Let’s not forget the time Rory created and executed a covert mission and enlisted Kirk and Michelle to deliver a CD to Lane because she was grounded?!?!

I think Rory knows she has a good support system at home, which is why she’s not so open with Lane and lane is with her. Lane doesn’t have that type of support at home, so she goes to her friend. I will say that Lorelai is a FANTASTIC friend to Lane throughout the show.

Lane really feels more like a Childhood Best Friend rather than really a Current Best Friend. Paris is Rory's best friend as the show goes on. Rory and Lane reconnect somewhat as the seasons go on, but they are in vastly different places in their lives. I think that's why we see Rory both doing things for Lane, but also seemingly taking Lane for granted. Lane has been a constant in Rory's life, but increasingly as the show goes on, Rory is not a constant in Lane's life. Thus the Cheerleader issue.

I do think the moments that Rory neglects Lane really stick out, but besides that I think they did share a lot as well. Anytime Rory doesn't feel comfortable talking to Loreali she turn to Lane. Meaning that sometimes they vent about their parents. Sometimes Rory talks about Paris. Or they talk about their career aspirations which of course for Lane is music and for rory is writing. I love how Lorelie even thinks of Lane as her second daughter.

I love the episode in Chilton, when the principle and school councelor try to push Rory to have more Chilton friends and she makes the speech of having a fullfilling social life in her home town.

I think they have sisters kind of relationship. Sometimes you take your sister for granted because you know that she'll always be there but at the same time you're willing to do anything for her because you want what's best for her.

I never got the impression that Lane and Rory were less close over the seasons. It seems like they still really show up for each other. Rory isn't living in Stars Hollow the whole time because she's away at college, and then her grandparents, and then living with Logan or Paris, but I feel like they make an effort to know what is going on with the other person and be there for the important moments. Whenever Rory does come home to Stars Hollow, she makes a point of connecting with Lane, and sometimes she even goes home for the specific purpose of seeing Lane. I don't have any childhood friends I'm still close to in the way that Rory and Lane are still close by the end of the series, or by the time of the revival.

I love Lane's approach to life, she definitely makes lemonade out of the most acid lemons. She could complain and be miserable comparing her life to Rory's, she embrace the feeling of frustration and comes up with clever plans. She also let Rory know when she's upset about something and that imo enriches any kind of friendship, because it shows that you care, instead of just avoiding the person.

You and your friend sound so similar that i thought there was a weird echo going on at the very beginning 😂 Had to restart the video before I realized! Nice discussion! I agree there are a lot of sides to this argument.

Even though the relationship is uneven I feel this is very realistic. It is common for one person to make more of an effort in a relationship than the other person. I like how they show the imperfections and how these relationships are still worth working on despite the imperfections.

I love this podcast format!! 😸 Lane and rory are the extrovert adopts an introvert trope in many ways. Initially i think lane adopted rory but later on that role switches as needed because rory(and Lorelei) adopt lane as needed.

Of course, since its a TV show, it will mostly show us the conflicts and drama, but in the end, I would say it did a good job of showing us, how their friendship would have been, if we wouldn't have focused on the drama. They seem very wholesome together, they know each other in and out and would go through fire for them, we see that actually quite sometime in the show like you said they were ready to punch the guys for mistreating their best friend, letting them stay at their places etc. Their friendship is pretty realistic in a way, that they needed to put work into staying friends after Rory switched schools. Of course life can get in a way of so many great friendships and friend break-ups are part of life. In the end its the love, effort and dedication to our friends that will make us make time for them, if its only one-sided, then it won't work, both parties need to work on the friendship. Also, a lot of credits go to Lorelai, without her, they still would be friends, but maybe not as close as they were.

13:07 This is such a great take! I hadn't noticed but it's true, that's why Lorelai and Rori's support is so cute, because they never belittle Mrs. Kim in the process ❤

As an introvert similar to Rory, I never liked people to know who my crush was because that would lead to them pushing me to pursue them when I didn't feel comfortable *or* the embarrassment of them watching me get rejected. I always felt like until it was official there was no point sharing it.

I think this is one of the most nuanced discussions I've ever heard about Rory and Lan'es friendship.

This was a great listen. My first instinct was to say Rory was a bad friend to Lane, but I was glad there were actually a lot of instances to pull from where Rory was being a supportive friend!

Are you going to do a similar video for Paris?

I loved this conversation, and the dynamic between Rory and Lane. I also wonder if you will do a conversation or video on Rory and Paris?

