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My husband and I were happily married for over 50 years, which does give me some qualifications to speak on the subject of lasting marriages. I think most people are too selfish to be half of a loving, lasting marriage. Instead of wondering what they bring to the table themselves, all they think about is "what can this person do for MEEEEE!". Also, if you select a life partner on looks or what kind of job they have, you are building a house on quicksand. Their character is much more important, because all the externals change over time. Maybe character doesn't give you that immediate "in love" feeling like instant physical attraction does, but it creates a lasting love, and makes you proud to share your life with someone. If you think I'm wrong about this, come back and state your case when you have completed 50 happy years with someone.

My husband and I are happily married for 43 years. First marriage. If I could be so bold as to give advice: Marry someone that you truly like as a person. If you wake up one day and he’s broke or disfigured, does what’s inside him still make you feel warm? Life will bring so many ups and downs. But, one thing I can say with all honesty is he’s the best person I’ve ever met, and he brings out the best of me.

Marrying the wrong person is the worst experience ever. Kudos to those with the courage to walk away.

My mom and dad were married 50 yrs Mom a immigrant from Italy ...beautiful, modeled for DIOR in the 1950's Father Irish educated business man. Madison ave. Mom was a virgin and only went on 2 dates prior to meeting my dad. Growing up was a dream, they never really argued...always were together there never was any curse words spoken ...ever in my house by anyone. They were faithful catholics...I couldn't eat at the dinner table unless I had a proper shirt on... I was blessed...I promised them I would always be for them when they were sick...I prayed to God to let me fulfill that promise. I was bedside for both of them when they took their last breaths...God is indeed Great.

Bravo. I was in the US Army and my first duty assignment was to Korea. I was befriended by a Korean man who showed me and some other soldiers - Korea. We would go out in a group together to restaurants and bars. On one outing, there was a pretty girl who joined us and that was in October. I had approached her several times and she finally agreed to date me in December and all of our dates were chaperoned (no kissing, hand holding, nothing). I asked her to marry me in February and we were married in May which was over 37 years ago.

Was married for 25 years. Gave it my best shot. After divorcing 20 years ago I have had my best life, with not a single day’s regret. Found the right person? Great. If not, don’t romanticize the status. Get out of it, the sooner the better and make the right life for you.

I can't tell how much I appreciate this channel and the work you do. The contrast to the 'mainstream' tiktok and instagram accounts is just staggering - and in this case, it's about real life, not the facade people want to create for the public. Your work is much, much appreciated.

I’m fifty five and have been married 32 years but met when we were 19 and have been together ever since. I wouldn’t say love is physical attraction as much as mutual respect and trust. Allow the other person to continue to grow and expand. Marriage isn’t easy. It requires work. And, remember, if you have a loving partner - the grass on the other side of the fence isn’t greener - it’s just different grass. I always think about this. I’m not sure if it means anything to anyone else but it just reminds me of the value of what I have right in front of me.

I knew a couple who were married for 55 years. The man was 15 years older than his wife and they were an interracial couple of color. Some people were against their marriage but they outlasted the marriages of their critics.

I have been married for 8 years but I haven't been happily married for the entirety of these 8 years. I am learning with time that happiness is a choice within a marriage as much as it is outside a marriage.

My Mom always spoke about my Dad like he was a knight in gleamingly shining armor, riding on a valiant horse. I was shocked as an adult when I realized my Dad was in fact very human. 😊

Socrates reportedly said, "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

I’ve been married twice, the first marriage was made for the wrong reasons, I then had a 15year relationship with another chap who was too immature to really create an honest relationship , my second marriage was good but he passed away too soon, and now I’ve been in a relationship with a man with whom I dont live, and we’ve been together for 10+ years and I would say that this is my most successful relationship as we do really talk, open our hearts and at our ages (75 & 81) we just go with the flow. BTW - we met online!

The lady in black on the bench was 101% right 👌

I quit online dating apps years ago and I have no regrets. I go through spells of not meeting people, and I’ll go through spells of meeting a lot of people, but everyone I do meet has a certain specialness that I never felt with people I met online cause the sense of the universe placing us in the same place and the same time and allowed us to meet is quite something when you think about it.

