The Science Of Why You're So Awkward
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4 ай бұрынyo
i have Instagram: / basically_him
also here's my sources:
university of Michigan study: isr.umich.edu/news-events/new...
embarrassment and trust: vcresearch.berkeley.edu/news/...
hands: www.psychologicalscience.org/...
• Body language, the pow...
eye contact: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
personal bubbles (IPS) :pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33510...
i also reference figures from Ty Tashiro's book “awkward: the science of why we’re socially awkward and why that's awesome”
Exposure: ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK327674/
@this.science 4 ай бұрын
Sorry if I sound like a 40 year old smoker who really needs to clear their throat. I was sick when recording🤠🤠
@wilhelm834 4 ай бұрын
It's ok 👍
@timeywimeybrony 4 ай бұрын
Hey, question On your one year anniversary, I'm gonna watch all of your videos and maybe live stream it Do I have your permission? Because it's kind of stealing your content :/
@Mars____25 4 ай бұрын
It's okay
@srnoice2134 4 ай бұрын
it's alright pookie bear
@stinkyfrenchmen4094 4 ай бұрын
Don't be awkward
@Goon_Lagoon69420 4 ай бұрын
Awkwardness being labeled as “social inconsistency” was prolly the coolest thing I heard in this video
@ARCANE07 4 ай бұрын
im gonna (awkwardly) abuse the hell out of that term
@allianyt 3 ай бұрын
@@themightycxzeriallord looking too deep
@Rybz 3 ай бұрын
@@allianyt no it makes sense, did u even go half an inch down to understand what they said, we're social creatures, miscommunications between group members its stressing, you see it will be like having someone with a broken leg in your group when youre tryna hunt a tiger together
@ryanthelion8319 3 ай бұрын
Ayo I was thinking the same thing. I hate that “soft” language bs but our boy is calling what it is 😂
@Goon_Lagoon69420 3 ай бұрын
@@themightycxzeriallord hey man, I think I was talking about how it sounded so cool, not the lore of awkwardness and what happens if I die, cool paragraph anyways
@SoRaKe254 4 ай бұрын
im not awkward, they are , imagine saying im awkward because i suggested we use the checkered floor to play chess , and use ourselves as chess pieces
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@Goon_Lagoon69420 4 ай бұрын
Yuh, ppl b sum hypocrites sumtimes
@Ssek16 4 ай бұрын
That sounds pretty fun ngl And when the enemy is captured you can throw a punch at their jaw so they fall over, just like in the real game. Incredible idea you have there 🗣🔥
@ar23x 4 ай бұрын
Ye, their fault. This seems fun.
@RavenheartArts 4 ай бұрын
That sounds amazing, i would join you
@andrey.skripnik 4 ай бұрын
i genuinely wish every piece of knowledge i hear or see throughout my life were presented in this exact form
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@Cosmo_P0litan 4 ай бұрын
Why? He just made everything too easy to understand and sacrificed the potential depth the information posed. Simplification, if you will, and perhaps that's your reason too.
@Spacebreakaarrhh 4 ай бұрын
@@Cosmo_P0litanSimplification is great to get into sth or even get someone interested in sth. This content is great and there will always be someone else to explain it more in depth for those who got caught
@Danismenamoea 4 ай бұрын
@@Cosmo_P0litan History classes aren't fun, I will do everything but try to pay attention to it
@BootyRealDreamMurMurs 4 ай бұрын
@@Cosmo_P0litanabsorbing simple information is important to build a foundation before trying to comprehend and understand more in-depth knowledge.
@EchterAlsFake 4 ай бұрын
Don't take life so serious. A smile on your face always helps.
@FranmolU 4 ай бұрын
-The Joker
@galvinvoltag 4 ай бұрын
SANS?!?!?
@TheOriginalManTrust 3 ай бұрын
@@galvinvoltag Trie...
@realdjaykay 3 ай бұрын
Me at the funeral
@victuz 3 ай бұрын
Why so serious?
@Ariste_ 4 ай бұрын
As an ex awkward person myself, i can confidently claim that exposure is the best way. Just a few months ago i moved to another city ,where i knew absolutely no one, for high school. Not first grade but third so everyone had their groups. I remember how anxious i was the first few weeks, but still, i did everything i can to talk to people about things - little, meaningless things cuz appearently thats how small talk works- felt like hell but then i began to realize its not as hard as i thought, people are not really that judgy, they share experiences with me and they genuinely don’t care about the things that make me insecure. Now im almost a social butterfly in just a few months! So try to get out of you comfort zone as soon as you can, it will not be easy at all but will worth it!
