I'm sharing this with my boyfriend and with my male friends. I know this video will really help them reflect on their past behaviors and/or guard them for future challenging situations. You're incredible, Alexander!

'Women don't respect men of words, they respect men of action. Masculinity is action based.' wow

Young dudes, I envy you for having this sort of material early on

I did forgive her and let her go. Now i feel better and she is giving someone else depression 😉 .

The more u understand a women, the less u forgive.

Me: you cheated on my for a year with my best friend? Her: it’s your fault! You were at work all the time and I was lonely Me: I’ve been supporting the family, cleaning the house, paying for the house, the cars, the college funds... everything! You don’t even have a job! Her: F•ck you! Why do you have to throw that in my face! Sorry fellas.. most women is what I married.. be careful out there

I always made this mistake with my girlfriends to over explain, to talk for hours, trying to make them understand. Sometimes it worked. But not for long. Whereas silence, even only for a day, had much more impact (but was hard for me too).

True, forgiveness must be earned. Don't trust the words but always observe her action.

Treat her like a star, she'll treat you like a fan

I have the high ground. - Obi-wan kenobi 2005

Great advise. Nothing drives a woman crazier than a man ignoring her. Be patient. it's very difficult. But it's worth it.

Action speaks louder than words and silence is deafening.

Asking for space. Absolutely brilliant!!! They think they can rewrite reality with their words.

"I'm sorry..." "I forgive you. Just don't come back" *smiling* "Wait... but" *door shuts* Thats how I give forgiveness. I've found that it often works to end a relationship, friendship or romantic because it allows you to decisively end it and it gives her what she says she wanted, which is forgiveness. I've decided to do this after 2 promises not to do certain things. The things were done again. By that time, I was about over it. I absolutely hate being lied to, and I will cut anyone out who lies to me, even over some thing small.

Broke trust? If she cheated: just forgive her. Then kick her ou... ermm I mean: let her go. Indefinitely. After crossing that line there's no "earning back trust". Just out.

I've never heard the words "I'm sorry" from a woman and have hardly ever heard it from men. People today have no honor.

Good point. Men are usually too quick to forgive a womans transgressions.

Don't react on emotions, act on solutions. The definition of masculinity

This reminds me of a conversation I had with a buddy of mine thirty years ago. He told me some long, convoluted story about having a fight with his girlfriend. It ended with her making an apology and my friend making a big show of saying, "Okay, I accept your apology." When he ended his story there, I simply retorted, "That's not what I would have said. I would've said, 'I don't accept your apology because I don't think it's genuine.'" He looked at me blankly for a minute and then said, "Why don't I always have you around with me to tell me what to say?"

"You must take the high ground" Me: Kenobi...

It applies to everyone not only women, let those people earn their forgiveness.

Betas will forgive everything, operating from a scarcity mindset, they fear to lose the p-sleeve

spanking, just gonna throw this in here.

I learned this 5 years or so into my marriage. When I have screwed up in the past (forgetting stuff usually) my wife put me through the ringer for it. Sadly when she mistreated me I would forgive her quickly, I figured that is what you do. It was a mistake. Once I started standing my ground and demanding she change her behavior, just like she does with me, our marriage shot to the next level. If your SO loses respect for you its over.

I was raised by a narcisstic women, every man in my family defended her. The only thing that helped was that I treated her like she treated me.

My gf would ghost me for 3-4 days at a time. Told her I needed space. She contacted me every night that week...

IF a woman is indeed a "High Quality Woman" then she will actually FEEL BADLY about her actions and will likely OFFER A RESOLUTION to the issue without YOU having to ask for or suggest it. She will likely say something like, "I can see where I was wrong AND I think this is what I SHOULD have done and will do in the future..." If she DOES OTHERWISE you know her apologies are insincere.

Only scarcity mindset, weaked, low value / self-esteem men forgive women who betrayed them regardless

"The moment you forgive her she loses her respect for you". I learned this in a hard way. My mistake was exactly this - she told "I'm sorry, I will not do it again" and I said "OK, let's move on". Big mistake. They. Do. Not. Apologize. They see your desire to know the truth and to see how she takes responsibility as an issue with you: it's not her, it's you who feel it in a wrong way.

