It sounds to me like "you need to soften" is an incredibly gentle way to say "based on our interaction right now, you come across as someone who doesnt want a husband because they want to find love, but because you want/think you are entitled to a relationship that you dont have to work for in any way" Yes there are a lot of red flags, but the thing that says the most to me is "i dont want a man whos a doormat". Instead of saying something like, "i know i tend to take the lead and make the decisions and i want someone who is comfortable with that and honest with me when they want me to step back" she puts all the blame for the relationship failing straight onto her partner and takes no ownership over her actions 😒 sure what she wants is reasonable, but the attitude she has about relationships tells me nothing is going to last very long until she starts reflecting on herself a little
@elohi8 ай бұрын
I fucking love the hair and the Patrick sweater. Love love love.
@ClemmieWonder8 ай бұрын
I literally came to the comment just to say this. So, what you said.
@missmarscandybars37158 ай бұрын
Big same!! So freakin adorable! Also love seeing her hair. I like the wigs, but I love her natural hair! 🖤
@elohi8 ай бұрын
@@ClemmieWonder 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
@elohi8 ай бұрын
@@missmarscandybars3715 yes same!!!!
@thotpatrol79018 ай бұрын
I had an ex once that used to say to me " I am a very nice guy "! I hate dishonest people and liars " He ended up cheating on me for months and then he broke up with me via text at 6am ( before I go to work ).
@foxbuns8 ай бұрын
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@vvitch-mist208 ай бұрын
The MatchMaker had every right to reject someone they might not have been able to match. Like there's a ton of MatchMakers out there. This whole fight is stupid tbh.
@jessickalush33057 ай бұрын
@NotVille_"more better"😂
@hahahahaahhahahaahah8 ай бұрын
I have a feeling the matchmaker said that the TYPE of man she wanted prefers women who are a certain way. You have to consider and wonder if you are the type of person that will be a match to what you want. If you aren’t, you either have to change what you want or you have to change a part of yourself that is holding you back from getting what you want. Life is about growing and changing based on feedback and consequences. If you try to change something and you can’t, that’s because it’s part of who are. But if you are able to successfully change something about yourself, it was never who you are if you can be yourself without it. If you love yourself and want yourself to succeed you will be willing to let go of negative aspects of yourself which are preventing you from reaching your goals instead of placing your identity in them and refusing to change them to your own detriment. They are not who you are if you can let them go. It’s hard to change yourself and maybe this is truly who she is and she should find someone who is a match to her. I don’t understand what is so wrong with “betas”
@wabby26298 ай бұрын
as a late 30s woman who is financially successful and career successful who has divorced a man in the past for wanting to take a back seat while i do all that.. i think she is completely justified in asking for what shes asking for. the terms she uses are odd, but i completely get what she wants. why is it always the woman asked to compromise? its never 'lets find a man on your level' and always 'well you need to accept lesser'. hard no.
@wabby26298 ай бұрын
its very difficult to find a man when you are where we are because such an overwhelming amount of men, whether they articulate these feelings or not, find your success to be a negative thing. they wonder what their contribution in the relationship is if theyre not in a more secure position in life than you. and they know they cannot use any of those things to control you or hold over you. this is also why so many date younger women. if the matchmaker knows her pool of men are these kinds of men, just say so and dont insult her. Just say you dont have the men for her.
@FigmentForever8 ай бұрын
I’m with her on all her points. Sadly, it seems men have become generally less than ideal partners - but I’m biased as I’ve only ever been attracted to women.
@SG07798 ай бұрын
I don’t necessarily think that the match maker wants her to settle for less. If it is a matchmaker for the wealthy, then she probably comes across that demand quite often. I think it’s more that this woman talked about steamrolling a partner. That’s not great for men or women to be that way. It comes across as self-centered mostly. Imagine a man saying “I need a woman that I can’t just walk all over.” That’s not a healthy frame of mind because no matter another person’s personality, you shouldn’t steamroll them. It’s not the same as saying “I want a decisive partner. I want a partner who is more opinionated. I want a partner who is more independent”
@linkfan1608 ай бұрын
Omg for real! My ex would not compromise with me on ANYTHING. It always was his way or the high way. Women are always expected to be the ones to sacrifice their wants/needs and it's fucking infuriating.
@user_kH9bw3ns18 ай бұрын
"Why is it that women have to be the ones to compromise." IM SO CONFUSED HERE, because women I know all pretty much make a lot less than their partners. The women I know ain't tryna date a man who makes much less. Imagine a man divorcing a wife because she was settling in the backseat position, financially. "What is love? BB don't hurt me! No more..." (ok lol jk about the song part)
@Dr_Nutrition8 ай бұрын
The matchmaker never said “she is unworthy of love” she just couldn’t work with her. She exaggerated & she seems like a difficult person. I wouldn’t want to work with her either.
