I am a 57 year old woman, who never wanted kids, like them, just didn't want them. I have NEVER regretted my decision

When I was 9, I knew I would never have kids after watching a traumatizing birthing video. However, when I was considering marriage, I sat down and wrote a list of pros and cons to having kids. My pros list had 5 things, my cons list had 68. No kids for me thanks. 😂

Can somebody explain to me how not wanting kids is “selfish”? Like, to me wanting kids is selfish…

I’m currently running on 4 hrs of sleep. Had a kid 5 months ago, holy shit it’s hard. Don’t have children unless you really really really WANT one!

I’m 41 and childfree and never wanted kids being a parent seems miserable and stressful 😊

Im a huge introvert and that’s why I’m so scared to be a parent. No kid deserves to feel like a burden

my mom is angry and exhausted everyday - ive never gotten a “good morning, have a nice day”. I never want to live like this.

I swear I thought second woman was saying LIONS! 😆😆 she said lay-in, as in naps throughout the day 😂 I was about to say, geez how many pet lions does one lady need?? Haha

You are not less of a woman or man for opting out of parenthood… not everyone should have children… the news proves this everyday…

I am a Woman and I approve this message. Definitely do not want to bring an innocent soul into a corrupt world we live in where Adults alone are struggling to keep up with ends meets.

Having children so you are not alone at Christmas is a bizarre reason to have kids. Childfree people still have families who involve them in holiday plans. And there is always Japan for Christmas- they don’t do Christmas so it’s a great place to be at that time of the year… skiing down the mountains of Hakuba. Absolute bliss!

For the first time ever women have choices and people are shocked we are exercising those rights.

I once remember I was called a racist by a random woman at a party for saying I don't want to have kids, literally, I was single in a party just saying in a conversation that I personally don't want to have kids. It was years ago and I still don't understand how that was racist!

i don't need a baby to have someone look at me like i'm the most important thing in the world because my dogs and cat already do that

I don’t want no screaming crying gremlin, nope I’m done

I don't want kids cause I saw how much my mom struggled in life. From age 7 to 18, my mom wore the same hand me down clothes everyday (some had holes in them!) she got when I was a baby. Didn't go clothes shopping for herself or buy something nice for herself at all, she couldn't afford to, she had me and my siblings to feed and clothe. Also, I watched flies fly out of her wallet, she had no money left as soon as the paycheck came in. I remember being 9 and thinking to myself "This is no way to live, barely scraping by." It only finally got a little better for her when my siblings and I got to college age and had our own jobs. My mom only then finally went and bought herself something nice, *20 years later* mind you. 20!

I was oldest of five. My mom had me raise them. I already had YOUR KIDS. 😢

Saying someone who doesn't want kids is selfish is the stupidest statement I've ever heard. To have a kid just because you can is not a reason to have one. By the way yes I have kids and respect people's choices

My grandmother had 12 children. She has passed but when she was in need of caregiving she had 9 living children. My is one of the 3 who passed and I am an only child. Anywho, my gram called me to help be her caregiver because all her children wanted to put her in a nursing facility. I feel so blessed to have had to opportunity to be there for her. However, I realized she had the most God awful children. In regards to me not having children, she told me that not all women a meant to have children; some women are meant to do other things. And this is a woman who loves children and nickname is Mother.

Lonely for the holidays?? Are u effing kidding me??You could be married, you could be at a New Year’s Eve party w/200 people - and yet feel like the loneliest person on the planet. No kids - no effing regrets here!

Now that I'm in my 30s I see the reality of how all childrearing falls on women and I am SO RELIEVED I never let anyone knock me up lol. I am looking forward to enjoying ALLL my money for MEEE

maybe we would want kids if we had better examples of ppl having healthy relationships where they share the load of taking care of kids and not just the mum being stressed out sm

32. Child free AF! Still no desire to have babies. I would consider marriage tho if it benefits me financially 🤭

Me to people that ask what I’ll do when I’m old…”When I’m old and have no kids to care for me I’ll be paying yours to do it because they’ll need jobs and that job will take them away from you. I expect I’ll be quite comfortable thanks.”

I have always known I don't want to be pregnant, give birth and give up my freedom just to bring another human to this world and probably worry about them for the rest of my life. My relationsjip with my partner is too important to ruin with the lack of sleep, lack of free time and ruining my body. Also my hobbies are the thing keeping me sane, and if I had kids I would never hve time for just myself anymore, and it would be a nightmare.

