Have you met someone who is unintentionally passive-aggressive?

I started feeling passive aggresive when people started teeling me "I'm being too angry for everything". With all my anger bottled up, and me being passive-aggresive, I started talking less. Because if I did, I may go a bit too far with the tone and the words. And when I do talk, I try so hard to not sound offensive, yet they never see it.

Alternative title: Why everyone is passive agressive

Society is so lost lately that everyone is passive-agressive nowadays. Everyone is angry, most people feel depressed, it is hard to be nice and ever harder to find someone who is kind.

Once someone was being passive aggressive to me and kept saying the same thing so I called them out(it was just us both) and they awkwardly laughed it off while changing the subject, they never done it again.

I didn’t know passive aggressive personality disorder was a thing.

I always thought it to be because some people are afraid to admit to themselves and let others know that they’re upset about something.

I'm so angry and resentful at the way I've been treated and just how unfair society is in general. Yet I'm terrified of people at the same time

Being passive-agressive isn't a problem, its a skill.

Passive aggressive people exist in most jobs, and are really f*cking annoying. Having said that I'm sure I've been guilty of it a few times hahaha.

My mom would always insult me whenever I wanted to talk instead of addressing it angrily, but other siblings were always allowed to throw tantrums but I would get a good scolding, it got to a point where I would get massive headaches and then tears would flow out. This video described me perfectly.

thank you for this. i noticed that i've been being passive-aggressive whenever i express my anger without giving myself some time to process it. and uh, yeah, i think what you've delivered really helps in some ways. and i'll try to pull myself back to reality and take some time before acting. much love, keep up the good contents

It is your responsibility as an adult to grow and strengthen yourself and to understand yourself more. It's your responsibility to develop courage and learn how to stand against people that are using you to boost their own power. This is the adult world we live in and no, it is not fair. But nobody can help you but yourself. It is a difficult and often painful process (growth) but this is your only life and should be your top priority, because the older you get without figuring these things out, the worse it can get. I spend a lot of my life being a naive people pleaser. It led me to deep depression and social anxiety, self hatred, and resentment. Absolute hell. Now I am very keen at reading people, I know how to navigate social situations and deal with manipulative/passive aggressive people to the point where they go from trying to tear me down to respecting me. It takes time but you can move forward a little bit every day. It's really important to give up any bad habits and addictions you have because they rob you of your focus and make it difficult to move forward.

Some of my most disappointing moments I’ve had with myself is when I thought it was so “smart” or “sharp” to say something that quietly stabs at the parts of people that the empath in me, knows would hurt the most.

Bruh, why is no one commenting that they called Jean and Diluc the parents of Klee LMAO I approve of the shipper

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when you mentioned parents helping children to deal with their feelings it made me realize what a great thing we had in Mr. Rogers. he did just that, and much more.

I almost always resorted to passive agressive behavior due to the fact that I was never in a position of power. I have always been beaten around by people above me. I just stopped trying to be assertive since it got me nowhere.

Im this way because I used to act out so much on my little sister and instead of my therapists and parents telling me how to control my anger and manage through it calmly, i was instead hit, told to oppress my emotions, and yelled at for the behavior. And somehow I was the problem 😃

Is everybody gonna ignore the sleeping bunny on the couch at 2:46 ? It’s so cute! 🥺

No one: Me watching to find out why I am the way I am:

I was recently told that I was passive aggressive and got really defensive because I didn’t believe it, but after looking into it later I basically had an “oh shit” moment because it describes so much of my behaviors that I never noticed before 😬 I’m lowkey annoyed that I wasn’t called out on this sooner but ig that’s the affect it has huh

I was pretty much a scapegoat of a family, so being passive-aggressive became my way of rebellion without openly rebel. Now people just say I'm being petty af

Being passive aggressive doesn’t make anyone a good person. Because it destroys them and their sense of who they are.

I remember that i used to be really expresive with what i felt and always make a drama about it. Then my parents told me i had to be more respectful to adults, so i started to do everything they told me to, but not in the best way i could. Thanks for the vid, i really want to improve now in that aspect.