Wait I am so damn excited about ur channel😭😭😭😭😭 many of my friends don’t watch Gilmore girls so this scratches the discussion itch so welllll

Crazy that you put this out today ! This was on my mind all last week 😂

OMG I WAS HOPING YOUD DO A VIDEO ABOUT LANE THIS IS PERFECT❣️❣️❣️

Cool conversation ! Loved your thoughts sharing ❤

I think part of what makes Rory so private is because she has shared her life so intimately (and often inappropriately) with her mom. She's been forced to be the responsible one in that relationship and hears probably too much about her mother's personal life. Rory is embarrassed by this internally and doesn't feel as comfortable to share things with her mom or anyone.

loved this video!!

if you made a podcast i’d be tuning in every time i love your opinions

Good topic. They do seem to have a really good friendship, but not sure if it is a best friend relationship. Staying with this topic, it would be interesting to see a video on the Lorelai & Sookie friendship.

I thought there were so many glitches because of you and your friend kind of talking similar XD I had to read the title to realize there were 2 people talking XD

This was so cute! Wouldn’t mind her back for other videos! But with this friendship video especially it worked

loved this!

I feel that rory was a good friend to Lane. My friends from same culture with strict parents couldn't understand my situation and made fun of me which was really hurtful. They left me behind and put it on my face which was a real horrible move. Honestly, rory was there in many ways and I love their friendship

It was only in the comments of your videos that i realized anyone thought Rory was a bad friend to Lane. I always thought everyone loved them and thought they were so wholesome and cute. One thing that hurts so much about the end of season 3 is that Rory really wanted to go to prom with Lane. She didn't want to take Jess to the Chilton prom at all. She wanted to enjoy the Stars Hollow one with Lane even more than she wanted to go with Jess I think. It was so real. I like how Lane makes a point of decorating Rory's cast when she first broke her wrist too. That was a very classic Lane way to handle it. There was a plot where Lane was being sent away to Korea for the summer near the beginning of season 2 and Rory is supportive of Lane in that. Did you two prepare and rewatch Lane&Rory scenes before you recorded you two talking about it? Because you both remembered so many specific things to mention. I love it. I didn't notice anything wrong in the audio. I do think you two sounded so similar. I think i can tell which person is you but only when i really think hard about it lol. This was really fun. I would listen to you two do more episodes together!

I love how constructive this conversation is. You’re both listening to each other and genuinely care about the other’s opinions. I really admire this interaction. 🙃

Wowww I was so excited to see that you actually uploaded this video, and again you did not disappoint! Some time ago I suggested it in your comments, so seeing the title really made my day ❤ waiting for your future vids too:)

Love all your videos!!

I might sound like a broken record, but I love how you pick topics ❤

Neither Lane or Paris were Rory's best friend imo, it was Lorelei, but Lane is close second

I think Rory doesn't open up as much to Lane as Lane does to her because Rory has her Mom to talk to about everything and Lane doesn't have anyone like that (except Lorelai to a degree) Also, Rory was especially awkward and insecure when she first liked Dean, she didn't even tell Lorelai for a while.

When my daughter died, I had friends close by my side: my high school best friend, my college roommate, and my current best friend. It didn’t matter how often we had been in contact over the years.

My bff growing up was such a Rory, and there are even parallels to the revival "year in the life" and my bff now. Lots of victimhood and self centered nature. It took many years to realize that she wasn't a good friend to me and certainly isn't now. It's actually really interesting to see myself as much more of a Lane from this breakdown. I'd always been a more open person with my friends, and found that they never really reciprocated.

i would love to see a video on Mrs. Kim and her parenting style.

I hope I can word this where it makes sense, but can you make a video on how Stars Hollow residents are basically NPC's? Like, you hardly ever see anyone (or even Lorelei and Rory interacting with them), yet everyone is invested in their lives and they're universally beloved? 🤔 also, how they only see a character for plot. Like Rory seeing Lindsey outside the butcher shop trying to make Dean a good dinner, in the store with Lane, then with Lorelei when Lindsey's mom pops off. Other than that, they never see them again lol. I just always found that funny

Great video! I would love if you did a take on Lorelai.

HELP I COULD’NT TELL APART THE 2 VOICES

Your audio is messed up lol I’m glad you fixed in the another videos

Have you ever thought about doing a take on Lorelei and Lane’s unique relationship? With the parallels/differences between Emily and Mrs. Kim? Just a thought 😃

Ok but, I can't be the only one who thinks you kinda sound like a calm version of lane, right? :')

I've always thought that Lane and Rory's friendship is very one sided. I don't think she always treats Lane right, or at least, as a best friend would.

I love Lane but I actually found her often times a bit immature and I feel like she didn’t listen to Rory just as often. There were many times throughout the series where Rory was clearly upset about some thing and either didn’t notice or it just went completely over her head like she wasn’t aware of what was going on. And yeah, Rory didn’t always share things, but Lane wasn’t always perceptive to things that were going on with her either. To me, lane and Rory are just the perfect example of childhood friends… You become friends due to proximity and you could have some deep moments but when you’re young friendships tend to be more shallow and they didn’t really evolve much, they stayed in that kind of shallow friendship as they got older. it isn’t until Paris that really gets a friend that is more like her. If you wanna talk about bad friendship, I think Rory treated Paris way worse. She was always denying that Paris was her friend at all, and yet Paris was always talking about how she was her best friend.!

