This woman truly changed my life and outlook on relationships not only romantic but all interpersonal dynamics. I followed her advice on manifesting your dreamlife in 3 months and in less than 3 months I went from not being able to leave the bed crying after a breakup to landing my dream job and reaching my lifelong dream of moving to Europe. Thank you thank you thank you a thousand times. You’re the big sister every 20 something girl needs

We fall in love with people who validate our beliefs about ourselves. If you think you are worthy of love, you will fall for people who give you love. If you think you are not worthy of love, you will fall in love with avoidants.

Spat my coffee out at "brother ew" 😂😂😂 you're too funny

Waiting for marriage can help weed out SO many of these avoidant men. They have a long timeframe to opt out if they can’t handle their “biological urges”.

The easiest way to deal with avoidant men is to avoid them 🤣

Your regular videos coming out these past few weeks have been a life saver Margarita, thank you, thank you. I've listened to the Golden Retriever/Black Cat video numerous times to steady myself in knowing my worth and self control in being the chasee. To me, you are the best at what you do!

A man here: when I was 21 I was wildly unavailable, avoidant, insecure, closed off, etc. I am now 27 and have achieved a level of success and fulfillment to where I am ready to settle down with a good woman. That’s all there is to it. People are simply READY or NOT ready to be serious. You don’t need to overthink it all. Toxic people may be good people 5 years from now…but it’s not your job to wait for them. Find people who are ready and avoid those who aren’t. Simple. And if you aren’t ready, don’t be a POS…don’t date anyone

Tips for dating an avoidant: Just don’t.

How to deal with avoidant men: The block button

"Please be precious with yourself like you would if you were your own best friend or your own child or your own pet. We look after our pets very well. Look after yourself like your your own chihuahua"

Margarita, you are a godsend. Been going through a real tough situation lately and your videos have been the only source of calm. Your videos around this topic mean more than I can express in words. Just thank you ❤

Love the question and answer format. Hoping that you'll do more. Thank you for all your great advice!

I love this format! You answering questions in real time ❤

Margarita your regular uploads are getting me through some hard weeks. Thank youuuu so much ❤❤❤

Margarita, you are such an inspiration! I have been binge-watching your videos lately and just pre-ordered your audiobook. Kudos to you for completing the recording process while attending to the needs of your lovely baby daughter.❤

Love this Q and A! Much love from Texas!❤

Ahahahaha your first 4mins alone is cracking me up 😂

I love this ep and style ! Covering soooo much 👌

Margarita this was so fun and good. Love all your insights.

Goodness gracious. There must be somethin’ in the air, ‘cause I have been dealing with an avoidant, the last two weeks (well, and over 15yrs) - and all my favorite KZfaqr’s have been putting out videos, specifically, on dealing with avoidant people. Thank you.

I loved this style Q&A! thank you for sharing Margarita!

This format is great

10:53 yesss the vampirism of it!!

This goddes doesn’t even need makeup ❤️‍🔥😮

Follow up question to the avoidant segment in this video - I’m more anxiously (possibly disorganised) attached and my partner is somewhat secure with avoidant tendencies. I’m aware of my issues and have tried to work on them, while in a long distance relationship for 3 years. My partner spends around half his time with me and half back home switching every 6-18 weeks. I have been trying to be more secure, self soothing and detached, however it usually for me ends up swinging so far the other way from anxious, I actually become hyper-independent and also hyperfixate on the lack of energy and “love” from my boyfriend. I end up becoming very resentful, only able to focus on the negative feelings and essentially convince myself that all he does is hurt me and that i’m not asking for too much, i’m just asking the wrong person, that I should dump him and move on. This happens pretty much every time he goes home and gets lazy with putting effort into the relationship or gets focused on a work project. However, when things are good i’m really happy, we have a great friendship, and I’ve considered moving 5000 miles to be with him. We’re currently in what feels like an irreconcilable low and I don’t know what to do anymore. :(

your videos always come to me as a message from the universe or something bc I’ve been really struggling with my anxious attachment recently (which has gotten worse bc I recently experienced a traumatic event) and my actions are really pushing my spouse away 😭😭 I really love learning about attachment styles bc they make me realise that people are not inherently bad if they are for example anxious or avoidant. I shall take embodying secure attachment as a part of my healing journey ❤️

Just finished listening with my podcast subscriber. Loved it!!

You’re an amazing woman, thank you for sharing your knowledge.

