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My parents were high conflict and abusive with each other throughout my entire childhood with me and my sisters but they never divorced. I'm in my early 20s now and I've realized how much that dynamic I internalized through all my romantic endeavors. Often depending on how serious my relationships were, I'd either have complete zero tolerance of abuse of any kind or any red flag of it, or I'd get so emotionally invested in the relationship that I'd just stay no matter how bad things got just bc we still "loved" each other at the end of the day. Because I recall my parents always saying they still love each other after a terrible fight. Seeing my parents dynamic made me become very scared of the idea of feeling trapped in a high conflict and abusive marriage. I'm constantly trying to just learn more about myself and where I learned some of my habits from.

Lots of people divorce just to say they tried marriage because never marrying is more stigmatizing than divorcé.

Spot on. Horrible role models that shape us deeply.

I struggle with having healthy relationships, healthy dating, and a positive view of marriage/romantic relationships (I'm working though that at the moment). My parents are married and have been for years but I can't really say it is the healthiest dynamic. It wasn't until I witnessed a family friend or other people with healthy relationships, that I saw what it should look like.

As someone with divorced parents I’m actually extremely averse towards the idea of marriage. My parents divorced when I was really young and I spent the majority of my youth going back and forth between 2 people who did not coparent. And with 1 parent who is abusive. My parents also went to court a couple times after their initial divorce to gain more custody. The whole situation makes me view marriage in an incredibly bad light. It seems like a much more difficult way to end a relationship. I will say though your theory on idealizing first relationships does speak to me personally. I never thought I would have a highschool sweetheart relationship and I wanted to avoid starting a serious relationship when I was young like my parents did. But I’ve been with my now partner for almost 6 years since my senior year of highschool. While I have no intention of having kids or getting married I do think our codependency stems from both our traumatic childhoods and we both trigger one another at times and are also very attached. Which is similar to our relationship to our parents. This is anecdotal but I’m glad you made this video because it’s something I’ve wondered about. I’d love to see another video about non-genetic transference of traits from parents because I recognize traits of my parents within myself in how I interact in all of my relationships

Man I’m in such a weird headspace, my life has improved dramatically since my divorce and I’m like “wait, some marriages do need to end, why would you want to prevent divorce? So you can stay with an abuser?”

The part about seeing parents' dynamic as an issue, rather than the institution of marriage, makes so much sense to me. As a child who grew in a high-conflict family, I never actually seen the marriage itself as a bad thing. I've seen mistakes my parents made, I've seen how they could do better, and at times I actually really wanted them to divorce, but, surprisingly, I still want to be married someday. Maybe the fact that I had other relatively better role-models for good marriage (aunts and uncles, grandparents) also played its role. But it's still surprising to me, that despite all the bad stuff that was happening between my parents, it seems that their decision to not divorce "so the kids have both parents" actually makes some sense... I want marry someday, but at the same time I'm kind of afraid of that almost, and, of course, I have tons of other issues. I also wonder - is witnessing bad marriage really that better long-term? Or is it just makes you tolerate dysfunctional dynamics because you haven't learned that there might be another way?

In response to the theory you proposed about children of divorce “idealizing” their first relationship, I wanna say that I relate to that exactly! I’m a child of divorce and it’s taken me years to become comfortable with dating and making sure that my partner is not this unattainable level of perfection that I thought would save me from a divorce-prone relationship. I feel sorry for my first girlfriend because I idealized this impossible relationship and things fell apart not too long after.

My parents were never married but very high conflict 😅 I could see myself sticking out in a relationship for a long time if I felt we were fundamentally compatible but just going through a rough patch

Being a child of divorced parents, I feel like marriage may be overrated. You can never divorce if you never marry. I would only do it for someone very special and that still hasn't happened yet for me.

bruh I could kinda tell that they were gonna get divorced 1:11 just by how she responded to him

I wonder about people who wished their parents had gotten a divorce because it was horrible living with their dysfunction but stayed together. Would that also make them more likely to divorce since they wished their parents would have divorced (not just had a rocky relationship)?

