My ex taught me that no matter how good of a women you are you’ll never be good enough for a guy who isn’t ready to be a man

I met my husband on Bumble last year May. We got married in October, and I moved to the Netherlands this year Feb. I had my list of 19 non negotiable things that i wanted my future husbandto have. We celebrate 1 year Anniversary next week, all I can say is truly God CAN, AND WILL answer your prayers. Be very specific and don't be afraid to ask for the very best. He created all of us and knows the perfect person for you. My husband is everything I ever dreamt and more, from a life partner . I now just live in total gratitude everyday.

MY non-negotiables °Not violent and No anger issues °Emotionally intelligent and Available °Have A belief system[fear of God] °Compatibility °Financial responsibility °Caring and intentional with me and our relationship °Good conversationalist °Good hygiene practices °Can commit and be loyal °Not Selfish °Sense of family [healead or healing any parternal issues or sibling issues he has] °Sexually responsible °Make sure he actually likes and values me °Stability

When Jo said, 'Heal your dad wounds otherwise you'll keep dating your dad over and over again' Felt it to my core, yho😅

Lesson from my ex: STAY MILES AWAY FROM BROKE/STINGY MEN. THEY WILL BE STINGY EVEN TO THEIR KID

When Lydia said “In my own personal growth I’m going to align more accurately to people who speak to my soul” 😭

I learnt from my ex that sometimes a man will need you when he's in a certain phase of his life and when he's done with the phase so is he with you.

My ex taught me that ,,never find love in a lonely place,it will have u settling for anything.. Know urself,love urself n be happy with where u are that man is adding to what u already have

What my recent ex has taught me is ,you can be doing so well but one day they might wake up one day and not choose to be with you anymore,so love yourself a little more and move from that space asap

What I learnt: Compatibility is not a You problem. They might be cute but you really have different core values and it is okay to move on to the next. 2. You can be the nicest person and have all the qualities, but you can not force a man to reciprocate, or choose you. Songa kama injili. Love the episode. Why are these partnerships sleeping on you. Advertise even cooking oil and we will engage with the content😅😅 #TMI to the world for sure

I have seen alot of growth on Murugis emotional experience ..she has become alot kinder and gives more grace to love.absolutely incredible

Watching this after a devastating heartbreak. Definitely what I needed to hear. A lesson I learnt from my ex is that you just have to be yourself. You don't have to change, you don't have to fall off from the things you like to accommodate a love that won't accept you. In tears, but holding on strong sistas!!!❤

Lyd's reaction to Murugi's ex beating up the sister😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

People have started asking me......why do you always smile like that on Wednesdays 😂😂😂😂 common it's my favorite day in the week 😂😂😂❤❤❤

Ever since Lyd said that watching Ads earns you guys money...I never skip any ad...I love seeing you guys win❤

Thats it's okay to still love them and let them go anyway. Not all endings have to be ugly.☺️☺️

congratulations on the win, I decided to hear you guys after seeing the award. I wondered what you guys talk about and decided to listen. After listening 3 podcast am here wishing you guys existed when I was at my 20s. You guys are big sisters for younger girls out here. My new fav podcast.

Am going to throw my two cents and the conversation for men as much as you said that we are the chosers you still have to be chosen back in terms of whether the woman your interested in will actually have you. So just as much women are chosen but they also have the power to chose the guy back so both have power in terms of whether a relationship happens

One of my ex's taught me that true love exists and the other taught me the importance of self love.

I have learned the foundation of a relationship usually determines the trajectory of that relationship. I recently broke form this lady who I found she was sharing nudes with another guy. I talked to her and forgave her only for her to feel guilty the next day. Also I have learnt that the best quality you should look for in a partner is a person who can be remorseful for their mistakes. Get someone who is kind. Let the sex be in sync and finally, a good communicator (Someone you can hold a conversation without being defensive).

And congratulations on the pulse award 😭💕🤭

Peaceful love exist where you can be yourself 100%, good men exist supportive and secure breed

Lydia!!! Ding! Ding! Ding! I'm with you on the LISTENING!!😮‍💨😮‍💨 I'm listening a lot more in this season❤❤❤❤❤

When yall said that ppl dont need money to treat you well. . .so i learnt that lesson from my last ex. He spent a grand total of sh 150 on me in the whole 5 months that we were together. He was a resident gynacologist in a big regional hospital. I still feel my gut wrench when i remember how much i tolerated just to be with a doctor. I still havent forgiven myself😅

Commitment manifests when the other person's verbal words and actions are married

My ex taught me I’m the problem 😂 you know how u think people need fixing Alafu u sit back and reflect and realise that’s how it’s suppose to be it’s only your reality is messed coz of your traumas 😂 I walked around with the victim mentality but I’m the problem. I have anger issues. I am avoidant. I give the silent treatment. I believe it’s my way or the high way. Basically I’m fucked up🙈 but Atleast I know now and is willing to work on them in shaa Allah

I really enjoyed the conversation. I hope we all find love in the right place.

Wednesdays are for TMI!!❤

Complacency: That is the truth. This makes you brew so much toxicity in a relationship.

i have listened to every episode, thank you for recognising us. WE LOVE YOU!

I extend a huge amount of grace to where people are placed,,,, I love this girl❤

What i learnt from my ex . Being told he need time to put his "house" in order so that he can commit to you fully is just a brutal way of keeping you there 😂😂😂😂. The truth is his other rship has picked up and thriving .

