Definitely ❤

Ooooohhhhh...... this is SO true!!!!

This! 💯

Amen, beauty doesn't beg to be seen, it just is.

Well said.

And not every woman who wears lashes and nice clothing isnt ugly on the inside…. You extremist kill me….

@@Loveispatient76 so you don’t need the extra stuff- and fine and confident without it.? 😐

@@sg5720 how can you even ask this question and really get a real answer? I could easily just say yes…. But to answer I wear make up on sundays not every day. And even if I do, so what….. that’s my choice. Bottom line men shouldn’t be commenting on what women wear on their faces…. This is a feminine behavior, and your worried about the wrong thing…. Looking back at a woman and minding her business when you could be starting a business of your own, you know “man stuff”.

I concur. I have my own style, but no one will ever see me with a ton of makeup, lashes, extra long nails, and certainly no BBL, etc. I’ve never felt like I needed OR wanted it. On another note, I respect and appreciate how the brother said that he would not tear a woman down. 🙌🏾 We as women and men can even disagree, no problem. Yet, we can deal with one another with respect and honor. Our continuity depends on it.

The replies are cute. We tend to avoid the truth. I’m very sorry but if I said that the specific style won’t last as long as a beauty trend and standard because women are failing to take care of their natural hair and lashes and skin, y’all would hate me. The hyperpigmentation around the eyes, the balding, the lack of eyebrows and 0 eyelashes is real. Real money and routine is needed to have such a style. Constant maintenance and self care. It is high value and not for a cheap insecure Gyal, which I’ve personally seen is the majority of ladies with that aesthetic.... Fix your edges and your mental health, gain confidence in your natural baddie self and then adopt whatever aesthetic to please the male gaze, which would actually stick it in anything really so don’t think this or that is winning. It don’t matter what you dress like but why...

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She's definitely teetering around "PickMe" territory.

If you're naturally pretty. It won't. Pretty Plain Jane's are cursed still

I’m glad someone said it. I didn’t know how to say it without coming off as tearing down another black woman because even with all that she has on, she’s an average looking woman to me.

@@kemi1486 the thing is, her referring to ladies who aren't caked with make up, eyelashes & weave, as plain Jane's is her tearing down other women. I don't wear weave, my hair is natural, my eye lashes are long enough without the bat wings, and I like to show off my freckles. I often get compliments & my dating life if ok. So yeah, she needs to figure some things out.

What's funny tho ?

Congrats I found my king being a plain jane I don't all that fakeness

@@srivera4339 I know that’s right! 😍❤️🙌🏾

​@@TheNeen9Because underneath all that girls Covergirl is a plain girl

Pop off sis 😂 congratulations 🥰

💣 💥🔥

That’s true her beauty is natural and she doesn’t require much to be beautiful

Bingo

Period, from the inside out! The spirit of God is within her

Bingo

Indeed!

amen..I heard that..🎉

Looks fade. My wife is still beautiful, not as beautiful as she was 23 years ago. Her beauty is not what keeps us together. A woman's attitude is her secret tool. She gave me the best gift of all, our son.

thank you.

@@nello8630 I hope that you didn't tell her that she isn't as pretty!

That’s the actual issue right there. If she wiped that stuff off her face and had natural good looks men would be all over her because natural good looks/genetics is what attracts men. All that extra stuff is fine but if you don’t have good looks without it, the men aren’t considering you a “pretty girl” 😂

Don't see pretty all I see is delusional

I ain't a hater but she said that is pretty girls kinda strong and I'm like ma'am... She not ugly but still.

👏👏👏👏👏😁 well said

Well put

As a girl that’s not a plain Jane I love beauty. As a kid I loved makeup and playing dress up, a lot of women were like that as little girls so when we get older ofc we love wearing makeup getting our hair done and fashion. It’s not about being superficial or insecure it’s an expression of personal style and what you find beautiful at the moment. For some women it’s for show bc they are insecure but for a lot of women they actually just love it.

Oh god the nails. I get mine done but they’re short and naturally coloured. They still look good but they don’t get in the way. What on earth do the women with those long nails with bling do for work!? I’d rip them off in 2 seconds flat. No gardening or anything

I knoooow what you mean about them being insecure

For real, for real.

Right? They all look the same.