@gillypiexo8 ай бұрын
Yeah I kinda think I have to agree. Being open to something is a good thing In my mind, but if I've already done those things, and didn't like them, I wouldn't want to try it again and I'd voice that. I'm also trying to fight people pleasing because I get a lot of advice for helping my mental issues, and I really want to be better. But I am sick of people telling me what to do without hearing me out. I'ma remember that ❤
@millsykooksy48638 ай бұрын
same impression as me
@laurazepam83826 ай бұрын
Telling someone they have to change in order for them to be able to find a match does sound a little bit like wrong imo 🤷🏻♀️ tell her you don't think you're the right person to find her a match, don't tell people they need to change their personality if they want to find love
@craigmusa22545 ай бұрын
@@laurazepam8382can't find the right person if you self sabotage with your personality
@bdazzld8 ай бұрын
10 years of therapy 😅 therapy is great but… generally you go to therapy to learn coping skills and “graduate” Unfortunately most men who are really rich and driven - they’re looking for young and ready to be wives and moms usually - I don’t feel like she said she didn’t deserve love but that she couldn’t help her. Which is fair. Would you want a matchmaker picking men for you that doesn’t get along with you?
@kit9228 ай бұрын
My theory is the matchmaker prefers to work with more placid people who would be easier to match. Someone like the tiktoker would be very critical and she sounds like a perfectionist. Plus looking specifically for "woo" people, sounds like the matchmaker wants people who believe in the "magic" of her process enough to convince themselves its a good match. Smells like a scam tbh
@TheAceFireFox8 ай бұрын
She strikes me as the kind of person that is completely unwavering and uncompromising. She wants all the reward without putting in any of the time and effort in order to get it. There's nothing wrong with wanting what you want and having standards, but you have to also be realistic in that if you are going to be so uncompromising that you're going to have a hard time finding what you want. To be honest, I really don't care. She has no impact on my life whatsoever but I agree that I wouldn't get along with her at all.
@pourpeopledrinks8 ай бұрын
My thing about this is....people lie on the internet all the time lmao. I also wonder if this is a personal misinterpretation of what the matchmaker was asking for. IMO the things she listed aren't indicators/guarantees of "softness" as much as "have you taken time to reflect on yourself as a person and do you have a clear understanding of who you actually are, not who you want to be." Journaling and meditation aren't for "soft people," and doing them rarely indicates that you're out here to become a tradwife? What a wild assumption/leap to make lmao. It does, however, usually indicate someone who takes the time to be clear about who they are, what they want and who are OPEN to self-reflection in a way that "omg im soooooo type A and career driven, I NEED a partner with xyz qualities that are equally superficial to the qualities I've stated about myself" doesn't really bring to the table. What I heard from what this woman wants is nothing to do with how a man will treat his partner or what she wants her partnership to look and feel like. Suggesting you start journaling or engage in introspetive practices -- IN ORDER TO HELP YOU CLARIFY YOUR DESIRES AND NEEDS WHEN CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER -- is absolutely different than saying "change yourself." Journaling isn't done to "change you," its done so that you have a clearer understanding of yourself. I think this girl heard what she wanted to hear and wants something to be mad about, tbh....
@oceanicmartian8 ай бұрын
Exactly, I think she’s wholly exaggerating what the matchmaker said!
@ew65888 ай бұрын
Yes! My thoughts exactly. Of course I don't know this woman, but she seems shallow and vapid. Only interested in financial success and appearances.
@DixiNormous501508 ай бұрын
Your hair looks so good with your whole vibe and your face shape
@singingsiren828 ай бұрын
It just sounded like that matchmaker wasnt right for her and she took a lot of it personally. Hence the "woo" comment. If I've got a matchmaker asking about woo stuff, so I'm thinking astrology I'm going to stop her right there and say we aren't a good match. Though a $350 fine just to get this feedback is steep. There should probably be some about page saying what she believes as a matchmaker and what types of people she caters to. Also, absolutely wouldn't get along with her. A lot of times people use identifiers to excuse bad behavior. Type A can mean they come off as hard or the example you mentioned "honest" just gives them an excuse to be a complete dick and shrug their shoulders and just say theyre being honest.
@nagi13378 ай бұрын
Highly successful driven people go for soft, homely loving significant other to give balance and meaning to their lives. Describing them as "door mat" rubs me the wrong way.
@kybercat78 ай бұрын
idk both me and my bf are very driven for personal success (though not carrier cause we dont do well in corporate or non self directed environment) but it works cause we generally have a very similar lifestyle and want the same thing nearly all the time. kinda feels like hes nearly a extension of my own mind sometimes but even when we want different things i couldn't imagine denying him that ill help em cause seeing him happy makes me happy. and yes door mat is insulting and in my opinion very immature of her.
@tonyyao47857 ай бұрын
It sounds cliche as hell, but opposites do sometimes attract.
@graceg45508 ай бұрын
She seems like a driven, motivated woman who knows what she wants and is trying to get it. Good on her. I hope she finds what she wants. Everyone deserves to find love. Imagine the power couple of 2 individuals like this.
@shannonosullivan13758 ай бұрын
She seems like an insufferable brat.
