😂 "Temporarily encumbered"? "Minimalistically thriving"? 😂

I think women are just sexually stimulated in ways that differ greatly from men. Men are primarily visual- you look at a woman, assess her for cues of fitness and fertility, and then you’re good to go. But on a biological level that works well for men- you could technically procreate with several different women in a single night. With women, there’s a certain degree of inevitable commitment involved. If I procreate with someone, I’m going to be stuck in that procreative process for a minimum of 9 months. Realistically, though, any offspring we produce will be immensely helpless and require years of intensive care to become fully viable. The damage and strain done to my body in this process is not to be underestimated (I’m pregnant right now- the health complications aren’t just ugly, they can and do permanently affect organ function). So if I’m gonna bone someone, I want that someone to be worth it- particularly if I’m having sex when there’s a high risk of pregnancy. Guys are always complaining that women are too picky, but I’m on my 5th kid right now. I made damn sure to vet the living hell out of the man I agreed to do that with.

Yes, and women are totally unrealistic and unreasonable and have been raised to indulge the fantasies that unless she is a princess in a fairy tale, living an emotional high to an extreme level every second of every day, she is missing out, being deprived, and getting cheated out of life. In other words, American women are spoiled. Is a man who will cook steaks on the grill in the backyard while you make a salad someone you should be "attracted to?" Damn straight. Is more than that "asking too much?" Yes. The real world is not a Disney fairy tale animation. American women cannot expect to have an orchestra following them around with sweeping, inspiring, mood music making every moment feel magical. Contrast that with women in other countries where every day is a struggle between physical survival or dying, and the American princesses seem pretty shallow. I have a friend, a woman, who legally emigrated from the former Soviet Union. She can't stand American women who are so frivolous, entitled, and superficial because she has had to fight to survive and thinks American women have no idea what life really is. American women wouldn't know a normal relationship if it bit them on the ankle. Life is not floating 3 feet off the ground and having all the little forest critters singing and dancing and all day long is an emotional high. Sorry, but life sucks. How "in love" do you think a man is -- by your (you all's) shallow emotional standards while taking the garbage out, shoveling the snow out of the driveway, fixing the thing that broke, keeping the car working, moving furniture, etc. Not feeling that emotional fairy tale high, that Endorphin addiction high all day long. So at the end of the day, American women -- unlike those who dwell in the real world around the planet -- ARE ATTRACTED ONLY TO THEMSELVES. @@oakleavesandonions771

Merry Christmas to you too! Hope you feel better soon.

@@oakleavesandonions771 ty 😊

Not that it would likely be a good idea in general, but you have no idea what or who someone might find in any given situation. Assumptions often fall fast and hard.

I understand what you're saying, but it's a stupid assumption. Would you say you won't find good dating material on the strip club stage? Again, I understand that assumption, but I have lived a different experience.

I do, because I was IN that audience.@@monkeyattackedmyass5435

I wasn't commenting what I would find on the stage. Just from my experiences with the club audience, knowing the customers and responses from those performers I heard from.@@GTR0419

I wonder what percentage she actually had sx with. 🤔

Thank you so much! I'll make sure to do another stripper story this week. I'm so happy you enjoy them. :)

Actually it’s a pretty easy number to reach depending on how you look at it. My job was to flirt with men in a very sexual way so just going to work lined me up to meet lots of men with a potential sexual encounter always hovering in the background. I’m not the kind to do a lot of casual hookups, but I was looking for a partner so I took full advantage of these interactions to look for a guy I liked. Let’s say that I only interacted with an average of 3 men per night long enough to count as actually “meeting” them as opposed to just walking up to them and saying “would you like a dance” with them saying “no.” If I’m meeting about 3 (sometimes less but also sometimes many more) men a night, dancing for them, chatting with them and sizing them up to see if I like them, then all I have to do is multiply that number by how many nights a week I work (a minimum of 3 so we’ll say 3, but there were many weeks I worked more) and then multiply that by how many months I worked before I met my husband, we’ve got at least 2,500 men. Some people might say that number doesn’t count because it wasn’t a “date” outside of work, but I’ve sometimes spent hours with these guys just talking with them (if they were interesting enough) and nearly all the men I’ve dated I met in strip clubs, so I definitely was approaching these men as potential sexual partners. And that’s a probably a much longer reply than you were hoping for so I’ll leave it at that lol. But yeah, I had a lot of guys buy me breakfast at Denny’s after work too. Fun times :)

were you looking for guys to pay for your waffles and eggs? or you, kind of liked them?

