The REAL reason you Procrastinate - it's not because you're lazy... |

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4 жыл бұрын

Do you procrastinate?
We often assume that procrastination is a sign that we’re being ‘lazy’ or ‘can’t be bothered’.
And while we’re all working from home, procrastination could be prevention you from getting through what you need to.
According to research, there could be another explanation for why we procrastinate…
Instead or reflecting issues of ‘self’-management (which is what we assume), it could actually reflect challenges associated with emotional regulation.
This is important not only for us and managing our own lives, but also when leading or managing teams, running our own business or looking to motivate family or friends. Instead of assuming someone's just 'lazy', we could instead reflect on whether they're struggling on an emotional level.
• What are your thoughts about procrastination?
• Are you finding you’re doing more of it while working from home?
• What strategies do you use to help you push through?
Share them below in the comments!
#shorts
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Associated Research / Further Reading
Emotional Foundation of Procrastination
Eckerta, M., David, D. E., Lehr, D., Sielanda, B., Berking, M. (2016). Overcome procrastination: Enhancing emotion regulation skills reduce procrastination. Learning and Individual Differences, 52, 10-18.
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Lien, M. M. Rebetez., Rochat, Lucien, Van der Linden. (2015). Cognitive, emotional, and motivational factors related to procrastination: A cluster analytic approach. 76; 1-6.
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Sirois, F., Pychyl, T. (2013). Procrastination and the Priority of Short-Term Mood Regulation: Consequences for Future Self. Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 7:115-127.
onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/a...
Abdi Zarrin, S., Gracia, E. (2020). Prediction of Academic Procrastination by Fear of Failure and Self-Regulation. Educational Sciences: Theory and Practice, 20(3): 34-43.
eric.ed.gov/?id=EJ1261814
Fear of Failure / Success / Rejection
Afzal, S., & Jami, H. (2018). Prevalence of academic procrastination and reasons for academic procrastination in university students. Journal of Behavioural Sciences, 28(1); 51-69.
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Miron Zuckerman & Stephen N. Allison (1976) An Objective Measure of Fear of Success: Construction and Validation, Journal of Personality Assessment, 40:4, 422-430, DOI: 10.1207/s15327752jpa4004_12a
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@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

NOTE: Procrastination and laziness are two different states. You can be both lazy and a procrastinator. Procrastination is an active process of choosing to do something else instead of what you 'should' be doing. Laziness is linked to apathy and an unwillingness to act. It's an intrinsic unwillingness to put in the effort to achieve your goals. Being clear on what they are still doesn't excuse bad behavior. . Another way of looking at this - I procrastinate with housework but I easily work 7 days week on my business almost all year round. Doesn't make me lazy. I just don't enjoy house work. More reasons you procrastinate & how to overcome them here 😊: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/o9ucp5WH0dPZnac.html

@dannycervantes2596 3 жыл бұрын

This is so crazy because it’s so true, now that I can reflect within myself after learning that procrastination is from an Emotional discrepancy. Mine is the opposite, I know that if I move forward with my success, once I become successful within a few months of finally “pushing the flashing Button” that will initiate my success, I will leave my GF bc she has no ambition for her own goals. So I’ve been procrastinating getting on with my success. I’m holding myself back on purpose, you could say and I’ve been trying to rip off the bandaid for a while now. I’ve known this about our dynamic, but it’s very interesting to confirm this internal conflict. This is spot on.

@khan4779 3 жыл бұрын

Where are you from ?

@asvino 3 жыл бұрын

What Mic do you use?

@DineshKumar-xj9wj 3 жыл бұрын

My God ... What a discovery ...lolz! Please stop wasting our time.

@puttigandhireddy 3 жыл бұрын

I love your videos. Big fan 😁

@user-dr8zv6vg9d 3 жыл бұрын

I bought two books on procrastination.I haven't read them yet to be honest.

@seekfactsnotfiction9056 3 жыл бұрын

_That's me!_

@thesoundpurist 3 жыл бұрын

Aaaah ah ah ah

@Bradley9967 3 жыл бұрын

There's always tomorrow

@fliu5282 3 жыл бұрын

I have one book i bought 17 yrs ago, just finished it last month.