@FigmentForever8 ай бұрын
EXACTLY! Normally, I agree with Guilia on every topic/side she takes but this one was a big miss for me. I’m 36 & thankfully happily married because finding someone that I would mesh with long-term would be impossible if I hadn’t met my wife. I see 0 wrong with her stance.
@VGobaira8 ай бұрын
I just think about all of the people who I know who have had necessary surgery and almost died from blood clots in their lungs because of the surgery. People be taking their lives in their hands over the vanity and that’s crazy. My aunt almost died from having a bunch of surgery and getting those blood clots in her lungs. She’s lucky she survived.
@charstevens26868 ай бұрын
What, a power couple that would rip each other to pieces?
@foxbuns8 ай бұрын
@@charstevens2686pretty sad that you cant imagine 2 strong personalities supporting each other.
@batzyjohnson8 ай бұрын
it seems to me like the matchmaker was honest that she cant provide the service she wants bc she doesnt match her clientele. she comes across as condescending and patronizing, which I'm sure the matchmaker saw and decided wasn't worth her time due to the mental load that would put on her.
@croatkate8 ай бұрын
Very respectfully: I think the matchmaker has the wisdom and experience to know what works and what doesn't. The language the matchmaker used could have been softer/kinder, but I think there's something to be said for a "Type A" person needing to work on compassion/empathy towards a spouse. There needs to be compromise, there needs to be a middle. As a 'Type A' person that found their spouse later in life, SO many expectations need to be leveled to find happiness. Most importantly, reframe what you're doing: **it's not what you're losing, it's what you're gaining.** My husband is amazing and I cannot imagine my life without him. Had I stuck to my hard and fast rules instead of being open and ready to receive something different than I anticipated, I wouldn't have him today. TLDR: even though what the matchmaker said was harsh, I hope this person reflects on opening up and compassion to find love, because she's right, she deserves it!
@CaulkMongler8 ай бұрын
Pretty much. I’m reading in between the lines and the matchmaker was pretty much saying “maybe you should be open to dating men you wouldn’t typically go for” because I mean… clearly the type of men she usually goes for arent working out for her.
@mi-no3wk8 ай бұрын
Personally I don't think there was really anything wrong with what she said. Using the term beta is weird but I think she's valid for wanting the things she wants.
@kybercat78 ай бұрын
Demanding a income level of at or above hers seemed kinda scummy. doubly so if she allredey makes a lot (cause just on the raw maths that would exclude more people) since when was love about cash? since when was your value to the corporations and your boss reflect what you can give to a lover? its the most unromantic thing ive ever seen! yea i had way more assets then my bf. i still have slightly more but not by much, and i would gladly give it all for just one more day together because hes the most valuable thing ill ever have. gladly give my last crumb if we where starving. if you can only be with someone if you like there wallet how can you ever bond on a deep level?
@mi-no3wk6 ай бұрын
@@kybercat7 how is it scummy to expect someone to make at least as much money as you do? Just because you would gladly date a bum and give him everything you have doesn't mean everyone else feels they way. Maybe raise your standards a bit.
@kybercat76 ай бұрын
@@mi-no3wk because money has nothing to do with love. its just debt to the banks. he works hard often doin overtime. just wasn't able to save as much as me and invest cause his life waws rough. more importantly according to my standards he IS the richest catch ever. hes my best friend. someone who likes all the things in life i do. to chill hiking together or hold me at night and make my night terrors vanish. No amount of cash we could ever make could ever buy what we really give to each other. To expect that out of a relationship is to say you dont really value haveing them as a person as much as the matreal things they can give you.. im not a materialistic person. instead i have someone who make the whole universe shine and gives life meaning. just because you would gladly date a banker and give him everything you have doesn't mean everyone else feels they way. Maybe raise your standards a bit.
@laurazepam83826 ай бұрын
I do think it's valid for her to want someone who's "on her level". Maybe she doesn't want someone who is going to have to rely on her financially, maybe she has experienced relationships in which it at some point did become an issue that she was making substantially more money than her partner ( a lot of men tend to get insecure about that) maybe she just wants a partner that can keep up with her lifestyle.
@angrychickadee44568 ай бұрын
So happy u still upload after so many years ❤ love u and ur authenticity
@matthewvalentyn7518 ай бұрын
Matchmaking seems sketchy in general to me, I definitely feel like that's a lot of money to be told that you are not applicable though. I'd be frustrated and take it personally too probably at that point. As far as her body goes, I think that's her business and I respect that she's so open about it because I a lot of people do keep that type of thing secret and set unrealistic standards and I wouldn't have known about the potential scarring at all if she hadn't discussed it. Overall I think she might not be perfect but she's very human and it's just not that important to me to feel like I need to say much on it aside from people should leave her alone.
@amandaredd30578 ай бұрын
I think it's natural to grow more self aware and assured as to what you demand from life and a partnership as you get older. I don't think it's a bad thing at all. I was widowed almost 5 years ago at 36, and as much as I loved my husband, my approach to future relationships will be completely different. Some of that is the independence I've aquired raising our son alone, and I just can't give that up. In fact, I would need a man who's incredibly independent too. I haven't even attempted to dive back into the dating pool, honestly! My sister in law has tried to set me up with 2 different guys who live out of state but... I'm just not feeling it yet. I'm sure I'll get there eventually - I guess. Sorry for babbling! I'll shut up now 😊
@Tinypaperplate8 ай бұрын
That sweater is the coolest thing I've seen all year. I need that in my life!