I for one rushed into a marriage for a couple of reasons, to get away from a controlling parent, as a corrective measure , and thirdly I was starved for love. I ended up in an abusive marriage for 19 years. I also at that time didn’t know about attachment trauma and narcissism and really not much about anything. Hindsight is 20/20. It will now take the rest of my life to try and heal.

I am a child of divorced parents. I am an adult now but when I was a pre-teen I remember thinking the family would be better off if my parents just divorced since they were so high-conflict. It took years before the divorce could happen due to citizenship status and financial reasons. I still feel like my attachment is somewhat damaged from the years of hurt and pain, but thankfully I have a long-term partner now and together we cultivate the light at the end of the tunnel. I will not be marrying anytime soon but I can see myself marrying and committing to this person forever. Thank you for your video, Dr. Ana!

Omg I never clicked on one of your videos so fast lol. My parents are both divorced twice. I really want to have a healthy marriage!

Literally my parents are just starting the process of divorce this last week the timing is impeccable

my parents are in a high conflict marriage and are still together. as far as i can remember, i never wanted to get married and/or have kids. my parents relationship turned me off from having a family/being in a relationship.

My parents divorced when I was about 2. I’m now in my late 30’s (male), never married, and honestly feel lost when it comes to choosing partners. I feel my parents are no help in that regard either. I’ve been engaged twice already, but broke off both engagements when I realized I was making a huge mistake partnering with someone whose values and dreams didn’t actually align with my own. I definitely rush into relationships, but don’t stay in them long.

I really appreciate your videos. I study another social/behavioral science (political science) and it’s really nice to hear you going over research for psychology in the way I would for politics. I think it’s easy to make false conclusions about the way people act and having someone to summarize the evidence that is out there while leaving questions open if there isn’t adequate evidence is amazing.

I'm an adult child of divorce. But the family system in my homes was grossly dysfunctional in ways in I could have have never predicted. I'm a 32 year bisexual male born to excruciatingly conservative, highly narcissistic parents who didn't want children. The one parent lost their spouse to Covid a few years ago and despite being the youngest and not having a specialisation in psychiatry, I picked up that something was wrong. Turns out that parents has had early-onset Alzheimer's the entire time. The accusations of histrionic PD by my psychiatrist older sibling might have been that all along. But before that happened, I wrote off that sibling, the middle child who happens to be the favourite and the other parent, who is a surgeon. They worked me up and when I shouted to defend myself, the psychiatrist sibling lied to the psychiatrist they practically forced me to see instead of letting me pick my own... And so I was done. I really wanted to answer your question, though. And the answer in my case is yes. The worst thing for me would be to marry and end up divorced. That is setting aside coming to terms with being bisexual, and having to do deal with all sorts of changes, the recent diagnosis of epilepsy in my case which could be the early-onset Alzheimer's starting in me. There is an elevated risk that it is genetic if it has an early-onset and the parent's father likely had it too. Because diagnosed with epilepsy at the age of 30 is very rare and worsens my odds.

5:35 as a child of divorced parents, absolutely. When you've seen divorce happen and you know what it does to you, you want to make sure not to (or at least try not to) repeat your parents' mistakes, and yes, thinking "i could always divorce them if something goes wrong" is also something that often occurs to you... this whole video hits too close to home, I'm single now and just hoping I won't have to divorce my future partner 😔

Thank you for talking about this. It's such a complex topic, but very important. I have wondered a lot lately if my parents' divorce was really necessay. My mom seems to have a pattern and stressing about her prevents me from even wanting a boyfriend. The distress of getting divorced and, perhaps also shame, made them less attentive to us. Maybe a failed marriage produces failed children because you know you shouldn't have been. I could go on, but there's no end to it... so thanks, again :)

Great video, now please, make one on decision-making processes and how to make better decisions.

Honestly I never know what to think about these predictors of divorce. It always seems to me like it doesn't tell that much about the health of the relationship. Some people have horrible marriages with abuse or cheating or generally just a lack of love, but stay together because it's what you're supposed to do. And some people are less traditional about that and choose to be happy. Maybe divorced children just know that it's an option so they divorce more.

