Can you add your source material and stuff to the most recent video? There were some scientific journals you reference and I want to read them, because they sound like cool journals.

In my opinion. People who want to live forever are either ignorant to the idea of the Soul's transitioning after leaving the body. They basically have no faith & can't comprehend any possibilities that involve themselves existing outside of the physical realm. or......... The other type of person that wants to live forever has already corrupted their own Soul & they now fear what awaits them after they leave the physical world. American Intermediary 12/22/23 " The physical world is the Soul's ultimate Test "

Got milk?

Could I get the source for stone age cultures leaving elders behind? As an archaeologist I wanna know which culture that was based on heheh

I know right. I feel bad for these kids. That 14 year old is going to fuck up her skin before her skin has time to mature, and then she'll probably have issues with it the rest of her life.

30 IS ONLY 3 decades like bro it’s not even half of our life expectancy 🙃

@riotking77 that's what I'm saying. It's a short period of time.

Think of like this..30 is only 12 years into adulthood.

no for real it’s like “OMG i can’t believe she’s 32” and i have no clue what they think 32 looks like

Yes! Plus, let's be real: they're cute as a button together 😍

Yes, don't understand the expectations of him dating someone younger as honestly this just adds to the image of Keanu just feeling like such an overall good dude

it's actually so sad how glad we are about him being with someone his age. not being a creep should be the bare minimum😭

@@dublancdedinde Leonard DiCaprio has left the chat

Yes, don't understand the expectations of him dating someone younger as honestly this just adds to the image of Keanu just feeling like such an overall good dude

this is an excellent point

damn, painfully true.

​@@AuleTheSmith37Kitboga is awesome

Kinda Off topic as well, but personally what scares me about aging the most isn’t how i’ll look, but it’s how i’d get treated. Once you’re older you’re not really seen as your own person anymore, just as an ‘old person’. It sounds awful asf to have lived so many years on earth yet to not be seen as a full human being. I admit i’m guilty of this too because it’s just so normalized in our world. i wish it wasn’t.

​@@siopaosoysauceThat's why some people become more eccentric as they age, a loss of concern with how they're perceived coupled with the creativity to stop oneself from becoming an object.

I'm a cis hetero man sprinting towards middle age, and I have zero desire to lust after a teenage girl. I already don't use social media (KZfaq is as close as I've ever gotten), and I'm already at the point where I'm debating an ID check for random PMs on Reddit. Every woman who dated men I knew growing up had that totally inappropriate relationship with a predatory age difference at some point in their lives. I wasn't ok with that then, and I'm definitely not ok with it now. What you say is absolutely and obviously true, and I want no part of that. I enjoy the company and appearance of adult women in the appropriate range, nothing else. And I'm sure as hell not going to fetishize their appearance, or the general inexperience that goes along with it.

​@@RevShifty Well said. ❤ Well done. 💗 I already knew that all men aren't twisted paed*philic scumbags-- I have a good, decent, Honorable son, brother, fiance, Father, & Uncle, & ex-husbands, nephews, cousins, comrades, & friends. So, I know that there are PLENTY good & decent men. However, the filth of this world is often the loudest, & the INCEL & "red pill" troglodytes are very vocal & pervasive. I am glad for EVERY man of decency, integrity, Honor, conscience, & good-will who stands up & says-- "Ew. no! abominable!" (In their own way.)

Exactly. You said it, & you said it right.❤ It is DEPRAVED. Sexualizing & lusting after *_~CHILDREN~_* is abhorrent. 👹 And, telling GROWN WOMEN that *we* SHOULD LOOK LIKE _CHILDREN,_ in order to be DESIRABLE & _BEYOND THAT--_ to _EVEN BE _*_~WORTHY~_*_ HUMAN BEINGS!_ --is TWISTED & SICK!