Now I'm in love with Lydia's first boyfriend..... I genuinely hope he is happy 😊😅

Welcome back Lyd 🥰

y'all are doing the lord's work at making the dating pool tolerable

and this episode is after the plus award ....and we did it 🎉🎉🎉🎉 ...am so proud that I voted 😊😊😊😊 congratulations again my people ❤❤❤

You Ladies are Phenomenal. Your content is Top tier relatable, thank you for the work you put in ❤❤

The most important thing I have learnt from TMI is that it can get better. And it does. Thank you.

My ex taught me that a man is who he is, not who I believe he is.

The way these two women school me 😢 this topic was right on the money.

Its definitely tmiiiiiiiii🎉🎉❤❤

This is definitely the best episode of TMI i have watched,,but i refuse to believe it's the best, because the best is yet to come!! Greaatt topiiicc. I have learned alloottt fr

Love can absolutely be peaceful

We love it here and we love you both 🤗

Lydia's wisdom...❤❤❤

You girls really make me happy. I just love you. ❤❤❤❤

I'm that person who has listened/watched every single episode. I LOVE YOU GUYS keep going hard🎉❤

Heeeh....my ladies, I have other core values but height is definitely one of them. I'm like 5'6 and I have an ex who was waaay shorter than I. He had both good and bad sides but the one that I didn't like the most was the attention seeking. He kept looking for that recognition in a crowd. Sorry to say but short man syndrome is a thing. Especially for men. They tend to over compensate for their height.

What a conversation, great❤

Definitely the best podcast have ever come across

So much wisdom from these ladies.. every episode i learn something knowledge, TMI is therapy to me

I learnt that love is being yourself in the relationship.

You all scored A's on this one; when Lydia talk about familiarity and unable to recognize the red flags as a result was like several LIGHT BULBs went on....stay sweet ladies

Insightful conversation, I love it

My ex taught me to put myself first regardless of the situation (AKA being selfish).

Murugi being real ❤

It's definitely TMI❤

CONGRATULATIONS ON THE PULSE AWARDS 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤💯💯💯. Very well deserved

Not it’s a mass order going to every office across Nairobi 💀🤣🤣🤣

I agree with that dating app situation. I like selecting what I want. Not waiting for someone to choose me

Just learnt about you during the pulse award, and im so glad to be among the new subscribers ❤❤❤ this was enlightening

Thank you guys for this show. For sharing. So grateful for this show. Coz I have learnt a lot on this episode.🤗👏👏

I have watched all episodes apart from 2 that was to triggering .you add value......I have learnt ,I have enjoyed and that's why

very educative. i am awed

What I've been waiting for 😍😅

Lydia's first reason is 💯

Finalllyyy...its Wednesday😂❤❤my favourite day of the week because of you two😅

Now I'm subscribed to Tmi with all my accounts. Someone show me where VIP followers sit, please. Anyway, I love your show guys, you keep it real on so many levels. Zile kidogo I might not agree with, I let slide.

Am that person who has watched all episodes of tmi and I go back to rewatch

Am always eager to learn from this podcast. You ladies are amazing and helping us alot

Ati tulisema we are commenting after watching🥲....... I will tho, in the meeantiimee🤣

Everytime I listen I feel alot wise and so much better and so intentional about my feeling and thing I do and that that mh feeling are validated

This was so educative and amazing❤

Not me liking the video even before the intro, you guys😍

Karibu nyumbani Lyd☺️. It's Definitely TMIIII 🎶keep it 💯. If only i could subscribe again every episode, I would😎. Quality stuff✨. #WCW ❤❤

Weh,this r/ship field has a loooot to learn and unlearn

Wednesday for TMI❤️

I needed this episode❤❤

not 'Lady Danbury me' Lydia😂😂

It's the daddy wounds for meeeeee!!!

Wednesday's are for TMI ❤🎉😊

Eeeeiii....y'all invested in SHOUTING in this episode😂

❤❤❤ Yess Girls 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Congratulations,,🎉

Please tell me why I've been waiting since morning for TMI😂😂😂😂, and it was uploaded and I watched it an hour later?😢😢😢 Ugh... Let me tell you Sally Mae, my favorite day of the week ❤❤❤❤❤❤ TMI TMI TMI TMI🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Never ask a man what are we Thank you and welcome

Girls winning 🎉🎉🎉 Hi Lyd, Jen's already subscribed 2 years ago😅

I've started laughing and sijaanza kuwatch😅😅😅

Everytime I listen to your episodes I’m reminded that I should start therapy😂

I love u guys # big sisters for life

Not me tapping the like button even before I dig into the topic. Coz am 💯 sure it's a bomb. We learn to relearn those people whom we used to know 😂😂

Always enjoying the show, good job girls ❤❤

Have been waiting hoo, ❤️❤️

This was deep

Jo you’re a real G 😂😂😂

About online dating and dating apps... I'll first oops,!! Actually Lydia and murugi can do the bad and the angly about it. I know some people have met through dating online which is incredible but ...whats the percentage i guess less than 10% that lead to meaningful connections. Having conversations online is great but once you meet them is a flip 🙃 an opposite of the conversations. After several times trying to figure out online dating this is what I learnt.(ever been on bumble for sometime).Better date someone youve met one on one. Anyone can be anything online and on keyboard...untill you meet the toxic unhealed humans coming to seek self-gratification on online apps.. A crazy world in this dating streets....

My ex taught me no matter the acrobatics you do in bed if you aint the one he wants you aint, and no matter how beautiful you are you cannot compete when the woman he wants. Cheers to lessons❤️❤️❤️

Why do y’all keep saying ‘Jane’ ? 😂 I love TMI! ❤ No cap!!!

So you stay invested in gaaarbaage,gaaarbage😂😂 I love Lyd💯

@57:25 When Lyd said "Take my mic, take my mic" 😪😩