The Psychology of Revenge

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Do you want to seek revenge? Revenge is not an intelligent solution, and it can be hard to forget when someone really pisses you off. It's a strong emotional force mobilizing people to take action. Science says revenge might not be so sweet. Swiss researchers wanted to know what happens in the brain when someone reaps revenge. Watch this video to find out more about the psychology of revenge.
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0:00 Intro
0:41 The science of revenge
1:22 Does revenge have lasting effects?
2:01 What to do instead of seeking revenge
3:00 Final thoughts
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@ScienceOfPeople 4 жыл бұрын

Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/the-psychology-of-revenge/

@satoatsuji8392 4 жыл бұрын

For me Revenge is a constant relief. I feel good and after the fact I no longer care about whatever happens and often forget it even happened. Unless I didn't get revenge then I will constantly hate and hate unless I do something to hurt them. Then I'll be fine.

@isaacmettle 4 жыл бұрын

ACTION SPEAK WAY LOUDER AND THAN WORDS THE VICTORY OF YOUR SUCCESS WILL BE THE AGONY OF THEIR DEFEAT!!

@satoatsuji8392 4 жыл бұрын

@@isaacmettle If we are being technical unless it's the action of speaking then it doesn't produce loud enough sound...soooo

@gulagbatman1318 4 жыл бұрын

I wanted to know why revenge even exists at all as a part of the human phycology. It doesn't look useful from an evolutionary point of view. Do you have a short answer?

@satoatsuji8392 4 жыл бұрын

@@gulagbatman1318 From my point of view it is an advantage. See despite people believing revenge is bad for you, which I suppose it can be at times. That doesn't mean it is a bad thing in general. For example revenge and justice are tied together to a degree. Revenge can motivate even then most fragile of hearts, Into defending others, or attacking hostile things, or people. Which also helps in making humans as persistent as they are now. I could go in depth but I just woke up, so---

@jamelledwards116 3 жыл бұрын

I took revenge and it made me feel better. I'm not angry like I use to be, but, I'm more cautious of my surroundings

@gauharkhan6004 3 жыл бұрын

How ?? I also want to get revenge on my ex who is going to marry someone else v were in 10 yrs realtionship

@jamelledwards116 3 жыл бұрын

@@gauharkhan6004 That's something you have to figure out. As long as its nothing crazy!!!

@MahmoudMohamed-ro8el 2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha be aware

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

@@gauharkhan6004you should just move on revenge takes precious time and recourses which you can't get back is something as irreversible as time worth that pleasure?

@irisle1942 3 ай бұрын

I am the same. For me, towards people I have to take revenge to feel better and then I can slowly move on. If I don’t take revenge I can’t move on because I will keep thinking about the injustice

@bluebowser3121 4 жыл бұрын

This video isn't what I experienced. After Revenge, and I mean a real revenge. I felt incredibly good, even years later I felt good about it. I felt great knowing I had the last laugh and that I one upped them and they have no idea it was me.

@MrAlexanderLang 4 жыл бұрын

It's not just you, it's how humans operate, as long as you follow the golden rule and are not the initiator of violence (no matter what form or how minute), vengeance should be yours and is completely understandable.

@AstroMartine 4 жыл бұрын

word

@andres6115 3 жыл бұрын

ok blue bowser

@emergencyfirstresponders4413 3 жыл бұрын

I totally hear you! If the person is still breathing only cause you're allowing them to and have tarnished their repuation beyond repair that is a good long term feeling

@Vincent-li8rx 3 жыл бұрын

True only so true.

@savvysavages6931 8 жыл бұрын

I could be wrong but I think what Sinatra meant was, become successful and rub it in your enemy's face.

@thorin2152 4 жыл бұрын

What he meant was if you're successful and self sufficient then all this pity stuff won't matter.

@Vincent-li8rx 3 жыл бұрын

Verily, he meant that.

@Erwinsteen1 2 жыл бұрын

But if you rub that in their faces and they get angry and shoot you in the knee caps? :P

@desmondclark3193 2 жыл бұрын

Become successful enough to ruin their lives.

@H.J.G 3 жыл бұрын

Funny how I had to come to a video on why I shouldn’t seek revenge to find a bunch of awesome comments supporting why I should

@Vincent-li8rx 3 жыл бұрын

Plz go ahead, may The Lord be with your purpose!

@H.J.G 3 жыл бұрын

@@Vincent-li8rx no. I decided against it in the end. It came to me all at one that I should not interfere with anything that another human being has brought upon themselves. Who am I to declare their just deserts? God knows the pain they have caused me and I now understand that if it matters to me that much, then God shall allow me the small pleasure of witnessing their self-punishment as t the time it happens. Which, by the way, is far more of a punishment than I could ever have once thought appropriate!! But...the further a person is from being spiritually enlightened....the longer their karma takes to return back to them and in all honesty I may not even remember this person when the time comes that this takes place.

@sabrinasususa6957 3 жыл бұрын

Lol same ahaha

@Damesanglante 2 жыл бұрын

Your fairy tale belief made you so domesticated, you won't seek justice. So those who harmed you probably harmed many others after.

@H.J.G 2 жыл бұрын

@@Damesanglante if that's what you want to think. But you speak as though you are talking to a person who encountered something as serious as rape and never reported it. Which is thankfully not my case.

@buddleiabee 4 жыл бұрын

Revenge can be an intelligent solution; 1.if you don't get caught doing it 2. catch them when they least expect it. 3. Keep it legal

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

It still isn't intelligent because your going out your way spending precious time/resources instead of just moving on revenge is a pleasure and a high risk low return pleasure

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

Legal? If you don't get caught doing it, legal ramifications don't play a role.

