its like facing two mirrors towards each other god DAMN

It’s especially hard if ur autistic trying to figure out what is and isn’t socially acceptable

Man this is so true bc one minute all the ppl around me are chill and the next they say I'm embarrassing them and that I should stop. If ur bringing ppl down bc you think every little thing is "awkward" I've never been the problem at all, it's you

It’s like being inhibited but also not inhibited at the same time

And it's never socially acceptable anyway. Be different but actually don't do that. I'm just gonna stop listening because society sounds stupid and doesn't know what it's talking about.

hi i'm a furry beat that

More like attractive unique.. unless they got sad and don't want attention but they usually still wear makeup to appear more conventionally attractive.. btw there are some awkward teens who more want to be invisible but I don't mean those in this case

manic pixie dream girl…

​@@user-vw4xp5nt9f - You turning this into a competition and challenging someone to "beat that" is exactly the problem pointed out in this video. Also, the furry subculture works hard to fight off imposed labels of "weird" and works to normalize it so as to stop the ostracization and negative stereotypes they're afflicted with by people outside the fandom. You reinforcing the "weird" association, as some sort of badge of honor, undermines their effort to be accepted and not misunderstood. Besides, furries are getting popular as they enter the mainstream, which proves OP commenter's point. It's no longer "unique" to be a furry. It's still fringe, but not necessarily uncommon or underground.

@@nothing-jl2dz YES. Only attractive people get the weird pass. I know it's fictional but let's face it, if Wednesday wasn't played by stunning Jenna Ortega but rather someone more conventionally unattractive she wouldn't have half of the appeal, specially on the dance scene.

exactly there’s an artist i like that has 74 monthly listeners on spotify and i feel so bad for them they deserve way more

@@pomodoro144 Ya mind dropping the artist? Maybe I'll give them a listen.

@@yourlocalanarchylovingcatguy gomalakka my fav songs from them are birra and fiat lux

Yes but it usually causes them to water down their music and lose any authenticity they had..

As Nelly Furtado used to say, "You liked me til' you heard my sh*t on the radio, but now I'm just to mainstream for you, oh no/you said good things come to those who wait, well I've been waiting a long time for this".

I like both of those artists too! I also like two door cinema club, Harry styles, the used, paramore, and the lumineers. You don’t have to stick with one genre

Okay it’s beside the point but TWO tswift concerts?! I’m so jealous

nothing to do with anything but what concerts did u go to omg

This happens to a lot of girls and women due to how society and the patriarchy sees us as one dimensional.

yeah! i love taylor swift and punk rock, and sometimes people will look at me a bit odd

I’m the 69th like 😂

Lmfaooo, Soldier Boy has bangers. Tell her not to be ashamed.

That's hilarious

LMFAOOO

That’s awesome lmao

Absolutely! You can talk about taste, but it's pointless to argue about it. No art or genre is superior to another. Everything created by mankind takes time, devotion, etc. For that alone I appreciate artist and their art (fascists excluded).

@@yoginella exactly!! it blows my mind when people take a stance and whole-heartedly believe they are “right.” with something as subjective as this, there is no right or wrong.

@@grlfromvenus Its similar to people who claim that there is no good music nowadays compared to the great artist they listened to when they were young.

There’s always room to expand your taste beyond mainstream pop which is where the pretentious ppl are coming from. There’s so much more out there. Including lesser known pop artists, if you really get into them concert tickets are muchhh cheaper.

@@adventurelandexpert7148 The pretentious people I’ve spoken to have come for mainstream pop and criticized it when I don’t think people should be condemned for listening to that genre. I whole heartedly agree that there is always room to expand your taste and try new things and I listen to a ton of different genres and decades. But I’m not going to tell people their music taste sucks if their top 5 artists happen to align with more popular artists

It 100% is, I've been experiencing it all my life, but you'll be gaslighted into thinking it's "actually" something else

Oh it is. Women aren't allowed to do fucking anything. If you're "basic", you get judged for being "basic". If you're different you get judged for that. There's no winning.

Thank you. I was hoping someone would call out the "like a white 16 year old girl" insulting someone with a race and a gender- a twofer!

“basic b*tch” is a term that shouldn’t exist 😊

Men my age also get shamed for being 'basic' quite a lot. I feel like It's just because we teenagers are stupid (me included of course).

omg for real it's so scary

kinda like when artists starts releasing music that's happier sounding than their previous work and fans are unhappy,,, it's like they don't want them to be happy I'm like whuat

@@vacationbibl3school coughs *lorde* coughs

yes and even if you do want to get better, the whole quirky mentally ill thing has made it so people just make fun of and joke about super sad topics. Like if i were to theoretically tell someone i was feeling down, it would not be a surprise if they were like “oh lmao i wanna kms too!” (i hate the acronyms kms and kys, it’s weird that we need acronyms) it’s disgusting and sad. i don’t wanna stay how i am, and i don’t think it’s right, but when people joke about something too long it can lead to desensitization. i understand some people use it as a means of coping and that for the most part can be ok, but it’s such a widespread thing now and joking does have an effect on the public mindset, whether you want to admit it or not.

@@pigeondance fr!