Maybe that sounds bad to you, but I did have a few complicating factors: 1: I had to find a guy who was smarter than I was. Women are hypergamous, it’s part of our makeup. Now, I’m definitely not a genius, but I’m also far enough outside the norm that it was a very real problem for me. 2: I didn’t want an alcoholic. Call me picky. 🤷‍♀️ 3: I didn’t want a drug addict. Same reasons as item 2. 4: I needed someone who understood the world can be really effed up. I’d been through some effed up things, and I didn’t want a relationship where I’d have to hide that part of myself or sugarcoat it to make my partner comfortable. 5: I needed someone who could act like a decent human being despite the fact that the world’s effed up. Most of the guys who qualified for item 4 couldn’t switch off their inner sociopath, and I didn’t have the patience to deal with the messes they made. 6: A little bit of physical attraction would be nice. I wasn’t looking for a Greek god or anything, but someone in halfway decent physical shape… can be nice. (I ended up marrying a bald guy, but he ticked all the other boxes, and who cares about hair? Also, he had really pretty eyes.) 7: And lastly, I almost forgot, I needed someone who wanted me around for more than a one night stand. Because a plenty of men wanted me. But none of them actually liked me. Sure, I looked nice naked, but I was also crazy and weird (and no one wants to keep a stripper). So everyone wanted me for the night, but no one wanted me for more than that. So, yeah. Once you tally all that up, I was asking for a lot. But I ultimately found it, and that’s kind of all the matters in the end.

"everyone wanted me for the night" All 2500 men expected sex after paying you dinner in the first date? @@oakleavesandonions771

@@oakleavesandonions771 so you married a cop then?

@@amschroed89 I went on a date with a cop once. I’m not gonna pretend he was the perfect representation of all cops, but that individual cop seemed really hypocritical to me. Like, if you’re going to be arresting people for things like smoking weed and drunk driving, maybe you don’t want to be doing that on your days off? Again, I’m not saying all cops are like that, but this one was, and I wasn’t impressed. I actually made a video about the guy I ended up marrying. It’s called “The Wolf-Eyed Man”. So, if you want to hear that whole story, it’s on here.

You are awesome! I'm a little sad you're married, but I'm happy for you. I'm pretty sure I meet those requirements, but also, I don't go to strip clubs, so we probably wouldn't have ever met anyway. I like smart, articulate, self-aware women with interesting stories to tell. I know it's very unlikely, but if you ever knew someone like yourself who is single, PLEASE let me know😊 @oakleavesandonions771

I never talk about it because there is no good answer to the body count question. Ever. If I give a low number, people will call me prudish and say I’m lying to save face. If I give a high number, they’ll call me other bad names and insist that the real number is twice as high and that I’m, again, lying to save face. My husband knows my number. I told him honestly and answered any questions he had for clarification. He married me, so I assume he found my answers acceptable. Beyond him, I don’t think anyone else is ever going to know. Not because there’s anything particularly scandalous about it, but because revealing that number wouldn’t do any good whatsoever. lol

@@oakleavesandonions771 Excellent answer, and thanks for not being offended. Would love to hear your take on bodycount, evo-psych, and male jealously. Cheers.

Take any number a man gives and divide by three, take any number a women gives, multiply by four. I kid! Sorta...

@@willbrink Unless they're ASD female who didn't learn she was supposed to do that yet...ooopps 😜

@@oakleavesandonions771 Excellent response, cuz BANG ON how it is. It's always a catch22 question for a female, & really truly what does it matter, what does it mean? It means whatever the other person wants it to. Cuz a female could be into experimenting w/BDSM by their 2nd boyfriend or a 70yrs old after the death of her 5th husband (many men between) experiments with toys for the 1st time w/her on-line date. It doesn't mean anything other than another tool that can be used to "prove" you're lesser than as a female, one way or another. It's not RIGHT, it's not FAIR & it's NOT how it SHOULD be, but it is the way it is. & shame on those either trying to trick you or be naive enough to not see it for what it really is. GOOD ON YOU! 🥰

I think narcissism is a pattern that is learned in childhood, but all people have a little narcissism in them. Everyone cares about their appearance and their social status, as well they should. I think strip clubs do poison a lot of women against men, which is really sad because I loved men going into the business, and being in the business allowed me to spend a lot of time with a lot of men and really grow and deepen my appreciation for them.