True story

Amen

Yes I refuse to get plastic surgery !!

Facts!!! That girl in the video just made herself look foolish.

Absolutely

Say that again for the people in the back!!

Amen

It’s the way we carry ourselves ❤ 😊

Yes and a mature men likes how you carry yourself and not your looks , if I were a men I would definitely pay attention to the girl who has the most dignity and respect , but also could be a 7 I’m just saying because she gotta be appealing lol

Amen

*Plain Not “plane.” 😄

I don’t think it has anything to do with maturity. People have preferences, I’m not sure why putting labels on people just to make you feel better about why people over look others is a weird coping mechanism.

Your picture is pretty not plain at all. 🤷‍♀️

Agree! 💯👏👏👏👏 😇

Thank you. Now I can leave this video that I was temporarily nosy about lol

This right here is the one.

Boy bye. Ladies, do BOTH. Be your best aesthetically & spiritually. Men will cheat & breed you either way. It really has nothing to do with aesthetics. It has everything to do with who they can AFFORD, CONTROL, & who STROKES THEIR EGO the best. Being an awesome, kind, nurturer, & forgives as a woman, in general, is a given.

My goal everyday F everything eles ❤

I’ll do all of this, as well as look my best ❤

With the high divorce rates in the black community, who are the 'plain janes' marrying? Plan Jane women may have high ambition, higher incomes than their husbands, and higher education. These women may have settled for low tier men to marry. I like his channel, but he talks as if these level-headed, smart, hardworking men are plentiful and easy to find. She may not have the best message, but he is overstating the caliber of men in the Black community.

I think in the blk community too much emphasis is placed on superficial characteristics and these assumptions and ideologies we have as a culture. We like to place ppl in these fixed categories that we've created instead of just going through life and examining each individual situation and person separately. We complain about stereotypes but we constantly use stereotypes against each other and make decisions based on those ideas. I've been guilty of unconsciously doing that as well before, it's cultural but needs to stop. A plain Jane woman is not being treated any better than a more glamorous looking woman when it all boils down to it in our community. Just look at Derrick J soon to be ex-wife. This man put her through the ringer and she's as plain as it gets. A man will treat you right if that is his desire. If he is a mature and respectful man with his priorities and heart in the right spot.

I agree Sis. It is ok for Women to invest in themselves and look good for them. Because I love makeup 💄

@@SparklingOnyx preach! I just typed something similar! She's in competition mode and she needs to stop it. Too many of these men are actors anyway! They will play a role & switch up on you midstream!

1. All he did was use the categories she used in order to comment on it. 2. He definitely said he is referring to quality men who care about things like building a legacy and Derrick is not that. 3. He even went as far as to say that he loves his wife's appearance and loves when she does get "extra",he didn't marry his wife for looks and then followed up with non-physical reasons why he did. It's about not having to lead with pretty being your primary "personality trait" so to speak. Sometimes we have to stop filtering what's being said through our emotions and listen to what a quality man is telling you about other quality men (really of any race) instead of referring back to what the others do/did in order to get different outcomes so that our daughters don't have to be in youtube comment sections trauma bonding over trash men.

Damn

That’s exactly what I was thinking…smh

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Lol it's a short fuse. That's what people don't understand. Men will give attention to women like that for a quick hit and run but they don't usually consider them as potential partners.

Those men are after sex. If you want to have sex as a women, your better chance is to look good. But after the sex, after he saw you without make up and wigs, what can you offer more? Women most of the time get sh! Twisted. They think that because they are pretty and men give them attention because of it, that those same men are agoing to put a ring on it. It's a wrong thinking. Most of your quality for sex won't enter the equation once the talk is about marriage. In marriage many other qualities are valued more.

It's only temporary attention after they get what they want, they gone.

Unfortunately they do that to plain Jane’s too🫣

Lmaoooooooooooooo not all attention is GOOD attention

Yess

Mtr, rom wills and there're others

TONY GASKINS DOESN AS WELL AS RC BLAKES JR.

Agree 💯

I love men like that 😍 just goes to show his character! We love good character in my whare (house) 😂

You are speaking facts. I invest in my skincare, hair products and health. I get compliments all the time. I made water, supplements, exercise,sleep and peace my top priorities!