@MysteryGrey 7 ай бұрын

@buddleabee Good advise, thank you!

@keifer7813 2 ай бұрын

Or the biggest reason. If you plan to delete yourself after - then you can get all the revenge you want before you do it

@peppermintcookie5531 3 жыл бұрын

I was bullied relentlessly since Elementary and throughout Junior and Senior High school. Ever since we graduated, I still feel the pain I have endured from my bullies and holding a grudge against them

@ryanhollstein4164 10 ай бұрын

Same

@DerDude-vr1jz 9 ай бұрын

Me too.

@NN-fz4pd 6 ай бұрын

Get revenge then

@crockerakahops90sjumpmantexas 6 жыл бұрын

Nothing wrong with getting revenge sometimes. Some people need to be punished. Like criminals rapist child abuser's and people who are just disrespectful for no reason what's so ever.

@matt-tp1ww 6 жыл бұрын

Armani aka hops 90s kid smith some people don’t deserve to be alive as well. Never forgive and always hold grudges.

@endloesung_der_braunen_frage 6 жыл бұрын

@@matt-tp1ww and Decide who deserves to Live? Who are you, God? Remember that nobody has ever done something to deserve to Live. You just Live, thats all

@endloesung_der_braunen_frage 6 жыл бұрын

You

@matt-tp1ww 6 жыл бұрын

Sinkwe Libam you wouldn’t understand

@MarcoK5064 5 жыл бұрын

you CAN still give justice to correct a person without exactly enacting the self harm of revenge........doing so means you must understand what EXACTLY will shape a person into the mould you are trying to project them into If moms can teach kids how to act via a time out or punishment.....it IS possible to do the same with a criminal. You don't need to use revenge to give out justice. Justice can lack hate, its easy honestly.

@davidh8924 2 жыл бұрын

This woman has never been seriously wronged. If she had been, she would know that revenge is a moral imperative.

@ricodsanchez6792 Жыл бұрын

Isn't that a contradiction

@davidh8924 Жыл бұрын

@@ricodsanchez6792 No. It's a little from a movie called, "Real Genius", with Val Kilmer.

@GuidetteExpert Жыл бұрын

True, nature created it so the other people knows how it feels to hurt other people.

@dakalodk 6 ай бұрын

Indeed revenge is necessary .

@CountBifford 8 жыл бұрын

This video makes revenge sound completely unhealthy, but doesn't account for why it is such a universal emotion, not just among humans but many social mammals. Natural selection is pretty ruthless with behaviors that only cause problems. Yeah, taking revenge can cause cycles of retaliation, but turning the other cheek can also encourage chronic abuse.

@thundavolt 6 жыл бұрын

You don't need to turn the other cheek. If someone has really wronged you, you just keep it moving if you can't reason with them.

@joemama-js6hv 5 жыл бұрын

@@thundavolt I agree with you. It's really sad to see so many people always seeing only the two options when more often than not there are plenty. As you potentially implied, just ignoring what happened and moving on is the ideal way. Besides just strengthening your self control, it leaves the other person in confusion - confusion = makes people think. Simple. Now the people in the comments who claim revenge to be the optimal way of coping with their mental instability, are not only unstable but also mentally defficient.

@cristhianc5580 4 жыл бұрын

@stephaniestevens1175 4 жыл бұрын

Very well said.

@satoatsuji8392 4 жыл бұрын

It also doesn't apply to everyone. I have never once felt bad or even regretted hurting someone that has wronged me. I feel good, and afterwards I no longer care and forget. Hell sometimes I remember and feel that feeling of victory over them.

@mateusdmt5505 5 жыл бұрын

These people cannot understand... the point in revenge is not compensation or "healing". Conflict breeds truth.

@agentsquid9079 4 жыл бұрын

Revenge is Avenge Except the thing your trying to avenge is yourself. However people will always take this the wrong way. Just because your fighting for you doesn’t make you selfish. Sometimes you have to fight for yourself. You’re not always with others

@ImADeity 4 жыл бұрын

@@agentsquid9079 what if im fighting for someone else...rage and hatred to get vengence and protecting someone

@agentsquid9079 4 жыл бұрын

w.d Gaster If you’re fighting for someone else then you’re avenging and that’s way different from revenge. Rage and Hatred can be seen as evil, yet we cannot live without it. If you can channel your rage and use it for something and use it the best that it can be, then I view that as something noble.

@ImADeity 4 жыл бұрын

@@agentsquid9079 For revenge

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Truth doesn't exist.

@HentaiSweetie 11 ай бұрын

I have never regretted a single act of revenge I have ever committed.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

It's never too late to question if you did the right thing.

@HentaiSweetie 10 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 nah 🙃

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

@@HentaiSweetie I'm glad you agree.

@HentaiSweetie 10 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 don't know how you interpreted it that way but whatever.

@HentaiSweetie 10 ай бұрын

@user-hr8iv4ll8p I'm SBNR. ❌️⛪️❌️

@trapdoorfloyd Жыл бұрын

I got revenge in many ways in my life. I learned that there are three kinds of revenge. The first kind is they know you did it to them. The second kind is they know something happened but they don't know who did it. And the third kind which is surprisingly my favorite is you know you got revenge but they don't even know anything happened. The moral of the story is if you treat people poorly without dignity and respect well don't be surprised if there is a reprisal.

@_Diaryofwealth 7 ай бұрын

What's this bs

@MarioBekes 6 жыл бұрын

People who done harm they made choice and so they did it ....so it is nothin wrong with revenge and seeking retribution and it doesn’t make you bad person at all.

