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Schrödinger's feminism: a woman is simultaneously strong, independent and empowered and also an oppressed victim; until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most and behaves accordingly.

In my 40+ years of living I've never personally witnessed a female be accountable for her faults but I'm open to the idea.

Accountability is a women’s kryptonite.

I recently had a conversation with three women. My mother, her friend, and friend's daughter. Somehow we got on the subject of being wrong, and they all agreed that they hate being wrong. I asked why, but they couldn't give me a strait answer. So, I said, "You know you could all be more happy, and have more fulfilling relationships if you just admitted when you're wrong instead of wasting so much energy making lies and covering your butts for who knows how long. It just takes 2 seconds to say I'm wrong and move on, but instead you choose to spend weeks hiding from the truth, until men forget." Needless to say, that was out of place for a quiet guy like me, and they were shocked. I just get so tired of the games...

Women can't admit being wrong because they're told their feelings are never wrong. Its how they felt at that time so shes right.

My EX-wife refused to go to marriage counseling because she said it was all my fault, even though I could have written a book about all the things she did wrong. I admitted my wrongs, but she would never admit to hers. My life is beautiful now that she's not in it anymore! 😊

My ex asked for a divorce. I agreed and handed her the papers. Suddenly, she was the victim.

99% of the time, my wife blames me, gets angry at me, when SHE does something wrong, and almost never accepts blame or apologizes. It is pathetic.

I literally laughed out loud when you asked, "How many times has a woman looked you in the eyes and said, 'I'm sorry."? The answer is, never. You only get an apology if you demand it, and then it's not sincere.

Being on this earth for almost 60 years, I can say confidently that I have NEVER heard a woman utter the words "I was wrong, and I apologize," or "I got divorced but I played a significant role in our breakup."

My “best friend” of over a decade, a woman I supported, uplifted, taught to be financially responsible, helped progress her career, moved into my home when she went through a break up and apparently at the time had “no where to go” - asked my husband to leave me for her. I love this man deeply and we had been together for 13 years at the time (3-4 yeas prior to me and this woman becoming friends) and she knows what he means to me. He turned her down, but *+*somehow*+* through amazing mental gymnastics and a subsequent 3 year smear campaign against me she is The Victim. I showed her my amazing home and marriage just to cruelly snatch it away from her and kick her out into the streets. It’s 3 years on and she still takes snipe attacks at me every chance she can to friends and co-workers, but refuses to speak to me directly because “she’s not sure when she will be ok with what I did to her”. All because she can’t be accountable and feel lousy for being a bad friend and acknowledge she did a terrible thing.

A friend of mine (from Wales) caught his girlfriend cheating on him in Turkey. She went over to work for 4 months and ended up deactivating her socials because she said he was inquiring too much and she was getting annoyed. So he flew over there and caught her with 4 men. And one of the Turks said she's 'his' gf. She also threw it in his face the same way you described, never mind that she'd been caught red handed, she kept yelling 'You followed me? I can't believe you followed me' etc. etc. And now she wants to get back with him and insists no cheating happened. Amazing.

Once I had a girlfriend who was a feminist and a vegetarian. After that never again. Women LOVE being childish victims. I still have to tell my wife to grow up, act like an adult, and stop the damned whining. If on a date a woman says her ex was abusive, walk away. She is either drawn to abusive men or she is trying justify HER bad behavior. I have seen this several times.

Imagine a man storming into a cafe and snatching his girl friend's meal and hurling it on the floor. He would be demonized and harassed and probably lose his job.

Late forties here. Not ONCE in my life has a women said she was in the wrong and said she is sorry. NOT ONCE. If I ever got an apology it was "I'm sorry, but...(fill in why it was still my fault)". In addition. Never have I heard a good thing said about an Ex boyfriend/Husband or how she had any responsibility in the destruction of said relationship.

My last ex would apologize when she was wrong, but then go ahead and do the same thing again when I would forgive her. Eventually, she admitted that even though she said she was sorry, she didn’t mean it and she would keep doing it over and over again.

Don’t throw yer life away for a female lads!

It isn't because she is a victim. It is because this is a matriarchy and she feels ownership/authority implicitly over men.

My ex-wife did exactly this! I haven’t seen my kids in over three years! I’m actually quite happy to hear this video. 💪 let’s go men!

I've been married for 39 years and I can count on one hand the number of times my wife apologized, or said I was right, or even thanked me for my advice. And when she does something wrong, she almost always gets mad at me.