@orsemcore 4 ай бұрын
that was such an awkward thing to say
@umloiro3219 4 ай бұрын
thanks for this :) I just thought I would be like this forever I mean, even if I become a social butterfly it would always be kind of "forced" and not natural. I would rather stay in my comfort zone than forcing myself to be something that I am not.. Now that you said it gets easier and you because this butterfly, I will try my best hahaha :D
@EV143 4 ай бұрын
@@umloiro3219same, If I would be more social then I wouldn't be me and I would act all the time, because it is just not natural for me to be very social and it's very draining to be with someone who isn't from my close family for 24 hours straight or even more
@kishorejuki5450 4 ай бұрын
@😂😂😂orsemcore
@wolfzmusic9706 4 ай бұрын
Think it depends. I've been socially awkward my whole life and have made new friends every two years on average. I recently started uni too and talked to a lot of people at the beginning and go to societies but I'm still awkward. For some people it is inescapable.
@BlackDragon-tf6rv 4 ай бұрын
The last advice, "Don't think what you're going to say. Just try to be interested" is the best advice you can ever get.
@C00KIEspace 3 ай бұрын
I wonder what should I do if I am not interested in talking at all, but I need to talk? I can say that this advice is pretty good but it's also important to watch what are you saying or you will end up saying a weird thing
@BlackDragon-tf6rv 3 ай бұрын
@@C00KIEspace Don't worry too much about being weird, you're gonna sound weird anyways if you are not used to speak. If you need to talk but you're not interested in talking, maybe try to talk about something you enjoy with people that share something in common with you. It's not an obligation, just don't stress too much over it.
@C00KIEspace 3 ай бұрын
@@BlackDragon-tf6rv Okay! Thank you :)
@aquaponieee Ай бұрын
@@BlackDragon-tf6rvbut what if i don't know anything about anything so i can never understand whatever topic anyone is taking about since I know nothing about it and i also don't share anything in common with anyone
@BlackDragon-tf6rv Ай бұрын
@@aquaponieee Then you know nothing so you can learn a lot from the other person, people love to talk about what they like
@jamueI 4 ай бұрын
Tip: do not think about how much eye contact you're making while talking with people, that's only gonna make you nervous, and then awkward
@Ion-Luca-Caragiale 4 ай бұрын
Yeah, strongly agree, focus more on the conversation in general rather some of its foregoing aspects. Sometimes pretty gender makes you feel uneasy, but it is unavoidable. So, accept this and get use to it until you comfortable with it. Experience is everything, and so does the exposure.
@jaxonmcalley 2 ай бұрын
I was being interviewed for a job and then a tip about eye contact just suddenly appeared in my mind. I started to think what makeup she was wearing and didn't break the eye contact because I was completely lost in my thoughts. I'm still unemployed and a useless shite in this society.
@jamueI 2 ай бұрын
@@jaxonmcalley don't be so hard on yourself, you'll find a great job somewhere if you haven't already found one, all you need to do is uninstal league of legends
@elokin300 4 ай бұрын
Alternatively, you could reduce your social contact so much to the point the anxiety loops back around to being confident because you don’t even remember why you were afraid of people anymore
@hoa3901 4 ай бұрын
unironically what happened to me before and after quarantine
@westernfxpler 3 ай бұрын
this sounds easier
@Sarah_T871 3 ай бұрын
as someone who has been unconsciously using this strategy for many moons, I can confirm it has not worked!
@tadassmolskas3014 3 ай бұрын
Basically a factory reset.
@Tevin-MK 3 ай бұрын
The Pac-Man Universe
@handsoapjack7456 4 ай бұрын
Im not socially awkward or struggle in social settings, but this is still good advice to keep in mind when talking to people.
@LinkRammer 4 ай бұрын
How
@krembryle7903 4 ай бұрын
Why are you here then, normie? The last thing we need is for socially acceptable people to be even more socially acceptable 😭
@starstencahl8985 4 ай бұрын
@@krembryle7903Quick advice, just stop talking like that and stop talking about other people like that
@Danismenamoea 4 ай бұрын
@@krembryle7903 0:02. Does this answer your question?
@notslow4970 4 ай бұрын
@@krembryle7903 gatekeeping self improvement is craaazy
@miguelangelsb_ 4 ай бұрын
What has really worked for me over the years has been to just be honest and say to the other person: "I'm really nervous", or "I'm not sure what to do with my hands right now" for example, and always with a laughing or similing tone. Everyone can relate to being awkward, and it can help you a lot to break the ice. Being honest about your vulnerabilities and immediate feelings in turn makes others more comfortable being with you, in my experience.
