"If you cannot show up in your relationship healthy and wholehearted, you need to leave." That's it.
@mca2175 ай бұрын
As someone who believes in the importance of being equally yoked, the moment I realize that our core values don't align, I'll respectfully end the relationship. If our core values don't align, there's no point in continuing the process of getting to know each other. Being equally yoked is so important. I wish more people stood on that principle.
@latoyakelley92595 ай бұрын
Amen!!
@deauiloyoe58785 ай бұрын
Amen! Facts
@conversationswithadrianne2 ай бұрын
Genuine question: how would a person get in a relationship with a person whose core values aren't aligned with theirs?
@danaiewhite38662 ай бұрын
@@conversationswithadriannebrokenness, moving too fast to name a couple... I did this to myself a few years ago and after 5 years of hell and a child I have since then left.. as I began to find myself, get in therapy and pursue God. The healing began.. I would never even entertain the idea of being with someone who's unequally yoked. But it's like I was so broken it made me subconsciously desperate. Stupid to put it frankly... forcing something that I knew deep down just wasn't working... focusing only on the good to make it through. But I had to realize that having good moments doesn't make it a good relationship..it doesn't matter what a person says or what they do for you, it matters how that make you feel and when I was honest with myself I realized that even in the "good" moments I wasn't fully enjoying then because foundation was just off. There are many ways people can end up in a relationship with someone they arent equally yoked with.. this is just my story, hopefully it helps sis❤!
@LilMamba2 ай бұрын
@@conversationswithadriannesometimes we feel we can change that person. Or base it on hope. I was guilty of that. No you're not going to agree on everything but where is the foundation?
@leexinpingАй бұрын
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
@coleman-zx9neАй бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
@leexinpingАй бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
@coleman-zx9neАй бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
@leexinpingАй бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@shandricaanthony75755 ай бұрын
I will love to have coffee and conversation with this brother. Tapping into other intellectual mindsets is a deep interest right now.
@rodneytimpson16085 ай бұрын
Why coffee..to funn
@JackieS8125 ай бұрын
I love Tripp and Ms. Kittie!
@mikeruck28885 ай бұрын
Been having these conversations with him for over a decade and I'm glad other people get to hear these thoughts.
@claymorekwaramba69375 ай бұрын
@@rodneytimpson1608stop 😂😂
@claymorekwaramba69375 ай бұрын
He's big on accountability. Can you handle that ?
@markusbanks75725 ай бұрын
Tripp is a very intelligent man.. Every time I hear him speak,he always makes my antennas rise up.. Much respect & Thank you Tripp 🫡💯!
@user-gr7js8zj3u5 ай бұрын
What's his full name?
@jimmysharp66285 ай бұрын
tripp fontaine. he has a "Ted Talk" out there that's just as good as you get here. one thing for sure, he's always on.@@user-gr7js8zj3u
@juanitawalker26565 ай бұрын
Nothing more that I can do or Nothing more that I am willing to do 🔥🔥🔥🔥. Ohhhh weeee 🙌🏽🙌🏽 he speaking facts.
@moniqueburnham22002 ай бұрын
I whole heartedly agree!!! Once I noticed that he did not care about hiding that he was talking to other women around me and the resentment was very loud. I started my exit plan. At first I was scared because all the fears ran rampant in my mind about all the what ifs but then I realized that I had the upper hand because i built up both of us. I was the driven one, the educated one and the brains behind our success! I packed all my stuff in my cargo van and bounced!!!! Not even a week later he called me because he was fired from the job I did his resume to help him get. It was then that I realized he only wanted the access I provided him. I stayed in that relationship 5 years too long. I left him in 2019, I been on the up and things for him haven’t been working out. Just like Trip said I was in that window of there’s nothing more I could or was wiling to do!!!! At that point I had to show up for me!!!
@alexistaylor74835 ай бұрын
One of the biggest cures to toxic relationships. I told so many you can not fix toxic things. You have to exit. No fixing it. No tolerance. Just leave. No matter what you have to do. What he said is so true.
