Things you can do to accelerate your healing journey

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@amandaborn84 3 ай бұрын

Nobody on a KZfaq channel has ever made more sense and knew my story than Dr.Ramani.

@saritastreng2673 2 ай бұрын

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@joyss1042 Ай бұрын

Same.. Dr. Ramani saved my life.

@paradiseacres9724 Ай бұрын

Absolute truth!! 🙌🏻💯🥰🙏🏻

@kelsawalsh9271 4 ай бұрын

It’s so hard to heal when it’s your own mother who doesn’t really care about you. 😢

@louniece1650 4 ай бұрын

Mother and Grandmother, here.☝🏾😢

@crazy4color869 4 ай бұрын

Honey, I feel your pain. My mother has developed days of true kindness here and there. I just can't fall for her reeling me back in. That is the brutal part- getting you to trust them so they can slam you again. She used to just be critical and verbally brutal to me most of the time. Now there are periods of nice with her. If I get sick or have a bad day, she will usually destroy me emotionally. Once in a great while she will support me but only to turn again.

@crazy4color869 4 ай бұрын

BTW, I care about you. You don't deserve to be disregarded and disrespected.

@gregpendrey6711 4 ай бұрын

Mine never did. She saw a doctor and told him and he told her love will come. She told him I know it won't. Guess what? It never did and she lied about it. I would have been better to have known the truth. Less crazy dissonance. No doubt in my mind anymore with help from our good Dr. Ramani. It's OK . Neither of us asked for me to be.

@crazy4color869 4 ай бұрын

@@gregpendrey6711one time when I was a teen, my heart was breaking I begged my mother for comfort. She sat next to me on the couch and stared ahead while I cried my heart out. I asked of she could just love me for a moment. Her rely in a flat voice was, "I have no love for you." Now many years later when she hangs up the phone she tosses out "love ya" making sure I say it back, but it is hollow.

@crazy4color869 4 ай бұрын

It depends on the narcissist. The outright vicious ones are easier to emotionally cut off than the "good cop bad cop" type who can be very nice and supportive at times then suddenly twist it back on you.

@Greenawareness188 4 ай бұрын

That is an awful way to treat you .

@bestm333 4 ай бұрын

Yes I completely concur with you God bless you💚💟💛 its not always possible to follow view videos whole time💚💟💛God bless you...One thing I do struggle with is complete no contact... I can do lesser contact but can't do complete no contact because if I do I face the consequences of being blackmailed by the narcissistic person...I'm then accused of grey rocking + gaslighting them for having boundaries,+ trying to help the narc see things from others perspectives leads the narc to accuse me of invalidating them😭I just can't win no matter what + if i went complete no contact they would inform people with power,that I'm cold,uncaring + hostile,which would ultimately have dire destructive impactfulness on my Family's+I's lives,so I'm lost as to what I should do😭💚

@circesercy2190 4 ай бұрын

Absolutely 🎉 yes !

@crazy4color869 4 ай бұрын

@@bestm333 That is the brutal part of the abuse. It really is a cruel way to treat people who just want to live and not play mind games. It is a miracle I held on as long as I did. I remember the first time someone actually saw through my "pillar of the community" parents and believed me, I cried. Someone actually saw what I was seeing!

@bestm333 4 ай бұрын

@@crazy4color869 yes its completely horrendous isn't it I just can't comprehend how the eviler ones sleep + have no conscience in concerns to the upset they cause + the hurt...Smearing our nmes etc I'm delighted someone could see through what you went through God bless you Well done tremendously much so for holding on You're tower of strength motivation inspiration to others Please remember this forevermore💚💟💛

@mariehughey5390 4 ай бұрын

Peaceful, joyful, calm, love, all feelings I miss when I’m around narcissistic people. They suck it right out of the entire room.

@mariehughey5390 4 ай бұрын

This was my favorite video of yours. Very helpful. And thankfully I feel I’m headed in the right direction.

@Rhondi_YeahItsMe 4 ай бұрын

Same! Thank you for this video. They literally drain the energy out of the room and out of you.

@NarcSurvivor 4 ай бұрын

No contact. Self-reflection. Meditation/mindfulness. Journaling. Listening to inspirational music or reading inspirational books. Getting a massage. Hot baths and scented candles.

@bestm333 4 ай бұрын

Love these ideas Thank you for simplifying immensely appreciated because its not always possible to follow view videos whole time💚💟💛God bless you...One thing I do struggle with is complete no contact... I can do lesser contact but can't do complete no contact because if I do I face the consequences of being blackmailed by the narcissistic person...I'm then accused of grey rocking + gaslighting them for having boundaries,+ trying to help the narc see things from others perspectives leads the narc to accuse me of invalidating them😭I just can't win no matter what + if i went complete no contact they would inform people with power,that I'm cold,uncaring + hostile,which would ultimately have dire destructive impactfulness on my Family's+I's lives,so I'm lost as to what I should do😭💚

@kimwarburton8490 4 ай бұрын

@@bestm333 look for ways such that the narc cannot destroy you n your family. Can you move? Can you report blackmail? change jobs? etc But more immediately, something i've learned is to stop caring about other's opinion of me. Im getting ALOT of pressure from my nan to resume contact with my mum and i know my mum has gone all victim mode, full of tears, pretend confusion, im the bad guy etc to her. And my nan has bought it hook line n sinker :( I enjoy talking to my nan for the most part, but i am half-prepared that she may withdraw from me, may turn against me completely. If that happens, at age 41 i will have no blood family left. Only contact with 3 people in real life (FWB, ex partner o my mum's and current partner, both of whom see and experienced her narc abuse), a best-friend who lives abroad. This is due in part to having MECFS whereby socialising was off the table, one of my bigger triggers for symptoms, so i lost contact with my old friends (probably for the good, many were toxic n i have fear id end up going back to 'old kim' with the ones who wernt regardless XD) So as someone who is truly socially isolated, it is MUCH better to be alone than with the toxic people. You can always find other healthier people in the future to replace them. Let the narc accuse you, in a way they are correct about grey rock to protect yourself and what they think doesnt matter, there is nothing you can do except avoid them which will stop their abuse. Stop trying to help the narc understand others, it gives them your attention n thus supply. Those people with power n blackmail is where my concern for you lies. It sounds as if you need an experienced therapist to help you navigate the journey to freedom, because it sounds as if the consequences are more than mine (losing all my family and a life-changing inheritance)

@jokendrick2124 4 ай бұрын

@@bestm333Self protect at all costs. It isn't easy but how bad so you want to be hurt repeatedly? Takes time to adjust but you will be happier.

