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I wake up laughing everyday after being free 5 years from a Narcissistic husband .🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️

They don’t know how to laugh, they don’t know how to tell a joke. They want to keep you as miserable as they are. Always smile always laugh, it’s the best medicine you can have, and it’s free.

“It’s really expensive to be happy around a narcissist”. 💯

Narcs do laugh sometimes…when they are making fun of you.

I'm a gagwriter / cartoonist. I use to laugh a lot and make jokes so folks could laugh and enjoy our life journeys with humor. After 20 years with the narc.....my physical laughter is Gone! Gone also is my Desire to write and draw with joy and humor. I'm 85 and only recently [1 1/2 years] was able to get him out of the house. I OWN MY OWN HOME AGAIN. What a grand feeling! Now, I'm reviving my abilities--it's more work than ever, with an aging brain. Yep, I'm having to re-learn stuff I already learned long ago. HOWEVER, my studies are STIll rewarding. Soon I'll be sending out more jokes and cartoons. MESSAGE: NEVER GIVE UP. YOU ARE WORTH IT !!!

The only time they laugh is at you. When you laugh, they frown upon it and attack you for it. They even do a sarcastic imitation of your laugh. Nasty!

Your joy and laughter are your biggest weapons against the dementor aka Narcissist.

I remember that I would go from rolling laughter to stoicism in a matter of a second if narc parents came to be in my space.

Behind the facade of confidence and superiority, narcissists harbor a dark void within themselves. Their insatiable need for attention and validation blinds them to the genuine happiness of others, especially when expressed through laughter. The laughter of those around them becomes a painful reminder of what they lack: the ability to truly connect and experience joy without ulterior motives. This jealousy stems from their fear of being overshadowed and exposed for their shallow existence. As survivors of narcissistic relationships, we have come to understand that our laughter is a testament to our resilience and ability to find light even in the darkest corners. It serves as a powerful reminder that their darkness cannot extinguish our joy, and that we possess a strength they can never comprehend. Our laughter becomes a beacon of hope, guiding us towards a life free from the suffocating grip of narcissism.

I'm always getting accused of being "hyper" or "obnoxious" when I'm in a good mood.

SO TRUE I am a very happy person 7 weeks in living together I laughed no more nor smiled I'm recovering and getting my laughter back Thank you Danish I'm MOVING FORWARD

Nobody can stop my laughter and humour. But with such people you don´t have much to laugh (that is true - they are sadly very negative). So get out as soon as possible because they destroy your spirit.

Happiness haters..

Exactly! My narcissistic mother always interrupted my sister and me when we were laughing out loud and having fun, she always said something like:"go go go, you need to do your homework" and we were always annoyed when she interruped our fun times! Dansih do not blame yourself for having difficulties to laugh as you were always punished for lauging. We understand this and it takes time to feel comfortable to be able to laugh again as you were abused so much by your father! I admire you when you tell more and more about your own experiences. Yess they steel away your laughter, but I am done with that. I need to laugh and have fun now even more after many years of seriousness. Thank you for sharing your experience Danish 🙏

That's one of the reasons I hated family gatherings, especially Christmas. It's like attending a funeral 😢. As soon as I started laughing (by the way, I was always seated with the kids and I never complained because I cracked jokes with them) they started calling me to order. They hate laughter because they can't experience it. They repress others' laughter out of envy. They are dead inside and if someone wants to know about their karma, that's one piece of it; not having the capacity to enjoy the best about being alive and that's why they hate happy people too and they need to drag happy people down.

Interesting. I now classify it as "the killer of joy". My laugh was always made fun of since I can remember mocked, my laugh, the way I sat, the way I breath (come to find out I have a rare disorder that makes my spine bend and mouth breathing helps). I don't laugh in public or open my mouth breathing in public. My mom said my daughter was autistic because she never smiled at her (Interesting, I just think she read her aura). I was told my laugh was ugly sounding and weird, basically everythingabout me. It made me self-conscious and scared to be judged laughing. She dominated things like Christmas decorating, occasions making it miserable, and regualting everything we did. We were robots, decorating for her to show off to whomever would visit, that didn't yet figure her out. I stopped laughing around my mom and sat up like a stiff board, much to my discomfort due to my rare disease. I was diagnosed later in life. My smile isn't wide either. I later married/divorced, then a LTR with a narcissistic borderline sociopaths. I am by myself, single by choice, to heal and not subjugate myself anymore. Figure all the abuse out.