Exactly

I'm the EXACT same way. EXCELLENT commentary, Ma'am! 🌹

Thank you!

This right here! Us "plane janes" DO the most. Just in a different way. Being presentable and respectable requires effort. Because there's definitely a difference between "natural beauty" and "women at walmart" levels of "low/no effort" lol

And let’s also not forget plain jane married ones get cheated on as well. So 🤷🏽‍♀️

Facts

Bingo!

@@mesidye let's not forget those ones with all that makeup, weave, lashes and BBL, are getting played too

@@jalisabradford6201 absolutely 💯

They don’t really some men try to say that to disqualify certain women

They just wanna claim that they like natural. Their online feed still is gonna be full of OF girls and IG models.

It depends on the men you're trying to attract. I'm natural most of the time, and I get hit on constantly, but when I wear makeup & weave, I start attracting guys I would never talk to. The pookies and the dusties love all that mess.

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Case and point: Self-declared "Alpha" men...😒

@@CPT_Pepper right I was on a dating app over a year ago and this guy said on his profile, he was "hands down one of those dopest people you'll ever meet" I swiped left so damn hard, I was like egh cringe

@@CPT_Pepper 🤭😂🤣😂🎯 This keeps happening to me!! Their almost always insecure, hyper sensitive, easily triggered betas once I get to know them. Lol It’s ok tho. I adore betas too. They have high emotional intelligence. Alphas & sigmas do too but in a different way.

@@sabir1208 😆😆😆

❤

That's because BW are so beautiful in thier natural state that God blessed you with

I loved my era of short hair. I also received the most compliment with short hair.

Ladies we are women.....after age 13....normalize...that. referring to us as "females " is derogatory. Listen to men.....do they call each other "males"? Love and light to all blk women

@@ultimateenigma6038 a 13 year old is a child, but I agree with your point… call yourself either a girl or woman, not a female.

Well he hison you tube she will see it so he better 🤣🤣

Ameen

@yourgirlshani As women we should stick together, I can't believe the criticism it's everyone choice how they look and dress. Just be pleased we are able to make the choice some people can't. And having a husband isn't everything in this life. I for one can pay my own bill and buy house, cars etc, we are independent some of us and its by choice.

You right young lady. Be a Proverbs 31 women, with a Queen Esther attitude.

​@bobc1631 thank you, it means a lot. Especially being called a young lady over 40😂.

@@yourgirlshani Well, when one is over 70, most would be a " young lady" to me.

That's what I was thinking. Guys may have been interested until she opened her mouth. It also.could be she's in the wrong places. The club you damn near have to be someone else. Most people in the club ain't looking for no spouse. You also have to dress for where you are.

Exactly! Not intelligently spoken at all.

I agree, she explained what she was trying to say incorrectly

S. Tx you for pointing that out. I couldn't keep listening

Idk, I hear lots of girls from Southern states sounding very "country" and unintelligible (like the female version of Larry the Cable guy.. or the female version of that guy from King of the Hill who nobody understands) but they have no problem finding people to love them. I wonder if there's a stigma to the black version of accents and, I guess, *_dialects_* that deviate from the classic Euro-English one? (not sure yet what each dialect here in America is called, sorry..) It does seem like they get criticized harsher, as if they're willfully commiting an offense/crime/sin.. and as if they are undeserving of love, respect and any form of humanity due to the dialect. Like, we seem very, very angry at them for this and mildly disgusted at them for this.. On a mildly related side note, I also wonder if this happens (consciously or _unconsciously_) to other people with other accents and/or dialects (jamaican pattois, nigerian pattois, hatian accents, african accents, middle eastern accents etc etc)

That's right! 👏🏾

BUT FKS WITH WOMEN WHO ARENT,

Is that your real hair?

I love that “ being a woman is already a gift”

Yes Love being a woman to be plain Jane or petty we are blessed to be here

I fully agree with you. Her vernacular is not in par with where she wants to be.

I agree.

💯💯🎯

It's not so much her vernacular as it is her not understanding who she is. She feels as if she's entitled and she conflates and assumes. I need her to ground herself and have some contrition.

💙🖤

I’m so glad I had my ugly duckling stage before I reached my peak/prime. I had plenty of time to work on my personality/intelligence before looks was ever important for the day and age now I have both beauty and brains +humor and these ninjas dk WHAT to do with it

@@PrettyIRL0926 same 😂

@@PrettyIRL0926YEP!

