I hate the word submission because black men have taken this word totally out of context.

Brother you are the only BM on UTUBE that teaches other BM what BW really want and need. Most of these so called relationship coaches only tell women what we need to do to get a man all the time, never telling the brothers to tighten up. But YOU will and i thank you for it.

The concept of submission is a Christian concept. That's why men use the term as if it's something that women should just do. Many men don't even go to church, but they'll use that term in regards to women. They just like the concept of being the boss. Though men like to throw that word around, it's not the lack of submission that kills relationships. What kills relationships is lack of respect and the ways it manifests in relationships. It's not just about the men. Respect goes both ways.

please take care of yourself. dont read again on your phone while driving. we love you bro. the world needs you. please remain safe as youu always are. thanks brother

I have a daughter and a granddaughter: so I really have to set a proper example of what a man should be: if a man leads correctly, a woman will submit naturally ..

Please be careful when using your phone and driving

People are claiming to be “high value” yet they lack VALUES! Please make it make sense.

The problem with the BM is that he is stuck on the word submit, but don't understand the part he plays in the meaning of that word. Only that it sounds good to him. But you best believe a BW with good since and a plan for her life is not going to submit to a fool. Let the church say AMEN.

Unfortunately, men and women have different ideas about submission. If you want a submissive woman, you cannot lead from behind. Submission doesn’t mean to treat someone like a slave or doormat because you have a certain body part. In certain areas, I don’t have a problem with submitting but I will never ever allow anyone to lead me into a ditch. I’m NOT submitting to living in a messy house. I will literally lose my mind. I’m NOT submitting to dummy missions. It’s just not happening. As far as the finances, you might as well forget it. I don’t play with the finances and if I want something, I make it happen. I budget everything completely out from bills to trips and so forth. In order for a woman to submit, you have to know how to communicate effectively and not talk to her like she’s has no value. She needs to be included in decisions.

You’re preaching!!! Submitting to the mission… Some “males” don’t have a mission to “submit” to. A blind man can NOT lead. 🤷🏽‍♀️

What most men fail to understand about women is that we will ONLY submit to FULL GROWN MEN who will make us feel respected, cherished, protected, provided for & that values us. If any part of the above is lacking, the man will NOT GET the submission he's looking for!

This was such a sharp video. I hope the women who listen to certain toxic male you tubers, take heed. I sadly believe any man who is obsessed with having a submissive woman has issues with women. Women need to be identifying red flags with these men.

This man was raised correctly.

When we don't have our own personal power and confidence of self, we look to exert power and control over others

I get so nervous when you drive and do these videos. Lol! But you aren’t wrong in your assessment.

Submission is a choice not a demand. A woman requires security before she can be submissive. It is her choosing to yield to her husband (not boyfriend). Have you ever seen how people use the yield sign. They decide to either proceed or let others proceed instead. It doesn’t mean you have to stop it means you proceed with caution. Btw, men can submit too. It’s not just for women.

Men only want women to submit to them but cannot submit themselves to that same woman...this idea od submission is overrated, oppressive and just a smoke screen for the myriad of issues between bm and bw

It's like you listen to my thoughts lol. Trust is a big part of submission. You have to watch how ppl treat themselves. If you can't do it for yourself you can't/won't do it for me. Lead by example, and I'll follow.

We are the only race that sit around here and have actual conversations STILL about stupid shit like “submission” and “50/50” … it’s the same shit over and over again. Over it 🙄

I had a black man basically go off on me when after he asked would I submit to him, and I said I would within reason. He told me that adding the within reason part was extra and unnecessary.. smh.

Be careful when you drive

I want a partner not a supervisor or overseer. I'm an adult i can make decisions on my own. Men better wake up to the fact that women aren't going to be oppressed in the world and at home. Those days are over.

Oh wow, I really like that you two are equally yoked and can plan and discuss future ventures with one another is great. So true, no one want to follow someone into a rabbit hole.

Totally true tho most men talking about submissive women ain't the type of man that deserves a one. Strong, successful men usually get submissive women to gravitate to them.

A WIFE submits to her HUSBAND not a girlfriend submits to a boyfriend. Why does everyone forget that part??

Submission is a gift.. Even men have to be submissive...