Thank you. It is so, so true. Anytime, I was laughing around my mother, it had to be quelled. Crying to have birthdays celebrated, etc. Worst part is I ended up like her, thinking everyone was out to get me. I barely wanted to live, but now I see why I must heal. Even in my early 40s.

So true. I went through the same. They want a silent puppet. Omg i have the line on forehead.

Yes, I went through this on Saturday morning. It was a 3 day weekend for us. I was so excited to rest and relax as I had taken Mon and Tues off last week to finish all my chores. I have just started to eat breakfast as in the weekdays I don't get to do so and was talking and laughing with my son. My husband comes to join us with a full blown narcissistic rage and saying and doing exactly what you described. Later I went swimming in this freezing cold weather to let my emotions out and ended up having an anxiety attack since I couldn't make peace with why every Saturday morning has to start this way. I am saving money to get out of this hell. Thank you for bringing this to light Danish.

Because there's something in you, which they can't have in them...

Yes, my siblings and I would be beat with belts, slapped and hit if we couldn't get our laughter under control as children. Just remembered..so crazy all the things we forget.

It is soooooo true. My narcissist husband do this every time. When I was emotionally down and crying he was so calm and happy, when I was happily laughing he gets very angry at first i didn't understand but now after 9 years of marriage i came to know it's a personality disorder

They don’t like any displays of happiness. I took my kids on a cruise and took narc ex. We were in our cabin and he started one of his infamous fights out of no where. The staff had to come break us up. It was so embarrassing. It was then I realized it’s not a fight out of thin air, he’s mad because I’m content. Why did I even bring him you ask? Because I had to babysit his ego. Had I left him at home he would have burned our house down while the kids and I were gone. Yes, he’s that petty, childish, delusional and self sabotaging.

They hate my laughter and tell people I’m bipolar!! They love to lie because they steal your joy!! It makes me laugh all the more!😂 It’s a God given gift/fruit of the Holy Spirit!!🙏🏻❤️🕊

Yes, monster. I term them demons tho. Mine, hated laughing, joy. Like how dare you be happy... I ll put a stop to that, and, she did. Thanks for your keen wisdom. You're a pillar of strength.

You’ve just reminded me! Once I chuckled at my mother when she got something wrong after insisting she was right! The abusive rant of profanities she fished out was completely ridiculous. But of course they CANNOT BE CRITICISED, even if it’s in their HEAD.

The video of Trump turning around to melania who was smiling, when he turns back around her smile leaves and her face just drops. I recognized it well.

If you laugh around other ppl or experience joy, they glare at you like your narc mother did and it immediately snaps you out of happiness. I’ve always said you can’t laugh like that unless it’s them making you laugh. 😢

My mother used to say to me and my 4 younger siblings " Laughing turns to crying"

Wow. Such a deep level of how damaging. It isn't often people experience it on such a severe level. If I sang I was beaten, if I danced, painted, wrote.... I have been reclaiming these parts of myself for the last 7 years and it has been wonderful to get to know who I am. It was a tough battle to do these things freely as I had an automatic response to shut down. I laugh at myself and I make myself laugh out loud all the time now. I engage with others in my community with humor and it feels so nice to discover who I am. Thank you Dinash for this video and all your effort to spread awareness.

My last narc was embarrassed by my loud laughter. Complained to it to his new supply.

How sad to know so many children are going or have gone through the traumas you have endured D. Practice smiling and then also laughing in front of a mirror while listening to a good comedian that you enjoy. Old, bad 'habits' can be replaced by going through the Process of learning new, good 'habits'.

I was always told I was too silly, and they did everything in their power to beat and steal that out of me. I've been reclaiming my humor and silliness, and I feel so free when I catch myself lost in the moment and just enjoying myself. And I just remembered a time I was enjoying a rare ice storm. A bunch of kids were sledding on garbage can lids down the levee. I joined in and asked my father not to push me. He did at the last second. I crashed into a tree backwards and got a concussion. I thought it was an accident, but now I don't think it was. He was annoyed I was having fun and wanted to ruin it.

