A Father Son Conflict To Be Aware Of

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Жыл бұрын

In this episode, Patrick Bet-David talks about the three phases fathers go through with their kids that apply to business and life.
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@anthonyc1883 Жыл бұрын

That classic saying, "The older I get, the smarter my father becomes."

@marioconstantino6740 Жыл бұрын

As a fuck up…. I thought my dad didn’t know shit. I have a 7 month baby…. Hahaha my dad was fuckin’ right.

@donciubotaru2867 Жыл бұрын

O.M.G. ...

@vv1n_yt Жыл бұрын

Not true in all cases.

@anthonyc1883 Жыл бұрын

@@vv1n_yt Of course not. Almost nothing is absolute.

@TonyNaemi Жыл бұрын

@@marioconstantino6740 you can turn things around and be a huge success for yourself, your father, and your baby

@schramfamily Жыл бұрын

“Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.” -James Dobson

@louiseschultz6083 Жыл бұрын

I believe it was Josh McDowell who said that. Probably heard him in an interview with Dr. Dobson. 😉

@ihsanpro9406 Жыл бұрын

Or relationship without rules leads to rebellion ?

@vonkanon3091 Жыл бұрын

My dad left me when I was 11. I’m now 50 and raised two boys of my own and every stage was challenging for me because I had no past experiences with my father to build on. So my approach was from what I aspired to as an individual. I always tell my boys to 1) treat others as they’d want to be treated, 2) live outside the box and never allow yourself to become complacent and 3) pursue your wants and not the wants of everyone else. These ideals will set them success in their personal and professional pursuits.

@christinalw19 Жыл бұрын

Great job, Von. I had a deadbeat Dad, and my 2 brothers repeated the role model. I am proud to have raised a very good son, who is a great Dad, too. My daughter married a great guy who is also a very great Dad. I sent them both this video. I adore Patrick Bet David. What a wonderful role model for Everyone! Blessings to ALL. 🙏🏼❤️⚖️

@JamesThomas-pj2lx Жыл бұрын

same, but i had a father with loved his career more than his family.... never saw him, rarely interacted with him.

@pound7816 Жыл бұрын

what if ur son is a socoipath or sadist? how will he treat people? like he wants to be treated? i have rarely met anyone in my life, who deserves it

@aovasapy Жыл бұрын

Words don’t matter. Don’t tell kids shit. You either show them or you don’t.

@esperago Жыл бұрын

Something else to keep in mind is that all people secretly think they are both smart and right. So almost everyone thinks they are doing a good job or at least doing the best they can. However, in reality, they are morons and simply turning their kids into spitting moron images of themselves. It's tragic. There used to be social strata to keep these dopes in their place but nowadays, everyone is "equal". Everyone deserves the same "outcome". Nope. We all deserve respect as humans but most people are just total NPCs and there's very little that can change that.

@Harrymaguireisthegoatoffootbal Жыл бұрын

My boy turned 9 today. This kid is the real deal. Sharp as a tack, promising athlete, polite and level headed. My biggest concern in life now is me getting in his way and messing him up. My job is simply to provide, encourage and realise when to get out the way and let him go. It's some ride being a Dad!

@uncommonsence153 Жыл бұрын

Mine is 6 and it's the same situation. Life in general is a trip and this been going on for millions of years

@Edward.Rippett. Жыл бұрын

My son is 3 months old, and I am already thinking about that stuff. My dad died when I was 1 so I have no idea of a solid father figure. I'm scared that I am gonna fail him

@TonyNaemi Жыл бұрын

@@Edward.Rippett. read books on successful fathers and what they do. Emulate them and also get some mentors or role models and learn from them.

@huginnandmuninn4865 Жыл бұрын

I still understood without having a kid myself, that my dad was hard on me for my own good

@CONEHEADDK Жыл бұрын

Maybe... Maybe he just was a weak d*ck...

@trustGodsOnly Жыл бұрын

The people that cares about you, will ANGRY when you going down a dark road that u don’t understand,sometimes our parents can see where you going but you don’t, its called experience, u mite go uni and all the scool stuff and u think u smarter thn ur parents you not, you see life is about experience, your parents ALREADY walked this earth more than you, so everytime they hard on you , u mite not understanding it that time but when you grow up and have kids on your own you will be like, man thats why my parents did that did thisto me, and things start to be clear, much love

@CONEHEADDK Жыл бұрын

@@trustGodsOnly They should have raised you better, so you already knew, that going down certain roads easily could get you into deeeep sh*t. And you don't TELL your kids or other loved ones, what they should do and shouldn't - you TEACH THEM WHY, before they start zig zagging through "adult" life.