Why are Some Ppl "Passive Aggressive?" 1. They have "Passive Aggressive Personality" disorder. 2. It's easier than being assertive. 3. They desire revenge. 4. Anger is not viewed as "Socially Normal." 5. Hostility w/ a smile is less often called out. 6. They developed the behavior in childhood. *_You're Welcome in advance._*

This is actually highly insightful. Thank you for posting this, I'll be sure to learn from this, in understanding other people and attempting to change myself to get rid of this nasty habit.

Growing up in a emotionally toxic environment I adapted a passive aggressive attitude to deal with toxic people in my life who I unfortunately can't cut out (my parents and some of my distanced family members) and its now how I deal with my frustration or anger, not mention the fact I suffer from anxiety disorder that was developed in the early stages of my teen years when I was left alone with my mom and dad without anyone else to protect me from their toxic behaviour for a sold 6 years (till I went to college)

Wooow this explains so much during my childhood! Since I was 13 years old I had a feelin of anger that I was starving to express, being raised around a type of "Christian" passive aggressive parents there's no such place for anger, frustration, or any type of aggression, so a nasty Frankenstein I accidentally created is named sarcasm. Now I am solely working through the angers I held since my teen years and I have been feeling much better by practicing socializing and expression my emotions thru art and music. The most scary part is confrontation and I am willing to take that risk everyday and speak what is on my mind (I be sure to think thoroughly). This has helped me understand this behavior much more and Thank You!

“why SOME PEOPLE are passive aggressive 🙄”

this is literally the best channel i have ever seen and solve the problems i am dealing with!!!

Damn, the channel has been growing like crazy. Amazing, great job as always.

I can be passive aggressive only when I've been hurt and my patience has been worn thin. I came from a home where any negative emotions was not tolerated. Even I cried because I was sad, it was met with aggression from my parents. So flash forward 29 years, I have a very hard time expressing any negative emotions. I'm a sensitive person and get hurt easily but most people won't know because I hide myself away and cry or have what ever emotions. Though I feel bad being passive aggressive, I often feel like it's my only line of defense.

I'm passive-agressive and I have been since I was a child, ironically I just discovered that some time ago. The problem here is, I do realize this is a bad thing, not only for the people around me but for myself, since I never voice my anger, or the reason why I am upset. I'd like to be more...direct about it, but I don't know how. Not because I don't want to tho, it's more like, I am not allowed to. In my house at least, if I so much as say that I'm angry, no matter if I'm right or not, the people I live with will yell at me and say how ungrateful I am, or "What reason do you have to be angry? Pfft" and stuff like that. I'm not joking when I say that they could trow me out of the house either..so I've learned, since I was little that I had to smile and bear it. Be the "perfect girl" or else... Like this time when I was 6 years old, my cousin came to my house. She wanted to play with either dangerous objects or things that were emotionally valuable for my mom, so of course I didn't let her play with those, I suggested that we played with toys or something like that. Well, next thing I know is, my aunt starts screaming to my mom outside, calling her names, then enters the house, point a finger at me and says "WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU!? WE'LL ONLY COME HERE AGAIN WHEN YOU LEARN HOW TO ACT LIKE A HUMAN BEING!" Looking at me with a disgusted face, I felt that I couldn't say anything. So I just kept silent, and she stormed away. That happened a couple of times, like when she left her daughter with me because she wanted to chat with her friends, I think I was 5 and the other kid 4, she got hurt running around and the blame was on me. One day she "apologized" tho, I'll never forget that, she came to me with the first fake smile I ever saw, and said "You're not angry with auntie right? Haha". Point is, it's ok if I act like I'm angry because no one picks up on that, but I can't voice it, or I'm just being irrational or unfair. So when I can express it, around other people, I end up being too sarcastic or "aggressive" in a very passive way. That's something I'd really like to change.

your videos are so interesting and helpful. They help me be more self aware and also help me understand other people who have these conditions and how i can help.

Such a great question and such an incredible video. Also, I am a very long time subscriber to this fantastic channel.