@insankamil2909 3 ай бұрын
predator have instinc to eat the weaker one. but human have more emphaty than a brutal predator. they just need to be informed, or collective consent, so no rule will be broken, certainty, no confution
@insankamil2909 3 ай бұрын
how does it feel being true humanist? note. don't listen onto the capitalists or hedonists. i'd love to guard my humanists friend
@atypicalmatias 3 ай бұрын
@@insankamil2909ok then try instead
@Turbopro27 Ай бұрын
I feel like that could work but for the target audience, not very social people, it could be more awkward it works if u do it right tho
@vant3a 4 ай бұрын
my social-extroverted sister always tells me that if you expose yourself to uncomfortable situations, you get used to it. but that's the problem 😭 I despise awkward situations... so I avoid people altogether 💀
@Alesti5 4 ай бұрын
You do get used to it and stop caring
@ICanSmellThatZaza 4 ай бұрын
Yeah, I absolutely hate embarrassing myself in front of everyone
@matchau.u885 3 ай бұрын
She is true tho, I've struggled with social anxiety for 3 yrs and now I can say that I'm able to start conversations with people and properly socialize with my peers. Yeah I'm still a bit nervous but like, the feeling of confidence you get after overcoming such a life crippling hardship is insane 🙏🙏
@dbg5438 2 ай бұрын
nice profile picture
@aquaponieee Ай бұрын
@@Alesti5I have gotten used to it 5 years ago and stopped caring. it has only gotten significantly worse over time. i never talk with anyone, noone ever tries talking to me, and interactions never go well, always feel uncomfortable and never last, but i still try to force myself into social situations just for the sake of it even though i feel horrible around people
@ava130 4 ай бұрын
Ok so for all those awkward ppl out there (and this is coming from someone that was/occasionally is still awkward), I found that I was super anxious and worried sm abt those awkward silences more than actually knowing how to continue a conversation. I got my first job in 2021, started off by not talking to anyone, and then slowly got more comfortable with my coworkers and just took a risk and started talking. Ended up becoming friends with everyone, became really social and talkative, learned how to continue conversations and keep eye contact, etc, etc. I think the best advice I can give to those who have paralyzing social anxiety is to just breathe and embrace it. Live in the moment and enjoy the conversation, and force yourself out of your comfort zone (as hard as it is). I feel sm better now knowing I can at least fake confidence even if I’m feeling super awkward.
@YurikoKataoka 4 ай бұрын
Im schizophrenic which causes me to get super anxious in social situations but the thing you said is what I try too and whats helped me the most I am already awkward because of my disorder which is why most of the time people say I do drugs or so. Thats why I fear to interact with people
@nefigarcia3673 4 ай бұрын
The hardest thing for me to do is to continue a conversation. When that happens I start to lose confidence and go back to being more awkward
@kingpotato1022 4 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot
@LiveType 4 ай бұрын
This is excellent advice. Me from 15 years ago wholeheartedly agrees. It definitely works. Awkwardness is 100% a lack of practice unless you're ungodly levels of autistic. Practice more and you'll become less awkward. Just like any other skill. Nobody to practice with? No problem! While not quite as effective, this still works: Get your phone out, stand up, and record yourself yapping for 5 minutes straight. Can't talk for 5 minutes without interruption? Sure you can. Talk about anything. Then watch yourself back and cringe. Try again but try to correct any "cringe" behavior. Boring af? Try to make it less boring next time. Rinse and repeat a solid 100 times and you'll see pretty significant improvement. Write things down and track it.
@TheJuutuupperi 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing, almost the same thing happened to me too! When I started at my job I was awkward and suffered from social anxiety I guess, and I chose not to talk to anyone. I just did my job and basically talked to no one and once the shift was over went home. This lasted for like three monts until I was like the heck I'm doing, I think it would make this job more bearable if I actually interacted with people. So just started talking to coworkers and it wasn't even that awkward, the conversations became longer and I made friends.
@existentialbowlofnoodles2495 4 ай бұрын
It’s best not to overthink how to not look awkward. The best and only relevant advice is to first be confident which is its own complex issue and secondly understand social cues. When it comes to social cues it’s virtually impossible to achieve social fluency by consciously implementing “tactics”, this will lead only to even more awkwardness alongside a debilitating serving of social anxiety, believe me I’ve been there. Truly socially adept people are never stuck in their own head about how others around them are perceiving them, they are present and in tune with those they are conversing with rather than trying to control how they are seen. Now if your not naturally receptive of the necessary cues your either one of two things, severely autistic or lacking in consistent exposure to social environments, the latter is more probable. Best thing you can do is be around more people daily to train your subconscious mind to do the work for you so your conscious mind has room to spare for engaging the complexities presented in the mutual topic at hand. Social interaction is far too complicated to try and control, you must develop the power of your social intuition through the reluctant means of exposure if you ever want to attain charisma.