@pgronemeier Жыл бұрын

I know this is about Fathers, but the same thing holds true for Mothers. I'm in my 60's and I lost my Dad 40 years ago. I lost my Mother 25 years ago. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of them, and how smart THEY were, and how dumb I was. I miss them both.

@ciaraoh9102 Жыл бұрын

I never had a father and boy, did it result in a chaotic life. Even as a kid I would work hard, but I never had anyone to guide me or challenge me. I wanted to do good but never knew what that was. Fortunately, I ended up in the military and the military became the father I never had - it gave me direction, discipline, fulfilled this desire I had to contribute to something good, and totally transformed my life. After getting out, I attended the University of Texas and now work for myself. I look back now and can see how badly I was searching for a father or father figure as a kid -- couldn't see it then but can definitely see it now.

@chris-cy5ed Жыл бұрын

Great man what u major in budd?? Salute btw!!!!

@chris-cy5ed Жыл бұрын

Your a great person!!! Srry bout the dad thing must bnb of been tough i had issues with ny mom growing up....her barely around or just chasing nen men for money and treatment of me like pure crap, now were ok and get along most the time, Thank god ....And my grandma was always had me at her house..R.i.P. miss her loved her Dearly!!! Best woman ever Alive!!!❤❤❤ frfr!! Sweetheart to everyone!!!! Shes in heaven forever now !! Cancer was a tough battle for her aswell Diabetes, liver sclerosis, and Dialysis, she fought...RIP at 66 years old !! 2009 But curious congrats on your Texas graduate!!UT Im from Texas and Florida mann!!!

@chris-cy5ed Жыл бұрын

God Bless

@danielbeben2946 Жыл бұрын

Same here, the USMC gave me what I was missing in life

@AD-ur6uq Жыл бұрын

I have a similar story.

@davidmoreno-xd8rt Жыл бұрын

As a father of 2 sons. We are not their friends and discipline is key. Structure, Care and teaching basic courtesy, kindness. Thanks PBD👍🏼

@jason.g1906 Жыл бұрын

I always respected my dad BUT true respect didn't hit until I became a father myself. Understanding he was able to get through what I was currently going through gave me a new perspective on how good of a man he truly is because he never gave up.

@theMatrix440 Жыл бұрын

as a father of 3 successful gentlemen, I have been blessed with great relationships. Someone said that the best measure of success is when your adult children enjoy spending time with you. Yearly family trips since they were born have been parts of the best days of my life. You ae giving great advice as always. You are wise beyond your years.

@investornabil8825 Жыл бұрын

What trips you recommend me going on with kids?

@theMatrix440 Жыл бұрын

@@investornabil8825 that changed over time as they. grew. It included overnight boating trip, participating in Robotica and Battlebots, ski trips, hiking, camping, ( in high school). Alaska fishing, climbing Mt Washington, and most recently Pyramids, and Petra( including my granddaughter). I really don't think it matters so much what you do but that you are present with them and teach them by living a great life in front of them. Enjoy them!

@admir83 Жыл бұрын

Very good advice, one should note that it doesn't require great funds to travel and see places, but good planning and desire to go out there

@chefcurry787 Жыл бұрын

Facts! Man is definitely wise-beyond- his age🙏🏼🫡

@smiksmagger3446 Жыл бұрын

Have you been able to avoid the demonising fase?

@vindiesel5466 Жыл бұрын

As a father myself I have a great relationship with my son, I've seen parents argue with their teen kids claiming to be right about everything and that the kid knows nothing when in fact each party can learn from each other. Parents need to put their hand up and admit when they are wrong

@user_V983 4 ай бұрын

I'm glad that some fathers like you are aware that not every thing that say is true. Literaly my fathers were like that, every single thing that came out from then was absolutly true for them, even they talk about things that are out from their knowledge, they were angry because I didn't belive them. And now I saw this video that bring me back to those times. I'm glad that some fathers like you are aware that not every thing that say is true

@FullFlushh Жыл бұрын

I just came out of that “blame dad, play victim” phase…. As I see all that he said was true and accurate and I immediately reached out to repair our relationship! And the shift came from having a family of my own and Pat opening my eyes to a lot of things so thanks Pat!

@1988ZER Жыл бұрын

oh ya all that in 2 hours of this video coming out

@ryannorman8898 Жыл бұрын

@@1988ZER 😂lol well if that’s the case then hopefully it’s not just dopamine talking. When that stuff wears off hopefully it’s the same energy.