"My body my choice." Never argue with a woman. The less you talk the better. Say what your baseline is and if that doesn't work for her, walk.

Women always act like a victim 😅... And suddenly they feel empowered after that...😂

I recently “lost” a female friend. We had one last talk. In that talk, she stated that the reasons this friendship didn't work out was all my fault. She didn't do anything wrong. NOTHING. She also retracted that she was wrong on things when she behaved in a bad way she already apologized for in the past. Those were also my fault now. Oh and did I mention she lost 2 good female friends during the last year who turned their back on her? But even that didn't make her think that she might be the problem.

My X broke a clear agreement we had and it really put our relationship in the weeds. Over the next few months she just couldn't even acknowledge it. I ended that relationship, and have had trouble trusting women ever since. That's not my only experience with that kind of think, but we had been engaged for a few years at that time. I'd much rather be alone than with a person that can't take any responsibility for their own behavior. It's not about shaming, or blaming, but just acknowledging their behavior so we could move on. Trust is crucial in committed relationships.

This subject hits too close home, when I started with my girlfriend she would never admit she was in the wrong about something, the best thing you can do is tell her straight to the point, if you’re not able to be mature enough to admit when you’re in the wrong then we are at different maturity levels and we are not compatible, after that she got offended and started reflecting and now we barely have any disagreements and when there is one it’s resolved in less than 5 minutes because we meet halfway all the time, so guys if you find a woman like this take action immediately or leave, It would just get worse

My wife used to say, "You always want to be right!" Uhm... yes. I'd say to her, "Show me a person who gets into a discussion hoping they'll be wrong." I had to tell her this more than once over several weeks before she fully understood it. All the while, never actually aware that she too always wanted to be 'right.'

500% true. I've been married for 13 years (recently separated). My wife very rarely says sorry, even when I outright tell her to apologise. If I have some kind of complaint about anything, she has an amazing skill to minimise my complaint and turn the conversation around to how I'm criticising her and then suddenly I find that I'M the one apologising. Pretty frustrating.

My wife, who was supposed to be a recovered alcoholic and drug addict, started going to bars, "for the music". I told her that wasn't acceptable and I'd have nothing to do with her if she continues. So the next time she said she was going to a bar. I said OK, I'll box your thing up and leave them in the driveway. She didn't believe me, but it was my house and my rules. When she came back, I had the front gate locked from the inside and she had no way of getting into the property. She screamed and threatened so I called the police and told them there was a drunk at my gate screaming and that I wanted them to remove her. They did because she thought she could boss them around, and that backfired on her. I had all my locks changed the next day and it was such a relief to be rid of the trauma. I already had a divorce lawyer ready and got free of her.

The real crime here is that he stopped being vegan to eat mc Donald’s 🤣🤣 just go to a steakhouse with your bud and enjoy 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This video could also be titled "why women were never allowed to run civilizations in the past"

I don't think women are being told to be quiet and happy they get rewarded for screaming getting angry and acting like children. Only men are punished for not being able to control their emotions. We need to actually start holding women to the same standard of controlling their emotions.

I'm 67. I've had three long term relationships. Only once, a woman said that she was sorry, that she made a mistake. Unfortunately, immediately it was followed by, "but, it was because YOU did this....." Even that one admission of accountability was supposedly because I did something wrong in her eyes.

You can see the women's desire to make themselves the victim clearly in videos of women being arrested. In majority of these footage women start crying and saying things like "Don't touch me!" like they're being raped by the police officers.

As a society we should never accept people that can't control they're feelings to show their faces in publics.

From the moment a woman disrespects you in public, the relationship is over. There will be warning signs very early in the relationship that you probably ignore because you're trying to make it work.

That’s the most reasonable vegan woman I’ve ever seen

My theory is that women have a down right aversion to the idea of being wrong because 1) their bodies are naturally more weaker/softer in order to carry a child while pregnant and when they externally carry the child while it's growing. By extension this leads them to be more naturally adverse to danger both physically and emotionally. I think that aversion is translated to their mind/ego (since both originate in the brains r-complex) leading them to have an aversion to potentially being wrong to the point that hearing or contemplating the possibility of them being wrong gives them the same feeling and fear they have when confronted with a possible danger to their physical lives. And 2) women are also more naturally driven to be more selfish and self-interest, to focus more on what benefits them because in turn it would lead to them focusing on what is best for their children. However this selfishness can go out of control and turn into pure narcissism where they genuinely believe that the world should revolve around their wants and needs, therefore the concept of them being wrong becomes an impossibility in their own self-centered world-view were the world and Morality itself is based on their desires.