Watching this made me remember a part of my childhood I had forgot. How true and enlightening, thank you.

After 39 years of marriage with narcissistic abusers, I can rarely cry or laugh. I was physically ill for 12 years. But I got safely away!

There wasn’t any laughter in our house

Thank you Bro. We were never allowed to laugh, talk sneeze in front of my soo called father. He once told look at your face how ugly it looks when you laugh. I almost felt insecure to even smile. Once my very strict math teacher called in staff room and asked why was I soo serious all the time. It took almost 5 to 10 min for her unknot my pointed eye brows and make me smile, then she said see how good you look now. And my dad was narcissist who didn't like that I was female child making my brother golden child. It was hell trauma. My grandmother always backed me to thanks to her. And loads love to my brother. My healings to you❤

Me too. What you said is very true. My wife scolds me for making facial expressions. And... I do not laugh around her. When I go to the cinema, either alone, or just with the kids, I laugh out loud sometimes. But not when she is around. Whenever she goes with us, I feel uneasy. She spoils the moment. I dislike spending time with her. It's the same in the car. I would much rather drive somewhere alone, than with her. She is so controlling, complaining. I really enjoy driving... But when she is around, she spoils all my fun.

We all had to sit in the same room, with him lording it over us. We couldn't go into a separate room and if we did, the door had to remain open. Meal times were hell, he sat over us and commented negatively. My grandmother was a servant and I don't remember laughter except, when he thought his remarks were funny. Only he laughed and at our expense. That was a long time ago and hurts to remember it but I feel free of this now. Thanks to you and all others who shared, the problem isn't mine. I can now let go. Thank you.

When I was with the narc, if I laughed out loud he just assumed I was laughing at him. He would ask why I was laughing at him? Even on the phone. He would ask what was so funny? Why I was laughing at him when I was actually laughing at something my kids or cats had done. At some point during a miserable 15 years, I eventually stopped laughing, smiling, no longer had a sense of humor. My silliness, being spontaneous disappeared. My sarcasm no longer existed. Everything had to be serious. He would also tell me sternly to stop crying! And that crying is a sign of.weakness. His father would say the same thing to me on the phone. Twio years ago, I had just lost my precious 22 year old son who had cerebral palsy. He passed unexpectedly. I was devastated and am still grieving. He kept telling me to stop crying but I ignored him and continued to cry. I walked away 17 months ago. So glad I did. My sense of humor is back. I am laughing my ass off, smiling, silly, goofy, spontaneous, sarcasm abounds. I laugh loudly. If I feel like crying I do. Childhood memories are also coming back. These had also been suppressed due to the narc. I would hear, you already told me that story or I have to hear that again, or too many times? So rude and hateful. I am now the genuine me. Love me, my life. I am the authentic me!

My ex would laugh at me laughing about something. He made fun of my laughter and mocked the things i found funny. He called me weird and stupid for finding humor in life.

Heavenly Father, only you know the burdens I face. As a single mom I’m struggling to make ends meet. Lord give me strength to get through each day. Both of my sons are special needs and require much from me. It’s difficult to raise children alone. BUT I keep faith Lord Jesus. Even as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I’m so ashamed. Jesus deliver me from my anxieties, and my troubles. Heal me from my lupus and heart disease. Help me to find strength when I am weak, And hope when I am afraid. Amen. ❤

Dear Danish, I suggest you to make a video about all the fun we can have watching the insurmountable, incomparable and infinitive nonsense of a narcissist. And laugh without timidity and shyness, celebrating our freedom. Not any more regrets about being ourselves! 🥳🤡🎉❤

Narcs really suck the life and joy out of everything. We used to call him the 'fun police', he was like a Dementor(Harry Potter reference), as soon as he would walk in the room it was like a black cloud of 'blah' rolled in and sucked the life out of the room.