@cristhianc5580 4 жыл бұрын

At all...

@nl-ho4wm 3 жыл бұрын

some people that had done harm, its because the same feeling of revenge that you had now

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

At least the person who wronged you probably has a sense of self-awareness.

@odd-eyesdragoon1024 4 жыл бұрын

Frankly, it feels good to punish those who intentionally hurt people.

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

SOOOO FUCKING GOOOOD.

@Kevvvinus1 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@eigelgregossweisse9563 Жыл бұрын

And the opposite.

@GuidetteExpert Жыл бұрын

It is suppose to feel good because we dont want bad people hurting other people.

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

@@Kevvvinus1don't use the lord's name invane

@brandoncooney9047 4 жыл бұрын

Justice and vengeance is the same exact thing. I feel like positivity cults have taken over psychology as well. & the number one enemy of every single cult is always reality itself. Vengeance is one of the best things that you can ever experience in this lifetime.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Interesting that historically speaking, most of the atrocites on Earth have been committed by people who had both religious and vengeful motives.

@toxikspeaks3523 2 жыл бұрын

For me revenge feels better the longer after ive obtained it. It never not feels good. Someone messed with me/pushed me and i pushed back. I stand up for myself, im not gonna let people throw me in a corner to die. Im proud to stand up for myself. I think there are some aspects to the psychology of revenge that are overlooked here.....Ya know.... I let small things go, you dont always need revenge. But sometimes you do...sometimes you have to stick up for yourself and let others know they cant push you around.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

You can always be pushed around if someone is stronger than you. I'm happy that you're able to live inside a peaceful illusion where your dignity is preserved, though.

@bystanderbutch3509 5 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 The weak push you around! Bullies are cowards.

@erichen8500 7 жыл бұрын

i will revenge. a person hurt me and my family. he's too much.

@halochampion342 7 жыл бұрын

Don't do it, your heart may bleed but revenge will just prolong your suffering

@MarioBekes 6 жыл бұрын

If this is your choice, do it.

@isubconsciouslycringefromf8853 6 жыл бұрын

sasuke don't do it.

@0w8wsj7w 6 жыл бұрын

amin ric good luck hope you succeed and give the monster what he gave you

@hansellancephilippe4075 5 жыл бұрын

Do what your heart wants to do

@MikeyC19836 5 жыл бұрын

Some people deserve to get their ass kicked for hurting others. It would bring me Great pleasure to Avenge those who were hurt.

@Lola-AreaCode212 5 жыл бұрын

You can help me..... it would be very simple

@risperonginjo7789 5 жыл бұрын

MikeyC 😁😁😁you sound so strong

@no...one... 4 жыл бұрын

How much do you charge?

@gabrielguzman6018 4 жыл бұрын

So if someone does something unintentionally then they deserve to be punished?

@AskanEsthehtianskincare 4 жыл бұрын

Pray for my revenge 😈

@oppziggy 4 жыл бұрын

I never felt bad the revenge I got from the people who wronged. Some of this goes back 20 years and I still feel great about it. Especially the ex boss Who I caused to Leave her husband because I payed some pregnant girl to trick the ex boss into thinking she was pregnant with the husband's kid. Best revenge ever!

@IHateEverythingInIife 2 жыл бұрын

*paid

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

Awesome!

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

And you don't question your moral compass?

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

@@neotreo3670 Moral compass applies to both parties. Something happened to him obviously so he reacted. Once again, it's okay for them to do what ever they want to you, but if you do something to them in reaction, your the bad guy. THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

@@bystanderbutch3509 obviously it applies to both parties but just because their moral compass if fucked up doesn't mean yours can be as well, you have to have standards no matter who wronged you. They shouldn't have the power to mess up your mental. I'm not saying those people can do whatever the f they want but the person I'm talking to ain't one of those people, so can't speak on their actions and I thought it was assumed that the ex boss did something really terrible to get that

@misterstrongerman 5 жыл бұрын

Those who teach us to forgive don't like justice, for there is no justice without revenge.

@ImADeity 4 жыл бұрын

eye for an eye, soul for a soul if you feel extreme rage and hate release it. anyway possible breathing or a rampage Become the spirit of vengence Bring justice

@King.Esquire888 4 жыл бұрын

Rothvic Solevanti Man excellent points made.. Tip pace out your paragraphs so it’s easier to read

@gabrielguzman6018 4 жыл бұрын

So if someone does something unintentionally then they deserve to be punished? No you are just being petty

@augustolopes6565 4 жыл бұрын

@@gabrielguzman6018 I never forget who harms me, never ....

@philipsvensson9368 4 жыл бұрын

That's the way of the EGO, your only enemy in life.

@albertmoffet2116 2 жыл бұрын

It pleases me when i do something spiteful to get at someone who deliberately wronged me. I literally smile whilst thinking about it as i sleep.

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

"I'm just going home to see my little girl on her birthday. And if no one gets in my way, nobody will get hurt". William Dfens Foster. The sacred texts of Falling Down.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Hope you get past such an obsession.

@TP_TheOneWhoDreams 3 жыл бұрын

A grave injustice was committed against me today! People all stood as bystanders. Just realised one has to do it himself or herself to undo that wrong. So yes! VENGEANCE WILL BE MINE!! AND I WON'T REST UNTIL I GET IT!!

@buckoz3353 Жыл бұрын

Yes Do you know honestly I’m beginning to think that can give me some comments of this video I’m wondering if we should all nuke our selves to fucking extinction.