@ysunsets 4 ай бұрын

Scented anything will make your body retard healing... very physically detrimental 👎

@oyandakona5994 4 ай бұрын

My kinda Joy❤️

@sparkygump 4 ай бұрын

No contact is the only way to begin to completely heal from these reptiles.

@peacerun 4 ай бұрын

Totally agree - it’s taken me a long time to get to No Contact but I’m almost there and finally now healing.

@irinadumitru9088 4 ай бұрын

@@peaceruntrue...but they try to ,appeal ,you with their toxic presence!

@roxaneauer360 4 ай бұрын

Not sure

@leefossett5777 3 ай бұрын

I had an identity crisis when I went no contact, but sometimes that’s what it takes. Forgiving doesn’t mean letting them continue to abuse.

@sparkygump 3 ай бұрын

@@leefossett5777 very well said.

@mikejarrells431 4 ай бұрын

Thanks. My goal is independence, authenticity, & individuation. Camus said, "My very existence is an act of rebellion." Don't settle. Break the cycle. Rebel. We got this. Let's go!

@pamwhitehouse5961 4 ай бұрын

😢❤😂F----, yeeeah!

@bellaluce7088 4 ай бұрын

YES! Thanks for this great comment!😃❤💪

@nontobekobiyela2548 3 ай бұрын

Mhmmmm God sent post!

@LValley-kz3yc 4 ай бұрын

I asked a paraplegic if he was still angry at the drunk driver who hit him when he was 17 years old. He replied "If I stay angry, I will then be giving him my brain. I will not offer him any more of me than what he took."

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@clarecollins2547 4 ай бұрын

😢

@LValley-kz3yc 4 ай бұрын

He was more alive than anyone I have met. He owned his home and other property, ran a beautiful plant business, drove his van. His conversations were intensely insightful. The birds, turtles and wildlife would sit with him. Truly amazing and special person.

@JG-bs5xy 4 ай бұрын

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@joycefiore2721 3 ай бұрын

Inspiring! @@LValley-kz3yc

@leefossett5777 4 ай бұрын

This is such a process. I never realized how “conditioned” I was till I started listening to your videos. Thank you.

@annjohnson8437 4 ай бұрын

Same. I had learned over the past twenty-seven years in a marriage to a narcissist that me being/acting happy is a big no-no. Since I found Dr. Ramani, I have been defying him and doing things I want to do. I often have to do it on the sly, but I am experiencing joy again. It feels wonderful! ❤

@twovirginiacats3753 4 ай бұрын

@@annjohnson8437 Exactly. You have to make a conscious effort to do things on your own and not mention it to him.

@kattfranklin6933 4 ай бұрын

I agree

@Thatonechick778 4 ай бұрын

Me too. I didn’t realize how much I was shrinking myself and how I’d become a shell of my normal self just to avoid any of his bad behavior. So glad to have gotten away and trying to rediscover myself again

@DoubleOSevenOO7 4 ай бұрын

@@annjohnson8437 oh yes, I know that feeling all too well! I wasn’t ever allowed to be happy if I were I’d have hell to pay!! One time when we lived in Florida I worked at Supercuts and one of my coworker friends and I along with my husband went to a place called Mercado in Orlando to listen to a band and have a nice evening.. so my friend and I were clapping and watching the band my husband didn’t like it that he was being ignored. Why wasn’t he having fun listening to the band he wasn’t being ignored we were just enjoying ourselves. He took his foot and stomped on the top of mine really hard he had boots on and told me to stop acting like that!! 😡

@peacerun 4 ай бұрын

“Joy is an Act of Resistance” ToI Derricote quote hangs in my kitchen. Truly my joy is evidence of my victory over all the insanity ❤

@kathleenferguson3296 4 ай бұрын

I'm going to embroider one for my kitchen!

@jenp5759 4 ай бұрын

That one struck me too. Going to post around my place.

@jenp5759 4 ай бұрын

@@kathleenferguson3296good idea

@sueg2658 4 ай бұрын

Yes it is an act of resistance!

@reneelibby4885 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this! I'm proud of the work I've done on healing. And they don't need to know anything about it. It's not about them and therefore, they don't care. Living well IS the best revenge. Remember it DOES get better and you can change. They can't, and they are miserable human beings.

@sueg2658 4 ай бұрын

100% true!

@laylakeket6279 4 ай бұрын

So needed to hear this 🤗🤗. Thank you 🙏🏼.

@sushmayen 4 ай бұрын

We might not know what we are capable of until we go down completely and then pick ourselves up. Let them live in their illusion and focus on your life and your future.

@Greenawareness188 4 ай бұрын

@sushmayen you are very wise !

@goodlooking6704 4 ай бұрын

Very true. I became a widow and orphan at 30yo almost homeless away from my home country. I never had a child of my own and never will because he was a narcissist and her boyfriends sexually abused me for years as an infant. May them RIP. I live to help others. ❤🥳✌️

@rosaliesutton6752 4 ай бұрын

Narcissistic abuse changes their victims brain chemistry. Most people who've experienced narcissist abuse are learning how to manage and navigate Cptsd. I feel for those going through it.