5:01 i also think rory was insecure about being obvious watching dean. If it’s two girls it’s way more noisy and obvious verses Rory’s plan to seem to shop (still obvious but she’s 15 or 16)

I really wanted to see Lane involved with movie night or international grab bag night, game night etc. I always imagine she was first introduced to Rock music through Lorelai, although that’s just my theory.

I thought there was something wrong with the audio because you and your friend sound exactly the same! This one was a little hard to get through for me

I think the friendship is close to how sisters can be and maybe even like cousins. Lorelai acts like an aunt also.

Rory can be seen physically present for lane or helping her, but rarely she is emotionally available. She rarely listen. Generally, whenever lane needs to talk, rory, being a narcissist, is always preoccupied

5:00 Yes! I'm introverted and exactly the same! 😅

i always felt like they had each other's back no matter what, even when Rory drops the ball for lane when she's going through her own shit and becomes a bit too self-absorbed to me it's just normal teenager behavior. Sometimes at 16 you're not always good at managing your shit. But she always does the big things that matter for Lane without expecting anything back. We don't see Lane doing the same thing much to Rory, but i do feel it's bound to happen offscreen. That's just being a human. Through all their changes and diverging life experience, Rory ultimately tries hard to support Lane even when they're less present to each other.

Lorelai is Rorys bestfriend. so I think by Rorys logic she wouldn't confied in Laine what she wouldn't tell her mother. And yeah Laine is a lot more extroverted we know Laine Is the one who originally approached rory back in kindergarten and we know Laine started participating more in other things when rory left for Chilton. I do think they're not really compatible other than their long shared history. I also think if not for the sanctuary that Lorelais house represents to Laine, they might have grown more distant once Rory went away. that being said, both girls are amazing friends to each other. they both support each other unconditionally. But at the same time it's more of a friendship that grew into a "I'll hang out with when I'm in town even though we don't regularly speak." instead of a "I regularly send you memes " if that makes sense. also worth noting that Laine and Rory hang out more when Rorys relationship with her mother is strained. Laine was always number 2 compared to Lorelai in terms of how we expect best friends to act. And eventually goes down further as Rory becomes closer to Paris.

Love this series. Wishing you enough success to afford a new microphone.

Let’s be real, conversations between my friends and I most certainly didn’t pass the bechtel test when we were 16. 😅

Rory is the protagonist so...she is self-centered. That's just it.

I also think they talk about boys together a lot because Lane has nobody to talk to about it and Rory usually avoids the topic with her mom. With Dean she didn’t talk about it at first and then with the whole cheating scandal avoided talking about it completely; Jess was a sore subject because Lorelai didn’t like him and so was Logan because she didn’t really approve of his family and him being rich. It just makes sense for them to vent about boys together.

Lane is Rory’s best friend not Paris. Your best friend is a title or position that you and only you alone can give another individual. Rory and Paris had a few years with some ups and downs. But unfortunately they had a lot of downs. Let’s face it, often times they were in a toxic relationship. If a male character treated Rory that way fans would probably see it much different. I don’t hate Paris and she does have her moments but you could say she can be a fair weather friend. Rory and Lane on the other hand have had a friendship since kindergarten. They also have a much more healthy and stable friendship. They have become more like family. Rory tolerates Paris partly because she can’t seem to get rid of her. Rory and Lane seem to always come back together. I can see Rory and Lane being besties in there 80’s with there children/grandchildren being friends. Paris I’m not so sure? I would also argue that Rory’s relationship with Lane has been her least toxic on the show. Even less toxic than Rory and Lorelei. Sorry if that was too long! I’m just a big fan of the show 😃

I think your on to something with your stars hallow water theory.

I totally did the hair thing Lane did once oops

I couldn't catch what your friend said - do Rory and Lane pass the (something) test. What test?

I didn’t like how Lane just got married so she could have sex and that didn’t work out. I wanted lane to end up as a baddie rock and roll drummer living in NYC.

With high school rory, im just like rory is a teenager. Most teenagers are selfish

One thing I realized watching this video is that, it doesn’t seem like Rory ever has or experiences equal relationships. Like especially with the people who are her core community. Her relationship with her mother, grandparents, friends, and especially romantic partners is very unbalanced.

Please fix the sound somehow

On the hair dying... what kinda friends do you have? 😂 😂 ofc a good friend would do it again 🤷‍♀️

I think Rory got to be more spoiled esp after HS and left Lane behind ~ crummy though yes likely realistic but Lane's musical aspirations just ditched sucks imo