Exactly! Finally a man has said it! These men will literally have a mattress on the floor and 3 kids with no resources, and belive women should submit to them...last time I checked, submission is a traditional value in a traditional woman. And the Bible speaks of submission to a HUSBAND. Not a baby daddy, boyfriend etc. They not looking into that part. Women only submit to real Kings.

People need to think of their spouse as a helper. Both the man and woman should help each other equally.

I think submission is the entirely wrong word. Why would anyone want to dominate a person they love anyway ? If they can't simply jointly agree and compromise with EACH OTHER... Submissive is a word used by men used to living in a house full of drama where people are always struggling for power instead of loving each other. You'll notice they never use the word love regarding women. Usually, they have no idea what it is. A strong man doesn't even want a submissive wife. If something happens to him he doesn't want somebody that can be run over when his children need to be looked after. When a man even starts talking about submissive women, when the words come out of his mouth, I suggest she run. Him saying it means he's looking to put his foot on your neck because he's weak and insecure.

Thanks for showing a black man who may have made mistakes at least trying to lead a decent life. Unfortunately, the ones who need you most do the least listening.

Thank you for that analogy on treating women the way you want your daughter treated. THANK YOU so much.

Please don't use your phone and drive not safe. Take heed my brother.

When a man talks about submission, I feel like he wants to ego trip, and that he is probably the man that I LEAST want in my life. If that's the most important quality he's looking for, he's showing that his judgement, and probably his values are lacking. P.S. Love your attitude.

Since when did having a relationship depend on being submissive to a man? Haven’t we been down that road? Submissive is another word for abuse. What they are asking is for you to accept their philandering ways. Accept their inability to connect on a meaningful level. Accept that you will come in second place to his being in the streets and hanging out. Accept the fact that as you try to progress, you won’t have his support. Accept that he won’t have love for you and treat you kindly. Accept that he will watch you work like a dog at your day job, work like a slave to keep the house, laundry and raise children while he tunes into the game or ESPN. Less obsession with submission and more commitment to treating a woman with love and kindness.

You are a rare breed my brother! Oh my goodness I had to subscribe because it is hard to come across great content like this. It is really a blessing to hear a young black man who truly understands, and who is married. I am 31 yrs old and I’ve never been married or intimate with anyone because of some of the reasons you have stated. It truly is hard to find a spouse in today’s society. When I find people who have the same positive mindset I truly value the words they have spoken. Speak on my brother, and may blessings continue to fall on your family.

I'n the culture I grew up in submission was a requirement for the women but men who demand this have narcissistic personality disorder.

You ain’t never lied!!! This entire video was all facts!! I truly hope your channel blows up, the black community needs your videos 💯

I agree with everything you said and my husband feels the same way about me you said you feel about your wife! New subby!

Happy to see more men following you! But now we worry about you being safe lol

Good men make it pleasant to become submissive. They make it easy for their mates. And she is his queen because he knows she has his back. In return he pours love all over her. He will do anything for her.🥰🥰😍♥️

This is why a lot of creepy and predatory men have become more vocal about going for young girls and women. Submission comes easier and they can be impressed with a lot less. But Gen Z was raised on social media. The cute things you could get away with impressing a women in 1970 isn’t even on the radar of a young woman in 2021. In 1970 ,a girl and her friends, after graduation, might spend a few days out near the beach until everyone left for college or went to go get a job. She might be impressed because your dad bought you a 10 year old Jeep and you can give her a ride. In 2021, a girl and her best friends are getting on a plane and going to LA for rooftop parties and fun nights on the town. Men who want women to desperately submit want to go back to the way things were.

I appreciate you so much.for being honest, All the Gas lighting these dudes be preaching really cleared up listening to you thank you so much.

Submission is usually hinged on provision rather than services and sacrifices. Why do men need submission? We talk more about accountability in marriage. You have talked more about accountability and partnership in a marriage against submission sir

The man has to summit to the Lord first the man has to be righteous and in the kingdom of heaven everything will be put back in order the Lord first then the man then the women then the child the women will be fully taken care of that is the correct order

That's right if both men & women doesn't have their stuff together then it will be a problem for them being submissive.

