Release What's Holding You Back | Dream Life Series 🌻

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Fears. Limiting Beliefs. Perfectionism. So many things could be holding you back. It's time to uncover any fears and beliefs that don't serve you, and begin to release them.
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// common fears
• fear of failure
• fear of judgment
• fear of uncertainty
• fear of change
• resistance / procrastination (fear of taking action)
• fear of success
// lessons on fear
• Growth happens outside of your comfort zone
• Keep doing things that scare you-strengthen that muscle
• Fear as your compass: What you fear the most is likely the most important thing you should do.
• Fear never goes away. Feel the fear & do it anyway.
Fear setting worksheet inspired by Tim Ferriss | bit.ly/2tnrlkr
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Filmed by Aileen Xu | @lavendaire
Edited by Loryn Teranishi | @yoloryn
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@lavendaire Жыл бұрын

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@Piquetures 6 жыл бұрын

“Growth happens outside your comfort zone” was something I needed to hear again. 🙏💕 I think it’s easy to forget that our comfort zones change with time and that to keep growing, sure you may have conquered a fear before but that isn’t a reason to stop looking for other areas to improve!

@lavendaire 6 жыл бұрын

yess i always have to remind myself that too!

@laurachampeil_ 6 жыл бұрын

"Done is better than perfect" .. thank you, it's the only thing I have to understand today! I didn't realize it until you say it. I have to work on, but thank you for you video ♥

@SiobhanOConnell519 6 жыл бұрын

I just want to add that sometimes its really difficult to identify your self-limiting beliefs and fears by yourself. I have made the most amazing progress in transforming myself through seeing a therapist. For me specifically, its a trauma therapist because I am recovering from complex PTSD. I am steadily transforming myself from a girl who suffered with severe crippling anxiety, mood volatility and ptsd symptoms which held her back from even having a steady job to an ambitious young woman who is ready to take on relationships, have a career and pursue my passion of creative writing. In cases like mine, this progress would be impossible without the help of a skilled therapist.

@PahlaB 6 жыл бұрын

If you don't feel fear, you're a psychopath. LOL!!! Loved this video, it was really helpful. Your B roll was especially awesome today, too.

@Piquetures 6 жыл бұрын

Pahla Bowers ahhh hi！ I just wanted to let you know I recently sustained a foot injury and your chair exercises helped me so much!! Did not expect to find you here so it was a pleasant surprise 😊🙏 thank you for all you do!

@PahlaB 6 жыл бұрын

HI! KZfaq is such a small world, huh?? I'm so glad you liked the chair videos, and I think everybody can use a little Lavendaire in their lives! :)

@lavendaire 6 жыл бұрын

hehe thank you!

@moneymagnet1112 6 жыл бұрын

Failure is part of the game. Imagine if you get everything that you want, what would be the challenge or purpose of life. There won't be anymore growth. Failure/challenges are natural part of the life cycle.

@aparajitabiswas2911 6 жыл бұрын

It was really very helpful video..thanks a lot dear Aileen 💕 "Growth happens outside of your comfort zone" .. "Done is better than perfect" .. "Follow your fears".. I will constantly remind myself these lessons to overcome my fear..

@LoLeanderx 6 жыл бұрын

I love you and the series. You radiate so much positive energy and inspiration. 💗

@lavendaire 5 жыл бұрын

If you're looking to go deeper into each topic of the Dream Life Series, check out the Create Your Dream Life Course! 🌻 lavendaire.com/dreamlife It's the first ever Lavendaire course! - A six-week, interactive program to help you discover your true potential, release your fears & make your dream life a reality. Just like the Dream Life Series, it features the different aspects of creating your dream life (with worksheets, exercises, and journaling prompts), but the course is more structured and detailed, with a guided experience. Essentially, it's the next step up from the series! PLUS: It's been over a year since I created the Dream Life Series, so I've personally learned so much more about life and the artist of life journey. I'll be sharing those new exclusive insights in the course, so don't miss out!

@nurulpermatasuri6116 6 жыл бұрын

YASH, FINALLY💖 you're so amazing aileen. I love you so much💖

@toni-6673 6 жыл бұрын

You're spreading calm and happiness gurl this is amazing

@lichan02 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Aileen for everything that you do!!

@grungemonkE 6 жыл бұрын

Favorite video from this series thus far far, needed this! ❣️

@missmykki2949 6 жыл бұрын

I also want to add that the fear of success can be related to the fear of loosing a goal, a motivation : some people think that if they achieve their goal, they’ll get their life empty, so they tend (sometime without noticing it themselves) to refuse to succeed (I am not sure that I was clear... it would be better if I could write in English, but as most of you are anglophone, I am doing my best to share!) Beside that, I’d like to thank you for this series, it’s so interesting and educative (it’s not really the word I was looking for, but it will do the trick :p ), I love your contents, it makes me so relaxed, yet so confident and motivated as it gives me the interest to push myself to the best I can be. Therefore, keep doing what you do, you are just a treasure of kindness and share!

