Story 1: AITA for telling my dad the reason I don't respect him is cuz he's chronically p**sy-whipped? Story 2: 5:47 AITA for not giving my stepmom a heads up that my daughter was being named after my mom? Story 3: 8:48 AITA for telling my mom she needs to own her marriage failing and not blame me? Story 4: 12:08 AITA for screaming at my step mother that she doesn't care about us?

I read more of OP in Story 1’s replies on Reddit and it’s really heartbreaking. One example she gave is when their family was taking a trip to Disney World and she was dropped off at her grandparents house on-route. The problem from what it looks like with OP’s dad is that since his first wife died he’s been obsessed with the “happy family” bubble, which is why he’s allowed his SO’s to get away with so much. He wants to live in the illusion that he has a happy life, and doesn’t want any reminders that nothing is perfect. This is why I think he refuses to do therapy or acknowledge OP’s problems or concerns, because that doesn’t fit his ideal of family life. I also think OP’s dad doesn’t actually want OP around because they’re a reminder of the life that they once had. I’ve unfortunately read quite a few stories where this happens, where a widowed spouse tries to have a “do-over” family and phased out the children they had with their dead spouse because the children are just a reminder of everything they’ve lost.

Story #1: yeah the dad is a super simp , my advice is to start secretly preparing to find another place to stay because it’s gonna get to a point were the stepmom is gonna make your dad choose her or you. So just be ready for your dad to eventually kick you out in favor of her.

Dad in story 1 better shape up before OP drops the biggest "Mom should've been the one who lived" bomb on him.

The fact that he's putting his wife before his own child is gross. If I were OP I would cut contact once turning 18 (if it's an option), moving in with a friend.

I wonder if the op in the first story is in contact with their maternal grandparents? If so, they need to reach out and try to see if their grandparents can get custody of them because they currently live in a toxic household and need to get away from their dad and stepmother

I grew up with a situation like story 1. My mom was alive and I lived with her, but my dad put his wife and her children (not his biologically) before his bio-children. She was awful to me as a child and he never did anything about it. It was so bad I didn’t want to visit him anymore and didn’t call him because she’d force him to put us on speaker so she could hear. He died when I was 13 and I don’t even remember what he looks like because of how little I saw him. I also made preparations for my death (I’m not sick, just like my wishes well known) and I specifically wrote that if my husband dates or marries a woman who treats our daughter with anything resembling abuse, my mother will have full custody of her until the woman is removed from the home. OP is NTA and is going through something difficult after losing her mother. If dad wants to be part of OP’s life when she’s an adult, he needs to stop.

Story 1: Pay close attention to this, men everywhere. Being a door mat for the women in your life to step on won't make them like you, but on the contrary, they will be disgusted by your jelly spine. And not just romantic partner, but even your family, your sisters, daughters, mothers, etc. will look down on you. Have a good evening and thanks for coming to my TEDx talk.

I'm so tired of people being like they keep a roof over ur head and feed you that is their legal obligation as a parent, it is not a favor!!! 🙄😤

Story #1: NTA. Sometimes it's the parent who needs to be told off by the kid. OP's loser father is inadvertently teaching her that it's okay for women to seek out weak men because they will never say no. OP's dad is so desperate for love that he's losing his kid's respect, and that's the biggest failure of them all. Story #2: NTA. Many step-parents have the delusion that they will replace a kid's bio-parent, and get mad when they're rejected. OP's mom has always been in her life, and OP isn't even close with the stepmom. This isn't the stepmom's baby, and she has no say in the naming. It isn't OP's fault that she imagined a relationship that doesn't exist.

Just start calling stepmom different names until she gets the hint. Use names that are really far off from her real name. Like when all three of you are in the same room. Have you all call her a different name. Make a game out of it.

Moved on from a spouse's death in less than a year? I smell an affair.

First story.....NTA it's not your fault that your dad is a simp and pushover. And your stepmom has no place to think she is in charge. In addition she needs to know her place before her and her kids are homeless. If your father can't get his head out his butt to defend yourself then you may want to go no contact for few years to understand what he is losing and what he has lost

I love when terrible parents use the excuse "I put a roof over your head!" like, okay, you're supposed to if they're not of age to live by themselves? To me it's a bit like announcing you used the bathroom, but you also replaced the toilet paper roll so you then demand respect.. It also doesn't excuse treating your kids poorly, ever.

