It's very telling that the very talents, directness, ambition, useful aggression, and abilities that are needed to succeed and lead in the real world are called "mean" by so many women in the community. Sadly, others can recognize, understand and want to use these things for their benefit and brothers should take full advantage of their opportunities. For those that share the "toxic, aggressive, or whatever" sentiment when in comes to dealing with black men that know their direction and worth feel free to find another store. And, don't get mad if you stop back by after driving around not finding what you need and then find the same store has a line around the corner of willing shoppers that know price is what you pay...value is what you get.

I embrace being average with my average husband who loves, protects and provides for our family.

It's crazy because he's teaching women how men like femininity, comfort, pleasant personalities and attitudes and none of them are listening. It's bananas.

Every time a woman says *“I feel like”* an angel looses his wings.

1st time listening to Kevin and he's is 100% on point. I was 25, black, single, no kids, athletic build and a college graduate when my husband and I meet. We meet in September, he popped the ? in December and we were married in May. He says even to this day if I had kids when we meet, we would not be married.🤷🏽‍♀️ He was not trying to raise another man's child....PERIOD. Physical fitness is important to high quality men. When other men say "dang she thick with it", all my husband see is a fat, unhealthy and undisciplined woman. He hates it when women just let themselves go. This can be hard to hear but real talk no sugar coating. My husband is black, successful, fit and a no nonsense man. Kevin and my husband seem to have a lot of the same views. Kevin great info....I will be tuning back in!!!

Found this guy two weeks ago can’t stop watching.

My former wife was exactly like Erica. Put her in a home, gave her all the support she asked for, and still couldn't stop complaining about everything. Black women please, learn how to recognize when your winning.

We need to stop telling women that all that weight is thickness cause it’s not. It eventually it turns into fat.

“Without black couples you can’t have black nothing.” - Kevin Samuels. Nothing but FACTS. 👨🏾+❤️+👩🏿=👶🏿👶🏾👶🏿

Regardless of race... Men are attracted to femininity. Some groups of women tend to be less feminine than others.

If you see this comment just know that the most high is with you keep grinding and pushing to be the best you g peace and blessing 💫💚

Her: A 6?!? Kevin: Ma’am, I do this for a living as a professional Had me in tears 😭

I don't believe that they solely want white women. I just think a lot of our women are very mean there is no mutual respect between black women and our black men. I never felt like color-ism has hindered me at all. I personally don't care if a man marries Black, White, Asian, etc I just call it preference. As long as she is good for him it shouldn't matter. A lot of what stops us from being great is us black woman have a negative mindset. I'm not married yet but I plan to be married once & stay married.

Get competitive or be alone. Sheeeeesh bars bars bars

I'm so glad that I'm married to my BM,and have been for 15 years. This is too much

80% of our Black Sistas are overweight! That is a problem!! It limits the choices we have. Sisters if you want a high value man then you must take better care of your health!!

Facts👏👏: "You can match Becky's hair and voice but they don't want to match their attitudes" This is very true with the modern BW

One of the problems between black men and black women is the lack or willingness of black women to ask what their men like. Case in point, I don't know a black man that likes heavy make-up and weave, yet the majority of black women wear both.

High earning Black man and “High VALUE Black man” are not synonymous.

I’m married but I’m joining the patreon because your message needs to be shared. Attitude takes you places money can’t.

He is my O.G. before seeing his content I thought I was trippin, but I get it now, as men and women we have been socially miseducated.

I am so sad about you being gone. You were so kind to me on this show and in-person. Rest in Peace. 🕊

Kevin's definitely going to get me married! I'd like to think I have a really good attitude but even that's questionable now....I'm working on everything!

This man is a legend, and needs to be revered as such. You live forever among us Mr. Samuel's. Thank you for all you've done.

Kevin is actually Moses trying to get us to promise land. Low key the best KZfaqr maybe ever!

The Best part of this was hands down between 1:05:00 and 1:10:00 when Kevin explained to the young lady, exactly what kind of man she was asking for. I was 14 years old when I realized that I’d have to make at least six figures to live the lifestyle I wanted and provide for a family as well (about three kids and a wife). After 4 years of serving in the US Military and 5 years slaving away towards a Masters in Astronautical Engineering, (separating myself to achieve my goal), you think I’m gonna settle for a 6 just because you’re black, have a degree, and a decent paying job!? I already accounted for the fact that I’d be paying for everything, “and some”, when I was a teen. I don’t care about how much you make, or what degree you have. After prepping 15 years for my marriage... I just want a young, charming, attractive, feminine woman who won’t argue with me about cooking dinner and doing the dishes... I’ll handle everything else... But unfortunately, there aren’t many young black women who are able and/or willing... Why else do you think high value black men “marry out.” You want an old school husband, but don’t wanna be an old school wife... Excuse me for the rant. And thank you Kevin for explaining that to the young lady.

