Q&A | wasting time in a relationship, comparison, is marriage scary?

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Feels like a good time to drop a new girl chat. In this video, I touch on topics like marriage, friendships, and more! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video. Start your therapy journey here: betterhelp.com/jenn
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0:00 - Intro
1:29 - How do I know if the relationship I’m in is a waste of time?
2:51 - How do you deal with not being your best friend’s best friend?
4:31 - Tips on how to make friends in a new city as an adult.
5:55 - Is marriage scary? I know some people don't see a point in it. What are the pros?
8:07 - I’m very bad at expressing my ideas and thoughts. How do I improve this?
9:21 - How do you stop comparing yourself to others?
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@MonicaAmponin 2 жыл бұрын

"do you like the person you're becoming when you're around your partner" was a great reminder for me if I'm wasting time in any kind of relationship. Thank you so much Jenn for the video

@kcgl33 2 жыл бұрын

As the eldest sibling myself, your talks always make me feel like I have someone older and wiser to guide me and I couldn't be happier! Thank you for being our internet big sister, Jenn!

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Eep! Ty so much for watching! x

@zakcooked325 2 жыл бұрын

Jenn your growth is so profound, and I feel like I've been along with you on parts your journey. From watching you, I’ve found that growing up can mean a lot of things for me. It doesn’t mean I should become somebody completely new and stop loving the things I used to love. It means I’ve just added more things to my list. When we’re children, we used to think that when we grew up, we would no longer be vulnerable. However, to grow up is to accept vulnerability, to be alive is to be vulnerable. This is my little sidenote; even though this year academically was tough but rewarding, I feel like I’ve grown so much and learnt so much, and from watching you and seeing where you've started to where to are now, I can say I am grateful that you shared your journey. I am happy with where I am now, but continually working on myself. I just turned twenty and there is still a whole lot of life ahead for me to experience, but I guess that’s part of the process! xoxo

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

This comment is making me smile so big. I'm so pleased to hear that you're working on yourself so diligently especially at only twenty! I could only imagine what kind of person you'll be once you're my age. x

@tomatoeggs48 2 жыл бұрын

@@imjennim I love your kindness so much Jenn!! :)

@lironimm 2 жыл бұрын

You are my internet best friend, you just don’t know it yet 🤪 Love you Jenn! Thank you for your videos ♥️

@minapun1995 2 жыл бұрын

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@ForeverF150 2 жыл бұрын

But I thought she was MY best friend! Lol. 😉

@kathytran1496 2 жыл бұрын

Not being my best friend’s best friend was something that I struggled a lot with in my early 20s. Eventually I came to terms with it once I came to realization that my friendship with her didn’t need to compete with her other friendships. She and I have our own unique, beautiful friendship and even if we’re not always number 1 in the other person’s life, that is still ok.

@laurasoo6574 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jenn for being so open about mental health and being so authentic when talking about struggles we may face in relationships! We all look up to you so much

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you for watching and for the support, Laura! It means the world to me! x

@leelsbless 2 жыл бұрын

I got chills when you talked about Ben and marriage. So happy for you and your lil family 💛

@sophiachang 2 жыл бұрын

loved every second of this 🖤

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Love you Sof 🤍🤍

@okayirene5584 2 жыл бұрын

"Life is just better with the right person" I love this so much. You're truly inspiring. And the way you addressed these issues really changed the way I see things in life. Thank you, jenn.

@francescariili4710 2 жыл бұрын

Jen, I think I can speak for everybody here when I say you've been a pillar for us with your sensitivity and seeing you becoming the woman you are today is touching. Growing with you for all this years creates this strong bond that Im happy anytime you send us your advice and opinions about life. Greetings from Italy ❤️

@breneworld 2 жыл бұрын

I agree too that having that partner to rely on through thick and thin has made me feel stronger and we rely on each other when we both need to fill each others cup, especially in parenting. I relied so much on my husband to help with my daughters. I cannot agree more with what you said.

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

100% I couldn't imagine parenting on my own.

@moonrise987 2 жыл бұрын

the way you talk now sounds and feels more gentle ever since baby lenonn arrived 😌❤ it's been nice seeing these little changes in you as u go through motherhood. always love listening to you and hear your thoughts through all your different phases!

@noonsway 2 жыл бұрын

I love this video ! Some of those questions has obvious answers that we all know already but we just keep denying it ! And you just wanna hear it from someone who you trust (like Jenn) to feel like yeah its time to change things/feelings !!!!