Sounds like stepmom just talked her way out of being called grandma too 🤷🏼‍♀️

Grandma says your dad is doing the bare minimum the coward is required to do by law and moral obligation so you should just suffer and let kids that aren't even related to you have and destroy all your property and never be defended!

Dad is a huge simp in Story 1

I just want to say that story 1 not only implies that the dad's a doormat, but also that he cries to his mother when things don't go his way. Yes, let granny handle this 17 year old, because he can't talk for himself! Poor OP, her dad is absolutely pathetic, and her stepmother is selfish.

Wow. That one story reminds me of the episode of South Park where Stan's parents got divorced. "This is all my fault! Isn't it?" "Yep. Pretty much." Except it's not a cartoon being ridiculous, but a real person. I'm stunned.

This unfortunately is a reality of dudes who put significant others over their own blood

Story number one. You’re not wrong. Put that anger and energy into plotting and preparing your escape. You have 2 more years before you’re FREE. The only other option is to get a job, your ged, find a relative or friend who’s parents will take you in and research how to emancipate yourself.

"Youre das gives you home, warm, food and health" you mean the bare minimum and OBLIGATED BY LAW he HAS to give???

1st story: Apply for boarding school behind their backs and try to get a scholarship to attend. Get away from them and let them self-destruct.

In story 1 I can relate with too, its the same with my dad and over the last 10 years since my mom died it's every once in a while of shitty woman one after the other from addicts to chronically stealing shit and or being put in dramatic/traumatic situations because my dad doesn't have the spine to kick people who pull you down, and the only good thing from the situation is to know who to have in your life and it led me to be a more mature and compassionate person who can take responsibility and it helps me to know I'll never be as spineless as my father and OP is totally going to leave after she is 18 and going no contact.

1st story: Burn the house down if they break your NES

1st story: as someone who also grew up with a simp for a father OP was an asshole but she was completely justified

Triplet one. In primary school, i was best friends with twins, one of whom also had the same name as me. They were identical, and obviously since they were kids, everything was the same except their interests. I learnt to tell them apart and was slightly more friends with one over the other, but i learnt to tell them apart, and I was 10.

Wait OP called the father Pwhipped so he called his mommy to complain?

Story 1- NTA. Sometimes a guy just needs to hear the truth about how him 'being nice' is a hindrance.

The only reason all those people were saying what they said(yta) to story one was because of her title. I can almost guarantee it. The word simp triggered reddit because it's full of people like that.

Laughed out loud at the title.

This makes me realise that if a parent is struck with greif, they should take care of the child first then themselves.

I love when people yell stop acting like a child... to a child

Honestly if I had a father like OP1 I would have acted out waaaaaay worse at that age.

The last one sounds like my MIL, who used to call me 'Melanie or whatever' or 'Melissa or whatever' when neither is my real name. She was making it pretty clear that she didn't like me enough to remember my name even after being with her son for 8 years and engaged for 2. My fiancé finally told her it was rude and suddenly she never gets my name wrong. lol

With the last story.....get the feeling that your stepmom is your dad's affair partner and I can understand if your identical triplets, then she may have a problem. But if you have different hair colors or styles and she still getting y'all confused than she is straight up causing drama with y'all and doesn't care especially if your dad doesn't care. My advice tell your dad to either check his wife or you will move out and go permanent no contact with them. PLAIN AND SIMPLE

2nd story: That like the 15th story this year where step-parent demands to put the title of Mom/Dad when the kids don't want them to have it. This is the tread of 2021. Literally, name the last time step-mom got the honor over a bio parent?! NTA

Title story: NTA. Father is failing OP as a parent. And holy crap how old is stepmom? Five??? Daddy sure knows how to pick em! Sounds like OP is the only adult in this hellhouse. If all of OP's concerns have just been rugswept, I don't blame her for going off on mr. noodle-spine. And grandma can eff right off, putting a roof over OP's head is his freaking job. I hope OP is able to get out of there. If not, starts getting ready to get out ASAP.

