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Married for 34+ years. My wife and I have only been intimate with each other. It is practical to save yourself for marriage, it just takes a strength of will and moral values to accomplish. Don't be weak!

“The goal is peace over pleasure.” 💯💯

For the whole body count issue for me is not the question of how much sex you’ve had but more of the mindset. If you’re more busy just having sex with others it shows that you’re not interested in holding down a relationship but you’re just there for the initial chemistry and once that dies down you move on

I had a girlfriend for three years. Then we got married we’ve been married four months. I thought we had sexual chemistry, but she met another man a month ago and now we’re separating and all she talks about is how good their sex is so I would say sexual chemistry is very, very important.

If both people have waited, then you get the joy of learning together what works and what doesn't. The shared experience of discovery can only make the bond stronger.

This is 100% on the money. It wasn't until my mid-30's that I got a the time of day from women I was attracted to. Always rejected. The attention late in life completely wrecked me for a few a years. So much time wasted pursuing women that were wrong for me. I wish I could go back in time and tell my younger self, 'It'll be aok. Focus on growing your strengths, on your expertise, on being mature and you'll be absolutely fine.'

She got the whole point of when you were young and you did not have all kinds of women around you back then, now you are older and you can not get enough of women. Very well explained.

You don’t need experience with multiple partners to be good at sex. Spend enough time with the partner you love and they can communicate what they want and don’t want in the bedroom. It’s as simple as that. Experience doesn’t matter when both individuals mutually love one another, that’s where the real chemistry is.

New Sub here. Sadia, I am so grateful I saw on you Soft White Underbelly. In the world full of men telling us what men want, what women want...it's refreshing to have a woman's voice. You are Brilliant. Even though I am happily married for over 23 years (in a beautiful, loving relationship), your content is still very educational. You have a very warm and motherly approach. I don't know what it is, your voice (the lovely accent), I could listen to you for hours. I am hooked :o) Wishing you all the BEST.

A talkative wife....the best thing to have sometimes....

HBO did a series on sex in America. A private pilot was interviewed who flew middle aged men to Nevada so they could hook up with young women. The pilot's opinion was that the men who hired him were the guys who wanted the hot cheerleaders and felt cheated that they never got her and are ditching long term relationships to satisfy themselves. Seems like this is what Sadia is saying.

how dare she go after my buffet

Sadia love your wisdom

I just cursed out a player hitting me up. I just found out he has 3rd baby mamma. He follows Tate and Tate says don’t marry. Dummies are following Top Dummies advice. He thinks he’s Alpha, he’s a joke to me.

It would be awesome if everyone waited until marriage ❤

I think before getting into a relationship you should be sure of what you're willing to overlook before setting out on the path. Or better yet find someone with the same belief system as you!

Can only speak for myself … but looking for them to be that “promiscuous “ type girl … with me only … nice when it is developed … for both

The correct term is "Sexual Partners" NOT Body Count. Body Count is a Term used in Medical forensic and law enforcement for Human Casualties. NOTHING to do with Sexual Activity at all.

She is so spot❤ on and people can’t handle their own truths

Nice hair !

Study and do an episode on Unwins "Sex and Culture." It is the best and broadest anthropological study of the topic and comes to empirical conclusions.

Men never ask about body count, I’ve never come across it. And, I can tell you they’d never ask it before you’ve slept with them - not a chance and still…never come across it. They don’t care. If they are boyfriend material they’ll never want to know, only that they are ‘better’ than anyone you’ve been with 💖. Men that want to know might have some religious views (fair enough) or have some predjudices. This is at least the way it is in Northern Europe. Perhaps this is a thing in other cultures? Don’t know. Or perhaps they’ll ask it depending on how the woman behaves. No idea.

I've been rejected many times, but when i was in a relationship or dating women, i was the one that dumped them, never been dumped!

Self control is its own reward ..Thank you 😊

She's right on point. The world should be filled with women who think like this, and we will make a better world all the way around.