This was an interesting segment. I grew up in an age of no internet. You had to approach women and get rejected. You had to get out of your comfort zone. But you found love in the most unexpected places. People need to get off their phones are socialize with strangers. There is also a lost art of conversation today. I remember when people would have three hour conversations and spend more time with each other. Today people are less social than before and seem to be more self-centered.

“Don’t be afraid of rejection “ ❤

I met my husband online 13 years ago, best relationship and decision I’ve ever made, it doesn’t matter where you meet..

Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more. WHAT IS LOVE?

Here's a big secret besides being compatible, you both have to WANT it. There will be time where you may feel uneasy or maybe unhappy but if you can both grow and help each other walk the path of life, you win. Want to make it work, want to share. When one person carries the load and desire it will eventually fail.

Love this! I have been married before for the wrong reasons. Now Im with my husband that is the one. In my forties and happier than ever. And love is about sacrifice and resilience and trust. Its a decision and not butterflies like we have been told. Butterflies= run😬 Real love& commitment is calm nervous system and feeling of home❤

I met my husband of 15yrs at the grocery store. I absolutely agree that it's great to meet people in real life.

I can see you have a beautiful soul through your eyes!! There's lots of life and good intentions in them :) Thanks for the meaningful content you provide and for giving people aged 50+ a chance to share their wisdom with all of us. More or more, it seems that we live in a world where older people are being forgotten and it's sad because we can learn a lot from them!

Love is an involuntary response to virtue, so to be in love you need to be virtuous. I've known my wife for 51 years and we've been together since she was 19. (34 years) My advice is.... 1. Don't have sex until you have established you are right for each other. Sex can create a false bond and you are then involved before you really know the person. 2. Discuss your values and what you want from life ahead of time - Kids (How you are going to parent - peacefully hopefully) etc. 3. Don't ignore any red flags. Address them immediately they come up and before you commit. 4. Take your vows 100% seriously. Once you are in it, it's forever, no matter what. 5. Keep fit and don't let yourself get overweight. You owe it to your partner to remain attractive. 6. Never stop working on self-knowledge and talk about everything. 7. Read the book (or listen to the audio book) 'Real Time Relationships - The logic of love.' 8. Don't be promiscuous before finding the right person. The higher your body count, the less likely your marriage will succeed. 9. Have kids young. Female fertility declines very rapidly. 10. Defend your partner in every situation, no matter what. Those who do these things have a very high chance of a successful marriage. Hope that helps.

For what you said about approaching an attractive woman, I have a story: When I was young, around 12-13, there was a girl that I liked that, after having known, at least "of", her for years I finally worked up the nerve to approach her and tell her that I liked her. She ripped me apart. It was as if she took my heart, threw it on the ground, and stomped on it like it was a cockroach. She told me things like how to her it's ridiculous that anyone could love me at all. In the end, another kid in our class walked up to her and said, "Is this guy bothering you? Let me steal you for a second. Sorry, some guys just don't get it." I went home, and I cried. I cried my eyes out. This was back in the year 2000. It was years before I could ever be that vulnerable with anyone again, and in some ways, let's just say I always prefer to tiptoe into swimming pools now rather than just cannonballing into them. That said though, I am married now. Our marriage isn't perfect and certainly has its issues, but we manage. There isn't anyone else in the whole world I'd rather spend the rest of my life with. When we first got together, I remember many people my age hinting that I could probably do better. I never responded as I probably ought to have, but if I could go back, I would tell them, "She's human. I'm human. She makes me happy, and I her. She isn't crazy, or superficial, or vane. She's smart. In a lot of ways, she's smarter than me. Even if I could, there's no point in finding someone better. She's as close to perfect as I want her to be."

I loved the woman dressed in black. Her whole posture and demeanor says “I am a strong, confident woman”.

There was a lot of really good advice in this segment, but those two ladies who took the time to sit down on the bench with you had fantastic words of wisdom! The one dressed all in black had amazingly positive body language, by the way. She communicated with her whole body that she was open to conversation, friendly and comfortable with sharing what life has taught her. Great set of interviews!

