“I’ve spent my life studying relationships” miss you’re 22 years old

love to see that toxicity and being an incel knows no gender. this is true equality! 😍🤗😬

this is insane they're literally saying "i know it's kind of toxic but like you should emotionally abuse him!!! he'll love you

The problem is that they’re all pretty. I want a girl who’s not conventionally attractive telling me how to get guys obsessed with me, because that’s a lot more helpful to the non supermodels among us

"Put a glock to his head. Boys love physical touch" Is a perfect out-of-context sentence I'll probably use it every single day 😂

The fact that these are grown women giving middle school level toxic dating advice so earnestly terrifies me.

this is actually inspiring, so good to see female representation in a male dominated field. #feminism #gaslightgirlbossgatekeep

These people are just out here teaching the starter kit for how to psychologically abuse people 🤦🏻‍♀️😅

the fact that carley did the small hand thing is so funny to me💀

Speaking as a lesbian in a longterm relationship ... I am also obsessed with watching these video's, I think it's just my morbid way of checking what the straight girlies are up to lmao

"The rules are not the same for us girlie" I felt that 😭

"give him a little chocolate covered strawberry...... and then slit his throat" lmaoo I love u

The rejection thing is very concerning, that some young women are internalising the normality of being relentlessly pursued by men after saying no, and instead of assessing how awful that is they're like this is perfect this is how I win. Like honey no, please do a feminism instead. I also really hope men don't see these and use them to justify harrassing women because this stuff is essentially encouraging awful behaviour from men. That woman rejected you? Its because she secretly wants you. That woman accudentally brushed up against you? She's gagging for it. That woman expressed basic interest in what you were saying? Clearly an invitation. Can we just normalise being up front and just saying "hi, I'm attracted to you do you want to go out? No? No worries have a nice day"

This second girl’s advice: be an emotional abuser

i’ve never understood the “make them interested and then ignore them for a few days” method. if i’m into someone and they randomly stop replying i immediately get the ick

i'm sure there are people who get obsessed from rejection but that could not be less relatable to me. If someone ghosted me for a few days every so often, i would simply get so anxious about it that i would stop talking to them. Others might have a fight or flight response, i only have a flight response, byye, not worth it

“ Grab his neck “ , “ choke him “ I spit out my water !!!😅

I love the fact that ur dad was one of the original ‘female pick up artist’ , just didn’t have TikTok yet😂

"Guys fall in love during space through their imagination" absolutely broke me

They're all like "confuse him with pointless mind games", we guys love that

the way that carley mentioned that TikTok makes her want to end her own life. that is so relatable and girlboss of her. we love an open and honest queen.

"Hey ya big f***ing silly... put a glock to his head, boys love physical touch" gurl I am dying

I love how some of them state in EVERY VIDEO that they are an relationship expert or something. Like yeah, I‘m sure that in relationship school they teach you exactly how to become an obsessive stalker-queen girly ❤

Why does anyone want someone "obsessed" with them? It just seems creepy

The thing that most of these things miss is that either: 1. They already find you attractive and you'd have to fuck it up pretty bad to ruin it or 2. They aren't interested and this weird dance is not going to change that

As someone who went through the phase of “how to get my crush to notice me” videos in my teen years, I’ve heard these things multiple time. Kimberly was one of the main youtubers I would watch, and all of them would include the same messages over and over again: push and pull, hot and cold, use physical touch, act like you need help with something. Even after watching all that I couldn’t find myself executing any of the “advices”. I felt manipulative, scummy, I didn’t feel like myself and I felt as if I would have to keep up the act all the time. The only times I’ve managed to attract someone was when I was myself and minding my own business, not caring about how I appeared to the opposite sex.

Carley remember when you see good makeup on tiktok they’re 1) probably using the beauty filter and 2) have eyelash extensions so everything looks better. Although god damn I wish I could do eye makeup too 😭

The one huge silver lining from all of this is that maybe girls who grew up watching these videos will recognize those behaviors when they're used on them.

CARLEY BLESS YOU I‘m stuck in a family gathering and you just saved me from dying out of boredom

As a man the fact that there are female pick up artists fascinates because male pick up artists will never shut up about how “females will never be lonely like us men if they ever feel lonely they can just call up one of their guy friends”

I'm sorry but that Baby Jessica thing came out of NOWHERE and It got me laughing so hard XD

"the plane in which you inhabit is not the same as my reality" SOOO true bestie

IM A WOMAN IN STEM!!! thank you for the shoutout girlie!