The thing is anything in excess is usually bad. Much corn today is real life people recording on their smartphones. They aren’t actors. They are showing you the inside of their world. So to say it’s not realistic is more so back in the vhs and dvd days when it was only actors. My experience is women don’t want “make love” to me all the time. They want nasty, choke me, talk dirty type of action. Too many men are caught up with what Disney portrays. Get out in the real world and live it.

Women who don't want to be kept won't be kept

I love her.

I need all data on a drive Please end this issue forever

i actually wanted to hear what the guest speaker had to say, but it feels you keep cutting him off... let them finish their sentence, otherwise it feels like constant jumping onto another topic..

For someone to wait until marriage to have sex 🙄🙄 will never work out these days. My belief is that I have to smell, taste, sniff, and shake the product before I buy it for sure

You know if you have sexual chemistry if you can dance with someone. The "test drive" is a con.

11:17 audio and video overlapping, could not understanding anything.

So love this gorgeous lady ❤

Sexual chemistry is very very important. I had a girlfriend for three years married her. I’ve been married for four months and she’s met another man and she’s gone so I guess his sexual chemistry and hers were by far better than ours so it’s either there or it’s not.

Virginity is more of youth thing with some evolutionary and sentimental value. A man who is first will always be happier than a man who is last. Body count itself, high or low, is worthless as a marketing pitch. Women past their prime don't benefit from advertising virginity, but they do benefit from not having kids or being good in a bedroom and mentally stable.

S.I.G.N shaming tactics insult guilt & need to be right

25 people you have slept with is a low number? Whoa! And I thought being with 4 partners was a lot

The discourse has changed

Right but what about the women that say they wanna commit but don’t ? And pretend

Cougar women or older women only... NO younger women..

Nowadays girl at 20 had already going through the whole neighborhood! Stop promiscuity !!

I dont appreciate the way he disagrees with her at the end. "Oh you re just saying that because you deal with an unhealthy population" No shes just saying that because no matter how evolved we think we are. We are still animals looking for the sexiest and strongest specimen. A nice woman is seen as a weak woman, a woman that depends on him. He likes the woman that rejects him or isnt afraid of him leaving because this is a woman that can survive in the wildnerness and protect his children. Same goes for women, women like the hypersexual, confident strong guy, not the nice guy that is afraid to speak up, no matter how many resources he has

Many years ago, I read of a tribe where the men liked women who already had a child. It was considered proof that she could give birth to his child. Not all societies are alike.