@calvinmack71245 ай бұрын
At the end of my marriage I was emotionally depleted... I just woke up one day and left....no plan. Sometimes its just time to go.
@ladyonthecoast5 ай бұрын
That's the hardest decision to make.
@calvinmack71245 ай бұрын
@@ladyonthecoast Yes, it was! It's a decision that I have to live with for the rest of my life. My mental health is in a much better place now. You can't take care of others if you're not taking care of yourself.
@ladyonthecoast5 ай бұрын
@calvinmack7124 I'm glad you are in a better place now. I know going through the process feels like purgatory. You are so right, though. I have always heard it said, 'You can't give from an empty well.'
@calvinmack71245 ай бұрын
@@ladyonthecoast appreciate it! Purgatory sums it up... Overwhelmingly distraught! I didn't even have a spoon to my name. I had to find a new job/new place/rebuild everything all while finding who I am as an individual. It's definitely a mental process.
@RockkcoR5 ай бұрын
@@calvinmack7124Takes a strong person to make that decision and start from scratch pretty much. I’ve been there and am Happy you were able to find peace down the line.
@ChristiGo2 ай бұрын
He Said, "Just Go On Ahead and Start Working On Your Exit Plan" Spot On✨🎯💯🙏🏽
@businessandfamilyman60235 ай бұрын
That hit home for me, especially the situation I am right now😮😮
@sondraphillips63165 ай бұрын
Wow! Me too!
@jameseaton535 ай бұрын
Man what.
@isiahyasharahla28965 ай бұрын
Facts! Me too😢
@mylifeinrealtime4 ай бұрын
Me three!
@AffectionateBike-gl4cn3 ай бұрын
Me too 😢
@cynthiagomes29795 ай бұрын
REAL TALK!! Stop wasting people time. Stop wasting your time!! You can't get it back!!
@shamibrown22875 ай бұрын
Word From the moment you can’t be yourself any more, time to go. I agree with the brother
@misguidedpearls74563 ай бұрын
❤
@thecultarchives34402 ай бұрын
Too many Godless pookies & pookieshas are new age pseudo "life coaches" who act as if they're dropping gems but it's mostly feminist, emasculated rhetoric that is purely subjective & personal or just made up to sound intelligent to get attention, applause and notoriety...💯
@Lisa_Lisa3125 ай бұрын
The best lesson I ever learned was realizing and accepting the FACT that I wasn't the one for my spouse. It was an epiphany, I wasn't sad, angry and had no regret. We had an amicable split. Two things can't occupy the same space at the same time, you have to be willing to simply let go to allow something else in. Ase.
@SpiritualLifeCoach435 ай бұрын
He is absolutely right on this 💯%. It's not easy but pray to God ut first then get yoyr money right. If yall have kids then start planning for that 2 week or 1 week on and off situation because that's coming. Don't get petty. Do it gracefully. If they wrong you, let God deal with them their absence will be one of your biggest blessings. It will hurt at first but on time you will see. There's no price on your peace 🙏
@brianaj68075 ай бұрын
Ive been to the point where there was nothing else i could do. Its the most painful thing to let someone go when you still love them but its better to in the long run
@osiegraydon892 ай бұрын
Never regret doing what's best for yourself Never settle for less than what you deserve in life.great message ❤
@aylex19743 ай бұрын
When the respect is not longer there when you see you are nothing for them. Thank you for always inviting me to leave relationships.
@garyshuler77024 ай бұрын
Facts! Like he said, "Even if it's you!"
@CAROLYN143-8-95 ай бұрын
YESSUH, I AM A LIVING TESTIMONY. I STARTED WORKING ON MY EXIT PLAN IN 2006 AND IN 2007 I WAS EMBARKING ON NEW BEGINNINGS. NOW LIVING ON THE OTHER SIDE OF JOY, HAPPINESS, PEACE, SAFETY & PRIVACY IS NOT UP FOR NEGOTIATION.