How does that mom expect to be honored when shes crying like a baby.

Okay but that first story was funny as hell, NTA just being blunt

Parents who prioritize their own happiness over the wellbeing of their kids are terrible ppl and unfit to be parents

Story 1: NTA, it's heartbreaking to see children in such a situation and the parents patting themselves on the back as if housing and feeding their own children was something outstanding. Story 2: NTA, stepmom may consider her a daughter, probably because she doesn't have children of her own, but that doesn't mean OP considers her a mother (figure), especially if her own is still in the picture. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't notice anyting if the mom is still alive or not. I find it a bit weird why you'd give your daughter a male name though, like Jacqueline Herman or something? We have the same thing in Germany with Maria as a same name for men and I have no idea why.

Why do things swing to extremes? You either hear stories of abusive, controlling men or men who are complete doormats. Where are the sensible middle men? Men who are kind, helpful, open-minded AND have boundaries? Don’t be the abuser and don’t put up with abuse, from anyone! Parents, partners, children, friends, coworkers, bosses, strangers, etc. don’t get a free pass to be abusive. Don’t be afraid to cut a-holes out of your life. It’s ok to be alone. It’s actually better!

I tracked down the Reddit thread for #1: holy crap, there were actually forty-odd cat lady "feminists" saying they "forgave him" (until they realize 'he' is a she) for the misogynist language 'he' used. Those people are social cancer. Seriously.

Story 3: Definitely NTA... I was in my 20s when I lost my dad due to illness and I was a mess. I wouldn't say we were close like two peas in a pod but he was there most of my life. He was my dad and I was his son. I was used to seeing him whenever I visited. The moment he died, I felt lost... and honestly, I still do. I can not imagine how that feels for a young girl not even the age of 10...

Step mom had no right to say anything about about baby name parents do . Not whole step mother is . Love the new life you have in your arms.

Op1 is a bad ass and dear old dad needs to stop simping and start parenting for about 3 seconds.

Story 1: NTA. Your father is responsible for providing for you. Remarried parents who put down their own flesh and blood to curry favor with their new gf/wife suck. He's a beta simp loser - not for giving you everything you want - but for putting you second to any T&A that gives him a second glance. Be strong and seriously work for your independence. When you leave the house, make decisions that put you in a position to never need your father again. You may simply have to love him from a distance and the next time he ignore your feelings when you are firmly on your own, tell him that he has been a half-ass father who emotionally neglected his daughter for a piece of ass and that you are done with him. Story 2/Story 3 : NTA. The only thing worse than a bad step-parent is a bad parent . . .

A parent is LEGALLY REQUIRED to feed, clothe, hydrate, keep clean, give medical dental and vision attention, and enroll their MINOR CHILDREN WHOM CANNOT/HAVE TO DEPEND ON AN ADULT to take care of them. The child owes the parent absolutely nothing in return; they did not ask to be here, and none of those things are a bargaining chip for accepting abuse and a good judge will tell you that before jailing your ass for child neglect. Also, op’s wording was just fine.

Well, the mom who wants her daughter to apologize for not moving on as quickly as her mother did when she remarried less than a year after the girl's father died isn't quite as big an A-hole as the father in a true crime case I read about. He hired a hit man to murder his wife, the mother of his sons, then expected his sons to be happy for him when he announced his new girlfriend [yeah, the reason for the murder], while they were still processing the fact that their mom had been murdered. I don't know if that would make the OP feel better, though. (No, I don't remember the case. I read the book more than 20 years ago.)

Story 1:SIMP

With the third story I can see completely what's going on here. Mom either couldn't deal with being alone for a long period of time and focusing on her child and just married the first dude she's fine and she knew her daughter was never going to accept it. Or the mother cheated on her husband during the marriage and just married the affair partner. And instead of getting control to help to get her through the death of her father she pretty much told her daughter to suppress her feelings get over it and move on. My advice to the original poster is simple until your mother truly and fully apologizes for what she basically put you through and for basically blaming you for the downfall of her marriage then you need to go no contact with her sport least a couple of years and get yourself some counseling because let's be honest here she's got a lot of regret and guilt for not focusing on you when you were a child but she's also blaming you because she doesn't want to blame herself for how the relationship is between the two of you. Until she does that she has no place in your life plain and simple and it is not your fault and not even close.