If a woman causes a problem and a man points it out to her, his pointing it out becomes the problem. Women antagonize men in this manner. She'll come to your door to yell at you about the trash barrel and you'll say "It's not mine!" and she'll say "he made me feel really uncomfortable and might even be dangerous".

I'm 41 and I've never heard a woman apologize and take responsibility for her actions. A few times they would but a day or two later they would contort it to blame me for it.

I have never heard a woman who did not blame her ex for the failure of her past relationship. She was always the victim of abuse or betrayal or emotional unavailability.

LOL! If you ask women on dating sites and apps why their string of previous relationships didn't work out - 98% say my ex was a loser! I reply with "You seem very skilled at choosing losers and I refuse to be your next one!" and then block them. If we all did this - we might be able to date adults in future. If that video was real - the guy assumed a child role in that relationship (by looking for her validation and trying to impress her) and that is why she treated him as such. Women don't respect weak men like that. He should have taken a steak over to her place and asked her to cook it for him. If she gets disrespectful, say b1tch shut up and then withdraw your attention. She must associate being called a b1tch with her bad behavior. If she wants more of your time, she better learn to behave and cook steak. Else it is not worth dating her. Being a pushover and nice to them is the worst thing you can do.

Perfect timing. It doesn't translate 1-to-1 but I'm currently experiencing exactly this with my mom who's trying to say I've been disrespecting her. Whenever I bring up her disrespecting me she says I'm bringing up the past or being ungrateful, it's quite hilarious but I genuinely question how capacity for processing the world if this is how she sees things between us

Here's how women argue. If they are right, they argue the point and stay on point and make sure you stay on point until your down on your knees apologizing, begging for forgiveness. But if they are wrong, they go rogue. They start thinking of stuff your sensitive about, maybe you don't get along with your dad, and in their head they just start concocting this evil statement, totally designed, this desperate hail-mary attempt to make you so mad you lose your temper. You losing it trumps all of the stuff they did to start the argument because they are now the victim of your rage. So next time your in a argument with a women and your winning and they start saying some crazy stuff out of no where, just know in that moment you've won the fight. Don't get mad, bob and weave. Stay on point, the argument is over, you've won so take a knee and run out the clock. Lean on the ropes, let them pouch themselves out and then in the end you throw their psychology right back at them "Maybe we should discuss it later when you calm down..." ~ Bill Burr

"I was desperate then, but now I don't want to smash you enough anymore to put up with your BS. I'm done with it."

Lack of animal fat in the diet can lead to mental illness 😬🤣

Her reaction would be exact same if her bf was eating a human.

Kinda funny. When we first met, my wife (was my girlfriend) was a vegetarian. Within maybe 6 months of us dating she went vegan. She asked if I'd like to join her in exploring this new (for us) territory. I told her that I wouldn't mind eating vegan food. Heck, I might end up eating mostly vegan food. But I wasn't interested in limiting my diet in such a drastic way. We've been married for 24 years and never had a single issue over this or nearly anything else.

- w/ my ex-wife we were sitting in front of the TV night in and night out (I don't like watching TV) while she had her laptop on her lap (whatever she browsed - shopping??!!) and sometimes she talked to her friends on the phone - I complained that it's a waste of time for me and I decided to do some sports in a club between 20:00-22:00 - the possibilities were 4x per week - she asked me to do only 2x per week, and I agreed. - at one point I took a license and started competition which added 1 more day for matches (so 3x per week) (I told her, and she didn't "object") - after a while she started complaining that I was not w/ her enough (and I even overheard that she complained to some friends) even when I told her that I can't consider being w/ her sitting on the sofa watching TV while she is on her computer or having a nap... - kind of 1 year later we separated and a year later we divorced...

Accountability is kryptonite for Whamin.

Videos like this are the reason why Alexander Grace is the Gigalegend of dating advice for men. This invaluable analysis and advice can really help a guy see through all the smoke and mirrors to get a better understanding of the real person behind it all. If Alex says run from a certain type of girl, then run like your life depends on it - because it literally might.

This video literally put into words a lot of feelings ive been having for more than a decade and i was never able to articulate. The closest i have been is saying things like "why u insert me in it" ,"this isnt what were not talking about" , in response to her turning the tables and trying to shift the topic of conversation. Your video described a pattern that im very familiar with , in fact you literally describing a lot of my interactions with my significant other to a degree of accuracy that is almost eerie , lmao.