@@oakleavesandonions771 The common ingredient I find that helps with the coping, understanding, adapting, etc is basically appreciation of the opposite sex, or basically thinking of others rather than occupied with self.

Nursing background, CRNA, plus a lot of reading from books written by doctors and experience. I should date this by saying "before all the pandemic BS" by so called professionals.

Yeah. That was not ever what I wanted. I’m perfectly happy taking care of myself. I wanted a partner. Honestly, I think a lot of other women in this world do, too.

I don’t know if he got as far as a clinic. He must have been pretty damn hung over by that point lol.

Your husband is a very lucky guy.

@chuckbrown8949 I’m lucky to be with him.

Great that you found what you wanted. 🙂

I was saving up all my money to move away from home. I knew it would be quite expensive to move out on my own, and I wouldn’t have any kind of support network to fall back on once I left the state. (If I needed medical care, it would be entirely out of pocket, since my work definitely wouldn’t give me health insurance.) So, I didn’t spend money unless I absolutely had to. It’s a habit I never really let go of. Even to this day, my husband has to remind me that I can buy things for myself if I need them.

@@Jaycole32 No, not that one.

@@oakleavesandonions771 lol just checking

I think the story was more the obvious assumptions he made about me that night. The humor comes from the fact that, despite being so drunk he blacked out the night, he was more disgusted by me because he assumed I was habitually had one night stands with total strangers.

@@oakleavesandonions771 im happy you responded. sorry i called it stupid. i have watched some of your videos and i think you have the right "mindset." you are pretty level headed. i find it amazing you did well strictly following the "no touch" rule. up here in ontario there are signs saying "no touching" but it is the strippers themselves that throw that out the window. some clubs, if you don't grope them, they will grope you. many times, i've been standing at the bar and one will walk by and grab my crotch while asking me if i want some dances. almost every single one of them seem to want to "check" your crotch area, during a dance, to see if you are hard. they can be very bold. with some of them, you end up feeling like the girl on a date getting felt up in the backseat of a car. which brings me to a question : have you ever danced for a guy that got you aroused? has that ever happened?

And I think she has a latent resentment towards men and her husband is the precious one exception.

I got some editing software weeks ago and one of my goals is to learn how to use it. Unfortunately, I haven’t been alone with a computer long enough to do that yet lol

Thank you! People really don’t understand that walking around naked feels like walking around in your everyday clothes. In fact, it’s better because there isn’t any scratchy fabric lol

Wow!!! 😮 Entitled stripper thinks 2500 dates is beneath her !! Please! 😅 What are you bringing to the table?

@@TylerD288 “I’m fantastic at recognizing liars. I’m highly trained at it.” (Whatever the heck that means.) “And I disagree with you, so I’m going to call you a liar.” How original.

First- it’s called a date. You go out and talk together somewhere relatively calm, like a restaurant, and get to know one another. If you feel that there’s good chemistry between you, then you arrange to meet again for a second date. If there isn’t good chemistry between you, then arranging to have that second date is the point at which you are leading the other person on. Because at that point, you know you’re not compatible, and you are consciously wasting time/money they might otherwise be spending on dating a different girl who is more compatible. Second- I found that hot guy. The one I spoiled and bought things for. We’ve been married for a little over a decade now, and I’m pregnant with our fifth kid. He does most of the spoiling and buying these days because I retired from dancing to be a mom, and he really beefed up his career to support a family. He’s everything I ever wanted, plus some extra things I didn’t even think to want. I don’t believe in karma, but if I did, I’d say I got exactly what I deserve.

it is called dating, and ladies have been doing exactly that since the 14th century. The dynamics are identical. Believe it or not

@@user-sh3wi7mv2d it's called "hustling" when you just use a man to get a free meal. That's also been going on since the 14th century 🤣.

@@onlyonecannoli3952 I guess you are very correct

Love you're videos from a guy 20 or so years ago spent a lot of time and money on strippers as well as dating/hooking up with them you we're very savvy it seems by having conversation with your clients