Money alone does NOT make a Man “Highly Valued”

This guy is changing lives all over the world 🙌🏽 Love this show💯

I love this guy he shuts bullshit down right away he tried to be nice but you can't have a conversation with people who caught in their feelings and just want to be heard

I wanted to hate Kevin so badly. Several podcasts in and this man has me doing some soul searching. I was tripping fr fr. Some pills were hard to swallow across your platform, but I needed it. Stay blessed.

This is so true. Attitude is so important. It’s something I work on daily. Ill be honest I can have a heated temper and even though I have gotten offers to marry in the past I know to be the kind of wife I truly want to be, I need to get that in check first. I want my husband to be excited to see me when he comes home not “oh here we go again” 😂

I’m a Canadian woman whose parents are still together after 30 years. My dad loves to cook and clean he actually said his goal as a husband was to ‘be of service , and to serve his wife’. It changed the game . He’s the most patient loving father and great example. My parents both make over 6 figures and they are both black. I hope to find a black man with similar values.

Doing Gods work ...this brother has cornered the market... he understands the grand scheme of it all

The sexual marketplace is wide open at the top end. You think that a guy who has fought to win in life (for a black man doubly so), and succeeded, is willing to compromise in his choice of partner? Not going to happen. Kevin hit the nail on the head, once you get to a certain level, you become about a certain level of person and that is all you will be around. This is because connections and relationships can benefit you more the higher up you go, and poor ones can be detrimental both personally and professionally. The competition up at the top can transcend race, so even if a black man has a preference for black women, he doesn't need to limit himself by making it a hard perquisite. I won't touch the attitude, masculinity and the combative issue with many educated professional black women (not al), but there are far to many examples on this very show that display what many high valued and even middle of the road black men have seen North America wide. I attempted to date a black woman who was lawyer a few years back. She tried to dominate me from the jump - as fine as she was, I bailed quickly. To much of a headache with an incessant need to be right and she was extremely argumentative (as a lawyer I expected as much). The competition angle is cold hard truth that many black women hate when it comes to interracial dating; they expect 100% "loyalty" especially from high value black men, without any burden of performance. Men who make it that far (Henry's), don't make bad deals. Equal value for equal value. Men are asked to compete or lose everyday, the minute that some of these woman are asked to do the same, the "Take me as I am" rhetoric starts. Great show.

I think the reason why high value black men prefer white women is just one thing: attitude. When you are affluent and image is everything, being embarassed is just not acceptable. When a black woman is mad at you, everyone within two city blocks will know it. When a white woman is mad at you, she will pull you into a locked room and let you know her disappointment in private. Each of them will be passionate about their anger towards you but the black woman might not care about being embarassed while letting you know how she feels. A white woman will care. That is my take on the subject.

Kevin : Who runs Black Media ? Caller : What does that have to do with the conversation ? I feel intimidated ! Kevin : Where is your Husband ? Caller : Crickets ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂.

I swear all these women really believe they are fine, when they are just average. Have mercy!

I love the knowledge and gems you are dropping on your platform. The truth hurts sometimes but at least you are honest. You have become one of my favorite channels. Keep up the good work ☝🏾

Another great show... I agree 100% that there aren't any very many (if any) black men speaking from a position of holding black women accountable. Kevin usually shocks black women the first time he speaks to them because he's straight up and logical with them!

Fatherlessness leads to teen pregnancy. Teen pregnancy leads to fatherless children. It's a vicious circle of fatherlessness and teen pregnancy.

Some women are just going to have to settle for gigolos because relationships aren't their strong suit. Most women who are worth something are already in decent relationships; these callers are head cases.

Man he talking facts. Food for your life especially at the end. He is literally championing black women getting black men just giving a roadmap. Follow the map.

Damn, I miss you KS. Until we meet again, brother. In the meanwhile, I am still learning from the holy scrolls that you left behind for us to study from. From South Africa.

*Eastside Low Bottoms sh*t !* _Tappin' in from South Central LA_ Salute to the Godfather ✊🏾 The information contained in these broadcasts will forever be relevant. Rest easy KS 🙏🏾 You are appreciated. 🤜🏾💥🤛🏾

If a man is a colorist , you might not want to be with him.