In the first story, I can dig it. I happen to be an AH though so after the grandma called I would have dug the knife deeper and apologized for making him run to his mommy.

I collect retro video games and video game consoles. They aren’t like Nintendo switches which are more durable. An NES is more old, expensive, the games are even MORE expensive, and if you break it or get the controllers sticky, you have to buy special equipment to fix it, or find some old professional to do it. The father refuses to understand why OP is mad and instead wants to keep his new gf happy pappy. OP has gotta run.

Stories 1-4, What is with these entitled step parents thinking they are the mom or in need of the honor? Get real, you are at best a friend, if they let you in

I will always take my daughters side on everything regardless of what she does or says. She is the most important.

The "he puts a roof over your head" argument is so off base. That is literally required of him by law. Stop telling people to respect their parents for doing the absolute minimum that is required of them. That is the responsibility they willingly agreed to when they decided to have a child.

1st story - "Theyd complain about anything and he's end up handling it to please them so they'd stick around" .... so they'd stick around, yep, because there is a man that understands women. Quote "She who must be obeyed" Horace Rumpole Hopefully in seeing that, the daughter will not grow up to be yet another one of these women who dump at the drop of a hat when agreement is not forthcoming.

Story:1 I feel so sorry for that young teenager. Who has to be saddled with her father's gf/wife's kids and and also be the housemaid. The disrespect that your own father can't muster the bare minimum to stand up and protect his own flesh and blood is tragic to me.

The dad in story one called his mother on his own kid.... Why are you still under her skirt? This dad is so weak.

The father in the first one is the type of idiot who will always put women over his own child and then act so confused when op finally had the chance to move out and cut him off completely

Your dad and his wife are making you do adult things. Cooking, cleaning babysitting, etc. This is abuse to a minor! When you can get out of that toxic home as soon as possible. I’m sorry for you OP! NTA!

Yeaaaaa the 16 year old may have a legit concern but you are still his daughter and owe him a level of respect. As the father you need to prioritize your daughters concern. Both have to work together.

Story 1) Call cps. What they are doing is called parentification. Those kids are her responsibility, not yours. You do NOT have to drop your stuff and cater to them.

Mom's name. Wow! How incredibly rude that husband should want his child to have a family name in child's given names. Step mom is just plain wrong. Would she have been upset if OP had named the child Gertrude Marie, names that had nothing to do with either family? No her feelings were hurt because OP chose her real mom over her. I mean again how rude for a child to want to honor their own bio family. OP NTA. And don't feel obligated to use step mom's name or family name with the next child either.

This video could have been titled: "Kids who are more mature than the adults in their lives." Dad in story 1 is mad his kid calls him out for doing what Dad shoulda done: standing up to stepbully Amanda. StepMom in story 2 is having a pity party because OP doesn't seem to understand how it hurts to have your unreasonable entitlement go unrewarded. Story 3: Mom tries to blame her epic failures as a mom and wife on a child, and a step mom is surprised now-grown stepdaughter want t be called BY HER OWN NAME! Oooooh, the entitlement of wanting to be called by your own name after only eight years!

NTA. Dad needs to grow a pair. Emancipation is looking better...

Oh, for heaven's sake! My middle name is for my mother's mother and my younger sister's middle name is for our father's mother. (Considering that Granny told Dad he was going to Hell for marrying a Catholic, I think Mom was being generous.) Of course a loving bio-mom will be honored first.

For the triplets, I'm a bit disappointed that no comments talked about face blindness.

Second story.....NTA but it seemed like she may have wanted a close relationship between you and her and it just didn't happened. And to be honest you might catch hell from your father at some point. My advice is go low contact with the two and prepare for therapy later on with dad and stepmom. There are more issues than the baby's name

Story 1. Normally I would favour the parents, however in this case NTA your father is not fulfilling his duties as a father. A continuous stream of women through his door since his wife died is not a stable environment for a growing young girl. The latest spoilt princess with two pieces of another mans baggage using her as an unpaid babysitter/tutor and housekeeper way to go dad! If there is another relative you could stay with that might be a good option. If not then sorry, but you will have to stick it out until you go to college, make it far away so you don't have to live at home. One last chance, get your dad away from the family and have a real heart to heart talk with him about your situation and what you need from him, if it works ok if not, then you know you can not rely on him for anything so must make it on your own, sorry for stating facts. Best of luck young lady hope life takes a turn for the better for you.

