few others I can’t remember because it was 20yrs ago, but girl omg! All of it made me feel like I was jumping out of my skin! I couldn’t sleep, stay awake, smile, cry, and because I’m a touring musician for my living, it wasn’t able to perform on those meds. I didn’t feel like anything at all, but weirdly in the background, my body and mind were racing. I couldn’t stand the feeling of all that kinetic energy coursing through my body while I was sitting there like a zombie. They say it takes 30 days to acclimate your system to the medication, but I tried so many of them for 60 or sometimes even 90 days to try and get it going the right way, but I was performing badly, started losing contracts for work, and feeling like I was going to have a breakdown. Again, this is just my experience: I stopped trying to find drugs to fix me, and just divorced my husband! Like I said, that was 20yrs ago and I’m doing fine. For me, the meds made my life worse. Talking to a therapist and my trusted and loyal girlfriends is what gets me through life, but for some people, the meds really do help a lot! My room mate takes them (thank god! She’s happy and balanced and feels good all the time! She takes Prozac) I hope my very long winded reply helps in some way. I’m here for you if you need me. Hugs from Las Vegas ❤️

@leaf6356 Жыл бұрын

there's no meds for BPD, only meds that counteract the highs and lows that the disorder brings. since being diagnosed, I've decided against starting meds. the psych told me right away that I should be on fluoxetine and I told them I wanted to do research first. I don't want to lose the ability to have highs and lows. that's what the human experience is about. I'm going to try DBT and see how that goes for me instead. I was on citalopram a few years ago and it made me go into psychosis and almost unalive myself. I don't think I can do meds lol

@savannahhenry8323 2 жыл бұрын

It took extreme patience and unrelenting support from my family, but I've been successfully treated for BPD. BPD is a nightmare to suffer through, so anyone who has BPD and is struggling please know treatment is available. My life has improved so much and (aside from the insane reality we currently live in) is stable. It was really hard to get to this point and it took years, but I'm so glad I got where I am now. It's something you have to maintain, find the right treatment team, and identify when you need to use coping skills, but it's possible.

@soogaboogabdjsnxg 2 жыл бұрын

Can I ask if you are taking medication, or is it through therapy and coping skills that you've been successful?

@havanna6149 11 ай бұрын

@savannahhenry8323 how long did it take to treat this? And how did you treat it? Appreciate your response.

@apryllin1981 3 жыл бұрын

My fiancé had BPD but we figured it too late and he didn’t survive his drug habit. My relationship with him was the best and worst relationship of my lifetime. He was a beautiful soul and had so much left to do in life. His son and I miss him everyday. Do not take this lightly if you or loved one are in this situation. Please seek help before it’s too late. Do not give up! You are worth it.

@purrlyna 3 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry for your loss.

@apryllin1981 3 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you so much! He is deeply missed, and we will see him again one day. One thing I do know for certain... our souls never die. He came to me in a lucid dream, giving me so much love and hope❤️💫

@Booksandstrawberries 3 жыл бұрын

I'm really sorry for your loss. I think my partner is dealing with me in the same way. I was currently diagnosed with BPD and it's really hard for both of us. He's trying to be patient and I'm trying not to take it out on him, even when it's too much. And the thought of hurting him is one of the few things that sometimes keeping me for hurting myself too. I feel you 🌠

@conorkelly666 3 жыл бұрын

Its painful reading this and thinking, this is probably how my fiancee feels. I need to get a life and get better. I hope you and your son are OK, I bet his dad would have loved him so much. I am so, so sorry if I am out of line to say that.

@conorkelly666 3 жыл бұрын

I am trying to beat drugs and BPD too.