@Justjoshin99 4 ай бұрын
This is very insightful, and I appreciate your knowledge on this topic. I myself am very awkward, it used to be a lot worse but as time passed and I had more exposure, it has gotten better. I have gotten myself to a point where I’m not necessarily content with myself but I know enough about social interactions to at least look ok most of the time, so basically I’ve gotten good at faking it. In order to actually feel less awkward all together, I haven’t really gotten that part down yet. I know it involves more exposure in regards to social environments but I can’t help constantly overthinking and over analyzing pretty much any scenario I find myself in. I constantly feel like I have to explain myself to people or make them understand me for me to be comfortable around them. I always feel like I have to tell everyone everything about myself upon the second I meet them so they’ll accept me and I won’t feel pressured by them to live up to their preexisting expectations. So I understand that I need more exposure and I have to train myself in those areas but how exactly do you propose I should confront the overthinking/over analyzing aspect of all this?
@OGpostaldude 4 ай бұрын
Autism doesn't have "severity" levels. It has a spectrum of needs "levels". I (autistic person) can socialize very well, but I can't "read people" unless they tell me what they're thinking/feeling because I don't think it's logical to assume these things. Why? Body language isn't universal. Not even remotely. I won't guess how anyone is thinking or feeling because it isn't my job. It isn't anyone's. It's everyone's job to communicate in a clear and healthy way. Guessing people's feelings and basing my reactions on my guesses is a recipe for disaster. Direct communication and giving clarity makes life easier for everyone in the end. I suggest that people with trauma related to socializing (most autistic people) surround themselves with people who don't shame them for their "oddness". Essentially, being around people you DON'T need to socially mask with will make a huge difference. No amount of exposing yourself to inconsiderate people will make you more tolerant of mistreatment or social alienation. Essentially, I think everyone needs to find their "tribe" and not focus on seeking the approval of others that would've never accepted them for who they really are anyway. A lot of people are scared to socialize because of trauma through social ostracization/bullying.
@elbiballo 3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@schwa4883 3 ай бұрын
This is amazing advice!
@Frog_Wizard801 4 ай бұрын
Me: “My autism can me feel really awkward in social situations, I’m gonna watch this video and see if there might be a solution” Video:” one way of measuring awkwardness is by using an autism test” Me: “welp, guess I’ll die”
@cameronschyuder9034 4 ай бұрын
Things that may help: 1) masking 2) be around people who don't perceive your awkward traits as awkward, or otherwise don't make a big deal over them
@stick3908 4 ай бұрын
But preferably the later, masking is kinda exhausting, your friends won’t really know you, and it affects your mental health e.c.t.@@cameronschyuder9034
@pigster117 4 ай бұрын
Fake it till you make it.
@xpumpkinxe 4 ай бұрын
I was thinking the same thing LMAO
@soupster857 4 ай бұрын
I'm autistic and I think I'm fairly good at social stuff. some stuff that's helped me: 1) linking what the other person is taking about to my current hyperfixation or special interest 2) instead of making eye contact, I look at their forehead or nose 3) practising common scenarios in a mirror (job interview, small talk on the bus etc) 4) giving myself off time after a long day of masking/talking to spend time with myself in silence 5) finding understanding friends that I can unmask around (especially helps if they're also autistic!!) I'm very high-masking so I've been a social chameleon my whole life but when I get home I completely crash and go mute. It's okay to put on a pretend face for strangers and coworkers if you give yourself time to recover at home and with friends :) Hope this helps!
@guikentaro 4 ай бұрын
I can assure you that exposure really helps against anxiety! You just gotta remember people really don't care about you and the more you socialize, less anxious you'll be!
@kaelanmcquerry1285 4 ай бұрын
Im curiously uncomfortable to be around so this is perfect for me. I decided to help with this to go to a club on my birthday, by myself, I didn't drink, and I just danced. Stood in the middle of the crowd and just moved with those funky beats. Didn't go out with the expectation of meeting anyone. I went home alone but it was the best feeling. I highly suggest this to anyone and everyone (sorry teenagers, you cant) Im in know way "better" but now im a little more comfortable in my skin, and I can tell that in my everyday interactions with people.
