Men who can communicate beyond sexual needs are praiseworthy gentleman

A man actively pursues what he wants with no ambiguity and in no uncertain terms. Mixed signals is the equivalent of a NO, ladies. Move on and don’t (continue to) waste your own time.

That’s so true. Little moments give it away. I had a lightbulb moment when I was talking about films with a man who I was not yet dating, but just working with, and we got talking about the films that always made us cry. I told him mine and he went and watched it that afternoon, just to see what it was that effected me so much. He told me how he felt a couple of months later. There are good ones around, promise!

If he takes you out , spends his money , prays for you , fights and comes back , do dumb things because it makes you happy He loves you. Mine only fought with me.

Easy, don’t sleep with him quickly. That’s how I made my boyfriend fall in love and trust me I spent a lot of time praying to meet someone like him

Men who wants to wait before sex is highly praiseworthy and honourable!

If he provides protects and profess to others about you, he is a keeper.

Why am i checking this? I dont even have a man😩

I think men get really nervous when the woman he has been chasing starts paying attention to him too Their insecurities come alive and they worry about being good enough

You’ve perfectly explained the dating experience of single women. Men only agree to casual sex first “then see how things go”. I know this dude is trying to help inform and educate about men’s behaviour however after 12 months attempting to date online, needing to connect with someone sexually first is beyond problematic and quite shallow and dangerous.

I’m sooo glad you mentioned all the effort some men may put in, just to obtain “Option A”. That’s not talked about enough! I have a man in my life who does all the listening, making me happy, chasing me, overcoming obstacles, caring about my life and comfort, etc... JUST to have the chance for “Option A” with me. And for years that threw me in for a loop because his actions were that of a person who loved someone!

It happened the exact way, when i was emotional the first time. I was cyring, trying to hide it, but he noticed and asked me about what happened, if he said or did something?. I was unable to talk about the problem, so i was just silent, but he continue to asking, and hugging me. He was sooo sweet, that after i felt sorry for him to worrying that much for me. After we talked about the problem, it seems it was nothing, i was just exaggerated something... but still he was so understanding and kind. I think he really loves me, and don't wants to risk loosing me.

No matter what I'm doing I always stop when Brian Nox uploads a video. They are always amazing and so informative. Thankyou Brian xx

I met a man last year who put in an amazing amount of effort for Option A. When I realized this, and told him flat out I was leaving him be (and not giving him Option A at all), he ghosted and I never heard from him again. 😂

I think it is true that there are definite signs of emotional attachment in the course of things. However, keep in mind that men, like women, can 'act' and 'put in effort' of emotional attachment, in heavy doses when they want to or initially to get into favor, but as with narcissists, this can be a way to draw you in for the 'use of you'. SO, if a person you are dating or getting to know can keep up the emotional effort with consistency for a longer period of time than say about 6-9 months, you may have the real thing. I do think you are also right about the initial period - you don't want a 'love bomber' but you want to see if he is interested in getting to know the real you, and puts in some effort there first.

I find that you know truly how someone feels about you by how they treat you after youve been physical with them. If they have no interest in you, they tend to phase out and stop talking to you right after being physical. If they are actually interested, they will stick around after those bedroom activities

I think Love finds us. I don't believe a person should chase after anyone to obtain it!

really felt my heart beats fast while watching this vid. I'm actually dating a guy who's emotionally attached to me. And while you are talking about actions, efforts and everything, I really felt the sudden gush of my blood to my face lol he's exactly the man you are describing! and tbh, i'm also falling for him 💙 thank you for making this amazing vid! now, i'm really decided that I will say "yes" to him soon

Was talking to this guy who seemed to “fight” for me, I was confused by the way he’d call/msg knowing I’d tell him to kick rocks, it made me sad the way he’d politely accept defeat and try again in a couple months, I admit there were times I accepted him out of admiration for his “effort”, and questioning whether it was me just rushing things, he drove through heavy snow, rain, and even to another city and back for me, most times for company, a cuddle, and of course sex, and it was ALWAYS ALWAYS at night. There was a brief moment in the connection where he kicked it into high gear, did the things I’d been wishing him to do, it was a beautiful couple weeks and that was it. This went on and off for 2.5 years. I was so confused, what man puts in this much time and energy if he only wants sex? What man drives an hour in sleet just to hang out in the car if he doesn’t have feelings for me? It was in his eyes, I’d catch him stare at me with joy written all over his face, he started opening up to me, he loved to hold me, he’d listen to me talk and talk and talk happily. I convinced myself he was silently in love and now I’m realizing that he enjoyed me for emotional comfort. I was a safe haven, and we were definitely attached, probably just two lonely people with aligning standards, but it was going no where. I had grown to love him and hopeful for us. He had his own shit going on, he attempted to be transparent but in a masculine/logical way, I needed more clarity on feelings. Its not on him to know what’s best for me, though I wish he’d had been man enough to tell me he was unwilling/unable to give me what I deserve. I adored him and am faithful to a fault. I say this bc this video helped me realize why I misinterpreted his “effort”, I was young, still am. It was a lesson for sure.

At any age, we women have a hard time understanding the mind of a male. Thanks Brian for giving us real insight into understanding men better.

