Raised with Emotional Neglect From Parents? 17 Signs to Look For

Raised with Emotional Neglect From Parents? 17 Signs to Look For | Dr. Jonice Webb

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Learn about Childhood Emotional Neglect, how it happens in the life of a child, and how to heal it in my FREE CEN Breakthrough Series: bit.ly/cenbreakthrough11
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In this video, I’ll explain why it can be so difficult to see the Emotional Neglect in your own family. You’ll learn why so many people go through their entire lives blaming themselves for the problems caused by Childhood Emotional Neglect or CEN. I’ll describe 3 types of emotionally neglectful parents so that you can think about your own family, and how it feels to have each of those types of parents. I’ll share 17 different signs to look for in your own family. Then, I’ll explain what you can do to move forward.
CEN Breakthrough Video Series:
1. Emotional Neglect: How to Recognize it, Why it’s Invisible, And How it Affects You | Dr. Jonice Webb:
• Emotional Neglect: How...
2. Emotional Neglect: 4 Subtle but Painful Things You May Have Missed Growing Up | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: 4 S...
3. Emotional Neglect: How it Can Make it Hard to Recognize Your Emotions | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
4. Emotional Neglect: 5 Ways it can Affect Your Emotional Intelligence | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: 5 W...
5. Emotional Neglect: How to Connect with Yourself and Find Your Voice | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
6. Emotional Neglect: What Most Therapists Don’t Know and How to Find One Who Does | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Wha...
7. Emotional Neglect: Use These 10 Affirmations to Reparent Yourself | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Use...
8. Emotional Neglect: Lack of Self-Discipline? It might be Self Neglect Instead | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Lac...
9. Emotional Neglect: How it Impacts Your Love Relationships | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
10. Emotional Neglect: Jumpstart Your Healing by Doing These 3 Things | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Jum...
00:00 Introduction
00:35 Background on Emotional Neglect
02:07 Emotionally Neglectful Parent Types
09:31 What to do for each type

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@user-sg2do2ok7h 11 ай бұрын

I was an only child and my parents acted like I wasn’t even there. No support, no conversations, no acknowledgment of school awards, etc. I have read a lifetime of self help books thinking there was something wrong with me. Now at 75, your videos have set me free and have given me peace. Thank you .

@Amandahugginkizz 10 ай бұрын

Oh man mine was the same exact way except I only had 1 parent

@myeiahneville6025 9 ай бұрын

I am so proud of you!!! It’s never easy especially alone.. Much love ❤️

@mariecait 9 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry. Parents can and do so much damage. I hope you feel better now. 😢❤

@kims1912 9 ай бұрын

I'm proud of your honesty and strength. God loves you, and He is with you. Yeshua died on the cross for you to have eternal life. He wants a relationship with you as your heavenly father.

@KRIS-sh8wp 8 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for all of the pain, sadness, & heartache that you were forced to endure for all those years. I pray that love & healing continues to find you in your pain. You are not alone 🤍🙏🏽🤍

@eottoe2001 11 ай бұрын

The problem that is not addressed is the parent who goes back and forth between being nice one minute and angry the next with no real rhyme or reason in between.

@Ljg203 11 ай бұрын

My Mum is exactly like this. Very inconsistent with her emotions. I’d say she is well meaning but struggles with her own mental health problems and addictions.

@ItaHayes 11 ай бұрын

Really appreciate what your saying and want to learn more, so I can fill in the gaps of my own childhood neglect.

@charlesdaubner1017 11 ай бұрын

I'd say that's on the "milder end" of type 3. A "Cluster B" phenomenon (Narcissistic or Borderline personality features)

@lynnhuxtable5875 11 ай бұрын

That sounds like my dad, who is a narcissist.