You are THE best! I love watching and listening. I feel so understood in this amazing community of feminine energy babes!! And I love the Q&A! Keep them coming girl ❤🎉

I always learn something from your videos and this q and a style was definitely interesting.

I can’t wait to finish your audio book! ❤

Loved the Q&A!

You are wonderful! Thank you for these videos 🎉🎉❤🎉🎉

That analogy of the pint glass and the shot glass is brilliant. I never thought of it like that but totally makes sense. I needed a lot of energy being an anxious attachment and he didn’t need much being an avoidant but I didn’t even know about this until after we broke up a few weeks ago. I read the book you suggested “Attached” in one weekend that book was so eye opening. Thank you so much for your knowledge and sharing it with us Margarita! ❤

Honestly love your videos , I learn too much ❤❤

very good format also this one- take care!

I pre-ordered your audio book. Looking forward to it.

You have such a strong mother nature, I admire your work and the protective energy you put out there for us ❤

This was awesome! Thank you. X

Thank you for bringing who you are to this platform ♥️ Could you please upload a video about maintaining feminine energy in friendships?

Lovedddd this style 💗💗💗🙏

Needed this thank you ❤

Thank you so much !!!!!!! ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Truly life changing ❤

Honey, you have given me the most proper ass kicking today with your truths! I watched about 6 videos and all hit home and left me like “damnnnnn I got ALOT of work to still do!” However, I absolutely LOVE your delivery, it’s “matter of fact” but it’s still “girlfriend” if that makes sense. Thank you for all of the great gems. I am an anxious attachment and my fiancé (well I blurted out recently I can’t do this anymore….sooooo) is an avoidant but these videos have truly been helpful!

“Listen baby…”. Love you!

Thankful for you woman! 🐈‍⬛

Thinking you may have encountered narcisists,can you make a video on that too...Relationships with narcissists!!!!!

You are the best. Thank you as always for the truth

My first ever relationship was so toxic and tormenting, I read as much as I could to educate myself because the only explanation I could come up with is that I was absolute shit at picking the right men. I had a good run, but now I’ve been slowly but surely falling in love and losing my mind! I come to your channel to remember who I am, who I want to be and to remember how to control my emotions. Thank you, you are amazing❤️

Love this

Love your content ❤

Love your videos ❤

Fear of them leaving is not in you. You are afraid because you dont trust this specific person. You probably had a lot of guys who were into you but you werent so much into them. Were you afraid they will leave? You didnt care if they did. So find out why you are still interested in people who cause you anxiety.

i love your energy a lot Margarita. You're like a big sister that I always wanna have. Thanks the universe or anything guide me to watch your vdos. Hope you have a great abundance life. with love and kindness. From your fan in Thailand

Margarita can you please make a video explaining the difference between avoidants and narcissists because they are extremely similar.

Omg this is what I wanted today

You’re the besttttt

Margarita!❤❤

So grateful for you, Margarita!! 🙏🏾

Margarita omg! The question about jealously towards the childs mom was almost an argument/conversation I was going to start today about something that grabbed my attention yesterday. Now I just want to go for a run because that was wrong of me to even have it cross my mind. And I definitely have to be mature for the kids because he’s worth it. I really am being immature but it’s crazy that it was one of the questions😮 I guess I needed to hear that!

came right in time

there is also disorganized and fearful avoidant attachment styles

New sub to your channel, I am in the US I would love your book, but I do not have a kindle, is there another way to receive your book? Thank you my friend. Ps. I am 53 and have been divorced since 2009, stayed home raised my girls now starting over and trying to live and feel like I did not waste my life and time on someone who did not love or want me, and trying not to have anxiety on trying to make up for all my loss years with someone I thought I would have a family and life long future partner, did not go the way planned. Thank you for giving me hope.

Love your content Margarita, and I’m a Man.

I love these videos I find myself coming back to them to "self soothe". Please can you film a video on marriage and how to not keep having petty fights and arguments. I'm hitting my year mark and I just find myself clashing with him constantly because are egos are butting heads. Also how do I self soothe?? I feel like my emotions are always related to how he's feeling and one minute he's fine the next he becomes moody and I find myself being affected easily. I'd also love a video on dealing with anger and frustration

girlfriend thank youuuu this topic is importante

Thanks Margarita as always. How about how to deal with Golden retriever energy and take advantage of that? Like deal with men that chase 😗

"Look after yourself like you're~your own chiwawa!"