And, honestly, it's gonna make you age worse. The stress and fear and treatments might not be visible for now, and you may manage to delay your first wrinkles by a few years... But all of that will absolutely mark your body once it starts to change. And it will. There is so much beauty in an aged face (and body), it's the most literal representation of the story of one's life and experiences. If all you do is worry about aging, that will show. If you never move your face, for fear of wrinkles, the wrinkles you will inevitably get will look uncanny to the average person. I am very young now, but I am excited for every stage of my life to come. I look forward to aging (visually, the pains I can do without). There is beauty in _being_ by itself. And every mode of being is fascinating and beautiful in it's own way. I mean that with all the sincerity I have.

i wish i could beat gravity, not because i dont want to age but to just simply fly arround and stuff lol

​@@Hatsune_miku_bryessss, like why can't I flyyy 😩

Joke's on you, my elaborate pulley system that hangs me upside down will beat gravity for me! Ha-HA!

it’s the shortening of ur telomeres

That's my thoughts as well. Like, why are we most worried about "looking" old vs aging and dealing with declining health?

Yeah I have a fear of getting either cancer or Alzheimer because those were the two illnesses from which my two grandpas and grandma died. I don’t give a shit about wrinkles.

Same. I really don’t want to end up in a hospital every other week or needing to take a hundred pills a day. That sound so exhausting. I hope science finds an actual answer to aging, so that our organs don’t fail one by one. Couldn’t give less of a shit about how my skin looks, tbh.

I don’t want to be old because I may inherit my grandparents chronic illnesses

Oh gods, this, so much! My great-grandmother passed last year at 98. She always looked great, but for the past twenty years, dementia had been slowly destroying her from the inside, deteriorating her to the point where she was barely a shadow of a person. THAT is the fate that terrifies me, not wrinkles.

Biologically they are not young. You start going into a slow decline around your early to mid 30s.

​@@metoo3342 Emphasis on slow, lol. Thirty and forty year olds are still in their prime. The majority are working, many are having and raising kids, others are travelling and doing physical hobbies. Not being as fast or as young as a 20 year old doesn't mean you're done with life 😝 Even at 60 people can run marathons and learn new languages and study :)

im 25 and people get shocked and say i look like a teen well like yeah ive only been an adult for like six years 😂

@@painted_k9 Thirty and 40 year olds are objectively not in their prime. Their lives might be more busy but their prime was in their 20s.

​@metoo3342 damn girl seems like u want to take us out to pasture and put us out of our 30 and 40 year misery 😂😂😂

Oh, and literal doctors do this as well?!?! 'you're too young to get X' months before I get diagnosed with X. It's seen as a moral failing that I have heart problems, tooth decay or other side effects from my illness. There can be scientific proof that I need to be screened, vaccinated or need another preventative measure and doctors will straight up deny me because I'm 'too young'

I'm able to walk, but my back already has arthritis and sciatica. I take longer to get out of the car than my 84yr old grandpa. People also seem to think i shouldnt be hurting like this at 27. Its annoying. I feel you.

I'm actually basing my thesis on disablism and ageism being linked through the idea of disabled futurity being considered the opposite of a good future

I'm able to walk, but my back already has arthritis and sciatica. I take longer to get out of the car than my 84yr old grandpa. People also seem to think i shouldnt be hurting like this at 27. Its annoying. I feel you.

It's quite baffling how people simply don't compute a basic fact of life.

Yeah, as someone whose mom died at 46 aging is such a privilege. Aging means you're not dead and the poeple who live you don't miss you. Who cares about wrinkles

Decaying and fading and losing your mind isn't a privilege. Stop coping.

Same. My mom died recently and i just wish i could have seen her age more @@mxflint1715

@galsromantic well said!

@@metoo3342 Nah Id live.

even small children are scared of old people. there is something scary about it.

I think the "evil old hag stealing young women's youth" trope is meant to dissuade young women from seeking community, advice & mentorship from older women, leaving all women vulnerable. (quoting Mina Le's video "the fashion industry hates older women" which is a great counterpart to Shanspeare's video)