@foxbuns8 ай бұрын
she is clearly very insecure with all of the cosmetic surgery she is getting done. the matchmaker is right, she is not ready and needs to work on herself mentally. just because you have a therapist doesnt mean the therapy is actually helpful, there are unfortunately "yes men" therapists.
@crazyratlady31158 ай бұрын
For me, I think the matchmaker just got defensive that this client didn't want the kind of 'doormat/softer' man that the matchmaker herself married. Being the 'Type A' married to a much more relaxed 'Waymond' type, I can't imagine wanting to be with someone very much like me. For me. But I can understand someone driven and ambitious expecting a partner who can keep up with her and perhaps she was just being a bit heavy handed trying to ward off the hobosexuals and the leech boys.
@katydid9177 ай бұрын
Yea, the woman who already has a man is the defensive one, not the TikTok woman who can’t even get a man lol.
@kat82958 ай бұрын
I have a friend who is a Jewish Matchmaker in Brooklyn. She told me that constructive criticism is common for both men and women. The idea is that it's not that you're not "worthy of love", but that you may not have the needed tools to be in a monogamous, lifelong relationship that will succeed. If she were polyamorous, not looking for a life-long partner, or was looking for something else, she would need/not need a different set of tools as there are different benefits and challenges to those relationships. As she is looking for a long term monogamous relationship with a man, there may be tools she need to work on a foundation to a relationship that she doesn't already have. "Worthiness" has nothing to do with it. If this woman didn't need to work on herself at all and already had all the answers, she would have achieved her goal. As it stands, constructive criticism isn't a personal attack on her, but rather giving her an idea of what she needs to have success with the goal she has in mind. Never compromise your values, morals, and self respect, but if you want long term monogamy, being flexible on appearance, income, and status is probably a good idea if you want something more substantive. From what it sounds like, the matchmaker telling her that the men she has want a "softer" woman may have been a polite euphemism for: "my clients find you abrasive; take it down a notch".
@saradeemon8 ай бұрын
def wouldn't get along with her but I'll totally a supporter of people doing the body mods they want!
@JKyall8 ай бұрын
I think this lady's problem is she can't stop the plastic surgery. I almost fainted when she said she was just now turning 38. Wow. I have 5 years on her and this woman could just about pass as my mom.
@millsykooksy48638 ай бұрын
LMAO
@mamagloopASMR8 ай бұрын
I love your hair it looks so nice on you 😍💖
@nathanielturner25778 ай бұрын
0:14 I’m loving the tattooed Patrick Star sweatshirt!!
@hope-cat48948 ай бұрын
I doubt the matchmaker told her that she was unworthy of love. She probably told her that she needs to meet the men halfway and work on some parts of herself if she wants the type of men she desires. It's not a surprising concept even if it does feel like it goes against our idea of "Be Yourself." We still have to work on our personal issues, and try to be appealing enough to attract a partner and we have no problem expecting others to do it for us. Relationships are about compromise.
@littleteeny8 ай бұрын
Her bar is actually really low honestly for what the standards SHOULD be
@sapphiremoon238 ай бұрын
Ty for always looking so STYLED AND SO DOPE!! Love you and love the videos 🙏❤️
@Hetalea8 ай бұрын
The whole "you're asking for too much" type of mentality always bothered me Sure some people out there have ridiculous demands but hers aren't particularly outrageous and so to me this sounds like they're saying "being in a relationship asap should be more important to you that you being fulfilled in that relationship" Also if you feel like you lowered your standards/settled for someone then to me that sounds like you don't respect your partner and so you shouldn't be in that relationship in any case Granted what we seek is not always what we should look for but clearly this is not the point those kind of comment are trying to make
@saturn4rchive8 ай бұрын
Honestly the matchmaker was out of pocket *and* unprofessional for telling her to change herself instead of conveying that majority of her clientele on the opposite side would not, indeed, match with her personality type, which is completely valid because certain businesses and services cater to specific people, but if that was the issue, the matchmaker did a terrible job of communicating it, and we can't really blame this woman for the way she reacted, especially after she had already paid for the "consultation" fee just to find out the matchmaker wanted to shove her into a mold she didn't fit in nor asked for. Her standards weren't anything crazy or out of the ordinary either, if a man had said he's looking for that in a woman I KNOW no one would have a problem with it, but as always, women are held at a higher standard and bashed for expressing their completely reasonable wants 🤷🏻♀️
@Bulletproof-Rose8 ай бұрын
I would totally agree IF we knew for sure that those are things the matchmaker actually said. It could have easily been her interpretation was completely different than what they actually meant Honestly, I'm skeptical that the matchmaker wouldn't be able to help her find the type of person she's looking for, but I have to agree with them that she doesn't seem ready for a relationship, regardless of how she feels about it
@cjb27498 ай бұрын
Quick, somebody send this woman a link to the 'married at first sight' application! 😂 That's obviously what she's looking for...