That's terrible. I hope you're not get friend anymore.

Exactly!!!!! It doesn't matter pretty or plain...they do not like us either way. They seek, then destroy.

Same here

Needed to be said.

Inner beauty (thoughts) may have something to do with it...

Me too Sometimes when I am dressed up less men talk to me

Girl same. I’m like who are y’all looking at cause it can’t be me and my sweatpants 😂 I just take care of my skin, hair, hygiene, and have confidence no matter what I’m wearing. Plain Jane doesn’t mean less than or less attractive

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 you became competition to her. I bet she didn't bother you anymore either.

@@mzyotruthnlove8263☠️☠️

@@mariahsmith9283 hi Mariah, would you translate the meaning of the skulls please?

@@mzyotruthnlove8263 Dead. Like funny or crazy

@@shalawndudley2094 thank you. Have a great day.

🤔😨I think your right ?! That dude keeps on seeing different women everyday.

I always suspected this. Men crushing a ladies ego. This happened alot when I was a successful model. Men assumed I was conceited and tried to hurt me.

She really does!! She's giving off big PickMesha energy. Dudes are turned off by low-lying fruit & chase women they can't have. They'll gas PickMes up to the moon, though. They also like to try & "humble" women that intimidate them instead of leveling up themselves. At the end of the day, a majority of these dudes don't even know what they want anyway. Life has shown me that PickMeshas rarely get picked! Many end up being lifelong cheerleaders and friend-zoned! She's definitely worried about the wrong things. Hope she finds self-love and self-worth one day soon.

Best response on her. Idk, why she's so worried about a man. All this tells me, is that she NEEDS a man in order to function.

This girl on girl hate pick-mes engage in is insidious. I pray these women get chosen and leave other women tf alone.

Agreed.

Best comment on here 🥳🙏🏿! This woman is delusional 🤦🏾‍♀️.

Exactly!

Agreed

This!👏🏾👏🏾

Truth...

Agreed

🙄😳😩🤣

@@idakelly3567 i’m sorry if I was being mean.

​@@nunusmith3320but you are absolutely right

Amen

The men that want to sleep with her cause chileeeeeeeeeeeeeee I’m not being mean, but you are absolutely correct who told you that !???

Right. Just being a woman in itself holds so much power

Right! Cause plain Jane gets cheated on by so called "Fun Girl"

Amen

Facts

Amen 🙏

❤❤❤

Agreed. She okay looking

Good afternoon: It's crazy that some women believe they look better w/makeup. A pic without make-up looks great or the same. They wear soooo much make-up they literally look ashy & old. But she is spending money just to look average 🙄. That whole video makes her look like a insecure person. And a airhead..!!

Yes, because men don’t just approach women because they’re beautiful it can also be because you’re accessible.

PREACH!!!

Agreed. Who told her she is pretty? Not being mean, but she's very average looking.

That's not taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself wouldn't be covering up imperfections and bad hair care practices and putting on fake lashes. No more than wearing dentures are taking care of your teeth. She puts these things on, she wants to appear a certain way, she wants to look what she thinks is good.

That’s nice. 🫶🏽

If that is you in your icon pic, then you are very pretty

@@PrincessJewels08 thank you❤️

Same here. Last year I FINALLY decided to let go of the weaves and wigs. I feel more Beautiful and Free...Amen!

By looking at your pic you are a natural beauty!! Nothing needed, you’re gorgeous.

Exactly. She ain't pretty in my estimation

😂😂😂

😂

😂😂😂😂

I’m ngl I was looking for this comment because are we confusing eyelashes and weave w/ pretty cause WTF😳

If all that make up and hair is making her average, hon, no. That's okay though. We all look different. We don't all have to be beauty queens.

She is definitely a beautiful girl! You can tell when people are pretty with or without. She clearly is lonely. No need for y’all to add more fuel to the fire! She’s still human at the end of the day.

Preach. As I said, most of these women aren't pretty, they're just made up to look that way. Make-up is very transforming.

Conversation is soooo important

@@BlackberryTitties she shared her insecurities to the world trying to shame the plain janes

@Teil Fox I couldn’t agree with you more! You hit the nail on the head.