At this point, relationships just feel like gambling, to me 😅

My mom is 5x divorced and married/divorced my dad twice 🙄 I rushed into a marriage young that barely lasted 2 years. Promised myself I'm never getting married again. I changed my mind 8 years later and now have been married for 6 years and it's going great. You truly do have to learn a lot about relationships that your parents may have not had the capacity to teach you or model for you. It's not easy but it is possible.

Wonder what it is for a child of a single parent and then having a terrible step parent lol

Child of divorced parents (at least one is a narc) here. The fear of seeing a relationship deteriorate and fights escalate to the horror levels I've witnessed is affecting how much trust I am capable of extending. I have been looking for red flags and I have struggled with distinguishing insurmantable differences in needs and wants from those that can over time converge. Unlearning to attack a partner in a conflict and, instead, move to deconstructing the conflict to basic wants/needs for both of us has been a journey. If you've seen horrible behavior, you worry that anything can deteriorate to those levels again and that you're helpless.

My parents were married until my mother passed away. They argued a lot, but they both came from families where divorce was very uncommon so they didn't seem to seriously consider it as an option. I think something pretty severe would've needed to happen for either of them to consider divorce. I dated someone once in college who immigrated from the Philippines and his parents were in an arranged marriage. His parents really didn't get along and they divorced after they moved to the US with their family. He seemed to not have a favorable view of marriage in general due to witnessing his parents' arranged marriage, which I found interesting because his parents weren't forcing arranged marriage on him. He would have the freedom to decide who he wanted to marry. And yet, it still colored his perception of marriage. He didn't anticipate getting divorced though. He just decided he wasn't ever going to get married.

I am the adult child of divorced parents. I got married early and had a child early, but am still married. A bit of luck and a lot of work on ourselves.

As someone who, as a child, was caught in the middle of a nasty custody battle, I'd say the divorce of my parents have affected my view on marrages. On one hand, I vowed not to let my relationship go that badly if I got married. At the same time, I feel I can also avoid that drama altogether by not getting into a relationship in the first place. But that only feeds into my current struggles with depression and isolation (on top of a lot of other things including but not limited to religious and cultural conflicts between current family members).

I think your own theory has a lot of merit - my parents divorced when I was quite young after a LOT of conflict and as an adult I've paradoxically struggled both with commitment and with trying way too hard to avoid the heartbreak of divorce myself. I ended a relationship last year. We never married (because of the aforementioned fear of commitment) but were together for 8 years, cohabiting for about 5. I am very conflict-averse because of my parents' relationship and was so afraid of the same thing happening to me that I never properly tried to address the problems that ironically, eventually, led to us breaking up. I just bottled things up for years.

With *50%* of marriages ending in divorce... it should be less stigmatized

I’m a child of two divorces. My mom and dad got divorced when I was 2, then my mom and step dad got divorced when I was 12. I’m now married and terrified everyday that I’m going to wake up and want to leave.

At this point, i would feel offended if someone proposed to me. I feel actual joy when i think to myself 'i will never, ever get married'. Also, i no longer have the need for romantic relationships anymore. I feel so much better than years ago when i wanted to be with someone, then i had a thought...'for what?'. I am self actualized. There is no need.

I think your theory could apply to alot I believe it applies to me. Luckily I was only engaged and not married to my highschool "sweetheart" of 11 years. I idealized the relationship, wanted to be corrective of what my parents did wrong, got it in my mind that we would be married very early into the relationship. 18 years old when I entered that relationship, of course not mature enough to build a proper foundation for marriage. I thank God that relationship ended before we got married and had kids.