For real… you can’t win in this world no matter what you enjoy

I saw a lot of people getting shit on when wrappeds were being posted online. There's no winning I do enjoy my fnaf music though and despite what people think, I'll keep enjoying it

I haven’t showed anyone my wrapped because of this

I love fnaf musicccc- Some of it is actually quite good, I hate how people say it’s “bad” or “cringy.”

ok but i love the fact that u have FNAF songs!! I appreciate people who listen to game soundtracks, they are sometimes forgotten abt.

I consider myself a music snob but not because I gatekeep, but because I care a lot about certain things and can critique music a lot more than most people do. I listened to alternative music as a young teen so I was around people who listened to like… Halsey’s first album and I got the vibe but hated her songwriting and such. But I don’t think silly things like music stopped being good at a particular time, or you’re less worthy for liking x (including Halsey while I hate her songwriting). Edit: autocorrect changed a word lol

@@LangkeeLongkee I agree, good criticism isn't condescending. I also liked Halsey first album. It came out at the tail-end of my alternative Tumblr girl era.

right? like theres a reason why its so popular

@@ChrisBrooks34 tbh I didn't like it but the people around me did, that's why I brought it up 😂😂 I WANTED to like it but I heard someone else put it into words, but at least to me and that person, it comes across like she had a vibe or a rhythm she wanted to present and put the lyrics as an after thought to fill the space. I genuinely think Colors was her song writing peak and I think she sounds great when she either goes full pop (like her character in the Sing 2 movie, her voice was AMAZING in that) or full rock (like her Experiment On Me song from the Birds of Prey soundtrack). My girlfriend loves her music though which is all well and good. Glad you had that moment. Genuinely. But I'm nitpicky about those things, hence why I do think of myself as a music snob even if I don't gatekeep. Not all the time, I just have my moments. I've gone on record ranting about the rap verses from Popular Monster by Falling In Reverse being utter garbage and the worst part of an otherwise great track. But that's a vent for a different time and for different ears 💀💀

@@LangkeeLongkee "I just have my moments" THIS. Please let's start normalizing occasionally being a bit snobbish about things we truly care about and understand. Sure everyone has an opinion, but I simply cannot accept that everyone's opinions have the same weight at all times.

Ooo can you share stuff you like here with us? I'd love to find more hidden gems lately myself

I understand, but i still agree on not being so conformist to the point where you have no identity of your own but not the point where your competitively trying to be so unique/niche and having some sort of ego and calling other basic, or generic etc. They needs to be a balance simply *Be Yourself* Sounds cliche. But it’s the answer to these types of topics

​​@@144chosen I mean sure but if "being yourself" means liking so called "basic" things I genuinely don't see what the problem is with that. I get where your coming from but what your saying implies that to be yourself you can't like popular mainstream things and that to truly be yourself you have to differ from "the norm" in some way. Which isn't necessarily true for everyone.

@@purpleatemyrainbow9347 then you need actual friends. If you have genuine people who care about you in life they will want to be interested or even just listen to what your talking about wether they like it or not. My bestfriend is not a fan of KPOP but will bop with me and watch all my music videos with me. He knows he doesn’t like it but knows I do so there for is willing to try. You need more people in your life who are open minded and caring. Which is hard when society is so hyper focused on “being valid” and the internet they forget simple foundations of what makes a friend.

maybe it’s just me but i’ve found that another part of what makes it isolating is that I can’t connect with people on the popular side either. I’m incredibly out of touch so it makes it insanely hard to make new friends since I haven’t heard of half the things they’re talking about.

@@cassiuscruz8570I just realized that it autocorrected Rey and im a little bit embarrassed now🤞🏻

​@@cassiuscruz8570as a fan that aint such a big problem... Even if someone mispell an artist or just know few songs doesnt give u the right to judge "her verification of your statement" let ppl enjoy things!! And btw her name was Ray, so....

nkay@@Onestamente

oh? ….

i love that ❤ do you

I’m inclined to believe the opposite considering the internet has facilitated unprecedented amounts of exploration and everything is so much more niche and fragmented now. But mums are the worst to argue with so conceding may be the smarter choice- gotta pick your battles 😂

It's a rite of passage for old people. You are constantly critical of the young ones and terrified for them and of them at the same time.

I never understand when people say that. People have always followed clothing and hair trends.

They had their own trends too

Oh and who did you listen to in the 80s mom? Madonna, Depeche Mode, Duran Duran, Michael Jackson, Prince, Def Leppard. Older people are funny, if most of your favorite bands have been inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, its kinda hard to claim they were niche and underground.

Yeah! Think about all the people who didn’t know the lines at the Steve lacy concert, people have lost intention in what they like

!!!!!

damn!

Funnily I think wanting to be 'special' and 'unique' is the most basic thing ever (not that I'm shaming them)

@@leahshannon759I don’t think that applies bc they did have real interest just the TikTok version of it.

Men up!

@@danieladamczyk4024 in suicide rates, absolutely! now go add onto that statistic and do us all a favor of not having to deal with your vile kind.

​@@danieladamczyk4024 Wouldn't that make us "pick me girls" or something

@@candylide Can you explain?