From experience I absolutely concur what Alexander said in this video. I trusted my ex something closely related to family affair that I shared with 2 of my closest friends. One day during some argument can't remember what stated it, she just brought it up and started blaming me for it , how it was justified and i deserved it. It took everything in mu body to not knock her lights out. I screamed very loud she just stooped in her tracks and i stormed out of the house. For 3 weeks i maintained absolute silence i need to calmly think this through. She repeatedly tried to contact me but I was firm said i need my space. When things had calmed down and cooler heads prevailed i thought about talking to her. She immediately wanted to get back together but at the same time was superficial in her apology. At that moment i decided its better to end the relationship today than be bitter and acrimonious tomorrow.

I learned by JHS and HS at the latest that a girl can cheat or just blindside you by breaking up when you think everything is going great, leaving you shattered, without a hint of remorse. Once I learned the first time wasn't a fluke, I didn't just make a bad choice, but that most women are just sociopaths, I never again felt so much as an ounce of sympathy for a girls I broke-up with or for whatever reason, broke her heart and left he hysterical crying. Their tears mean NOTHING to me, and I've never had a problem meeting women, or ending it, so this has happened to be quite often, but it never bothered me, not in the least. In fact this one girl was crying and called me a "womanizer", and I actually took it as a compliment. LOL Hey, they wouldn't feel bad for you either.

I've let two birds off in past I was in relationships with. They both cheated on me. Not young birds either, to put it down to immaturity or just an age thing. No, one as 34 the other 47. Both begged me for us to 'get through this. Don't waste what we have'. One of them cheated again running off with another bloke. The other just dropped me the month later. I'm nearly 50 now. Still unmarried, still child free. I wouldnt have married any of them I've been involved with over the decades. Not one of them was worth it.

If she is acting in this way in the first place, ask her if she had a good relationship with daddy. if she says no, then you know you are in a toxic relationship because she is disrespecting you, and blaming you because her father abandoned her, and she does not know what a loving relationship looks like. In this situation, you have to end it, else you will suffer until you do, until then you are just a doormat. It's the first question I always ask if I like her.

if she flirts with other guys infront of me then its over between her and me

*"The rewards of tolerance are betrayal and treachery."* - Imperial thought for the day If she betrayed you once, she'll betray you again. Show no pity nor remorse... *"PUNISH HER"*

Late May 2020, my ex, after a 7 month breakup, came to me and said " I'll do anything in order to be with you". I did have my reservations, but I gave her another chance. 2 months later, she became cold again. I knew what was going to happen, so I created space, and let her think of it.@0 days later " I don't want anymore", " Am I imprisoned? Can't I leave?" I said "fine....you are the one who came back, and trust me....you will cry". She hung up the phone, 30 mins later she texted "I didn't want to hang up on you, but you were aggressive", I never replied. 10 days later she started calling and texting. Finally I got a text " I want to meet and talk, we have pending matters to discuss", my reply was " I have no time these days, I'll inform you" and NEVER called her again. It's been 7 months of no contact, I've seen her less then 10 times since then ( same workplace).A few days ago I saw her- the gloomiest I ever remember . No regrets from me- she behaved terrible, she was arrogant, she needed a LESSON TO REMEMBER.

Forgiveness is seen as a weakness from the whalemens perspective.

Advice from my uncle. "Forgive her for your peace And forget her and leave"

I used to win all of my arguments with women, always handling facts better and not letting them confuse me. It made some of them shut up and admit fault, some of them got hysterical. But they all eventually lost respect for me and kept doing bad stuff even though I proved I was right. So silence it is then, I knew before I should have acted this way but my urge to argue and be "right" was simply stronger.

If there are no consequences, she will continue her bad behavior.

Sound advice. Be careful to be moral, don’t veer into “silent treatment”...but only talk on your terms when you are ready. Like he says this has to be ONLY when you are the aggrieved party.

Your KZfaq content is so important. Few people are willing to view reality as it is, without politically correct bullshit or immature grudges. Thank you for that.