My mother is twice divorced and my father is once divorced. Both are in long term (10-20+ years) relationships now. I'm once divorced and absolutely so grateful for it. My mother cheated on my father twice and her second husband was abusive to everyone. My husband was abusive to me in the same ways (and more) my mother was to me growing up so it was invisible to me until the very end where he ramped up to overt abuse. Divorce is a godsend! The best way to prevent divorce is to be emotionally healthy and stable before marriage. Please don't discourage people from getting necessary and life saving divorce 💔

My parents are still married. I'm 41 years old and have never had the urge to have kids or get married. I often wonder if it is because of all the awful petty divorces that I witnessed my parents friends go through, as well as seeing toxic relationships of the parents of my childhood friends that made me avoidant of marriage.

My husband and I are both children of divorce, both at 8 years old. We have been married for 14 years. Seeing my parents divorce and go on to make the same mistakes with different people was enough to make me work harder than I feel like they did. Nine years ago we did separate for a year. Got therapy apart and together and decided to stay married. I had multiple people tell me to make it work with my hubby bc their parents expressed regret over their divorces. One was a guy who asked me out. I told him no, I’m working on things with my husband. And he said good! I hope you make it work bc both my parents have told me they both wish they didn’t divorce. Maybe it’s too optimistic but I think there might be a change as we all take s3x and marriage more seriously.

Just wanted to drop a comment to let you know that I love your channel and it’s helped me think about relationships more deeply. I don’t know if you have already down this but I would love to see a video on boundaries and healthy ways to enforce boundaries, as well as what you should do if the person does not respect those boundaries. Maybe different personality types are too forgiving or some are too quick to leave. That’s something I’ve been wondering about for a while. Thank you Ana!

I love your videos!! This one especially is so important for society. I appreciate all the work you put in your videos ❤

The day my parents got divorced was the happiest day of my life. I was eleven and I had thought about killing myself several times because of all the abuse from my father that I was witnessing. It was hell, but, it taught me that sticking with an unhealthy partner for “marriage’s sake” is just not sensitive to others or sensible. That was something that my father always said, that he wanted to be a model for us, that divorce shouldn’t be taken light, that marriage was forever. Very toxic Italian mindset. Marriage I think, is about happiness. Not just sticking with whatever cards you are dealt with. Pick wisely, and if you are terribly wrong don’t ruin your children’s lives by sticking with it because “that is what marriage is”.

I really think it's this simple, divorse is "Breaking up" rather than a massive event. It's just as casual as the marriage. I get that it may not be painted that way by the divorcees. One way we can avoid this, is just to not enter marriage lightly. It is a life commitment, unless it's not, and you agree with your partner there's a 20 year term or something unique to that effect. For past generations, Marriage was a commitment for life. That's the promise and it doesn't change just beacuse parents elected to nulify their agreement.

My parents had a very messy divorce and remain argumentative, I developed a distrust of all random gifts due to both sides ‘buying’ our love, see love as conditional, and have separation anxiety that often shows through as being overly clingy. Thankfully, I saw their lack of communication as the exact opposite needed for a healthy relationship and have built up from there. I’m still working on communicating my feelings instead of suppressing them, not seeing love as conditional, and accepting gifts without the suspicion that there is something behind it. For divorcées: please, leave your kids out of the conflict! Go ahead and tell them the why behind your divorce, but do not make them active pawns in the fight. Most of my childhood was playing telephone to people who refused to properly talk to each other

Good discussion topic, thanks for the insight Dr. Ana!

My parents divorced when I was 6. My father was very abusive and manipulative. My mother remarried when I was 8 and her relationship with my step-dad has always been unhealthy. I am now weeks away from my divorce being finalized at 33. I NEVER would have imagined getting divorced myself, I thought I had chosen the right partner- we grew up together, were together for over 10 years and had a child together, but my ex walked out one day and started a whole new life in a different country. He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder shortly after he left though. So I'm part of the statistic, but also there are situationally unique aspects about my experience that resulted in me getting divorced. It has, however, had a terrible, persistent impact on my son, and being abandoned by his father at 3 years old was horrible and something I wish I could change.

Tangentially speaking, both of my parents were divorced before their current relationship and one of the effects I believe it has had on me is that I tend to avoid relationships all together. Like a learned self defense mechanism to not have to experience the pain they shared with me that they experienced through their proceedings. I.e., I can't get hurt by a failed relationship if I never enter one. Their current relationship is also tumultuous.