@piuthemagicman 4 ай бұрын
I have a similar story, forever have felt awkward but 5 years ago I started to go and sing sober karaoke in full bars at weekends. Has helped a LOT :)
@kaelanmcquerry1285 4 ай бұрын
@@piuthemagicmanKaraoke requires people to look at you, draws attention to yourself. That's a little too advanced for my blood. No alcohol too? crazy.
@officialpaulsinwill 4 ай бұрын
That was pretty brave of you haha
@kaelanmcquerry1285 4 ай бұрын
@@officialpaulsinwill More like desperate, I didnt talk to any body. Not sure if sarcasm
@Keister00 4 ай бұрын
@@kaelanmcquerry1285 at least you actually went out in a social area and had a bit of fun. some people can't bear the idea of going places by Themselves.
@alexandru1d60 4 ай бұрын
OMG, you condense valuable information into a short time and explain it in a non-boring, fun and simple way that anyone can understand. What a great discovery 👏
@brodoxl 4 ай бұрын
this channel had less than 10k subs on christmas, now it has more than 150k. and i completely understand why. This is amazing
@shred_til_we_ded 4 ай бұрын
this. Is the definition of I didn’t know I needed this but now it’s all I want to watch
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@vietanh266lmao 4 ай бұрын
@@dizo-jp2tdnpc
@BullDeerAryu_ 4 ай бұрын
The experience part is pretty true, same with the “less ‘attack plan’ more ‘focus on what they’re saying’” I always ask follow up questions about the topic and occasionally add in my own anecdote. Works like a charm.
@smudden9373 4 ай бұрын
I had to pause half way through to comment, that this video is cracking me up while I’m genuinely trying to learn stuff 😭 I wish every educational video was in this exact format.
@aashayrane8555 3 ай бұрын
Haha same
@Brambrew 4 ай бұрын
I'm not awkward but I do frequently remember awkward things I said and did. My brain serves me embarrassing memories on a platter and I cringe with every bite.
@flyingknee23 28 күн бұрын
forgive yourself bud
@ukraineme96 4 ай бұрын
My man has put out 8 videos and he’s already on my short list of channels where I click and watch the video as soon as I see it’s uploaded no matter what.
@JayYeahJustJay 4 ай бұрын
Never knew my severe awkwardness and why she said “Noo you’re not my type” would be made into a completely researched video
@BLXCO 4 ай бұрын
You never fail to fill me with warm joy
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@melillo1227 3 ай бұрын
Chillll
@adamgotcher7783 6 күн бұрын
Now I know how to make people uncomfortable more efficiently
@JoaoAntonio-ox5vf 4 ай бұрын
i dont think this video could have been released in better timing your way of presenting the points was professional and so relaxed, differently from the other videos around youtube actually made me think and want to get my ass up and fix my problems! earned a loyal subscriber bro, thx
@KlearlyJonas 4 ай бұрын
You are a big motivation for me - you prove that you can make it from zero to hero in literally months. Keep up the great work dude
@aashayrane8555 3 ай бұрын
I get so frustrated because I’m not an awkward person but when I’m with someone who is awkward makes me feel so awkward. I don’t feel comfortable being myself because I know that they’re constantly analysing and judging. It’s not that deep but when they start analysing it freaks me out and makes me awkward.
@999b0a 3 ай бұрын
Usually the people who give the best advice struggled the most, so thank you for making this video and sharing what you know.
@dezcollington1350 4 ай бұрын
I LOVE your videos, thank you for creating these for our education and entertainment 🙌🏾
@tdawgGD 4 ай бұрын
your videos are so interesting, they’re concise and to the point, and definitely deserve the massive spur in channel growth lately :D
@mazeofmemoriez 3 ай бұрын
so you're telling me I get nervous and all awkward around people that I'm really interested in & would like to socialize with, because I focus too much on how I'm presenting myself?! that makes so much sense
@Arthur_da_dog 4 ай бұрын
I love the video log at the end so much 😂please keep doing them forever. It makes you just that much better than others.
@just_perfect0 4 ай бұрын
I think you are a great person to listen too , I understood more in 5 min than I would have understood in any 1hour long lectures , thanks buddy keep it up🤝🤝
@MaloKiwi7 4 ай бұрын
Can’t wait for you to blow up, you make great high quality content that’s well put together!
@Rainboxdish 4 ай бұрын
Two minutes ago? Wow
@painlesskun3959 3 ай бұрын
...... I cant believe he pushed me into an awkward state when I moved down without liking or commenting......
@rayyanj7190 4 ай бұрын
Bro you freaking blew you had 5k subs when I subscribed. Keep up the good work!