As a black girl what I’ve noticed is that other races of women that bm tend to go for are just more feminine. I’ve realized it’s not about skin color but more about character. A lot of them put effort into their looks and are into working out and eating healthy. They are also more soft and humble and super supportive even in a relationship. Look at Kim and Kanye for example, she may have her own business but she doesn’t walk around throwing it down people’s throats, and she’s super supportive of Kanye and his business. Even if these women are in college and pursuing certain careers they still manage to maintain their feminine charm which is why many of them manage to find their husbands while in college or in their early 20s.

I'm not black but Kevin is my role model. 99% of women these days are just not living in reality, I blame social media and simps. Full stop.

My wife brought it to my attention that her being black was the reason my superiors were not promoting me to the highest ranks in the USAF. Once I stepped back and looked at my black male peers that were being promoted...90% of them had non-black wives! My beautiful, slim, smart, submissive wife took priority, so I retired from the USAF and moved on to better things!! 💯

Your closing advice in this segment was so honest I wish I heard it 25yrs ago. This is truly what young women need to hear and accept with an open mind.

As a 1st generation Mexican/American raised to be a wife and had my brothers call me from the other side of the house to get them a soda & I did it, not thinking anything about it my entire childhood & still even now for male family at events!!!… when she said EVER?!!! To Kevin’s “the men don’t have to Don’t ever do anything in a household” I was like what?!! That’s sooo alien to me!!🤔🤯😂🤣🤣🤣

Tieo is the type if woman to get you locked up. Raise your voice,"oh you're so mean and threatening.. help!"

Men want a healthy woman! An attractive woman! Respectful (24/7) Appreciation Praise (verbal) Cooperation Submissiveness Honesty A woman that wants to be married She must be childless Must want children for her husband Friendly Companionship Femininity Inspirational Humble Peaceful Tranquility Confidentiality Find comfort in a woman! A woman that keeps her mouth shut about what goes on in her home she shares with her husband!

What's your biggest takeaway from the video?

Kevin, you are correct about the weight issue. Recently I downloaded an App built for Black singles. And to my disappointment, I would say anywhere from 70-80% of the black women on there were overweight. Look we all have our own preferences, but I personally, have a deep appreciation for women who take care of their bodies and physical health. That's like the baseline for me, and then her character qualities/values, how she carries herself, are ultimately the deciding factors of whether I will pursue or not.

Glad i found this channel, there’s a lot of gems being drop here.

Are you an asset or a liability? This is the exact question I asked my wife twenty four years ago when she threaten to walk out on me after she was looking over the other side of the fence, looking for greener pastures. After thirty four years of marriage and my financial ability to retire at the age of fifty year old, she is still with me. So much for the fence.

STOP trying to force us into loyalty just cause we're both black. You need to earn our looks/attitude approval just like we have to earn your financial/leadership approval. OAN: Tell your sistas to stop being so promiscuous bc theyre messing it up for yall. And we'll attempt to get dudes to stop being so thristy and sexing you 5s and below and bad attitude chics, because TOO MANY of you see a man sexing you as validation instead of realise he's slumming bc of his lack of wallet or low self esteem.

Single mothers = SIDE CHICKS Overweight = I'm out Feminist = Kill me Crazy = Run Who's left?

One really important thing that I have noticed about 98 percent of these black female callers is there harsh toned voices. You can instantly sense the lack of femininity in the coldness of there cadence. But when you hear women of other races speak, you will hear softer voices, with caring tones. For me as a black man a hard sounding woman is a instant turn off.

I’m loving this channel, it’s unlike any other I have encountered! I’m really enjoying you Kevin.

Kevin is not just helping the black community he is helping all communities and very grateful for him

I immediately subbed when I saw the lit candle and the straw sticking out the red bull can. This man is a must listen at all costs

Thanks again Kevin for all that you're doing to educate men on the levels of manhood while also pointing out the roles that a woman should comply with in order for us to have healthy relationships. Myself I've been lost and off purpose for too long a time having married twice only to lose all my resources, and children due to the lack of being properly prepared in love and war. Now I'm 60 and rebounding again trying to stay afloat just to survive, along with my health issues that I'm now dealing with and cannot work anymore. Kevin I hope that you become just as rich and wealthy as you wanna be! Thank you very much.

Told my wife one time “Men rule the world but women make it go round” she did not like that sh*t she was so stuck on the “Men rule” part that she didn’t realize that without women the world can’t be.