Probably all of the above.

My parents are divorced, and yes as the video said, i started living with my first bf just to escape home, also that relationship was incredibly abusive and i at the time cuz of religious believes thought that i had to marry this person and remain together for life, but as much as i wanted it to work out we didnt have one single thing in common nor values, life plans nothing, so when i realize that it wouldnt work out, i escaped quickly. I've always wanted to get married and have kids, actually the latter part is more important to me than the first, but if things go wrong i think i'd divorce but obviously i'd try to save the relationship as much as i could.

I developed Acute Stress Disorder because my parents divorced while I was in college. My mother used in me in the hostile divorce. It went undiagnosed as it developed into PTSD. Thankfully though, I'm recovering with the help of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the transformative power of the Bible's teachings (forgiveness). Thank you Dr. Ana for your content.

Long time/ 1st time... 5:28 mark is spot on in my opinion and personal anecdotal experience.

Great video Ana ! I was wondering if you could make a video on how to be less easily annoyed. I feel like I get angry and triggered pretty easily, and it would be nice if I had techniques or skills to grounds

I always thought the idea of divorce being in the family already was a no brainer, but that’s coming from someone who grew up with divorced parents. I’d love to know the data on what step children think about their step parents. I love my step mom but my step dad? I feel like my mom pressures me to acknowledge my step dad as a father figure and the more she does that the more it makes the casual relationship become something more terrible; I “remember” that I find him annoying to death and obnoxious but I don’t feel like I can say anything because it’ll make my mom upset and my step dad does SOO much for me which only makes the impossible feat of acknowledging him as a father figure all the more impossible for me.

What do you think about children that experienced their parents infidelity (actually saw their parents cheating)- even when the parents stayed married, what impact does that have on them and their view in marriage ?

My relationships due to my parents divorce and fights make me view neutral statements as negative, and judge the relationships based on the last interaction whether via text or in person.

The book "Keeping the Love You Find" by Harville Hendrix says that you will find partners that match your care takers because youre trying to fix what they broke essentially. If you grew up in a loving stable home your wounding was minimal and you become a well-adjusted self-regulating capable adult. But if you grew up in less than ideal conditions you were wounded at specific developmental stages in your life, you will be attracted to people who were also wounded in that same area but have the opposite coping mechanism of you. Youre attracted to this person because youre trying to balance yourself out and vice versa. @Dr. Ana please read this book and review it. It's a great one for people to know. We all should know how our wounds drive our subconscious mind and subconscious behaviors and learn how to heal and/ or manage those in healthy ways instead of pathologically and compulsively acting out.

So, my parents were high conflict but did not divorce. My mother would throw the divorce word out in conflicts to gain power, as my father didn’t want her to leave. It was pretty toxic and hurt my view on relationships. Even though they are still together and claim they love each other, I can’t help but wonder how true that is. There was a lot of emotional abuse and I hate the thought of being trapped by a ring when your partner tries to control you. Freedom sounds way better to me, but at the same time I desire close intimacy. Def still working on my avoidant attachment. Of course, not everyone is like this and this is something I need to heal and work through. To me, marriage feels unnecessary to express love.

Oddly enough the people who I find the people with divorced parent I know not one has gotten divorced. What more some seem to stay in relationships that toxic.

or mayyybe just maybe seeing your parents not finding better people is a reason for you to think twice if the divorce is really worth it since you're probably just gonna end up single or divorced a second time.

I think my experience does not align well with this research. My parents never had a divorce and I've wished they would since I was a child. My mother always says she stayed because of us, her children so I blamed myself even though we are all adults now and they remain married. Now she said she is too old to leave him. She gave me hope when she said she would so many times until realized they were empty words. Even though he has abused her and treated us kids poorly. My sisters are all married and they are super codependent. One of them I think is in a toxic relationship. I'm not sure I even believe in marriage so no way will I rush it. Also yes, I would be more likely to divorce. I think too many people stay in unhealthy relationships longer when they are married. I don't think it should be that way.