@ryannorman8898 Жыл бұрын

That’s good bro 😎 I’m afraid I’m not doing good with my girls but I’m trying as hard as I can and they are teenagers but they love spending time with me so I must be doing something right I hope

@rickygarza2005 Жыл бұрын

Dustin ur a sheep

@Tenchi707 Жыл бұрын

@@ryannorman8898 family comes first, job well done

@michaelll Жыл бұрын

I'm not looking forward to the day that my son doesn't want anything to do with me. He's getting close now. I'll just let him know I did the same thing and nomatter what happens I'll be here when you want anything.

@fluteloop6737 Жыл бұрын

Just threaten to put him up for adoption

@BrianSexton13 Жыл бұрын

Be an Encourager first. You can't challenge anyone until you encourage them first. People don't accept a challenge before they open their minds through encouragement.

@evilchaperone Жыл бұрын

It wasn't until my kids moved out and started paying their own bills did they realize what a great childhood they had. We didn't have a lot of money, but we did tons of stuff together that built lasting memories.

@edwin5419 Жыл бұрын

40 years old and I'm still in the demonising phase. That really kicked into another gear when I had my first son and realised a dad should never treat their kids they way mine did. It's amazing what you can accept as normal.

@josephp7935 Жыл бұрын

I loved my father untill I became a father and I realized all the terrible things my father did to me that I would never do to my child.

@hiitsme3039 Жыл бұрын

@@josephp7935 do you know why your father was the way he was

@josephp7935 Жыл бұрын

@Hi It's me He was raised by an abusive alcoholic who beat him and his siblings relentlessly. I think my father feared masculinity because he only was shown the horrific side of it. When my parents got divorced (I was less then 1 year old) I think it really hurt my dads ego. As he went onto his next relationships he was a door mat and let his girlfriends mistreat us and take all his money. Once I had my own child I realized how wrong what he did was to us. Now he is remarried and he gives his wife's kids, whom are not at all related to him, money and lots of attention. My dad refused to pay for my college or help in any meaningful manner and yet he buys his step kid a house. I refuse to talk to him now. There is a bit more but this is the jist

@DewTime Жыл бұрын

Same

@santokord1654 Жыл бұрын

A great scentence you can implement when having a rough conversation with someone you like is " i love you anyways". When arguing with you little sister or with son or dad. Just that tiny sentence at the end makes a huge difference in how they will precess your convo afterwards

@orlandovega6958 4 ай бұрын

Im 33 and my dad has never told me he loves me. He was tough as nails but i learned alot from that man. I love you dad 😏

@alenescobedo Жыл бұрын

One of the Tribe Dadless here, a lot of these lessons I’ve learned the hard way with running from poverty.

@WinningFinancially Жыл бұрын

As a father: thank you for this video!!

@amirx7525 Жыл бұрын

In every Father there is a Leader

@MAZIUN Жыл бұрын

You’re great for the world Patrick

@CMA418 Жыл бұрын

“For the world” exactly. 😢

@dynamicsoulslayer Жыл бұрын

Respect to all the loving fathers out there.

@marklopez5267 Жыл бұрын

I grew up without my father being a positive influence in my life. Often times, he let me down. So much to the point where I have completely lost trust in him, still to this day. However, I was fortunate enough to have positive role models in my life (male and female). I am now a father to a beautiful baby boy who is two years old. Although I didn't have a great father to look up to and raise me, my experience taught me of what NOT to do if I ever became a father and that inspires me today to be the version of myself that I can be and to always show unconditional love and support to my son. It is the most challenging yet rewarding role I could ever ask for.

@fulumukwevho4744 2 күн бұрын

I demonized my Dad till today. I’m 29 now and seeing him laying in the icu made me realize he’s just human. I haven’t been the best son but there’s soo many things I’ve learned that I’ll use with my daughter and son that I have in future.

@NotReallyAEvilMorty Жыл бұрын

The humanity phase is typically when you realize that your parents are human too. They didn’t get a tutorial on how to parent, they did the best they could and showed love in the ways they knew. Mistakes were made and accepted. If you resonate with this, then it’s typically a sign of becoming an adult.

@Aubatron Жыл бұрын

For me, my father had a couple strokes when I was very young and it completely changed him. Everything he thinks and does is for self preservation. He was there to provide for his family, but that’s about at far as it goes. I know it is not his fault so I try to not have animosity towards him for being the way he is now because I’m lucky and it could’ve been much worse, but it really is sad seeing a parent always putting themselves before their kids in everything they say and do.