@LindaThao 6 жыл бұрын

So glad for this new episode! 💕

@katherynne8241 6 жыл бұрын

I have been enjoying this series so far -- thank you!

@feleesi 6 жыл бұрын

yay it’s finally here! i’ve been looking forward to videos in this series now. definitely made things clearer for me & now i’m excited to see this to the end. thank you so much for this ❤️

@MarciaPze 6 жыл бұрын

So excited! I just downloaded every single worksheet! Excited to write! Thanks Aileen! You're the best!

@nikithagarapati2322 6 жыл бұрын

Love your dream life series! I'm glad I followed you Aileen!

@myriambhji3951 6 жыл бұрын

"Done is better than perfect". Thank you fort that reminder !

@laurengarrett8244 6 жыл бұрын

Using fear as a compass is something that I haven’t heard before but it resonated so much with me. Thank you!

@lavendaire 6 жыл бұрын

Vietnamese, Chinese, Russian, Spanish, and Turkish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings 💕

@jasminealiareads 6 жыл бұрын

Loved this video! I am actually progressing so much as this series goes on...I'm feeling myself grow closer and closer to my dream life:)

@apriany 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you verrrrryy much for this session... growing and growing and more growth

@venugopalanvenu7201 6 жыл бұрын

The way u help us in analysing our fears and THEN tackling them..is amayzing Love !

@kaylamarie9584 6 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful!! You are so inspiring!

@arielleabelon7847 6 жыл бұрын

Love this!! Thanks Aileen. Your soothing voice and life lessons keep me sane 😊

@yandielvlogs8107 6 жыл бұрын

Love the way you edit queen

@zamimahossain9482 6 жыл бұрын

U r one of the most inspirational you tubers I have ever seen 💎

@priyankasahu6126 6 жыл бұрын

Fear is so common and so relatable. Often so ignored. I am also reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield and I am glad that you enlisted it in your books to read video. Thanks for pointing out those points. Really helpful!

@JesseandKyle 6 жыл бұрын

Growth happens outside the comfort zone! I LOVE this phrase. 😍

@winnonajane5240 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you once again Aileen! Keep spreading positivity and love! Sending love from Malaysia 💖💖💖🙌🙌🌻🌻

@romaissach497 6 жыл бұрын

I love it ♥!! thank you Aileen ♥! it's exactly what I am looking for currently, and what you've said is exactly what's holding me back, I can't wait for the next video about taking actions.

@reetsrituals4348 6 жыл бұрын

Am just getting there with every lesson... I can see the change in me... I have already started to take small steps towards the things I always wanted to do.... am so thankful to you Aileen.... Thank you !

@nurrachmahakim3468 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Aileen, you're the best! Love you. I really wanna see you for sure💙

@mariajosebianchi5 5 жыл бұрын

You're so great and we're all so blessed for having you in our lives! Your content is great, Aileen, keep up the great work, I know you'll reach that million subscribers you talk about in your vision exercise :)

@marantan4715 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making the series.. This is what we need and there is not much of this kind of help in the Internet. We need people who already succeed to help us choose what to do with our lifes to use the best of it, contribute to the world in the best way. We are so grateful! Thank you for devoting exactly to this topic!

@camilleconcepcion2560 6 жыл бұрын

This is gold. Thank you for this wonderful series Aileen! I guess I just need to repeat this every morning to internalize everything that you are saying. Thank you for sharing all of the things that you know

@shalup94 6 жыл бұрын

It's amazing how you spoke about fear in such a positive way 😁

@puddingsdiary272 6 жыл бұрын

Hey! I just wanna to thank you for making this series especially this video! I am a pharmacy student and we have an exam called OSCE which is an examination to test our counselling skills. I am a timid person and I always scared of OSCE workshops and exam. Fear is blocking my way to success. I am so scared, I don't know why. I think part of the reason is I am not confidence with myself. And I know that only when I overcome and face this fear, I will then have the chance to become a first-class honour. I really agree the phase that 'Fear as your compass' and 'Fear will never goes away.' I will tried my best to face my fear, step out of my comfort zone and do my best! Thank you Aileen!

@chandrikabvs487 6 жыл бұрын

I was holding back myself I didn't knew why, thank you so much Aileen for this video😘😍 it was really helpful

@milkpink 6 жыл бұрын

You’re so amazing, thank you 😭💖💖💖

@karensetchfield3495 6 жыл бұрын

Such good advice, I have every one of those fears minus the last one. Thank you for this video.