My sis and I learned not to laugh around our mom. My son sends me messages filled with laughter and it always makes me 😊 ❣️When he was younger and at home his laughter brightened my day😊 No excuse for their behaviour but maybe they feel like they’re being laughed at? Anyway they’re crushing our joy😢

I can't talk on the phone with the narcissist in the house cause if the person on the phone makes me laugh he starts to rage over something else.

I guess I knew this since my upbringing had very few emotions in it, and none of them were laughter, happiness, or joy. I had forgotten that and my last visit with them made me cry, afterwards. I was laughing and they turned it into ashes in my mouth. Then I got told not to cause trouble because they wanted to be a big happy family. I laughed out loud on how ludicrous that was for him to say. And then I told him where to stick it. 😂 Now I have the last laugh. 😊 Thank you for reminding us about this Danish. I too am far too serious and am wondering when the laughter will return.

I have to learn to laugh again. Being with the narcissist I lost my lightness and expression of joy.

Yes. A narcissist is so far removed from their emotions that when you express your emotions, you remind them that they have a deficiency. It's not you they hate, it's the reminder (the shame). It tells them they are not perfect nor flawless, which is what they have to lie to themselves and others about everyday.

This is so true my narcissistic husband hates when I’m upstairs in my room laughing at TV or something

oh, this is so true. I noticed that the ex used to get so angry and have a go at me if I laughed or seemed to be enjoying myself. I'm free now, it took many years, but I got out of it. Slowly healing.

I can relate Danish, only recently have I started to feel free to be joyful and laugh again. Honestly it was as a result of your channel, your videos. Once I knew what I had been experiencing throughout my lifetime and what it was called, only then did I feel like I could relax and start returning to myself. Like I needed to solve this riddle before I could let my guard down. I find myself sometimes wistfully a bit jealous of people who had normal childhoods or normal married family life where they are close and life has a freedom to it. I look at people talking about their family members so lovingly and wish I had had that, instead of a lifetime of fight or flight, defensiveness or disassociating. I find that it has shaped my entire personality. It is why I have such a sarcastic and cynical view of things, a dry sense of humor, criticalness. A lifetime of walking on eggshells, and being gas lighted and bullied. To return to laughter and silliness and joy is such a foreign territory, but it feels good.

When I was a kid my mother mocked my voice and laughter and I became self-consciously quiet with other people. I didn't want them to ridicule me too. My father often policed our speech and one of my sisters developed a stutter. I developed a facial tic when I tried to look people in the eye and speak with them so I avoided speaking to people. When you said, "They disconnect you from your authentic self", I realized how true that is. It becomes our job to rediscover our authentic selves. Thanks for the tips and understanding here!

I love others laughter and id nvr b jealous. Lets increase the laughing for the right reasons.

I grew up abused by my covert narc mother. There were 6 of us kids and we were always told to be quiet and stop laughing. It drove her to the point of rage. I shared a bedroom with my sister and if we laughed too loudly according to the monster, then she would put duck tape across our mouths. We were told to leave it on until she decided to return and remove it. If it was off when she got back, she would beat us. Such a scary thing to go through as a child. One minute you're full of joy and the next you're struggling to breathe. Even now if I laugh too much I usually end up crying as a flood of emotions comes out.

My ex use to get upset with me because I would laugh with my sister or with our kids and their friends. "You don't laugh that way with me", he'd say. I'd hug the kids or their friends and get, "seems you're spending a lot of time with THEM". I'd invite people over to give him someone to interact with because I was supposed to make friends for him and if I carried on a conversation with one of them that wasn't a part of the group conversation I was berated to the point the friends were uncomfortable. "You don't talk about your old relationships", because that was 25 years ago and I didn't marry them ... for a reason. I didn't want to go out because if I told him I chatted with an elderly veteran at the shops, I was "emotionally cheating" on him. He'd even say things like "how dare you" ... all the time. I didn't admit those things to myself or anyone else. I make it a point to enjoy myself now. I purposefully find things that make me joyful and laugh freely. I still have anxiety, PTSD, etc that I deal with but it helps me to have found your channel because I realize I am not alone and that my experiences were real and valid. Thank you for sharing!

In the early 2000s, when my brother and I were young kids, we would laugh at anything and everything. My narc father would hit us and say “that’s because you’re laughing too much.” Also, when I was a teen, my narcissistic mother would say that I laugh like a lunatic whenever I laughed.