@Noffilus 2 жыл бұрын

As someone who has BPD, I can confidently say that this alone has ruined a lot of relationships/bonds w people in general for me. It isn't easy but with the help of therapy and antidepressants (cus i have a whole slue of mental things going on) I'm getting better. If I can do it, so do you. Stay strong

@jexycryptogawd8199 2 жыл бұрын

Reach out to the name on my channel above 👆🏼 he got me psychedelics that cured me

@AngryZukoHere 2 жыл бұрын

I'm glad your doing better! I think that maybe I have a mental disorder but I'm gonna have to reach out to someone for a full diagnosis. I've been diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety, and I think it's important that I reach out to someone who can help so nothing gets worse. And my sister may have bipolar disorder so it could be that.

@Noffilus 2 жыл бұрын

@@AngryZukoHere I highly recommend that you seek the help you want/need. Getting started on your healing journey will do so so much for you. I truly hope the best for both you and your sister. Take care

@AngryZukoHere 2 жыл бұрын

@@Noffilus Thank you 😊

@missnici1504 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, same here. I lost some friends over the years...relationsgips were ruined...that hurts...

@pixiwix 8 ай бұрын

I have severe BPD that, although it's gotten better with age, seriously interferes with my daily life. However, I've also been happily married for 10 years. BPD is not a hopeless curse. It's important to be aware of your symptoms and how the disorder uniquely presents within you and do your best to minimize those symptoms. It takes A LOT of internal work and transparency with yourself and others. The second half of the equation is to find stable support. You can be happy and loved with BPD. Hang in there, everyone.

@jacobcrozier Жыл бұрын

My whole life i've had moments where i was scared of being alone by myself (especially in my house), black and white thinking, self destructive behavior, and sometimes i have to go and remind myself that i am my own person because sometimes i don't recognize myself. And you aren't alone in this situation.

@xoxo-gossipgirl8744 3 жыл бұрын

*9 Things You Need to Know About BPD* *1.* Fear of abandonment 0:57 *2.* Persistent and wide mood swings 1:16 *3.* Paranoid thinking 1:48 *4.* Emptiness 2:16 *5.* Impulsivity 2:52 *6.* Splitting 3:22 *7.* Trust issues 4:00 *8.* Risk factors for development can be environmental and/or inherited 4:26 *9.* Change in interest and values 4:55 thanks for the video! 💛

@DrayWasTaken 3 жыл бұрын

xoxo -Gossip Girl thank you.

@derin937 3 жыл бұрын

Thankss

@chantellerutherford1475 3 жыл бұрын

** 2. 1:16

@xoxo-gossipgirl8744 3 жыл бұрын

Chantelle Rutherford my bad, thank you!

@annekabrannon8230 3 жыл бұрын

thanks!

@skepticat1581 3 жыл бұрын

I have BPD and it’s absolutely exhausting. I lost all my “friends” due to it and feel incredibly lonely.

@Lazy_Prophet 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@dusk6634 3 жыл бұрын

I have a friend with bpd and it's genuinely freaking hard being their friend and it starts to affect their own mental health. It hasn't affected mine yet but i fear it might. Nonetheless I'll stick with her as long as i can

@christinecorio1820 3 жыл бұрын

The same thing happened to me. I know it’s my fault and I know I cut them off because I simply cannot trust people and fear that even the slightest things I do may make them abandon and so to avoid them leaving me, I leave them. You’re not alone :(

@jamesday3302 3 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@Luna-ii4mx 3 жыл бұрын

Me too :( and no one cares about me even though i care about everyone. Im tired of being treated like im not worth shit. I just want someone to care for that cares for me in return

@TristaSpencer 10 күн бұрын

BPD is so incredibly painful. Physically so, not just emotionally. But the emotional pain is something you can’t describe to someone who hasn’t experienced it. I feel so discouraged many days because it feels so overwhelming. Years of therapy with progress, but still so much to go and still so painful. Thank you for this video

@serenengelbart8121 2 жыл бұрын

the happiness this gives me for it to be explained. i was diagnosed a year ago but still i love watching these

@cybersnot707 3 жыл бұрын

.-. Me cutting off men I’ve talked to bc I felt the text messages change from “goodmorning” to “gm”

@mentalwealth6454 3 жыл бұрын

me cutting off my parents when they asked me to turn off the kitchen light too mean.