@remington6180 4 ай бұрын
Instructions unclear, I am now in a stranger's house celebrating their birthday party.
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@kuramisaga 4 ай бұрын
your videos are so informative and are made in such a way so that's it's so easily digestible to the average person. keep it up!
@JorFishStix 4 ай бұрын
So happy watching this channel grow so much so quickly
@morezco 4 ай бұрын
Oh man this channel found another one of them golden formats. Well done
@lukemorgan1531 4 ай бұрын
I'm not awkward, but I will make sure all the awkward people I know hear this advice. Also you're welcome for the tip. I hope my contribution means the channel flourishes
@ramuk1933 3 ай бұрын
My eye contact advice: 0% eye contact, 100% not caring because it's overrated and creepy. I don't understand why staring at people is not only acceptable but expected.
@ramuk1933 3 ай бұрын
Then it mentions autism... [✓] Autistic [✓] ADHD [✓] Weird and proud of it
@Htiy 3 ай бұрын
You might have autism
@MikeJ2525 4 ай бұрын
You’re channel will hit a million subs by the summer. You’re content is so good bro!
@waltuhwhite9975 4 ай бұрын
Just binged all your vids. KEEP THEM COMING! I’ve always wanted to know how cameras work, in case you need a video idea.
@stevensen6541 4 ай бұрын
4:27 -The best way to treat social anxiety is: Please not that one, please not that one, please not tha- - Exposure! :D EVERY DAMN TIME!
@michellegeller813 4 ай бұрын
When I feel awkward, I like to loudly acknowledge it by saying straight up "Wow. This is really awkward." and do a stage bow. Usually the other person or people are very relieved and/or curious, laugh, and we go about the situation, significantly less awkward :)
@jmc_solver 3 ай бұрын
I would laugh awkwardly in that situation because telling someone they are wholly unfunny makes everything more awkward by a tenfold.
@phosphosaurus6902 3 ай бұрын
i just fart so it negates all the awkwardness
@matchau.u885 3 ай бұрын
@@phosphosaurus6902LMAOO
@jmc_solver 3 ай бұрын
@@phosphosaurus6902 you do you brother
@divyanshinegi5266 4 ай бұрын
youre just brilliant, i cannot think of any other channel on youtube as educational and as fun as "this."
@origamiwithabi2526 4 ай бұрын
"THIS" is awesome ❤
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@pixelatedgirl 4 ай бұрын
Also another way to be less scared of social interaction is to simply NOT care. Like just NOT give a fuck about what the outcome is going to be. So I recommend practicing on people that you don't really care about (in terms of how they perceive you or what their impression of you is). But again, I just say this because my entire social skills depend on the fact that I don't give (much of) a fuck about my image. The more you care, the more you're likely to fumble. BUT NOTE THIS--Caring about your image is DIFFERENT from wanting to make a good impression. You can always dress well, smell good, and smile and stuff. Those are things you CAN control. Most of what you say and DO socially though really can't be predicted after a certain extent and my personal method is to just YOLO it.
@gabby-ue8sh 3 ай бұрын
You just motivated me so much ahahaha
@thatWalkingman2141 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for making This. video; I am such an awkward person and I really needed This.
@emm4148 4 ай бұрын
Bro u finally thought me wat to do with my hands after all these years thank u so much 😭
@name_adi 4 ай бұрын
4:30 FINALLY!! Please. If you socially awkward or anxious just focus on having more interactions and failing. And then if you don't want to fail that much, just focus on the other person and be genuinely interested in them and their life. If you do that, let me tell you honey, you'll *never* run out of shit to talk bout. Like really. (Yk cause like just like you think bout yourself and your life, others also do )
@ramenoodles3267 4 ай бұрын
I just took that autism inventory, and scored a 23. I am on the border of autism, and I am very akward.
@user-xt7vj2im7g 3 ай бұрын
Having aspergers and social anxiety, awkwardness is a big part of my life. Im glad i can recognize awkwardness and try to avoid it (unlike others on the spectrum) but having to be constantly self conscious about everything takes a toll makes me feel like im not sincere. My aspergers Has made me Overthink basic social stuff and having to remeber every painful detail sucks but it has helped me sometimes. Having high intellect is a curse and a blessing because though im able to understand the social aspect of life to a decent level and aply it i never truly comprehend the why which can make me seem emotionally distant and ignorant of others perspectives. I hate being so shy and nervous.