It’s not remotely new. People routinely had photographs edited in the Victorian area to improve their appearance. Years ago many still used products that destroyed their skin… knowingly … because it made them look better at that moment. There were countless wellness and beauty fads. Conversations can be fraught on all sides of this topic. We are incredibly lucky to live in a time where we can prevent premature aging and damage with sunscreen. It’s fantastic to see Indy brands putting out more affordable versions of scientifically proven skin care ingredients that can help you take care of your skin longer. I don’t see anything wrong with younger girls learning to take care of themselves and developing good routines. That said there is no need for them to have a 25 step skincare routine. There is no need for 19 year olds to gee filler, etc. The basics that all need to know = a good cleanser for your specific skincare needs, sunscreen, moisturizer (preferably unscented) and Rx retinol when needed. It is the gold standard that can help with a variety of issues, not just wrinkles. It can help people with certain forms of acne, scaring, pigmentation issues, it can help reduce some sun damage, etc. I have sensitive skin and mild rosacea so it’s not been a good option for me to date but it has helped a lot of people. Fear of aging is the big issue, and it’s driven by multiple factors including destain for mature women. There is nothing wrong with aging. It’s a beautiful thing. I’m looking forward to my hair going completely gray (I’m 48 and am getting more gray hairs every year). I don’t hate the wrinkles I have but I am glad I was able to avoid premature aging with use of sunscreen since Clinique came out with City Block mineral sunscreen in the 1980s. That doesn’t mean I avoided all sun damage, especially not with how easily I burn in some environments while wearing SPF 9 billion. On the flip side you can find many radfems arguing that any measures are detrimental. There is a contingent actively fighting against any relief for menopausal women. They are trying to prevent bio identical hormone treatments that help with a multitude of symptoms and problems. They think women should suffer and go through it “naturally”. They played a large role in shutting down research in the 1970s - 80s, along with religious fundamentalists. They have the same attitude with everything and it’s a messed up one that often comes from an anti science/medicine standpoint.

the victorians were absolutely OBSSESED with this, so no, not new at all

I wouldn't call it a "tradition" though...It's all due to misogyny in the end.

Yes I will

Yes I will

I want the first sentence on a shirt.

Lmao well said

You can do all that without looking like a raisin.

That's a beautiful way to look at aging 😊

Its also just a sign of general privilege. I’m trans and I am determined to make it and become an elder trans person. I have so few elders to look up to and I want the trans people who will come after me to have people to look to for hope

It's easy for you to say that because you belong to a (beautiful) culture!

that's a beautiful way of looking at it 💕being visibly old will hopefully signal wisdom & caring to other's in your community

twins! but yeah it’s really bothersome, especially as a young person w dermatillomania and acne, i have a ton of little scars all over my face from picking it at, and seeing so many people online stigmatise having “imperfections” is really damaging.

⁠@@c4tm340wyeah, I’m still super young (18) but when I was in my early teens i was told that I would “regret it in the future” (regret having an illness I had no choice in developing??), for no reason other than how it would effect my physical appearance. A person’s physical appearance doesn’t define their worth, and I’m so tired of it.

I have the same issue and tbh I can't stand looking at tiktok filtered smoothed faces. I'm not surprised people looking at this the whole day develope issues with how their skin looks irl. Like noone's skin is a blurred flitered blob and it doesn't freaking matter anyway irl

twins! but yeah it’s really bothersome, especially as a young person w dermatillomania and acne, i have a ton of little scars all over my face from picking it at, and seeing so many people online stigmatise having “imperfections” is really damaging.

My godmother took me aside to seriously ask me what was I gonna do about my dermatillomania scars. And recomended me her daughter's plastic surgeon. Baffling, ludicrous behaviour. Her daughter has some facial scars from falling off a horse, a bike or something and she got her plastic surgery to remedy it. She's worried about her daughter not having been in a serious relationship yet with a man being over 30 yo and all. she can't stop talking about it. Her daughter has always bullied me but if that didn't out her automatically I would yell at my godmother to leave her lesbian daughter be. JfC. No wonder her daughter hasn't brought her gfs home. Her male gay friends are always around. My godmother is in denial. Neither of them fall into feminine ideals. They are too outspoken, entrepreneurial, self entitled in an stereotypical manly way. Successful. Nosy bullies. The average man is terrified of them. Luckily her daughter seems to have no interest in dudes. She's awful but good for her.

i actually did forget because that movie sucked

@@asuka_the_void_witchokay? If it doesn’t apply scroll on by bih

Don’t EVER pretend Mattel is some kind of feminist company . That company literally has Barbie themed anti aging creams while selling everyone the idea that they’re “on your side”. Capitalism is never women’s friend

​@@cjboyomad about a Barbie movie?😂

@@younglalaofficial Irritated by people who just randomly shit on something other people like just because its popular 🤷‍♂️. I have plenty of critiques of the Barbie movie, but I also fully understand why people loved it and enjoyed watching it myself.