@dannabae9186 3 жыл бұрын

feels

@GrumbleGamer18 3 жыл бұрын

Why do I feel this... literally scared the girl I’m talking to is going to stop caring or I’ll get a change like this and my mind will just 💥

@cowl6867 3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit, is that why she cut me off

@mikuenjoyerXD 3 жыл бұрын

Me cutting- uh oh yeah

@nickmeade6358 3 жыл бұрын

I have BPD and it’s definitely a struggle, reality for me looks way different for you. I’m consistently tired and talked down to, labeled as crazy, and forgotten about because people don’t want to be around the crazy guy.

@nickiping4822 3 жыл бұрын

I feels. Being a bit unstable and impulsive doesnt make us crazy. We feel things strong af

@lemonade9503 3 жыл бұрын

I’m with you... my sister called me an attention seeker after i opened up about my condition. Its like im always wrong either way unless i do things their way 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Withthia 3 жыл бұрын

Hi...could you really elaborate on BPD...I'm trying to self diagnose 🤭

@mimisart 3 жыл бұрын

Hugs. You’re not alone 🌸💙

@nickmeade6358 3 жыл бұрын

with YANKEH I wouldn’t try to self diagnose tbh you can talk to someone about your symptoms which would be smarter in my opinion

@bayleyhull3892 2 жыл бұрын

I am diagnosed with BPD and This video couldn’t be more right, I’ve shared this video with all my closest friends just to give them the further understanding of what is happening in my mind. Thank you for this video

@BunnyLuvsYouu Жыл бұрын

Girl you simplify things so well I actually can process what you say and you’re the sweetest, thank youu💘🫶🏼

@darylzahurones8751 2 жыл бұрын

My soon to be ex wife has BPD. I did all the counseling and classes books, ect to try and better myself. When she was diagnosed I watched videos on BPD and the such to educate myself. To avoid triggers, always reassuring, not engaging the outburst. I still got sent to jail for doing nothing except love her and try to sort through BPD with her. She would call police during outbursts and me being a big man always took the fall. Even if I wasn't the outbursts target. I am facing more jail time yet because of BPD unregulated in her life. She has done little to help herself with this disorder. She is a great, loving, kind, and a perfect wife, except BPD. I don't blame her I blame BPD and the trauma that as caused it I know she didn't mean it and can't control it. I love her so much. The love of my life!!!! BPD has taken most my family and friends from my life. Has taken my freedom, and self worth away. I just can't do it anymore!!!! If I stayed suicide was my next option. I had to leave which I know is abandonment, and a big trigger. I miss her so much, but my life can't take it any longer. I cry as I type these words for what bpd has taken from me. I need help. I hope sharing this helps others, because all of the other comments don't. It's like listening to a mellow BPD episode. It's sad, I'm sad. I feel like the only one out there with these troubles.

@kyliegarciafarmer3411 Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry about this.

@bgcompany4262 Жыл бұрын

Daryl, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. I went through a period of time years ago that felt as you describe. Someone I care so deeply for was arrested for driving under the influence. Seeing her for the traumatized kid she was, I was crushed to see her sequela of the chronic, multidimensional, enveloping abuse she experienced. There were difficult sacrifices associated with my involvement in her life as well. I've had many painful experiences in life before and since and looking back 17 years later, feeling a helpless observer to the suffering I witnessed remains one of the top most painful times of my life. When I was involved, it was painful. When I wasn't involved, it was painful. While I promise you are not alone in what you experience, I connect with the less common capacity for deep empathy conveyed in your post- that can make it so intensely that much more painful! I wonder if it would help to try to connect with other people in your area with a similar experience- maybe a group therapy experience or meet up. Things can get better for your ex if she can find a therapist she with whom she can take the leap of trust who is both competent and caring. I wish you both future peace and wellness! Hugs

@pastaheads2174 Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about this and I want you to know you are a hero in my book for sticking it out as long as you did. I have BPD and often feel attacked by my family when they haven't actually done anything wrong. It's hard to have false memories and experiences but that doesn't mean our love ones deserve to face consequences for things they didn't do! Hopefully she will get therapy so she can heal and learn to adapt and be in a healthier state. Till then it is better for you to put boundaries and distance. Also find healthy relationships and people in your life. I also recommend therapy/counseling for you. That is a heavy burden you have dealt with a trained professional with understanding of BPD and what the families go through will be able to help you heal and make this an easier process! I wish you all the best!