@ilparil5236 3 жыл бұрын

Lol perfect comment ngl haha

@meenam300zx 3 жыл бұрын

I’m not a procrastinator. I’m just extremely productive at unimportant things

@sacreddeer3361 3 жыл бұрын

That's literally what procrastination is.

@coryCuc 3 жыл бұрын

@@sacreddeer3361 That's the joke he was making.

@josephbrennan370 3 жыл бұрын

@Kamron Kadirov I think they do get it but they want to be annoying. No one can be this dense at humour.

@davide724 3 жыл бұрын

@@coryCuc If it only was a joke.

@IITfanaticsYT 2 жыл бұрын

The best

@AniluBlog 2 жыл бұрын

Fear of failure and overthinking things can lead to procrastination. Something I personally need to work on.

@amey777 11 ай бұрын

Same here

@celissewillis9399 9 ай бұрын

this is my thing as well. Also working on it, because its such a challenge!

@elizabeth1624 9 ай бұрын

Totally understand you! It’s my biggest challenge and has made tes me so much I get even very anxious about anything now .. even doing things I like so much 😢 it’s horrible I’m very thankful I just found these video now! These psychologist is really very good

@zeeroyer1901 8 ай бұрын

same here.

@LordShockwave9 3 жыл бұрын

She's right: the emotions that come with doing something are the things that you dread doing. She's got me subbed.

@jennifer8929 3 жыл бұрын

Actually, not necessary that you dread but more to do with the fear of not being good enough.

@vey134 3 жыл бұрын

I'll watch this video next time

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Haha good one :P

@babi9500 3 жыл бұрын

Haha i got ur joke after i scrolled down think im a bit slow learning😅

@JohnBGood1 3 жыл бұрын

I'll read your comment next time (and you won't do the same with mine, if you reach the emoticon at the end of this phrase). 😋 Ps: But you'll be always allowed yo REread it.

@jdeleon2138 3 жыл бұрын

Jajajajajajajajajajaja

@antonygonzalez1672 3 жыл бұрын

Ohhhhh good one😂

@Prismaticmind 3 жыл бұрын

The jokes on you, I don't procraste. I simply don't fini

@eyeheartsushi2212 3 жыл бұрын

Prismaticmind 😂😂😂

@labaker3477 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@flourishomotola5306 3 жыл бұрын

Underrated comment

@DavidPringle-ep2jy 3 жыл бұрын

Quality!

@Uzodesign 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@sacchitsreenivasan3487 3 жыл бұрын

"Give yourself a reward for completing tasks." - underrated advice!

@Gre3k Жыл бұрын

A bad advice actually, you should be doing your task for the sake of doing it, not for the sake of the reward. The answer she gave is kinda like how scientists in the 1960s used to train rats.

@Dizzy808 6 ай бұрын

it works for me I've been doing it for years like she said it's all mental and everyone doesn't have the capability to motivate them selves @@Gre3k

@davegoodwin1848 3 жыл бұрын

Procrastinating is definitely a problem for me. I'm going to start working on it with these pointers tomorrow.

@jacob8949 3 жыл бұрын

There's no time like the future 🤣

@dineshv8440 2 жыл бұрын

Y not today ?

@davegoodwin1848 2 жыл бұрын

@@dineshv8440 ummm...because I'm procrastinating?

@Brandespada Жыл бұрын

Never do tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow

@vinceinvincible 3 жыл бұрын

Love the part where you say it's not a "self regulation issue" but an "emotional regulation issue". Beautiful distinction 🙌

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Vincent 😊🙏

@eyeheartsushi2212 3 жыл бұрын

Vincent Bellitto I agree

@infiniteadam7352 3 жыл бұрын

That is very true, I procrastinate so much more when I am depressed...

@eyeheartsushi2212 3 жыл бұрын

Infinite Adam Same!