@@danieladamczyk4024 There is always a label for whatever women do, and if your comment "men up" means that we should be more masculine (correct me if i'm wrong), then we would be a "pick me girl" aka, a girl that "acts masculine" to gain men's attention Or maybe a "not like other girls girl", in which we try to stay away from what's considered "normal girl stuff" or even considered attractive/sanitary, just for the sake of being different My point is, being normal is being a "basic bitch" but trying to differentiate yourself from what's considered normal/feminine is also wrong or another label to laugh at

I never realized that people throw the word pretentious around like that because personally I strictly use it for its actual definition, but that makes sense. I think if that's the case people are definitely misusing the word.

daymn… ‘palpably’

THISSS

*Periodt.*

I joined tiktok after a year and it looks like the women are super comfortable with letting misogyny win

❤

Yess period

Most adults never grow out of their insecure 14 year-old self

literally me. i’m 16 now and know better, thankfully

yeah i was gonna say any time someone acts like that it just screams, “i’m insecure and i try way too hard”. most people come around as they age. getting older typically means caring less and just doing what you like. but for some unfortunately they are never comfortable and confident enough to just be themselves.

exactly 😇

THISS ^^^^

Slayyyy

This!!!!!!!!

SO REAL

Ironic because we try so damn hard to be unique and snowflake or a protagonist because we have "unique" state of mind or world inside of your mind shaped by your taste yet we are nothing more than just NPC in the grander scheme of universe or at least, society.

@@ventingmachine101 That is really what we should do, but it's also understandable that someone would fold to other's expectations. Especially after being dragged through the mud like this. Personally, I would've folded under that much pressure too, but last year I had a resolution that I wouldn't let myself be stepped on by others anymore, and I think it definitely helped!

It even depends on what kind of indie and underground music you listen to cause there is always this battle of who can find the most underground artists with the least amount of followers. When certain 'underground' artists reach a certain amount of followers they also lose their appeal as being the music a 'unique' person listens to.

@@Jadeeatstofu That's so true! You are absolutely right on this! Remember when 100 gecs ( geks?) Were not very known so it went viral and after it went viral it was seen as too mainstream or even "cringe".

@@MahouShoujoKaffeein Yep. It really speaks to how invested we are in curating these 'unique' identities. 😩

@@ventingmachine101 i got cyberstalked and threatened several times for listening to 100 gecs honestly you'd be shocked how far this extends. and gecs is mainstream

We have to make sure that this doesn’t flip over and have people start hurting other people that act slightly different than others because we👏 have 👏seen 👏it 👏happened 👏👀

Look at gaslighting 👀

Sorry I didn’t watch the hole video

@@teddybearsinthebox9318 the issue is that the people who were targeted for this in the past aren’t really being praised now. They were neurodivergent ppl mainly, and I can confidently say that it has not gotten better. However it’s more that the popular ppl from the past appropriated these subcultures. Like for example, to be goth you have to listen to the music first and foremost. But said popular people will simply wear black items and say they belong in the subculture. There are even those out there that whole heartedly fight to have lil peep recognized as a gothic icon. All I’m saying is that being different was never actually normalized or encouraged. They were taken on as little costumes and fetishized. Hence goth girls being known as “kinky” when in reality I know plenty that want quite the opposite including myself.

@@lauraramier5366 you said it, bro. fucking hell

CAR SEAT HEADREST

listen to Kanye

literally thank you so much for this comment. i hadn't heard of them either and they're so underrated

Discovered car seat headrest this year and wish I could go back to my 15 year old self and share them with her. They are amazing. Also discovered deftones way too late… but what a weird feeling I impose on myself like I was supposed to, between the ages of 13-25ish have heard every band I was ever going to love 😅

Girl, I'm right there with you.

Felt this one on a different level

this comment spoke to me on a personal level lmao

Then there’s me wearing random bands on my shirt because it was on sale for 5$🤣😂😂

Yes. BUT. If you're honestly saying that being called a poser as a teenager gave you trauma then you don't understand a single thing about trauma. Maybe i missed something, but this really pisses me off

@@wanda7258 Hi, I just wanted to say that enjoying mainstream things is totally okay and it feels ridiculous to say it, but I totally get the stigma of having mainstream stars dominate your top charts. I used to dislike seeing very well known people as my tops, but eventually I realized that enjoying something that others enjoy too doesn't discredit my affinity for it and definitely doesn't describe me. The people who you listen to shape you, for sure, but just because somebody is well known doesn't mean that their messages and ideas instantly become bleak and monochrome. I think that labelling people as "basic" often discredits and undermines them as people with equally in depth personalities and interests as someone who isn't "basic". Don't let the media's fabricated guilt of enjoying popular things tear you down :) At the end of the day it truly doesn't matter if you like indie or mainstream artists, what matters is that you're enjoying what they make and that you're happy

@@wanda7258 Honestly, Kaleido explained the reason very well but I just wanted to encourage you to listen to whatever you like. Don't care about being judged for that because no matter what you will listen to , people will still judge you in a way. My music taste revolve around Metal, Rock and Folk mostly but there are times where a "mainstream" artist's song would make me feel relaxed and put me in the right mood. In the end, music is a part of our life and it helps in our good and bad times and a song that someone may dislike might have helped someone else in their bad times. Being judged for listening to "mainstream" or appearing "basic" just tells how insecure other people are to the point that they are judging someone's music taste to feel superior about themselves.

My top band was Ludo, top song Mary on a Cross and my overall top genere was pop punk

exactly! i don’t understand people who judge others for not listening to “underground” artists.

I am the opposite, in a way. I was a stubborn teen, and I'm just now learning to really appreciate and let myself enjoy pop and mainstream songs and artists. It feels wonderful to let myself experience more types of music :)

ik its hard for you to understand but the music you think people listen to only for the aesthetic of being weird, means a lot to them too, and and its basically what they enjoy.