@cridow Жыл бұрын

this may sound unkind but you should have left sooner. you cant "fix" someone else. and you cant remove a disorder from someone.

@laurencejamieson3016 Жыл бұрын

@@cridow he's probably meaning for her to get support and a better understanding of herself and her condition. Obviously in timr managing her condition. I wouldn't jump to what you've just said. Especially how much he's been through. That is unkind.

@asian.draper6324 2 жыл бұрын

As someone with BPD, I really relate to fear of abandonment, mood swings, trust issues and emptiness.

@Kaity490 Жыл бұрын

My love of my life left me randomly. And she has BPD. I miss her everyday. But she made me the bad guy in her story. I hope that she forgives me. I pray for her daily. She is amazing on the inside and can on the out. I hope she gets the help she needs. She deserves so much more than feeling empty. I don't hate her at all.

@heycristal Жыл бұрын

I have bpd & I left the love of my life out impulsivity & Abandonment issues. I was afraid he would leave me first so I was waiting on a reason to leave him. He gave me that reason but I blew it out of proportion to flip the script. It’s been a year & 7 months & im still not over it. He reached out to apologize when it should’ve been the other way around! I was so relieved that he reached out so I could also apologize. There wasn’t a happy ending. We’re both Christian & I can feel our hearts pray for each other still. But he has a battle of his own. Addiction. I love him & sometimes I pray God will bring us back together for the 4th time. When I read your comment I read it from his perspective I miss him

@dianefoster3059 11 ай бұрын

Would you guys please pray for me and my husband, too? We are Christians also. He splits and is really scared of me and says he doesn't want to draw near to God, etc. I am being sanctified. I will pray for you both right now too.

@FalcFalcFalcFalc Жыл бұрын

I dated a girl with BPD, she was the sweetest person I've known, in fact at the moment I thought she was the love of my life. But yeah, I tried and failed to provide her with the comfort she needed. I did everything I could to reassure her I loved her, through any means, gifts, words, actions, remembering details, but her mood swings started tearing my heart apart. I don't want to victimize myself here, it's just like, I had to give up on her. I'd still so everything to make her happy. I wish we could still be friends in the future, I'm really glad I had the opportunity to know her.

@omaramin6130 Жыл бұрын

😩

@FalcFalcFalcFalc 11 ай бұрын

@@ashleybird yeah you are totally right, I should mess up my own mental health to try and fail to please another person, thanks Ashley, you are so smart!!

@FalcFalcFalcFalc 11 ай бұрын

@@ashleybird who the hell are you to tell me i didn't love her unconditionally? I went through a lot of stress and put a ton of effort in making a comfortable space for her just for her to tell me she was fed up with me, then i gave up on trying. Don't ever go on the internet telling people what you think they should have done, know-it-all

@HadyehCharkameh 11 ай бұрын

@Ashley dear Ashley, he is right. People diagnosed with BPD are really difficult to put up with. They idealize you one moment and when they are happy you think they are the funniest and smartest person you've ever met, but after a while pr even after some hours they easily belittle you and leave you confused, shocked, and miserable. I've gone through this and I know how much this is stressful.

@FalcFalcFalcFalc 11 ай бұрын

@@ashleybird i didn't leave wtf, she left first, why do you think you know MY story?

