I have said this for years “ There is nothing casual about sex” sex is the exact opposite of casual

Thank you for saying this. I hate dating culture and apps have made it worse.

Every time I have casual sex with someone, I’m always left feeling empty-like the experience was missing something. Maybe I’ll stop. I mean I kind of already have.

Massively depressed and anxious - that's the genuine withdrawal symptom of something that's directly comparable to a cocaine addiction. I've lived with it. Incredible highs and incredible lows in hookup culture.

This 🙌 after a divorce and starting dating again I have been drawn back into casual sex like I have no value. I have set my boundaries and I am telling them no. I was also married to a covert narcissist with zero intimacy in the last years of the marriage which doesn’t help my self worth.

Psychopaths may not care.

I can’t do casual sex. Either serial monogamy or abstinence. Richard is absolutely right about the dangers of casual sex. I’ve watched too many people fragment their souls chasing the high of new sex partners.

“ Sexually incontinent” 🤣🤣🤣

Hit the nail on the head with the "value" comment. I quit drinking almost 8 years ago and ill always regret the one night stands. Its pure emptiness.

The anticipatory anxiety is horrible!! ❤️ The accuracy is so real

Yes not anything good about it. Sex with true intimacy with a partner is totally the best. I can't imagine doing it with basically a stranger. completely broken I agree. hugs

My first boyfriend at age 14 had sex with another woman because I wouldn’t have sex with him. After that, I believed that I wasn’t valued by a man unless I had sex with him. I held this subconscious belief and chose to have sex in many situations in my life just to avoid the feeling of abandonment anxiety that arose if I didn’t.

I agree. It's not healthy in my opinion.

The day I became aware about my sexual energy I started to heal it I felt so much more in balance with my self and in my life

I totally agree!

Oh the truth in this. My ex partner she dealt with sex addiction. Along with having some anger issues and emotional immaturity. I think it all goes along with believing casual sex will satisfy anything. It feeds nothing but the distorted ego and the distorted ego is empty. Every few weeks she would threaten to break up with me and have sex with other people. Then we end up getting back together and she say oh I never did that. And she just said it to hurt me, which is actually even worse. Thank you for all your content is enabled me to free myself from this disastrous cycle.

People like that are psychopaths, they use others for their selfish "needs".

My biggest regrets. Even the “buddy” relationships. Should have stayed physically single and concentrated on school.

You just explained the godless worldly society - sex life of men and women. Men are not robots 🤖 without feelings Being sober and to stay Sober I have to work on all my character defects- I value myself not to do this any longer

It’s definitely not fine for her or them

Agreed. No good can come of it.

Thank you!

Sexual is not only affecting physical but spiritual, and other areas as well.

Literally just had this convo with my work colleague.. I couldn't trust someone to just use my body and leave... I feel used by my ex already because we slept together a couple times after breaking up and he just jumps into bed with another woman 2 days after being with me. I feel so dirty and used rn

Energy transfer...

This is exactly right! You are lying to yourselves if you do not agree. Women catch feelings far more after than men do. It is a difference in the hormones we release during orgasm. So it leaves us feeling empty and used up. That has been my experience.

Beside the fact it's not what God wants for us.

M8 I just had it happen to me. She played the part so well. A bloody $100 video card. I thought well. It was all rubbish. I lost my $100. The shop wouldn't take the cards back. I just walked away. So mad. How I let this whatever do this to me. I will not for get it. But I can assure you it will never happen again. I only wanted a tidy ladies. I got played. Crazy. So I'll wait for the rite lady. Sees out their & I have a gd Heart loyal & honest

I wonder if it would do any good for people with this opinion to give some serious consideration to the possibility that not all promiscuous people have low self-esteem, but they hold others in low esteem, and not for no reason. So, they have the option to be with someone they see his beneath them or not be with anyone at all, and some people don't want to be celibate.

Isnt it interesting to think about why this is? Theres an exchange happening during sex, we're wired to release dopamine, seratonine and oxytocin during sex specifcally so we attach, and when we numb this process, numb our attachment, we end up disconnecting from *ourselves* ultimately. Its not just that we're treating ourselves as not valuable, theres a chemical and attachment process happening thats being exacerbated subconsciously. Like lol we're looking for pleasure/fullfillment but we receive its opposite in a broader perspective. So what are we ultimately looking for? Whats even more interesting is thinking about the design of the human being. It doesnt appear to be a mistake. I think ultimately we're looking for the answer to the design, the creator of it, we're looking for love, for God.

I guess it's because we can't do it with someone we don't find attractive because it makes us feel physically sick if we do it's gross like they aren't gross we just find them physically gross, just no you just don't do it for me lol. I think we also have to explore ourselves though too and we go our lives not doing that because we haven't been allowed to, and it's frustrating when there's so much you want to explore, things you want to see and do. It's all just trapped in there because i guess we haven't experienced it, we humans are incredibly curious and adventurous beings. From everything i've been through and gotten over so far in my life i've noticed i'm suddenly over it because i went through it and experienced it and just got it out of my system, it's going to weigh on us if we don't get it out of our system either as frustrating as that is gah! why?! lol. Although weirdly some things i don't have to go through some painful or self destructive process to get it or and get over it, some things i guess i'm just not prone to falling into. Although our upbringing definitely does have a huge influence as to how we self destruct and don't show ourselves respect about or some of the behavioral habits we're stuck into, we wouldn't struggle so much if they didn't do that though i guess is the whole point of what i'm trying to say. That's what seems to make us mature somehow i can't entirely explain the change that happens in our brain, body, and our heart but it's definitely one hell of a perspective change every time how something just snaps in place for whatever reason that makes sense to us, it's like how we transcend in ourselves. We end up with so many regrets though because nothing gained nothing ventured, it's like the confusion is we're trapped between what we haven't experienced and what we know happens. I guess we're our own masochist because of this.

When are you gonna get over me?

Hmmmmm….. not true

So all the only fans creators are depressed?

Tell your ex gf that those guys don't deserve to touch her.

Nope 👎

lol. Yea ok 😂