This channel is always a refreshing break from the fatalism of so many others spearheaded by "kids today" (I jest; I'm much older than this enterprising young man). I have to say, though, after plenty of dating in the pre-internet age, I met my wife online and we've been happily married for over a decade. Meeting that way CAN be done--it's not necessarily how you meet, but everything that comes after that's important. I have to agree with the stylish woman in the sunglasses: A successful marriage is, in part, about caring for the other person while giving them space to be themselves and getting the same in return. Well before she met me, my wife knew exactly who she was; she was and is the queen of her universe. I can add to that. I can be supportive of that. But there's no expectation to "make" her happy, because she already did that for herself a long time ago. On the other hand, it took me nearly 30 of my 46 years to find myself, changing my career, health goals, etc., and finally arriving at a happy place that keeps evolving. She's been very helpful with that, and yet, it's not her job to make me a whole person. That's what I would add to this conversation: For a good marriage, love. Live. Don't try to "fix" your partner, they're not a project. And regard them not as someone who's there to complete you, but rather as a guide on the journey that you're both taking together.

"love will find you "that's so beautiful 😊

"To find love in a world that is increasingly complex, turn to the basics. Find things that you love to do and do them. Hang out with people that you like to hang out with and cherish them. Travel to places that you've always wanted to travel to and enjoy them. Fall in love with who you are and never stop. And throughout all of this, keep your eyes peeled. Start conversations, and don't be afraid of rejection. If you do all of these things, you won't find love; love will find you." ❤️ I believe this

My parent married for 55 years..both of them passed away last years 3 months apart. I will always remember her advise..stay with one men.coz it should be like that.

I've been married for 22 years and all I can tell you is that life has been a roller-coaster for me, but someone has constantly been sitting on the next seat, sometimes not fully understanding what was going on or not fully agreeing on how to raise our children, but neither has ever wanted to throw the other person out of the carriage knowing that that option would have had a much worse result! Life isn't perfect, I'm not perfect and my husband isn't either, but we stick it out together and mostly enjoy our ride! Sorry, but I've always believed that the very notion of romantic love is a trap!

love that 61 yrs old woman, yes, make yourself whole before you can love others....

Met my husband 24 years ago, married for 19 years. Met doing something we each loved to do!

I think love is when you have a person where you can be urself in all the weird ways and be that for the other Person too

Idk I am a millennial and I don’t do social media and dating apps I prefer meeting people the old way. My dating history is horrible because all the guys I have dated cheated on me and left me high and dry for no reason. People today don’t understand what it is to be honest, faithful and disciplined. I look pass people’s flaws but others don’t do that.

If morals matter to you, then you need to find a person where morals matter to them. My first husband did not have a good example of long lasting love shown to him by his parents, but my parents were as much in love on the day my mother died as they were when they met, when my mum was just 14 (married at 19). Morals = trust I have found and trust, love and respect are the three most important ingredients. Also it is very important that you both want roughly the same things out of life. My first husband had no drive and he resented me wanting anything. My husband now of 38 years is my best friend, soul mate and lover.

This video validated my feelings so much

I met my wife in a Store on Dec 26th 2012 it was a store called price right i lived alone for 31 years she lived alone for 46 years we got married on April 28th 2013 she was a God send to me i was so unhappy in life back then we are 10 years now it was blessing when we got married! ❤ And the price was right on that day on Dec 26th 2012

المودّة و الرّحمة و الاحترام أقوى شعور بين الزّوجين من الحبّ .. الصّفات الأولى ثابتة و الحبّ رابطة متقلّبة لا أمان فيها

Thank you for this great video! The lady sitting on the bench in the black outfit is right. Don't expect someone else to complete you. You need to be complete yourself. Know your values...this is the key. What are deal breakers in a relationship. Ex. I would never date a smoker or an alcoholic. It's easier for me to understand all of this now since I have some life experiences but I was not aware of all of this when I was in my 20s.

3:25 She's the OG. Down to way she's sitting. Respect.