2:03:21 Very apt analogy with the batteries. Men provide the energy that builds and drives society from the foundation on up. People growing up in today's already-built society don't realize that. But when sh*t hits the fan, things either recover or they don't based on how men step up. Even in the current pandemic, garbage trucks still run, sewers are still serviced, construction continues on - who runs all those essential services overwhelmingly?

yep, that is how i was taught to be a wife, all of us girls catered to our father. he was spoiled by my mom and us daughters. he returned the favor. not only did i learn from my mother how to cook, bake, grocery shop, plan meals for a month, clean, do laundry, how to iron, and sew, pay bills, budget, i learned how to be in a relationship with a man, by watching her. my mom worked hard, but my father worked harder, and provided for us all. my mom let my father lead our family. i saw my mom dress up for our dad and cater to his every need when he was home. mom ran the house, made sure we kept it clean and respected our dad. because she respected him and loved him, no matter what he did. i had a lot of her ways, so i got married after i graduated high school. i was able to do everything my mom did. and i was happily married for a long time.

This is applies to all rank of men! Black women don’t want to be fit, feminine or submissive for HVM and they look down on average black men. However Becky, Marisol and Myling would gladly be feminine, fit and submissive for their average and HVM.

DAMN this man's impeccable style and brutal honestywith deluded women is refreshing and necessary in this crazy dating market today. Plus he has realist intellect too. Subscribed!

Preach the Gospel. “ No Black couples; no Black children, no Black families “

He has a point about when black women do have a media platform, they don't promote black love. The show Scandal is an example of this which was written by a black women and alot of black women love olivia pope playing a white man's side piece.

I am SO glad I stumbled across your channel! Got damn! Your points are on POINT! And I definitely can tell you play chess, because your approach to addressing topics are very tactical and tactful! Keep doing what your doing brotha with spitting that knowledge! Just gained another sub right here ✊🏾

My Brotha. THANK YOU SO MUCH for your channel. Our women don’t realize the programming and conditioning we’ve had that has put us in our present condition. I learned this by living with my bi-racial ex boyfriend years ago and learned these hard lessons that you are trying to teach Black Woman while watching his white Mother and how she treated his Father. I then realized it is how you make a man FEEL. Unfortunately the woman who called in who you were having challenges with just refused to humble herself, be quiet and come out of defense mode. That’s a big problem with us. Your conversation with the younger Sistah and a post on IG really summed it all up: Black women are raised to be independent and not to be a wife. It’s so sad but true. This is the elephant in the room that most black woman are to prideful to talk about and it’s keeping us in our present situation. I do believe colorism exists BUT at the same time I have had some foiyne Black men and I’m brown skinned with 4C hair so my color has not stopped me from getting fine ass Brothas, lol 😆. So I DO BELIEVE it’s your attitude, how you carry yourself and what you bring to the table. Also many of us need to learn to love our black selves and learn to embrace our natural hair. I know a lot of black women are too lazy to making the time to take care of their own hair and will pop a wig on and that’s a problem. They make a gazillion excuses but at the end of the day it show laziness and that you don’t like how you look.They don’t realize how unattractive this is to men. Many black men were also raised by narcissistic black Mothers. This too has not been addressed. I cringed watching the movie, Antoine Fisher😫🤦🏾‍♀️We have so many generational bad habits passed down that we MUST FACE if we are to heal the Black Male/Female relationship.😪Of course I’m not excusing black men because both parties are responsible. But we STAY blaming black men for everything and never take an honest look at Black women’s role in our demise. I do believe beauty is in the eye of the beholder so I don’t believe you have to be a 8, 9 or 10 for a high value man but you do have to be a high value woman. I see Black men with women of other races who are below 6 all the time so I KNOW there are other traits making them high value women. Anyways, we as a people need TOUGH LOVE and I so appreciate you for being THAT GUY. 🤴🏾And I love how you carry yourself. Go head on my Brotha with ya BADSELF. All the best to you and yours.🤜🏾🤛🏾🤗🤴🏾👑😌🙏🏽

My uncle use to say,you like it i love it.

My 3 best friends are lovely dark chocolate women, married to wonderful hard working men. Only one divorced and doesn't have children, but she has no problem getting dates. The other 2 have children, live in beautiful homes, and one is a stay at home mom in texas. The other works just part time, but they kept themselves in shape and are fun and pleasant to be around. The two that are married have been married longer than I, and I've been married 10 years. A competitive women doesn't concern herself with negativity, they just become the best versions of themselves. And my friends husbands are wonderful black men, 1 with his own business and the other with a great career in biology. A pleasant attitude and staying at a healthy weight really puts you ahead of so many. Be responsible with your finances too and have a fulfilling life. You should be passionate about your goals, have fun hobbies, learn new things and try safe new activities. Be an interesting person to yourself first. Happiness attracts. But having a victims attitude is draining. Most black people know colorism exists, just like racism and sexism, but taking on a defeatist attitude won't stop it. You have to become your own best advocate no matter the odds to get success. You only need one great man to respect and admire for marriage. Great show, yet again.