I've known since 1st grade pretty much and I'm 35 now, my mind hasn't changed once. also this whole mindset of 'you'll be alone when you're older' well yeah I might be, but so might you. just because you've had children doesn't guarantee you won't be alone when you're older. there are all sorts of reasons why you might end up alone...

I have always been perplexed by why NOT wanting a child is selfish when those who have babies are doing it all due to selfish reasons.

One thing that terrified me when I thought about motherhood was the sleep deprivation. This was before the internet. Now, on mom subreddits, women talk about the absolute torture of sleep deprivation. Moms whose kids didn't sleep through the night for FOUR years. The nuclear family combined with our economy pushes young families far from the intergnerational familial sharing of child-rearing and mothers are just scorched. I hear a lot of dads rhapsodize about parenthood. Turns out they get plenty of sleep and take 45-minute bathroom breaks all by themselves.

As a mom or 2 boys I dnt recommend having kids. I love my kids but in this world we are in nw. I can barley feed them I've lost 40 lbs so they can B4 me cause food is too much. I work a full time job n I'm drowning wit bills on top of my kids needs. I love my kids to death but If knew how this world was goin be I wouldn't have had them. I'm scared there won't be a future for my kids

My mom tells me to not have kids😂. Imma listen to my mom. I don’t listen to strangers. I remember someone said, parents favorite day is without kids and to do their hobbies or sleep.

I honestly think ppl have kids for the wrong reasons

That's exactly my point! A lot of women complaining how hard it is to be a mum and when I tell them I don't want to have kids, they get so offended. I'm 27 and never had a desire to have kids, but I respect people who want to have kids, so I don't get why I don't get the same respect back? I love my lifestyle, I love my body and I love to do whatever I want! Getting pregnant and having kids there's a lot of changes to your body and your lifestyle and it's something I don't want. Every woman has a choice in life!

The only time I ever want kids is when I’m playing the sims……..

i really dont want kids and i think it's mainly cos i was emotionally parentified as a kid and i think that's okay. i love being alone and having quiet. i have a nephew and he always snuggles up to me so close and i also dont like that. i dont like ppl being so close up under me and i think it would be suuuper selfish to have a kid knowing i dont like those things and to then put that on a kid.

That Tik-Tok mom that just got arrested the other day on child abuse. It never looks good to go on camera holding your baby saying I regret being a mom 😂😂

"I want lions" 🦁🤣 best reason ever.

People just need to let people have their preference. If you want kids fine. If you don't great. Let them live.

I have two kids, I love them, but it’s hard. Your whole life and schedule revolves around them. You can’t even go the bathroom by yourself. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you. Not to mention the expense.

I’ve always had a problem with my parent’s terrible relationship and the constant complaints about having children. They really look at me sideways about being in a lovely relationship and still not having children.

I didn't have a kid till 35. Personally worked out really well for me, but I can totally see how it's not for everyone. Live your best life, whatever that looks like for you

As a 69 year old married woman, I have never regretted my decision to not have children. I cannot imagine my life being any more fulfilling than it already is. Frankly, I find it confusing why in 2024 some people still will question a woman's choice to have or not have children. I believe it is based in religion....just like so many other biases and outdated traditions.

Every person berating people for not wanting children somehow ALWAYS forget about the people who medically can’t have children. They hate that childless people make the choice

I'm 47 and a childfree woman. My simple, quiet life with my lovely husband is a dream.

Any parent who tells people they are selfish for not having children should ask that critic if their child is biological or not. Those who only want their own children and won't consider adoption should be called out for their own selfishness.

I don't like kid, i don't like teenagers, i don't like people! Nothing could convince me to have a kid 😂

The uncommon reasons: I have a snake too! And no, I would not want a kid near him. Another one I have is the spite one. My parents were verbally abusive to me growing up so I made the decision that they don't deserve grandkids, they can settle with my pets.

If I passed on my genes to a child, it would be cruel to them. We have a history of severe mental illness, including bipolar, schizophrenia, depression, autism, and any number of addictions, not to mention abuse. I would have been a terrible mother. There's no way I would put a child through that.

32, childfree, my choice. MINE. Not randos trying to feel better about their own choices.

If being parents is so great well then why are they trying to dump them for a childfree holiday any chance they get. You need a break is not an excuse. People around you probably need a break from you and your kids.

Some ppl seem to forget that ppl have family that doesn't consist of their own children. I feel sorry for the parents of these ppl. But also one of their reasons for having children is that they will take care of you and keep you company when you are older. But they are also forgetting their own parents? Weird.