@bambi5102 4 жыл бұрын

you're so beautiful and kind... and i love your hair and makeup :) you're killing it girl

@jasminebedruz8789 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Aileen, you always put me back on track. I love you and your videos!!! ❤️❤️❤️

@Nadaa242 6 жыл бұрын

grl! i love watching your vids ! they give me such an incrediable power to keep working on achieving my dreams!

@roua3846 6 жыл бұрын

I love you so much! Literally so inspiring! I wish if you could turn this into podcasts so we can get to listen to them all the time! Whenever and wherever we are! ❤

@SR-ye5ye 6 жыл бұрын

So great! Thank you Aileen ! I think it's very helpful ! I like your positiv energy that you bring in every videos :) it makes me smile

@aliciatoporkova269 6 жыл бұрын

had to stop the video when you mentioned fear of success because i learned that about myself recently. after aknowledging this fear, i can let it go and move forward. thank you for being such an inspiration Aileen!!!!!

@moseslewis7149 6 жыл бұрын

I luuuuvvvv the positivity!! Keep up the good work!! The bangs are gorgeous on you too!!😊

@isabellapattinson1437 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. This video is really helpful and quite common to everyone. Love you and love your channel.

6 жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this. I'm a massive procastinator when it comes to anything that may have some impact in my life, and I know that's beacuase I'm super scared of changes. At the same I want to grow and change towards my ideal self. I gotta work on that fear asap.

@learnwithprabha 6 жыл бұрын

Wow i was eagerly waiting for today so much inspiring lots of love to u aileen

@nicol2607 4 жыл бұрын

You are my favorite KZfaqr, I really love all your videos!

@__Yankeela 3 жыл бұрын

"Done is better than perfect " I needed to hear this. Thank you Aileen for this amazing video ❤❤

@nnamfhon-7401 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! It's really helpful for me. :)

@hmaki9783 6 жыл бұрын

Your words always encourage me to take action

@annemtorress 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you really needed this video!!!

@harshabonde532 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you, dear. Your videos are amazing. I learned so much from them.

@hichammecho9070 4 жыл бұрын

This video is what I truly needed to start away thank uu so much ailein 😍😚😚😚😚😚

@kevindaniellewhite2546 6 жыл бұрын

Lavendaire smells so good woman of joy and light thank you!!

@ulyssesbaldomere8346 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Eileen. I really like your channel. Each one of your videos helps me with my cognitive health and helps me through my day.

@noorabbas3848 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. Seriously. ❤️

@daantjeyoutube698 6 жыл бұрын

You are the most inspiring person I know! I love this series❤️ I’m already looking forward for the next video 😊

@ahangmarai760 6 жыл бұрын

You are one of the most positive person🌼 with calming voice❤ 😍Love your video and your concept 🦄🌻

@sofija_theresa 6 жыл бұрын

You are SO MOTIVATIONAL I LOVE IT

@joy2bmeee1 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight and direction. I have a fear of failure AND a fear of success, and so much more to work on. 2018 is supposed to be the year of being uncomfortable for my continued growth according to my Artist of Life Workbook 2018 Goal AF. Thanks for pushing all of us to be better and live the lives we deserve!

@vihana3829 6 жыл бұрын

You read minds!! This video is awesome, soooo sooo helpful.... I can't express how happy i am!! Thnks for inspiring us daily, Aileen

@beautifulmindpodcast 6 жыл бұрын

I really struggle with fear of success. Its really scary. Your fear mind is always there. It never changes. The only thing that changes is your perception from fear to love. Thank u so much for this video. Sending u lots of love.♡♡♡♡♡

@greycarbon26 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video

@elle5115 6 жыл бұрын

I really have to binge watch ur vids!! I got busy lately and I have to catch up moreeee, wish me luck💕💕

@s.v.4786 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Aileen! This episode is what I really needed to hear. I am very scared I won't be able to do a job I signed up to with my university next year and I realized I am just covered in fear even tho I am absolutely able to handle it! Thanks again, your job is amazing 🤗

@Abcdfj127 6 жыл бұрын

thank u so much Aileen ❤❤😭 u can't imagine how much I love your videos , always you are my inspiration lots of kisses from Saudi Arabia ❤😍

@1RooMiiNaa1 6 жыл бұрын

One of my favourites so far!!