Yeah💗

Because looking younger means you look better and are physically healthier.

@@metoo3342 did you even watch the video? lol. they talk about that exact thing and why it's kind of fallacious to state that as an outright fact.

@@siopaosoysauce Thats just denialism then. Your body will always be more capable of enduring and surviving anything when you're younger. You can literally see the health risks by age groups consistently increase.

@@metoo3342 that's literally not the point of the video or the conversation 😭 what shanspeare is talking about and what the comments are discussing is how the *beauty standards* placed upon women engender ageism and a negative view of growing older. whether or not people are healthier when they're older or younger is irrelevant. why should people be treated as less just because they have wrinkles or just because their body doesn't work the way it used to? maybe actually watch the video we're commenting on first lol, you clearly havent; and if you have, you sure as hell were not paying attention lmfao edit btw i see how all youve been doing for the past 30 minutes or so is just stalking the comment section saying random shit. you are clearly not interested in having a legitimate conversation about this topic 🫵😂

Try to not give a rats ass what some random mediocre man thinks of you. He doesn’t care what you think about him, does he? Why would you? It should be irrelevant to you. Fuck ‘em, seriously. You’re great the way you are and you don’t have to prove anyone your worth.

it always is. i’m sorry you had to deal with that. as a woman who has “looked old” since i was 14 and just unattractive in general, i’m constantly treated like shit so i get you

I think Id be able to handle being dismissed like that because my father does it to me already. And has constantly. God I cannot wait until men stop mistaking me for a 16 year old... You know why. We all know why

It is more cultural decay leaving women with only 2d cutouts in place of varied nuanced female archetypes and a female hierarchy to ascend as elders and matriarchs. Wisdom is also needed for increased respect when aging and it is not valued today. Would aging seem so terrible if it came with increased respect and an honored position in society due to wisdom and experience? And one reason we do not have this is cultural decay and the loss of female only spaces. If women were the ones judging each other then much of the weird undercurrents of today would evaporate.

@@LotusesGalaxyOcean Vibe check: transwomen are

Thank you! I cringed a little when she said that without qualifications.

came to the comments to look for something like this! family and social connections have always won out over whether or not someone could "meaningfully contribute to society"... honestly, kill the capitalist idea that people need to contribute to society to have worth

yeah, there may be the case that _some_ highly nomadic groups may have done this-but we need to add in alternative explanations that are just as reasonably possible, such as 1) a culture that values sacrifice and martyrdom in particularly difficult times and/or 2) times of desperation and scarcity where survival was impossible even for the most hardy folks in the group and/or 3) casualties of conflicts that led to large body counts or having to flee an entire territory (genocide, by our present definition, existed before civilisation, tho the signs of this are normally mass graves with carbon dated remains). cultural bias makes the 'obvious' explanation abandonment because when we are forced to consider who to prioritise rescuing in emergency situations, we throw our elders to the bottom of the priority list because 'well, they lived a long life and these younger people deserve a shot and they might have family/be productive in society' as if elderly people don't have families and do nothing but leech off society. our frame of reference culturally is that when it comes to priorities, the group who is bottom of the list is a toss up between disabled people who need assistance and elderly people (esp retired elderly people)-and truthfully, that means disabled elderly folks are looked at as almost pointless bodies. it's just the infection of seeing people as productive units and not as community. i think it goes back further than capitalism (unless you're arguing alongside david graeber that capitalism is a lot older than 'capitalism' of the 17th century to present), but even then it isn't present in every stationary, agrarian society either (see: older japanese culture moreso, but it still hasn't disappeared in japan today). i don't blame them for saying this idea because it's pervasive and seems like the natural order but i'm glad someone addressed it.

Whoever started that idea has done a massive disservice to society as a whole tbh Humans have always taken care of each other. The sick, the elderly, the disabled. Our empathy and pack mentally didnt fizzle out the moment someone became "a burden" If it did, nobody would reproduce because name a bigger burden* than a baby. *As in takes up all your time and effort to just keep alive

Yes, was about to comment something similar!