The key to a lasting marriage is the acceptance of your partner. It's equally important to view yourself and your signifikant other as a unit, as " us".Without the willingness to sacrifice what is necessary to sacrifice for the relationship on both parts there's no marriage, therefore no future. It's not your money, it's our money. Their 're not your children, they're our children, and so on. You have to give to receive. There's no equality. The power- balance is shifting, and if you're not ready to accept that love is a battelfield, stay single.Then, there's peace and harmony. That won't last. But it comes back.😊

I have been married for 30 years now and I don't like it. But divorce is not an option. So we just tolerate each other. I really wish we had not married. It is so lonely! 😢

Thank you for your channel. Im already 60yo but still learning a lot from people who have lived life already and shared their most valuable lessons in living. Hope the YOUNG would watch and learn from your videos, too. These are lessons not usually taught in classrooms or online, but REAL LIFE EDUCATION they could apply in their own. More blessings❤️💕🙏

Bravo!!! So nicely done! We need a whole series on this!! Please consider it ❤

Loving your channel. Raw, authentic and meaningful. Keep up the good work. May your channel reach great heights.

I've been following you for months now and it's amazing to see your channel gaining more and more subscribers. You've definitely found your way of creating great, meaningful content and you're a very good interviewer. You know how to connect with people and how to listen to them. Much love from France

Each day is a learning day to me via this channel. I love what you do sprouht. Sending love from Kenya ,Africa ❤

I'm very happy that I find your channel today because your conversations are simple and interesting and you make subtitles. This three things - simple conversation, interesting conversation and subtitles are very important for me because I study english form your movies ;)

Thanks for doing this. Really enjoy watching and learn from these. Like that you are talking with just regular people just like you. Keep up the great work!

Thank you for creating “this kind” of channel❤

thank you for going through all of these interviews, we viewers get a lot of insight from the wisdom coming from other people who have more experience.

I always say that when my wife and I are in this situation, my take will be that it mostly luck. People are very good at post hoc rationalisations about why they did something, but if we look at it on a base level- we are simply the kinds of people that can stay in a marriage long term. We are this kind of people because of nature and nurture, but that we didn't have control over. It's lucky that we are who we are.

This is wonderful. I will share this with my wife, and I'll watch it again with her. I love your content!

thank you man, i love your videos so much. they have helped me with my depression and makes me want to take small steps to make my life better. never stop the positivity 💜

This channel reminds of that those kind of thought are still existing. Love it

It was refreshing to hear these couples speak about their relationship; it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing this.

This has quickly become one of my favourite youtube channels. I love hearing peoples stories

As always, I enjoyed your post. Thank you.😊❤️

Binge watching all ur videos at work, im soooo glad I found you, I can tell we’re gonna go far

Thank you for sharing this wonderful video on couples and your other short videos of random interviews. I think that you have struck a nerve with this video because 'love', 'relationship', 'commitment', 'trust', 'caring', 'attraction', 'like' , 'forgiving', etc are such universal attributes in long term loving marriages that most of us aspire to have. My wife and I are Asian immigrants and have been together 51 years and my parents together 70 years before their passing. I believe that we live our lives modeling after what we have seen that has worked successfully. Some consider it luck meeting their soulmates by chance or introduced by close family or friends while, in reality, some factors of similarities, compatibilities and mutual attraction have already been accounted for, c'est la vie. Like your videos. Keep up the good work. Thanks.

I love your channel so much, it gives such good guidance and a feel about what to look for when you want to get married or fall in love or even as a single. Thank you for the amazing feed.

Man, your content is different This hold value ❤

Your channel is chicken soup for the soul. I also live in Montreal. What you do and the people you meet speaks to me. I hope to cross path with you someday. Happy New Year 🎉❤

This is a FanTAStic video! Well done!!!

Love this. I agree 100% with our guy’s closing statement.

I love this! Thank you so much❤️‍🩹

Very educative ,informative one of my best channels on you tube watching you from🇰🇪

Love finds you when you’re least expecting it thank you for this video

We have been married for 35 years. Some have been hard (we have a Son with a severe physical disability) but the majority have been wonderful. I have learned that as the Bible saying goes, “love covers a multitude of sins”. Just love that person and forgive as soon as you can. No one is perfect. Show each other respect but also don’t smother them with constant neediness. Become resourceful. Of course if something is too physicality taxing for you to do if you are a woman, ask them sweetly for help. Do not demand your own way all the time. Respect is the biggest lesson to learn. And cover all of it with love.✨💕💖🙌

❤❤❤ so beautiful! So excited for my future. They give me Hope🎉 Thank you for this video. It was so nice to hear their truth and feel their connections with each other. Thank you😁

this is nice. i am learning a lot. now, people are not willing to make sacrifices because we have become more selfish. always talking about self and not others.