@aliceinwonderland42020 6 жыл бұрын

The word deadline gets a whole new meaning

@Esther-oq2yh 6 жыл бұрын

Oh my god, I love this series so much! it's very useful

@ashlyn9152 6 жыл бұрын

really helpful. you're rocking this hairstyle!!! love your current length of bangs(??) really suits you

@nesstb 6 жыл бұрын

Hey Aileen ❣️ thank you for making videos and being such an amazing person !❣️ I've been excellent in school since I can remember but these past 2 years I have been through consecutive failures. Which made me question my intelligence. I've fallen into a severe kind of depression and my psychologist gave me medicine to take, but I couldn't take them bc I felt like that's not how I want to get better! Now I feel like I'm still in shock of what I'm going through since I never imagined my life would go this way! I know I can still fix it and achieve my dreams. But I just feel a lack of motivation and discipline, and like what this video is about "FEAR". I'm afraid of every step I'll be taking. And so I start visualizing the worst things in life. Much Love ❣️❣️❣️

@KimmiS. 5 жыл бұрын

I love this episode😍 i totally need this right now as I am starting a new chapter next month seeing as I've finally decided to quit my job and create my dream life😍 watching your videos helped me a lot with this big decision so thank you so much, aileen!

@DrinkwaterMindurbznz 6 жыл бұрын

Best video ever 👏😆👏🤗 It was really eye opening 😮 with plenty of food for thought. 🤔Thx!

@yumnaamjad2637 4 жыл бұрын

1.growth happens outside of comfort zone 2.fear of failure,judgement(psycopaths r only ones not scared) 3.done is better than perfect.

@chrysastam 6 жыл бұрын

I love your ideas 💎♥️ thank U!

@alexdovgan2223 6 жыл бұрын

This one is exactly what I need today! ty

@nnillc8899 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you soooooo much for mentioning Fear of Success! I suffer from that and I know that it is the main reason for my procrastination and other things. Thank you so much for that!

@nnillc8899 6 жыл бұрын

I completely understand! I still have this fear and, whenever I have a great idea or a great step towards success, I back away due to my FEAR of success. So what I have been doing now is I do it anyways. For example, if I know that going to a conference will be of great benefit to my success, I go, even though my mind yells and screams that I shouldn't go because of A and B reasons. I go anyways. When I do this, I have been anixety and my heart beats really fast. But I do it anyways. So it's like I am completely ignoring myself and becoming separate from myself (if that makes sense) because it is that only way, for now, that I can take action.

@nnillc8899 6 жыл бұрын

Another thing is I know why I have this fear. Knowing why you have a certain fear helps TREMENDOUSLY. My fear of success stream from my fear of what my family would say. I have ambitions to be very success in all areas of my life; this is something that is not common in my family. So knowing that I can (and will) potentially outgrow my family drastically has caused this fear. Like "will my family deny me/ reject me?" This is what goes through my head and what stops me from being successful. But regardless, I still move on because I really, really, really, really want to be my future self.

@butterkeksgangster6685 5 жыл бұрын

This is real high quality content. Thank you for this present!

@butterkeksgangster6685 5 жыл бұрын

also thanks for showing your own struggles so openly (like in the painting of yourself)

@salomegp9250 5 жыл бұрын

I can not afford a psychiatrist in my country, and just you being you, adorable and doing your most to help people reach their dream life do a lot for me. You are an amazing woman.

@hillarycarol1115 3 жыл бұрын

I love your videos. I'm learning a lot from you. Your contents are super useful.❤️💕

@quiniradaniardamarta2235 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video, this is so inspiring and... Yea, a good reminder. Thank you so much ❤️

@axleblaze9791 6 жыл бұрын

Now i realised Perfectionism holding me back☹ No more perfectionism from now😤

@priyankag8453 6 жыл бұрын

Your videos are really helpful..Thank you so much again...💕💕💕

@AshleyWineland 6 жыл бұрын

I have been loving this series! Thank you for creating it; it came at the perfect time! This video is a necessary reminder

@lavendaire 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊

@jinzhao9608 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your video ❤️

@ViviansCrafts 6 жыл бұрын

Yes i've been looking forward to the next video for a while😆 thank you for everything, i'm really getting motivated to be my best self! As this year, after summer is my final high school year and i must do great because these grades will stay with me for the rest of my life😣

@lavendaire 6 жыл бұрын

aw thank you & enjoy your summer!

@sofiaauliaa 6 жыл бұрын

Thank youu so much! This video really motivates me to face my fear😊

@rina9210 6 жыл бұрын

thank you so so much x

@sumbaltasawwar 6 жыл бұрын

So true about the Fear of Success - you finally gave me the term to identify mine :P :D Now I can tackle it.

@ponderworld1465 6 жыл бұрын

Hey thankyou aileen for this awesome channel and great series.. This was so powerful that I really took action and started my own youtube channel yesterday!!!! Wow! I never thought I would do it!! Thanx again :)

@bellevieyoutube 6 жыл бұрын

I never thought I'd be able to live free from fear. It seemed as though it was a continual struggle in every person's life. It stripped me of hope. But I thank God that He has completely set me free from fear. It feels as though I'm finally breathing, finally seeing the world around me. I pray that He would do the same in your lives. Simply open yourselves up to Him and He will give you life!