Genetics my dude! Just like with weight and body shape these TT influencers will never talk about the truth of the genetic lottery. Genes are a huge determining factor in how and when we will age. I'm also 31. I have a hella baby face cuz of my round cheeks. I got ID'd consistently when buying alcohol until Rona showed up and wearing a mask covered my lil baby face. My baby face has so little to do with routines and skincare. It's pretty much all a lucky pull at the ole genetic slot machine.

yeah idk.... I think sometimes people're just polite and say whatever they think you want to hear (and they assume it for a reason). If you stand next to a real 20 year old the difference's gonna be 100% visible.

@@Leminisca I can accept that point of view. In my case it happens when I get ID'd and they're always like "holy shit no way"

Yep also bc ppl are still having their grand-parents/parents as a template for guessing ppl age. Most ppl now are having kids late/ are student for a long time so they won't dress as expected from "older ppl" and the clothing/hairstyle/make up play a major role when you're trying to guess someone's age, not a lot of ppl looks at wrinkles contrary to what 17y.o on Tik tok are made to believe.

​@@Crucis119Genetics don't determine your weight.

Same... :/

It's absurd

i've never related to anything more

Same, like I'm not even exaggerating (much) when I say that hoping I'll be a milf someday is one of those little things keeping me alive lmfao

Dang that's a perspective I didn't think about 😂😍

I read this as addicted to milfs 😭

But don't most milfs obsess about looking younger because that's what makes them standout as a milf compared to other moms who didn't horribly starve themselves back into shape after children? They've still been put under the microscope and only praised for looking sexually attractive, and better than other mothers? Because it's not about age empowerment, it's about sex, and male stems from gaze, right. Only certain women get picked to be "milfs" remember, so at the end of the day it's no better than anything this video was about , if anything it feeds it.

i hate when millennials say that or genx whatever tf bcuz it makes them sound like they’re going through a mid life crisis in an attempt to make them seem better. but they really should just say there’s nothing wrong with aging

Yesss I love this sentiment. Most people think of beauty as "the peak of attractive-ness as per the current societal standard" and that just. Is not what I think beauty is, or should be. Beauty is in the small observations to be made about something. Beauty is in dedication. Beauty is in life, and age, and the stories we tell, in joy, and in being. Being without any qualifiers, being itself holds value. This obviously doesn't just apply to people, but to all things. Beauty is love and is value, and they all create each other. What you love and value becomes beautiful to you, and beauty and value reinforce that love.

@@xssitaCelebrities make their living in industries where their looks are hyper fixated on by millions of people everyday so they have a different relationship to their appearance. I think that’s what OP means at least.

@@xssita celebrities like......by definition cannot be normal ppl. they're public figures, scrutinized for their behavior & appearance in a way that average ppl aren't. they have access to lifestyles, skincare, anti-aging measures that the average person doesn't; ppl should not compare themselves to celebrities b/c the difference will always be insurmountable.

@@xssita Try to google search celebrities before and after becoming famous. When it comes to beauty money does most of talking.

Alot of people are ugly I hate looking at most people in public cause they're not pleasing to look at.

I'm thriving without aging

Bro we cant go past that first sentence...huh???

lol, you would have had a hard time in the Cold War era when that was actually a possibility.

... why would you let yourself believe that ...

Stay happy about it! Historically, nearly half of us wouldn't grow to even become adults. The fact you made it to 25 sets you apart in the grand scheme of things. So count your blessings and always do your best to stay positive.

absolutely love this, what a gem of a teacher

I think Ian McKellen is one of the most beautiful humans as an elder gay man who hasn't just survived, he has ruled.

aurora!! i love her too, the way she sees everything and explains things is so calming to me i also never knew her makeup mimicked smile lines but I love that!!

I love Aurora so much🫶🫶

This is so accurate. Honestly I don't know what people think 32 looks like. I am 41 and I still get told constantly how "young" I look but I truly believe I look exactly my age. We just don't know what 41 looks like because we don't really look at people who are in their 40s.

This is a beautiful way to look at it ❤️

I got the same lesson at 38 when my dear friend died of cancer. He was lamenting that he’d never get to become a silver fox.

i’m so sorry for your loss.

I have almost the opposite reaction. My cousin recently died and the idea that some day soon I will be older than him is really scary and depressing. I almost wish I could freeze myself to always be his little cousin

This is true! Maybe you should consider hospice care to keep her comfortable until it's her time to go. You know, to tend to aches and pains or whatever else may arise.