I always do what I love, some activities are with people like being with a band, running, hiking, and swing dancing. I have never met anyone I wanted to build a life with. It’s been decades. I am retired, quite content to be single tbh.

It's not marriages falling apart...it's close relationships...even friendships, siblings etc because of our self absorbed nature

Yes, I tried online twice each time for more than a year. Had multiple first and 2nd dates. The one guy I met online that I stayed with for 8 years was one of the worst experiences I ever had.

brilliant. thanks for bringing your family into the picture. ))

I hate the concept of meeting people online. That is why I personally stay away from many online platforms. I rather meet someone organically and spontaneously in the present and in the moment.

It's not difficult to Find love, to fall in love... What IS very difficult, and rare, is Mutual love.

Thank you for bringing in this topic. It's enriching to listen these matured people. 🙏👍

Amen, bringing the best out of another person. Love is giving; committment and growing together for the better and purposeful. ❤

Thanks for this content. Je ne savais pas que tu parlais français!!! This video was just the content I need to look for. I realize how is important to keep a simple live and self-esteem to go to other person. I've lost all my teenage to please to everyone and I want now to just easily live. We can got everything in a less of time (food, internet, money...) but not an heart of a person. Thanks for this advice

This is really beautiful and eye-opening.

I appreciated this video. Real life and real people ❤

Good work man! 👌🏻

Think about all the love in-between ". Great statement..

Met my husband at church. He was bestfriends with a guy I dated. Ahahaha. Been together for 10 years. Number one advice: nevel let family and friends be involved with your issues. Never tell them the flaws of your spouse. You have to be their number one protector.

The basics are always the best and always will be!❤

Good job man, bravo!

Love the whole video ❤

LOVE YOUR CONTENT BRO

Great video-full of wisdom!

If I'm honest, go to therapy early, so you can have the life and relationship you want. Deal with any trauma you had as a kid, so you are capable of love and being loved. Not doing so can stunt/ stop emotional growth as we get older, causing roadblocks to happiness. I'm a man who never knew he had attachment issues as a result of my own trauma. They are ghosts, and live with you whether you realize it or not. So, go discover the real you,as soon as possible.

Very well said with plenty of great recommendations and life learning lessons from actual couples who have lived, learned, and gone through all of it themselves. I would say one of thy most important things someone can do, other than what these different awesome couples have suggested which is great advice, is each individual person needs to learn to feel and be 100% happy with themselves, their life, their environment, and their situation and love and believe in themselves first and foremost. If you do not learn this and how to be okay with yourself alone, you will not find someone out of real love, you will find someone out of desperation to not be alone, to include you will end up putting a lot of unneeded stress and pressure on your partner, like threatening suicide if they attempt to leave, because you are unhappy with yourself and your so desperate not to lose your partner. That is a very scary and unhealthy relationship dynamic and unfortunately I've seen and dealt with these types of horrible relationship couples and they are not pleasant to be around or put up with. You have to learn to be happy and okay being single and alone and once you master loving yourself and feeling 100% complete without a partner, then you are truly ready to have and create standards of what your wanting and looking for in a true partner. Hopefully they are on the same level as you, or pretty close, and so if your 100% and they are 100%, then together you enhance one another to 200% and if things ever end because they don't workout, then by ending the relationship and separating, you should both still be 100% on your own, this is the key!

Love all the experiences from the olders share

Thank you for doing what you do. Your videos are like a mini therapy session for me. I agree meeting people in person is way better than meeting people online. Could you do a video on the best ways of expanding your circle? Especially for someone who's more of an introvert? Looking forward to your future videos.

Maravilloso contenido! gracias por este video

I'm 23, and i needed to watch that. Well explained thankss.

What an excellent excellent video❤