The moral of the story is to search for substance in your prospective mate. Looking good is great, but looks fade. Having money is great, but financial situations change constantly. Seek substance and assess the person's character to obtain true wealth, security, and love. Amen.

I’m 23 and never been in a relationship. I’m scared to get into one with the way dating is in this generation today

Facts bro, I know people married right now and are miserable because they making all this money, BUT they ain’t loyal to each other….you need a strong foundation before anything else.

I ain’t never screw a good person over. Not everyone’s character is built bad. There’s people out here that don’t do bad to others.

This is all very true. Money changes people. This is why I’m making it a point to be friends with anyone I get into a relationship with FIRST! That romance crap is for the birds. It’s only part of the equation

“How many good men and how many good women have you screwed over in the past?” Dang that hurt deep.😖

There are some ppl who have not screwed over a relationship ever in their life.

This video deserves a lot more likes. This is what we should teach our kids not that Red Pill and Sugar Baby poison.

God willing I'll be 39 shortly. I've been celibate for 1year. I can say this with confidence: if it's not God sent, I don't want it. If it's not PURPOSE DRIVEN, sir walk on by! Listen to me. I used to be so sad. Wondering why a man hasn't chosen me... TO GOD BE THE GLORY for his covering and protection. The things I am hearing about in these relationships MAY GOD keep me from Amen I do t care if I never have sex again. When you begin to love yourself and find God this other shyt go out the door.

Sorry Shumake but i have never screwed anyone over. All the men i have dealt with have screwed me over or tried to🤷. And i know i am not unique in that regard.

Young man, You hit that speech right home. What you stated is so, so true. We have to do better.

I can honestly say I've never screwed a man over. Never been out there like that. But I know plenty of men that holler there are no good women. But they dogged out the good women they had smh.

Very good point of conversation in this video my good brother. I'll just say the best kind of relationship we could have is the relationship we have with ourselves before we start looking for somebody else. People chase after money and material things but don't even have knowledge of themselves. As I was told growing up "If you're not good for yourself how can you be good for somebody else" Very strong statement. Great subject of conversation bro.

I have to disagree with your analogy on the screwing over of people. I myself spent my early 20s serving in the U.S. Army. I never screwed over anyone; I was in relationships with people who weren't ready for relationships. Years later, I look back at those individuals and find that they have been married multiple times and have multiple babies by multiple women. I have never been married, and I am 48. The biggest mistake I made was trying to give more than was being given to me in the relationship. I learned a hard lesson; it could have made me bitter , yet it made me stronger. I do agree that people get together for the wrong reason, but remember, misery loves company.

That's the problem people focus on outer appearance..

You're always spot on!!!!! You're a very smart man!!!!! Keep up the good work!!!! Pittsburgh PA watching!!!!!

Beauty fades but character is eternal. At my age what I hear from both men and women is worrisome and detrimental to the stability to the black community. A healthy community is dependent on healthy families. Many ask me why I’ve been single for the past 4 years and it’s simple: I was blessed to share 18 years with my best friend. He wasn’t a fine dresser, in fact he was country, down to earth, but the strongest and most progressive man I’ve ever known besides my father and loved me just as much. When you know what good looks like, you’re not going to settle for nothing less. Is money and looks important, of course, but like this young man stated, you must go deeper if you really want to obtain a good partner to share your life with. Trust me when you do, it will be the most satisfying thing you can ever dream off.

Im afraid that I have to give up on my brothers in order for marriage to happen... They not out here. You are a needle in a hay stack

I respect what he's saying, and I agree with some of it. As far as the money situation, I do believe you are supposed to live within your means. But I don't agree that couples that have no money are happier. Also, in the real world, we need money. Not having money would be okay if we still went by the barter system or money didn't exist but that's not the case. As a woman, I don't believe in being with a man that has no goals, no ambition, and no money. I believe a man should get his financial situation together first before getting a woman. What if you have children one day? I don't believe in relying on welfare forever. I think it makes a relationship easier when the man is providing financially. If you have a woman that you feel like you shouldn't provide for then she is not the woman that you want.

good talk brotha. Amen

100% on point in every way.

They make dating a competition

This young man is the new GOAT.

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Yep 🔥accurate 100%

This man is deep!

New to your channel. I love the topics you talk about when it comes to relationships. I'm a black British woman and find myself nodding and saying yes, each time you talk. Thanks for your insight into black love and relationships.

The only wise man with true understanding on KZfaq. Much respect to you and thank you so much for sharing your consistent wisdom.