Well said !!

Truth same things to look in a man

A woman calling other women "females." Very derogatory way to address women. Goats, sheep's and horses are female, not a good word for women.

🎯🎯🎯

I have come to loathe the term female!

Right!!! It's low class to me and removes womanhood from a gender that's female.

So you missed the part where she said “What is it gone take fo’ a ni&&@ to realize dat we da one???” 😂🤪

😅😅😂😂😂😂

Bless her heart 😑

🙌🏽🙌🏽

Preach

I thought all women can be both? 😂 I'm both..I think us ladies are so more. Now plain vs made up.😂🤣

@@Nirobiscloset10 Absolutely can be, but some women feel that plain Jane's are boring and some feel that Baddies are too much.

@@SharayaMW 😆 Baddies...a plain Jane can be wilder than a baddie. People are regressing badly. Your outside appearance can't be the only thing, if so, than your not as gorgeous as you think.

very true. number 2 is the biggest one i swear. and it can tie in with number 3, always talking ab “chasing the bag” sounds super masculine and honestly gross coming out of a woman’s mouth especially. it’s just a turn off. truth be told whether you’re into makeup, nails, etc or go completely natural most men don’t really mind too much either way. it’s almost entirely about the way you carry yourself and your energy that will determine whether or not someone sees you as a wife. ❤ and that being said i’m not advocating for people completely changing themselves or living in authentically but it’s certainly something to consider if you want to be a wife so bad but nobody sees you fit for the role. growth and self reflection are so important!

Thank you!!!! 🙌🏾👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽drop da mic!!!

💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️ perfectly said!!!!

Exactlyyyyyy!!! I’m tired of hearing women say “men don’t like it when we’re natural…men don’t like Afro hair…men go only for these type of girls” no sis have confidence in yourselfff. As soon as you change to fit someone else’s standards, you loose yourself and eventually the relationship because that isn’t you! There are men out there that will like all that, you just haven’t found that person yet

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Girl yesssss, I hate the fucking categories, especially when it’s another woman boxing woman in, just to make herself feel more at ease within herself. Like no ma’am!

😂😂😂😂😂Wear the entire beauty supply store😅 You are hilarious

Wtf not you having a whole roasting session in the comments ..!! Cow lashes wtf 😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

not the whole supply store! 💀😂😂😂

😭😭😭

U want a barking rabies dog next to you in the bed - just say it

@@jessybellewhere the fuck you get that from? He said he wants someone that wont surprise you in the morning, he wants his woman to look the same in the morning as he mett her. He wants pretty girl from the beginning, not a pretend pretty girl lol

U just said what I was gonna say. ..That Is MY type of woman

@@jessybellegirl you sound SO hit 😂

Yup that’s it right there

Right Vicki k ❤

yes

And boom 🤯 🎯🎯🎯🎯 enhance yourself slightly 😊

Preach! Hope you make bail ASAP!

@@AdorzAaliyahSince94 January 11th chile 🤦🏽‍♀️ I been in about 60 days now 😂

You must have done something real bad to be in Facebook jail that long!🤣👍🏽 Cant wait till You see freedom!

@@Royalgazlite in response to a post that asked “if your mom and aunt got into a fight who would you help” all I said was “I’m whooping my aunts ass” and they got me 😂😂😂

@@songbird8404 😂😂😂 I'm with you on that one!

Just say your overweight and you cant dress like that lmao

No, it means she belongs to the streets 😂😂😂

@@SantiagoVeraLoor no it doesn't

Yes! I remember the episode when she said that. So true!

Amen!

THey also need to work on being easygoing, warm, soft, and feminine. You can be dolled up and still be very masculine and live in too much of your masculine energy and be hard to deal with.

@@faa1412 There needs to be a balance of both.

We don’t have to suffer through all types of processes and procedures to be beautiful. Don’t have to spend a ton of money or place so many layers of artificial fixings on top of us to be beautiful. Beauty, in my observation, comes from The Creator and it flows from within on out. One thing I love about embracing my natural beauty is that it’s never out of style for me, I matter what people around me are doing. People say being thin is today and then being thin is out, designer bodies are in.. Then they’re out and the natural “look” is in and so on. No thank you. I am myself and I embrace this through the coming and going of all fads. I feel that we all have qualities, traits, attributes, and characteristics, that make us uniquely us. When we see the beauty in this and embrace it, it can be transformative not only for ourselves but also for those around us, even for generations of beautiful ones not yet born.