@buckoz3353 Жыл бұрын

..and free the great one known as Saton

@Kevvvinus1 Жыл бұрын

Did you got it?

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

Welcome to payback! Enjoy your stay!

@margaretsanger975 3 жыл бұрын

As a person who did acts of vengeance. It is very rewarding and feels good. I dont know why other feel remorse.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Because they're actually good people.

@mollymole7 2 жыл бұрын

Well, some of us cannot get massive success because they gave us a trauma that unables us to move on. Regaining our power and energy from that person is healthy and it's justice.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

You didn't regain any power, you just became weaker.

@nabieladrian 4 жыл бұрын

*Being hateful and doing revenge are different.* • Hate is blatant stupidity with lack of understanding between each other. • Revenge is burning desire to comeback and prove your right and/or their wrong. Sure there are better ways and option, but peace was not an option.

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

Peace wasn't an option in your time of being wronged. It sure is when you take revenge to prevent more victims.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

That's not 'burning desire,' it's insecurity.

@HS-vy5te 6 жыл бұрын

My right ear wants revenge from you !!

@the_wolf_of_willingboro 4 жыл бұрын

Lolll

@GrecoCalabrese 4 жыл бұрын

I'm Greek and Italian, revenge is a risky business but this thing about "you feel worse after taking revenge" only applies if it is for petty bullshit. Vendetta is a more serious thing, and often it is satisfying, but only if you make sure you eliminate the possibility of future retaliation.

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

That maybe true but revenge is still very illogical

@GrecoCalabrese Жыл бұрын

@@neotreo3670 how so? I mean wouldn't that depend on the reason for the revenge itself and the intent?

@neotreo3670 Жыл бұрын

@@GrecoCalabrese because regardless of the reason and intent it still takes up time and recources and the only gain is emotional gain and if the reason you are doing is to make yourself feel better then I can only see 2 outcomes 1 it ends up making you feel good in the moment but not in the long run or 2 you feel good in the long run. But you messed up your moral compass. Also I haven't heard of. A case where someone was depressed, they exacted revenge on someone and felt good in the long term. But I really can't see a way something that takes up the resource of time and usually to get the good feeling you take more time (and more preparation) for a slight emotional benefit logical.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

So revenge is satisfying if there's no possibility of you facing the consequences of your action. Interestingly hypocritical.

@GrecoCalabrese 10 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 Perhaps English is not your first language, but hypocrisy usually refers to one doing something that they accuse others of doing as immoral. In the case of making sure nothing happens in retaliation as a result of taking revenge, that is more to avoid a situation of your actions causing a kind of back and forth and opportunity for retaliation, which would defeat the whole purpose of taking revenge in the first place, assuming the reason was to react to some kind of unprovoked misdeed.

@m.ab_1364 2 жыл бұрын

For the past 3 years I’m planing different revenges in my head for the kids who bullied me for 7 years straight and caused me depression. Istg if I just can take revenge I’ll feel so much better, cuz I’m thinking 24/7 I’m so tired of it.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Try forgiveness.

@ThomasDoubting5 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah and the law protects the perpetrators from justice

@imadaboutok2655 9 жыл бұрын

I like the idea , but it's quite difficult in some situations

@mikeg6975 7 жыл бұрын

very

@letsfightfuckuarrogantchin4375 7 жыл бұрын

Imad Abou Tok yup specially in street fights i had this ex bf of my gf kicked my ass with his 3 friends. And psychilogicaly i want revenge coz i want to sleep better

@akkibhai4223 5 жыл бұрын

Yes

@CUBACHINA1986 3 жыл бұрын

Facts

@philipsvensson9368 3 жыл бұрын

Instead of defending the EGO, instead of protecting your character. Build something people can look up to, inspire people. Be different

@TheHollandHS 3 жыл бұрын

I sincerely believe revenge will be the major reason of the end of humanity. And yes we will all die happily.

@meowuuwuwu 3 жыл бұрын

trust me, some people deserve it, and it feels great (:

@mr.nobody6829 6 жыл бұрын

It sounds like just forget it and sublimate the energy to do something productive, impractical.Revenge is the best way to quench anger, other approaches are just substitutes when you can't access this best way.

@philipsvensson9368 4 жыл бұрын

Either you rule your emotions, or your emotions rule you. The vengeful mind, is a weak mind.

@Ytdeletesallmycomments 2 жыл бұрын

True. One Bam explosion instead if years of thinking why did they get away with it. What would have happened if? I am powerless etc. It took me so long to get over things. Now i did revenge and not even evil just a truth bomb and it is off my chest. It is not weak. It is putting it back where it belongs. And the damage well. Learn from it and become a better person. Both

@Damesanglante 2 жыл бұрын

That's some wuwu esoteric belief that you got there. The weak are the people that are too cowardly to apply justice.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Most instances of indignation are due to lack of thought.

@endloesung_der_braunen_frage 5 жыл бұрын

I Love Revenge...

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

Same.

@bystanderbutch3509 7 ай бұрын

Here, here.

@Maria20t 3 жыл бұрын

This is not true, i even today feel so good for my revenge. Because that person really deserve that. And i saved many women from that predator.

@sabrinasususa6957 3 жыл бұрын

Same i didn't repent for people i took revenge from

@lotuswolf1518 2 жыл бұрын

@@xxhamedxx01 I slept with other guys n sexted when I was wid my 1st n 2nd bfs Felt so good I won't ever get married I am too vengeful n vendivtive to bring in laws n stats in love relationship U can get away with murders

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

You really need to be taken down a peg.