Any woman should be vetted as much as possible for this behavior and avoided. That guy in Australia was wise to have a friend video the whole incident. This is a huge red flag. Always be vigilant and if this behavior manifests itself early on best to exit any further contact or interaction. Video/Audio will definitely keep many men out of legal trouble with these "self victims".

This is why gulit and shame have a greater effect on men. Even when you're in the right. The only counter is to remove yourself from the situation.

That was the most Aussie thing I've seen in weeks. "I go to Maccas and eat with my friends." Lol he says it like he's revealing that he's been schtupping his secretary 🤣

"Being a woman isn't some kind of psychological impairment that prevents you from taking responsibility" YES it is. In fact, this is the most accurate definition for Woman I have ever heard in my life.

My wife is excellent at emotional manipulation.... and sadly, I've been an easy mark for years. I had an issue with her being disrespectful towards me in ways she seemed oblivious too. The latest incident had to do with her barking commands at me while I was trying to deal with a situation concerning my disabled stepson. I was trying to tell him where to go for his own safety, while my wife was telling me what to do... and not in a polite way at all. This clearly got under my skin and I let her know it. We sat down the next day and had a discussion about it. Two things were decided in that discussion... 1) If there is something she is doing that I find disrespectful, I was to come to her one on one to discuss it 2) When we discuss these disrespectful incidents, I was try to do it without negative emotions, like anger I felt fine with these parameters. It isn't good to get angry, nor is it helpful. I felt it was clearly safe to share so long as I did it in the right frame of mind, without anger or negative emotions, and in a private, one on one way. But then, right in the midst of that very conversation, she said something to me that was also disrespectful. My wife justified her bossy attitude in such situations by saying the following.. "You got to understand, I've been dealing with his (her disabled son's) issues ALONE for 40 long years." Alone? ALONE? What? We have been married for 25 years. I am dad to her son. I stepped into that role willingly. I have been there for both him and her for a quarter century. Five years after we married I made it possible for my wife to go down to part time at her job so she had more free time to help her son. Then seven years later I made it possible (through my hard work) for her to quit working outside the home completely, allowing her to be a stay-at-home mother to deal with his and our daughter's needs. For 13 years I have been the sole bread winner. And not only that, but I have been there, taking him to the ER at times, taking him to doctor appointments. I was there when he needed surgery, helping every step of the way. And one of the ways my wife's disrespectful behavior has stuck in my craw is that she has shown little appreciation for my efforts, treating them as though they are some type of entitlement. But rather than get emotional about what she said, I decided to let it go and speak to her about it in a nonjudgmental and calm way later. I did this by sending her an Email, explaining how what she said made me feel unappreciated and telling her how I have been there for her and my stepson. The tone of this message couldn't have been more positive. I didn't accuse her or make her the bad guy... I just told her that when she says that she has been dealing with his issues "ALONE", it makes my efforts seem unappreciated and unrecognized. What was my wife's reaction to this message from me? She called me up at work and berated me, displaying tons of negative emotions and telling me I should have waited to later to point all this out. I did exactly what we had decided. I went to her one on one with no one else around (no easy task in our house) and without anger or bitterness and asked her to at least acknowledge my efforts on her and his behalf. The very idea that she would justify her disrespectful behavior by displaying a total lack of appreciation for the support and help I've given for 25 years is just crazy to me. And then to have this woman get all emotional and angry with me, right after she asked me not to get emotional and angry, is just pure NUTS!

I have NEVER heard a GF from my past admit to being wrong or my mother, sister or any women I have been friends with for that matter. Our society doesn't provide that ability to reflect for women. That is why I never got married, now 60 yrs old and enjoying life.

Damn. You just described my past relationship.

This is why maintaining frame is SOOO incredibly important. My wife has absolutely no problem in admitting being wrong. We also have no problem to aggree to disaggree. But what I absolutely do not accept is bad behaviour and I will call her out on it every time.

I was just casually talking to a girl and she was like this other guy in Germany wanted to take me for a walking date how lame is that ? I was like “Hang on Germany’s got some nice areas to walk . He could have been taking you to see the Falls.” (She laughed) “There’s no Waterfalls in Berlin Dumbass.” “Hold on yes there are .” “No there’s not .” “I am 100% sure there are .” “Not any pretty ones.” I looked up the Berlin Falls and showed her . Getting a small apology was like pulling teeth .