@rajadhirajmaharaj 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai I love the part when it's gibberish word salad but the light camera and make up is on point. Porn is banned in India. Tiktok is also banned. Now this is trending.. 😁😁😁😁😁😁

@lukaparac 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome video! It's basically mostly fear (of unwanted outcome) in most cases. At least for me... I just power through it with a simple tactic nowadays. As I know the fear (urge to procrastinate) is the strongest before starting or in the very beginning of doing the task, I use my "cold water" approach. I call it that way because it reminds me of entering cold water/sea/lake/whatever... It's the best (but the hardest) to just jump right in and not to analyse too much. It will be terrible for a few seconds, but soon you'll be swimming and the water won't seem so cold anymore. The same is with the "scary" task - just grind through the initial stage and it won't seem so scary anymore. Our minds trick us so often.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Ah love this - thanks for sharing Luka! and so true - once you get through that initial 'fear', it's smooth sailing! Thanks for this comment 😊🙏

@awesomeGuss 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai me too🙌🏽

@awesomeGuss 3 жыл бұрын

💎💎💎

@terryblack51 3 жыл бұрын

Thaaas right!!! Have a great day!

@rajadhirajmaharaj 3 жыл бұрын

@asmitachatterjee5146 3 жыл бұрын

You nailed it! Mostly its fear of failure and chasing perfection that keeps me from doing the things I WANT to do.

@seekfactsnotfiction9056 3 жыл бұрын

_That's me_

@user-be8oj3fw8v 3 жыл бұрын

I’m such a procastinator, I was 3 years old when I finished my first sentence, and even then it was “I’ll do it tomorrow.”

@yourjai 3 жыл бұрын

I never thought that this less-than-1minute video can give so much advice. Better than those 10:01 minute videos on self improvement. Thanks.

@fawzimohammed6460 2 жыл бұрын

Well said good

@user-ke9bp5vm3m 9 ай бұрын

Your reels are very helpful. I suffer from decision exhaustion, which is a step beyond decision fatigue. Recently, my life has been very stressful. It’s one crisis after another. I’m just muddling through. Thank you for helping me understand! ❤

@syloz67 3 жыл бұрын

So the reason why I don't wanna get up to do laundry isn't because of laziness but because I might fail at it? Nice

@HanzoHasashi418 3 жыл бұрын

😁

@Serel25 3 жыл бұрын

Lol its more likely that it's a mundane task you don't want to do

@MayankJairaj 3 жыл бұрын

Priorities? Like I just missed by hw timeline coz I was reading comments on a random yt short

@justineramirez2109 3 жыл бұрын

Because you're afraid to die after

@edvardole2901 3 жыл бұрын

Well I fail at that part :)

@adityamahajan4042 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a simple man, I see a beautiful girl, I click.

@MAYURPATIL-zx1nz 3 жыл бұрын

We are indians 😂

@Luna_Anonymous 3 жыл бұрын

I am a girl and I do that too. I see anyone, man or woman who I find to be beautiful, attractive and eye catching, I click right away and yeah she is very beautiful.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

@@Luna_Anonymous Aww shucks everyone! 😊🙏

@josesarango3408 3 жыл бұрын

@@Luna_Anonymous thanks girl. You have more balls that all those White Knights

@amebleyk6189 3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaaaa

@setsuna7618 3 жыл бұрын

I just realized, I can never approach to a beautiful lady like her. 😭😭😭

@carlfidance3083 2 жыл бұрын

Yea u can . Focus on having fun . Nothing else

@khadanse-DJ-KHA 8 ай бұрын

here you are procrastinating again dude😂

@soham__palit Жыл бұрын

I like your confidence Shadé, It's mesmerizing.

@user-60267 3 жыл бұрын

Great take on procrastination. It’s so good to see how much more people are understanding emotional states and how they affect well-being when referring to productivity. I’m only 29 but even in my childhood, no teacher ever put emotional regulation and procrastination in a sentence...people were just called lazy or poor at managing time.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

It really helps to have a deeper understand of how our psyche works. And you raise the importance of educators being educated in these fundamentals.