@tebogolekgau5783 2 жыл бұрын

What? turn the other cheek? and be successful? trust me, no amount of material reward can make you feel complete until you revenge on that Mother-fker... revenge is really sweet

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

I doubt you're successful enough to earn my trust concerning such a statement.

@oxqa 3 жыл бұрын

What does success has to with revenge? Suppose someone killed my daughter im I going to get my revenge by being massively successful? What absolute bullshit

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

It's not like getting revenge would bring your daughter back to life.

@agwanmolgamingworld8102 2 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 but it saves other children from death

@rossphillipgerard 3 жыл бұрын

Focus on your success. Well sometimes the best success is the removal of your enemies and to take what was theirs and make it yours.

@marinesreccy6452 3 жыл бұрын

Revenge is one thing but abusing one person over and over again, being obsessive, not wanting to let go of the past and moving forward with your life to be better is another, it might just be some sort of mental disorder.

@clivechambers6738 4 жыл бұрын

Helpful advice I was attacked by one of my next door neighbours two weeks ago and just sustained as few bruises from it as I covered my face and he couldn't swing a punch properly to save his life and for the last two weeks I've been thinking awful things to get pay back on him! I've been losing sleep and reacuring dreams. Watching this has given me a better understanding and the need to let it be and let karma bite him back. I've got a lot going for me and not going to let a bully defeat me. Thankyou.

@prathameshgutte6583 Жыл бұрын

Same happened with me 2 weeks ago..Can you please tell how are you feeling about it now?

@josedanielhernandezdiaz8707 Жыл бұрын

Sometimes Karma doesn't apply

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

Can't depend on karma, payback will right his wrong.

@meladygenereux8800 3 ай бұрын

Karma doesn’t exist- look at the 🍊 🤡

@livingdeadfitness1528 5 жыл бұрын

I've been wanting a form of revenge or justice for over a decade. Fortunately, I am a fairly patient person, however, life is ephemeral. I harbor contempt against those who have wronged me and the vile bastards that corrupt the world with evil and depraved actions.

@special-arichards3288 Жыл бұрын

This was actually so important for me to hear , being a revengeful person to the core.

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad it was beneficial for you!

@Justme48813 2 жыл бұрын

Revenge is natural and normal. Be yourself.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Feelings are natural. Actions are artificial.

@Justme48813 10 ай бұрын

@@cosmikpowa3133 actions are artificial only if you are robot bruh.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

@@Justme48813 look up artificial in a dictionary

@makbones3481 4 жыл бұрын

But what about when someone kills your father and takes his place as king? Wouldn’t you want to kill the new king?

@gabriellavaras688 4 жыл бұрын

haha sounds like lion king

@makbones3481 4 жыл бұрын

Gabriella Hopper or Hamlet

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Maybe if he managed such a monumental task, he deserves to be king.

@shilpishah5954 5 жыл бұрын

I dont agree with what is said in this video, revenge is always great, It makes us feel powerful, Otherwise we feel like a looser, whom anyone can harm and walk away with that. Waiting for God to punish them sucks and does not help us move on.

@berkaninal1024 5 жыл бұрын

@PhillyBread dude...thats fucked up.

@sabrinasususa6957 3 жыл бұрын

I am not patience either so god get my revenge and karma to people that treat me bad so apart from screamingon this people and they instead of apologize continue saying bullshits then i just revenge

@Damesanglante 2 жыл бұрын

Get revenge on his car. Eye for an eye.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

The only one who can make you move on is your own self. Revenge is unnecessary in that goal.

@brysonclark7273 7 жыл бұрын

This video is for normal people

@Continuum2077 4 жыл бұрын

Best comment

@thefoxcreation3580 4 жыл бұрын

I am leaving. Not a joke. I am not

@gabrielguzman6018 4 жыл бұрын

Lol, no one is normal

@philipsvensson9368 4 жыл бұрын

I'd say the opposite

@akashpatel8410 3 жыл бұрын

It's for weak people who can't fight and comfort themself by saying revenge is bad

@lindseytaylor4460 2 жыл бұрын

I really like this thought and I certainly want to keep it. I appreciate the insight. It helps a little but I still have this rage about me especially dealing with someone who fakes compassion towards others.

@sexyfox1984 2 жыл бұрын

Im a huge believer in Karma. An ex wronged me about 18 months ago to provoke a reaction. Old me would've reacted and gotten revenge. But I'm a mum now. So, to set a good example and as hard as it was, he got no reaction from me. Then a month later I found out karma paid him a visit in a big way. That was more satisfying then anything I could've done. Left me smiling for days and I have happily moved on since then 😊

@TheKrispyfort Ай бұрын

yes, I liked this video I realised a while ago that even if I were to ever completely reduce someone down to just the experience of insane pain, I still would not feel satisfied. I'm still hurting, and someone else's pain isn't ever going to reduce the pain I feel.

@Carolinacaveman 3 жыл бұрын

they always talk about how revenge will eat you up inside or it will somehow hurt yourself. Then again how often does someone get hurt so bad that they would seek revenge. To let abuse go unpunished can allow them to continue that abuse on you or someone else. One must ask the question if what if your enemy had done the same thing to someone else as they did to you. Would you care as much. Some times perhaps revenge is necesary to bring justice for what has been done to you aswell as what has been done or may be done to someone else.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

All artificial systems of justice are inherently flawed and paradoxical if you dig enough. Stop trying to use excuses to justify you acting based on your hurt rather than trying to fix it.