The number one rule in most of these videos is to be conventionally attractive

these kinds of relations are not relations at all it’s just a cat and mouse power struggle and it breeds so much pain and miscommunication. Like these behaviors set you up to be incapable of a real relationship due to narcissism and mistrust. It’s deeply sad.

queen, the reason their makeup is serving in ways is because they have lash extensions- ur makeup looks good it’s falsies or extensions that ur noticing I promise I battle this on the daily

"If you have no older sister in your life, you are hung out to dry." I have never identified with any sentiment more strongly than this.

this is the youtube channel I watch at 3 am with a bowl of cereal and that is the highest form of compliment 😂

tiktok has dissolved my brain cells😅

The way 80% of this advice is just telling you to emotionally abuse the person you are interested in

"it's a way to get him interested if he's a DETECTIVE" brb losing my shit 💀

"I am his ~best~ and ~~ONLY~~ OPTION!!" Sounds like a fundamentalist purity ritual.

As a guy, and someone who suspects they're talking to a girl who is following this kind of advice, I can tell you now that it doesn't work. This girl I was talking to said she was happy to hang out the week I asked her, but said she was busy for a lot of it, so I asked her to let me know when she's free, and she has not responded for about 2 weeks. Contrary to what these pick up artists all seem to have agreed on, this has not made me more interested in her, rather I've lost what little interest I had in her. Also it was very refreshing to hear you talk about pretty privilege, I feel like that's a point I don't often hear brought up in relation to these female pick up artists, where a lot of the time they assume themselves to be dating experts, because they're successful at attracting people, when they're actually just getting away with behavior that less conventionally attractive people can't, in a case of post hoc ergo propter hoc. That being said, the upside is that there's a limit, most people can notice red flags, the hope is just that they won't be desperate or lonely enough to ignore them.

"The best way to make a guy be obsessed with you is to literally just murder his parents right in front of him, like I guarantee you he will spend the rest of his life thinking about you and what you did, he might even end up dressing as a bat but what matters is that his entire life will be different thanks to you and he will literally only care about finding you again" -The Joker, probably, if he was a gaslight gatekeep girlboss

the clockwork orange eye thing 💀💀 obsessed with this reference

Okay its funny but also It’s legitimately WILD to me that anyone actually wastes any energy on doing things like this or being “manipulative” to make someone get obsessed with you? It’s very odd, like you do you but also literally just be yourself and if they don’t like who you actually are then you don’t want that person anyways 🤨 Basically this vid had me in deep though about how people are out here curating every move in their interactions to manipulate and meanwhile I’m just skipping around in dreamland saying everything that passes through my brain and just so unaware of people around me calculating every move 😅 PS you’re hilarious and I want more reaction stuff like this thanks babes

It's a way to get him interested...if he's a detective. That made me snort laugh. 😂

I don't want a guy to get obsessed with me. Like. Ever. Have we learned nothing from Twilight and After?

Loving all this "How to emotionally mess with someone until either him or you has to take out a Restraining Order on the other" advice 👍

I'm not a hot girl, but I managed to get my boyfriend to fall in love with me by baking him a tonne of cakes. It worked, we've lived together for like, 4 years now.

Carley calling us fucking freaks is 🫶✨

I LOVE that the "mental health advocates", "we need to face our fears in therapy" generation's idea of romance is to create trauma and insecurities in others.

I love hot girl friends. They are so genuinely unaware how different their baseline is until they start getting older and then they become total badasses with the new awareness they have. I love them so much.

“If you see your crush at school just walk up and say hey you big fuckin silly and then put a Glock to his head”😭😭😭😭😭 I can’t breathe

okay so they have 3 advices they give on loop, got it

Can you imagine the kind of relationships these people are in? It's so painful!

It's very disturbing that most of those recommendations translated into psych language would be like "behave as if you had borderline personality disorder"... and that often enough it works.

“you wouldn’t last five minutes in a room with me bc I would unhinge my jaw and suck you down my gullet” lmao CARLEY you were on fire in this one, babes!!! 10/10 ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

a lot of those vids were just teaching serious manipulation. thats not how to get ur crush to be "obsessed 😍" with you, thats going to tear their mental state apart. no amount of "lol toxic alert 🚨!! cant say i didnt warn you 😚" shit will excuse teaching kids how to ruin every relationship theyll ever be in, romantic or otherwise. sincerely, someone who fell victim to this shit multiple times in a friend group and got diagnosed with c-ptsd because of it

something abt those types of videos is whether it’s a man or woman, you can completely tell when someone is putting on a show to get you to like them. they immediately desire you to cling to them and are incredibly obsessive while hiding how they are themselves. they don’t communicate and want you to find their unhealthy habits attractive. if you don’t, they become dejected and insulted, especially when you call them out on it. they don’t want a bf/gf, the want the validation society gives you for just being in a relationship, no matter how toxic behind the scenes. they act like confident and secure people while feeding their insecurities by forcing them onto others.