@FigmentForever8 ай бұрын
Firstly, I don’t think she wants kids & is very career driven. You don’t put in all that work to make you feel comfortable with your body to then have it wrecked by pregnancy - my sister is STILL suffering debilitating post-birth complications despite having a perfectly normal pregnancy. Secondly, I didn’t find anything wrong with what she said as it comes off as she wants someone with similar goals & attitude. My wife & I are very alike in our marriage - and have rarely had any conflict whatsoever, certainly to the point where it’s become a deal breaker between us. We both were open with our wants, hard “no’s”, and our pasts from early on. Ex: Neither of us wanted kids in any capacity & have refused to even sign legal godparent type contracts for family. We don’t hate kids, but would not be good parents due to health & financial reasons. Also to expand on your comment, Opposites have never been attractive to me & we are both alike personality wise. The matchmaker probably didn’t mesh well with her, nor do I think this woman was wanting a marriage, partner, etc immediately - just someone she could see that path with. I don’t know who this TikTok person is, but she seems very straightforward & knows what she wants in life - so good for her!
@ew46458 ай бұрын
A broken record here but YOUR HAIR is so cute!! 😍
@HopeCasias108 ай бұрын
I would never go to a match maker because she couldn’t help me either 😂 Also if she told me to find a man or woman I need to be soft I’d be up and outta there wtf 😂
@shannonosullivan13758 ай бұрын
You need to have *some* softness. Allow yourself to trust and let love happen. Too huge of walls will get in the way of a deeper relationship
@HopeCasias108 ай бұрын
@@shannonosullivan1375 I won’t ever start another relationship with just a relationship. People now gotta work for me a little. My ex husband cheated on me with a 19 year old and has now abandoned me and our kids. I can’t just be soft out the gate anymore
@MH-ys2gd8 ай бұрын
i mean, alot of dominant man like submissive woman, and alot of more submissive man like dominant woman. its a clichee but does apply often, tho not always. i dont think its about being soft - soft could be so many things. lol
@foxbuns8 ай бұрын
pretty sad that you cant make tiny changes like "have more empathy"
@HopeCasias108 ай бұрын
@@foxbuns that’s not what I said at all. How did that translate to not having more empathy? You didn’t read what I said
@user_kH9bw3ns18 ай бұрын
your looks have been great, but today's seems so effortlessly iconic. Cheers and rock on.
@I_Am_RosaV8 ай бұрын
I think she exaggerated what the matchmaker really said to her. I would love to hear the matchmakers side.
@HolandaChiquita8 ай бұрын
The reason people say to lower your standards or work on yourself, is to open up that dating pool a little. And people do change through time. Sometimes being around a person, can change you positively and make you find out even more about yourself. It's good to have standards. But also good to take a chance sometimes.
@GlowandLuna8 ай бұрын
The match maker was trying to say I cant match you right now because no one is looking for someone like you. If she is perfect and worthy and doesnt need to change why is she single at 38?
@VannahSavage8 ай бұрын
SWEATER GET WHERE DID YOU THAT I NEED FUGLY THING 😱 *AHEM* … sorry about that. What I meant to say is: pardon me, would you be so kind as to direct me to the store or website where you bought that phenomenal article of intentionally hideous winter wear? I feel an overwhelming desire to add it to my wardrobe.
@MagnoliaPantherWoman6 ай бұрын
I appreciate your perspective RTG. Well said. Have a good weekend.
@selcatron8 ай бұрын
omg your hair is so cute
@melissarufano15768 ай бұрын
I understand the sentiment about her personality and how she comes off, but I think from a more objective standpoint the matchmaker was definitely out of line and unprofessional in her approach. She made it sound like this woman had to change her personality in order to fit her possible matches, rather than the matchmaker doing her job to find the best suitor FOR HER. I really don’t think her standards are that high either - whether they’ll all be met immediately is another matter - but she didn’t get so specific that I think it would remove a lot of possible matches. (I agree that what she is searching for may not be the actual perfect fit though, since balance is important in a relationship, but she’s also grown enough to probably know best what she is searching for.) I also think the surgery bashing is completely uncalled for, especially since she didn’t even mention any expectations or desires for what she wants a partner to look like. So for people to tell her she isn’t good enough or that the fact that she had a lot of surgery should somehow disqualify her from finding a good partner or something?? It’s ridiculous, not to mention incredibly rude. She was just sharing info about her experience. I know people will say if you post it, people are allowed to comment, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy (or warranted) to hear a bunch of strangers tell you you’re a bad person or something because you got elective surgery.
@Luv2LuvEm8 ай бұрын
I’ve always wondered why James Charles doesn’t use one of those rich people match makers instead of literally using his “for you” page as a dating app. I’ve said this for years now. There are match makers who have great success doing that, I’m sure one could find someone for him to date, he could have them sign NDAs if that’s what he feels like he needs to do, and for God’s sake they would at least be of age!