Feels so hurtful. Yet this is a bit comforting.

You will feel understood in that relationship. 💚 Love that. 💚

Seriously wish I'd known this fifty years ago.

I think every guys pursuing a girl is very different. They may like you in the very beginning and put a lot of efforts in a way of getting to know you better. Sometimes, guys also do afraid of getting hurt or rejection if the efforts they put in and did not receive any reciprocate/response from the girl. And then they will slowly reduce the efforts and that’s when the girl will start feeling the guy is giving them a mixed signals. I see guys and girls both are equal, if one doesn’t feel being wanted or loved, they will walk away.

This is so sweet, I'm melting just thinking about him. Thank you so much for your help Brian!

Thank you very much! My heart is so full that I can’t find the words. It is a true happiness and a blessing to meet such an intelligent, wise, kind person and a professional who knows the subtleties and intricacies of the human psyche. Your advice is inestimable and much-needed, and I am very grateful to you, thank you for your work. I`ll be looking forward to new videos from you.👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

Thank you for approaching this tough subject! Knowing we don’t think alike but not understanding how they think puts us at a disadvantage when you genuinely care for a man and want to know if you are being understood. You just 100% summed this up for me! Thank you! Happy New Brian and Good Luck Everyone 😊

this is very helpful to us to determine between the Bedroom Activities & Emotional Attraction. Thank you so much Brian! what a beginning Year 2021 with your tips, lessons & being our Coach. ❤️🥂🎉

I'm opposite I want to sleep with him fast to see if I'm even bothered to go any further. If the sex doesn't work from the start then I wont be emotionally interested. Haven't we all tried to be all in love first and then sleeping with them makes you fall out of love quicker than anything. Such a waste of time. Must have been so sad in the old days were people would marry first and then find out they were completely incompatible in bed.

I'll tell you what, my sweetie is NOT a track a kind of guy (thank God!) And he is definitely putting effort into our relationship.

This is really good! I sent this to my 2 beautiful daughters!

Oh, thank you for this video! That's exactly what happened last week and I got option B from him and all the doubts desappeared.

i just feel like it’s all so impossible and complicated. i just don’t think it’ll ever happen for me.

He likes to sit with me and watch tv , lay together on the sofa, I’ve never been In a relationship with a man that didn’t want to be constantly physically touching me . He loves to give me an hug and a kiss when I get here . Then he cooks me dinner or gets us a take away . ❤

He has panic attacks when I'm not around. But at times during my visit to see him, I feel I need to turn around and go home. Sometimes it feels toxic. He just dont get it.

"I wanna try not snore for at least one day in the week." I would like to hear my boyfriend say that

The guy I am dating snores. It’s not extremely loud so I think it’s 🥰 cute.

First time watching your video, and am already loving your personality. Love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

You are amazing Brian. I so wanna give you a big hug for this 🤗

Amazing. Totally right. My guy has gone from 'A' to 'B'. It took him nearly 4 years! xx

My partner still have chemistry for me and after 40 years he wants me even more

This channel is addictive . Happy new year everyone ♥️♥️

“In the olden days”. Those days still exist with women who value themselves.

Ohh my God!! He likes me ... 😊♥️ Afther 5 months of dating he became a big of an asshole one night and i confronted him with his behavior .. first he was aweful and really tried 2 put me down! So i left! And stayed away!! He started texting me ... i didnt send anything back.. and afther some days he wanted 2 talk.. again i was like "fuck off"! In those weeks he understood what he did and he really showed me his softer side.. he opened up 2 me and now we are happy 2 gether and he is giving me all the respect a woman deserves and i give him all my love (in a healthy way) It so worth it 2 respect yourself and never let a man bring you down!!

I could really use your advice Brian!😭.. Long distance connection..talked almost everyday for 9 months hes recently divorced I visited him in texas last month around my bday. He got me gifts. We had an argument night before I left. We talked about it said we were good. When I went home he was hot cold. Few days later he said it waa the argument that he was being distant. I was so confused. Now he said hes going thru something and is drained. I call him NYE. He mesaaged next day and said he will call. Still nothing. I dream of him all the time even when we were talking before I visited and 1 of my dreams came true. I do love this guy. I'm lost and being patient. Truly trying to keep myself strong.

I have a question for you, Brian Nox. Do you not find it to be a generalization that you say, men can sleep with a woman, and still remain friends? I’ve seen women do this same thing, and hearing others verbalize these generalizations, puts me at unease, since it’s this kind of divide that breeds the toxic mindset of, well “boys will be boys “ and only have a “one track mind “ I don’t think all women are emotional creatures and that all men are disassociated from feeling. I think we should refrain from those types of stereotypes, don’t you think? All else aside, I think your videos are informative and well thought out.

Nice to see you Brian !

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.