@LindaLouiseFord 4 ай бұрын

@rosaliesutton6752- I have felt as you say but I later realized that as someone who has had hold on , endure and exert my grit to survive, I realize I am clever and strong person once I learned the game plan of the narcissist. I’m at the point where I can accept adventures and take safe risks for fun because I have new energy. My energy is no longer used to manage the narcissist. I can set boundaries, avoid these destructive persons and get beyond it all. That said, it has taken a few years. These videos are so helpful to me. I know longer want to feel sorry for myself… no, Im not being toxic positive. I will review the narcissistic nonsense as a way to measure how far I’ve come.

@latasha9898 Ай бұрын

thats me

@oceanwoods 4 ай бұрын

Listening to the music you love, but they hated, at full volume. Eating the foods you like without criticism (and self criticism). Having an everyday polite conversation to random strangers at the store, without being terrorized your going to get a lifetime of abuse. Taking hours to shop, or wander, or drive around, even with no purpose in mind, just because you can. Wearing whatever you like, disregarding how you look. Laying around all day in pjs, watching what you like, without being made fun of. Embracing your challenges and everyday problems, without having to take on their drama as well. Being emotional in any way you are feeling. Going to places you love, and spending as much time as you want, doing what you like. Breaking out any childhood toys you may have, or replacing the ones you used to love. Rewatching old cartoons, tv shows, and films that you loved. Buy a jar of bubbles and go run across a park with a soapy wand. Volunteer to work with animals, the elderly, or kids.

@Samuel_L.B 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. This spoke to me. I'm in the process of going no contact from the narcissistic family members in my life. The rumination, guilt and grief I'm already feeling is hard. Just reading what you wrote, I envisioned myself doing these small but rewarding thing's, and it made me feel happy. You reminded me that I can have a life outside the narcissist, that the small thing's do matter. Thank you so much, I appreciate you. ❤❤❤

@kericarlson9213 2 ай бұрын

Same as SamuelB❤

@rypoelk997 4 ай бұрын

Walking in the park and talking to birds has become a luxury

@pamelafields699 4 ай бұрын

I spent my birthday alone. The narcissist called but I didn't answer I didn't want to hear anything negative that day.😊

@yolondagoode9656 2 ай бұрын

I spent my 60 bday with my family,the narc in my life got dressed up & took his 94 yr old mother out to eat! No card,no flowers,no recognition. 😢

@yolondagoode9656 2 ай бұрын

Narcissist are the most evil,cold hearted people I've ever met

@Kerri7021 2 ай бұрын

Before I went no contact I used to save the dreaded phone calls for days when I was already in a bad mood because of course he only has contempt, mockery, criticism, or at best indifference to offer. Narcs love to wreck your day, spoil the moment, and feel powerful when they can see how they’ve triggered you. Good for you for not picking up!

@jilllandrum4849 2 ай бұрын

I totally understand & ABSOLUTELY MOST 🎉❤ DEFINITELY BIG Time agree 👍💯👍😊😂🎉❤ with U on this!!! I did I did something just like that on a different significant day, (Father's Day actually), & also NOT responding to the vulnerable narcissist's 😢😮"bread crumbing"/"love bombing" texts AND even "bread crumbed" them 😅😊🎉❤🎉❤(HaHa) by sending them an "out of the blue" text asking for "clarification" on their NO LONGER" effective gaslighting Love Luv LOVE bombing hovering ruminating texts🎉❤🎉😊🎉🎉🎉!!!! OMG U Guys, seriously, No joke, it felt Soo so friggin good 👍😊👍🎉❤🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😅😂🎉to KNOW, REALLY KNOW that "I" REALLY REALLY had FINALLY gotten this stuff & he wasn't having an emotionally negative effect & NOR "power" over me anymore, & I REALLY knew , like REALLY REALLY knew for sure he NEVER EVER would again; OMFG FELT Soo so VERY VERY AMAZINGLY GREAT 👍😊👍😊🎉🎉🎉!!!

@jilllandrum4849 2 ай бұрын

😢 I'm feeling ya & I'm REALLY truly sorry they did that to you and made U, who I'm REALLY sure, IS & DESERVES to be BOTH Celebrated AND Acknowledged not just bc it's your birthday 🎉🎂🎉🎂❤❤, but also bc U just being the Wonderfully amazing person I'm SURE YOU are & ALWAYS HAVE BEEN as an awesome person, an awesome person in their life & REALLY maybe 🤔🧐 even MORE importantly DESPITE them having been in Your life & having done ALL the truly awful horrible things I'm sure THEY did to U!?!?! I REALLY want U to know that I get U & see & feel U! Sending YOU MUCH love 💕❤️🤗👍😊 😘 Luv LOVE & BIG BIG HUGS & validation on YOUR SPECIAL DAY! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 (Hope you'll see & read this & receive it in the way I intend! 🤗🎂💕❤️😻🙏🙏🎉👍😘👍🤗

@sallyfrost5002 4 ай бұрын

My ex would lose his temper and get aggressive if I dared to laugh and smile if he wasn't having a good day. I stopped laughing and smiling around him but kept on laughing and smiling in private. I'm glad I refused to fully stop being joyful for him. It's great since the breakup as I can be happy without checking to make sure he doesn't find out I am happy without his permission! Hugs to all survivors of narcissistic abuse.

@UteNagel 4 ай бұрын

Hugs🤗

@jamielyn9923 4 ай бұрын

Yes! Big 🤗 hugs!!!

@katielangsner495 4 ай бұрын

35:00 You don't need the narcissist the way the narcissist needs you. You are reason enough to heal! They really are just one other person, not the whole world they strive to be to someone else.

@missme3916 4 ай бұрын

This xmas I 'rescued a hurt'. I had been sad about the fact that my Narc Mom did not celebrate me even when I was the All City Doubles Champion while in High School. I saw a Sweater with a Tennis Racquet on it and it brought the memory back how it wasn't celebrated. I decided to order the sweater and chose the gift option and wrote in the card "All City Champ, I am sooo proud of you. Way to go". When it came I was so excited, read the card, put it on my fridge tried on my sweater....it fit and is so cute and I feel so good about it. Now I can look back with pride on my feat. I really feel like I time traveled and gave that champ the fanfare she deserves!