@cxm12115 ай бұрын
I like that he is not animated and when he talk it’s calming.
@THINKGOODKARMA5 ай бұрын
This was a clear direct message from my ancestors!!
@Bigdvirgoco075 ай бұрын
man is speaking truth and I know it's hard fellas but we gotta keep it real with ourselves and understand life on earth is too short.
@dpaaat5 ай бұрын
This man is a gold mind when it comes to articulating emotion fr, love hearing him break it down so effortlessly.
@williegrant30545 ай бұрын
Scared to be LONELY 😭😭
@mignalyortiz45895 ай бұрын
Sometimes you're in a bad relationship and still lonely.
@williegrant30545 ай бұрын
@@mignalyortiz4589 TRUTH!!
@Lisa_Lisa3125 ай бұрын
People easily forget, ONE is a whole number....
@gashafashi083 ай бұрын
You can be in a relationship or marriage & still be lonely.
@williegrant30543 ай бұрын
@@gashafashi08 TRUE
@anthonydeveaux69545 ай бұрын
Exit plan I have been advising everyone about having a exit plan for years. I learned this 20yrs ago in my own situation having a exit plan from any good or bad situations is a must. being able to protect ones own agenda is paramount to your ability to grow up and fly right. Be easy my friends 🎉🎉
@karonjones5 ай бұрын
I love listening to and being around intelligent people. This brother right here is exactly that!
@mca2175 ай бұрын
This is why if you're not married, you have no business living together.
@candiss51695 ай бұрын
He’s always on point!!! 💯 💯
@Ttahrguyhgy5 ай бұрын
I love him still but I could not stay it was a requirement to leave and a demand to never go back. We hav to make choices in life.
@landrat34815 ай бұрын
The truth🙌☝️💞 ..Wisdom at it's finest 💎💥
@Jeffreyway2 ай бұрын
That's Husband Right There 🙌🏼👑❤🏆👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@chardaemowery88535 ай бұрын
Ask yaself those questions, NOT OTHA FOLKS‼️✔💯
@ngreen12305 ай бұрын
He is speaking the TRUTH 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
@tiffanyhall63425 ай бұрын
Alot of this makes sense however people can grow through their immaturity together. So not everyone should move in this way. Js
@lonitagraham8399Ай бұрын
That's good, there is nothing so amazing than to hear a healthy and mature man speak!! I appreciate you!!❤
@serenedione2 ай бұрын
I could talk and listen to this man 24/7 🙌🏽🙌🏽
@tcampbell16765 ай бұрын
No one will be able to prosper in life if they are in a stuck or stagnant position, they will fail in any relationship they come across.
@empressstaceyjackson53755 ай бұрын
Key 🔑 words, can do or willing to do. ❤🙏🏾
@2011ThaMrs23 күн бұрын
Thank you for straight truth
@user-or8zf2mh2r5 ай бұрын
Amen my brotha you better tell it 💯.
@brilliantbrenda5 ай бұрын
💯 resonated with my past!
@Queenluv87955 ай бұрын
Real talk 💯
@rosemarielawrence-ed5jzАй бұрын
This is absolutely true I did just that and I feel so much better for it the feel after was mind blowing the sense of peace was priceless 🙏🏾
@laquamartin46025 ай бұрын
Preach Sir Amen!
@traceymiller67005 ай бұрын
He speak with such passion and meaning
@ruthcook85995 ай бұрын
FACTS 🌬 💯🎯🔥
@HumbleBeauty6795 ай бұрын
Real shit 💯
@angelalaprade23325 ай бұрын
AMEN THANK YOU ❤❤❤
@aphiwemambi99175 ай бұрын
Thanks for the advice, needed that because I myself I'm in that situation.
@n.o.c.a.noonecaresanymore23725 ай бұрын
Always be ready✊🏾 I totally agree
@SFGDCORP4 ай бұрын
Maaaan I really needed to hear that!