@akumasin9067 5 жыл бұрын

i love revenge

@Mosey8 4 жыл бұрын

Actually, revenge is fun and delivers justice through immediate consequences to the perpetrator which feels sexy and cool. THEN, you can get your success and rub that in their face like salt into their wounds too 😘

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

No! Once justice is served, that's good enough. But you could be different, and that's cool. Everyone is. To me, the satisfaction of the payback is good enough. But do what makes you happy. Life's too short not to.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Keep anything you find sexy in the bedroom with a consenting partner.

@yue4u4 3 жыл бұрын

Wait when I think of revenge I suddenly feel turned on???? Bruhhhhh wtf is wrong with me

@letmereviewapps464 3 жыл бұрын

Just something to think about; sometimes people can’t reach for success because the pain of their unfulfilled desire for penance has risen to the point of becoming paralytic. Those people are going to need a different answer than the one you’ve provided here if the goal is to get through to them. Thank you for the effort though.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

If the only way you managed to become successful was through revenge, maybe it's worth considering that you're being manipulated.

@rat3732 3 жыл бұрын

"Revenge is a complicated matter, it can drive you , keep you alive or consume you..." -Steven Randall

@hannahchloequinn 2 жыл бұрын

Best revenge is massive success. 👑

@parvezahmed1138 6 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO.

@Kcarneirowashere Жыл бұрын

I’m here to clear the evil revengeful thoughts but apart of me don’t. Once you get revenge it’s a feel good moment FOREVER. I don’t know why people feel the need to try to stop someone from being angry and wanting revenge when they weren’t the one that was wronged and mistreated. I have a human right to feel anger and want revenge. So if I can believe God created me to be happy, upset, angry, depressed, glad, and those other emotions then he get me when I want to see revenge. He knows I’m not perfect so I’m ok with sweet none regretful revenge. Always gotta be an eye for an eye.

@TheAcs421 2 жыл бұрын

Feeling like you were wronged within the context of a game feels a little different from the wrong of being, for example, raped. This video feels really, really, really overly simplistic - why do some studies say revenge fantasies can be psychologically helpful for rape victims? I'd love a video that tackled revenge with a little more nuance.

@sarakhalil743 2 жыл бұрын

What about if you were hurt deeply by a person and forgave them eventually after them doing good deeds for you. Then after five years the same person screwed you yet again. And walked away. I feel revenge here is much much needed. Specially if there is a way for it they don't know about. What do you think?

@cristhianc5580 5 жыл бұрын

All of my life ive been a nice guy... i don't swear,dont scream i read books... noice guy with no desires of harming anyone.... But one day my family and me decide to move,ya' know new school people etc.But this particular guy... im gonna called "Ron" He was and asshole but the kind of asshole that the people and girls wanted.i get a good crush in one girl,ron too so we decided she gonna be mine like reasonable people.Ron kiss the girl.later he tried to "help me" to conquist her. Some time happen,we are in the classroom and he was a bit aggresivewith my other friends at one moment i don't give it attention,later one of my friends came to me and say"Ron punched me"i stand up and watched ron into the eyes and say "Coward!" I get close and say it again,he says"Teel it like a man" i close my hand and throw a punch into his face while screaming "COWARD!" He lays on the ground... like the coward he is i take my revenge Hell it feels good

@nabieladrian 4 жыл бұрын

Nice

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

I bet if he punched you, you would also be crying on the ground. I wish it would happen. I wish someone would finally call you a coward in the same way you did to this "Ron" so you can learn your lesson. But that'll never happen.

@brumgab 3 жыл бұрын

Guys, help me with something I was in a class and I needed to leave earlier. As soon as I stood up the teacher said "hey!". I imediatly knew he was talking to me but wouldnt raise my head because I was embarrassed. He repeated in an angry tone "hey! You there!". I had to look at him, then he Said "whats your name?" I answered in a low tone "Gabriel". Then he screamed while Turning his face against me "GABRIEL"! indicating he would not give me presence that day. I left the class feeling horrible, a coward, extremwly embarrassed. I believe that is the problem with revenge. Sometimes we misinterpret what is going on and act angry toward someone we think did something wrong but actually didnt. The teacher thought I was lazy or was trying to take advantage of him but it was not the case. Do you guys think he was too harsh or he was right to call me out? I am not against revenge. But I think we must be sure the person was wrong and not let our pressumptions guide us

@dumbredneck4464 3 жыл бұрын

I think he acted a bit outta line and and your theory makes a ton of sense I have to agree with it but I also think you coulda told him ahead of time your plans and if he acted outta line then you could get back by reporting him to the school that way it's a fair and decent way in my opinion at least.

@ts3858 3 жыл бұрын

@@dumbredneck4464 I would call him out IN FRONT of the class the way he humiliated or attempted to publicly shame you. He obviously has insecurity issues about his proficiency as a teacher

@ts3858 3 жыл бұрын

That was meant for Gabriel Brum...

@Vincent-li8rx 3 жыл бұрын

'Not taking revenge' is an ideology developed by wrongdoers themselves in order to save their asses. As simple as that! Do not forget, do not forgive! 😎😎😎

@dicerevo 2 жыл бұрын

We’re all wrongdoers in someone’s eyes.

@S0upYT 2 жыл бұрын

Everyone is a wrongdoer

@caringheart34 Жыл бұрын

If Christians are wrongdoers, then by my one and only God, you have something in your head. There's a reason why Christians never take revenge.

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

The thing I've noticed is when your the wrong doer, your mistake is pointed out and your punished. When others wrong you, your supposed to let it go. The hypocrisy of society is astounding.