It sounds like SadiaPsychology, when she talks about a woman who gives push-back being somehow engulfing _(by which she probably means a form of passion),_ is referring to the notion of _kissing and make up_ being a sort of passionate sex-life. It might be spin that sells a steamy book, or there might be a valid logic to it in some specific situations. However the submissive wife who is not argumentative is a tough act to follow especially since the husband and wife have kids. SadiaPsychology listed a bunch of things a woman needs to do _(or rather what women perceive they need to do)_ to bring something to their husband, and yet SadiaPsychology did not mention procreation as one of those listed. Maybe she just has a video-edit that does not show the emphasis, however it is not in the video. Considering the attractiveness of disagreeableness in a female mate (i.e. the push-back), it might be a dark-triad trait exhibited in the female which would suggest above average intelligence _(even if mental limitations arise elsewhere)._ Women are territorial in long-term mate-selection, and seek out immune system traits in some parts of the world, especially northern hemisphere. Women also (unfortunately) die of puerperal fever or staph if not strep and other infection and other childbearing complications, and yet some immune system traits _(from her father or generation older than that, for the allele to then be combined with her own genes)_ can save her life. It is however possible that childbirth can still end her life and yet the bairn survives. If that happens, and the bairn has inherited immune system traits and intelligence from both the father and the mother, the father now has his bairn _(the one thing he wants the most, other than more of them in addition from his wife or wives)_ in his sole possession _(other than assisted care by another new wife)_ without Harlow's monkeys mechanisms negatively affecting predispositions in the dark-triad during the formative years. So it is not about whether or not it is beneficial that the mother dies but rather that it is a silver-lining to the cloud of if she does pass away, because now he has sole influence and his own intelligence to teach his offspring. So it isn't necessarily a low "self-esteem" men thing. SadiaPsychology could be better off to say "self-respect", but whatever. There is no such thing as self-esteem. It is self-respect. Nobody says _"my self-esteemed colleague"._ Lulz. It'd make him sound like a loser. Instead they say, _(for example in a speech introducing them)_ something like _"Ladies and gentlemen, please show your appreciation for my esteemed colleague"_ and then they all applaud or make some gesture to that effect. Let's not digress though. The point is, that it seems like there is more to it than some low-self-respect (esteem) rationale. The evolutionary missus being something of a bantam would serve a purpose as a biological mechanisms (described above), but it would depend upon if they were from a defined part of the world and female selection-selection of her husband by immune-system traits. The CCR5 (protein) chemokine receptor implications of Delta-32 mutation can lead to immune system protections against some staph. The Delta-32 mutation can also be in a woman who is agreeable, of course. The above is more about the risk-taking behaviours of women who are less agreeable and yet use mood induction to initiate an interaction to lead to procreation (intercourse). The man might have (historically) more than one woman _(wives basically, with or without the paperwork)_ as mothers to his offspring. Female vulnerability is an Achille's heel to men. If she is Machiavellian, she might work it on him. Also poor emotional regulation means she might genuinely have signs of distress, and that can catch him off guard too. It is a neoteny traits mechanism to evoke paternal instinct. My comment has no hate in it and I do no harm. I am not appalled or afraid, boasting or envying or complaining... Just saying. Psalms23: Giving thanks and praise to the Lord and peace and love. Also, I'd say Matthew6.

Peace over pleasure --- yes

I don’t think men fall in love through sex, how does the no sex until marriage work if they can’t fall in love until after marriage. I also do not think that men fall in love with an experienced over an inexperienced, we don’t need them to be experienced when most of our desires are the submission of a female

i fell for a 48 year old alcoholic woman. i’m 60 . this woman would cheat and lie and hook up with young men . i live alone on a yacht with my dog and sailed away to another country. yes i got fleeting pleasure but the chaos was overwhelming along with the dysfunctional behaviour. even at rehab hooked up with the 35 year old meth addict. apparently she is in love and i’m to old . but still tries to contact me ? she lost her 3 boys her marriage and all her settlement. lust is dangerous. along with high body count.

The point that he is making about "sexual chemistry" doesnt make sense. I am a man and i have had plenty of woman in my life, my bodycount is around 150 to 190. My current girlfriend was virgin, i took her virginity 5 years ago. The sex was bad the first 2-3 months very bad sexual chemistry. , but i didnt care because i loved her. After 4-6 months the sex was so good, better than any of those 150 girls i have had before. (By the way she let me wait for atleast 6 months before having sex) Also not only that, most men cant even respect or fall in love with a woman when they have sex early into meeting eachother, this is a scientific fact. Not only that, if the guy didnt like the sex and just leaves the girl, this actually ruins her over time. There are plenty of studies showing that when a womans bodycount rises, the chance of a succesfull marriage drops.

Where is the next part?

Pre-marriage sex is lust. Sex after marriage is learning about each other and how to satisfy each other.

Nothing wrong with being happy and single

I'm boring as HELL!!🙋🏾‍♂️🙋🏾‍♂️🙋🏾‍♂️

For std purposes no sex. Women should not bc she should not tie herself to a man without marriage.