@julietbird7084 11 ай бұрын

I am interested to hear what anyone makes of my childhood on here. My parents were both narcissistic. My older brother at 6 was always looking after my handicapped sister, who was 4, and I was 18 months old. My mother struggled for years on her own yet married to my father , a typical 1950s man who did his own thing but expected his dinner on the table every day. I feel my brother, and I was definitely neglected because of the needs of our sister. I don't remeber being cuddled or read to etc. Only when my sister died at 25 did I get any attention snd then my mother kept me too close and young and dependent for fear of losing me, I think.

@ipod815able 10 ай бұрын

Dr you are a lamp for those who are suffering in darkness.

@lynnhuxtable5875 11 ай бұрын

My mom was depressed and my dad was narcissistic and authoritarian (though with what you described, he would also qualify as sociopathic and he was a control freak.) I have spend my entire adult life unlearning all of the messages about myself that I got from them. I have a chronic pain condition, an autoimmune disorder, and several psychiatric issues that have sidelined me. It’s a really tough road to recovery.

@charlesdaubner1017 11 ай бұрын

I am sorry that you were so abused.

@airgin3000 7 ай бұрын

Nearly My exact situation... minus the body issues My mother is depressed and angry ... My "father" a sick psychopathic sociopath Cerebral Narcissist that -- that when he is not glued to the TV watching some lame Netflix bullshit tv series ... he is glued to the iPad watching woke psychopathic "hate white people, hate Trump, hate Cops bullshit NEWS" and when he is not doing that Then he is evil... I tried to protect my brother from both of them as much as possible.... I tried to be my brother's keeper in the sickness....as a result I have parentification...and a million other things...DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, ANGER ISSUES, INDECISIVENESS, Do NOT know who I am.... etc Every thing people talk about with CHILD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND ATTACHMENT ISSUES Nobody believed me on my "father" because he ended up being the Chief Operations Officer ( COO ) of 3 companies and was extremely 2 face. He is fake face at his job and then evil and liar at home. He is extremely 2 face. I focused on getting help from Dr. David Hawkins, Reading Power vs. Force, reading Letting Go by Dr. David Hawkins, Watching videos every day by Byron Katie - The work Watching videos every day by Miracle Readiness to Mastery Watching videos every day by Spiritual Unfoldment by John Butler Watching videos from ALAN LANE SMITH on ATTACHMENT God Bless you and I will pray that you heal... Start watching from all of these every single day - especially Dr. Hawkins and Byron Katie.

@lynnhuxtable5875 7 ай бұрын

@@airgin3000I’m sorry you had to deal with all of that. Thanks for the suggestions. A ton of therapy and EMDR has helped me.

@jessicakuhn2543 6 ай бұрын

My Dad, controlling and badgering, manipulating and always angry, destroying personal items, including hurting pets. My mom detached, sister just like my father. So much and frustrating emotional turmoil growing up. Married into a family that is mirroring the same, yet feels more (can’t think of the word) sneaky? Always one upping? Mother in law believes in competition between siblings and cousins. Has her favorites. I’ve so many parenting classes and early childhood education classes, and everything I’ve learned is “ baloney ’ according to her. I feel as I never had a life at all, and my kids are damaged. I’ve gone to therapy but I can only afford so much and at this point in my life what would be the point?

@lynnhuxtable5875 6 ай бұрын

@@jessicakuhn2543 I wish this had not been your experience. But we CAN heal. It sounds like your mother-in-law might be narcissistic, so reading about that could be helpful, especially covert narcissism since you said it feels sneaky. And along with learning about Emotional Neglect, I also got a lot out of learning about Complex PTSD in a great book by Pete Walker called Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. All the best to you!

@martinholland2482 11 ай бұрын

My mother died when I was only seven. My father and stepmother were authoritarian and didn't allow expressions of grief. My mother was never talked about again. It was impossible to develop a healthy sense of self. The biggest tragedy is that my treatment of my own children was little better. They suffered from my self absorption and anger at the world. God help us all

@myeiahneville6025 9 ай бұрын

I’m terribly sorry you had to go through that, no one should ever have to suffer like that. You are so strong ❤️

@beatsg 3 ай бұрын

I'm curious, why did you have them? You sound self aware. Was it just that you thought the pattern wouldn't continue and they would be okay?