If I recall correctly, there was a section in Dr. David Buss's "Evolution of Desire" wherein he explains a reason why women don't engage in violence against each other in relation to competing for mates: The reason this occurs is that, in the event a rival is attacked, this may work to her advantage in garnering sympathy from the man, and thus heightening her chances of acquiring him.

I only got a genuine apology from a woman once, and she ment it. How can I tell? When she tries to make it up to you.

that was so well layed out. exactly how it is, so well un-packed. love your work man thankyou👊

Seems staged. If it's not, I have a lot less respect for him than her. He pretended to have values that he didn't in order to impress her and get in her pants, then snuck around eating meat like a coward. Keeping any secret part of your life from your partner that you know violates her trust and would hurt her to find out is a form of cheating, even if it's nothing sexual/romantic.

For the first time I disagree with Alex. It is acceptable for women to show anger. They do it all the time. Victim or not. It’s even more acceptable for a woman to show anger to a man than for men to show anger to a woman.

Nailed it! 🎯 This kind of behavior describes so many of the women I have encountered (38 year old male here). I'm definitely going to be using the filtering question going forwards. Keep up the good work, Alexander! 💪

I am marrying a Vietnamese country girl. Not from a major city or tourist trap. A bona fide "còn gái miền tây" or country girl from the Mekong Delta. When she is wrong, she readily apologizes!!! Even if she discovered she was wrong and could hide it!!! She can be stubborn and solid in her own opinions, but when presented with good evidence, she concedes and is actually nice about it. All her friends and family in their "horribly patriarchal" culture are this way. Respect and decorum are mandatory. I've been wrong a few times, too, and she politely called me on it. IN PRIVATE. Then I never heard another word about it. Never brought up again, even in the next fight. When I'm telling her something important, she quietly listens and confirms verbally. Usually with a very sweet "Yes, Ông xã." If she understands or she *gasp* asks for clarification and doesn't jump to conclusions. Her communication skills are over 9000!!! Early in our relationship, when I was initially blown away and struggling to believe women like her actually existed. I asked her why she was so submissive and easy to cooperate with. She said, "I strive to be like the Buddha. I want peace." She has mastered the subtle art of getting almost anything she wants by submission. She was born into a culture that still has the wisdom to realize that is a woman's superpower over her man. She doesn't even hide it. It's not overt manipulation. If she's being extra sweet, I ask what she wants, and she smiles and says, "You're such a smart man." Then she asks for exactly what she wants, and if it is reasonable and within my power, she gets it. If it is not, I explain why, and she does not hide her disappointment, but simply says, "Yes, Ông xã." She frequently sulks a few minutes and comes back with a plan B. Better than half the time that proposition is acceptable. If not, and it's still a hard no. Again, she accepts it and is understandably disappointed, but she will not act vindictive or go behind my back. This generally leads me to formulate another plan or compensation to compromise. In other words, she bargains and deliberates like an adult. She doesn't behave like a self-absorbed child. The icing and sprinkles on top: She is also drop-dead gorgeous!

The victimhood part is extremely accurate, i had my mom throw me into a wall and scream "hit me!" over and over which at the time i didn't understand, she was actually pleading with me to hit her which i've never done while she pushed and hit me while i was backed into a corner, I just waited for my chance and ran out of the house but it was definitely a learning moment for me, most women think they can't be the abuser or oppressor if they're the victim so allowing a woman to be the victim is also like a green light for them to bash you to their hearts content. I have no doubt if I actually hit her in any way even just to protect myself she'd still be bringing it up and threatening me with it today

This low quality behavior is often learned from men validating their actions. The hotter the woman the more likely she will get simps who tell her she is the victim and more likely her Boyfriend, the one who made her angry, would be afraid she leaves so he doesnt bring up the bad behavior. Which is why the hot crazy matrix is so good. It shows a woman's ability to fight against the subconscious mental training shes been put through.

She will go full victim

Alex , your incredible understanding is right on point.

The identification in the many observations Alexander raised in this video were a gut punch.

This is just like a clinic session in House MD He's cheating on you... But not with another woman... With another food group 😂😂😂

Part of the reason nice guys finish last is because they will apologize and take responsibility. If you don't care these women have no power over you.

When my former wife would start a tirade against me, I would look at her and calmly listen to her grievance without yelling or arguing. She would then shout "See, you're doing it again!" I replied: "doing what?" Her: "It pisses me off when you're calm when I'm angry at you." Me: "Well, I'm just listening to you to figure out what's wrong.... there's no reason for both of us to be hysterical; don't you want to be listened to?" It sent her over the edge every time. It was hell being married. Been divorced since '96.