I’m passive aggressive because my brother would always teas me, and when this would happen I would get defensive. Now a days someone could not even say something mean and I would get defensive and say something in a passive aggressive way.

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4:41 Omg i can’t, they really made Jean and Diluc as Klee’s parents 😭😭

They did not just entice me with that primogem.....

As an often described by my friends as passive aggressive I just see as a way to make ppl not be aggressive and just stand there cus I am AFRAID of raised voices

I just realized I’m starting to become passive aggressive towards my little sister, I came here for something completely different but now I’ll probably watch myself more when I interact with her :/

yo nice video psycho2go I really loved watching this on my birthday this year thanks keep up the good work.

love the content, as always, its great that youre educating people on things like this (: but can we just talk about the genshin references lol i love watching the drawings throughout theses videos it really helps me stay focused on the video too (:

I truly detest passive aggressive people. Passive aggressive people are not interested in finding solutions to their problems. I also realise that they don't appreciate me being honest about my feelings, cuz to them, the right thing to do is to bottle it so that you won't be a burden to everyone around you. Yesterday, I just called everyone out for not being communicative of their expectations and being petty. Everyone has a problem with everyone else, but no one is interested in solving it.

3:09 lolol thats an amazing ace attorney reference right there and as always, psych2go teaching us new things!

I love your videos and you are so calming and I learn so much from you :3

There was this one girl who kinda like pinched me or poked me with a pen and I remembered my mom saying sometimes people are physical with people they like, so I payed extra close attention to her actions using other video tips and I’m pretty sure she does, thank you for the tips!

I am passive-aggressive because it was the only safe way to deal with my father, the only way to deal with bullies in school and get revenge on them without getting in trouble, it was shown to me to be the only appropriate way to strike back. I'm trying to get past it but it's hard.

I even express my anger through smile and people think I am so calm and patience but it's not the truth 😂

Thank you for the excellent content on such a variety of states or conditions. As the content is serious and intense, may i suggest that the background music as in this one be reduced or cut as it is distracting and competing. Thank you.

Yes, some of my friends are passive aggressive. Thanks for sharing this, it's awesome.

Hey there :] I am a long-time fan of this series and it has helped me a ton! Now that Im hearing more about passive aggression it reminded me alot of my younger sister. She is always salty about something or someone and noone can do anything about it! This can mess from my daily mood- to bigger things such as my work in school and relationships. I really have no idea what to do and our parents just kinda let it slide. I really have nowhere else to ask this but: what do I do to ar least have some kind of communication whit my stubborn sister?

I had a passive-aggressive "friend".. it just hurts when they seemed like holding a grudge to you secretly and wouldn't even try to understand when I'm trying to justify. I did try to understand them and I thought maybe, just maybe the root cause of that trait was their experiences. I tried listening to them when they're going through something but it felt like they can't do the same and their passive-aggression and being unapologetic ruined our friendship

Omg I love this style!

"Maybe it's your favourite antagonist seeking revenge" Me: *Bill Cipher*

Why are some people passive aggressive? Me: because they joined a lot of debate competition? 🤔🤔

A friend's mom taught her passive-aggression is safer cause her father would demand or order the mom to do something. If she said no or I don't have time, he'd rage - throw plates, slam doors even punched a hole in the wall. So she always said ok whatever you want honey and then would forget to do it, clothes accidentally got burned when ironing, a red sock accidentally got in the white laundry cause he had a fit about wanting his white tshirts and socks whiter. He wore pink instead of less white for weeks and she smirked about it. Complained dinner wasn't on the table when he came home and not only did she accidentally burn it but set the curtains on fire too. It was revenge on her part.

Thank you for this wonderful easy to understand vdo. I can implement further in myself.

I truly love your channel

If I were passive aggressive to my mother I would be short of one head or an eye

GENIUS! I WILL SAY THAT THEY ARE A USELESS BEING IN A PASSIVE AGGRESIVE TONE!