@@ananyarai4607you didn’t understand, she means that she rather hear music she likes not music she should like to fit in the aesthetic. Never once mentioned anything about ppl listening to “aesthetic” music not actually liking it.

That’s so weird lmaooo…I’m always so eager to share what I’m listening to so underrated artists I like might be able to get at least a lil more traction from my gushing about their craft. I don’t get how people have the time for all of that like…wow!💀

i won’t lie but doesn’t this genuinely defeat the purpose of listening and enjoying music? stats and streams have sort of corrupted our perception of music i feel. either your music taste is basic bcs it’s popular or it’s looked down upon if it’s “too quirky and weird”. what good music means to given person should be music they enjoy, that’s it. whether that music is at the top of the charts or barely reaching 10 000 streams on spotify, it’s all valid

@@idkanymore12 People tend to forget that music is meant for your overall mood and enjoyment which is why I find it so weird that people judge what music people enjoy. It defeats the whole purpose of enjoying music 😭

Is consumption the only way some people know how to express themselves? The importance some people place on the media they consume is truly bizarre. Maybe my taste in music is basic not because I am boring and basic, but because I leave the fucking house.

Right. They would rather have the song stay niche - they don't want others to have the joy of listening to it and they don't want the artist to succeed. Sounds incredibly selfish.

I’m guilty of doing that a few times lol. There is some music that just feels like a precious gem you found, and you get to have the joy of showing it to other people for the first time. It’s not about not wanting the band to be successful. There is just something that feels not great when something you had a strong connection to “blows up.” It usually means that because of this whole “it’s shameful to be basic” thing, liking it just doesn’t feel the same and you expect you’ll be chastised for liking something you “must have just heard on tik tok recently.” It takes away the shamelessness of just straight up enjoying something freely before pretentious music buffs start dog piling it and hyping up stereotypes about what type of person you are for liking that thing. And considering that all it really takes for a band to start getting hated on is for it to become too popular and get overplayed (take imagine dragons for example) there’s this fear that it will happen to our fave too. Also when bands get popular, sometimes they sell our or change to appeal to the mainstream. Not saying it’s a healthy mindset either. I would rather feel the way you do towards it. But I do think it’s pretty normal and understandable to feel this way about things from time to time.

exactly, my favorite artist is all but unknown except in a couple select communities, and i would LOVE for him to get some mainstream attention so i can talk to other ppl about his music and so other ppl can appreciate it (i was in the top 0.005% this year with 13k minutes) and this can apply to music taste in general, i like indie electronic/videogame music and i struggle to find anyone who can appreciate it the way i do or at least not call it "boring" or "emotionless." i definitely wish the genre was more mainstream. also who's your favorite artist? kinda curious

I AGREE W THIS! whenever i love a smaller artist i always want them to get more popular. but i think what a lot of people DONT want is for a song from that artist to get so popular to the point where it is over saturated. it makes you not want to listen to it anymore because you are constantly hearing it in other places. so thats why lots of people try to “gatekeep” or hide it. (my opinion)

And if everything you like is underground, good luck making friends because you won't be able to find a shared interest.

@@rosegold7848 ok but who's YOUR fav artist ??

that’s so sad :( i’m so sorry

I WISH I HAD AN EMO AND INDIE BAND ENJOYER BOYFRIEND :(

@@m1auwzyea you do unless he basically judges your every move and all of the music that isn‘t emo indie bands 💀 Its not fun not being able to express yourself because your PARTNER considers it not worthy of listening to

@@lileeau emo indie bands are good idk what ur talking about

@@m1auwz im not saying they arent i listen to a lot but i dont want to only be able to listen to one kind of genre because otherwise i would be “uninteresting“

I never really liked Dangdut and it's definitely not my cup of tea and it's hard for me to liking it personally since I grew up listening EDM, Hip-Hop, RnB, Pop and liking some futuristic sounds and industrial sounds. But I hit a life stage where trashing other genres are just pathetic to me and instead of acting that you're protagonist, while not just accepting that people just have different world of music in their mind

So true

good taste might refer to music that everyone would like, like someone might know an obscure song that if put in a movie would go viral the next day, that's someone with good taste he can hear something good no matter if it's popular or not

@@sir.public Hmm, so taste comes from finding music outside of popularity? Makes sense tbh

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@Trinity M I agree with that to an extent, there can be objectively bad parts of art. For example, I love terrible, raspy voices, with my favourite band being The Front Bottoms. While the fandom can all collectively agree, yeah, they can't sing, we still listen because the rest of their music fits our subjective tastes. I see art in general in that way. A drawing may have bad shading or wrong proportions but those are just parts of the picture, you know? Even if an art teacher says it's trash, someone will look at it and think it is brilliant

man i miss when arguments were this harmless lol. so many of these in my memory

@@lowlowseesee I agree! It's great to reminisce about. We we're all so silly

Really good take!