@brandiwatson7628 2 жыл бұрын

Nine things about BPD you need to know: 1. Fear of abandonment 2. Persistent and wide mood swings 3. Paranoid thinking 4. Emptiness/drug use 5. Impulsivity 6. Splitting (id. no middle ground, very high or very low 7. Trust Issues 8. Risk factors for development can be environmental and/or inherited (childhood trauma starts in early adulthood) 9. Change in interest and values

@MariAdkins 2 жыл бұрын

@@willnicholson18 LMFAO

@alisarsour8552 2 жыл бұрын

@@willnicholson18 my mother has borderline personality disorder I live over 2 hours away there's a reason for that. It was unbearable to grow up in that household. She has the essence of Amber Heard but is also dangerous to others. She refuses to get help. I sent her a mother's Day card and a text and now she's playing that she never received it or is acknowledging it because she wants her way in her way is to get me on the phone directly so she can lash out at me because she's having a bad day. I sent her a follow-up text after she left the voicemail saying she needed to talk to me I told her to text me no response again. The only way I can communicate with her is through email and texting. Every time I have a conversation with her I can count on one thing she'll rip me apart and make me feel bad and try to make me feel that it's all my fault. You know what she also has never told a lie or been dishonest in any way. Yeah she's a real Mary Poppins

@mw4140 2 жыл бұрын

@@willnicholson18 💀

@userm180 2 жыл бұрын

@@alisarsour8552 im really sorry ab that. hope youre ok

@petergriffiinbirdistheword 2 жыл бұрын

Also, having and relating to all of these things does not mean you have BPD. I encourage people to NOT diagnose themselves with BPD just because they can relate to the condition. Always get a professional diagnosis. This comment is not for anyone in particular. Just a generalized comment, because people online have a habit of jumping to conclusions.

@hluna9938 3 жыл бұрын

as a person with bpd I would have loved to hear about how loving and caring we are not just how stigmatized we are...

@deanjohnson7646 3 жыл бұрын

Amen to that

@ashironikko5860 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah,we loved people so much more than we do to our selves, it's only when our bpd is triggered we turn into this.

@TVManson 2 жыл бұрын

Funny that you said that since I heard a lot, that BPD is for lack of better therm a demon possesion. People with BPD are slowly crawling into your heart only to abuse you emotionally and physically. But nevertheless it is a serious condition. I know 1 person in my live with BPD and I wish I could be 1000 miles away from them lol.

@hadleyrudge5671 2 жыл бұрын

@@TVManson how is it funny? And why is it necessary to add that. They’re someone with BPD saying that it’s not all there is to their person and that was kind of a dick move to say it’s funny they say that. If you’re not meaning it in a harmful way maybe look at your phrasing or don’t say anything

@LaNoturna 2 жыл бұрын

Not everyone with BPD is loving and caring, though. Good and bad people have mental illnesses, so it really just depends on the person.

@ChilledPsycho Жыл бұрын

You know my first time finding this video I almost started crying due to the past of never having a title for what my mental state goes through, thank you for helping me find how to go about getting help keep doing what your doing. Also your voice is very beuatiful and relaxing so I still come back just to calm down and re think my life.

@shesalittleoff3288 2 жыл бұрын

I have BPD.. and I’m a introvert I’m glad to know I’m not alone and there are other ppl without who is willing to understand.. 🙏🏽❤️ Thank you

@filip6994 2 жыл бұрын

1. Fear of abandonment 2. Persistent & wide mood swings 3. Paranoid thinking 4. Emptiness 5. Impulsivity 6. Splitting 7. Trust issues 8. Risk factors for development can be environmental and/or inherited 9. Change in interests and values Hope this helps

@whyknot172 2 жыл бұрын

3 through 8 got me. I happened to work my way out of 1 and 2 after several years.

@lumine6675 2 жыл бұрын

Ummm.. I have at least 6 of those symptoms-

@aIfies 2 жыл бұрын

why do i have all of these

@sethreign8103 2 жыл бұрын

Doctors made an accurate diagnosis

@user-toomany 2 жыл бұрын

@@lumine6675 me too-

@gagelaney3874 3 жыл бұрын

Bpd has taken my life away. I got a degree and can’t work because of bpd. I tried therapy and it was working. I wouldn’t want anyone to go through this. Hope all of you are well!

