The BPD Bunch S4E5: Apologies with BPD - Struggles, Stories and Solutions.

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The BPD Bunch S4E5: Apologies with BPD - Struggles, Stories and Solutions.

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In this episode, Xannie, Hak Ja, Jack, Melanie, and Mo come together to discuss the challenging topic of making amends when living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They openly share their personal struggles with apologizing, recount stories about their experiences with making amends, and provide valuable insights and tips for effectively managing the apology process.
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@MyComplexTraumaDump 3 ай бұрын

My dysregulation and shame will have me apologizing to people who abuse me.

@angelbabygirlxoxo 3 ай бұрын

This. My entire life.

@elluvzzu 3 ай бұрын

yeaaahhh.. :,)

@khanyiingubs393 3 ай бұрын

How are you guys so good at explaining your feelings and scenarios without oversharing?🤯 I'm impressed! 😅 cause I know my bs would be all over the internet if I was in that panel🤣

@thebpdbunch 3 ай бұрын

It definitely takes practice! And editing. Editing helps 😂

@Shellbelle02 3 ай бұрын

That’s one of the reasons why I keep it vague as possible. 😂 I also remind myself that keeping the details out(hopefully) helps other people find it more relatable to something that they might be going through too.

@DrJessie210 3 ай бұрын

Awareness is key! God Bless you all.

@thebpdbunch 3 ай бұрын

Thank you!!

@MontSe1001 3 ай бұрын

this channel is truly an incredible resource, so many insightful and vulnerable things shared by all the guests. thank you for your work! just recommended it to a friend

@thebpdbunch 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your support!!

@user-dn8hd6xn1e 3 ай бұрын

Oh my god I feel that whole, “my amends is not saying what I want because I don’t want that on my conscience” thing and the whole justified rage at them not understanding what they did or my pain thing so “it’s not fair”. It’s hard for like anyone to get past sometimes, the human condition is frustration 😅. I know in those moments I’m not seeing straight but knowing better and doing better are definitely different levels. There’s a lot of explaining and repair in my relationship. I also stew so I get with that, ‘should I say what I think now or will I change my mind later,’ etc., that all is a lot better when you’re with people who know you. I know there’s not a really good reason to be mean even if someone comes at me, but it’s aspirational for most of us. That dread is rough though, the waiting for the other shoe that was never gonna drop.

@robbytheartist3997 3 ай бұрын

My ex wife had bpd. Is sucks we couldn't work it out. Oh well. Thank for sharing this. Get well you guys!

@veryimportantperson3657 3 ай бұрын

So Jack explains how he refuses to apologize to people he's hurt because he's projecting his childhood wounds onto the current situation. He doesn't acknowledge that this is unhealthy and immature, nor does he acknowledge how this unwillingness to apologize negatively affects others. Then Melanie, who I believe is trained as a psychotherapist, follows up with how beautiful that sentiment is. As a non I have a VERY different reaction to someone saying they're too stuck in their childhood wounds to apologize to someone who deserves an apology. To my mind this is a problem that needs correcting, not just insight. This just seems like normalizing non-accountability.

@renus6015 3 ай бұрын

Am hypersensitive to criticism. Once my mood is off, it stays that way for a long time. I tend to over apologize...

@lisablount7578 2 ай бұрын

Why should someone apologize for having been traumatized and it being blamed. A combat soldier has ptsd. The psychiatry people have all these diagnostic crap getting them lots of money for getting the victim to second guess everything they think , do , or say to get over it such as “ black and white thinking “ as some “ symptom “. Talking in psychobsbble might get them the “ strokes “ they crave as comfort from their “ therapist “ but in the long term …. All this does is stroke the therapist who then strokes the ptsd victims and the apologies are delaying the consolidation of the fragmented identity. It’s like in that song Come as You Are as ( the therapist ) wants you to be. You do gain an identity. As an idol worshpper of the therapist. Read the book of Job in the Bible. He’s blamed by all of them for the trauma. This is as old as the Bible. Sick.

@Alphacentauri819 Ай бұрын

Your comment shows the lack of awareness (to anosognosia levels) and labeling, internet in BPD. Yes, you could indeed be traumatized…AND you could’ve developed black/white thinking as a result, which now perpetuates, and repeats the patterns of early on. Your dichotomous thinking makes you unable to see the nuances, complexities, paradoxes and hold it all without spiraling into dysregulation…which causes you to use emotional reasoning. Also, therapists (most of them) do not want your worship. Lord no. That’s you projecting your own warped reality. From a neuroscience perspective, there is a lot going on in the brain (the wiring) they affect how you think, process, perceive, and unfortunately…you don’t have the parts wired that are required to see yourself, an expansive reality, clearly. To do that, you have to do intensive reprogramming, using the principles of neuroplasticity. For now, you’re using those principles for suffering for yourself. Not tall thoughts are true…especially those absent of emotional sobriety.