Yeah...I don't care if parents think I'm selfish or lonely for not having kids. I am not having kids for the sole purpose of them keeping me company and/or to not be found selfish. So thanks for your concern, but I'll just keep enjoying my quiet time, my schedule exactly the way I want it, doing exactly what I want, my free time, my sleep and my money.

8:13 LITERALLY i ALWAYS say " IF I WANTED KIDS I WOULD HAVE HAD THEM!!" when i'm forced to babysit my brothers kids omg and now his first is 15 which is fine and i'd love to spend time w her now but he went and got another girl pregnant and now he is 3 and i can't even spend time w my niece quietly and get to know her. all of our time together REVOLVES around a toddler. and now SHE is like " i dont want kids!" so is my cousin who HATES the way this bad behaved toddler acts.

Childfree life is the best. I am free to do what I want when I want, that's something parents give up the moment they have their babies.

How many parents are totally ignored by their adult children? Most of them. Don't believe me? My mothers nursing home, when she was in one, was full of unvisited,crying, sad old people who were literally screaming for their kids. Where were they? Waiting ON THANKSGIVING TO VISIT. 😅😂😅😮😂😂😂

Not everyone is this way. I am a mom and grandma and think everyone should be able to make there our choices. As well as keep their noses out of other peoples business. Nothing gives anyone the right to guilt anyone else into living the way they dictate.

Having a kid because you are afraid of being alone on 3 days out of 365 a year is ridiculous.

I'll be 66 on October 2, and I never had kids myself. In fact, I never wanted to get married and have kids period. I was raised in a family of eight kids. Six brothers, one sister, and myself. (I'm the third oldest.) Four of my brothers are mentally handicapped. But unfortunately, one of them passed away back in July of 2000. I just don't have any patience with kids. I would go to jail for what I would do to the. I strongly believe what both the Bible and the Catholic Church teaches us about sex, marriage, family, and relationships. Therefore, based on my family life growing up, as well as my Catholic upbringing, I decided not to get married and have kids. I chose instead to work full time and travel instead. I was in the workforce for 40 years. By being single and childfree, I was able to get to work on time and put in a full day's work without having to worry about my child getting sick, child care/babysitting issues, if my child's school closes early due to bad weather, my child's having problems in school and I have to go see his or her teacher, and so forth. Also, if you love to travel, you can always plan your vacations around your job schedule instead of a school's calendar. A lot of these schools don't allow you take family vacations during the school year because of each state's mandatory school attendance laws. Family vacations during the school year are unexcused absences. For example, here in Pennsylvania, where I live at, K-12 students have to be in school for 180 days a year. Also, back in April of 2015, there was this guy, who lives right here in the Philadelphia area, who took his two kids out of school, and up to Boston because he was running in the Boston Marathon. He then got a letter from the school's principal saying that it was unexcused absence. He wrote the principal back and he told her that his two kids learned more up there in Boston instead of sitting inside of a classroom; and that he would do it again. Don't let anybody judge you simply because you choose not to have kids. That's both your choice and your decision. In fact, St. Paul says that the single person pleases The Lord; whereas the married person pleases the spouse. After all, getting married and having kids isn't for everybody; especially me. And it's going to stay that way also.

A lot of these people seem to forget that some of us have grown up in less than ideal conditions,, I am HIGHLY autistic ( I am diagnosed, which a lot people seem to think I MUST be lying about because they view us as incapable of making decisions, but that’s another topic ) and I also suffered a variety of abuses, not to mention I have genetic problems, WHY would I want to bring a child into this world when just that alone could kill me!? What if that child has the things I have? I do not think that I should allow a child of my own blood to suffer with what I’ve suffered just cause I want to further some stupid bloodline, WHO CARES if I die alone? Atleast I’ll have lived a fulfilled life knowing that I’ve not caused irreparable harm to a new life by simply allowing it to exist, I will be at peace knowing that atleast even if the rest of my life is hot garbage.

All my life i would never get sick my mother would brag to everyone that i was her only child out of 8 who never has to go to the doctor except for checkups. Had my first child at 25 my health went out the window every bug i catch its crazy after my secound it got worse. This is crazy i just want my body back the way it was honesty.

I have a very low pain tolerance and child birth look extremely painful to go through I can imagine it feel like you’re being ripped apart from the inside out😰😰. I also have no patients so having kids isn’t for me tbh I would rather be a cat parent than a regular parent

I'm a teenager and I refuse to have kids. Based on how hard adult life would be according to adults, why would I want to bring a kid into that? I'm not an incubator, I am capable of more than having kids. Honestly in this day in age its more selfish to have kids. Overpopulation exists, and animal species are dying every year due to us. I hate when people worry about underpopulation of humans.