@changeforus15 ай бұрын
Bruh seemed to be chatting with me….. Relationships can be work and not everyone can handle it’s reality🙏🏾💯
@larhondasawyer5979Ай бұрын
Wow 😮 ❤ work on that EXIT 💯💯💯 Truth and True
@International.Channel5 ай бұрын
This is the guy that made me subscribe to this channel actually ❤
@aishadavis554126 күн бұрын
Lord I have a very intelligent brother from my mother that gives great advice and I thank u for him. But I would love to be his friend. If he's married I say this with all respect, also good intentions. I say this because I don't really ever disagree with what he says and he says it with grace I love it and him. Father continue to bless and keep this man strong on his journey with u. In Jesus Christ name I pray Amen. U are everything God says u are, ur very special. U have a gift....u are a gift....I love to hear u speak.....
@MsMarmolade4 ай бұрын
Dang you don’t even know how much I needed to hear this. ❤
@_Tree5 ай бұрын
He's right!!
@AaliyahAmourr2 ай бұрын
love this man so knowledgeable
@geehampton93635 ай бұрын
Thats real sht 💯
@Keyaniale2 ай бұрын
This !! I need this !!
@michaeljones84845 ай бұрын
I’m in a shitty toxic one sided relationship and this shit is mentally tough. This woman can vent to me about whatever she going through or how she feels about me. However, the moment I express how I feel or vent to this woman I get interrupted, she’s passive aggressive, and highly defensive. So I’m at point just cut ties and be along fuck love
@kayochambers94184 ай бұрын
Shes emotionally unavailable or narcissist sometimes its both
@marilynjackson75325 ай бұрын
I love your videos because everything you say is very relatable. I would like to see you write a book.
@slimeballsake5 ай бұрын
he is a beautiful being
@the-infamous40285 ай бұрын
Dang,that hit bro hard, you can tell he’s like damn I gotta start packing when I get home.
@Grace-love794 ай бұрын
My ex said if you are so unhappy why don’t you leave the marriage? If you think I’m so wrong why are you still her? Remember you have to take you wherever you go, you will always have your problems, but I’m not leaving, I’m not the problem. You know nothing about marriage, you have never been married before, like me. Go leave, bet you can’t this time. You tried before and no one wants you. I left with my kids and did not look back. Heard that he spread lies to everyone about me and then tried to ask for me to go back. If any relationship gets to this point then ladies walk away and stay away. Let them stay alone.
@LyfeLuv5 ай бұрын
I needed this 💯💯 Facts Tripp. Yes it's time for a escape plan 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. Thank you so much for this advice Tripp 💋
@ShaShaLuva4145 ай бұрын
Well said There was nothing more that I wanted to do. 😎✌🏾after 30 yrs.
@jewellennmccormick72063 ай бұрын
Straight facts start making a exit plans to move cause it’s getting a bit to much for me now👍🏾
@neekneek5882 ай бұрын
Well said
@shonb9895 ай бұрын
💯💯💯
@hennessytheblackrose65195 ай бұрын
CORRECT I DID THAT ASAP 👑🙏🏽👑💯🎯👸🏽🎯💯🎯🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
@merys3332 ай бұрын
After dating for a few months and realizing that he wasn’t over his ex while feeding me “the trajectory we are on is for you to be my lady” I simply made a mental note and had an end date.
@Wellnesssoulutions2 ай бұрын
So true!!
@geminisunlover4 ай бұрын
Definitely nothing more that I can do and nothing more that I'm willing to do. Time to move on. This too shall pass. Self love is the best love. ❤
@IdontHOEnoMOE5 ай бұрын
This message is for black men that you should have an exit plan as early as the first half year of your relationship to mitigate losses if the break up so happens.
@jas15655 ай бұрын
😂😂
@bashsnk15 ай бұрын
The message is for the gender who don't take accountability for their actions
@soriba3915 ай бұрын
@@bashsnk1 there is a gender called fools?^^
@rosabscuraАй бұрын
@@bashsnk1oh.. so it’s us raping people and then not being punished by the judicial system.. wow that’s crazy.