Kid is right. Step mom is a monster

Just spend all your time outside the house. Hang out in parks or public buildings with WiFi or with friends until it’s late then come home. Live like this until you leave

OP1 you called out your father..well done. You are the child he is an adult. NTA ..you are good! OP2 how you name your child is noones Business..i don't have kids(unfortenately) but i would always name i.g. my son after my father and my hubby is good with it. OP2 NTA..NTA..NTA OP3 my “mother“ brought in a new man after five month of the of my father..i was 16 So you are NTA..your mother is at fault completely. OP4 NTA punish you at 21yo..lol..your step mother and father are full of sh*!

Twins: Step-mom is obviously doing it on purpose and their dad is useless. I'd be done with this. Even if they all dressed exactly the same and had the same hair styles, it's just not that difficult to tell twins (even identical) apart when you live with/around them a lot. One stands differently. One is 5 pounds lighter. One talks/breathes differently than the others. It's not hard. NTA. Since their dad is going to take his wife's side over his kids when she's clearly in the wrong, they should move out and go LC. Either their dad will get the message when he doesn't see them much anymore, or he won't care. Either way they'll get their answer and be able to move on.

First story OP, This situation really sucks, your dad is doing the bare minimum and your grandmother thinks this is okay. If possible go to a therapist, maybe through your school ? because to me it sounds like when you lost your mom you also lost your dad and now you're all alone. Things will eventually get better, hang in there !.

First Story Worst Dad Ever Is Putting Your Daughter First To Hard. I Have One Word For This Dad Karma. Second Story Worst Step Mother Ever Naming a baby girl after her grandparents on both sides of her family is wrong then I Don't Want to Be Right. I have a good name for this stepmom cry baby 😭🍼 Third Story Move Out And Cut contact. Last Story Get stepmom a drug test she might be on drugs. It's not that hard to tell triplets apart use initials use cool nicknames apologize is that too much to ask just saying.

First story, wow, OP's father's self-respect is somewhere between a snake's butthole and the ground. Unfortunately OP is in a losing battle there, he won't change, for the best case scenario, leave at 18 and don't look back. Especially giving the OP's step-mother views her as some kind of free labour and she'll probably expect that as long as OP lives there, if OP gets a job almost all of it will be demanded as rent/food/utilities anyway so why bother living under a tyrant and her footstool... father any longer than OP has to. Edit: Missed a word.

First story: I feel too much for the OP, she lost her mom and her father consider her as a baggage to carry around. But she will get better, I know she will. Second story: the entitlement of the step mother, LOL, I may see it as partly justified if she had some bad syndrome like PCOS that didn't allowed her to have kids, but even then, she should have talked with her stepdaughter if she wanted her to carry her name. Third story: "they were both 7 at that time, except mother never grow up" so funny and so (sadly) true at the same time. Some people have to grow before their time, others won't grow no matter what challenge Fourth story: the wife of their father try to make him get distant from his kids? Considering what OP said, that he isn't much of a father, her mission is successful, however, OP's father is the AH in the story.

Just have each triplet start calling her every name other than her real name and see how long it takes for her to get the triplets names right. Oh hello Helen.. say what? Not Helen? Oh my bad Sharon.. what not that either? Well whatever Erin..

Simple solution. Moving forward anytime you’re around and she calls you by your sisters name and not yours, simply don’t answer. Don’t acknowledge her and pretend you heard nothing and keep doing whatever you’re doing. You won’t be disrespectful because that’s not your name and since she didn’t call you by your name you have no reason to respond. After a while she will get the message and dad will as well. She’s disrespectful on purpose so show her you won’t tolerate her disrespect anymore.

Holy fuck op 1 do we know the same amanda? My father was like this dude.