@CaulkMongler8 ай бұрын
He should just hire escorts who are used to signing NDAs.
@Luv2LuvEm8 ай бұрын
@@CaulkMongler Well that too. But he talks about wanting to “find love” And that’s literally what those matchmakers do. I just don’t understand why he won’t at least try that route. You know, seeing as how he’s so “desperate” and all.
@LeNimph8 ай бұрын
He wants to abuse people that's why lol
@Franklinandme8 ай бұрын
10:10 wait wait wait.... You need a license to "practice" match making?!?! 😅🤨
@armt85438 ай бұрын
Gasp!! Feels like an honor to see your natural hair! It’s beautiful !!!
@janojankins8 ай бұрын
Matchmakers from what I know basically owe you nothing. Your paying to meet with them it's in the fine print. Most of them not all can be very old-school thinking. This woman wasted her money and she's upset. I don't even think a official license is a thing for them they just take a online course and get a print out.
@lunarpixiecat8 ай бұрын
I love your shirt!! Im inspired to make my own tattooed Patrick shirt now
@TheThora178 ай бұрын
And where exactly is the “asking too much” part? Smh
@hayley18638 ай бұрын
Love your hair!!!
@vixtex8 ай бұрын
As an old women my heart goes out to her💔
@tsundear8 ай бұрын
Your hair is so pretty you’ve inspired me to ask my hairstylist for the same 🥺💕
@shannond15118 ай бұрын
Why is your sweater so mesmerizing
@angelabernal40768 ай бұрын
Maybe she mad she spent $300+ for nothing 😬😬😬
@dangozen5908 ай бұрын
well this is gonna be a good watch
@AddlesH7 ай бұрын
You make me laugh so much all the time with these videos. Thank you for the content
@CaulkMongler8 ай бұрын
Imo it’s harder for two type As to blend vs A/B bc As will more likely want things their way rather than being the person needing to constantly accommodate - which type Bs do naturally. Just my little armchair therapist theory. I think the matchmaker sorta has a point tho. It’s one thing to know what you want, but what do the men you’re going for want? If she wants an “alpha” man, do those kind of men like a self-described difficult woman? Or a woman who’s type B a chills him out?
@nocturnal_daydreaming18807 ай бұрын
just imagine if she got mad the matchmaker couldn't find her someone.... because she spent so much money on her..... I think the matchmaker was trying to protect herself
@MiaVilleneuve8 ай бұрын
That is the most fantastic sweater i have ever seen
@jenniferjohnston44038 ай бұрын
Every person who told me they never lie have been the biggest liars. Seriously, look out for these people.
@ed-wh8ih8 ай бұрын
That is a fantastic jumper I absolutely love it
@russelljackson81538 ай бұрын
Not everyone is suited to being in a relationship. If you've reached a certain point in your life where you don't really need anyone but kind of want them, then find ways to be social other than just dating.
@autismandpodcast8 ай бұрын
I love your hair cut! ❤
@karlakleynhans13228 ай бұрын
Off topic. Just want to compliment your new hairstyle. You look great! 🎉
@shannond15118 ай бұрын
The fact that there even is a license to match make is ridiculous
@Hiiiiiiiiieeee8 ай бұрын
I can’t help but think, while she’s explaining why it’s more cost-effective to get her surgery done in Philadelphia then to go back to the Dominican Republic, is it really just the cost-effectiveness? Do you not want to go back there because they clearly botched part of your surgery? To each their own and all that, but you will not see me going under the knife, voluntarily, in a foreign country. The logistics of what you would need to do to get back home if something went terribly wrong is just too upsetting and anxiety inducing for me. Aside from the fact that how do you hold them accountable once you’re back home if something went wrong?
@c.h.95668 ай бұрын
👏 Truth! The car ride home from the dentist after a root canal feels long enough. Pain + travel is horrible, why combine them on purpose? Can’t imagine taking ✈️ a flight after major surgery. You make such good points about physician accountability, after care, etc 😖 So many dangers and complications are possible.
@_Laura_Marie8 ай бұрын
I actually need to know where you got that jumper is from!! I'm in love, and I kinda need it asap!! 🖤
@drkmgic8 ай бұрын
oof im in the service industry and i would turn her away too. like im getting so much red flags from her
@476f74748 ай бұрын
She should really be taken her matchmaking license away!!
@mauraflores73128 ай бұрын
Thousands of dollars for a matchmaker dating apps are free and even the ones that charge are not that expensive 😂 and you won’t have someone judging you for what you like or tell you to change yourself
@marinak16078 ай бұрын
woman is weird, matchmaker is weird- what a time to be alive :D
@suqadiqniwa8 ай бұрын
Love ur sweater ❤
@jstillperfect90708 ай бұрын
I think the matchmaker was 100% in the wrong. I understand what the woman said when she made the "not worthy of love comment" because in a way that's what the matchmaker was saying. If she doesn't change her personality, her standards and her outlook on relationships shes not going to find a man because men like "soft women". Also the woman doesn't even really have an attitude, she just has a very overbearing preppy personality, which some people like. I think the matchmaker was wrong and the woman did nothing bad in my opinion.