@0s0sXD 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you lady. You've helped me in a very critical time. My work is my livelyhood and this is exactly what I've been experiencing. Thank you

@BigThapelo 3 жыл бұрын

This actually makes sense.. "when there's a possibility of failure you procrastinate" 🤔🤔🤔

@shubhamkatyal6391 3 жыл бұрын

@UnseenThreat07 3 жыл бұрын

The lesson here is NEVER TRY

@Uzodesign 3 жыл бұрын

I think I can agree with this. I'm working on a project that should've had a simple path to resolve instead it just got unnecessarily complex and now I'd rather do anything else than face this emotional suffering.

@sidheshwartiwari9834 3 жыл бұрын

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@Uzodesign 3 жыл бұрын

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@MohammadJamshaid-ug4yl Ай бұрын

Surely. You have pointed out right thing and it changed thinking way. A lot of Love and Respect 💕

@jessicalt4121 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, emotional regulation AND lack of confidence in one’s abilities.

@luchocastano740 3 жыл бұрын

I love your accent. It is a mix I've never heard that makes it unique.

@tvdavis 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the sound advice and for getting directly to the point. You said in one minute what takes others HOURS to get around to saying!

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Aww thanks! Appreciate it - Sometimes the short and sharp videos are what we're all looking for! 😊🙏

@derekwood8195 2 жыл бұрын

Wish I had come across this years ago. You are a blessing to all those who actually listen.

@ShadeZahrai 2 жыл бұрын

Too kind, thank you Derek. 🙏🏽 Glad you're getting value from the content.

@anip0486 2 жыл бұрын

Shadé, are you a magician at reading minds?? I find myself in each of your videos.

@abhiramm2771 3 жыл бұрын

OMG!! You don't how well you're making improvements in my life...thank you so much!!

@christianamdeyesus4383 3 жыл бұрын

I just wanna say you're beautiful!

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Too kind! Thank you! 😊🙏

@babekate6751 3 жыл бұрын

Shade Zahrai how old are you btw?

@odairrodriguesmarques4245 3 жыл бұрын

I tell the same.

@soubhagyaroul2368 Ай бұрын

Very well explained !!! Decision fatigue and uncertainties 👏🏻👏🏻

@husane70 8 ай бұрын

I'm so enamored with how she speaks❤

@truthseeker803 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I suffer from. I fear the complexity of the Project and whether I'll be able to nail it. So, the solution as David Allen said, is to clarify our tasks.

@joshuareynolds23 3 жыл бұрын

My dishes are piling up and it's one hundred percent due to laziness and nothing to do with emotional regulation.

@pawel7196 3 жыл бұрын

My sink is always empty. Always. Dishes are wayyy more important than learning.

@JohnBGood1 3 жыл бұрын

Think positively: Dishes in the sink are like chocolate. We have to save them to some time later, otherwise we won't have it.

@joshuareynolds23 3 жыл бұрын

@@pawel7196 I'm not sure if that's sarcasm or not.

@joshuareynolds23 3 жыл бұрын

@@JohnBGood1 lol I have two kids it seems like my sink is filled again by the time I'm done.

@JohnBGood1 3 жыл бұрын

@@joshuareynolds23 don't worry about that. As soon as they grow up, it will become worse.

@tiger_96_ 3 жыл бұрын

Yes true, if your listen sad music your emotions become sad & you don't even want to go out of bed, but if you listen energetic/happy song after that you feel very energetic & can thousands of miles...or do workout easily.👍🏻

@kstessel1 Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head!

@ruqaiashah8961 3 жыл бұрын

Procrastination is a habbit, where mind is compelled to repeat it again and again because we have been doing it since we came into senses, and it has deepen the roots that we are unable to break this rooted habbit

@evelynegoliver9916 3 жыл бұрын

You dont get it.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Which only highlights why conscious awareness is so important, to break the pattern.

@theunvaccinatedcanadian3410 3 жыл бұрын

*habit

@patientdiscipline 3 жыл бұрын

There is a trick that I always use to prevent procrastinating. It's what they call the "5 sec rule". You give yourself those 5 seconds before you do a certain task, it's like mentally preparing your self to take action and get things done. Great video btw!