@ajh3301 11 ай бұрын

My dad is type 1. My mom is all three, being a narcissist, dealing with chronic pain and depression, and growing up with a very difficult and distant father. My folks did not ask questions. As children we were to be seen, not heard. We were to obey and behave. Emotions were a no-no. Although mom would say “I love you “ it always felt false because her actions did not match. I learned at a young age to do whatever it took not to rock the boat. It has definitely affected my relationships with others, making me a people pleaser and chameleon. I don’t really know who I am having felt invisible most of my life.

@almondmilksoda 9 ай бұрын

This is my story as well. Learning who I really am, now, one day at a time. I'm wishing you love, strength, and lots of healing. 🙏🏻✨💛

@airgin3000 7 ай бұрын

Nearly My exact situation... minus the body issues My mother is depressed and angry ... My "father" a sick psychopathic sociopath Cerebral Narcissist that -- that when he is not glued to the TV watching some lame Netflix bullsh*t tv series ... he is glued to the iPad watching woke psychopathic "hate white people, hate Trump, hate Cops bullshit NEWS" and when he is not doing that Then he is evil... I tried to protect my brother from both of them as much as possible.... I tried to be my brother's keeper in the sickness....as a result I have parentification...and a million other things...DEPRESSION, ANXIETY, ANGER ISSUES, INDECISIVENESS, Do NOT know who I am.... etc Every thing people talk about with CHILD EMOTIONAL NEGLECT AND ATTACHMENT ISSUES Nobody believed me on my "father" because he ended up being the Chief Operations Officer ( COO ) of 3 companies and was extremely 2 face. He is fake face at his job and then evil and liar at home. He is extremely 2 face. I focused on getting help from Dr. David Hawkins, Reading Power vs. Force, reading Letting Go by Dr. David Hawkins, Watching videos every day by Byron Katie - The work Watching videos every day by Miracle Readiness to Mastery Watching videos every day by Spiritual Unfoldment by John Butler Watching videos from ALAN LANE SMITH on ATTACHMENT God Bless you and I will pray that you heal... Start watching from all of these every single day - especially Dr. Hawkins and Byron Katie .............

@MJ-ux4pl 8 ай бұрын

Everyone, be really careful opening up this topic to your parents, even if they're in category 1 & 2. I did just that, and the emotional invalidation I received was more intense, relentless, and now my dad has the ammo to invalidate me even more. If you've been gaslit to believe that your experiences, perspective, memories and feelings don't matter, I want to share what Dr. Gabor Mate said about childhood trauma. Childhood trauma happens not because children get hurt, but because we were alone in our hurt. I've spent 10 years trying to undo the belief that I don't matter, because of CEN. This subconscious belief has affected my past relationships, my confidence, my tendency for depression and at times thinking it wouldn't matter if I'm not here anymore. The wounds from CEN are deep. One thing I've accepted was, if, as an adult, with the communication skills and knowledge, still can't get through to my dad, my inner child never stood a chance. Your inner child did their best. We parent ourselves now. Thank you Dr. Jonice Webb.

@latasha9898 6 ай бұрын

thanks for sharing. I had a similar experience recently. It wasn't intentional, but I was triggered and needed to express my feelings. The response I got took me right back to being a child, feeling alone and invalidated. I knew that I was affected by my childhood experiences, but until now I didn't know what it was. I feel so hopeless about the situation.

@timwilkins2008 7 ай бұрын

I was raised as an invisible person. I was shipped to my grandmother and aunt on a regular basis. The only time I was noticed was when I was “bad” or failed to live up to their standards. For example, if I got an A- on a school assignment, I was blasted for not getting an A or A+. If I failed something, it was a nightmare scenario. I was 😊neglected medically. I laid in my room for over a week with a severe brain infection before my parents decided to take me to the doctor. I could list so much more…but … don’t know what good it will do. Even as an adult, I am invisible to others for the most part. I can be in a meeting at work and be completely overlooked while sitting next to the boss.