I laughed so hard with that Tayo chick! I dealt with my version of that. On paper the chick I was dealing was on point because she did have money and was attractive. But she was way too confrontational when I was not even bothering her. When I started to fade to black, she inquired, I told her that I needed peace. This chick basically yelled telling me, "I am your peace!" That. Was the beginning of the end! Lol 😆.

Its overwhelming, realizing that I've done it all wrong and I've learned this from the women in my family. I'm happy to now take accountability and move forward in the direction of positive companionship, partnerships, and love.

When I was married Kevin I worked and cooked, baked etc. Made plates. The kitchen was my domain and I was proud of it. Strong black women in my family looked at me like I was a crazy lady lol.

When you have a high value man and match his drive ❤️ I have been watching this non stop and realized I wasn’t being as good of a woman he deserved! We are going to build an empire together!

with Kevin 2hrs feels like 20mins. great message 👍🏼

I just subscribed to your channel. This is the best episode of anything I’ve seen on KZfaq!!! Thanks for the content Kevin.

I think this podcast has successfully illustrated that attitude is the most important factor here. Great show.

Wow. Great show and host. Just adding my 2 cents as a viewer: The interesting part about the woman named Tao, is that many "corporate minded/leadership position types " such as herself, fall short when communication is challenged between the opposite sex. The women usually feel the need to be right or get the last word...even if it creates heavy friction. Our ego goes into overdrive and exhibit extra masculine energy. If we were operating "more" from our feminine energy, it would display patience and letting the man finish. Self control, compromise, and seeking a successful outcome. The ability to balance the energies, within self and outside of self. I've been guilty of this and definitely working on it, as I strive to bring peace and balance within my current relationship. The need to always be right or fight to get your point across is like winning the battle and not the war.

This is not church, but you have been preaching truth and it's started a movement and it's not going to be business as usual any more. Amen

Didn’t know Kevin was this funny along with the great, serious content he provides. That was solid and at the same time HILARIOUS!

Found this guy 5 days ago can’t stop listening 💯🎯‼️‼️

When he played the military song and saluted.🤣🤣🤣🤣

Kevin, I'd hang with you any day brother! Keep dropping that knowledge on these fools. Only education can lead people out of ignorance. Preach!

I love this man. Real men are coming back and it makes me proud.

HIT SQUAD!!! thank you for your wisdom, Kevin

Nothing's more cringe worthy, than 'a pit bull in a dress', ( EVE'S words, not mine ) trying to be feminine. And they think a soft voice can hide their bullish attitude. Over talking a man is a truly offensive act. Ms. $100,000 and those of her ilk, are truly obnoxious.

Kevin so god I found your channel. Thank you brother.

Some of these women are so masculine in their mannerisms it's scary.

Wow so many facts!!! Just finished watching you’re show for the first time and I learned a lot. Keep it going... Subscribe 👍🏽🖤

I absolutely adore you. Thx for this content. It needs to be said. Keep telling the truth.

Hey Kevin, I started watching your show and I appreciate your honesty and bri going some thj gs to light so we as AA women and get it together and get our families together. Let God use you. It hurts to hear but we need to hear it.

As a singular competitive black woman, I was highly affected by colorism. I have never been combative with any man, don't believe in it, but I don't want to feel owned when I have my own house, business, job etc. I was wanting a man to step up to allow me to be a stay at home wife and mom, but black men would tell me about what they thought I would before they actually met me. The men who dated me, felt weird because they thought I would just end up with a white man since I was the soccer mom type, who believed in home making.

Kevin has me cracking up with the crickets playing for the likes 😂🤣😂🤣

As a listener, Its a waste of time to hear you cut off the guest that just want to finish their statements, my guy. I dont think itll hurt your channel to let a caller finish their point. You cut off every caller. Kinda makes it difficult to have any sort of dialog with anybody.

Just watching this guy for the first time. I'm glad that he is talking to black women....And I hope he opens up an online school to continue to coach us and teach others this kind of coaching. One day these women will be mothers, so he is truly answering the call. It's too bad many of my folks are so backwards in this area, but I see there's hope.

Rest in peace OG