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Ah yes I've heard Mel Robbins share about her concept of a 5 second rule - makes perfect sense!

@sabujarien8641 Жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right.

@MrKemikem 7 ай бұрын

The worst is that the mental pain of not doing anything is heavier than doing the thing itself.

@EzekJohnson 3 жыл бұрын

Another wonderful lesson and a powerful message. God bless you, Shadé.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Ezekiel 🙏🏽😊 Blessings to you too.

@ranu6982 4 жыл бұрын

You said absolutely correct mam

@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын

🙂🙂

@lakshmandahariya5761 Жыл бұрын

Plz tell how to improve myself

@everodedwards8861 3 жыл бұрын

Solve the emotional foundation of your procrastination. Wow 👏😮👏.

@GregSchlegel Жыл бұрын

Wow. She nailed it. I needed to hear this. Thanks Shade!!

@JehovahRapha777 3 жыл бұрын

I only clicked on this because the girl is very pretty. And I couldn't focus on what she was saying for the same reason.

@JohnBGood1 3 жыл бұрын

Yesterday, google suggested me a short video from a channel entitled "naked bakers" (something like that). Very interesting and attracting. You might like it. I resisted and I didn't subscribed. Seriouly.

@tkhemjinda 3 жыл бұрын

I watched 5 times and still don't get the subject😂😂

@whateverdude4074 3 жыл бұрын

Simp

@robotic2000k 3 жыл бұрын

same here. thanks man.

@siguy715 3 жыл бұрын

That's some bullshit. Is she attractive? Yes. Is that the value she is providing here? No. Wake up, brother, it's 2020.

@yvngfuego8072 3 жыл бұрын

THIS...is what schools should be teaching.

@RAKESH084 Жыл бұрын

Rewarding is again kind of motivation!

@deepakkakodia6664 Жыл бұрын

The way you speak, blow my mind

@sempressfi 4 жыл бұрын

Love this! Just found your channel and definitely following. I would like to add that in addition to and on the flip side of procrastinating out of the fear we will fail is procrastinating out of the fear we will succeed!

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the follow! And absolutely right - many of the women I coach actually have a fear of success.. it's a journey! 😊🙏

@princebobby6048 Жыл бұрын

Damn I love what you do ... your advices are always helpful

@abineshkumar6978 Жыл бұрын

How can someone be so cute and brilliant too.. I think this is the most valuable content I watched today❤

@mudassarm30 Жыл бұрын

Looking at you is more soothing than the contents of your videos. You are so charming!

@justindcosta1638 4 жыл бұрын

Great Video! Longer videos might help. Love watching your videos, truthfully speaking. ❤️❤️❤️

@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the kind words - happy you enjoyed it! We have some longer videos coming soon, promise 🙂

@shand7253 3 жыл бұрын

Shadé Zahrai hi, if you’re making longer videos, it would be good if you could tackle the emotional aspects of procrastination.

@plate5898 4 жыл бұрын

So you're telling me that I'm laying on my bed watching this and other haikyuu text videos because I'm scared of what will happen if I write notes of science INtReStInG

@sempressfi 4 жыл бұрын

Depends on what the science class is for 😊

@joshuaabidde 3 жыл бұрын

Of course

@parthpawar 3 жыл бұрын

Japani

@pranjalpatil3360 3 жыл бұрын

Haikyuu!! It's the fact that you want the reward but dread the process. If you like the process of making those notes you may not procrastinate it so much

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

@@pranjalpatil3360 Couldn't have said it better myself 😊

@edwardohurtado2789 2 жыл бұрын

She hit it on the nail for me!

@LIL.OK. 7 ай бұрын

U r healer because u r eyes r Warm and bright

@pedrocar6569 3 жыл бұрын

When i know i can't do something perfect, i procrastinate. But i do believe a lot of people are also just lazy.

@susanbrown8802 3 жыл бұрын

Both are true

@iiMochqx 2 жыл бұрын

“Can we make a support group for Procrastinators?? “Tomorrow.”