@ruthha7047 2 ай бұрын

I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through and hope it isn’t still going on.

@janelleclairem 11 ай бұрын

Every time I gather more info on my childhood the more I realize how bad it was and still is. Type 3 here.

@7632ant 11 ай бұрын

Thank you, both my wife and I had type 3 parents. We're in our 60s now and we are learning just how bad things were and trying to heal ourselves. Thank you.

@robina.disotell5683 10 ай бұрын

I'm in the same boat. 60 yr old child of a covert narc mother and deceased alcoholic shell-shocked father from 2 wars. I wonder why you left out healing about the 3rd type of parent. But I want to thank you for the information you are sharing. It is to helpful to have explanations and guidance for us. When I watch other sites, the focus seems more on the narcs/abusers. Thank you

@janellrowe3780 11 ай бұрын

When you have a type 3 parent so E of the ways you feel as an adult are empty, like you have holes inside and can’t figure out what is missing or you feel that there’s something wrong with you but you can’t figure it out. Hope this helps someone.

@curtaincowboy 11 ай бұрын

Your videos have helped me understand why I am so independent, and don't ask for any help from anyone. I'm starting to ask kids how do you feel? Trying to identify my own. I am coming aware that I never want to look bad. So I razzle dazzle at work, buy things that I think will make people think I'm all that. (and a box of chicken). But what I really want is to be loved. Thanx for You're work Dr

@CheleGreysky 7 ай бұрын

A box full of chicken is a box full of tryptophan and that's a perfectly healthy and reasonable thing to crave.

@jeannemoore6657 11 ай бұрын

Everytime you speak I learn something about myself. I am 65 & my mom is 95 & still living. I think I was Type 1. She always seems to put me down in a weird way, but yet says you are so pretty & constantly tells me positive things about myself (I am just now hearing all this from her). I have little self esteem & confidence. Oh wait, we were just supposed to tell you what type we are. Lol. Sorry, got carried away. I wish you were my therapist, I need you in a daily basis! 🤷‍♀️Thanks so much for the videos & the topic.

@pommom1968 11 ай бұрын

Isn't it up to us to break the generational curses and DO BETTER for our own children?

@flamingrobin5957 11 ай бұрын

i dont believe you can without God and gods savior jesus. we need a blood sacrifice a perfect role model and wisdom from God

@sarahlowe5165 7 ай бұрын

Yes it is. It starts with self awareness and a willingness to change. Not a easy road and often lifelong.

@miriamcedillo4431 11 ай бұрын

I Think both my parents were type 2, but for thoroughly different reasons. My Dad, I think, became a workaholic, both because were were lower income and working class, but I also suspect that he didn't want to spend time with my mother, because she had a mental illness and he couldn't understand why she acted as she did (When I was 13 she was diagnosed with Schizophrenia). It wasn't until my later teen-age years that I began to bond with him. On the other hand, I was pretty much attached to my mother, until the truth about her mental problems dawned on me. She doted on me and spoiled me, but it wasn't until the last 6 months or so (and I am now in my 70s), that it struck me like a lightening bolt that she never asked me questions about how I felt or seemed concerned about my life, my problems, my feelings, etc.. I was just an 'adjunct' to her own life, not a separate entity. In that regard I guess you can say she was Narcissistic as well. I now have a little more empathy toward both of them, though it was tough to realize I had both unconscious (till now) resentment toward my father for being not that approachable when I was younger, and not taking a more "parental' role, and more assertive actions towards getting help for my mother. When my father died eight years ago, I grieved almost inconsolably, and still grieve him, though he lived to be 95. But when my mother died in 1998, I just wanted to forget her and not think about her again, not even in my prayers, for which I now have guilt over, but am now forgiving myself for, since watching your series. Thank you.