Yes - confirm!! 💯My Covert narcissist mother hates joy. She made faces and made seen like she is traumatized of my voice even when I was simply talking with joy and energy in my voice. She made me feel guilty and kind of training not allow myself be that not to traumatize my mother. Same also with relatives. When fathers relatives came together, they were loud and energetic and joyful. She looked small and gray and felt sense of inferiority in that energetic positive surrounding, but acted like she was superior and could not bear them. Now i know why. Be Joyful!! Be Happy!! and dont accept anyone justify why you should be depressed, guilty etc.

They sure are spirit killers. During one of her rages I asked my sister why she was trying to kill my spirit and she yelled EVERYBODY WANTS TO KILL YOUR SPIRIT BECAUSE YOU ARE ALWAYS HAPPY. She then proceeded to pick up a butcher knife off the counter and tried to hand it to me saying, Go ahead, you know you want to. She was living with me at the time and wouldn't leave. Yes she stole my laugher and my ability to make people laugh. She really hated it when my aunt told me one time that 'you're funny without even trying to be.' It took a long time to get even part of my laughter back.

Yes! So perfectly described. This kind of abuse was the norm, I can relate exactly. I was verbally abused, smacked around when I resisted or tried to reason. The worse part was the disdain, scorn, and dismissal in reaction to my attempts to engage or laughter. If one was unable to emulate the imperious, emotionless demeanor of the entire family, than you were belittled or ostracized. It was the parents, grandparents, extended family, and eventually this was passed on to siblings.

A few years before I left him, I started asking myself - Where did my laughter go? I left him 5 months ago, after 42 years of marriage. I'm almost 65 and I laugh at funny things on the Internet even when I'm alone. I know I'm finally healing! Thank you for the video!!!

Some narcissists don't want you to laugh because they think you're laughing at them.🫤

You have a beautiful smile! Laughing, is the biggest gift! Even if I am alone, I find so many things funny. The person who is a narcissist in our family is a joy stealer, and we don’t laugh the same around her, but it is so important to let the joy be there, even if they try to sabotage your fun, don’t let them.😂

I'm so sorry you had a father like him. My father and an aunt were the same way. My father hated it when I succeeded at anything, even as an adult. Pulled straight A's out of graduate school? He was so mad he stormed out of the room and slammed the door on his way out. He got mad when guests asked my mom to play the piano because the attention was NOT on him. My aunt continuously made hurtful, uncalled-for comments intended to make me as unhappy as she was. These narcs are miserable people, and they just can't tolerate anyone who isn't as unhappy as they are.

I was so sad being around family my jaw literally dragged the ground from being so sad and unloved. I never forget the party we had for my grandmother. We all gathered to take a family photo and "Smile" and so of course I did, ear to ear. My cousin said, "What you smoking so hard for?" Ugh! "We're taking a picture". I realize now that they hated the fact that I could muster up a smile. Everytime we had a family dinner they would come over with their "Sour Patch Kid" faces on. It was horrible being around miserable people.

Dear Danish, you are so absolutely correct.My narc mother in law is the same.when i feel happy or laugh within minutes she will create a problem for me to become sad or cry. She don't know how to make things for herself but she steal everything from me and act as if she is so good every. When people are around she will act as if she cares for me so but if no one at home she will do all sorts of nonsense which was supported by her husband and her daughters as demonic attack in her.

Every time i laugh they immediately laugh right after......im not laughing at them....but that's how they make me feel....

This one oppresses me too😢 So sorry for the horrid childhood you had,Danish You are free now,you don't need his permission to laugh

Danish, you’re so handsome when you smile! And think how happy you make so many other people when they witness your strength in being able to overcome, to feel joy!

Why are the cowards usually the worst bullies? Yet, they will become indignant and attempt to shame you if you dare to mirror them, talk to them in their language, give them a taste of their own sh💩t. Danish, you are so talented in unraveling the tangled mess of coming out of narcissistic relationships. Thank you for the clarity. 🌞

Some of them demand you be "happy" and smile as they are terribly abusing you.