@Jaime-dt7rm Жыл бұрын

Scorpio male ♏️ 🙄 I'm in! But not tomorrow, next week mabey!🤔

@sudarshanchetty3757 Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head here…for me it’s fear of not being able to accomplish the task and a negative outcome if it is not achieved. Thanks for the perspective!

@bengsynthmusic 2 жыл бұрын

King of procrastination. Updated my learners 3 times before I got provisional.

@roxrtk3299 3 жыл бұрын

So basically one should end the fear of failure in order to end the procrastination...

@kanishkakgupta1993 4 жыл бұрын

Let me add something 😊 to it - there's nothing which is perfect, we all have evolved to be better than what we were according to our resources and mental capabilities. everytime we have come up with new ideas and new solutions to get better, upgrading ourselves for new challenges. I love what you do 😅😅😅😅

@Onenessenergy 3 жыл бұрын

Great 😌 💓 well said

@janetjack9982 3 жыл бұрын

I love this. It strips the guilt and self loathing that is attached to the concept of procrastination from it and activates the possibility to overcome it. To take the emotional aspect away from a problem opens up the solution.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said!

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

@@janetjack9982 Absolutely agree! 😊🙏 💓

@Onenessenergy 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai yes I agree 💯🙌❣️ stay safe everyone

@cherylharding509 9 ай бұрын

Brilliant advice and absolutely true. !!

@user-fb5mp4tb7s 2 жыл бұрын

You’re a genius make total sense! I never thought of it like that

@pranjalpatil3360 3 жыл бұрын

I know all that and yet procrastinate. 😂 Also you are too beautiful to be able to focus on what you are saying.

@vocalpro 3 жыл бұрын

I just turn my phone onto flight mode and stay off social media entirely. Then get to work. 👍

@tinaa2677 3 жыл бұрын

There are also those of us so afraid of failure we get it done way ahead of time...at least that's how I am!

@miljotsinghkhangura2064 10 ай бұрын

This is exactly I am doing now a days ,so it's decision fatigue, thanks a lot!!

@risingvlogs6295 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly, Could you please upload some lengthy videos 5 - 10 minutes; based on your strategic topics,, I'm a big fan of you, Love from Oman 🇴🇲👌👌👌

@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын

They’re coming soon, promise! 🙏 Appreciate the support!

@AboAdnan2024 4 жыл бұрын

Shade Zahrai you are a really amazing person. Thanks for the new information that you give. We will wait for the long videos

@ShadeZahrai 4 жыл бұрын

M A Thank you so much for the support! 🧡

@seanbernard6516 3 жыл бұрын

. . . nah it's laziness we know this "we" being procrastinators.

@seanbernard6516 3 жыл бұрын

To be fair she does have a point. Sometimes we feel no enthusiasm towards said task or we lose enthusiasm as a result of self doubt. So when you have said task, find reasons to value its importance and do it. PS just procrastinated and proved her points. 😌

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

@@seanbernard6516 Exactly right! When you have reasons to complete it (and you value those reasons), you will inherently feel motivated to complete it. Thanks for the comment Sean 😊

@stevenkovler5133 8 ай бұрын

I agree ! I procrastinate when the task causes me anxiety !

@uchechukwulewisnwokorie3346 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with you, Shadé.

@doesnotFempute 3 жыл бұрын

Apparently I'm watching this because I'm scared about failing at loading the dishwasher

@calculator4482 3 жыл бұрын

Nah that's just lazyness lol

@doesnotFempute 3 жыл бұрын

@@calculator4482 it's been 10 months. Guess I'd better get started 😬

@calculator4482 3 жыл бұрын

@@doesnotFempute 🤣 you'd better buy new utensils now the used ones will be crusted solid by now😂

@IsturisMasaya 3 жыл бұрын

I'd like to have a link to the study she is mentioning to ensure its validity

@susanbrown8802 3 жыл бұрын

It's in her reply at the top of the comments. Well the video link...