@losthope988 ай бұрын
I cant stand the personality type tbh. I'd consider myself fairly "type A" (family used to tease and compare me to Monica from friends) but there is a lot of value to practicing a lot of self reflection and mindfulness. After all, emotional intelligence is a very attractive trait to have.
@losthope988 ай бұрын
With that said, I thoroughly disagree that the matchmaker was wrong. If you had this woman as a potential client and her wants and requirements for a partner contradicted the wands and requirements of most of your potential matches/other clients, what are your options?
@jstillperfect90708 ай бұрын
@@losthope98 I understand your comment, but just because you don’t like a type A personality doesn’t mean everyone does. I went to a college that a lot of type a personality girls and they had no trouble finding partners, not everyone finds those traits unlikable. That being said i think it’s wrong telling a woman to lower her standards especially when it comes to choosing a lifelong partner. People should 100% be picky with things like marriage. Also telling the woman she needs to be “softer” is a whole other misogynistic problem. That woman will find her person who loves her type A personality
@losthope988 ай бұрын
@jstillperfect9070 I agree that some of the language implications can be concerning, but I don't think the type of person who unironically uses the term "beta" to describe men will share those concerns. At the end of the day, emotional intelligence and softness/assertiveness/femininity/masculinity/etc are not mutually exclusive. If anything, any strong personality traits are only strengthened by emotional intelligence. We don't know the full story, bur the way she described the encounter vs her reaction to it and the theme of being undeserving of love do not match I feel this is due to a lack of emotional intelligence.
@buffystar38 ай бұрын
I think that the monetary aspects of that TikTok personally rubbed me the wrong way. I never knew that there were in person matchmakers that you pay for, so her saying that she spent thousands of dollars on something I never heard of was jarring. I guess it just makes it harder to empathize her when there’s nothing to relate to. I don’t think she deserved any hate for that though, she’s probably just out if touch with the general population. Also the comment about betas didn’t do her any favors, since the only people who I’ve heard genuinely use those terms are all bigoted freaks. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt on that one though
@sergioin3D6 күн бұрын
Massive core elements of who I am ; would make me, “soft”
@mywadi8 ай бұрын
I don't think the "softer" comment is ok at all, but otherwise, I think she is taking this extremely personally. I would bet she's very insecure about this issue and projecting it onto the matchmaker, likely spurred on by the "softer" comment.
@mywadi8 ай бұрын
To play devils advocate though, it sounds like she has really blown up the matchmakers "we're not a good fit" into "you don't deserve love". So did the matchmaker say "men like softer women" or was it more like "you should be softer/kinder to people"?
@kingofallmediums21238 ай бұрын
Glare, you’re perfect! Don’t get plastic surgery 😊😊😊😊😊😊😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
@graveyardgxblin8 ай бұрын
I love your short hair girlie. It looks super cute!
@hannahmacdonald90407 ай бұрын
I think the biggest issue is telling women they need to be 'soft, feminine and submissive' in order to date men. It is unhealthy and rooted in patriarchy, not every man is intimidated by a dominant women and not every women is submissive, quiet and does what she's told. That is my issue with this because if you read the comments it is a lot of men saying dominant women are unattractive and that they only find submissive, slave types attractive which is saying a lot about the way men still view themselves as 'above' women.
@MagnoliaPantherWoman6 ай бұрын
She's fine asking for what she wants. She has put in the effort for that with her career, physical presentation, mental health, and interviewing matchmakers. She shows her soft side when she's talking about going out to have fun, a lovely demeanor shift imo. She also has a right to her feelings and experience. My question is, do people want to be judged as much as they judged her? From one video, or even two? That's shallow, superficial, unattainable, and literally makes her more authentic than her detractors.
@TheFangirlOtaku8 ай бұрын
Girl that sweater is high rizz fashion 👌👌
@Lilmisscostumedrama8 ай бұрын
Omg that tummy tuck scar was f**ked!!!! That poor woman! Remind me not to go there for PS!
@nathanielturner25777 ай бұрын
Aren’t matchmakers supposed to be very detail oriented about their clients matches? They should ask these questions already!!
@hyde18938 ай бұрын
I think theres somebody for everybody 🤷♀️
@BelieveVs8 ай бұрын
I love your videos keep up the good work
@LadyBern7 ай бұрын
Ok I can tell you now she won't work well with a partner who "isn't a doormat". I get the feeling she wants one but one who can make decisions. The matchmaker rejects her as a client and tells her like it is. She doesn't like it and goes to tiktok to tell the world the matchmaker is in the wrong. The matchmaker didn't say and do as she wanted so the problem is in her this no need to self reflect on her standards.