@jarrodvrbetic6503 Жыл бұрын

Great advice. Tough love does not work because every one wants to be fake tough. Real tough is being able to admit a wrong or fault and correct it on your own without having to be pounded physically or verbally to achieve this. Hyper physical and hyper verbal intensity brings up an invisible barrier that you cannot see and cannot understand in each individual but know that it happens 100% of the time. Deep breathes and calm words will beat spankings and yelling everyday of the week. I will bet and stand on that.

@rsahota5325 Жыл бұрын

We need a podcast we’re father mother daughter and son sit and talk about there daily life and find solutions together.

@andrewrios2295 Жыл бұрын

This is one of those videos that I'll listen to as often as possible. I definitely needed to hear those reminders.

@ikickrocksi Жыл бұрын

My Dad is and was my best friend. I was blessed to have known such a great man.

@JasonCWaite Жыл бұрын

Pat, my #1 favorite content is when you talk about your kids and raising kids. - Dad in DFW

@MasteryOrder Жыл бұрын

If you enjoy topics about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would respect and look up to. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own points of view so that others can benefit from them as well. All the best to you!

@christianjacques1635 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for being such a positive influence on everyone! I know you’re a great dad but it means a lot that you show compassion and respect for those you don’t even know! Thank you

@Bola-pg5zw Жыл бұрын

Great content with this PBD!! Going through phase 2 right now with my 15 year old son.. definitely challenging , but more good days than not. A daily battle, but love my son like nothing else. Can't ever give up, keep supporting them no matter what

@melissawinstead8848 Жыл бұрын

Well. As a mother...I can appreciate this as well!! Thank you Pat!😊 Peace and love always until there is no more!😊❤

@richardholloway97 Жыл бұрын

That's powerful to break down the principal of a father. I've been thinking back and fourth of wanting to start a business and I see that applies to real world situations

@sandranosocialism1780 Жыл бұрын

Thank you this! Similar things happen to Moms and it can really be painful.

@mike-fn9vv Жыл бұрын

REAL Dad's are the Ultimate Heroes on this planet. Way to GO Patrick. Lead like a father. However, plant seeds of interest and some of it is easier. I really appreciate U.

@yellowsnowman9157 Жыл бұрын

I needed this today. I've got a great relationship with my boys but I'm always looking to improve and grow with them. Love my boys and love being Dad.

@noahmccormick525 Жыл бұрын

This is an understanding that will benefit families greatly.

@yanira7444 Жыл бұрын

Fathers are super important in a child’s life. Thank God for dedicated dads. God bless them!

@ktomjr1 Жыл бұрын

Best advice I've heard someone give in a long time. It's all about talking to people and being clear about what's really going on. Everything you said, 100%, spot on.

@jacobwaldrop7968 Жыл бұрын

Im raising 6 sons. It's a challenge, but fun and rewarding. Thanks for this video. Awesome and simple perspectives. He bless you/Keep you/ Smile @ you/ give you peace.

@baraajad8484 Жыл бұрын

We need more of this!!!!

@saintmichael7252 Жыл бұрын

My son is 5. God bless you.

@retroscavenger3090 Жыл бұрын

The hardest thing about my dad is when he left my mother brother and I homeless to be with his gay lover. He’s dead now so 🫠 it won’t ever change for me I wish I could have a mentor so I could be better for my kids. I wish I could of had someone just challenge me and show me what manner to uphold in this world.

@chocolatepudding6146 Жыл бұрын

I have the best dad in the world and he does these things. He reminds me a lot of an older version of you Pat.

@nonyabiness Жыл бұрын

Your kids are so lucky to have you!

@2real4tvv Жыл бұрын

integrity, civility and human competition

@davidacosta8060 Жыл бұрын

So true Thank you for posting

@dukemocchi Жыл бұрын

Excellent advice! God Bless!

@jeroenlucas Жыл бұрын

Your content is never disappointing, and always valuable. 👍

@chrisj5097 Жыл бұрын

Pat your like the wise uncle I never had.

@cid3384 Ай бұрын

Highly relatable and true in its entirety.

@stlsteppasteppa1673 Жыл бұрын

I'm a father n love the extra advice u give I have a 6 yr old boy

@RexxRedd216 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this vid! Made me reflect on the relationship between myself and my dad, as well as between myself and my son. This puts things in a very clear perspective I just never thought of. Funny how life really comes full circle.

@nomaam9797 Жыл бұрын

I love this man !!!!!!! Thank you for videos!!!!! Love from. South Texas

@schteveriley Жыл бұрын

God Bless All Families 🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🏿

@maestrozilla Жыл бұрын

The power of forgivenesss is unmatched....