She "feels" yup 😂. Many American women also seem to think they are hotter stuff than they really are. It's the overly self love, you're beautiful no matter what size or shape, look, fed into them from the media. She might think/feel she's hotter than the other woman but in reality, objectively the other woman is more attractive. I've seen this irl among coworkers. Women put another woman down or gossip about their look, even though the other woman is CLEARLY more attractive and everyone else would agree.

Exactly

Bingo.

And

@@thebluebooklifeloser

Maybe they know you’re wife material.

You hate to crush her feelings. Over confident. Very serious about how good she looks. SMH😮

girl is plain delusional.

I don't think so either.

Absolutely! Not pretty at all even with all the extras

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Word

That part!

Or what are the true intentions of the men in women's DMs? Folks be like dudes be checking for me in my DMs.

This part !! Omg

Facts!

❤️ I love the confidence! ❤️

I’ consider myself somewhat attractive but I don’t consider myself pretty.

@@aprilclover2429 girl you’re pretty. Me too. As is

“Girly stuff” there’s nothing wrong with being a woman lol

To someone she is

Because that is usually the case. I’m not sure how to say this nicely but the problem is perhaps her perception of how she looks is not all what she’s thinking it is.

​@@pocahontas4583 tactfully stated

😂 😂 😂

Such tact.

Plain or naturally more attractive 🤣

fake butts too 😂 and lately black women have been getting lip injections as well.

Not to mention the insane amount of money women spend on elective plastic surgery that often looks worse in the long run.

like let’s use common sense 😂

Why wouldn’t women want a naturally rich & tall man? Cmon now cmonnnn now 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️

Basically 😂😂trynna say it without saying it

She not even that cute

@@Toni-id2pvthat’s REALLY the one and she hasn’t been told 🙄

That part. She doesn't understand she's turning good men off.

who said she was pretty?

Say that it’s so true.

I also met my husband looking like the plainest of janes. I am a plain Jane even though I clean up real nice. I've gone thru my whole life with ppl like her making me feel bad about my looks and it took a really long time to look in the mirror and not hate everything I saw.

She doesn’t even have on makeup. Just lashes and hair. Her brows aren’t done. Or no lipstick etc. Anyhow I got my husband with lashes and makeup. I mean it’s not that serious 😊

@@BlackberryTittiesmaybe at the moment she doesn’t have all that on but she self admitted that she’s done up most of the time. No one said you can’t get a man with makeup and weave. The men have just spoken and they prefer natural to that look when it comes to a spouse.

@@joylastname3035especially as a black women I felt like I always had to have my hair done up and have a certain “look” I’ve embraced my natural beauty but yup I clean up nice.

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You can still be pretty and well groomed as a plain Jane . It's not like they are talking about women who has bad hygiene and always looks a mess that's not a plain Jane. That's just someone for whatever reason isn't taking care of themselves . A plain Jane is a woman that's simple like quiet luxury 😉.

@@brynnk2518 I'm speaking of a different level of grooming and dress like the girl spoke of in the video. Has nothing to do with hygiene those are the basics.

THISSSSSSSSSS

But being plain Jane can be expensive too if you dress simple women are expensive period, I don't wear lashes or weave but my clothes are not cheap and I don't wear ghetto outfits I'm conservative with how I dress.

Yes, your smile. That's it. This girl isn't even pretty or humble.

you spoke facts!

Preach!!!

Because the truth of the matter is the actual “plain Jane” women are chosen for marriage. They get the benefits of legal protection, children born in wedlock, recognition in society (as a wife and not a babymomma), and receiving all of the assets when the husband passes away. These are the women who are usually raised to put others first and have character and nice personalities. A man honors that by being a protector and provider. Fidelity is not guaranteed. The “baddie” archetype has always existed. These are the chicks who think their looks are all they need to get/keep a man, the chicks who may think it’s ok to be a mistress, the chicks who willingly get knocked up by a married man, etc. Many of these chicks have extreme character flaws but don’t realize it, so they are relegated to “fun girl” status. Men have affairs with them, string them along, may even like them, but men don’t actually respect them or trust them enough for marriage because they know those women won’t make great mothers, won’t take care of the household and will probably cheat. If you marry properly and not just for love, then as the wife, you win in the long run. You just have to be aware of men’s nature before marriage so you know how to select the best man for you and are prepared to handle the bad times that may come. They used to teach girls this stuff back in the day. The girls who usually “marry well” were taught this stuff at a young age. Beautiful women get married everyday! But they are beautiful women who have more to offer than a pretty face.