@bellaluce7088 4 ай бұрын

Love this so much! Bravo for being a tennis champ AND winning at self-love!👏 🎾🏆🌿😃🌿🏆❤

@lottiebrown999 2 ай бұрын

Congratulations 🎊 Be proud of You!! Let your light shine brightly always ❤ don't let others dim it...ever.

@user-wb3qo5mh9w Ай бұрын

This is an intriguing idea. I might try this with my next birthday. Thank you for sharing. ❤

@missme3916 Ай бұрын

@@user-wb3qo5mh9w Hey Fuzzy, Happy Birthday 🎂 in advance! It was very helpful for me, as now when I think of my tennis days I think about my sweater, it certainly put some distance/a barrier between me and what Narc mom did (failed to do). I guess it's like filling a vacuum or void with what we want there! ❤

@Strengtheningselffirst2 4 ай бұрын

“Yo, you didn’t mess me up!!!” I cracked up at the beginning of your video, because that was definitely my driving force years ago. Thanks to people like you, I am so grateful to have come out of that state of being, to now feeling, thinking and actions of - sorry buddy you no longer get any of my energy at all

@idrawpeopleandanimals7252 4 ай бұрын

Your knowledge is making me feel so self-empowered. I am finding joy again in the little things with every new day that passes. That makes me so happy. I forgot how much I truly enjoy life. I feel like I am gulping in lungfuls of fresh air and nourishing my soul that has been begging for attention and care. ❤❤❤

@SweepDailyWin 4 ай бұрын

Your comment is so beautiful! I praying you are filled with joy!

@gigibtsurvivor3348 4 ай бұрын

You are describing glimmers. Little joys you experience in the randomness of life.

@jenp5759 4 ай бұрын

It does suck to hear many of the expressions you’ve said. The backhanded compliments, the admonishments about being selfish if I wasn’t agreeing and propping them up and having the rug pulled out from under me when I shared things about myself. Not being seen or worth listening to had me shutting down and building a wall around me. I still feel some grief, anger and sadness about the pathetic ways I looked for approval from others for far too long as an adult.

@1o1carolina53 4 ай бұрын

Codependency requires a lot of work to change our perception and our focus and to forgive ourselves and simply accept what other people do for their choice and move on make our best life

@yolondagoode9656 Ай бұрын

I wasnt able to celebrate any bday/ holiday the way i wanted to for 15 yrs being in a narcissistic abusive relationship,so now that i escaped,im celebrating EVERY HOLIDAY this year to the top! ❤

@tracyking5945 4 ай бұрын

You’ve turned stories of tragedies into stories of transcendence - for us all. Thank you Dr. Ramani! ❤️🙋🏻‍♀️

@wendypayne7693 4 ай бұрын

Always remember that you get to change and heal. You get to have love and compassion in your life. You get to have peace in your home. You get to have gratitude in the knowledge that you now see things as they really are, instead of how you wish and want them to be. Your "mother" is stuck with her strange way of looking at the world, and her strange way of "loving" orhers FOREVER. Be at peace.

@Purplecredence9 4 ай бұрын

Happy birthday Dr Ramani. You are a precious human being and millions of us adore and love you . Thank you for your work

@terrykafka6631 12 күн бұрын

❤

@omarra6781 4 ай бұрын

I've heard the small moments, the little bits of joy you find in life called "glimmers". Enjoy the glimmers.

@deniseclaeys8295 4 ай бұрын

Get on with life as best you can- because we never know when those joyful moments will happen. Recently I got new tires (and I was SO grateful to be able to buy them), and needed to drive 25 miles before taking them back to retighten the lug nuts. I randomly drove to a body of water just out of town, where the light and reflections were particularly perfect at that moment. It was such a beautiful sight, I pulled into a muddy parking lot next to the lake in order to take it in. I was alone and completely transported. I drove back to the tire store completely uplifted in the hoy of nature. The feeling stayed with me for days. What an unexpected gift! 🙏

@deniseclaeys8295 4 ай бұрын

Joy not hoy! Lol!

@subarashiiai16 4 ай бұрын

Oh man, as I was litening to the first section about feeling joy in the little things, I realized that throughout my relationship I was constantly pulled into their little joys and little wins and pressured to fawn over the littlest things, but I wasn't able to share in any of my own joys because the narcisistic ego sucked the joy out of life.

@tinazapata1379 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. Negative self talk was ingrained in me. I'm guilty of referring to myself in every negative way you mentioned. Learning to love yourself is a difficult beautiful journey. ❤

@Healingconsciously444 4 ай бұрын

Here are some effective tips for healing from narcissistic abuse: 1. Seek professional help: It's important to seek therapy or counseling from a professional who is experienced in treating narcissistic abuse. They can provide you with the support and tools you need to heal from the trauma. 2. Set boundaries: Establishing healthy boundaries is crucial in protecting yourself from further abuse. It's important to learn how to assert yourself and say no to things that are not in your best interest. 3. Practice self-care: Engage in self-care activities that bring you joy and relaxation, such as meditation, exercise, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is essential for healing. 4. Educate yourself: Educate yourself about narcissistic abuse and the tactics used by narcissists. Understanding the dynamics of abuse can help you make sense of your experiences and empower you to move forward. 5. Surround yourself with support: Seek out a strong support network of friends and family who can offer you love, understanding, and empathy. It's important to have people in your corner who believe and support you as you navigate the healing process. It's important to prioritize your healing journey because narcissistic abuse can have long-lasting effects on your mental and emotional well-being. It can lead to symptoms of depression, anxiety, PTSD, and low self-esteem. By prioritizing your healing journey, you are taking the necessary steps to reclaim your power, restore your sense of self-worth, and move forward to a healthier and happier life. Your healing journey can also help you break the cycle of abuse and establish healthier relationships in the future.