@dakalodk 6 ай бұрын

yep its very self serving

@TheAileZX2 3 жыл бұрын

Success is the reason why whoever wronged you do. They're jealous. Punishing them with an improved you would just give them thoughts and feelings they've been used to.

@koteswararaobommu1654 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video, almost made some bad decision, but, i really wanna focus on something now

@mightymorphinforeskin3973 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you sharing this enlightening and informative perspective. I was curious to learn more about this concept, have you researched the variables that may have an effect on the brain activity surrounding revenge, such as the degree a person was wronged, or actions undertaken during an episode of psychosis or mental health crisis? Perhaps under the effects of alcohol, stress, drugs etc?

@kennedy19644 4 жыл бұрын

Is this not why we have the death penalty ? ....I'm all for paybacks...helps keep people accountable and in check !

@r4nd0mguuy52 2 жыл бұрын

I opened the video and i got an ad about going to a therapist. I think everybody should get it.

@planestranger 3 жыл бұрын

What if whrongdoer robbed you of any chance for reaching your goals?

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

I doubt you're homeless with all your limbs amputated if you're posting a comment on a KZfaq video.

@Turin_Turumba Жыл бұрын

Meh, I felt great after my revenge, & it's helped me move on from a hurtful relationship

@mrblue___ Жыл бұрын

Lucky you

@Turin_Turumba Жыл бұрын

@@mrblue___ Was just a blank stare from across the street, but the torture this chick put me through, before ghosting me, seeing the rage in her face when I blanked her , felt like..... justice 😊

@irisle1942 3 ай бұрын

Same

@manuelk1853 Жыл бұрын

I want revenge on some people who abused me in the past so badly, but I was never able to what leaves me so unsatisfied and pissed....

@dlove7078 7 жыл бұрын

Im with you Vanessa 😊. just bought master your people skills and The power of happiness from creativelive . hopefully it will helps me heal and strive. Thank you so much

@Stuart267 2 жыл бұрын

In 2011 my ex sliced my throat, she was sectioned after trying to take her mother's life just 2 weeks later. In 2021 I found out she was living on the streets begging for money, I tracked down where her home/box was & the she was with her hand out under an alcove, I made my way over & she was looking down into her empty cup & I dangled a £20 just under her nose, her eyes lit up smiling as she tried to snatch it from between my fingers I swiftly pulled it back, palming it & flip her the bird as she begins crying & asking why? 10 years after nearly bleeding out ON MY BIRTHDAY I got my closure & what some may call revenge, I have high morals but I don't like innocent people getting hurt & trust me, my ex hurt so many people

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Dangling a £20 under the nose of a clearly mentally unstable and starving person is much better.

@realrobh 7 жыл бұрын

Yea success is cool and all, but nothing feels better than knowing someone just got opened a letter full of glitter all over themselves...

@halochampion342 7 жыл бұрын

I'm sure it feels that way in the moment, but you need to seriously think about what kind of person you want to be. Just move on with your life

@realrobh 7 жыл бұрын

It's glitter... not smallpox.

@halochampion342 7 жыл бұрын

Mwangamizi Olukun not the point, it's a matter of principle even though it is relatively harmless it reinforces a bad habit

@realrobh 7 жыл бұрын

.... I Need your address LOL

@halochampion342 7 жыл бұрын

Mwangamizi Olukun you sure you wanna travel all the way to Canada lol

@tantaluss68 4 жыл бұрын

what if you were wronged 10yrs ago and it gnaws at you almost daily your still saying revenge wouldn't help you find closer

@ervjustis7117 3 жыл бұрын

Damn for 10 years what happened dude

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

Kratos did a good job of that :P

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

In all seriousness, that alone does in fact prove that not everyone has the same psychological take. It's a mental sense of taste.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

If you don't do anything about yourself, your reaction to the event will never change.

@GeorgeGewk 5 жыл бұрын

The most amazing thing that a person can do is to find the courage and strength to forgive. That is how your soul is kept pure and innocent. It is also something very rare nowadays. Revenge gets you nowhere, actually it infects your own soul with evil. Avoid a toxic person, of course, and keep him away, but instead of hating him, you should rather feel truly sorry for him and pity him for his rotten soul and mind. There is nothing in him to be jealous of, but rather to feel sorry for him. Loving your enemies is the superior moral level and it is acheivable!

@bystanderbutch3509 Жыл бұрын

Eventually your forgiveness and patience runs out. That Christ guy was alright and if EVERYONE did what he said, revenge would never be necessary. The whole do unto others thing. Even he ran out of patience with people. When he got a little violent to the money changers in the temple, he also knew some times it takes action to get them to learn. What's this jealousy crap about? Personally I've never been jealous of someone who's a piece of crap. I believe you never commit an act against someone unless they first commit an act against you. It's ALWAYS wrong to hurt innocent people. Provocation brings on revenge, otherwise it's live and let live.

@josedanielhernandezdiaz8707 Жыл бұрын

Tell someone who has being abused to forgive... get your bs to other place

@apexlifeismine100 2 жыл бұрын

Revenge and to Avenge are also two different things avenging a wrong done to the innocent in a justified way is much better morally than someone who seeks revenge for petty and selfish reasons . That is akin to swallowing poison and hoping the other person dies . It's an exercise in futility and an act of self destruction

@AWayOfLiving84 9 ай бұрын

If you put a child in a room & you own everything. And the child destroys things in the room. Could you do revenge to show them a lesson?

@FarionHorn 4 жыл бұрын

This advice is not working. Even after 7 years pass. It's not about "feeling good". It's not about "moving on". It's about justice. And helping ones who did bad things to understand that what they did was wrong.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Justice doesn't exist. Maybe instead of wishing so hard for your method of thinking to be validated, you could try accepting that the world doesn't run based on your perception of justice.