Im 25, engaged, and literally can barely take care of myself and my cat. We love spending holidays just the 2 of us. Every day im like "should we have a baby or should we just be happy forever" lmao

Kid free life = 🎉 I’ve been told I’m selfish…. Sure no problem if it means freedom to do whatever I please and seriously not spin my head off going broke in todays structural living… I’m cool with being selfish and exploring what is my Life.

When he was 15, my son told me, "I wish I didn't have YOU as MY father." God heard that earnest plea, and granted my son's wish, removing both him and his mother from my life before I had met her, resulting in her son being fathered by someone else rather than me. I never did have any children. At the age of 60, that's not likely to change.

Also just think about how hard it is to live in this current economy and then add in another human to pay for

Someone 👏 not 👏 wanting 👏 kids 👏 is not 👏 an attack 👏 on 👏 parents 👏 Just because one person doesnt have kids and is happy about that, it doesn't mean that they think no one should have them or that people are stupid for having them. Not everyone should have kids. Not everyone would make good parents. Some people are happy being child free and fuck the people who keep trying to gaslight them into thinking they arent. Everyone has a different view on personal fulfillment and if you find fulfillment in being a parent, great! Being a parent is hard and its awesome that you find that to be your best life, but someone else might not find happiness in the same way and it has ZERO consequences for you, so bug out. It doesn't hurt you that another human doesn't want to do what YOU do. We're all different.

I was just thinking of a famous Reddit post about a single dad. The birth control failed, and his partner at the time wanted an abortion but he refused. She gave him full custody, but other than child support wanted nothing to do with the kid. He had somehow gotten into his head that once the kid was born, the maternal instinct would somehow kick in and was disappointed to find out it didn't. He was tired all the time. The kid cost a ton of money. He had to rely on his mom and sisters for child care. He wanted advice on how to "make" his baby mama take the kid every once in a while so he can go on dates. The comments section *savaged* him, pointing out that he more or less that he had it coming, and what did he expect would happen when he forced this woman to have this kid against her will. Told him that he had to suck it up.

I’m just trying to figure out why ppl are trying to control women wombs. Got a whole kid n I’m happy for those that don’t tf.

Being alone on a holiday saves money you can even work and get paid extra money!

I'm going to be 28 soon and have never felt that urge to have kids. I doubt I ever will.

I am 55 years old, very very happily married for 33 years and knew l never wanted kids from being about 10yrs old (inter-generational trauma stops here). Made it abundantly clear to my husband when we met that was my position- he was of exactly the same mind (zero desire for kids) and it was THE best decision of my/our lives. We have never regretted it for 1 second. We semi-retired at 40. Fully retired at 50. Spend every day together doing what ever we want. Life is amAZING ❤

Fun fact: tell people you hate kids and they will not give you hell about not having kids. And they won't trust you around them either. Win/win.

As a parent you gave life to someone. The biggest present of all. In addition you give unconditional love and work your ass off for someone else. This is not selfish. The most things you hear from childless people are me, mine and I. Its okay not to want kids but dont tell parents they are selfish for having kids. Thats pathological behavour.

Someone actually said to me one time when I revealed that I didn't want kids, "But what if they grow up to be doctors?!?!?! Who will take care of you when you're old?!" 😂

I don't like children. Not going to do the daily grind.

I’m the oldest and my childhood was spent taking care of little kids. All i thought then was as soon as I get out of this situation where i had no choice to have to take care of kids im going to be free the rest of my life and never have to deal again.

You do you. Parent is HARD. Parenting is rewarding, but it's not for everyone. I'd rather have people that want children to have children. If you don't, it would be awful for everyone involved. Go do your life. Other people's choices aren't necessarily best for you. I love seeing people living their live in the fashion they would like.

To the woman at 6 minutes: I know. I never had them, but I know. I was the eldest of 6 kids. I'm the oldest. I KNOW. Big factor in why I'm child free.

I like quiet, and freedom, because I don't have kids. I have said no marriage, and kids, starting when I was 7. I will always be that way. I'm lucky no one ask, or expect me to babysit. I can't stand kids

People need to learn how to mind their own business.