Thank you, I really needed this right now. She really messed up last time we met and didn't even want to talk about what happened and dismissed the conversation, said she needed time. So I took the time I needed to think too but a few days later she started talking to me as if it never happened. I haven't let her believe that things are alright, like you said she needs show that things will be different. I need to know if she is truly someone who can recognise the gravity of her actions and confront them

i dont know anyone else but me feeling this but he is like a big brother to me i'm a 20 years old male and his content really help me with understanding sexual things and womans.Thank you for doing this alex i appreciate it (sorry for my english btw i'm not native and i'm trying to be better at it)

It’s like taking care of small children.

from my experience, this is so accurate. taking your space is so terrifying to a woman.

yes! it happened to me. i knew a woman who would often do bad things to me but always asked for forgiveness. one time i got really tired of her bad behavior so i refused the apology and stopped talking to her. what she did next was the total opposite of someone really sorry for their behavior. she talked to people i knew and tried to destroy my reputation. she would be even more nasty to me. i knew right then that i made the right choice by not forgiving her and cutting her off my life.

Have a wonderful week everyone.

You Want Forgiveness? Get Religion -- Peter Parker

Probably the best and most useful video from this channel I have seen in a while. Extremely useful and extremely relatable

Wise words Alexander, wise words.

"Use Absence to Create Respect and Honor"

this goes beyond romantic partners, this applies to female friends too

You have literally solved one of my biggest serious problems, just like... 30 seconds into the video. I really can't appreciate this enough. Thanks a lot. "Forgiveness must be earned." i will never forget this. Thumbs up man. Subscribing now.

1 low-quality woman dislikes this video message. (wo)man up.

Many thanks, these videos are pure gems, honestly

I love that you brought up a man's conflict between staying silent and wanting to resolve things quickly. This is very useful in a lot of situations, not just in relationships. Great vid!

Reasonable and good advise.

REAL TALK! This is one of the best videos I have ever watched, I am glad I came across this video.

I’m glad I found this channel, thanks Alexander!

I love your videos Alex, but this is probably my new favorite video of yours. Keep up the great work!

So much truth

Pure gold. Seriously well thought out vid. Legendary.

This is a very powerful message sir. Good job man.

Great video mate

Aaah Alexander..never stop making videos. I learn so much about past mistakes and how to move forward.

Golden. Absolutely excellent advice 💯

This channel deserves wayyyyy more subs. Elite level knowledge here. Thank you!

Hi Alexander, how are you doing today?

Thank you for confirming a question I could not find on the internet or through anyone I knew. My past girlfriend had told me she needed a man to be like the father figure in her life. I told her I didn't know how to be that. So there I was, still being a kid and things ended. I still questioned and looked for information on what it meant to be a father figure and went on with my life. Things happened, over half a year went by, and just about a month ago, I had some stuff really push me to a point I only had a choice to go up from. So I took a leap and things have felt better since. I've started to really think about responsibility and claiming my actions. As well as looking to others acfions and take account for theirs. People complaining but not doing anything has made itself clear to me that they are responsible for the hault in their life. I've been a bit harder with those I talk to and they aren't comfortable when I say "You need to do something about it." They don't seem happy when I explain what I've noticed and they reflect on the things I point out. They just start to jump to whatever excuses they have until I shut it down and they are left with their eyes looking down, being silent. As if I had just scolded them for something they acknowledge was wrong. That's when I know they had heard me and as much as they don't want to accept reality, it is something they are aware of. As for me, I'm jumping into things head first and pushing my thoughts onto and overburdening myself. Past our comfort zone is a feeling of uneasiness and possibly pain. Pain is a fuel for growth and a friend to those who use it, not are used by it. You sir, only confirmed more or less how I've been feeling and come to through my own, short experience. But to even have discovered this fatherly presence on my own, means I've step in a direction I didn't see coming. The world neads leaders and fathers. People to set the world straight and keep people in line, not by force, but by example. If you lead, others will follow. If you wander, others will wander lost with you, until they find themselves or find someone to follow. Thank you.

Thank you Alexander.

This is so insightful. Alexander you are at the top of your field my friend!

Where all my super straight mofos at. CLASS STARTED 😜

If they cheat just say: I forgive you.........but Im gonna have to let you go. It’s gonna suck it’s going to hurt but in the end you’ll be happier with yourself you’re going to respect yourself and give yourself another chance of happiness.