You look very lean and skinny. Glowing!

I love listening to you, you're intelligently funny (idk if that makes sense, but it makes sense for me alsbjds)

This anxious and avoidant example is exactly what I am going through right now. And I understand everything you said and its 100% true. But I always ask myself, does an avoidant person need another avoidant person to feel understood? And the anxious person another anxious one so they both shower each other with love and attachment? Or is the goal only to be secure..because often I feel like avoidant people do not want to become secure because they think their way is the only right one…they seem „confident“ much more than the anxious person..

your latest tik toks about black cat energy, you speak of.. can you put them into your KZfaq shorts? Thanks!

I just love your channel, thank you very much for your truth and inspiration. So excited to read your book, I must say your personality is great I at least laugh once while listening. ( I like your bum, No 😊) Blessings to you and your family. Love from USA Washington State😊

Why was he unavailable and avoidant with me for two years to point of my nervous system completely rewiring (ticked all the boxes of emotional unavailability) 6 months later is now in a very serious committed relationship? - wasn’t anxious prior to

Heyy @Margarita.Nazarenko Can you please please please make a video for disorganized attachment style people????? 😗🥺 That's me, my attachment style has turned out to be Disorganized and I don't know what to do ? Or how to change that to secure attachment style..? 😶

I absolutely cringe at it. Personally, that’s something that should never be done. If you’re married, cool, but if not, nope. No ring, no commitment, no texts like that. To me, it’s a dignity issue. Flirting without giving it all is best.

I would love to hear your perspective on women that can’t be in their divine feminine “have an exciting life” because of health issues, etc. You say a lot to be obsessed with yourself and be busy but how do we navigate this if we aren’t able to do that quite in that way for whatever reason.

Just get yourself someone who’s NOT avoidant. This is too much work. I’d rather find someone who’s a lover/giver just like me.

what does it mean if my avoidant ex who broke up with me out of stress, blocked me, (because i asked for quality time with him after not being able to see him for 2 weeks, (we were in an LDR, no voice/video calls because he was 'busy.') and 3 weeks later, he unblocked me and didn't reach out to me? since he was the one who dumped me, i know i shouldn't be the one to reach out to him...

How to differentiate between a narcissist & an avoidant?

The handkerchief and holding of the jacket are directly taken from Matthew Hussey.

"...then ...that's between you and God." *Smashes the like button!* Absolutely!

Thank you for your podcast. I am in a LDR relationship. He is younger and yes he is still a bit emotional available. Traumatized! I am trying to get secure but how on earth do you deal with an avoidant who says he wants to marry you and he has deep moments when he speaks about his inner thoughts. He says I am the first ever who made it to his heart. I was happy and positive. He said he will be doing better when he will come to me and marry me! I told him he has to start now to heal. What do I do with a man I love but he can come and hide when he pleases online and is hurt when confronted with my questions . I do not always want to walk on eggshells all the time. He is afraid I will leave him and he apologizes . He is gotten a little bit better. But oh I have not all the time of this world. I do not doubt his love but he needs help and I do not know what to do anymore.😢

Can you please make a video about what to do if a boyfriend ghosted me without any reason even more things was very good

9:30 time stamp for myself

Do you offer therapy one on one

What if I'm the avoidant girl

'That's between you and the old gods'

which type of avoidant? fearful vs dismissive, BIG difference. Dismissives could not care less about their partner's emotional needs, they're indifferent

10:00

How about initiating sex in marriage... most women don't. You say "initiate away" trouble is most women struggle to do this on a regular basis. Perhaps you could speak to this.

❤💯

I don't have kids, we're not actually busy😂

DEAL WITH ME 😂 Gently

fake it till you make it

Like you're your own Chihuahua 😂

My boyfriend is friends with two of his ex girlfriends both of whom he claims cheated on him. Is this a red flag? I find it odd. My ex boyfriends wouldn't be friends with me 😂

Our professor is using “John” as the bad guy,bad example,and I’m here for it hahahahaha I know someone who’s name is John and actually do those things she talks about,hahaha talking about coincidence,or maybe all Johns were like that,ooopppppsssss kidding hahahahaha

sorry but you're wrong about attachment, and it's a shame you wrote a book on it...did you ever read what bowbly the one who wrote the theory says.. avoidant does not mean clingy parent...more like the child learned if they shut up the parent will be happy because if they cry (as a child would) the parent wouldn't respond