@monikamahantagoswami9831 3 жыл бұрын

Everything is going to be fine. God is with you :)

@shesamigans7298 3 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean it’s awful, I hate it and I don’t think people who don’t have BPD quite realise how exhausting it can get

@jemmaperiod2872 3 жыл бұрын

They don’t let u work or u just can’t personally?? Plsss let me know !!

@Athenainspiring 2 жыл бұрын

BPD was on the fast track to ruining my life about 5 years ago but since then with the support of good friends and family I'm in a much better place and looking forward to a lot of things right now. Please don't lose hope, it gets so much easier to live with when you understand it and learn how to manage it.

@jeanettesimpkins7660 Жыл бұрын

This explains so much..I have been diagnosed with BPD and I felt like a roller coaster..its slowed down but man what a ride my mind is taking me on..affected my relationships with even my kids. My daughter & sons has been my inspiration to get answers and treatment..Thank you

@ryulein1977 27 күн бұрын

I am watching bpd videos just to understand my bpd friend more and tbh its kind of interesting learning about other mental illnesses.

@emilyh8974 3 жыл бұрын

why do i never see anyone talking about “the favorite person” :(

@angelina-pr8gu 3 жыл бұрын

yes!! “the favorite person” is something that is rarely addressed and it really should be covered

@shadowRULESshadow 3 жыл бұрын

I agree! The "favorite person" is a HUUUUUGE factor yet nobody ever talks about it. The "favorite person" goes through so much Hell, they should be mentioned.

@VampiraVonGhoulscout 3 жыл бұрын

I have multiple favourite people: the artists and actors whom I made into a surrogate family of role models because I didn't have parents who cared enough.

@smallpotato5445 3 жыл бұрын

What do you mean?

@VampiraVonGhoulscout 3 жыл бұрын

@@smallpotato5445 Right. So. Basically, there is one person in your life who you put on a pedestal above all else and will sacrifice your entire life and mental wellbeing for. But it can also mean that a) you spend your entire life in constant terror that this person whom is your only reason to keep going will abandon you, and b) this can mean that there is a lot of pressure on this person as we see them as all perfect, all knowing and can make no mistakes. This means that when they do make mistakes, because humans are fallible, some people can shift to not liking them for a few days because of the black and white thinking and the abandonment issues from past trauma. It is not uncommon for abusers or toxic people to be super nice before suddenly turning on you so this is something that is ingrained in them from childhood. Everyone will leave or hurt you at some point because you aren't worthy. Which is why I get so pissed when I see these people being like, "never date a borderline, they deserve to be alone" because it perpetuates the same message their abusers taught them as a kid. You may as well hand them a noose tbh, because that attitude stops people with BPD from seeking treatment and getting better. But that is a whole other rant for another day.

@mewo792 3 жыл бұрын

Me after every fact listed about Bpd: "Ahh yes... relatable." "Mhm true." "This is so accurate."

@tarahendrickson1208 3 жыл бұрын

literally!! after I was diagnosed i read about it and it all made so much sense.

@AdrianColley 3 жыл бұрын

It's when you say "wtf, when were they reading my diary; in fact, when did I start writing the diary they clearly just read?".

@kiwiabcdefghijklmnopqrstuvw 3 жыл бұрын

@@AdrianColley ＼(°o°)／

@bperry573 Жыл бұрын

its eerie at how accurate the symptoms you point out are. I suffer from all of them and was diagnosed with BPD only about a year ago.

@frankiestein1713 Жыл бұрын

I watched this over a year ago and was in complete in denial, but now, after being diagnosed and starting medication (and starting therapy soon) I see it now, and am thankful that I know and have ways to treat it

@emilyb3622 2 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend started reading the book “stop walking on eggshells” and it talks about those with BPD as if we are manipulative abusers, and it hurts. I wish he would understand the pain I feel everyday without demonizing me.

@You-rg4ec 2 жыл бұрын

If he’s demonizing you then you should leave him immediately