@rishiraj2548 Жыл бұрын

This video came up to my attention as a traction, as a disturbance when I was doing something important and urgent. But!!! The video taught me something quite valuable and proved to be a bliss! 😇😌🙏👍💯

@shaneali8697 2 жыл бұрын

You are right!!

@GaMEChld 3 жыл бұрын

Or you might have undiagnosed severe ADD, as was my case. On medication now, and life feels like a cake walk. Like I've been treading water with cinder blocks tied to my feet for the last 30 years and now they are off.

@HeyhitmeBAM 3 жыл бұрын

Please do not grow to rely on it or take it too much. The positive effects eventually go down but the negatives stay

@jackcien 3 жыл бұрын

What meds are helping you?

@TheSaltySpitoon76 3 жыл бұрын

Good for you i as well deal with mental health but try not rely solely on meds but im glad they help you peace and love my friend hope your well and dont be a stranger all who read this that goes for you as well 😎

@vs71597 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao yeah the reason you think life is a cakewalk now is because you’re on cocaine. Adderall is just regulated coke. Feels fucking amazing right? Just wait until you’re burnt out. Have fun with the temporary cakewalk though

@TheSaltySpitoon76 3 жыл бұрын

@floppa floppovich are you so insecure that you attack people with chemical imbalances like honestly what did you hope to accomplish with this comment in addition to that legalized cocaine as you call it is sometimes the difference between life and death now i will not argue that there are no risks in taking these medications but for some it really is the reason they can function and not because they are addicted so for you to make that comment was not only unecessary but ignorant as well I hope you get help if you need it and be well

@GodsJoseph13 3 жыл бұрын

Constipation is just procrastination of the poo💩

@zinnadaza9137 Жыл бұрын

I learn so much from you whenever I listen to you. Emotional regulation... Thank you Shade

@mezza001 3 жыл бұрын

You are soooo right!!

@Luffy-ld9fk 3 жыл бұрын

so you're actually saying that im.not lazy...right...😂

@Flexamillious 3 жыл бұрын

People who call people simps are simps to try and justify that they themselves aren't simps🤔

@josesarango3408 3 жыл бұрын

in other words: pathetic White Knights

@maddikrishnan8674 Жыл бұрын

A great value Shade. It happens to me too. I just push through and love to do that always during those situations. I always take those as an opportunity for me to grow through. Grateful to you for highlighting it here.

@williamwallace410 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, it was a simple explanation, but very correct and enlightening.

@meintoue5737 3 жыл бұрын

Damn lady ur eyebrows caught my attention

@sabidkabeer7454 3 жыл бұрын

No, you're wrong. It's extra confidence, we do procrastinate coz we can do better even at the last moment, don't need a hell of preparations of planning to sort it out. Maybe we're not mediocre to your idea of procrastinators.

@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын

I don't believe that this is black and white, wrong or right. Everyone is different.

@sabidkabeer7454 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShadeZahrai indeed, and I'm sorry, I screamed bit harsh.

@krk7328 2 жыл бұрын

Spot on

@jayantpatankar5967 3 жыл бұрын

What if distraction that is so beautiful like you that I don't want to avoid.

@ThePsychGuides 6 ай бұрын

You have addressed an important point👍

@Yours_Fashionably_Shweta Жыл бұрын

Omg! That hit home!! Exactly!

@thesevens3218 2 жыл бұрын

I don't know about others but I felt her words are exactly about me and for me

@ayan251 Жыл бұрын

I really admire Shadé and she is such an inspiring women! I have recently discovered your channel as KZfaq recommended for good (Thanks KZfaq!). I wish I could be like you confident, successful entrepreneur, leader, good communicator and giving back to the community. Keep shining bright✨ lots of love from India.

@yogeshj7279 2 жыл бұрын

You are Awesome!🙏🏻👍

@Naiemaa 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve heard this maybe 3 times since it was posted, and every time it helps me realise something and get over a little hurdle that was hiding behind procrastination… I think I need to rewatch this once a month and least!!! Thank you soooo much 🙏🏻❤️