💯

There's something about aging that is quite nice to be honest. Mostly the mental part of it, of course. But growing mentally opens up several new worlds that wouldn't be as available if we were to stay young for ever. Aging isn't always desirable, but it has its perks for sure.

What's wrong with acne?

@@mx.walrus it can be kind of painful kind of a lot painful if you got a lot of it

@@m00n119 I did not know that. Sorry to hear!

That's actually a good point. it must be hurtful to become less and less visible as people consider one less attractive when you aren't used to it.

You dont get told that you let yourself go when you have always looked the same. Kind of sad but true

lol I've always thought this! but never vocalized it since I know people would reply in a pitying manner and I don't need that...but since I was never pretty in my "prime" teens and early 20s I don't experience this fall from grace beautiful women must face when they feel their youth is slipping away...I agree being treated like im personally offending men by daring to exist without being hot wasn't nice, but I'm glad I don't experience this neurotisism over aging lol

I‘ve been ignored by the people around me my entire life and thought the same. Ofc I‘m sad I don’t get compliments from strangers or get approached in clubs etc. but ultimately I will never be stripped from a pretty privilege I never had and therefore don’t have to deal with the loss of that. It’s like you get to grief early and walk into aging more prepared kinda.

No, but like. When I was in my early twenties I discovered I had the same forehead wrinkle as my mom. I was actually excited! because otherwise I didn't think I took after her physically. I was happy to share it with my mom, but when I showed her, she scolded me for not having a skin care routine and "frowning too much I wrinkled my skin" 💔

It is probably expression lines by lack of hydration in the skin. There is no way to have real wrinkles in high school

@@lug358 I drink 8 glasses of water per day and still have a wrinkle on my forehead at 21. my dad's side of the family is very wrinkly, it's almost always down to genetics.

@@unci_el its not the water u take, but ur skincare. Maybe you are prone to dry skin, as there are people with oily skin, acne etc

@@lug358 taking roaccutane, have a very good and consistent skincare routine, eat well, exercise and drink water. i'm sure it is just genetics

Isn't that what being an esthetician is about? Helping people look younger?

@@alisonmercer5946 treatments that help with visible signs of aging are part of what I do, yes! But I would never encourage a client to think that they are ugly bc they have aged or have wrinkles or fine lines. My main concern is how hard they are on themselves when it’s a completely natural process

​@@alisonmercer5946not all the time, no. Sometimes it's just addressing skin concerns that have nothing to do with aging.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

i lost a friend around that age too. we have to live on for those of us who aren't here anymore. sending love ❤️

The only preventative skincare is sun protection.

My sister is a teen and literally told me she would rather die young then get old bc she fears wrinkles I was shook

Yikes, as teen myself I'd rather die young so I don't have to see the world get destroyed by climate change. Wrinkles bother me nowhere near as much as my joints gradually deteriorating because I developed osteoarthritis 38 years before everyone else (I'm pretty sure the average age of onset is 50).

Happy late birthday!!!

Are you talking about shanspeare?...

​@@KD-ou2np yes, shanspeare uses they/them as stated in their About section

Dang I've never thought of it that way before

Absolutely. What adds insult to my injury is that im autistic and a huge fan of soft, feminine things (like vintage dolls, coquette/dollette, lolita fashion, pastel pink, lace). Life would be so much better if I looked my age so I would have peace of mind that anyone who dates or sleeps with me arent predators (my internalized thought)

the worst part for me has been my hands. It feels like I woke up one day and my hands Just Can’t anymore.

@@cjboyo I hope you are able to find a way to sustainably can. I had a massive life change that took so much time and a leap of faith and I didn't think I would make it- I left my home state and moved back in to be my friend's live in attendant in December. I won't die on the waiting list to get into a nursing home and this is a mutually beneficial relationship. If it weren't for that, I don't know where I would be. This is the first time I'm finding my new sustainable outside of survival mode in my 30's. I know friends that are still figuring it out in their 40's+. Life is so much more than just surviving and having a good exterior, but sometimes the easiest thing to try and control is our looks.

Life can definitely weather us, but I like how you do your best to see those lines as survival of a hard time in your life. Go ahead and do your due diligence to even them out with smile lines moving forward 😊❤

Just out of curiosity, what field/profession do you work in?