@diamcole 2 жыл бұрын

Going through a full blown identity crisis these days. I find myself questioning everything ~ my relationship, my career, my overall decisions, what I want vs. what I need. I don't know if I can keep going like this, everything just feels so heavy.

@clau_sing_ 2 жыл бұрын

Same girl

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

I wish I could give you a hug. I know it may not seem like it'll happen, but things will settle down and you'll find that path that's meant for you. You got this. x

@diamcole 2 жыл бұрын

@@imjennim Thank you for the encouragement. Seriously, it means a lot 🌷

@Gotcha351 2 жыл бұрын

Same as well here … I’d love to discuss it with someone going through the same process. Let me know ! Lots of love

@diamcole 2 жыл бұрын

@@Gotcha351 Late to respond but I hope all is well! Always open to chat 💕

@Holly_Walker 2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful thoughts on marriage and commitment being a rich foundation to grow on 👌🏼 I see marriage and long term devotion to someone as an exciting adventure and challenge with fruitful rewards along the way.

@lindachchchchia1828 2 жыл бұрын

I'm an ahjumah that watches your videos. It's been incredible to watch your journey on KZfaq and become the woman you are today. And though I'm older, there are so many nuggets of wisdom in your videos that have helped me through some dark times. Your a bright light for so many of us, Jenn. Thank you! ♥️

@katbautista5141 2 жыл бұрын

My family was never really the open and sentimental type, and I am the eldest sibling so I never really gotten any support or advice on how to tackle life. You have been a great help and comfort Jenn. I know we're not related but you definitely are my online big sister and we're all lucky to have you! Thank you so much!

@pixelatedddd 2 жыл бұрын

Jenn I’ve been a fan since clothes encounters! It’s been amazing to watch you grow. I really needed this video today and I’m shocked that strangers on the internet have the same questions as I do. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable.

@jzara3984 2 жыл бұрын

The part about comparing yourself to others and about what it takes to compare yourself to them…taking every part of their life the good and the bad really resonated for me. Like you’re so right, everyone has their struggles, weaknesses, unseen challenges and problems physically or mentally. Would we really rather be them and have their life? What we see is is usually always only the tip of the iceberg of a persons life and their overall situation. Helps me to focus on me and my situation and to keep a things in a good perspective. Loved this video so much. ❤️

@josephiney1128 2 жыл бұрын

i always love your girl talks :”) i rlly needed to hear this, especially the questions about new friends and articulating thoughts and feelings. sending all my love to u!!!

@ClarisseDeGuzman 2 жыл бұрын

The way you talk about marriage with Ben is so inspiring. I'm so happy you are each other's person and your love and growth together is amazing to see. You guys are my standards for relationships :' )

@SaraLim 2 жыл бұрын

I'm about the same age as Jenn and don’t necessarily see her as an older sister, but everything she talks about is so relatable and always helps me find new helpful perspective on real life topics. I feel like I’ve grown up with her. Keep doing you Jenn ❤

@thisismeinagoodmood3810 2 жыл бұрын

It is amazing to me how Jenn has been a comfort zone for many of us through out the years. Thank you, Jenn 💛✨

@d.6396 2 жыл бұрын

It's always so lovely to hear you speak about subjects that are relatable. And even when they aren't it is nice to hear how we can 'deal' with this problem if we ever come across it. Much love to you♥️

@carolynchen317 2 жыл бұрын

This came at such a good time!!! Thank you so much Jenn for this and your videos❤️ I look up to you so much

@brittanytran483 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jenn for doing a girl talk!!!! It’s like listening to my wise older sister that I never had! Love you and I’m so proud of you mama Jenn!!! You’re doing amazing with baby Lennon and are so strong while tackling motherhood!! ❤️

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Aww thank you, Brittany! x

@jajbsgdls 2 жыл бұрын

this video truly felt like a big sis conversation while drinking a cup of tea 🤍 felt like you were talking to my heart! thank you so much for this jenn, you are amazing!