@shoshannah3230 10 ай бұрын

I am an adoptee and was born in the 1940s when people thought newborns were a blank slate with no emotions or awareness of what was happening to themselves. Consequently my extreme sense of abandonment and frustration was not validated. That mindset continued with my adoptive parents. In addition they were the type 3 parents.

@sparkleevenmore9638 11 ай бұрын

My dad was raised by #2 parents - their youngest son died when he was three and they never recovered. My dad liked us (my sister and I) but didn’t like being a dad. He tended toward a #3 parent, addicted to alcohol yet functioning. I stayed out of his way. Mom just kept things going.

@ST2theEphen 11 ай бұрын

Can parents fall into all three categories somehow...? Parents divorced when I was 10, then they fought verbally and through the courts for the next 6 years or so and no co-parenting anymore. Mom was extremely neglected herself as a child and was a very depressed addict struggling to hold down a job and put food on the table, no rules whatsoever and wanted to be my friend and me to be her counselor. Dad was also extremely neglected as a child and then became an authoritarian, addict, control freak and suspected narcissist with an untreated learning disability who worked all the time even though we barely had enough food and clothes. Both parents would have frequent unpredictable and uncontrollable outbursts of rage that could last all evening. I have a younger sister I was basically responsible for and we had to raise ourselves. Now I'm hyper independent and have a hard time trusting anyone... But! After almost one year of therapy once a week with a trauma and EMDR psychologist has made a world of difference. I truly thought I was a hopeless case, forever broken and sad, but you can, with determination and persistence, physically change the structure of your brain and how you think and feel! There is hope, it just takes a lot of work, but once you start to feel the changes in yourself it becomes a labor of love. My best advice is to put your ego aside and become a student of emotions and yourself.

@charlesdaubner1017 11 ай бұрын

@ST2theEphen I am so happy for your awakening! The childhood you describe sounds brutal. I agree with your advice: get to know yourself, the good, bad, broken, ugly and magnificent. Make the best of it with the time that remains

@artandculture5262 9 ай бұрын

I’m validating, warm, enjoy emotionally attuning, am self inspecting and self reflective, and my mother is not. So why the blanket excuse?

@juliehollyoak4092 10 ай бұрын

I never bonded with my mother but dad was very tactile but he was suffering with depression.

@Photobunce 7 ай бұрын

Wow! My mom was a struggling parent. My youngest bro has Williams syndrome and it was back far enough she had to fight for help for him. My dad, total narcissist. Now I'm helping take care of them in their old age and having to fight my demons at the same time.

@JanGlow 6 ай бұрын

I know that struggle

@shellykind 9 ай бұрын

This morning I've been crying because my friend ended our relationship yesterday. I was crying pretty loud, and so she came in trying to talk to me. I let her in and she says I can't cry like this it's crazy. She said the neighbors are going to hear me. That triggered me because that's something one of my ex told me too. She told me to stop crying. It didn't feel like she was saying it in a nice way. I felt more stressed and anxious now so I grabbed my massager and banged my head with it a couple times. She then said she would call the police, I begged her not to and that I would stop crying. She told me to go cry in the closet that is in my brother's room so no one can hear me. She gave me an anxiety pill and I went to the closet. I occupied my mind with some yt videos. She came knocking after about 15 min and told me I can't kill myself it would hurt too many people. I said I wasn't trying to kill myself and that I'm just watching videos. She asked me why I was in the closet, I reminded her it was because she told me to. She left and went to lay in the bed next to the bathroom closet. I left the bathroom to go downstairs and I heard her say, "I'm going to shoot myself" and I said ,"what did you say?" She said, "nothing" and I said "I heard what you said, why did you say that?" She said, "because you keep crying, don't you think you're making us all anxious by crying like crazy ? Who is screaming like that? Only crazy people. "(Now she brings up something my ex said to me that was hurtful) she says, "[exs name] was also embarrassed by your crying. I am so embarrassed. " and I didn't say anything after that.