Probably in surgery or something

That is upsetting that attractiveness is a part of someone's inherent value instead of just being a person off topic ig

Why not perfumes though? 😭

@@gloriaokonye341if they’re in healthcare, food prep or like factory work manufacturing food or medicine it could interfere with the products and/or trigger reactions in the patients/people who will consume the products i imagine. it does sound like a very high demand environment though, i hope they’re being compensated well

That's a mood, but sometimes I wonder if I really look younger, or are we just stuck with a messed up idea what a teenager should look like because for the last few decades beauty standards have expected teenagers to look like adults, all the while deeming certain body types as not being "adult enough"

@@GraveyardMaiden I wish but I really don’t look like an adult unless I wear makeup. Which I don’t do regularly due to server eczema. I noticed when I left work with my full face I never got carded at liquor stores but if I just walk out of my house to the convenience store right by my house. They know my bf and his dad. They card me… like ok so u think my bf is a pedo ? After them not serving me bc I left my id home he went there with my id and said THIS IS MY GIRLFRIEND SHE LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET AND YALL ALWAYS DO THIS TO HER! So I don’t even get leafs anymore bc no one thinks I’m my age. Idk I’m so uncomfortably young looking. I’ve had parents at ulta asking me if their kid can apply and I’m like I’m 25… 🤭 Oh and the body thing. I’m v skinny and have tried to gain weight and it’s just not easy.

@@GraveyardMaiden oh for real, I remember at fourteen I was so confused why I looked so young when everybody who was fourteen in movies looked so grown and mature. I now know that those “teens” were actually like 30, and I looked like a normal 14 year old child at the time.

I don't personally think I particularly look young, but half the time I am told I do and i feel like makeup and my outfit literally changes how old and how much agency people think I have. I never wear makeup for work and joke that I always dress like i'm going to a college class. One time we had a work event and I was drinking alcohol, and a guy who's known me since I started 6 years prior said "You're old enough to drink?!" in SIX YEARS he didn't think I was old enough to drink. 💀I work at a corporate office and they do not hire minors lol.

@@heyyitsjude nah that’s fucking insane. Not the work buddy asking if you’re old enough to be here 😭 when I worked at ulta the girls thought I was 18 and I was the oldest one hired in that group of people. I was like second oldest on cash wrap and almost none of the girls knew it until they saw me chatting with some of management casually. And I was like “yea we graduated the same year” I also didn’t wear makeup much when I first started bc masks but still 😭 I really don’t know

This!!!! Don't mind them, I don't think it's because they think 24 isn't young but because of the things they have heard about women always wanting to hear they look younger. I was a month away from turning 19 and a guy told me I looked 17. And I was like what? Am I supposed to take this as a compliment? I was just 17 early last year, what are you on about?(I didn't say it aloud though lol) One guy even told me he thought I was 15 and he is 21. I had to call him out for it, that if you thought I was "15". Why would you hang out with a 15 year old? I don't know if he meant it as a compliment or a spiteful comment. But all in all it was just really weird. Women will never be young enough for society and it's really creepy. I've refrained from telling guys my age in general not because of anything, but because they find a way to make it weird and creepy. And the grownup women that take "you look 14/16" as a compliment are the ones adding to the problem. If they knew what an actual 14/16 year olds looked like, not the euphoria or influencer ones, I don't think they would take it as a compliment(Hopefully). The fact they want to look as young as children says a lot about our society.

Didn't realize how long the paragraph was. I'm sorry 😭😂

i need to be frozen in time, aging will destroy me.

I have also noticed this and honestly it’s just sad. As well as kinda ruining fandom spaces in general it’s ruining these younger peoples mental health over this stuff. I’ve seen kids completely stop liking characters and shows cause they turned 16/17/18. As well as attacking other kids for still liking certain characters and shows/games cause they are now too old for the character or type of game. Idk how it got like this but it’s very unhealthy and makes for a very aggressive space online.