That's pretty thoughtful. Well said

Same for me but with shows… like I know people who refuse to watch stranger things and make fun of it because it’s “mainstream” and “basic”

i think it's the best way, because with that taste you don't limit yourself and can experience all the best things from any genre!

im like this too, i listen to a slayer song then after that i listen to nicki minaj 💀

im a big fan of metal music but i love me some shakira

I listen to Blackpink and BTS after went through my "King Crimson" or classic rock music or dark ambient obscure era like The Beatles, Swans, Brian Eno, Twin Peaks ambient music or Pink Floyd. Look how random was that lmao

I relate to this

Was it a Buzzfeed quiz? They aren’t accurate as a UQuiz which always is weirdly on point for me

i love this comparison so much lmao

Same lol

I am in the top 2% because of unrequited love and it not made me cool

top 4%YAY SAME!! I LOVE MITSKI

Ok but being the top 0.05% listener of literally the most streamed artist this year is an incredible feat

she was also in my top five!! i love olivia bc she's the artist that got me into music, before listening to her i never got the appeal. also congrats on too 0.05%! i was top 0.05% for taylor swift and it feels oh so good.

u are soooo real

The fact that that people bashed you for listening to a lot of a popular artist instead of having a standard percentile like them might be the most ironic thing I’ve seen in weeks. What a bunch of posers, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I imagine these people are teenagers, I hope they grow out of that mindset soon because it’s embarrassing.

she was mine too. i blasted her album the whole year and I'm still doing it because i think it's an amazing album.

Yassssssssss

good for you!!!!

Lololol feel the same

same tbh

exactly lol

Knowing this is actually really freeing!

Similar story here. In 6th grade, I was such a “weird” kid. I liked video games, silly music, and I didn’t care what other people thought about me. In 8th grade (now), I’m a “basic” girl. I play lots of sports, I wear lululemon, I have a Stanley, I do my skincare, but I feel happier since I’m taking care of myself. You can’t win though. 2 years ago I was harassed for being different, now I’m attacked for being basic.

You summed up pretty well with the last phrase honestly, as it goes both ways. Anyway, if it puts a smile on my face, I'm gonna own it, damn!

I’m sadly the opposite of you.

yessssss

same here :)

@@prettierjesus3119 hopefully one day you can fully embrace the things that make you happy and be comfortable sharing them!

I always find those "I discovered them before they were cool" comments hilarious, because I've had people in my life say stuff like "I'm a real fan, since I found them when they were underground", but then when those bands started making headway into mainstream culture, those self-proclaimed "real fans" suddenly stopped listening to their music... Like, if you genuinely love a band, you wouldn't dispose of them, the second they get more mainstream!

@@janefins261 and surely, if you were a massive fan, you would be really happy of their success and that they got mainstream and achieved their dreams!!

Everything in life is a perspective we create

Everybody is obsessed with being unique. It is about the most “basic” thing out there in my opinion. And - it makes sense!Inventing a sense of non-mediocrity is just another way of trying to add meaning to your life

I've seen this too with Western "City Pop" fans who are just listening to Japanese Boomer Pop/Funk/AOR so most are not even close to being the "real" fans, yall were a fetus at best or non-existent at worst lol. I never got this as being into music not in your country's native language can be very isolating as a foreign fan especially for more niche genres like Hip-hop, Jazz, Drill, etc so I welcome new people to talk to as this sht can be lonely 😅

Im not neurodivergent, but im often seen as one. and yeah it hits me hard. Im so tired of being seen as adhd/autistic and QuIrkY when my issues are so damaging to me because im extremely different, Im literally all the categories except for fat people. being different kinda sucks and its nice seeing someone mention it for once. i totally understand

​@@bruh438 the way i feel this. I think all this is essentially the meaning behind this lyric from the song Strawberry Fields Forever; "No one (I think) is in my tree. I mean, it must be high or low." You feel as though something is wrong with you because you don't see things the way most do, so you wonder if you're the only one. And people make being qUiRkY and uNiQuE out to be such a great thing. But it can also feel really lonely and it can suck big time

@@inserthahafunniusername9656 yeah this is how it really feels, tysm for getting it. there are more cons than pros from my differences so yes its unique but i prefer the word 'weird'. i also understand why people like fitting in with similar people, but when no one is like you, most lose interest. i lost my friends recently bc i denied my diagnosis (they were using me bc im 'quirky'). it also saddens me how some cultures in the world only recognize physical disabilities, i have asthma but my lack of focus and social interaction has caused me more harm than necessary. normies and oddballs like to fit in, but we'll just stay in our own exotic trees. i love the song i added it to my playlist lol. 'Alien' by lebanon hanover also perfectly captures the feeling.

Wow, what an incredibly hurtful thing to say on someone’s birthday, I’m sorry

I would throw that whole friend away. Or I'd tell them they hurt me, and if they don't care or make an effort to be nice, I'd throw them away.

@@shadows-sweet-embrace she's a family friend with her own issues- I love her but she projects her issues a lot

@@jillybear3241 even if she’s going through her own shit, that doesn’t give her the right to hurt you. you deserve to be surrounded with people who treat you better.

Dude your bday should be the day where you indulge in everything that makes you happy ! What kind of friend would say that to you when you're clearly enjoying yourself ??

Which beethoven? If moonlight sonata or fur elise you're basic and not a real fan. /s

@@user-vw9lj1yn1b it was romance no. 2 in f major, but I am absolutely still basic and not a real fan.

BEETHOVEN BAHAHA that caught me out off guard 🤣😭 No but honestly I don't listen that much but I like it 😂

@@user-vw9lj1yn1b what makes a person a 'real fan' in your opinion?? /gen.

