"It's his loss". Lol he ain't got nothing to lose. Nothing ever meant anything to him.

That is so true! U can’t lose something that was never there to begin with. Just hate I wasted almost 5 years of my life that I can never get back.

I needed this. It describes my situation right now with an emotionally unavailable man. I'm done

This is true. Honestly, I don't miss him (who he is) - I miss a partner.

Incredible! You hit the nail on the head and this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I’ve been on and off with an emotionally unavailable man for the past year and finally (like yesterday) let go. It’s hard but I know my value and deserve a loving relationship with an emotionally available man. Thank you for validating this Jane.

As an emotionally unavailable man i agree with this

The guys perspective is also really important on this one. There’s always a reason he’s emotionally distant. Some men have been through a lot, me personally I was abused as a child. This makes it so it’s hard for me to trust others and be in relationships. Some guys will begin a stage of talking and getting to know you. And then they feel you need a relationship so they’ll go into one not realizing they can’t do it and they pull away.

It's really a torturous thing because they make you believe it could work if only this and that... Making that choice to walk is just so hard... (Gay men have this too)

Correct I left him last Saturday. Finished. I am all about a new man only

The level of sense this makes is insane!!!!! One more time for the man in the back who thinks he’s God’s gift to women!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

The problem is you’re already tuned in to wanting that kind of man so a good man will never interest you the same way.

Recently I got reality check !! I wish I knew these things earlier… I hope I find emotionally available partner

Thank you I am recovering slowly and this helps so much. I left him.

The Wall remains undefeated.

The majority of my long-term relationships or entanglements were with avoidant attachment style emotionally unavailable women. It's so interesting how much of this can apply to women if they have an avoidant attachment style. This resonates very well. Reading Amir Levine's book on this taught me so much so that I don't do that to myself again. What you say about not losing the person but losing the dream, that there was this carrot dangled that it could work, where they'd give just enough to make you believe that there is potential when it never was there. I described that relationship as shell beach from the movie Dark City. That moment when you realized that it never had a chance because it was never real to begin with.

My goodness sis!!! No lies detected

Wow!! So glad I found this..exactly what I needed to hear 💯 THANK YOU

RIGHT!

“He’s already gone” got me 🤣🤣

Thank you for this message. I really needed to hear it! ❤

You are 100% right Jane. But it's so hard to let go because you really believe this dream is true...

Why don't they just leave women alone then if they aren't on the same page

Really needed to hear this wow 😔

Yes I’ve learned this.

All my life. Soon 50 years. Have I thought that love should look like this. But after all these years understood. That this is bullshit. There is nothing in this. I run like on slippery soap and never get there. Getting sicker and sicker. I felt physical pain in my body. But after my last relationship in August 2021, I actually fell in love. Saw the connection and the breadcrumbs I learned to live on. It started with the relationship with my father. Also see my pattern when I encounter this. Become a total giver, doormat and slave. But my body screamed no from inside. Never abandon myself again for someone else's nothing. Became an abandoholic. No more ever. I had to get real how i feel so i could heal. Painful work. Spiritual awakening. Toughest trip I've done.

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Thank you for this video🙏💙

Amen! Thank you 🙏

Down to the point

Truth

Well said ❤

Thank you so much. How do end it with a man after dating for a month then realizing all this? All the symptoms of emotional detachment are coming to light. I’m very self aware and have been sensing in my gut something isn’t right. It saddens me cuz we genuinely had a great connection but I guess it’s only a small illusion 😔

I was emotionally unavalible. The moment she left me i started to realize what my problem was… but i was to late to prove her that i became a better man. Its not like i was emotionaly unavalible on purpose it was something u dont even realize. And it hurts so much because i know that i changed in someone who can offer more value.

THANK YOU❤

I needed this

So true.

Yessss

Their opportunists

Do women always live their part of their relationship. My wife and i never talked abiut what we need to fix or made me , the husband, be aware.

Thank you ❤

Thank-you

Hope i feel this way

Wow. Its all so clear now😪

So true

men pull away from disrespect. try a crazy idea. be consistent for 2 weeks, when he speaks just listen and give him feedback after he’s done. be respectful peaceful and humble. you may be shocked

But it's hurt a lot still not forget her😢

Ok….. what about emotionally unavailable women?

Huge difference between a Man being emotionally available vs a Man who is emotional. The 12 likes are from the emotional Men. Weirdos...

Ma'am, as a man, let tell you, the problem is deeper: Normative Male Alexithymia

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... and the other way around... !!

Does anybody else see Terra from teen titans?!

Women think they want an emotional man until one shows up. What do you want him to do? Share in your misery and cry on your shoulder? What’s worse is an emotionally unavailable woman because that is outside of her nature and a massive red flag. Women don’t get with men for emotions. They want safety and security.

I make them loose face.. Trust me

Same with women... guess this is just a people thing

Nah ain’t my lost. Bc I rather be emotionally unavailable than let a woman weaponize my emotions against me.

Hate to break it to you ladies but the man you find that makes you happier is no different, he’s just better at hiding his brokenness

ouch

this woman is coping hard

Yep

buahahah! He's already gone! That's pretty Clear!

I seem to have to switch the word man to woman and then relate.. Cuz my wife is emotionally unavailable, to bad we got kids.. I dont want to believe this really, even if im living in a lie .. If it is a lie it still seems to give me some comfort. Practicing facing the facts is ruff

Women want emotional connection but for too many when they don't get enough they nag and criticize which only makes him more emotionally unavailable. If you want a man's attention, don't wait for him to change. Instead, take charge and meet his needs first. Say positive things instead of negative things, hit the gym, diet, update your fashion. The grass is greener where you water it.

Can this happen in regular friendships too?

We just don’t like her. That’s why we pulled away.

Cope

"Emotional availability" is a stupid western concept. There's nothing wrong with a man listening to his wife's problems, but his nature is to help her see an end to the worrying. He's not supposed to sink to her level and become a blubbering mess himself. While a woman's emotions are always valid that doesn't mean they're always based on something important.

Naw I lost that guy. I wanted that guy.

So true.