That Daisy by Marc Jacobs was such an unnecessary attack 😂🌸

👋 **no older sister here** can completely relate. THANK YOU!! I am always trying to explain to people that this is why I can't do make up, don't know how to french braid, and didn't finish college.

please take this as the compliment it is - you are the female version of Mike’s mic and I love it

I once had a friend who was just somehow extra hot. And i didnt get that. Like I saw a girl, nice fit and funny whatever just a girl. But every time i went out with her guys just stopped her in the middle of our walk and tried to get her number and wont let her alone and not only ignoring me but treating me like trash bin. So yeah, if you are not naturally a magnet for mans attention you cant just make everybody laugh till you are in bed naked. Work both ways.

all of this advice is just the DENNIS System rebranded 😭

why do they want men to be obsessed with them??? that sounds like the scariest thing in the world, hello??

I dunno, I’ve been trying the “I have a secret and I’m not telling you” bit all day and have been proposed to thrice and propositioned 42 times. Dad might be on to something.

We love(?) femcel representation

Your dad's advice is actually highly accurate, all men desire nothing more than to be privvy to a good secret, we actually all turn instantly in to detectives.

as an only child, girl i'm right there with u fended for ourselves we did what we could 6% fashion sense

Carley, the sacrifices you make to create content for us peruses of the internet are so noble. And wow these creators seem endlessly fascinating to me, but probably not in the way they are intending.

i'm actually dumbfounded at these tiktoks. having been on the other end of these tactics and still trying to recover from it all this really blows my mind. actively promoting harm ... just girly things i guess

😊😊😊 you are encouraging me to make my hiatus from TIKTOK scrolling indefinite 😊😊😊

The first time I tried chatting with an AI chatbot, I asked it some random question about films, and there were suggestions about what to ask next at the bottom, the first one of these was "Tell me more about that."

These aren't dating tips it's just 'how to gaslight someone 101' Great vid btw

Second girl literally teaching you how to emotionally manipulate someone

As an only child with older parents (I’m 27) I didn’t have YT when I first started getting interested in makeup! My mom rarely wore it and did very basic stuff, so it’s a miracle I’m decent at it

They take books/ fANFICTION / Romance movies to serious 🤨😂😂

That woman's makeup looked flawless because of filters and lighting

When you said “I’m a thimble and you’re a beast” I choked on air

the fact that every woman you showed was like “oh just be obsessed with urself!!!

Not sure how I ended up down this rabbit hole considering the fact that I'm a 42 year old man, but I found this really amusing. Despite the fact that there is no scent or. color, some of those "tactics" actually work. However, I wouldn't recommend being emotionally and psychologically abusive to someone. A lot of that behavior is typical of psychopaths and narcissists. The "Love-bombing", the emotional blackmail, the idealizing, devaluing, and discarding. The whole cycle of abuse. Why do you even want someone to be obsessed with you? Why do you think getting. what you want is a good idea? Ask anyone who has ever had a wish granted by a genie or David Bowie if getting what you want is a good idea.

there has been not one day in my life that i have regretted deleting tiktok

I've seen that last girl on IG before and it's absolutely bananas to me that she has made a business out of her manifestations. It's like the zoomer girl version of finance fitness bros selling "coaching courses" for 300 bucks a month, except she just teaches you how to use magic i guess.

brb sending my partner "you looked different today, and I liked it" even though I have not seen him today

All i want in this life is a hidden cam show about these tiktok "male pickup artists" and "female pickup artists" trying to pick up each other. Is that too much to ask?

We will always support you and your channel. Just know you're the best at everything.

i love that as a society we can finally accept that the headless woman in Tom and Jerry was our collective sexual awakening

Carley taking on cringey and toxic pick up artists on a Friday?? Yeah sign me up!! PS: I’m so considering going to Canada for your watchalongs in the future because they sound fun af

idk if a girl just started choking me and continued talking like she wasnt i might propose on the spot

Non-toxic advice to make a guy obsessed with you: be yourself & the right guy will be obsessed :) & if he’s not he’s not worth your obsession!!

You stanning "women in stem" after she says there's science to back it up 💀💀💀💀💀

I use the small hand trick ALL THE TIME. This is so real

These ladies have been taking relationship advice from Charles Manson and the heavens gate guy. "Tell him that the apocalypse is nigh and the only way he can survive is to date you"

It's actually concerning how many of them end up devolving into emotionally abusing guys like: "So basically just walk up to him, punch him in the face, spit on him, call him useless and pathetic. and then tell him to pick you up at 8 but don't tell him your adress or your number just ask for his number and give him every your number but only every odd digit, also text him at 6 telling him that the date's off but then at 7:45 call him and yell to him that's he's late and that if he didn't want to date then he shouldn't have asked you for it in the first place. Anyways remember to follow for more tips! 😘💖"

carley we missed you so freaking much❤

"he is literally addicted to me" my first thought was Edward Cullen ngl

how to pick up a man: ✨stockholm syndrome✨ 🚨toxic alert🚨

its insane to me how theyre literally describing love bombing and other ways of manipulation and just act like its this dating technique 🏃‍♂️

Carley "I'm friends with models" Thorne. Lol