@sheepj24648 ай бұрын
She seems like a lot , like she would argue with you if you pushed and take advantage if you didn’t , It makes sense why she needs a match maker
@BelindaShort6 ай бұрын
idk I think we're forgetting that if she doesn't like woo, she is not going to be okay with ANYONE that woman meets, that's part of the issue. It's not that she can't love it's that she's not ready for that kind of man
@MagnoliaPantherWoman6 ай бұрын
I agree, it's too easy to tear people down online over one criticism. How about we practice taking people for who they are with discernment and reflection, including who we are and what we want. RTG does this well. I've been the flipside of this woman, and it didn't get me a man I'd marry. If people are rejecting others based on the use of words like beta, I'm already out of that game. Better to encourage people that they are lovable regardless of stereotypes. Again, well said by RTG.
@angrybunnies96648 ай бұрын
This is an attractive woman that is in her late 30s and has enough trouble with relationships that she needed a matchmaker. It almost seems like she expected her to make the perfect husband just suddenly appear. I don't know. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone that's not a doormat, but I cannot imagine someone not a doormat staying in the same room with her for more than 5 minutes. She also describes what she wants in the same way I did as a teenager. It is not only surface level, but vague, and the "no doormats" was something I said as an excuse to push away anyone I was unsure about to compensate for my insecurities. I did this because I thought I was to difficult to be loved or to love someone less difficult. Maybe that's not what's going on here, but I think that the fact that at her stage of life she sounds like I did as a teenager concerning, especially the vagueness. Like what about romantic gestures or how you like to spend your time? What about sexuality? What about beliefs? Do you want kids? How many? When? Is it okay if he has kids already? These things are important to compatibility. That being said, $350 is a lot to pay to get no results, and I don't think I would like this matchmaker, either.
@sergioin3D6 күн бұрын
It’s a Doily
@user_kH9bw3ns18 ай бұрын
"i dont meditate or journal or any "woo" " Journaling and meditating is "woo?" Wtf? I think the matchmaker was questioning whether she was mindful or self reflective?? Of course she didn't pick that up! I do actually wonder how insane of a meltdown she might have if her status symbols disappeared overnight through some tragedy or another. I think the matchmaker was trying to see if she had any moments of self reflection outside of focusing on the next goal of the rat race / consumer culture. With some deep introspection I was able to see that what i deeply, truly want is more easily fulfilled than when I was looking outwards all the time. Like, what is satisfaction? Building forever? To Giulia's point about opposites attracting, there are many high power go getters that want a contast in the home relationship. Its similar to how people make fun of soft guys, whereas she is a hard gal. For example, a guy can be as soft as he wants, and that is A-OK, but he is not entitled to a soft girl when he is out here living his best soft life. It's just so often that opposites attract. Similarly, a body builder women isnt entitled to a body builder man who may be into soft girls. If a very wealthy go-getter guy was complaining about not finding a woman of his wealth and initiative (because he doesnt always want to be the one in charge) he might also be asked if he does introspective exercises. There are definitely women who take charge, but they might not be of the same income bracket. They might be able to bond on deep values though, with some introspection. Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk, and I continue. This tiktok individual is unhinged IMO, and needs a reality check. Of course she feels she got ripped off. She is too hard (as in dense and stubborn) with huge walls up to the general ways of the world. She didnt get any value from the consultation because she didn't listen to the feedback she was given, instead twisting the meaning and using that perverted misconstruction as fuel to claim this matchmaker's career should be destroyed. Oh heck no. If the gender roles were reversed, we would have a chaotic, poor softboi trying to get a matchmaker fired because the matchmaker told him, "hey, other chaotic, soft, poor woman typically want a man who is a little bit harder and more disciplined, and maybe you should try to lean into that a little if you want more success. I really don't know what to tell you." That's not controversial. It's telling someone why not even a matchmaker is down to take more of their money. Gender is performative, and we can lean into to that stuff, especially if we are desperate and not even a matchmaker feels right taking any more of our money. Her rage reminds me of soft guys raised on "there are no differences betwen men and women at all" going through the stages of grief, realizing that the women they are into might be attracted to a hint of classic masculinity. This lady wants to get the matchmaker's career dumped because the matchmaker acknowledged some hard generalizations? This lady is in denial that she has been paying for 10 years of a yes-ma'am therapist that's 'just' been telling her what she wants to hear. Not all therapy is made equal; thats what I tell people. I think some Navajo elder was recently in a video where he talk's about the dangers of "pretty lies." I get the feeling this lady has been living in a golden prison of "pretty lies." "What's in the dark, must, come to the light, right?"--C.J. Walz(?), Golden Legacy
@betsy1011008 ай бұрын
Random question 😂😂 where did you get your shirt
@SANBENITO0988 ай бұрын
omg your hair cut is so cute ps DELETE TICKTOK
@Dan.Slaughter.8 ай бұрын
😂 matchmaking license... Sure WTFN😆
@DoraSometimes7 ай бұрын
I think she seeks instant fixes for everything. Sometimes you have to "do the work", in every aspect of life...
@MagnoliaPantherWoman6 ай бұрын
Men have broken up with me because I didn't make enough money. Love that they self sorted themselves out of my personal life. But a woman asking for an equal man is too much or somehow wrong? Nope. S