I never understood why my father was bothered by laughter. He was just a miserable person. I caught my sister giving me dirty looks when her daughter hugged me and we were laughing. Screw these people!

Aah its lovely to see you smile Danish. And what a brilliant observation. I had forgotten how wrong and awkward and inauthentic i felt when i used to laugh. It felt really unnatural, as if it didnt suit my nature to laugh, or i shouldn't laugh even when i found something funny. My whole body would react as if trying to swallow my laugh into my body. I never felt that lovely airy freedom in my body when you truly laugh. I'm so thankful that after freeing myself from narc abuse and doing body centred therapeutic healing, i do laugh very easily nowadays and enjoy the feeling it gives me. Same with singing . You are so insightful.

In my family, my father used to say, "Don't laugh because that will bring bad luck, Every time I tried to laugh, my parents were very upset because they were always miserable and had lots of problems, and they wanted their children to solve those problems😢 Ex partner narsist was never happy and I felt I am responsible for his happiness and I was always trying my best to make him happy but after 20 years I couldn't do it anymore and he found someone else and left😢😢 he used to always find something to manipulate me 😢😢

I am NOT kidding! I thought I was imagining it - each time I laughed, he would almost snarl at me - very quietly. I would always feel like my skin was crawling when I saw the look in his eyes! Thank you, Danish!!!!!

I found my laughter again when I found myself after all the betrayal tramma I hide it from the people who I knew would try to ruin it for me and only show it now to people who are safe learning how to test a person to see if they have the narc trait is very important you give a little and see how they respond and if positive show more of you if no response or negative hide and stay safe Give them nothing good to ruin In fact act sad they like it and it keeps up the illusion they have control while you figure out how to take yours back ❤❤❤❤ love and light

My stepmother always attacked me if I laughed in front of her. I wasn’t allowed to speak at all or express anything at all or even have basic needs without being accused of being up to something and then interrogated about it.

Thank you soo much for sharing this. You are helping to heal me and many others. Blessings

Narcs are miserable - your laughter reminds them of that

He never liked it when I laughed. He always asked me why I was laughing. Now that I am free, I laugh everyday…wholeheartedly…like I used to before him…and it feels wonderful!

One way he hoovered me was to say he missed our laughter and silliness. I am a Scorpio and I don't take life too seriously. Last time I was there I sat on his couch with my hands between my legs and withdrew my energy. I acted like an abused woman, I did it on purpose. When we were in the car I stared out the passenger window and had my body turned that way as well. He grabbed my hand and began to try to make me.cjange my energy. I didn't, I was showing him his behavior, withdrawn, empty and bored. He was angry but I was not displaying anger, he may have taken it as fear but I fear no one.

Yeah i remember once my ex was bragging alot about his mom's icici credit card that very moment he recieved his new credit card in where he was given a very low limit, as he was bragging a lot ...so i giggled at the situation...he shouted at me at the top of his voice and didn't talk to me for the next 7-8 hrs ....just because i giggled....i didn't say a word i only giggled