@@f3042 I had to stop reading after you stated "the TRUTH of the matter is that actual plain Jane women are chosen for marriage"......That's not the truth of the matter, all different archetypes of women are chosen for marriage. Plain and ones who invest in the up keep of their looks. They're in my family, and all over the world. Men marry who they like and feel will be a good fit and others marry who is around after they have sewn their oats and are ready to settle down. Just because a woman is plain does not mean she is a loving, nurturing woman who is capable of being a good wife and just because a woman is beautifu, paints her nails and wears lipstick out to dinner does not mean she is self absorbed with no substance and not a quality woman. It's common sense to most women who have a level head, that looks are not a personality/character substitute. This is a young woman in the video who may not be there yet just like many young men are immature, shallow and not there yet. She does not represent most grown, mature women who upkeep themselves.

@@SparklingOnyx I’m not saying these tropes/archetypes are set in stone, but I think it’s important to understand how men generally view women. And I’m not talking about beautiful women who are healthy and normal, I’m talking about the type of woman in this video who literally thinks makeup and wigs is what makes a woman beautiful or appealing. I have nothing against upkeep because I’ve been on top of my beauty routine since I was a teen. The point was, there are many men who will tell you they married a woman who wasn’t as focused on aesthetics. Doesn’t mean they are “plain” or unattractive; it just means they don’t feel the need to follow every single beauty trend to feel beautiful.

Darling, how are you calling these people your “friends”?! Why would you associate with someone who would say that about you TO you AND your future hubby 😮😮😮

@@f3042 she apologized and made amends for a while and I thought she was being genuine till it popped back again down the line. I did cut her off completely several years ago.

She's NOT your friend. She's an opp, dressed in frenemy clothing. Do not under any circumstances confuse the two. Off with her head. Cut ties, block, and keep it moving. Friends uplift and edify. The opposition does the opposite. Know the difference. A beautiful heart deserves love. Your husband saw that in you. Period.

Damn that's horrible. Lady drop those friends they only kept you around to make themselves feel "prettier". Drop them please!!

Work on your self esteem. A woman who is trashing your name should not be in your circle.

I can relate to what you're saying😃

This is me too I can do both equally and be confident in both

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 girl you're beautiful do you. I work more than anything and when its time to dress up I go in!!! But most times Im dressed to grind and I have my 4 children so I'm busy.

I only wash my face, apply coco butter lotion on my face my hair braided, make sure am in shape which I am only 125 pounds and 5'8, put on my dresss and my heels, men do compliment alot wuth my Natural beauty..

I’ll tell you right now, THIS girl, IS the happy medium. Her makeup is MINIMAL. Yes her nails are a bit much, but that’s really it. But here’s the thing about black men’s behavior people don’t know, they DESPISE BLACK women. That means they want to tear them down no MATTER what. The only time they seem not too obsessed with tearing a black woman down is when she’s basically admitted ti bd being a borderline slave to A BLACK man. THEN they have praises for her. But as you can see this one has a mind of her own. I’ve noticed that a while ago and I keep looking for evidence that I’m wrong but it’s really sparse. This girl is asking a LEGIT question. Yet she’s being ridiculed for the most part. This guy says “I won’t be harsh” but he WAS. He maybe didn’t do it as bad as others, but he DEFINITELY did it. And BLACK women have been brainwashed to reflect black men’s values, which is why the women here are also lambasting her and desperate to find something wrong with her.

Thisssssss 👏

🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻🤌🏻

They love to put ppl in a boxes it raises there self esteem

She's marketing

I used to dress in hood gear, sweatshirts and get hit on all the time. I now know it's because they think your easier to obtain and talk to than the high maintenance women. Basically you become a magnet for dusties.