I’m a person who has a passive aggressive disorder where I’ve had a lot of people taken advantage over me and told me I couldn’t be this or that and so over the years of having people saying this to me, it grew a very rough and aggressive triggering point into me though despite me still being a very nice and great kid. People who have this disorder look at anger completely differently from other people and resort to physical breakage of objects when put into that complete aggression of uncontrolled behavior. It was very hard for me as well self esteem wise to stand up for myself back in the day because I was a very nice kid and didn’t like denying demands upon other people and this is what caused my passive aggressive behavior because I’m honestly living both good and bad lives right now so it’s hard to be aware of said reality when negativity drives itself onto me and therefore changes my behavior from nice and kind to anger and hate but hopefully I can find some ways to deal with this disorder as it’s not far before it starts taking my life down a darker road.

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My mom would always call me passive aggressive however never took the time to truly help me manage my frustration or anything to help it. This term was thrown around only when a disagreement came about and I spoke or decided I didn’t want to debate about my own feelings ( often times I would be told I’m wrong for feeling this way or that way) long story short I don’t think I’m truly passive aggressive I think I used some passive skills to keep me protected because I’m definitely no good at getting away with underline aggressive behavior... it actually is the thing I despise or because I can see right throw it.

I'm passive aggressive towards a lot of things, the thing is, self improvement is a day-by-day challenge

Whenever I get angry , my family always gets angry upon me for being short tempered and if I continue to argue they unite and low down me and at last they say ' you wasted our time and that you are responsible for making our mood bad I mean even their behaviour is aggressive than why do they blame me

Oh God being angry when I was a kid was like the worst thing ever when I was a kid my mum like essentially banned me from getting angry so now I'm 18 and have major problems with passive aggresive behaviour

So well said! Totally true that being passive aggressive is way easier than being assertive and honest!

wow so that's why I'm passive aggressive is because I can't show anger to my little sister when she loses my stuff.

Amanda's Voice is so sweet!

Our older sister used to punish us very cruelly whenever we express our feelings like anger, rebellious act etc. Which result in bottling up of the emotions and from the past few months in my self improvement journey i have found out date I'm really passive aggressive,,,and after finding out that i was right I'll try to eliminate this behavior. Thank you psychtogo❤

Hi Psych2Go team! I love your videos, they're so inspirational! I like watching them with my mom

What is interesting to me is the use of lack of effort as passive aggression when I actually picked up that bad habit because of someone who is passive aggressive. Basically in an attempt to get someone to stop being that way with me I started doing things they didn't like right afterwards to get them to stop their passive aggression, does that mean that when exposed to that kind of person I became like them? They say that is what happens to narcissists, they were likely abused by a narcissist and adopted the personality style to cope with it, could passive aggression be the same? Especially because it is something used by narcissists frequently?

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sarcasm had become my outlet and i honed it far too much that i was able to sunk my friend who royally fucked up into deep depression with a few sarcastic words (yes of course i took responsibility and i'm definitely the villain here but i felt he needed a wake up call, also was prepared if he tried to take his own life as that will not happen as long as i'm alive and i'm gonna make him suffer and feel the shit he'd done and not just make him get away with it because he's tOo seNsiTiVe to be confronted) and alas, it worked. We definitely got closer afterwards and i swore to him that if he fucks up again, i'm gonna be the one to end his existence and same for him to me

I get triggered easily and instead of getting upset about every thing, I try to shrug things off. However I fear it is interpreted as passive aggressive behavior. Its about knowing how to pick your battles--not everything needs to be a fight. I don't need to love everything my boss or colleagues do...

Because it is difficult for me to express my emotions, i often end up being alone and that hurts me a lot. That’s why I think I should please people and hell them with a smile to feel somehow normal and expect a return of acceptance in society, but when it does not, I feel triggered a lot that why did i put so much effort to make others feel so special, that why did they accept my effort to make themselves feel special if all they had to leave me one day making me feel that it was just a phase. This angers and eventually I burst into aggression and ruin the relationships. I lost one person who was so dear to me that I thought finally I found the love of my life, but because of this behaviour, i lost him forever.