@amandapage4560 Жыл бұрын

I honestly love you man.

@williamwiley4437 Жыл бұрын

Yep went through all that and now with my son. In my mid 20s I realized how right my dad was I’m 40 now

@JAWdropone Жыл бұрын

Patrick I've never heard anybody say it better thank you

@matthewstreb6886 Жыл бұрын

Great content, Pat. A fun, sometimes frustrating challenge navigating through different phrases w my son. We butt heads at times but he knows he is loved and the challenges upon him are only to strengthen him and prepare him for life.

@micahpediford Жыл бұрын

Love this type of content. It’s needed!

@zbigwojciechowski7575 Жыл бұрын

Definitely appreciate the perspective..It's not easy choosing to be unpopular at times when trying your best to raise and be a positive influence..Thank you.

@Alex-nk1ul Жыл бұрын

Great content! I also have quality time with my 3 sons. I pray with them and read the Bible with them.

@LucLightWolf121 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this, Patrick.

@ecclesiastes_emj Жыл бұрын

Thank you Pat

@AM-tz6sy Жыл бұрын

Pat thanks for putting such valuable content on the internet.

@skeginaldp1533 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been in stage 1 with my dad my entire life. Always knew he was the man & looked up to him before he passed away.

@The442nd Жыл бұрын

GOLD! Thank you

@HunterFox2x Жыл бұрын

This clip is a gem.

@JimmyTheGiant Жыл бұрын

powerful message!

@johngammon963 Жыл бұрын

Pat is so intense about everything he does, this is how you win.

@AntonioRodriguez-ob5tr Жыл бұрын

Crazy how relatable being a father is to being a Business Man. It’s all about leadership. 26 years old, still no children, but from books I’ve read and messages, such as this one, I will be much more better prepared. Thanks Pat. Tony from 6 Speed Wraps

@kanenas9607 Жыл бұрын

Most important video I’ve seen from you and I’ve followed you since the super hero room. Man am I glad to have met you PBD your greatness is in every aspect of life brother and that’s what I learned from you the most. Everything is tied together

@andycoffman Жыл бұрын

Great video! Dads across the country thank you

@vimesagainsthumanity Жыл бұрын

As a son and a father of sons, this couldn't be more true. I went through this, I was blessed that my 17 yo didn't go through as many phases, but my 15 yo son is currently in the demonize stage.

@joesalazar2634 Жыл бұрын

Thanks Pat.

@dr.christopherrambaranweal835 Жыл бұрын

You seem like a great coach! Awesome topic!

@michaeldman2955 Жыл бұрын

You're the man, been a fan, for a few yrs now,, Thanks Brother!

@Paulpoblete Жыл бұрын

Just Gold 👑

@waynebostick9831 Жыл бұрын

I appreciated this video as a father of 3 2 of them being boys. Thank you Pat keep the content going!

@antoniomcneary Жыл бұрын

Love it! Thank you Pat!

@everydayman3497 Жыл бұрын

Great insight for me as a father and a small business owner

@varamaur9567 Жыл бұрын

Priceless stuff, Pat!

@willwhitmore7127 Жыл бұрын

needed this today

@MM-ex4gg Жыл бұрын

Fantastic message

@anthonycaldi7056 Жыл бұрын

What an awesome video! Great stuff! Watched many of your interviews and always enjoyed them and this one made me a subscriber!

@datpspguy Жыл бұрын

Saved this to my favorites for my own personal reasons. But thank you for sharing.

@CoachJJ Жыл бұрын

I said it from the beginning of my fatherhood…I’m in it for the long game, and don’t expect to see results or be appreciated in the short term. That’s a shock to the system of many women in my life, whom I appreciate their contributions for our kids as well!

@steverapos3904 Жыл бұрын

What an amazing video! Thanks!

@Mr.Goodbar517 Жыл бұрын

Man that was really solid. Thank you

@Mrs-Lewis Жыл бұрын

Fantastic advice.

@hurtadoaviles Жыл бұрын

Good one Pat. Thanks.

@suekelly3744 11 ай бұрын

Just brilliant thank you

@knuckletherapyserveothersf6092 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this advice. I'm in that 2nd stage and I'm trying to figure out the best way to maneuver through it without completely losing him at the point where his is going to hate. So thanks again. I don't want to waste any opportunities to connect with my son.

@reviewedsnail6086 Жыл бұрын

I came out of the "demonize" phase when i joined the military. I met so many guys who never had their dads in their life, and you could just see it in their behavior. I ended up doing a lot of push ups because of them. Made me really appreciate my old man!