@@glittr4brainzz they enjoy a good deal of the artist's work

I sound like a pick me when I say stuff like this , but I wish I was basic , i want to have ‘trendy’ cool music I wanna do cool makeup but I can’t cause even lip balm give me sensory issues , i wanna dress fancy but I can’t cause slot of clothes also give me sensory issues I just dont stick in school people think I’m a weirdo cause I don’t have ‘normal’ interests compared to my peers i was obsessed with English monarchy , English history in general and would be all i talk about I didn’t like anything the others liked and it upsets me a lot i kinda just wish I was ‘normal’

@@iluvduster69 aw, im sorry that happens. but hey at least youre different yk? you should embrace it. youre unique

@@iluvduster69 very late reply, sorry about that! first of all, the term "pick me" has become so overused that i'm not sure it has any meaning anymore. no need to call yourself that! you aren't doing anything wrong by commenting this. second of all, i know you've heard it before, but there really isn't anything wrong with being different. i think it's way better to be yourself and maybe catch backlash for it than live a life that isn't your own just to please other people - at that point, it's more like you're living for those other people than you are for yourself. and it's your life, yknow? i'd suggest searching for like-minded people! i promise, you're not the only one who's interested in those things, and you're not the only one who is particularly fixated on certain interests. you've just been around the wrong people. in fact, the experiences you're describing are fairly similar to my own! english history isn't my topic of interest, but i assure you that it's not that uncommon to have heavy fixations on things that are unconventional or unpopular. and it's also totally okay to have those fixations! no matter what, you will never be able to please everybody. some people are just judgmental, and that's not your fault and it's not your obligation to change for them. don't live your life based on how other people seem to want you to live - in all honesty, even if you were 'normal', there's a good chance you'd just get judged for being too 'normal' - it's a lose-lose situation. i know it's way easier said than done, but live for yourself! it's your life, after all. as long as you're happy and you aren't hurting anybody else, live your life the way *you* want to. sorry for the long comment, ended up kinda rambling. again, i know this is all way easier said than done, but i assure you that life will change for the better once you stop living for other people. much love!

i like this

I hope to reach this level of comfort with myself someday. You're doing great

Same. I used to post about everything I ate on social media, it was like a weird addiction. I quit social media this year and have not missed it once. It feels good not feeling like I have to share everything about my life all the time just so people can know

Same lol, i used to post my spotify wrapped to show everyone how cool and unique my music taste is (🙄🙄🙄) but this year i really just did not feel the urge or need to do that. I think i just grew older and started caring less about trying to be different and trying to feel unique. I also realized how lowkey pathetic it is to try to be more unique or special than other people for the sake of feeling superior. Like that genuinely is so lame and SAD.

And that’s why I literally deactivated all of my social media accounts (IG, Tiktok, Twitter) two months ago and plan on never going back. It did feel weird at the first going out to a nice place and not posting my outfit or food. That’s when I realized how conditioned we are, when I would everyone else grabbing their phone to snap a pic. It’s like wow am I even living if people don’t see it? Have we really become that addicted to other people’s perception of us? Yikes. Anyways, the sense of peace that came after was/is so worth it. I feel more free to just be.

That's only on mobile. If you're on the computer you get to pick your own songs (and have it go on repeat).

Yeah! If they want us to know more underground artists so promote them, dammit

Well not really. If you listen a bunch to some genre, the algorithm is going to give you more. This works with pop music and indie music alike. So I guess a lot of music you listen to will depend on the music you started listening to years ago. But I guess spotify promotes popular music at the default home screen so maybe you're right.

Not necessarily. If you systemically tell them not to give you popular music, disliking and skipping pop music right away, they will give you the mainstream musicians within your genre instead of the top 40. Altho I somehow ended up at the top 2% of Slipknot's yearly listeners this year without ever actively playing Slipknot (my guess is autoplay favouring them over other musicians I was listening to) so maybe I'm just clueless

Spotify kept sending me more and more niche artists because that's how I interacted with the algorithm. That isn't meant to be a humble brag, just an example of how preferences will shape the result. It makes sense to me that more than 50% of listeners would be pushed the opposite direction since popular music is popular for a reason.

Or that smth that is only liked by small number of ppl Has to be good. It can be, but it doesn't make it automatically more worthy bcos its "less mainstream"

It always confuses me cause what’s wrong with a good artist getting attention💀

like, there’s a reason they’re popular.. usually because it’s really good

there's one thing to like popular stuff and another to be reductive and devoid of critical thinking

@@bertramwinkleofficial but that's literally not reality ;D

you're making it sound like being generic is some adversity :D

or maybe he's just asking if you want to share or not....?

@@aizichi yeah but generally it seems like something touchy to talk about just because of the judgement...

Real.

people who complain about mumble rap are actually the worst

@@danaenaegod5203, people don’t like something you like that makes them the worst? I think you need to prioritize what makes a person actually bad.

@@Andyatl2002 the term has racist ties so nah

@@danaenaegod5203, the term was coined by Wiz Khalifa, was it not? Any rapper including white rappers can mumble rap so I don’t exactly see why it’s a racist term only that it probably depends more so on the person. It’s just describing how words aren’t emphasized properly in some rap songs, I like knowing the lyrics of a song and this extends to other genres too at least for me.

it may be a hard pill for you to swallow, but there are cinemaholics who could assume your taste in movies is too primitive for them. the other question is why be so rude.

