She already chose you, you’ve already attained it, congratulations

It's ironic how the whole video talks about chasing the cat but you yourself know that chasing it would spook it, and understand that it has to come to you on its own

Its freaking me out lol bc a black cat just crosser my way out when i was sitting where me and that man im trynna get with use to hang out.

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@@vanetheone8101💯

It’s exhausting! 😂 I can’t even do it anymore. I don’t have the strength anyways mentally or physically. But I’m also 48. In my younger years I needed this info x

Same!😅 I wish I had heard this years ago! I would have saved myself so much struggle!!!

@@MrsBrandiSherman 😂😂 unfortunately Margarita with still in her little minky years and the internet didn’t exist. I’m talking like I needed this as a 18 year old 😂 x

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@@lou15176 🤣🤣🤣

Wonderful line ❤

Could you please tell how long did it take for you to stop being anxiously attached? Thank you

@@Olga0265 It took 2.5 years of consistent therapy (2 times a week for 1 hour each session). Most of the work I did was outside of therapy. So my therapist taught me coping mechanisms and I had to do the work outside of therapy. I still have traces of anxious attachment but that’s normal because it will always linger around.

​@@Olga0265 if you don't mind, could you please tell what was the work you did?

This is possible?? 🥹 I just talked to the guy I liked the other day and basically cried the rest of the night because I realized he will find a secure girl while I might always be alone if I dont figure this out 😒

@@AllUserNamesAreUsed Of course it is possible. It was hard but it’s worth it because I was tired of feeling like I was crazy.

if that was the case you would not be writing this under a 30 min video loool

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@@selimaydn8758What’s your excuse?

period.

I’m mostly black cat, but I have been retriever from time to time. Not usually with the man in my life, but with other people in public that I do business with. It’s very seldom, but I have been guilty of losing my temper.

I literally just screamed at this part😂😂

RIP in peace

I need to remember this sentence for the next time someone invites me to something I dont want to go to hahahahha

I screamed at this part too wahahahha!

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Thanks

Thank god 😅

Godsend

Bless your heart❤

I know. It’s a bit more than most channels. Thanks.

me too!!! we got this

Me too Lets do this ladies ❤️

ME TOO!!!! Now I’m an angry black cat. And I want my power back!!

Sameeeeee updates?

what have you been doing to practice this?

wouldn’t it be more like not allowing anyone to control your emotions? i’m having trouble understanding “take you out of your emotions”

I'm like that too... and I really don't want to be the one chasing him, it's humiliating...

Change his name in your phone to "Stay In Your Power" or "BCDC" (Black Cats Don't Chase) or something that empowers you. When you pull up his name to call or text it will remind you to act in the interest of your self respect rather than your fear 🙏🏾

@@adabelindanow this is good advice , I shall be doing this if I feel my golden retriever coming out

Exactly ! We can just be a black cat when we have no feelings at all for the man .

@@adabelindaI like this advice

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks

You wont regret it

How rough is rough? What kind of hurtful... abusive words have been spoken from either party?

Omg sis same ❤ I’ll keep watching these videos until I’m done with the golden retriever era

Time we take our energy back and focus on ourselves 💪🏼

@@aannwwsalam yesss🔥🔥🔥

Same as me I was obsessing with this guy. I need my power back. We can do this, no more texting first and get frustrated

@@2011cindirella EXACTLY!!!👏👏👏

Yes! I would love more real life examples!

@@Paulina-yv7gomy ex husband would ogle women in front of me. That’s when my energy would shift and he’d ask and I’d say this 👆🏼and he’d respond by chasing my approval of him.

What is it? Love it ❤

her makeup always slays!!

Right? And I love the pink blouse with red stripes 🤌🏼

This is where I want to go

Nailed it!

Stop sleeping with him. He's not your husband but you stop giving him wife benefits..who knows?

I would not consider showing interest and letting a man know you like them to be a bad thing if that's considered to be like making a move. It could be passive with a smile or telling them you are cute etc. That's not making a move. Guys like when girls approach them in this way but after this the guy has to pick the ball and make the move and reciprocating and asking for a date/number etc.

@@anki3336 I agree with you. A signal of interest is fine. She likes to 'change a guys mind' about her. Like actively pursue him. I won't do that as it doesn't feel good to me and you can end up with a lazy unmotivated man who doesn't feel passionately about you. Like said friends current relationship.