@multifandomstan412 3 ай бұрын
Honestly when I try an make eye contact I can’t seem to concentrate on what they’re saying
@Chickitten 3 ай бұрын
Honestly what really helps is be awkward and weird on purpouse 😜
@trustnoh0es 4 ай бұрын
You will be big, man, I hope you know that, keep the grind up, love ur videos!
@jayy3759 4 ай бұрын
I fucking love your work, this is peak ir information, humor and relatability
@viktordyrby7804 3 ай бұрын
0:33 But that handshake is clearly done left handed. That's unfair for the bro fister
@Satellite111 4 ай бұрын
You're awkward because you watch stuff like this. Be the way you are and be so confidently. Believe me, you don't want to be "normal".
@aquaponieee Ай бұрын
my mind just shatters whenever I'm in a social situation. the thingy that translates sounds into words into thoughts stops working. i become unable to think. i just break. but social anxiety aside. i literally just have nothing to say really. i am just objectively boring and uninteresting, i don't have anything that makes me special, i lack identity. there's no reason for anyone to even bother trying to communicate with me. and, i have lived under a rock my entire life, i don't know anything, i don't have any knowledge or memories, so there is no default topic anyone could fall back to when trying to talk to me or vice versa and when there's more people talking i never understand the topic they're taking about and never have anything valuable to add. i have just, given up years ago. there is just nothing i can do. i have tried for years forcing myself into social situations trying to fit in, but like, nope it does not work i am just doomed to fail
@fredpickett3612 4 ай бұрын
bro blew up in a few amazing vids. with some of the funniest humor around gotta love it
@gremloid 3 ай бұрын
its because people around me cant handle my autistic swag
@xerxes4real 4 ай бұрын
That autism point in the video was too relatable being autistic
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@asparagusnoodle 4 ай бұрын
@@dizo-jp2tdlil random but okay. anyway
@asparagusnoodle 4 ай бұрын
@@dizo-jp2tdmight've even been a lil.... awkward?
@aaronnikels5706 4 ай бұрын
@@asparagusnoodleMaybe even a lil… autistic?
@islixxn 4 ай бұрын
nah@@dizo-jp2td
@FishInPan 4 ай бұрын
I have found my new favourite channel. Thank you❤
@forbidden_muffin 4 ай бұрын
200k in one month keep this GOING man i love these
@Cosmo_P0litan 4 ай бұрын
Interesting point about the scale used to determine normality, awkwardness, and autism. It seems you could interchange the term "weird" with "awkward" as well, and it seems those closer to having a form of ASD are "weirder" than the average. Perhaps through trial and error with training, somebody could overcome these social obstacles.
@aaronnikels5706 4 ай бұрын
What advice would you give for people specifically who are socially awkward not because of anxiety but because of “social inconsistency”, or being higher than average on the spectrum?
@nevill1947 4 ай бұрын
Wondering the same thing, this helps nothing. But considering all the positive comments it seems to help out neurotypical people
@ennik7162 4 ай бұрын
fr. i don't know if i'm autistic or not but i just feel like i don't belong anywhere and i feel like socializing is something i have to achieve and i don't know how to do that.
@Keister00 4 ай бұрын
@@ennik7162 interact with others and reflect on the experiences. read the room and especially watch the words you say. some autistic people have a tendency to say unnecessary things or they may drag on certain topics. BUT I think being confident or at least acting confident (comfortable in your own skin) can make the conversation just a bit more smoother. remember though that you don't want to be focused on yourself all the time and more on the person you're interacting with. good luck yall 👍
@I-io8ee 4 ай бұрын
Ropemaxx
@aaronnikels5706 4 ай бұрын
@@I-io8ee 💀 (literally)
@MBT29 4 ай бұрын
the best video in the best moment, this channel is so underrated
@adrianbaskerville1958 4 ай бұрын
This KZfaq channel that I randomly found one early Morning has become my new favorite thing
@littlelobsters3850 4 ай бұрын
at this point i just accept it. if i do something insanely embarrassing ive learned to forgive myself/just laugh at myself. Sometimes ill do embarrassing things on purpose just to train the muscle, like finding a random stranger on the street and offering them a sip of my redbull, or telling fellow straight men that i would make out with them for seven dollars and a fruitcup. Its all in the mind gentlemen.