We used to call my Dad " Total Silence" every time he walked into the house we were expected to be quiet. He stopped eating meals with us because we didn't chew quietly enough or the right way, and he would look at me with disgust as we ate because I had and still have many allergies so my nose would be runny sometimes. I remember when I was about 8 I would meet him on my way to school(I usually walked alone) and he would just pass me like he didn't know me. Even now when he hears us laughing he makes hurtful comments about the food we give him, or how we clean the house just to hurt us. It always happens after we have been laughing. My mum recently died of heart complications and liver cancer, so my little sister and I had been home taking care of her in her final days, when she was in the hospital he would go and see her once in the evening for a few minutes and would act impatient if the rest of us wanted to spend more time with her, he always wanted to quickly get back home, he was horrible to her through out their whole marriage, but after her death he has been talking about how there's was real love and how they had the best marriage ever and never disagreed about anything. But the whole time since I can remember my mom used to bitterly complain about him to us, she was so open about her hate for him, but never left him, it got worse when he drove my 21 year old brother away(he was the first born, and the first scapegoat), and the next we heard about him he had died alone in some strange town. My elder sister also left home when she was 18. But my little sister and I are still with the man right now, our relatives told us to take care of the man after mum died. So we have been with him for 6 months and it has been hell, he started ignoring me, only talks to my little sister. I recently asked him for something that was mum's, he said I could have it, but afterwards came after me all angry saying he wasn't ready for the feelings he would get when he noticed the thing was no longer in their bedroom, that we don't understand what it's like to lose a partner. I really broke down crying after that, my little sister confronted him, telling him that yes we don't understand how that feels but we have lost a mother too, he got so angry and refused to have his supper that evening saying we made him so angry he would probably chock on the food and die, when the three of us talked he accused me of being disrespectful and not addressing him like an elder is to be addressed, when my sister and I told him we just wanted a normal relationship with him(we didn't know about narcissists and how the operate) he told us close father daughter relationships lead to incest, and that's why he keeps us at a distance. Anyway sorry for the long damp, I only have my little sister to talk about these things with. My other sister is also a covert narcissist. I have learnt a lot here, thank you. I have discovered I am the scapegoat and many other things. Good news is my sister and I are moving out next month( and ever since we told him about it, he has been talking about how he will die soon and is putting his documents in order😌 glad I found this page cause I now know what he is trying to do). I hope my sister and I can heal from all this abuse. I have so many issues mental and physical, but am looking forward to my healing.

Omgoodness thank you, thank you! Your videos are turning my mindset back from being so dumb founded and foggy from the life long silent abusers that have totally gaslight me and shame and guilt guilted me in every aspect of my life! Every single video you share helps so much in my recovery! I am very sorry you ever6 had to go through your self. Iam very grateful you choice the path you are on after you was able to leave. God bless you always. Thank you for everything inside and out ❤ that you care with to better hep us other survious that don't want to give.❤ much love from me to and every one in this that are breaking this horrific silent abuse and breaking generational cruel curses.❤

No laughter, no fun and no smiling with a narc! Over the past 12 years of hell, I can't count how many times I was asked why are you smiling at me? WTH? And not in the joking way a friend would be like "what's going on" "anything up?" or just smile back, nope in a mean interrogating way. They want you to be a quiet little zombie in the corner only allowed to come to life at their command.

Your dad was HORRIBLE! 😢 It's wonderful that you were able to sort it all out & free yourself! Everyone ELSE loves to hear your laughter & see YOU happy, because it makes THEM happy! 😁

So glad I saw this! On the weekend is my father in law ( who is a saint for putting with his covert narcissist wife for 50 years, and he is just a genuine, authentic kind loving person,) is his retirement party! And guess what - my mother in law has planned it as a surprise, and lo and behold, the catered dinner party is on HER birthday. Remember he has no idea, he just thinks it’s a family dinner. While i have to be in the same room with her and her daughter who I have gone no contact, if they say hi I will just smile at them then walk away. Or show them a picture of my cat’s latest antics, laugh and walk away.!

I am 57years , I lived with a narsassistic mother, she got me married to a narcissist at a tender age of 16. Exactly narcissist can't see you happy or laughing. I fully agree with Danish, you nailed it.

Agreed they can't really stand when we laugh out , they become so rigid to give back.

For it is something they can never do.

Sooo true; when I laugh he says I’m too loud but everyone is drunk & having a blast. I’m to just sit & only answer questions when asked, so stupid. We are in our latter 40’s 😢

I used to make jokes at their expense to get others to laugh at them 😂 they will have to hear it just like I had to listen to psychotic screaming over nothing.

5 ✨️ star's on educating us on Narcissism. Thank you so much !!! ❤

I still have times when I start laughing, I feel guilt and worry about laughing.

I ha e went through this all plz pray for me

YES!!!You laugh at a REAL joke or something genuinely funny, they take it as you laughing and making fun of THEM!! A COMPLETE walking disaster, these people. Pitiable, for sure.

Sooo true. Every time you laugh you are made to feel guilty.

My laughter is very loud. When I’m with my narcissistic mother, she always behaves like she feels ashamed and tells me « Shhhh… stop laughing so loud, everybody’s gonna hear you. » When I laugh at work, I get compliments from colleagues for my true and genuine laughter. 🤣

People have always called me serious. I didn't realize why I was. This makes sense.