@purpleberryXO 2 жыл бұрын

i hardly ever leave comments on youtube but jenn, thank you for being my internet big sister and for being open about mental health. this year had taken a toll on me and i’m so glad that you exist to share your perspectives on life. listening to you speak is like having sunshine in the dark of the night 💫

@sunnyfilms_2959 2 жыл бұрын

Your q&a’s are so good, thank you for all of the amazing advice ❤️

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Aww I'm so glad you feel that way. n_n;

@Tiffany-vv1el 2 жыл бұрын

Love and appreciate this girl talk so much! I felt like I had been alone on the continuous search for a best friend from elementary school through to college and beyond. Your words were so encouraging. Also, I love your advice on learning how to express my thoughts better. I feel like as far as I can recall any life memory it’s been ones of me just having urgent longings, just searching... searching for belonging, close friendship, purpose, ways to heal, but especially for the right words to express myself. I need to work on this and I will definitely take your advice to read more, and to listen more.

@rebeccatruong7927 2 жыл бұрын

Love you Jenn! Thank you for being so honest on this motherhood journey you're on. And love the last bit of advice on not comparing yourself to others, never thought of it that way!

@sincerelysilvia 2 жыл бұрын

truly big sis energy radiating from the screen 😭 also that wholesome moment when u teared up at knowing that u married the right person when seeing Ben being a good dad. I-

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Ahhh, the postpartum emotions always has me in my feels! x

@jimenaceniceros2143 2 жыл бұрын

Need this so bad. Thank you for existing Jenn!!

@katerinakhabarov3156 2 жыл бұрын

Really needed this! Love that point at the end. Going to try and implement that for myself too. Thank you so much for sharing Jenn ❤

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Of course! Ty for watching! x

@laurenloanzon6506 2 жыл бұрын

I'm currently watching this as I turn 27 today. Every piece of your advice resonates and hits home for me. Jenn - you're truly a bright light who has been so open and vulnerable with us over the past years. Thank you so so much

@zoeadorelefrancais 2 жыл бұрын

As someone who is 2nd in a line of 6 kids (🤯) and the oldest girl, I’ve always been the big sister - but I always wondered what it would be like to have one myself. You’ve definitely become a figure of that for me, and I greatly appreciate your vulnerability and openness with us ♥️ it helps more than you know!

@ranaal-ali178 2 жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head! Thank you for opening up to us.💜

@lokman8584 2 жыл бұрын

when jenn got so emotional when talking about how much of an impact Ben has brought into her life 🥺 you really know she means it wholeheartedly

@Mariadelabahia 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I just moved halfway across the world to a new city and this really resonated with me. You are amazing Jenn

@jjoce14 2 жыл бұрын

we are being blessed by multiple uploads this week!! i hope you're taking a chance to rest too jenn

@anastasiiacher_ 2 жыл бұрын

Omg, Jenn, I’m sooo happy I found u on the internet YEARS ago! I have a deep respect for u as a person and just wanted to remind u, yet again, how much of a positive impact u have on other people’s life❤️ love u!

@sheenprado 2 жыл бұрын

You remind me so much of my big sister and that's why I love watching your videos and listening to your advices. I get to learn a lot of things from you as much as I also get to learn from my big sis. I feel like I'm also growing with you as a person and as a mom. Thank you, Jen! I'm so glad I found your channel 6 years ago. 😌💙

@HannahvanLoonCarlson 2 жыл бұрын

That was the clearest and most helpful Q&A I have seen on youtube! I think your storytelling skills, journaling, and reading have helped you be able to express yourself so clearly. Thanks for sharing some wisdom.

@EllesClorin 2 жыл бұрын

So many helpful bits as always! I definitely struggle with the best friend question and the comparing yourself one but that tip about comparing and getting the whole identity rather than just choosing the best bits is mind-blowing. There's definitely people I always compare myself to but there are parts of them I definitely would not like to keep and that really helps!

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! I'm happy I could help! x

@andreavonplinsky2053 2 жыл бұрын

I've looked up to you for quite a while and have you to thank for all the growth I've gained this year. Thank you for all your amazing advice. We love you 🧡

@christinaharris1102 2 жыл бұрын

I enjoyed this so much Jenn 💕💕

@norixdies 2 жыл бұрын

Love the video and this comment section! Thank you Jenn for bringing so much positivity to our lives 🤍✨

@katrynaton 2 жыл бұрын

I am so in awe of how well spoken and articulate you are.❤️ Loved this video Jenn!