I just dumped my very beloved partner because her sister hates me and is the worst, most dangerous, massively man-hating toxic ink-covered abusive dry drunk borderline hate-filled wounded person I've ever met. I put up with her attacks, public smearing and abuse until she called me a "c*cksucker" etc.etc. My lovely partner didn't say one thing to her sister in my defense. Not through any of it. No "slow your roll", no "do that again and we've got a problem", no "that's my man", no boundary of any kind. She instead took issue with me because she "hates confrontation", "she has no more being between people energy" etc. etc. etc. ad nauseum. I called her on it over and over to the point where it was, "this moves in a direction or I'm out" for me. She understood finally and promised at the very least to provide me with a profound and well-worded apology. Crickets ensued for a month... On my way out my partner promised not to hate on me with her sister. BTW I was amazing to her. Two guesses who "the victim" is 😅

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, It's all starting to make sense to me now. Thanks for helping to open the eyes of my understanding.

The irony when Alexander said "in the aftermath truly she will think oh how could I throw his burger on the ground, how could I shame him in front of his friends" Ahahahahhah

Haha this is gold.. thanks for explaining. I was constantly wondering what is happening with every single my argument which one get turned around

Great Video Mr. Grace. So Proud of you I’ve been Rocking with you since day 1 👍🏽💯

She’ll be first avoiding the reason why he is angry and making him angrier in the process. Then she’ll act as the victim of his baseless reaction. The reason why it started goes in the memory hole if she reacts strongly enough. The only remaining point will be the man forced to admit he overreacted for the starting reason if he can take responsibilities. If he can’t, she is the victim. She gets in both cases the upper hand and does not have to admit she was wrong at the starting point of the discussion that went sideways.

Been married for 12 years. Ive stopped arguing entirely. No point. There's nothing left.

You have made MANY valuable videos, and this one is just another GEM 💎 This world needs you

👍🏽 This is not just a thumbs up. This everything I’ve been looking over 25 years of full description Of victimization. You describe so clearly. I even downloaded this video to my important video file collection in my thumb drive/SD Card. Thank you

I’d counter argue that society enables woman’s anger. It’s funny seeing a man get berated by an angry girlfriend no matter how ubserd the reason is.

Can you imagine life with GF like this? :))

You’re killing it brother.

This is so well put. It's the perfect explanation that everyone needs to hear.

In primary school, we heard a fable about a mouse and a lion. The moral of that story was that the mouse misapprehended the power dynamics, by acting tough while the lion was holding it in his claws. It was the ultimate victim-blaming story. If you poke the lion often enough and hard enough, you know what he’s gonna do eventually.

The only time i heard iam sorry that was REAL, was from my mother and my sister, and they were not even big problems, they were simple things I love my mother and sister, they are the best women i know ❤

"I was in the wrong, I'm sorry." A woman has said that to me twice in my 52 years. And one of those two times you could see how much she hated to admit it. I had to comfort and praise her afterwards. Lol.

This video came right on time for me. Thank you for this one ♥️

Sighs right out the gate she says "we are vegan" m8 just cut your losses and dump her

The question at 7:56 How many times has a woman looked me in the eye and said: "I'm sorry"? The answer is during a 15 year relationship three times. There are several (other) reasons why she is the ex.

You're the best, it is awesome to see through the past bs by an expert

"High quality women..." LOL, you had me until this point.😆

Great advice with really sound reasoning. As I sit here and reflect back upon my past when dealing with women this has been a universal constant with many of them. However, I have had the pleasure of being involved with and knowing women who have taken responsibility for their actions and it's very refreshing to deal with an adult who you can truly work with.

Ex was a victim of domestic abuse which empowered her victimhood to lash out with violence starting fights grabbing knives and stealing. She was the victim of being ignored in pj's all day while her man worked 15 to 17 hrs.. This victim had to violently keep her man feom sleeping his only 4 or 5 hrs by turning the lights on and oulling covers off every righteous hour. Having argued all night her victimhood had her sleeping all day afterwards and making her own dinner. I was never around to make her what she wanted to eat. I was wrong to marry that one. Good psychology lesson for 8 years.

Alex you are so right. I have been in many disagreements with women throughout my life where they pull the old switch and try to evade the point. Anymore when this happens, I politely and firmly remind them once of the point and transgression, and if they try to evade the point further, I just walk away. I give them the courtesy of one logic check