@kriswinters4225 Ай бұрын

same, this channel helps with catching sometimes whereas before it could go on and on for months without a single other person picking up on it - you perfect masking so that only you know the internal punishments your handing out keeping up the narcissists' work for them without realizing it

@Omneyvdwatering 4 ай бұрын

Changing my language was hard but it really helped. I also gave that negative dialogue a name. It helped me to realize this was not me, it was what my mother said to me which i internalized. Now i don't say I failed or that I'm stupid. I say "I almost made it work!" "I can be a bit clumsy (and that's fine)"

@CTHou13 4 ай бұрын

I love your response. I almost made it work. I’m gonna move it into my internal dialogue. It needs the replace the I’m worthless. I’m nothing. I’m gonna be nothing. I can achieve nothing. And I deserve nothing Dialogue was left inside of me by my narcissistic mother. Thank you for that tidbit. It was very helpful.

@Omneyvdwatering 4 ай бұрын

@@CTHou13 you're welcome. it was a game changer for me too. With friends we gave all our negative internal talks a name. The name of mine is Kees. So now when i have those thoughts, the next moment i think. " wow.. Kees has an opinion. Go touch grass Kees" . It takes some getting used to, but this also really worked for me to pinpoint the things I internalised because of my mother, and what I might actually be capable of.

@kdycruz 4 ай бұрын

I enjoy nature and I experienced beautiful nature situations that is not easy to explain to common people. Must of the people around me don't care about nature situations and few of them don't like nature. But thanks God for all beautiful things and nature that we can enjoy everyday. Thank you so much Dr Ramani, blessings 🙏

@Greenawareness188 4 ай бұрын

Nature feels sacred !😊

@RiverAngel312 4 ай бұрын

My best healing moments have happened while taking quiet time in nature.

@elzechristinedun6387 4 ай бұрын

Nature nourishes, nature heals, nature gives back you to You.

@bluemoony102 4 ай бұрын

Me too

@kathrynhayes1799 4 ай бұрын

And remember- if you are able to get away, and you later have any contact with them, they will tell you their current situation is so wonderful, just perfect, and they are truly happy. - designed to remind you you just didn’t cut the mustard. It’s not true- their situation could be, and soon will be, s..t, and they will be moving on again. The person I last shared a house with - it was like living with a zombie - though every night she was on the phone to her friends laughing, telling them how wonderful everything was in this new location. Then when she hung up she returned to her zombie state with me. I used to watch this and think she’s rebuilding her ego. That’s about the time I found Dr R’s videos, and learned what I was seeing. Now, if I text with her, and she gives me the same how wonderful life is here routine, I text back that mine is great too, which actually now that she’s gone it is. Still work to do, but oh, it is.

@yaminiayachitam 4 ай бұрын

After I start feeling happy again, I question myself if this state was so easy how come I was stuck in sad state for so many years. Then I start to feel may be I could have achieved this state while I was in the relationship. Then I contact them,then things go wrong, then I realize, 'yes, that's why!!'

@user-uy8hc8bx7h Ай бұрын

Dr Ramani, Truly, what I’ve learned about narcissism in the past few weeks has been life changing for me. I left a 43 year marriage last year and so wish I’d had this information long ago- It has been quite a journey. The things I have learned lately just stop me in my tracks because I felt so alone. The confusion, deception, gaslighting, etc. have been my life for so long and it took an incident last year to make me realize I was not safe and could not continue. I feel so much better after just a year, like I’m getting me back! Along with all the craziness, my ex husband was seriously addicted to prescription medication and I always felt like I had to take care of him. I realize now that I’ve lived many years in a toxic and hopeless marriage. My three children were very supportive of my decision to leave and honestly if it weren’t for the support of family and friends, I’d still be married but very much alone. I could go on, but just want to thank you for your work and for others. It has helped me more than you’ll ever know. Thank you-❤

@elizabethlawrence-qj2dz 4 ай бұрын

On my 60th birthday, kind of a milestone, my narc partner decided we were going out to dinner with the woman he liked to triangulate me with and her husband. We went to a restaurant he chose because he wanted to impress this other woman. Then, he let her husband pay the tab. The woman and her husband are very kind people. They even brought me a small gift and a birthday card, which was more than my partner did. It was the worst birthday ever.

@Stardustpal25 4 ай бұрын

Why did you go?

@CrazyEightyEights 4 ай бұрын

It sounds awful. I'm sorry.

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

❤

@user-uz8np4iv8g Ай бұрын

OMG, absolutely dreadful. My 60th Birthday, worked a 12 hr shift, then 1hr commute home to Narc on the sofa watching TV. No mention of my special day,No Dinner, Card, acknowledgement, so I made a cheese toasty.... for myself

@SheilaChung-rt5iy 4 ай бұрын

Yes Dr. Ramani. I had someone ask me “was it that bad?” And yes I’m feeling a little better being where I am at. Thank you!💙

@audbaltzersenrameckers8832 Ай бұрын

I have been feeling more joy and thriving again. Not being so exhausted anymore. Enjoying my plants, spring, my new neighbours. I feel like I'm living more now instead of surviving 🙏💖🌟💚🌷🐦🦋💯❤️

@stephanieschulze179 4 ай бұрын

I ran into my ex-narc at a wedding and was terrified before hand as how I would handle it. I did find. He was full of questions and when the opportunity appearred, I got up moved away. It had been 20 to 25 years & he has not changed. I had! Your words have been a blessing to me. I am so strong now. Thank you for giving me the strength to do my life I now have.

@insiteandawareness3500 4 ай бұрын

I realized that through the years I have had a lot of narcissistic relationships with my family, my partners and my former workplace. Last year I had an awakening to all of it and I said NO not anymore. I was done dealing with any of it and now I'm on the path of healing. New job and I'm doing a lot of work on my own besides the trauma group I recently joined. It's worth it even when I feel lonely at least I can be myself without someone judging and putting me down.

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

How did you find a trauma group?

@insiteandawareness3500 4 ай бұрын

@@n00990 Through my therapist.