@@jessgirr1728 you judge to much…

Some guys don't ever send the first message.

​The best way to make a move is to smile and be warm. If he likes you and he's 'normal' he'll ask 4 a date.

Lep pozdrav, mačka! 💕🐈 (Slovenka v Krakowu)

@@shiatsufurlanahojkyyyy🥰 česka zde

@@Uhhit67 heeey! 🙌💖

Drž se ženo 💯🥺

Completely agree, you can make good husband go away by this mindset in marriage

@@nile9150 agreed

No. My husband has started pampering and giving attention after I am behaving like a black cat. Black cat energy has taken me several notches up nit just with my husband but with my girls, too.

I feel you

Be safe, you will never switch 100% on "golden retriever" energy. You are just experiencing the other side to find balance. Cant stay polarized ; life is about evolution, not stagnation.

Girl, same timeline. I forgot who I was, but I worked on getting back to myself. You'll learn the lessons you need, and you'll get back to self. Much love ❤

Or he is a fboi.

He may like you but doesn't want you.

If a woman makes me chase her I lose interest. It's boring and basic. I think showing mutual interest in each other is attractive. You don't give away too much too soon, you keep each other mutually interested. No chasing. Men need to know their worth, if they're chasing they probably don't.

@@drunkencitizen6168 Guys who chase women are insecure or have issues they need to deal with. Imo women who want guys to chase them are equally insecure

@@drunkencitizen6168 I agree. If a man's chasing a woman he either wants to bag a 'prize' for one night. OR he's insecure and doesn't know his worth. I feel like women (and men) who want to be chased are equally insecure and come at relationships with an angle of control/mind games from the outset i.e. Red flag.

its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back

wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

It’s a scam bro. Come on now, don’t trust this crap, seriously you know better than this!!

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Hahahaha

There are no unicorns, especially not when it comes to women. Most women are quite boring and bland. Fortunately for women, men do not expect much from them. Men do not chase, especially not high value men. Men do not want to waste their time and women are experts in wasting men's time. If women think that is going to change, they will wait in vain. Men will approach a woman once or twice, if he gets a no, it is over, he will never approach you again. The chasing that women are doing today, is towards chads and f#&k boys, and that is and has always been a waste of time. Chads are not marriage material and you are not going change that by being in a situationship with him for a month or two. The most important thing for a woman to figure out is how attractive she is - objectively (never ask your girlfriends). To do this you take a picture without makeup and ask random guys to rate you. Men are not like women, so they will actually be honest. Most women are average, a 5 out of 10. If you know your number subtract about 2 points, you are probably delusional. This woman who has this channel ie Margarita, she is a 4.5, just below average in my opinion. If she has managed to score a high value man, it must have been to a much older man or a man with confidence issues, or perhaps an Asian. When you know your attractivness number, you can target the guy who you deserve and not waste your time with guys who you don't deserve. A 5 should never go for anything more than a 6 (a guy you think is a 4). It is usually a good idea for a woman, in order to satisfy her hypergamy, to secure a man 1 point higher than herself. Finally, men value youth (below 27), beauty, fertility and purity (low body count 1-4). They do not give 2 sh!ts about your career, job or education. You are very welcome. The 7.

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Me too

Noooo we need more puppy boys. Who else is gonna worship me. Yall are my type

Sounds like black cat is an avoidant energy and golden retriever is the anxious attachment energy So... A typical anxious avoidant trap... Isn't it ???

@@SS-rg5di I'm a fearful avoidant so have elements of both, but in the last year have been working hard to heal both my anxious and avoidant elements of my attachment style. It's been amazing how much of a difference that's made in my life, and I'm starting to see what being securely attached can look like.

Imagine a black cat 🐈‍⬛ energy in the home … keep it clean, aloof, classy … don’t hover around him - space is good… let him wonder what YOU’RE thinking and doing … work on projects , put AirPods in, say less… make beautiful meals and take pride in your housework

@@heather88888yup all of this! And I would add have a hobby that yours even if you do it from home. And try to have some time with friends every once in a while. Even if it is just brunch or a yoga class with the girls.

It would awesome to curate movies and books that demonstrate this Black cat woman for reference ..❤

I love the sisterhood idea ❤