I think sadia is incredibly intelligent and she says things sometimes that are just unbelievably insightful. She will say things that sound like they have a spiritual mooring but here's the problem 1).she lives in a city where there are more sex workers and gold diggers and debauchery than just about any other city in the world. she is servicing a lot of these clients for mental health so her view is skewed towards that. She says it's men's fault that sex work is on the rise l amount other things like the sex workers will inevitably prosper in the end. It almost sounds like she's promoting it. which I totally disagree with. Then she says that she is a Muslim yet she is not covered. It literally says that if you don't cover then you will be punished and she doesn't do it so how can she be Muslim when she doesn't follow her own book? And then the other thing is she follows a God who says that it's not only okay, but commanded the subjugate people. To offer them for them to pay a tax or to convert or to accept death. Thats her prophet. He had multiple wives and sex slaves and slaves for burden and child brides and preached intolerance and hatred and spread his teachings through the sword. He slaughtered thousands of people over his lifetime and there has been nothing but war coming from that religion for the last 1400 years. This is the ideology that she follows. She is very educated but I think you have to look at where she is basing her morality. I have never ever ever seen anybody go wrong when they follow Christ's teachings. Those teachings include, Christ is God. And yes Muslims, WE Christians only follow ONE God. Anyway, I tried to glean gems from her but many times they are tainted by these other statements that I just cannot agree with and as a Christian I cannot follow someone who's not basing their heart or their advice on what Christ taught us🙏

I think these are overgeneralizations. Live and let live. Enjoy your life❤

Never get married. Or do whatever I don’t care.

So body count doesn't matter. Got it. I always forget that when I'm looking for a mate, I should have listened to a woman and I'd be happy. My bad...

My favorite teacher! Gratitude!

Hello, i Just want to let you know that you have minor editing fails around your ads audio wise and afterwards 1 cut Lager in the video. Maybe something slipt.

What about a men in middle 40s after breaking up. Is that ok to go to the club to find a new partner Sadia?

What’s yours Dr. Honey?

Body counts is smth that is not exists in Ukraine.. Most of the women try to keep it as low as possible, having sex only in serious relationships.. 👌

Learn the art of getting girls when men are young then settle? It's not that easy for most men. It takes us years to build up our confidence, stability and to learn more about female nature. Hence why men only hit their prime 30s/mid 30s onwards. Woman have it easy in their late teens/20s. So obviously men are going to be more inclined to play the field in our primes just like woman have all their fun in youth.

How can a woman tell a man how to live ..That’s ridiculous

Aye…. Doctor Honey…. You gonna give it up or what?

I am heading for divorce after 32 years of marriage and commitment to my wife. I wanted pleasure. Should I just settle for peace without pleasure ?

Excuse me! When you were speaking did he interrupt you! 😎

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Hi

SOoo, whatsup with her right Cheek...she got hit by BF , some Botox crap, Allergy, stung by a Bee... ?

Self control 🔥

Interesting. A female psychologist who tells men what to do and takes away their right to have fun. Apperently it is a sin to have a much younger girlfriend and not to be married. How dare we? Calling it "Body Count" is way out of line!

Who is that guy?

U says money attract disloyal people but everybody is not smart good looking like hollywood in era where women had infinite option on internet❤ TELL ME❤😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊🎉PLZ ANSWER🎉😊🎉😊🎉😊🎉

When you have pleasure then com peace

Disagree with both of both men and women need to be celebr

I dont see much reasoning happen here. Its anti-social to some extent. Not much development here. Wow

Can't be talking about the majority

She looks incredibly egotistical. I wouldn't listen to a word she says

Is she married?

SECOND:🥈

she just parrrots standard psychilogy that anybody can read online or in a journal or textbook. probably got boosted there cos of her looks. probably looks made her talk about flagrantly unIslamic topics often.

Ewwww 304s 🤢🤮

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The more I know the more I can't stand when women talk

In defense, the available pool of women my age, not obese and willing to date "at their level", is practically nil. If we abolished social media and went back to a more "natural order" with healthy femininity everywhere, I suspect that this type of behaviour would become stigmatized quickly again, just the same as being the town bicycle.

Or there are no quality women anymore

came here to dislike 👎

Sadie do you have a dumb truck 🚛? Show us your cake

First minute shes just projecting. You shouldnt be spreading your seed like a 15 year old....wtf