If horror is basic, what I watch is equal to oxygen😐😐

@@amberraining9546 you realize that you’re commenting under a video essay criticizing the culture of being different/nlog, right? just because someone’s tastes are more mainstream doesn’t make them “primitive”

@@amberraining9546 Ok, and whose problem is that?

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just be u

Same with JB

LEAO VC ESTA POR TRAS DISSO TDO HAHAHAHAHA

aeeer povo de londrina i cambe kde aquele cara q eh fa da taylor swift

eu ainda vo faze eles dois se encontra e realisar o sonho dele vcs vao ver hahahahahaha

this is actually surprisingly true, you have those really big taylor swift fans and people who just listen to her.

deftones is popular but since when are they basic

i love deftones

"deftones is basic" said no one ever

Listening to bts is very basic fr tho

@@ananyarai4607 i agree, theyre not that basic due to being nu metal just very popular

i get what you mean. most people don’t have the time or money to build an aesthetic. I’ve always worn basic stuff because we couldn’t afford to spend money to change up our style every year or something. i’ve always had the same hairstyle because we didn’t have the time to braid it or curl it or any special style.

you're so right bestie! love 💞

Yes, and also: every time I see people following trends and being basic, I think they’re simply not into fashion and decor that much. They have other interests, so they don’t spend much time exploring their own style

i loved everything you said! especially "Tearing down a woman for being too "basic looking" is really just a way of bullying someone who doesn't have enough time or $ to be avant garde with their style". some people really go out of their way to seem different & unique to feed their own egos. if something is mainstream & liked by many, it most likely is a good thing. so why shame people for liking.. likable things? so weird!

I agree with you except for style being only for the youth. I’m in my twenties and I never have time to hone my psychobilly style. I’m stuck with a style I absolutely hate, because I can’t afford to make or buy clothes. I never have time to actually use my sewing machine and upcycle thrifted outfits.

Exactly

honestly things becoming trendy can be nice too. i always liked emo & gothic styles, but i never went through with getting into those subcultures since emo & goth stuff was something to be “ashamed” of. once alt stuff became trendy and i gained the money to try it, i really liked it!! and now im still into it!

The real hipster move is to cling to one trend or style for as long as possible even as it cycles between uncool and cool

love the things you love unironically and own your style

@@flamingpi2245 how? If you like something regardless of whether it's in or not, that's more being true to yourself than following a trend

Who’s the band from Japan? I wanna give their music a try!

@@Cats_N_Doodles2018 the madna! theyre definitely not as small as "12 fans total" like i said but some japanese bands i like that really are that small would be z clear, larme belladonna, and dennou himeca❤️

@@satohime thank you!! Will definitely look into these later!

sorry if it sounds weird but you seem rlly cool, just the way you talk/type exudes confidence I love that. there's not enough people like that fr (including me, but I'm working on it)

@@prochacho3750 THATS SO SWEET💚💚 thank u random youtube person have a wonderful day, hope u can learn to be more confident it's beautiful even just to try!!!

Omg same, I would not read the romantic sappy books that I thought people would make fun of me for on Goodreads, just to look “intellectual” lmaoo

@@fig2332 literally, I started picking up books I wasn’t that interested in just so I didn’t feel embarrassed about the genres I enjoy most

literally how it was for me. i changed my insta bio several times a week, just to make it look aesthetic and trying so hard to impress others with my pretty account. all this because of what other people might think and always curating everything for others to perceive me in a certain way. it’s insane even writing it down now holy shit lol

yeah lol im kinda like that too

can relate...

Same. Despite my interests in a wide variety of music, experimental or not, and mostly to metal, I was legit shocked that the artist that I listened to the most was System Of A Down. Top 5 songs, all them. Especially their one song "Suite-Pee", which apparently I listened to the most. I was like, "Wait, so I'm a SOAD fanatic?"

my top songs were all from the same album that i couldn’t stop listening to for like 3 months 😭

Same 3 of my top 5 were all of FKA Twigs. I’m not surprised, I loved her last album to pieces but I wished I had some variety!

more than half of my top 100 was arctic monkeys LMAO

i've been sharing my wrapped for years, i had no clue it was suppose to make people anxious or something either. Thought all the "my wrapped is shameful" were jokes :///. Maybe it's because i share it mostly w my friends and we just laugh about the results instead of acting superior about it, idk. The most ridiculous, the better as far as we're concerned. Best wrapped to come out of my friend group was my metal-head friend, with half the-same-metal-band-she-been-listening-for-years, half children-song-for-her-2-year-old-daughter. My wrapped is half taylor swift (/pop girly songs), half medium sad boi punk songs, and I wouldn't want it any other way. It's just such a good "the two genders" meme it makes me chuckle. My only regret is the absence of anti-hero on it (i suspect because it came out too late to make the cut). I swear people stressing out about their wrapped instead of making jokes are missing out on so much fun.

@@Coeurlarme ooh your wrapped sounds pretty similar to mine! With addition of some alt girlies like Penelope Scott (she is so good, check her out if you can! :)) with Taylor Swift and then a sprinkle of Nu metal bands.

Well if they get too big they might have to do stadium concerts instead of smaller venues which kind of sucks. But otherwise yeah, the artists need support if they are going to keep making music.