@samaaaa7 2 жыл бұрын

I loved this so much!! Would love a part two or even to make it a series. Thank you Jenn 🙏

@livnasuta 2 жыл бұрын

love you so much Jenn! You've helped me in so many ways ❤️ I'm so glad you exist 🥰

@emmalilybear 2 жыл бұрын

needed to hear pretty much all of this, thanks momma jenn!

@tuhbingaling 2 жыл бұрын

Such a great video Jen!!! As someone without any siblings or close cousins- this was such a helpful and wisdom-packed video 🙌🏼 really loved how you answered the marriage question too

@friend_a_gaby4266 2 жыл бұрын

Seeing how many older sisters there are like me… it’s so nice. It’s so nice to know that you’re not alone in whatever problems you have. And with Jenn, she really helps us come through it as well. Thank you Jenn for helping all of us and clearing our minds ☺️

@amnoturgurl9323 2 жыл бұрын

I just want say thank you for this video. I really needed this in my life I've been single for 3 years now honestly I have a lot of anxiety going back to dating again 🙃 especially when it comes my toxic environment. Thanks for speaking on mental health it means so much to me.

@ana-xr9ik 2 жыл бұрын

it's literally like you're reading my mind :') your video timing is always perfect!!

@aliyaseay612 2 жыл бұрын

Love every upload!! thx Jenn!

@viv7795 2 жыл бұрын

I love the maturity you show in responses. I wish I had a big sister like you to bounce things off of.

@hannahkim5665 2 жыл бұрын

Writing and reading is the key to express my thoughts. It was really helpful advice to me! Thank you Jenn❤️

@marinastepanova1261 2 жыл бұрын

These were the fastest 10 minutes ever! Thank you, Jenn, for being such an inspiration!

@fortune_roses 2 жыл бұрын

Such a good point... to reflect on one's own *reactions & feelings.* Maybe they should be *validated* instead of "I'm just being too [insert self gaslighting], let me ignore this red flag" ♡ *Lovely* advice, thank you

@AyeshaNoelle 2 жыл бұрын

This felt like a heart to heart talk with a friend!💖😊

@ArianaJones-us2xn 10 ай бұрын

i’ve been binge watching a ton of your videos the past few days bc i’m going through a lot, but your voice and energy has always been so soothing and uplifting. especially this video, your saying all the things i need to hear, and your helping me gather the thoughts in my head. my anxiety has been killing me but seeing you handle everything with such grace and persistence, and always putting everything in the most eloquent way… thank you for everything you do! 💜 everyone around you is so lucky to have you

@julietmedia 2 жыл бұрын

💕✨your advice/kind words/life wisdoms always calm me Jenn! love all of your videos and i am forever looking forward to the next one!! 🥰

@ckovv 2 жыл бұрын

jenn is so articulate! thank you for sharing these with us :)

@michellegermaine6411 2 жыл бұрын

Finding your channel was the absolute best part of 2021, thank you for all of your advice, being so open & honest and sharing so many intimate parts of your life. Thank you so so much!!

@Sneaks011 2 жыл бұрын

Jenn, I found your channel many months ago by your "What I Eat In A Week" and I've fallen in love ever since. (binged all of your other videos lol) Your personality, transparency and maturity is so admirable. I'm 24, and I'm just trying to figure everything out. My love life, therapy, career, etc. To see someone SO loving, open and just every single thing about you that you share with us- being soooo open about mental health, and the BS that comes with this life is SO refreshing. Thank you for sharing your life with us!

@LiuMelendez 2 жыл бұрын

Yayy so happy everytime you post a video 💗 and YES! You feel like a friend or big sister ✨

@lisaly9497 2 жыл бұрын

Absolute fire Jen, nailing it every time.

@user-gv3bk2vb6o 2 жыл бұрын

Omg I'm so motivated and I almost cried😭😭 Jenn I'm really happy that I watched your video today and you are such an amazing person. I can feel a bit how much effort you put and how long it took to be a person you are right now, who can really help people to grow healthy mindset. Thank you so much, genuinely. Love from Korea

@User22winwian 2 жыл бұрын

Best thing to happen today! Love these videos from my favorite online inspo !

@qiongyunguan4121 2 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh I’ve been in the longest time lacking a strike of inspiration. It’s so long that I forget the exact feeling of it. And damn I felt it watching this video. Idk how Jenn can inspire me every time. It feels so good to just hear somebody repeat the idea that life doesn’t happen me; I can make decisions to make it happen!