@3n3j0t4 4 ай бұрын
you might be sp3d
@littlelobsters3850 4 ай бұрын
@@3n3j0t4 oh yeah no i certainly am i display signs of borderline personality disorder, autism and ADHD im basically a fruit shake with eyes
@3n3j0t4 4 ай бұрын
@@littlelobsters3850 wow you’re the least funny and most obnoxious person I’ve ever seen online
@ogahmaddhanil 4 ай бұрын
what i hate is that the background of his video are usually black, so sometimes i just stare at my big nose
@toleen8316 3 ай бұрын
This is actually really helpful, thank you. I never know what to do with mu hands but you’ve saved me
@reaper_killer130 4 ай бұрын
Yooo 🔥, i really needed this vid i can’t describe how thankful i am , love ur channel and ur montage and ur content, u r the only channel i have with notification button on (out of 122 channels) Hope u have an amazing week
@dabbasthegreat 4 ай бұрын
5:09 "yo whats goodie gang 100k subscribers is insane! (150k as of writing this) so thanks. also i was extremely sick, on the brink of death when i recorded this video (i had a slight cold) not only that but i recorded it in my sisters Prius. theres a fun little fact for yah. also last time people said the pause game was too easy so this ones only two frames but if you didnt pause it and Just slid the slider thing your lame also i have an instagram also yeah anyway, video #8 log, signing off peace also ily also peace"
@IStMl 4 ай бұрын
3:13 wtf is an inches
@ansjeliek 4 ай бұрын
12-18 inches are 30-40 centimeters
@__presston 4 ай бұрын
this is the fastest growth i’ve ever witnessed I’m so glad to have been there before a 100k
@Splash029 4 ай бұрын
Same, I was here at 30K and was like damn the quality is good and now he got 150K
@ImBored8141 4 ай бұрын
50k in less than 10 days is insane. Nice job man
@exstacc1886 4 ай бұрын
Look, I'm autistic, I'm NEVER going to fucking hold my eye contact. It makes me feel like I'm looking into hell Another thing about autism causing social "inconsistency", I understand. I feel like its correlated to accent changing, sometimes my accent changes from Midwestern to Southern depending on who I'm talking to, but it comes as naturally to me as changing my tone in a sentence I'm writing to capture a different audience, like writing in different genres. I always look for the right input to continue a conversation I thought about in my head beforehand rather than reading the room, and it leaves the effect that I'm completely oblivious (I am) of my surroundings. --Another (another) thing about autism is that its a fucking clusterfuck of different symptoms and some people who have Asperger's can seem like the most socially awkward people imaginable and they're somehow UNFAZED BY IT
@ethyr 4 ай бұрын
the advice at the end was so simple but so true
@MegaDrainProductions 4 ай бұрын
Charisma On Command has really helped get over my social anxiety and general awkwardness whether it's around friends, family, or even on dates. Even though they have tons of videos breaking each thing down to a science and gives very specific examples, sometimes I like watching short to the point videos like this to remind myself that it really doesn't have to be that complicated.
@qthelucky 4 ай бұрын
There is literally no way you only have 200k! New favorite youtuber
@dytroxigen9651 4 ай бұрын
169k in one month. fully deserved for this genius content. keep up man ♥
@r4nd0mStuff 4 ай бұрын
Your videos are awesome, bro. I was reaching down for the subscribe button only to realize that you weren't a super popular channel I just discovered, and that you were the cool small channel I found a few weeks ago. Keep it up 👍
@mrcloak101 4 ай бұрын
Just recently discovered your channel and i can just tell you are going to be huge
@blackerpii9759 4 ай бұрын
thats a life saving video bro thank you
@alaapro3453 3 ай бұрын
The editing... PURE GOLD
@dosu5064 Ай бұрын
Three months of self-reflection and reading books, and mental health courses. You just put them into a 5 minute video, amazing.
@BurnedWardrobe 4 ай бұрын
Thank you. Needed this.
@joahangallegos5363 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this insight this will help me greatly (proceeds to still be an awkward mess)
@VulcanicYT 4 ай бұрын
Me taking a screenshot of being subscribed to this channel before it hits a million. I took a screenshot when this channel had 36k on the 30th of December. Hella growth and I knew it
@__spyguy__ 4 ай бұрын
Actually underrated channel, keep it up!
@dizo-jp2td 4 ай бұрын
God loves you all
@loritines 3 ай бұрын
I think the fact that I can't help smiling when I'm nervous has saved me from some potentially awkward situations, guess it makes people feel more at ease and not take everything seriously
@thewayofway1 4 ай бұрын
You are blowing up so fast omg. Keep it up!
@Splash029 4 ай бұрын
It’s insane how fast this channel grows
@matthewserraino8919 4 ай бұрын
I will be here for every one of your uploads
@user-um1jg1fg4j Ай бұрын
Not gonna lie, this is really great content, rather than making a face-to-face lecture on how not to be awkward, you manage to make a relaxed environment with small jokes, letting people be more invested in your points. Great vid!