@ScarletMidnight 10 ай бұрын

I believe it's useful to distinguish between narcissistic parents and other parents who are suffering with mental health issues AND personality disorders like narcissism are generally a result of early childhood trauma. They definitely deserve to be held accountable, but they are often victims and are suffering internally too. Hurt people hurt people. Love your work 👍

@Mosdefinitelyable 9 ай бұрын

I really like that you’re calm and have simplified language. It’s important. Thank you. Love your offerings to the world.

@cfjohnson7369 11 ай бұрын

My father lost his mother when he was five years old. His parenting skills were very haphazard. He didn't find emotions important.

@margierogers4909 10 ай бұрын

This is very helpful. It puts into words that which I have been unable to express.

@charlesdaubner1017 11 ай бұрын

I experienced a lot of type 2 and some type 3. A tragic family event, at age 7, kicked this off in a big way (that coincided with beginning Catholic Elementary School, a tragic event in and of itself) and was a solid theme through my elementary school years. For the most part, ethnically German and grew up in a solidly German part of the US (southeastern Wisconsin). These cultural characteristics tie into this (I have a "family photo", taken over 110 years ago, a Wisconsin farmstead, my maternal grandmother, one of her sisters and my great grandparents. They are standing at least 12 feet apart from each other, in the snow. It looks, and feels, bitter cold). Also generational, I am 67, my parents lived the Depression and went to war. Of course, that had an impact

@cecillyrowe6339 11 ай бұрын

emotional neglect + emotional abuse! thankyou Dr Webb!!! I'm going to listen again. I hope l haven't also become that parent too...:(

@eileenhay5697 9 ай бұрын

Interestingly I always believed my parents neglectful and hurtful behaviour was the result of the sudden death of my younger brother. Now a different picture is emerging as I listen to Dr. Janice Webb’s videos on CEN. My mindset has changed and all sympathy I had for them has gone, leaving me very angry as I may have been emotionally neglectful with my own daughters. Although we’ve had many tough times my girls haven’t displayed any real animosity or anger towards me and both are good parents to their children. ❤

@annainsaudi218 11 ай бұрын

What about the parent who sees the child as a burden either financial or work? In other words they want that the child does not cause them any effort. Where do they fit in? Thank you.

@Amandahugginkizz 11 ай бұрын

My mom was a meh parent. She dosnt care....she wasn't trying to be my bff or make me a dr. She jst didnt give a single fuck weather i ate, slept, did my homework, took a shower, got in trouble, got an a, she genuinly had not a single fuck to give me. She worked and then layed on her bed and smoked. That was her schedule. And mine was feeling unloved and ignored.

@Paula-wk2cl 10 ай бұрын

Ohh! I made a comment in your other video about it and I noticed this pattern in my family…Thank you for your videos! 🙏🏻

@PERK-30 9 ай бұрын

My left ear enjoyed this ❤

@marilynbara6330 9 ай бұрын

Love your book, so glad you’re presenting on KZfaq and delighted that you’re going to do a series - thank you!

@ChelseyChannel 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this! The categories of emotionally neglectful parents were helpful

@abithaswathimuniraj3485 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos Dr. Webb! It helps me a lot. I appreciate the efforts gone into making these videos on CEN. The 'well meaning but neglected themselves parents' part in this video resonates with me so much!

@JuliaShalomJordan 11 ай бұрын

This confirms so much. Thank u.

@bearofdeath 11 ай бұрын

Thank you very much, this was so helpful. I definitely had Well meaning but neglected themselves Parents, and the Struggling parents. 🙏❤️

@sharigeer811 11 ай бұрын

WOW!! Very insightful. I stumbled onto your video, but I feel like it was heaven sent at the most important time.