Love seems to be a bad word these days. Ho falls from their lips readily though.

Tell it brother ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿. It’s about TRUST ✅✅✅✅

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." -- 1 Corinthians 11:3

How you want a woman god describes while not even being a man of good and following his why of life 🤔 we’re the logic

Words of wisdom thanks so much!

Dude please dont read/ look at your phone and drive! Thats extremely dangerous. Your good dude with good information for people especially young black men, dont want you risking your safety bro

This debate is only in the blk community. Smh.

Thanks for calling guys out. You're really on-point. Wow! Tell it like it T-I-S.

The issue is women trying to be “ submissive “ to man that isn’t her husband. I’m a submissive woman to the max with my husband, Bc I love that man with everything in me! But he doesn’t take advantage of that. Most women don’t have a problem with being submissive, they just need to find those whom deserve that part of them. Stop just settling for anything.

Not submissive? Then you gotta lead from the front, by example, must be trustworthy if a woman must put her heart in your hands. Got to have a destination and have a plan on how to get there... you're sure right Shumake, these guys babbling on about wanting submissive women, are generally speaking about slaves ( they HV no substance) and are afraid of strong intelligent woman ( who knows where they want to go, ) exposing their insecurities. Js

A man has to earn submission from a woman. If you provide no resources, safety, security, love, protection and support, then she shouldn't be expected to submit. If she's paying bills, working full-time, cleaning, cooking and taking care of kids, all while laying next to an able bodied man, then she shouldn't be expected to submit. ✌️

YOU ARE SO SPOT ON, COUPLES GOALS! WITH RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING, A WOMEN HAVE TO FEEL SAFE IN HER RELATIONSHIP THERE IS ALOT OF MEN THAT NEED TO WATCH YOUR VIDEO,THANKS FOR SHARING! CONTINUED BLESSINGS🙏🙏😊😊

It's baffling to me that in 2021 they are still attaching submission to a woman's title. ...like REALLY what are we in the prehistoric cavemen days.SMH

House car and money doesn't even complete the list of 5 basic needs. Men are crazy to think that a woman like myself who has all 5 will settle to submitting for a man that doesn't even match my current situation financially spiritually and mentally. I find it really mind boggling. I am a Cna as well as a biochemist. Have a business. Nice living space I enjoy two cars paid for and can do what I want all by myself. Men tend to hang on my type and bring us down and being nurturing as we are meant to be we let it happen. When we don't we aren't lady like or something of the sort. I've always been ambitious and an independent thinker but also look for a man who is worthy of leafing me and our future family. I want to build something my family hadn't ever done. Generational wealth. I want to own land. I want to be in stocks and real estate. I don't want to be flashy I want assets. Where are the men that think like that because I may need to go other places. Any suggestions on places I can frequent that like-minded Men might be?

I send your family and yourself nothing but energy of positivity and happiness forever flowing ❤

And we cannot be submissive in such an abusive climate we live in today. A lot of us been through some shtt some serious traumatic bad experiences that's got our guards up more than ever with very low tolerance for B/S. Either you approach me the right way or leave me TF alone. But I have already departed from the dating world that has driven me into full blown Celibacy which has now been 23 years Because of how fed up I am with very little patience and low tolerance toward men who act like way below even the intelligence of even a 4-year-old. This is sad very pathetic how most of these men can't even read because they refuse to get an Education make something of themselves. They rather roam the streets and prey on white women or anyone who would give them the time of day. Look excuse me for writing so much but if we really want to resolve the serious issues in our community, then we must get to the root of it, and please don't use 400 years of slavery as an excuse Black Man, to be LAZY and neglect the current responsibilities you have Today 2022.

Preachh 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 successfull women need a man to bring more than money in order to submit to them..character morals .. loyalty respect ..

Thank you so much brother for speaking on this topic in this fashion. You are great and articulate. Greatness is to come to one like you. From your sister in Chicago I’m wishing you the best ✊🏾🪶🤎

Thank you for this. I think some confuse submissive with just tolerating disrespect.

Great video! However, please be careful when you're driving 🚗 😅!