My parents got divorced, my paternal grandparents got divorced. I'm scared that any marriages I may want may end in divorce too and I don't want that.

Ive been thinking about this topic a lot recently. My parents are extremely high conflict due to my dad's personality but are still technically married. One of my deepest fears is that I'll be trapped in a relationship with a verbally/physically abusive person. I put up with a lot of crap in my last long term relationship bc my mentality was just to suck it up but he left me anyway lol. Now I'm thinking that it might be better to just skip marriage altogether and basically do all the other things I want to in life like having a kid, settling down, etc without a partner. Ironically, this is my main motivation at the moment to really focus on career so that I can basically earn an equivalence of a dual income to pursue this

I'm interested in knowing if the age the children were when their parents divorced influence the outcome, is there any research? My parents divorced when I was already 30 and wasn't even living with them anymore, I guess this has a different influence than parents who divorce when their children are much younger 🤔

The father of my sister’s long term boyfriend married like 4 different times or so… the relationship with his current newer wife is unusual I think, they choose to live separately. I suppose that would make them less likely to get divorced 😂. They bought a house together recently… i know my sister wants marriage, as she’s told my mom recently, and she doesn’t want to have a baby without being married first (and she was always adamant she wants to adopt, and seems she’s changing her tune, maybe as she’s understanding the reality of how difficult it is, and now that I have two kids)… and I just think that her boyfriend doesn’t want to get married. I just hope she would talk to her boyfriend about what she wants… I was always clear with my family I was very upfront with my family about my important future desires (where to live, I wanted to be married, about how many kids I wanted, etc). It would save people so much distress if they could just be honest with themselves and their partner or would be partner. My sister doesn’t often like to talk about serious things with us, even her only sister and sibling.

That's interesting that children of divorce are more likely to marry sooner. Interesting because the opposite has been the case with me; in fact I've avoided all relationships because the fear of divorce almost rises to the level of a phobia for me.

Is it kids whose father’s left?? What about kids who don’t have any father and never did -but have strong male role models??

I want to know about the relationships of adult children of domestic violence

Part of the problem is there is no true education on relationships.

My parents are still together but they hate each other.. I got divorced last year, thankfully we don’t have kids. You’re right tho-I don’t blame the institution of marriage

My parents divorced twice, so I'm doubly screwed

Dear lord I hope not. I came from divorced parents but my dad had to grab custody of me eventually because my mom was emotionally abusive and negligent. And given how much I hated how my mom treated me, the last thing I want to is to get into a relationship with a narcissist, bring a child who didn't ask for it into world, and go through a toxic divorce while my kid gets stuck in the middle while the narcissist parent continues to be belligerent towards the child.

I think that one of the tasks of Millenials and Gen Z will be to totally rethink the legal and financial implications of marriage and parenting. I think the direction we are heading in is to make parenting a vocation and compensate people for it, rather than parenting basically financially penalizing people. Divorce throws people i to poverty. Marriages that are strong are financially advantageous and its one of the rrasons why the top 10 or 20 % of earners have pulled ahead and already marginalized folks fall farther behind. Marriage has always been a primarily economic and social institution and the usualness of marrying a live partner is sort of part of modern existence of a broad middle class.

The parents are a template for how to manage relationships

Interesting, and all duly noted. I have for a long time considered women who dip in & out of relationships, or who take a casual attitude to sex, as ‘high risk’. But I hadn’t thought these things through from quite this angle before either. So it isn’t just our own choices and existing attachment styles that influence the likelihood of us forming stable and healthy relationships in the future. It is also our parents’ choices and attachment styles. I could have guessed that is the case, but just never paid as much attention to it before.