@ettc603 8 ай бұрын

This is probably the video that has spoken to me the most regarding this subject. Thank you❤

@rowanstarling3816 3 ай бұрын

Sad. I see this in 3 generations of my family, including me, neglected and neglecting. I am a very loving parent, but I worked away from home a lot.

@Mzlew07 5 ай бұрын

This video was extremely enlightening. Thank you.

@alaskafisherman 10 ай бұрын

Thanks so much. On your videos. So helpful. Specially when u can't afford counseling. God bless

@philipadam7870 11 ай бұрын

Right-on Jonice, in the immortal words of Dr. Wayne Dyer, you can’t give to someone what you don’t have yourself to give. And so it travels down the line from one generation to the next… the subliminal injury of the walking wounded.

@litalooloo4470 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so very much for making this video.

@Knightcydonia28 11 ай бұрын

I always learn a lot from your videos, thank you for sharing your knowledge! It has helped me a lot with my past. On another topic, in technical terms, the video audio could be put in Mono for accessibility and watcher experience. Thank you again for your content.

@justinamontgomery2618 9 ай бұрын

Love your content so much......just found your channel.....can't wait to keep learning.....thank you......I had type 2 parent......I didn't know all these details exsisted......so excited since as an adult I am having emotional problems for the last 4 years! But feeling the start of moving forward again! Thanks so much....tina

@gerdgrauer7816 11 ай бұрын

Audio keeps appearing on only one side. Change video export settings to mono or something.

@EspeonaSparkle 9 ай бұрын

Very important video!!!

@SigridMadalina 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! ❤

@lauracardenas5876 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for your work

@GratefulDeb270 10 ай бұрын

Ty ty ty! ❤

@lisakitts6956 11 ай бұрын

Helpful

@shufflewing 8 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏻

@jl4250 29 күн бұрын

Interesting, good pace to learn & understand. Would be helpful to have some headings , subheadings (nothing fancy) so visually I can connect the topics easily in my head to what am listening. I grew up in an emotionally neglect family, struggled all my life, and continually still learning about myself from the vast resources on KZfaq helps me to understand more and more on why I am the way I am today. Thank you it was interesting ❤

@Daimo83 4 ай бұрын

My mother died two years ago - before I learned about emotional neglect. She was always carrying a burden that was more important than my needs. She never understood why I "hated her" (her words) while declining to help me with anything I asked for - even five minutes of her time. My 20 adult years have been a colossal waste of potential.

@Mary-uv8qy 7 ай бұрын

I would tell my my mom how I "felt" and after I did this She would tell me "your'e being a martyr" Martyr Mary" 😢

@LittleMezzoBird 8 ай бұрын

Can a parent be authoritarian and well-meaning? I've often thought that my dad was an authoritarian parent - more focused on rules and compliance than on our perspectives - but I know he's a well-meaning parent. So I'm confused.

@latasha9898 6 ай бұрын

I think so because thats also my experience. Impossible standards set to make you a better person, and the person they want you to be, because they think they know whats best.

@jasonfitzpatrick414 11 ай бұрын

I have an old girlfriend whose mother was authoritarian. I dont think the ex girlfriend will ever reach her potential. Too many issues with closeness, i dont believe we ever really talked about the future during our time together. Now she has gone thru another boyfriend and i dont know whats up with her. I hope she is well.

@robertivers4200 11 ай бұрын

Kids raised in the 80s were overindulged by parents raised by emotionally neglectful parents who never got their needs met. That generation provided home and shelter fulfilling their parenting obligations

@incognito.502 11 ай бұрын

So strange yet they didnt sent their kids off to daycare

@johntemu867 11 ай бұрын

Hi Dr Webb. Love your videos. 1 thing that came up for me how does a very introverted cen person take up more “space”/air time when your spouse is a very confident loud and talkative extrovert . Suzanne.

@amuddymoose 2 ай бұрын

My mother loved me but was an alcoholic and neglected me emotionally in my older adolescent years. She was also physically unhealthy and didn’t take care of herself-it was like watching her commit a slow suicide.