SAME! I love marina

@@user-pn5jb3zp8v Yesssssss her music so gooooood

i love her last album

marina is literally the best

Mines ms Amy Winehouse. Love her, especially her Frank album for 1,498 minutes. I was in the top 0.1% listening to her so 💀 Either way I love marinaaaaa 🖤

i'm a pretty big fan of grimes too! :D she was my 4th most listened to artist of the year...if you don't mind me asking what were your top songs of her?

grimes was in my top 5 too! i listened to so much art angels lol

@@shayla4007 visions is my fave grimes album, but I think I listened to art angels more. It's just such a relistenable album.

completely agree w the both of you... art angels was on absolute REPEAT this year. kill v maim + pin + REALITI were on constant loop

I love yeule!

this will probably make me sound as pretentious as those people, but i can’t stand that uquiz users/makers automatically assume that people who don’t listen to mitski, lana del ray, and deftones are “basic” because 1) categorizing people who don’t have a very specific taste in music as “basic” defeats the purpose of being anti-basic. (plus those artists are already very popular) 2) those people seem to forget that versatility exists. i listen to bands that range from 19M mostly listeners on spotify to about 100. listening to weezer and radiohead doesn’t automatically make me basic/a poser, and listening to bands with my similar following to the soundcloud rappers in my area doesn’t make me superior to anyone.

@@silliestbillyXD You don't sound pretentious at all. In fact, I'd say the word pretentious is often overused in place of a far better term, but that's neither here nor there. You actually do a really solid job at proving my point: Lana Del Rey, in the circles where I run, is the biggest "basic white girl signifier." Summertime Sadness was one of the biggest songs when I was in middle school, so it's fascinating to hear you say that people act like she's some underground artist. And as a metal fan myself, Deftones is also "experimental metal 101" to a lot of folks in the community, so saying you listen to Deftones is like "dude, me too, tf?" A lot of these people likely feel like outcasts in real life and sort of revel in the romanticism of the refined art connoisseur on the outbreaks of the world to cope with the true loneliness of that reality. So when they get the chance, they enjoy being the gatekeepers rather the ones turned away from the gate to begin with. Shame that so many (including myself, I have to admit I do it too) approach art and our expression of love for it as some status symbol to lord over others, but that's really not something new. Also I've been out of the loop; when did Radiohead become basic lol? Tbh, I'd lowkey take being called basic that people telling me I listen to "male manipulator music" any day, so that's kind of good.

YOOOO CHVRCHES, you got good taste what's your favorite song/album? I'd say my favorites at the moment are The Mother We Share, Bitter End, California, How Not to Drown, and Lullabies!

Ah, tough one. I first got into them from the Love is Dead album so that will always be a fave (esp Never Say Die and Miracle).

I’m a teenage black girl with the exact opposite problem.

That is not true. You'll get even more hate for listening to someone like Drake or Post Malone. They are male artists. It's just some people who think they are better because they listen to more obscure artists which is pathetic asf

Ah Taylor Swift. "Basic" if you like her music, "woman hating" (or whatever insult swifties design to call you) if you just don't like/connect with it (even if you're a woman?!?) No one wins here 😭

Not everything is misogyny..

Exactly. Idgaf what anybody says Lavender Haze is gonna be in my 2023 wrapped cuz I’m gonna play it till I die 😂

@@joebidenjr5902 it’s not about the gender of the artist, but the gender of the listener. Drake is super popular with women too, but someone like Kanye, who is more popular with men, probably won’t be called basic. Things men like are more likely to be called “classic”.

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Yes! Be free and like what you like, popular or obscure.

@@ItBeThatWaySometimes indeed.

Also, being exclusively into obscure musicians sucks when you want to make small talk and no one knows the bands you're mentioning while you're hearing about Olivia Rodrigo for the first time and have nothing to say

@miglek9613 urgh, felt. Almost all the bands I like have super small followings and I always feel the conscious need to listen to mainstream artists when they make new albums at least once just so I'm not completely out of the loop

@@magnificloud I personally just listen to songs when they go like internet news sites viral (ex. Montero, WAP), otherwise I just talk about my more mainstream musicians (Florence and the machine and Paramore being examples) and keep the rest to my friend group

Yep. The mid-2000s was pretty mean to anyone who fit into the hipster box in any way. I participated in some of that hate while being really interested in twee fashion and several bands that absolutely got called hipster. Clearly I was projecting.

I don't know anything unless it's five years later and I heard it in a commercial and/or trailer.

"how can you not know .... " is one of my most hated phrases. im old as fuck and get mad when other people get on the case of younger people instead of just enthusiastically sharing with them. its a shitty introduction to the music or film in question that might taint the chances for someone to discover some new stuff

i agree 100% !!!

There is nothing wrong with that, just share what you like with confidence :) if people don't get why you like such stuff, just move on and stay away from them if they are being toxic about it.

I love gaga and MCR too! And there's no shame at all in that :)

@Cincoat And then you have Metal Subcultures like, within metal. People specifically being into JUST Viking Metal but NOT Folk Metal or JUST Black Metal and everything else is untrue or whatever and just stick to that. I never managed to truly feel home in any specific subculture because those elitist make it feel no different from the "basic" people that wouldn't accept me back in school. Like mates I'm just trying to find a place to vibe not a different flavor of conformity. Got a cool circle of friends with overlapping (but still divergent) tastes these days.

All that aside, YOU LIKE BANG DREAM TOOO????? OH MY GOSH MY GOSH I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE DHEVEJDBSKS