@thenowherestairs 2 жыл бұрын

Oh I'll have my revenge.. It will be SWEET. I never forget or forgive those that have vexed me.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Revenge won't make you forget or forgive them either.

@cherrycherish1908 4 жыл бұрын

I wanted to take revenge so much to someone who betrayed me but i changed my mind because i don't know what would be the outcome of it.Now i'm trying to heal and moving on with my life.

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

I'll give you options. Take legal actions, or pray for God to punish them.

@richardslater3737 3 жыл бұрын

Why not both revenge and success

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Exactly what capitalism wants to turn you into.

@ninarowe9978 2 жыл бұрын

I really like everything about you. You are the person I want to learn from

@Gitsmasher Жыл бұрын

i really dont get it about how people behave... they easily hurt others without second thought , yet when their victims fight back / getting revenge the bullies making a huuuuuge fuss about it. If dont want to feel pain , just dont be casually inflicting it...

@mrblue___ Жыл бұрын

Gaslighting at its finest

@josedanielhernandezdiaz8707 Жыл бұрын

It's seems like now is worse to defend or counter attack bullies than bullying itself.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Y'know, exactly like the revenge-seeker does.

@Chris_M_Romero 4 жыл бұрын

Then, why did the revenge desire even evolved in our psyche i the first place if it will bring more problems?

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

Because evil must be punished. The only reason why "justice" doesn't create more problems is because it has men loaded with power. Take that away, and you have a judge who righteously sentenced any criminal killed on the spot by the defendant's family members.

@maximus-go1um Жыл бұрын

She is bullshitting. But also revenge doesnt have to be for emotional reasons. It has practical ones. So we need it

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

You say that as if humankind's evolution has necessarily led it to become more practical and efficient in every way possible. Being the byproduct of your environment is not necessarily a good thing.

@b.questor 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you. Point well taken.

@specialK312 3 жыл бұрын

this video is 100% wrong. Revenge makes your life better, period. Opposite of that would be not getting revenge, which results in your wounds never healing.

@Vincent-li8rx 3 жыл бұрын

We second you! You are 100% correct. You feel incredibly awesome after taking revenge both emotionally and physically.

@Traumatised311 2 жыл бұрын

Revenge is the best medicine, also hurting someone's ego who betrayed u and hurt u is a drug and I am addicted but sometimes u just have to look at their lives being miserable 😂😂😂😂wow

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

Getting revenge doesn't heal your wounds, it just makes it easier to ignore them.

@saulmorales97 8 жыл бұрын

you just earned yourself 1 more subscribers

@worldofcoyote2556 3 жыл бұрын

Revenge is nothing but darkness that blinds you!

@kristianjavieraguirretorre4851 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@Tigerjasper 4 жыл бұрын

i started having revenge problems since 2010 when i was 9 i started to get payback on everybody tht did me wrong in 2008 long story short i had kicked the crap outta everybodys ass for bullying me in the past ive did it to most boys and sum girls cuz they where just as wrong i was serverly bullied as a kid since age 5 i learned how to fight when i was 6 and started kicking ass as i little boy to a big kid most of the time if i had ever lost a fight or fights i feel like i had to redeem myself as a winner and get redemption throughout all these years ive been bullied and fighting instead of having thoughts of suicide i had seek revenge on most of my eneiemes over the years from 2010 to 2019 and now nobody holly mess with me cuz of my rage thts the good news but the bad news is the revenge thoughts had just started back cuz what i been through last year with all these incidents and confrontations im just so angry i want to really hurt everybody

@marichespi8092 Жыл бұрын

Thank you I needed to hear this my neighbor who is from Central America who I guess came here a year ago illegally from Guatemala he was standing next to my truck talking on the phone and touching it I told him to move the next day my tires slashed all 4 broke a tail light and dented my car from the side I told the cops in los ángeles they didn’t do anything no proof I was thinking of getting revenge but this video is right I think time will get revenge on him then he went on to get a truck similar to mine that made me angry but now I know time will get him back. And i had just. Bought my truck two weeks before

@ScienceOfPeople Жыл бұрын

That is awful!

@pettykingtakethisl7594 5 жыл бұрын

Yep revenge overpowers me 😁

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

Revenge doesn't overpower you. It *empowers* you.

@loveemarie2272 3 жыл бұрын

Is being fare revenge?

@riiddisbuk2496 3 жыл бұрын

The Moral Person Who is a Criminal Deep Down: Yes. It is unjust. The Moral Person Who is Better Deep Down: Revenge or not, it is justice.

@sandylynn1912 3 жыл бұрын

My friend screwed me out of a lot of money.. I feel the need for revenge. Help me

@Vpopov81 4 жыл бұрын

for justice without dispassion would be frontier justice......

@RPAS1234 3 жыл бұрын

I have the ability to time travel. Over my "lifetime", I have tortured, murdered and killed my wrong-doers multiple times ranging from petty indiscretions (Cutting me off in traffic) to full blown serious crimes. The joy I have experienced while suffering zero consequences has been tantamount to nirvana. Obviously engaging in such endeavours eventually becomes tiresome after the 700th murder of the same person. These days I'm pretty chill and for the most part, unflappable.

@cosmikpowa3133 10 ай бұрын

You've committed more than 700 murders and have gotten away with it, meanwhile an innocent person who just cut you in traffic had to suffer through an agonious death, possibly hundreds of times. Wonder who's the bad guy.