@aussie_has_fomo 10 ай бұрын

My parents fall into all 3 categories of mentioned emotionally neglectful/abusive parent(s) types. How does that work???

@katherineheller4038 10 ай бұрын

Perhaps there is crossover between type 2 & 3. For instance, a child recognizing a trauma injured parent who is struggling with mental illness and is often trying and also often narcissistic.

@viviane_casella 4 ай бұрын

I don't see how emotionally neglectful peopy can be loving doting parents. When your child is crying and you give them a cold shoulder, when you show irritability for their pain, when they hug you and they receive a disgusted stare back... Well, by then you no longer can be considered loving, can you? No such thing as well meaning... They are all selfish and shallow.

@Alwaysherethere 11 ай бұрын

How about mental and physical abuse with this emotional neglect?

@kiwicatnip 9 ай бұрын

Is it possible to have a combination of these in one parent?

@itsmekimmielc 11 ай бұрын

Any7way to improve sound qual?

@palomaalhambra2453 11 ай бұрын

Ok so you say we can deal with the first 2 types of CEN parents but...what about type 3???

@BabyHaylien 5 ай бұрын

My mom was/is the 3rd type

@petyai1348 11 ай бұрын

Maybe I missed the answer. How does one deal with type 3 parents?

@lynnhuxtable5875 11 ай бұрын

I had the same question. I think the answer is to work with a trauma-informed therapist. I have found that EMDR helps.

@ST2theEphen 11 ай бұрын

I did EMDR for type 3 and it really helped reverse the negative thought patterns imprinted by the backwards messages I received as a kid.

@juliehollyoak4092 10 ай бұрын

I was loved but parents never had the time. They had to work. My mother went back to work when I was six WEEKS old. Always busy or too tired. I think that’s why I am autistic.

@ValerieVixenArt 4 ай бұрын

I don’t agree. The parent can CHOOSE to react in one of two ways…There is always a choice… They can choose to continue to repeat past behavior/behavior that was learned from their own parents, OR they can choose to do things differently. Innately, we all know what feels right and what feels wrong , what is good and what is bad. God created humans to have free will and a conscience, as well as consequences

@MrUsmarine92 9 ай бұрын

"They simply cannot".... Sounds an awful lot like a piss-poor excuse for bad parents.

@DrJoniceWebbphd 11 ай бұрын

@ivyquinn 11 ай бұрын

What happens when you only have one parent and they have all 3 types and I have all those response attributes? You fail. No way out. No savings or generational wealth coming. 31 years of psych. 20 of therapy...just to keep you alive. Nothing works. There is no hope. ~Barely Alive

@jenmartin6496 11 ай бұрын

I hear you. Diagnosed with c-ptsd about 6 years ago. Said that just from the memories I had at that time I had probably had ptsd since I was 2 years old. Now that other memories have surfaced in the past 3 years of a 45 year string of therapists and different modalities of treatment, they are saying that I probably had it before I was even verbal. So, minimum of 55 years of ptsd and NOTHING has touched it. I've come to the conclusion that it's been too long, I'm too broken and I'm DEFINITELY too tired to keep fighting for the bare minimum.

@ivyquinn 11 ай бұрын

@@jenmartin6496 I'm so sorry. I was dx with cptsd 3 years ago. All I want is security and can never achieve it.

@jenmartin6496 11 ай бұрын

@@ivyquinn That is literally all I want, too. Security and semi-solitude. I'll keep my husband and cats. Lol I truly believe the only reason I even have a husband is because he grew up with a dx bi-polar /paranoid schizophrenic mother so he knows how to deal with broken people.

@ivyquinn 11 ай бұрын

@jenmartin6496 My husband has witnessed the horror of my siblings' disclusion and my mother's enablment of their behavior and even defending them; not to mention all the lies and rumors she started herself. He must love me to stay whilst my body and soul decay.