@hashsand 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for speaking about joy, I have noticed it in my experience as a narc survivor from childhood - how I feel scared to feel happy or enjoy a moment, it felt dangerous and triggered flashbacks, and it is so difficult to give myself permission to feel joy but is so important to learn to do. I can see how learning to let myself feel joy in safety can finally let my nervous system learn to Relax as well, which it probably hasn't even learned to do ever.

@HJustme855 4 ай бұрын

Healing brings many pressures. And in some weird way the worst one is having to respond to the rigmoral of healing.Which can feel like an extension of the original pain. Joy cuts through this. Back to the person you were and still are in reality.

@Greenawareness188 4 ай бұрын

True !

@user-rx5tl3wm2y 4 ай бұрын

I think I agree but what exactly do you mean ? Having to respond to them ? I didn't think that's what you meant. Hope your doing good

@idageraldes6047 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for doing what you do. You saved me. JOY ok

@sand0077 4 ай бұрын

Where I live in Sonoma County there's much joy to be found in the outdoors. A trip to the coast through rolling green hills and farmlands does it for me giving that warm and fuzzy feeling inside. To hell with the narcissist, let them stew in the quagmire of their own creation!

@rainwaterfallsapothecaryay8102 4 ай бұрын

Hey Doc, life is a school and you are Aceing it 💖🙌..

@Eltonscruggs 4 ай бұрын

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

@Eltonscruggs 4 ай бұрын

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?

@Eltonscruggs 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

@kathykonkle1097 4 ай бұрын

Three months is not much time and it's normal to feel so sad this soon after someone you love leaves, dies or disappoints you. As time goes by you'll most likely find you think about her less often and have more moments of peace. Making new friends and staying busy helps a lot. My boyfriend of 22 years dumped me about three years ago and ran off with a woman 15 years younger than he is who had literally stalked our relationship for decades intent on stealing him from me. The effect she had on me was pure poison. I still cry now and then but I don't think about him that much anymore except when things remind me which seems unavoidable. Like going my bills to pay taxes and finding a photo of him and that sort of thing. Time heals all wounds and like John Lennon said "Time wounds all heels." Karma is a real thing. Sometimes it takes years, but Karma always arrives.

@Coolgirl1309 4 ай бұрын

Here's the thing: A month ago, I found out that both of my parents are narcissists, and I'm currently in a grieving process from a friend I loved so much, who happens to be a narcissist, and who decided to discard me and go no contact. So now I'm trying to understand how to heal from the hurts of these important people in my life 💔

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

❤

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

😢

@ecamposchamorro 4 ай бұрын

Doc - I recently turned the corner. I stood firm on my boundaries. my sister tried to break my no contact with my mom and I was really proud to say I stood firm for myself and no one else. Im really proud of the work I'm doing to heal my inner child, she feels a bit better . Thank you

@PaigeSquared 4 ай бұрын

It has been difficult to laugh, the last few years. I really got on the path to healing when my son was born. My husband wasn't on board. He completely checked out, lived in the house and ate the food, but didn't pay a cent. I had been handling the household, baby, and returned to work. When I became happy again, when I was able to make it work, the abuse amped up. He was willing to step outside of the covert cover and be blatantly demeaning; speaking to me like a dog, for example. If you are in a relationship with a sense of resentment, be careful with your joy. Keep it close. Obviously do a test, but if you're here, you probably know how they'll respond. If I had not shown him that I was doing okay while he was in my house, I might have been able to dodge the bankruptcy that came with divorce.

@leilagomulka5690 4 ай бұрын

A beautiful piece . I found joy in your. Words. ❤

@watchmeheal1176 4 ай бұрын

Girl!!!! You were supposed to hear that song in that exact moment!! The universe is always sending is comfort, encouragement, and love when we need it! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

@michaeleckert5877 4 ай бұрын

It is about finding joy in he little things.Happiness .😊😊

@gabrielafonseca4034 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. I'm fed up with the affirmation, positive thinking, confidence, believe in yourself thing so many therapists hammer into me. It's great for other people and more power to them. Me and my therapist know it's not for me, so it's nice someone else understands

@maryellenyork2819 4 ай бұрын

Your videos have validated my experience. Thank you!

@MrLarrySunshine 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this. Thinking back, 8 years ago when I started with my awesome, now retired therapist, she definitely tackled my negative self talk. It blew me away, how cruel I was to myself. How many of the phrases were just me repeating what had been flung at me in anger so many years ago. Painful and transformative. I love your channel. 🕊❤️

@indianagirl500 4 ай бұрын

Thank you ! Standing firm on no contact . Pure intentions and healing as I let go of baggage not meant for me to carry. Choices of discernment. Causes and effects leads to the consequences we endure. Savor the present moments and live with the joy of the smallest most beautiful moments

@dianeforpeece8166 4 ай бұрын

Dr Ramani - Narc was a lesson in my life , you have been a blessing - thank you !!!

@VS-yb7oq 4 ай бұрын

Oh my goodness, THANK YOU DR RAMANI!!!! Your video breaks me into tears, convicts my heart, mind and soul. How true, but very challenging to go through to heal. I am in the process of divorcing my 38 1/2 years of marriage to a narcissistic husband. I have met obstacles after obstacle to get an attorney and to get the process of serving my husband w/papers. I am absolutely burned out and exhausted, trying to keep going even though I feel every door closing in on me. Attorneys are overloaded, court system bogged down, UGH! One day at a time - not giving up on “getting out” beginning a NEW LIFE free of abuse and continued journey to healing the parts of me that died long ago . . .I catch myself laughing from time to time and being surprised to “catch myself” laughing again, like REALLY laughing, and giving myself internally an “that a girl” applause for feeling ALIVE again. Words are insufficient to express my immense gratitude for the GOOD work you are doing! God bless you abundantly, Dr. Ramani. Prayers for healing for all those souls out there in the world struggling to heal from these toxic relationships.