For some reason dad's always get that "New bitch syndrome" but this is to the next fucking level

women dont apologize but when one woman is trying to get another woman to apologize thats when things get interesting

Story 1: I wish I could hug you. You don’t sound stupid. I’m sad that you are sad. You are NOT the a-hole. I’m proud of you that you was standing up for yourself! Your dad should learn something from you ;) If you read this: I’m sending many hugs and love. ❤️

Really though, how many names is this kid supposed to have?

I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU. THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A FATHER AND DAUGHTER, SHOULD BE SOMETHING SPECIAL. SOMETHING CLOSE. HE COULD HAVE WAITED UNTIL YOU LEFT HOME TO MOVE ON... I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN. BUT NEVER RUN FROM THE PAIN THROUGH DRINK OR DRUGS. FOR NOW; WORK ON GETTING A NEW MIND SET. IN LIFE. IT'S NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU. IT'S HOW YOU RESPOND TO IT..

3rd story. I know a couple of twins and i can easily tell wich is wich in a month max you would spot the difference in speech, tone, and physical gestures and that's the minimum you can clearly find the difference if you want

The last one...yeah, everyone should be happy...but as a parent you ought to take into account when your child is going through some serious shit, because if you don't, it can and will fundamentally change your relationship and trust dynamic for the worse. The mother was busy trying to fill the void she had in order to heal (though...total bandaid fix there, like buying a puppy when your dog dies), and I don't think in this case she acknowledged through her grief process that her child was also going through one. Some people that have been in long term, or even short term relationships can have trouble with the feeling of rolling solo, partner-wise....but I think it's important that they do...before establishing any new relationships, get your head right, get your house right, and make sure all is well with your family...start from a good place...I think a lot of steps were missed there. 10 months is ridiculously short an amount of time to meet, establish a relationship, and marry someone at the best of times - definitely moreso when there's a death of a significant other involved. ...and how much more children can feel things like that...no doubt as a kid it DID look like a betrayal of sorts, as an adult I see 10 months from death to new marriage and think "what the fuck". The divorce is likely a result of over time things shifting because the relationship didn't start in a stable place with a person that was *actually* ready to have one. Fix things right or they fall apart.

You could post any story from the perspective of female and male OP and the reactions would be almost every time completely different. Women get coddled and men held to such a high standard. This huge hypocrisy would funny if it weren't so sad.

StepMom is demanding tribute because Mom & hsb got some. Life isn't fair, get used it.

To bad OP can't move with maternal family.

The last story... apologize then don't use her correct name again.

Story 1 my mom did the same thing but in reverse that my stepfather's and boyfriends she always picked a side and you're finally I just left home and never came back nowadays we we build a relationship but you going to have to tell him to his face honestly like this some BS if you don't they going to keep doing it and I'm past 20 so it's

(Story 1)If my daughter called me that I’d definitely change my ways 😂 that’s baaaaad

In regards to "The triplet story" I have friends who were triplets, 2 brothers and a sister, they looked nothing alike. The brothers looked like they weren't even related (one was black haired the other sandy brown/blonde and looked nothing alike in the face), and the sister was a very attractive blonde. All that being said I would still call the brothers by each others name all the time. I've been friends with them for 14 years and still fuck up. It's not that I can't tell them apart it's just that I'm smooth brained.

The dad in the first story sounds like a loser, no wonder his kid doesn't respect him.

I am reading the comments and wondering why anyone is basing their answers purely off the post of a 16 year old. I am not saying her father does not have faults - every parent does, but teenagers are notorious for exaggerating, blowing things out of proportion, and making mountains out of molehills. I think she is bitter, because of the death of her mother, and is projecting those feelings on to her father. I think the daughter secretly despises any woman that would dare to take the place of her deceased mother. Just the way she speaks to people tells me she is filled with bitterness, hurt, and resentment over the death of her mother, and her father replacing her mother with another woman. Her father needs to listen to her and seek individual counseling, as well as family counseling.

I really don't know where this notion came from that as an adult you don't have to admit the things you did wrong as a child. She guilt trip her mom for 5 years for moving on "too fast". That's understandable for a child to do but to reach adulthood is still think you did nothing wrong is just wow.

Hey hang in there I been through the same thing. Went you leave do not come back