Be BIG: Block. Ignore. Ghost.

Alexander you are right on the money sir. Love your videos, I'll have to sign up soon.

The good news: I never forgave her apologies...The bad news: She never apologized.

This is one of the most rational and useful videos. Concise with a laid out course of action to deal with behaviors that come up in just about any relationship that involve intimacy. It might be a one of a kind because it can help one gauge the cost/benefit ratio of the coupling.

Some solid advice(as usual) Alexander. Thank you for the free content!

With a low quality woman your anger-not her actions-are the problem. So her goal is to manage your feelings rather than take responsibility for her actions. So her apology means nothing outside of the current moment and her current Ned for you to no longer be angry. Which is why it is important to have boundaries, and a clear sense of what you will and will not accept. If she wrongs you? She has to admit error and CHANGE the behavior. If not? You’re gone. If she crosses a dealbreaker line ( cheats on, hits you, humiliates you in public)? You’re gone. No second chances.

Holy crap! Every word of this video is so true, it's like he was reading my actual life! Damn!

Agree, I started doing this a couple months ago and our relationship with my gf started growing again and we are more happy aswell.

Take heed young jedi's, Alex's content is on point, keep up the good work

What I've noticed about your content is that it meshes very much to the spiritual teachings I've followed for many years now. At the end of the day, it always comes back to knowing yourself. I think the most difficult part about following the advice in this video is that, if most people are put in this situation, they'll forgive quickly because they're afraid of being alone, having to start all over again with someone else. In short, being afraid of the void that they'll have have to endure. Our decisions are being led by internal struggles. If we continue to know ourselves more strongly, in tandem with instructions like yours, we can go far! But, we have to do both.

I concur, indubitably.

Hey man your content and videos are awesome , You are an inspiration to many new youtubers. , I am watching u since you had 10k subs🔥🔥

Alexander you really need to write a book summing all the concepts you have talked about in all your videos in a structured, comprehensive manner. I would gladly buy it !

Brilliant video brother, thank you.

Ok Alexander this is getting uncanny now, every other video you put up I’ve either just dealt with the experience personally or it’s coming in my near future! This is very good advice, women in my experience and from friends stories know they can drop a weak apology and it pretty much makes the problem go away instantly. When you think about it I think that shows how potentially morally bankrupt women can be knowing they just have to bat their eyelashes and cry a bit and they win the argument 90% of the time. Standing your ground is the way to go. We’ve got to show them that actions have consequences and if they care about us the way they say they supposedly do then actually making positive change is only fair. I dealt with this recently as I have been seeing a constant stream of red flags so I brought it to attention. The girl in question pulled the I’m sad you’re ‘accusing’ me card and I could see it for what it was a mile away. Still making her wait until she comes to me or I feel the time is right to go back if I even do so.

Men don't say "I need some space", that's a feminine line. Men just take the space and time they need.

This actually explains a lot of the past. Top content. Yet again!

This is incredibly thorough, thank you Alexander

Once upon a time I had a girlfriend who had an affair on me I dumped her. She wanted me back, she was sincerely for the affair and there were extenuating circumstances I did a lot of mental gymnastics, forgather and took her back Astonishly, the relationship lasted another year During this time she seemed to disrespect me and looked upon me as weak for forgiving her

Forgiveness isn't for the person who is forgiven. It is for the one giving the Forgiveness. To let whatever they did off your mind and to let you live your life. Because if you don't forgive the actions of the one who wronged you, you hold those negative thoughts forever.

You just filled my heart.

This is so clever, thanks

Learnt that the hard way. 1) Problem arises 2) Try to have civil talk 3) Problem not resolved or getting worst. 4) Drop her off and cut the relationship. 5) Block her out if it helps. When you're a busy guy, achieved great milestones and have goals and plans lay out years ahead. You won't want to waste time energy and money on such problematic person. And guess what? When you have become high value, the opposite gender will naturally notice you even you're just minding your own business without even trying. Be the top 1% or at least be the top 10% of man. The view here is very different. 😏

You really honor your name, Mr. Grace.

Amen Brother.

Truth! I made this mistake myself, but then learned that the words have little meaning. "Actions speak louder than words."