@jij_tm6570 2 жыл бұрын

oh man, you really are the internet’s big sister. literally these were all things i wished i could ask of an older friend and i feel like so many new perspectives opened up. thank you for making videos like these❣️😭

@julzamidala2865 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your wisdom Jenn, even if we know the answers it's so good to be supported in them by you! ❤❤❤

@kedieria 2 жыл бұрын

Yaaaay so happy to watch this video ❤️

@minnakha5101 2 жыл бұрын

The part where you talk about how good of a father Ben is ❤️ you two are so lucky and I wish you nothing but the best 💜

@jasminejas8078 2 жыл бұрын

I didn't know I needed this big-sister-chat until I remained patient and watched the whole video. Thank you so much

@crashtatti 2 жыл бұрын

the topics have been so on point & relevant for me, great video jenn!

@claire_yang 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for this video jenn! love you!

@miadems 2 жыл бұрын

Omg. I never knew I needed this until just now. Beautifully spoken, Jenn. This video means so much to me. Thank you so much.

@janetcute4life 2 жыл бұрын

I love that advice of if you're going to compare don't just pick and and choose, take on the whole person the good, the bad and the ugly. Definitely makes it seem even more pointless to compare once you take that into account! Thanks Jenn!

@audreychoong4785 2 жыл бұрын

you have no idea how important it was to get to hear your answer to the last question, thank you so much truly!

@kaeecy 2 жыл бұрын

These questions are so relatable, thanks Jen !!

@leanned9251 2 жыл бұрын

This video came out at the right timing. I'm feeling much better knowing there are days we have doubt in things, people, and relationships, so its nice to have this pet talk with someone (you Jenn lol) could really lift my spirit up for today :) Take care and stay safe!

@jayyjayy1231 2 жыл бұрын

love love love, thank you Jenn.

@PandorasFunBox 2 жыл бұрын

Why does every video you upload feel like it's tailored and made for me? 🥺 After watching I always feel a sense of, "Ahhh, thank you Jenn. I needed to hear that." 💕

@amanda625 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! Definitely needed to hear this 💕

@maryclement2168 2 жыл бұрын

Would love to continue watching content like this from you.😌 You’re so inspiring

@No-sw5td 2 жыл бұрын

i love you jenn !!!!

@erinzhou531 2 жыл бұрын

This is so encouraging and full of power. love you Jenn! Thank you for sharing this with us 🌿

@emilywang6058 2 жыл бұрын

I needed this thank u jen

@ambiansaqua123 2 жыл бұрын

I love this so much Jenn / thank you!

@leanneleewhy 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jenn! This is the Q&A I needed to hear!

@TheAholagirl24 2 жыл бұрын

Ugh, really every single piece of advice that you're giving is so true to my heart at this point. I can really feel how much you've thought and worked through each question through your own life. Really thank you for sharing your experiences and learnings.

@Veronica-yd5dz 2 жыл бұрын

Yess Jenn! This was perfect and much needed. Thank you big sis lol

@annnnn1004 2 жыл бұрын

Ahhhhhhh, I'm so lucky that I found you. My life has literally changed after I started watching your videos. You're the most unfiltered person on KZfaq I've ever seen. I only & only want the best for you, because you deserve the best. Just wishing your cuteee little family an eternity of happiness together 🤍🧿✨.

@anniematanis 2 жыл бұрын

aaaah, what perfect timing! its 2am where i'm at rn and i'm having a tiny identity crisis 🥲 nothing like sound advice from my favorite 언니 to help me get through this night ⭐🫂

@eunicesueanne 2 жыл бұрын

aw you got this!

@imjennim 2 жыл бұрын

Ooooh, I feel you. I'm sorry to hear you're having one of those types of nights. I hope you find more activities to calm your mind and you get some rest soon. A good night's sleep can go a long way. Hang in there! x

@valerietan1691 2 жыл бұрын

Please do more of these Jenn! Really enjoy you talking about real stuff ☺️💞

@LaureninSeattle 2 жыл бұрын

Love your Q&A video!!♥️♥️♥️

@ritikashetty2470 2 жыл бұрын

Loved this video, Jenn! ❤😚

@hatsumi7080 2 жыл бұрын

i love watching your videos 🦋 its so raw and makes me feel so good about how you openly talk about everything ❤️❤️ hopefully I'll get there someday 🕊️ lots of love 💖