My passive aggressive came from people being angry all the time, but in that moment I found that I can’t change people, I have to see them for who they are and what they show me. The level of disrespect was so extreme and put way too much pressure on me but without a doubt god got me. I’m happier now knowing that niceness is a weakness and kindness is a gift and I won’t change to fit in. Moral of the story is I’ve learnt to handle people and situations how they present themselves to me.

Growing up emotionally restrained is basically a one way-ticket to this kind of behaviour. That + a couple more internal and personal issues.

If you are passive aggressive can you change or is it something like anxiety where you have to learn to cope with it?

Thank you for another great video!

Feels like a tsundere 🥺 anyways thanks for a great video! ❤️

The person is actually full of anger but for some reason just cannot articulate it

Hey beautiful, yes you 🤗 You are worthy You are special You are loved You are the best You are my dear friend 🙃 Have a happy day

Now I realise, that I have been behaving this way with my small brother during a long time. After number 4, I understood, that in childhood, my parents and the others relatives always told me not to be angry at him, even whet I had real reasons, and I am pretty empathetic, so I often bottle up my bad emotions, because I'm afraid to hurt the others. And now, I've become passive-aggressive towards my brother. I can't control this, like I am annoyed of him even when he just says "Hi". And I think and fear, that he can feel my aggression. I'm really ashamed of that, and I hate myself sometimes for being like that. But before I've watched this video, I hadn't been knowing what am I feeling. Probably now it will be easier for me to control this. Once again, thank you

I am a subscriber. Thank you for this video. Many say I am passive aggressive person.

I was once VERY passive agressive to a kid my age by ignoring every word he said to me because he was rude to everyone and he slapped me with no reason

Love the Genshin Impact shipping/fanfic with Jean x Diluc and Klee. The artist is amazing and video was great

Due to my autism, i am unaware that im being passive aggressive until its too late. But that’s just how my genuine heart speaks when im upset and stressed. 😰😭💔

I’m passive aggressive and I’m subscribed, but I should get a real therapist for other things too, but this was very helpful(0:00-00:18)

Most of these apply to me and I will admit, I an passive aggressive

I think passive-aggressive behaviors can arise in situations where the person who is upset does not feel they are in a safe place to talk about it. Those in a relationship with someone who doesn't exactly promote free speech may turn to other avenues of release. Deleting people from social media accounts, not doing a chore that benefits the offender, keeping conversation short and pointed are all behaviors that are technically passive-aggressive yet seem the only way to function for someone who must keep their feelings to themselves and build up walls between them and the offender.

My coworker is passive agressive and that sucks asf, he’s always saying “bad” things to me as a “joke”. I’m not too sensitive but he really pisses me off

Very insightful

Passive aggressive people seem to want to piss others of without being vulgar or rude at the first side. So they be like: "well I guess you realized your point and flipped it because anger is all you're presenting but that was your initial Point right? I know your anger has nothing to do with me. So yet again I'm going to follow doctor C's advice. And just let you deal with your own anger because it has absolutely nothing to do with me. And if you think I'm wrong here's dr. C to tell you that I'm not. I know you won't watch the video because you are going to refuse any logic that would contradict your own strong internal core belief." And if you can´t talk with them as if it´s a normal conversation you should check your mental health.

I feel like certain environments almost force us to be this way sometimes. Of course it’s better to be assertive, but what if you are surrounded by emotionally unstable or overly passive types?

Can’t be a True New Yorker without being passive aggressive 😂

I love being passive aggressive..gets the work done without grabbing too much attention!

As a person who is passive-aggressive at times, this is accurate. I think the reason I do this is because I don’t want people to see how mad I am so I hide it away in with a "happy behavior.". It’s probably because how people tell me, why are you mad? Stop being mad! Or something, like I’m human let me express my anger ok? Also, when I’m angry and aggressive towards someone (usually someone smarter than me), they talk back. (Obviously because I’m a jerk.). Or they get hurt. And I don’t want that to happen! Usually the person I become aggressive towards starts having an augment with me, they are most likely very logical and reasonable unlike me who is irrational and stupid. Usually, I’m just salty and annoyed at something. I don’t know why though, it just comes out with me knowing. I guess