@UteNagel 4 ай бұрын

Blessings❤️

@natashasemrau3670 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr. R. I am keeping it real. To moderate is better, and to find peace in a storm. Now the endings look good to me. I had a bunch of break ups all at once. They were heavy burdens that needed to go. Blessings be.🙊🙉🙈🎸🎸🎸😍😍😍🌹🌹🌹🫐🫐🫐💪💪💪🌺🌺🌺🦓🦓🦓🌽🌽🌽🌠🌠🌠🍀🍀🍀🎎🎎🎎🌈🌈🌈🔥🔥🔥🍄🍄🍄🎏🎏🎏🦜🦜🦜💃🏿💃🏿💃🦚🦚🦚🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🐈‍⬛🎰🎰🎰🎨🎨🎨🫀🫀🫀🍀🍀🍀🫐🫐🫐🐒🐒🐒🌹🌹🌹💜💜💜😻😻

@tachikawaaki4467 4 ай бұрын

Happy Birthday Dr.Ramani! In case you have not heard enough: we love you so so so much .

@EastWind785 4 ай бұрын

Still finding it hard to enjoy small things. Each time I do it’s a concious effort and I speak it out aloud. I barely believe in the simple joys I lived for prior to meeting the Narc. Feel as if they stole my soul and am left with their harsh contempt and degrading view of me. Yes it’s a trauma wound. I’m still watching these videos to stop myself going back to them 3years on and to keep the joy I felt at being with them/falling for them at the beginning.

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

It's been 3yrs for me too and I still videos. In the beginning they saved my life,don't know how I found DE Ramoni nut Thank God I did

@jenp5759 4 ай бұрын

A friend recently shared a way to deal with others who aren’t self aware and are difficult and challenging, or just plain assholes. Seeing them as being badly programmed helps to have some degree of compassion for them and not take what they say or how they behave personally. So very hard to do though if still in contact with those kinds of people. Setting healthy and firm boundaries are key … and a learning process. You truly are a gift to us.😊

@kellyp4377 4 ай бұрын

This was very insightful!! Powerful Thank you 🦋

@karencox8699 4 ай бұрын

❤❤beautiful video! I have lived on each side of this! Joyful peaceful is beyond words! Thank you!

@user-wm5jc3vl1y 4 ай бұрын

3:01 For me, it is useful to focalize ourselves on our fears because They Stop the healing.

@RowlandTudor 4 ай бұрын

'Never outsource the work of your soul'. Brilliant! Never go in to the red on your soul account, there's always going to be interest to pay and penalties for going overdrawn. Dr Ramani - insightful, soul restoring, life enhancing, thank you

@Candence.Candance 4 ай бұрын

They steal our joy!! Thank you! I’ve been finding so much joy in the little moments, especially looking at the fast winter river in the desert before a possible flood year. The earth needs the water, which helps me overcome the impending flood watch doom.

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

I still am waiting for the other shoe to drop after 3 yrs

@douglasmiller1212 4 ай бұрын

I've heard that one from friends who don't understand -- "You seem to be doing OK." Wow, just because my soul has been crushed and I still have the self discipline keep my shit together long enough to hold a polite conversation with you, I must really be just fine! Thanks for filling me in!

@ruz4120 4 ай бұрын

Hi dr Ramani. Could you please do another video on neglectful narcissists - there is so little content about this online and this kind of narcissist is soooo confusing and difficult to understand. Thank you ❤

@CTHou13 4 ай бұрын

I am married to a neglectful narcissist, and I agree I would like to have much more content on this to help me understand, and perhaps give me the strength to leave so I can heal

@hanifakhan4808 4 ай бұрын

Thank you DR ! I wish i knew this 10 years a go.the healing process would be easier but anyway i am really proud of my self for making some brave decisions that time .❤

@An-mei 4 ай бұрын

So true! I have a letter from my oldest saw those things remind her of me to my youngest coming and telling me times and moments she remembers. Yet, I live a life in which I can't rejoice in grandparenting because of my abusers.

@n00990 4 ай бұрын

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@MohamedTuuraaye-cl5oy 4 ай бұрын

Healing Yourself Is Greatest Come Back...

@patm.-xq5tr 4 ай бұрын

So true- negative self talk is so reflexive. So is the voice of the narc parent that we hear in our mind even after we're grown up. Identifying it is so important.

@the.masked.one.studio4899 4 ай бұрын

💖Your video came up automatically after a key word search 2 years ago. I immediately felt an out of body experience because I finally had words for what was happening. My therapist, caseworker, and little sister helped me escape. Thank you so much 💖💖

@michaelwhite5834 4 ай бұрын

This is where I love you completely

@yaminiayachitam 4 ай бұрын

So true, even the beautiful things also look ugly and scary when we are in narcissistic relationships. Music and spirituality are supposed to be healing and beautiful. I have seen them being used in so toxic way, that I started to hate them. People use spirituality as something to boast about, "I am spiritual, I believe in god,I am so great" then they do all wrong things. It makes us lose interest in spirituality.

@Stardustpal25 4 ай бұрын

Very vulnerable topic♀️ Well done Dr. Ramani.🕯️🩷 🌟 Hope your 💜✨55th✨💜 was Splendid!🌟 🩷🥂💖🎁🩷🎂☕🍰🩷💛💜💜💛🩷 ✨Thank you for mountains of your work shared with us, healing the world one day at a time 💜✨

@nagwaniajay 4 ай бұрын

grateful thankyou 1. you are awesome mam , i m grateful for this video with tears in my eys that i m allowing myself to feel joy , 2. while hearing about narcessism healing , I am feeling that I am being healed so Is so instead of suffering I Can Have a mindset of that I am being healed as feeling joy as a defense mechanism 3. ,listening a song which i loved ,4. going back in mind nd seeing good things also were there in narc relationship 5. ,celebrate urself like ur birthdays small things about u 6. reflect how did i grow from narcessistic relationship 7. what good i get from that change ur tradgy to stories 8. saying things r alwys going to be this bad -to- right now things r not going well ,will change our perspective 9.change negative self talk habit , 10. now u r doing the work they did to you ,u go to phsychotgerpy , listening narcessistic healing talks but u r thinking healing is about them thay u r going to show them healed so stop making healing about them make it about your aspiration make it about you