Yes…Efforts to be with you and what makes you happy

Missed you 😊Happy New Year

So I'm a single mom. And I've been developing a relationship w a neighbor for about a year & a half. I get mixed signals, he is always around for major holidays, he actively engages & plays w my son, we can have deep convos, the way he looks at me sometimes!, the 3 of us usually spend 1-3 days a week hanging out. Its confusing, especially when the dynamic is very "family unit/nuclear family". I'm not even sure if I'd call us friends because of how much tension there always is (sexual/anxiety). There is a emotional aspect to it all for sure, we are all getting emotional needs met to a degree w the dynamic. But nothing physical eventhough there is obvious sexual tension. It's so intense & can be overwhelming

Thank you. This came just in time.

Love this guy’s content

YES, this is happening to me right now :( This guy at work is sending mix signals and i feel lost like he does these little things that no one else does like making sure i'm safe, I'm looking after my health etc. but he wants me to find another guy on this dating app, and to tell him when i go on the date, day, time etc.

I'm trying to understand myself but I find myself overwhelmed and overthinking over the men that come into my life. I'm always left guessing and in my head. Reallly I just need someone to make effort and to not leave me out in the cold. It takes time but I need to be open to giving and receiving love in general. I'm trying and I'm being patient

🤭Gosh... You are so original on how you say things! Comparison are excellent. Thank you for your time and effort. Happy new year! 🎉💚😀🌴🎊

Hope to see you too, in another video, Brian Nox. Thanks and have a great day

Nice ... It's All About Efforts By Given A Real Man Towards His Only Woman In His Life🙂👍❤️

Thats true don't give it up un he's ready to commit.

Hey, Geert! Glad to see you upload!!!

Love your channel, got one after me, I thought I had gave up, but this guy sure has been consistent, I'm going for it, I had to subscribe to you, you tell it like it really isse, if I get married, you sure will be invited lol thanks for all you do

thank you for sharing! Probably your "best" video, to the point and so useful.cheers

I got dumped on New Years and it’s been an emotional wreck for the last couple months, but I want to admit to him what’s going on and seriously try make it work but I feel so helpless.

Don't need proof, he tells me every time. 😊

Love this man.

I had a FWB and we didn't really make eye contact until the last day we saw each other...crazy but I felt him getting feelings and I think he felt the same because he blocked me the day after lmao..oh well

Cool learning. Thank you Brian

Your readings helped me a lot

Missed your valuable help. Still Addicted to your channel! 🎉🌴🎊💚

Love your videos ☺️. Can you do more videos on online/distant relationships? Especially now during COVID lockdown.

Ur advices are the best!!👍 Helps a lot Brian💐👌

Amazing advice. Can you do a video on that last piece: “for as long as the relationship lasts”? I’ve been dating a great guy for 7 months but he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend. He’s newly divorced and that has given him an Avoidant attachment style. :-( He is pulling away. Without chasing him, I wish there were a way for me to draw him back.

In the old days? It is still common for many people who practice virtue to wait until marriage.

Brian Happy New Year 🙋‍♀️😀❤

thank you for this :) you're the bestest Brian!

This really makes sense

Happy New Year Brian!

You are right, I'm glad to hear U!

happy new year Brian

Happy New Year Geert!

HAPPY NEW YEAR BRIAN

Really relate this reading 😊Thanks!

These are fantastic observations

Thank you, this was really helpful... And confirmed my thoughts...

Tell more about when a man says lets just be friends but kisses you up...

It's so easy for you men to judge, what about all of us women who grew up with fathers who critised us and put us down at every opportunity ... don't blame us blame the men like my misogynistic and chauvinistic father who still treats my mother like shit! Thats why any man who was a teeny bit nice to me I fell for them, that's why a lot of us fail at relationships and fall so easily for "the bad guys" - it's our fathers "brainwashing" us that we'll never be good enough! Ask your subscribers if how many had a father figure like I had, putting all his efforts into making my life unhappy and breaking up the only good and loving relationship I had when I was young (as he always said he'd never married my mum if she hadn't been pregnant with me). Please take into consideration "bad" actually "very bad" fathers. Thank you. It's not our fault but the fathers and our mothers whom they control and abuse as well.

I clicked like and Inturned it from 3.1k likes to 3.2k likes 😆

Thanks for another insightful video!

i like your presence in these videos

So beautiful and true ...what if u both like but its a rebound but u both wana be friends forever

Thank you, this was so good..

I surely get my person I believe it

Brian I really like your KZfaq videos. You make a lot of sense and you say it quickly which is wonderful and very clearly and easily understood. Thanks so much for this which is another great video and keep posting them up for us ladies! One question I have for you I believe that men very rarely if ever can be a friend to a woman without having ulterior motives, can you tell me your belief on that?

I love your videos they always make so much sense. I believe you are bringing a new book out....when will it be coming out and what will it be called?

Effort 👍

Thank you so much 🙏👏

Enjoy ur explanations 😊thank you

My boyfriend that was committed to me for over a year told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. Here we are 6 months later and we still see each other.. at least once a week. He still shows me this emotional intimacy.. he cries with me about our relationship - they aren't alligator tears.. this happens at least once a month if not twice a month... but he still insists he can't be "all in".... sooooooo I guess take him for his word but this action makes me think he is really trying to get to a point that he can give me what I am looking for... thoughts?

How do you differentiate between putting an effort from both sides and commanding effort when the couple are equals? Like gay couple?

Thank you for this