@michaelbassett5465 ай бұрын
No truer words could have been said.
@renaywaterman8155 ай бұрын
💯
@tonytony48452 ай бұрын
Real Talk Plain Simple Facts: 💯 Lenny Williams' song sound very good but it also turned men into stalkers but if somebody Dnt want U, let them go. Be Bless Not Stress & work on you
@ntwalamasule81755 ай бұрын
Is there a full video of this conversation? Where can I watch it?
@AlyssaIrvine26 күн бұрын
The necklace/sweater combo is fire 🔥
@missnelle13125 ай бұрын
Current situation 😏 Exit plan Is activated 🙏🏾
@EmPressTMW5 ай бұрын
God i love Tripp....❤
@nyonthemap6174 ай бұрын
Each person and relationship is dif. If u all stop treating a man or a woman like they are every man or woman. And acknowledge them intently as an individual. And your relationship as unique and stop taking advice from whoever then it will go farther.
@ahsiendleifyb43125 ай бұрын
Can someone please tell me where is the full video or live stream?
@klove61495 ай бұрын
1000% AGREE!!
@tavarshia31225 ай бұрын
Back story: Son makes breakfast in the morning and leaves a mess in the kitchen; dad takes son to school every morning after walking the dog. I want dad (my husband) to make sure that our son cleans up his mess before leaving the house. Husband: "How do I make sure that he cleans up his mess if I'm asleep?" (he's not sleep, he wakes our son up). Me: "You smell the food he's cooking, you know he's gotta clean it up." Him: "My brain don't work that way." Me: "So you're saying that your brain don't work that way and you can't tell our son to clean up his mess after making breakfast?" Him: "Why you make that sound negative?" How do I make this sound positive?
@darhkz39005 ай бұрын
I don’t think “making it sound positive” is the issue here. Y’all have a communication problem, and these little things are only going to get worse. He might be stubborn or whatever else, just take your time, calmly and non-combatively, without emotions, have a conversation about how to solve the problem. Compromise if you have to. It’s hard to argue with someone who doesn’t want to argue Rn you’re arguing about smelling food and waking up and that isn’t taking you nowhere
@rtj23975 ай бұрын
Tell your son to clean up. Why are you asking your husband to do it?
@raymungo61095 ай бұрын
@@rtj2397Because a lot of women are more interested how they want it to happen rather than the ultimate result!
@jas15655 ай бұрын
@@rtj2397where did you read that she asked the husband to clean it up? she specifically said the husband needs to make sure the son cleans up.. did you just want to respond without actually reading?
@rtj23975 ай бұрын
@@jas1565 same thing apple pie face. Did you just want to respond?
@genobourn74235 ай бұрын
I know that is right! I love God and I love me! I don't need and want the drama! AND NOW LIFE IS GREAT!
@kelicajohnston99903 ай бұрын
That's some wisdom he just spoke.
@JiaShortcake5 ай бұрын
Facts!!!
@Reba3855 ай бұрын
AMEN
@babytheNarcSlayer4 ай бұрын
Real talk
@RaiDrew865 ай бұрын
This is so true
@gregorycrump36852 ай бұрын
I concur!
@gregorycrump36852 ай бұрын
! Whole heartly!
@scollins73982 ай бұрын
You could see dude in the audience crumble... I hope he makes the right decision for himself... 🙏🏾
@_Rayfieldsdaughter2 ай бұрын
💯 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@tiffanycrenshaw54215 ай бұрын
Yeah when I was in them moments and understood there's nothing else I can show this individual with my presence had to give him my absence...mental health is very important
@gweneetikibradley30072 ай бұрын
💛
@brianfreeman22003 ай бұрын
This message in the wrong hands is actually dangerous
@sydewayzmo39055 ай бұрын
Tripp just trips me out w the wealth of knowledge this young man spits. Is it more so from experience or educational background?