I'm better than shan

Unfortunately, this is a pretty real issue in some locations. My generation is probably the last one that will be known for this, as we were told that we needed to grow out of our interests to avoid being deemed immature or "not presentable enough". Not to generalize, but what makes this pressure even worse is that it was enforced on us and gen x by boomers (the latter later started doing the same thing). Gen z are starting to abolish this completely and embrace the same interests they had in their teens as they're reaching their early adulthood

There’s 5 maybe 6 years in your late twenties where they respect you, and listen to you. Where your sexuality isn’t used against you. But as you age and wrinkle they go back to ignoring you, condescending and dismissing you. Patriarchy is a bitch

i just started doing it with makeup 😂

i look younger than my age and it's honestly embarrassing, i was interviewing for a job at a school and someone in the waiting room thought I was a new student 😅

It's wild to me how uncommon it's been (for me personally at least) to find disabled interpretations of Metamorphosis. Like yes it's up to the reader to decide what it means to them... But like it could not mirror real life disabled experiences any harder unless they just gave him a regular disability instead of turning him into a creature.

The idea of disabled people being a “burden” is a deeply ableist one. I used to think that way for so long. You aren’t a burden. Society is just systemically ableist and is fucked up

The book “The Dawn of Everything” by David Wengrow and David Graeber backs you up

Do it. Persevere. Grow as old as possible. If for nothing else, then to spite those that would see us perish

When my mom was in a Lewy body delusion, that little woman was so strong I could hardly wrestle her away from the stairs (we were trying to care for her at home and didn't get much help, our mistake).

Also, as person with non-obvious disabilities, I look about 45-50 (I'm 63), but my function on a bad day is very poor. And, on disability, I'm poor. Oh, and thank you for doing hospice care. It's so needed.

REAL

Yeah, it's so weird to see these kids doing skincare routines. I literally saw a KZfaq short titled 'skincare routines for 7 year olds'. As someone who literally started getting bad acne at 7, (and has subsequently had dermetellomania for the past decade) you don't need anything at that age other than a wet washcloth and maybe some soap.

Same! 31 now and I still can't believe my luck. Every tiny line on my face feels like a blessing. I'm so thankful for contemporary medicine and hoping it will only get better.

This comment is so beautiful

It also can't replace actual facial fat since it can't be injected as deep so it'll always look a little off.

This reminds me of a Japanese tradition called Obasute! It is when adult children of elderly parents would abandon said parents up in the mountains when they become infirm. Except the twist was, apparently every time the adult children did it their children would make a comment about how they will do it to their parents, which then guilt trips the adult children to rescuing their parents. The tale was told so many times like it was widespread practice that a bunch of Japanese University researchers got curious. They then proceeded to pull out hundreds, maybe thousands of years of census records. Their conclusion? If it did happen, it was not a widespread practice. It wasn't even a local tradition anywhere. What they figured out was that if it did happen, it happened that *one time* and people told that story to make fun of that *one person* . Stories being what they are, details get lost and changed until we get the myth we see today. @Linfamy did a video on that actually, highly recommend.

Not to be rude genuinely curious but why would being queer contribute to you wanting grey hair?

@@PotatoWaffle-sl4xf Queer people don't get old. Most of our elderly are dead. Millennials are considered elders and none of us are in our 40s.

As queer young person I love see old queer people, this means they live enough to, well, be old and makes me feel proud of them Virtual hug if you want one ( つ⁠ ⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠ )⁠つ

I was at a lesbian pride march, and I marched right next to a group of older women (like 60 probably) and... It was so exciting. It was so joyful. I was almost taken aback- I can become that. I will grow old. I will be an elderly lesbian. Old queer people exist. One of them told a story of a different event, where someone assumed they were a group of allies. And asked them whether they knew any lesbians. Hilarious.

@@anzaia2164 I'm sorry I'm laughing so hard. Imagine being a lesbian for 60 years only to have someone ask you if you know any 😭.

My mom is just now recovering from a reoccurring c. diff infection in her hip replacement. It was so hard to see her in and out of the hospital. The ability to worry about looking "old" is a privilege on its own. Also yes, please get checked regularly for common cancers. Ovarian cancer is only so deadly because it goes undetected for a long time. Stage 1 ovarian cancer can have a survival rate of up to 95% if caught.

as a 23 year old, thank you for this

yeah i don't get people who want to be younger or go back in time. i don't even wanna be myself a year ago.

black people don't age, you are lucky

Because you're healthier when you're younger and don't have your joints and bones starting to fail.

@@metoo3342 But at 23 you have the impulse control of a 🐰 so you spend your 20's broke & miserable