I'm in my early 40's. I haven't wanted kids since my teens. I don't want to have something growing in me, I dont want to birth, I dont like babies. I like kids, but I dont want to be a mother to them. They are expensive and I can just afford to care for my own basic lifestyle and care for my mental health. When I tell people I didn't have kids and I have a dog, TO PARENTS, they say, 'Good decision!' So yeah, we are going to be proud and happy with our decisions.

I've been trying to come to terms with the fact that while I do want kids, I most likely won't have them. My autism makes it hard to function without a routine and I'm not in a position where I can raise a child completely on my own, leaving me in a position where I would have to mostly rely on my partner (something I'm not comfortable doing) to survive. I have maybe 10 years where I could still have a healthy child without any extra help but I'm making peace with the fact that if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen and I'd rather regret having a kid than regret having a kid I couldn't take care of.

I was looking at a show and they said that if you ask a woman why they have kids most will start the answer by saying "I wanted" which it's about their own self gratifications

I am a mom - that rare type of mom who rebelled against my own parental pressure by delaying having kids and produced each of my two children ONLY WHEN I FELT F-ING READY! NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND. JUST MOI. ZERO REGRETS WITH MY SELFISHNESS! Raising a complex child into an even more complicated adult with a real future in an uncertain, unfair world is so hard! It's not for everyone, It was NEVER about me. It is 100% about them. They know I love them. Because they know I chose to have them. People who are not in my position to be able to commit completely and take full ownership of what follows - my kids included - don't.

Having children is the hardest and most stressful thing you can do, so expensive to boot and you have to give up your past life (to raise them properly that is). I have two and they were the best thing that ever happened to me. I wouldn't change it for the world.

tbh even if i had a better childhood i probably wouldn't consider having children unless i felt financially stable enough to have them, and even then- i can barely handle my niece and nephew, i feel like having a child would just make me a worse person "BuT yOu'D bE a GoOd PaReNt" hell no dawg

The baby obsession has always been insane to me. I never understood it, then I realized people have it because it's about them, not the kid. Plenty of people can have kids. It doesn't make you special. All you're doing is adding to the pile.

2:59 I don't celebrate holidays. Plus, I thrive being alone. The 2 year lockdown was the best time of my life. I actually miss it.

Never had kids, no regrets. Seeing a movie about the Holocaust at a young age definitely influenced me.

I’m a mama one and I still get crap for that. A lot of people only want a new one in phase but as soon as that child has her own opinions and wants to be alone that there’s a problem because they have autonomy. My child is a little older and lives her best life I don’t limit her or try to 430 or so away. She’s her own person I my own person. We should encourage that instead of wanting our kids to be mini me’s.

Most kids leave and don't continue to take care of their parents. Those that do however should be given special tax credits.

Change my KNICKERS!!! aaaahhhhh kills me every time, love it😂😂😂😂😂😂

Is there a dating site that women and men that don’t want children can date?

Lol this world is absolutely off its nut....im not brining a child into it.

Why question another persons decision? Two sisters in my family, never wanted kids nor their husbands. Older now, and have never regretted it. Ones with kids are always trying to dump them on others because they claim they need a break, and then get pregnant again.

Just letting you people know, that although babies are cute, I've tried to babysit somebody else's two year old toddler... And although she gives very nice hugs and sometimes says some cute and funny stuff... When she's in a bad mood... Oh be prepared!, it's gonna be terrible, you offer her food and toys and all you get is: "I DON'T WANT IT!" "I DON'T LIKE IT!" "I DON'T LIKE THIS" "I DON'T WANT THIS I WANT ICE CREAM!" and she'll keep screaming that at you for a veeeeery long time. Also if you're having a kid be prepared that she's gonna get all grumpy and angry even when you didn't do anything bad, she's gonna take out her anger on you when her bad day wasn't her fault... She's gonna cry and complain and then cry and complain some more and then a little bit more and then again and again. This is what you're getting yourself into. Oh and you'll have to tidy up her mess, she's gonna trip over and hurt herself and she'll act like it's your fault

Being a parent is amazing if it's what you actually want. But if you don't that's also ok, it's not for everyone and that's ok. Nothing is ever going to be for everyone ffs why is that a hard concept to grasp.?

I’ve been told it’s “selfish” not to have kids, selfish to whom? My fully supporting mother? The fucked up world? A baby that doesn’t even exist? 🤔

Not everybody is suited for kids... If you Have a strong maternal drive, & really want them & are ready for them,Go For It....!However, That Being Said, Don't Force Your Views On Someone Who Feels Differently About It.... Just My Two Cents...

5:35 🤣🤣 parents complain about their kids when they minors and adults 🤣🤣