🤯✨💭 Awesome content man!! This video was right on time I’m tellin’ ya lol!! Can you please do a video on “high value” & mgtow men insisting that women overseas are better wives than American women. Because they are more “feminine” and “submissive”…

Submissive is slavery. Men like that who demand this from a woman is looking for a Slave not a wife but a slave.

I like this channel Thank you for sharing from the goodness in your heart

Thank you king bless you and your queen, I appreciate you and yours 😊🙏💐❤👑

Please don't drive and read. It was making me anxious🔹 love the video

I would LOVE to submit to the right man who will treat me nice and handling business. I'll do whatever, whenever however for the right man, not just any man. It's just that simple😌

Thank you... Make it simple for these simps please. This is common sense.

You are such a wise young man. Thank you for these nice videos.

Absolutely 💯

Common sense at its finest!

You were spot on women do want a leader, provider and protector.

Wish this went viral. Keep it up

Emotionally mature, handsome, and a planner? I see why your wife loves you 😊 peace from London

Women, no matter the skin color, naturally follow the lead of their men. And that's even for those womenwho argue against it. It's a built-in, innate need in women. Black women as a group, historically, never had the environment to be submissive and still managed to do it, in spite of the campaign saying otherwise. So I'm confused by the men who can't understand that but argue that they can't advance in life because of the proverbial "system/white man". I also think that a lot of people conflate submission and slavery.. 🤷

Love / Marriage is a mutual partnership a genuinely deeply rooted bond, that builds and solidifies a Happy Home which everybody deserves. No one should be settling for anything less than that.

What ever happened to shared values and goals? if the couple has these, there is no power trip, because both of them mostly agree. For a long time that was the goal of couples. I believe if submission is the important goal of a relationship for a man, he should get a dog instead of a thinking human partner, then he could train it with dog biscuits.

Great video ❤🥰

Some women want a saviour, a leader is beneath them. The same way some of us Christian want the saviour without the lord. Very great video brother. Love your channel.

Omg. You're soooo intelligent. Thank you for your videos. You're wonderful!!!!

Submissive is to respect and willingness to be lead, trusting,teachable, obedient. You should only be submissive to God and your spouse. Everyone is not meant to submit to. You have to properly vet the person if they are meant to be respected , and trusted.

We are told to be submissive to our HUSBANDS not to our boyfriends. These men have it twisted. He has to be following Jesus Christ and really understand the Bible. The Bible also tells men to submit as well. He has to be a true leader.

The word submissive has been used out of context in 2021. More so like corporation. But me personally at the age I am now, I’m not giving my body or time to a man I can’t follow or trust. If he doesn’t make you feel safe he doesn’t deserve your time idc how good the D is or what he does for a living. That’ll save you heartache and a clean rep sheet💯

Mutual respect is what is required.

Every word is factual!

I’m glad I found your channel

🌼🌼🌼great video my brother

You have your eyes off the road for too long. Smh! You could've killed someone 😡

Listening to this video made me understand the last video a little better: I think it was gender war or something like that

On point !

Another great video Greatly appreciate you

From my perspective, I think people have to be careful in how you use SUBMISSIVE and what you mean if you truly want a submissive woman. There are WOMEN who have been submissive and then they got used and abused, so BW have learned, they have a lot to lose if they only depend on the BM. BW have gone from being the leader of STATISTICS in the welfare system to leaders in the board room. But no one gives them credit for that. Don't be upset because BW want better and be disparaging to them because they do better. I don't think any woman has a problem letting her man lead, the problem is WOMEN don't want to follow a liar, disrespectful, cheater, unemployed, multi-baby mama's, uninformed man only to be a statistic or go through the same thing her grandmother or mother went through (who by the way were submissive). If you want to LEAD, find a woman that has her own mind, making her own money, be SUPPORTIVE and ENCOURAGING, and you can come together to discuss what is BEST for both of you. Relationships don't have to be difficult, but you can't have a slave mentality (submissive and oppressive) with a woman who wants better in life.

Wow... u need to say this louder for the men in the back! Because u hit the nail right on the head. Because all these dummies talking down on all black women is sooo pathetic.

Exactly 💯

Do you have any brothers,too few men with your mindset. Alot of men my age have no idea what they are doing with their lives I refuse to settle and let someone pull me down.

That's exactly want they want is a slave