I'm just not gonna get married in the first place 😅

Hiya I love your videos and your partner is super handsome btw! Hahha..so about your question at the end of the vid. I come from married parents, 70% of the time happy for the last like 45+ years they've been together, since they were teens. Growing up I idealized their relationship until I got older and realized how messy (no cheating that I know of but my mom wouldn't tolerate this, just a lot of immigrant trauma and just disagreements) it was, they also almost divorced in my early 20's during the great recession and my fathers business was suffering, plus he was going through a terrible lawsuit (basically he sucked to be around, he was extremely moody and an emotional wreck) but stuck it anyway. They're much happier now in retirement. It wasn't a smooth road and I'm ngl, growing up I resented my mom for not leaving my dad, he's an alpha male type and needed to feel like the dominant person in their marriage at all times, although secretly my mom was the one in charge, he just never truly realized it. It took me becoming an adult, and being engaged to my guy of (on and off) 15 years, now planning our wedding in 10 months and going through pre-marital counseling, to truly understand all that my parents went through and just how important it is to pick well and when you do, commit. Commit fully. My fiance's parents are also married though, so maybe that's also why we're so committed to each other. It definitely helps that he has the same views of commitment as I do. So I guess long story short, I used to believe in divorce and even idolized and praised single moms, only to grow up and come back to what my parents were trying to teach me all along. They were the model for sure.

*trigger warning* I feel marriage is a tool for unstable people to trap a partner. Why do I feel this way? Well, my mother and biological father divorced after 5 years. My mother claimed there was domestic violence, but I don't remember evidence of this in the home. However, my mother immediately re-married a stranger who turned out to be a child predator who exercised his preferences on me and my siblings practically every night until we were teenagers. My mother would ensure she worked at night to avoid confrontation about this. As long as he was nice to her, she accepted him doing as he pleased OR she would use our suffering to get sympathy for herself. They remained together for 30 years. I don't really have an opinion about divorce, but marriage seems like a prison. I found this topic quite interesting, Ana. Thank you!

My sister had a rough marriage but stayed together with her husband because she didn’t want him to get half their assets cause she made the most money in the relationship. They don’t sleep together, she sleeps on the couch and only work at their salon together. My nieces watching all this decided to never marry.

My gf has parent's thar have technically been divorced for like a decade, but the actual divorce never happened. They just stopped living with each other and admitted they don't like each other all that much. Probably didn't get actually divorced bc the father did not want to pay for anything while the kids were young, and the mother is a complete push-over, as much as I enjoy her company and respect her for other reasons My gf told me that she did not want to marry me recently and I don't really know what to feel. This video is interesting, thanks for posting. Gives me a perspective on how she feels and why.

It would be interesting to see if people that divorce are more prone to tattoo removal

I'm watching this as an orphan as if any of this pertains to me lol also I'm wondering about the mechanism by which female offspring are more financially deprived when their parents divorce than sons are. Does that mean divorced dads are more likely to financially contribute to the raising of their sons than their daughters?

jokes on you, can't get divorced if I can't get a date in the first place

The dress 😳

7:15 Reminds me of a friend whom I had a fight who has divorced parents (It is not the first time his mother divorced because his older sister has a DIFFERENT father) What an asshole...

It’s so annoying that the title is intriguing but there’s no time to watch! I’m blaming you

My parents are divorced and 70% of my friend's parents are also divorced

I think these days lot of ppl lean heavily on the fact that marriage isn’t taken as seriously so they use it as a scapegoat for behaviors. Divorce is like a redo button they can hit instead of working on their relationship 🤷‍♂️

Nononono, let's not promote that you have to stay in an unhealthy marriage for the sake of your children. Leaving an abusive relationship teaches your child self respect and boundaries. Modelling healthy parenting and caring about and cultivating a deep relationship with your children teaches children about love and healthy relationships. In order for us to be able to be romantically involved with someone in a healthy way, requires us to first understand what love is. Staying with someone despite abuse is NOT love.

Can't get a divorce if I don't get married. Ha!

can you do a collab with dr k / healthygamergg?

Having a good upbringing is the number 1 factor in having a good life. Divorced parents: no role models for what a healthy relationship is.

US-defaultism.

If you're gonna have kids you should get married there should be something stopping you from divorcing with children. It's fucks them up so bad.

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