Brilliant!!

Thank You for your POWERFUL Advice Mr Shumake.😃🎁😃

It’s known as a high school work-study program? Ms. Terry sounds like a wonderful teacher. What was your experience with the program outside of the distraught employee? Manager, Right? Yes! It’s extremely important to support each other. I speak on reciprocity all the time. Specifically, how attractive it is to have that kind of all-around support. No vanity. Simply biblical love well into old age. Truly until death do us apart. What’s not romantic about loving one person? How is it that men/women find comfort, excitement and substance in short term arrangements, booty calls and spontaneous hookups? One night stands, speed dating and friends with benefits are praised by current generations. It’s somewhat nerve reckoning. I’m happy you speak on the wonderful aspects of having character, morals and building a foundation of principles. Thanks Shumake Way for keeping it REAL all the time. Blessings BIG BIG L💞VE - 🌺InspirationByB

Another stellar vlog brother!

I’m sorry I’m gonna have to disagree with you on this one. You need more then love to make a marriage work. Women need to feel financially secure to feel safe with a man. You don’t have to be rich but a man should be able to provide for his wife and his family otherwise he is not ready for marriage. He needs to go back and build and then get his wife as it says in the Bible. A real man should not want a woman to struggle with him if he’s truly loves her. My husband would rather sacrifice and go without then see me struggle same with my father. The love conquers all fairytale type love doesn’t work in the real world it never has. That is why the divorce rate is so high. Chemistry wears off in 18 months there has to be more to it to sustain the marriage.

Because people want to flirt and no compromise, just superficial things and playing with "love".

Here's my hand raised! Nuff said!

Brother. You got me together this morning. Just when I thought I was one of those ladies who could be down with her man when he is going through a situation. There is room for improvement for me. So as of right now. My tolerance is going to another level. I will not be so quick to let things go. I want tolerance from a man who is willing to date me and marry me. I must give more tolerance to a man also, if I want to receive more tolerance for me. And I wonder why I am single. SMH. Thank you.

Good advice

Nothing but the truth❤️

YO CONTENT IS VERY INSPIRATIONAL BROTHA 💯

Appreciate you 👍🙏👏😊💐💖

Brah keep it real

So true

I'm sorry, but when he said the man got his legs cut off, you are going to need a women to stand by you when you don't have any legs to stand.. I'm sorry, but that made me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Words of Wisdom!.

I was in that program u were in n my city ..it's was called otj or graduation initiative..I left school at 10 to wrk and the job gave my credits to my school program ..I graduated a year earlier bcz of tht program

1st of all God and good morals It's gonna take you a long ways Because The outside beauty don't count it's what's on the inside of your heart that counts If your heart is black That is not beauty but if your heart is sunshine That is God's shining in you And God is a provider for his children That is the only way you will win if God is in front of all your situations And all your relationships Put his relationship 1st God and you will be ahead all the time

I often agree with you but on this one, She will have to take care of him and he couldn't give her his health.....is that fair?

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Many people nowadays treat relationships as a competition to see who can do the most emotional damage and control their bf/gf while getting the most benefits out of it. Basically, many folks are treating relationships as a toxic fest. "Who can go the lowest and be the most narcissistic?", says the toxic We need folks to go about things in the ways of the Lord Jesus Christ. Repentance and selflessness (not selfishness) is needed. Being holy, not hedonistic, would serve both involved greater. Instead of being of a "fresh and fit", red pilled, opposite gender hating mindset, let's get back to God and love as how He commands us to.

Hello, Shumake

They are way too focused on too much negativity. No one wants to compromise and most were raised in an angry household. I keep myself focused on fixing up my house. I mostly watch organization channels. I’m busy rearranging my entire house. I don’t have time to be arguing about every little thing.

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Lolss.....shamuke way?....🤣 either way bro, I'm glad the Land of Women taught u how to be a better person....but just a heads up....there r pple out there who know dat u be lookin 4 substance and they pretend they got it.....there r also pple who've been forced or family or even environmentally pressured to marry....there r also pple who've never played with anybody's feelings and end up celibate......but they were played by somebody though.....yeah.....a lot of pple suck.

What? white women don't act like that. They are so sweet, and understanding, they don't act like that?. I'm being sarcastic.

Below me they’re talking about “financial stability” when In reality they’ll cheat on you with a guy who has nothing I see it often. Also what does divorce solve if he dosent make enough money? Now instead of two incomes you’ve got only one income. If she wants to stay she will. No excuses. Pookie seems to always have options. Just saying..