@marieborchardt2910 4 ай бұрын

I have a "big" birthday coming up soon and I've been contemplating my life. I sometimes think about going back into my shell of the past, when I knew nothing about narcissism, and I could pretend everything was "normal". It doesn't take long for me to come to my senses and realize, for all the pain and anguish I've endured, I'm so much better off knowing about narcissism. My gift to myself is not seeing myself as a victim, but as a stronger, better, more knowledgeable person. I've gained much more than I've lost. Thank you Dr. Ramini for all you do, you'll never realize how much good you've done for me. ❤

@ericshepard2878 4 ай бұрын

I love you Doctor Ramani. Thank you for these videos, your advice, everything. Hearing your voice calms me for a lot of reasons. You add a lot of new perspectives, viewpoints, while also understanding and seeing all the things we think others won't get or understand. It's extremely satisfying to know that someone gets it and is helping rather than saying get over it. That was so long ago. Move forward. Im a very strong and resliant main in all regards, but my last narcissist really broke me in so many ways that nothing interests me anymore. You have done so much to help. And I have made it a routine. That I usually go on a hike with my dog in nature away from everybody. And it's calm and beautiful and I love seeing the joy. My dog gets from running around. And I only put one earbud in my ear. And on that earbud, I'm listening to your videos. So it's like triple healing for me plus exercise, and I've been doing that for the last year. . it's funny because I have definitely caught myself laughing. And then in the moment worrying, I'm gonna get yelled at for laughing. Or I used to get worried that I'm going to get punished for laughing and being happy later on and eventually through time. You know, it went from laughing and then looking around. It's like okay, where's my punishment for actually being happy to now. I'm actually starting to feel happy without worrying about something bad happening After the fact. Thank you. I hope one day I can meet you and join some of your classes this year too. Thank you

@stacylay7768 4 ай бұрын

You are truly an angel, Ramani. Clarification and company are major and you provide both. Thank you❤

@joydavis1670 4 ай бұрын

Happy birthday Dr Ramani. Your work, your efforts, and your videos have been so valuable to me and I truly appreciate it.

@sandylevan5647 4 ай бұрын

Sharing your experiences really help me to say to myself that it's ok to take care of myself. Thank you...

@moniquejackson7741 4 ай бұрын

Exactly what I needed to hear today. YOU are a Joy that I can savor, Dr. Ramani!

@sueg2658 4 ай бұрын

I agree, finding those personal moments of joy is what helped me get thru childhood with my narc mother and the marriage with my narc ex. It is something very special to me that help me ground. Art and being in nature are amongst other things are on top of my list. Love the idea of a joy journal! Thank you Dr. Ramani.👍🏻♥️

@jenp5759 4 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I watched this today. The gloomy days without sun are really getting to me. This is a keeper for sure. Went to see the musical The Book of Mormon on Friday. My friend and I haven’t laughed so hard since we could remember. Highly recommended unless you are someone without a sense of humour around religion.

@bestm333 4 ай бұрын

Thank you 💚💟💛God bless you...One thing I do struggle with is complete no contact... I can do lesser contact but can't do complete no contact because if I do I face the consequences of being blackmailed by the narcissistic person...I'm then accused of grey rocking + gaslighting them for having boundaries,+ trying to help the narc see things from others perspectives leads the narc to accuse me of invalidating them😭I just can't win no matter what + if i went complete no contact they would inform people with power,that I'm cold,uncaring + hostile,which would ultimately have dire destructive impactfulness on my Family's+I's lives,so I'm lost as to what I should do😭💚

@newmusicvibez 4 ай бұрын

I had the same issue with no contact considering we got a daughter together but I stand firm on her only hitting me up about daughter. But she tried to complain about going no contact with her the I bought my daughter a phone so her mother doesn't try to use our daughter as a way for her to get back on my good graces or to blow up my phone or my family's as a excuse for her to harass and stalk me.

@user-qs7cr3pt5f 4 ай бұрын

Your channel has been so helpful - thank you

@sonyagillespie8738 4 ай бұрын

Happy belated birthday to you. Have a blessed year and thank you for your wisdom!

@aidanmolina 4 ай бұрын

Dr. Ramani. Happy birthday. A big Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You Saved My Life! Your knowledge and your kind advice opened my eyes. God bless you for all you do to help those of us when everyone else blamed us. You are awesome!

@Kiai808 4 ай бұрын

Your knowledge and understanding is literally saving my psychological health. Thank you Dr. Ramani ❤ 🙏🏼

@lenkakovacova1874 4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤ Thank you so much! I looked the video twice, I needed to see it twice! 🙂

@cherylreser5023 4 ай бұрын

Thank you I was introduced to you today! Bless you❤

@cherylbeyer2362 4 ай бұрын

Very very good, just what I needed today!

@annapiotrowska4514 3 ай бұрын

Amazing video❤thanks for pointing out things we should focus on when healing

@shannajager918 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. After ten long years I am starting to heal and having to find myself again is painful but so rewarding.

@shannajager918 4 ай бұрын

Trying to go no contact but I still received a private phonecall and a while later a voicemail even though he's been blocked. It doesn't affect me as badly as it used to thanks to the mental help I'm getting.

@knotha Ай бұрын

Hi, how is ot going for you now? It's been 2 months, right? I just left my 10 year relationship and going for divorce. It's been 1 month since separation and I am having a tough time because I lost my belief in the world and I am left a shell of who I used to be. Some days I feel okay but then again I feel hopeless.

@nickicosby1066 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for all of these reminders! I needed this tonight and will refer back to this video often. You are amazing!

@elizabethbettencourt1116 Ай бұрын

My song was by Louie Armstrong, "What a Wonderful World" My grandfather played big band and even with Louie! It was played at my wedding and after 20+ years I thought I'd never enjoy it again. Today it takes back the 29 years I lived before. So thankful for healing! An act of defiance! Much love to all who find themselves on the receiving end. Your heart, mind, body, and soul will heal! Thank you Dr Ramani!