Buddhist advice: the moment you notice avoidance disappear. Life is hard enough without forced interactions.

If they repeatedly state explicitly that they see you as disgusting. That could be a clue.

I've never felt more proud of the fact that nobody has ever vomited as I approached them.

I have psoriatic arthritis and before starting a biologic, I had psoriasis every where including my face. People would look and I would give them my best smile. But my daughter would give them a disgusted look until they looked away. She is my champion.

"Recommended for you." -- Wow, what is KZfaq trying to tell me? :O

Very helpful. When I was young I tried to be good looking. During middle age, I wanted to be somewhat attractive. Now that I am old, not being disgusting is my goal.

When I started telling myself that what others think of me is none of my business, I found much of my social anxiety alleviated. Obviously you still want to be conscientious of others and how your behavior affects the world around you but many of us are too worried about how others perceive us to live a normal healthy life.

Also known as "Ten signs your crush sees you as a stalker"

When person B gets a restraining order against you , that might be a sign

People with social anxiety might exhibit some of these too. They don't feel repulsed by the person, they feel repulsed by the situation and themselves. The irony is that when you are afraid of other people being repulsed by you, you give out signals other people translate in a way that they think you are repulsed by them.

I once worked with a group of younger women, all of whom were part of a clique, and years later ran into one of this group at a hair salon. I had hair color in my hair, and the hair stylist had placed me in a corner of the salon to sit until it was time to wash the color out of my hair... in walked this woman. She checked in, sat, and saw me in the corner ( we had not seen each other for 7 years). She made a face at me with her eyes as if she were looking at poo on the wall, but also as if she were trying to remember where she knew me from (when I worked with this group of women for many years, I was well known in my profession for my hard work and many accomplishments, so I don’t think she would have forgotten me that easily-but I did have dark color all over my hair ). She quickly recognized me however, and saw me looking at her and smiling at her, so she immediately smiled back with both lips together...a tight, quick smile that did not involve her eyes. A second or two later, she looked away and picked up a magazine. Guilt... from the way she and her friends/clique had treated me when I worked with them? Or repulsion, since they had convinced themselves that I was a horrible person in order to justify their evil acts? In any case, I thanked my stars that I did not ever have to work with them/her again. I had a great time at the salon that day talking and laughing with the owner and hair stylist. Great afternoon. Sometimes when you get snubbed by one of these types of people, it can be a good thing.

On the Netflix doc about Ted Bundy, one of the detectives that had interviewed him said sometimes he would vomit after talking to Bundy.

Sounds like Thanksgiving with the relatives.

this is hilarious. his last sentence kills me: "if you walk up to someone at a party and they refuse to make eye contact with you or refuse to say anything to you, as they pull out their cell phone and pretend to make an appointment, all the while scrunching their nose walking away from you only to vomit a moment later, you may want to consider the possibility that that person is repulsed by you." lol!

I love Dr. Grande's subtle sense of humor. Something like "If someone turns away from you to vomit, that might be a good indicator they're disgusted. It's supported in the literature."

As an empath I have disgust for an acquaintance who is extremely narsisstic and a pathological liar.

When you get older you just don't give a s___ when someone snubs you

“Do you have kids?” “I don’t know.” “You don’t know if you have kids?” “You can never be sure of these things!” 😂😂😂😂

Now it's called social distancing.

I seriously love you. Here I am laughing loudly at just about everything you’re saying whilst you’re maintaining a completely neutral voice and serious tone. You’re such a gem. Thanks for being you :)

The vomiting part; "That could be a good indicator of disgust". Dr Grande never fails to make me laugh at least once :D

If I pick up on these types of signs from another person, i just do myself a favor and basically forget about them with no delay. They don't exist anymore. There's absolutely no reason for me to be around someone who is giving me these signs.

Growing up with a malignant narcissist mother and older sister who had disdain for me was painful and very confusing. It resulted in me having Stockholm Syndrome and severe physical and mental health issues. Now I'm 5.5 years no contact and struggling to identify and heal the damages done. Especially difficult is the negative learned self identity issues, and the negative reactive social issues. This video explains much about what I experienced from not only the abusers but also those people they slandered me to and triangulated their hate towards me. People believe lies as though facts and go along with mob mentality too easily.

“I don't know what's worse: to not know what you are and be happy, or to become what you've always wanted to be, and feel alone.”

Here's a thought, if someone is DISGUSTED BY YOU, simply WALK AWAY!!!!

If this ever happened to you be glad. It is better to know a person’s true feelings about you, right from the start, instead of investing in the wrong people.

Women are taught to “be nice” our whole lives so sometimes it’s hard to just be direct! It’s something I’m constantly working on..

Someone has been talking to my boss, best friend, mom, wife, and mother in law.

Your dry delivery is pure gold 💛

Kurt Kobain a Pisces quote="Better to be Hated for who we are than loved for who we are not!"

The worst is when it's the person who you have to live with (stuck with), who repulses you!! YES, of course they are A Narcissist!!🤮🤮👹👹

Thank you for letting me know that there's a more accurate technical term for the emotions I feel towards several of the bosses at my job - it's not hatred, it's moral disgust. Great!

I find narcissists to to show signs of repulsion very frequently.

When they squish their face tight like they bit into a lemon... red flag.

This was enlightening to me in that I realized for the first time that my adult daughter was repulsed by me.

But these signs could also be signs of social anxiety. So a person tries different ways to get out of a conversation because it makes them anxious.

refusing to acknowledge the potential existence of your own children had me in tears :) ty

Sees title: “Awwwwwwwww.... :( 😢😢😢”

Just imagine watching this and suddenly realising that someone is repulsed by you - brutal

My beautiful baby girl had an eczema outbreak (about the size of a quarter) around her mouth when she was a toddler. When we would go anywhere mothers would appear repulsed and hurry their children into a different area. It broke my heart because she just wanted to say hi and be friendly. She has always been clean/well dressed so they definitely thought she was contagious with something 😭

Lol you don’t hold back Dr. Grande. I was on a “date” a few weeks ago and the man said why are you looking like that? I said looking like what? He said like you’re disgusted LMAO that was the first time someone has ever said that to me, but I was disgusted

Your bland ending was absolutely hysterical.

Some people are repulsed by you (your skin color, your job, your appearance, your manners, etc) but still try to hide it... often because they want to use you for their own selfish motives. So, yes, recognising such situations is the BEST way to avoid being abused in the first place.

This is good to know as a person with Asperger's because I don't always understand the underlying emotions behind others' behaviour. I might have a good idea, but I have made quite a few mistakes through the years.

You, Dr Grande, are the opposite of repulsive in every way. 😘

"There's no way to be certain about these things" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

9 out of 10 for my wife. But one can never be sure. Thank you, Dr. Grande, for bringing hope to my marriage.

When they've ghosted you for 5 consecutive years that might be a sign.

I've never heard of anyone being so repulsed by someone that they vomit. How horrid would you have to be?

I am so repulsed that I can’t stop watching.

Pretty sure Dr. Grande would make an awesome stand up comedian. He has this way of talking about serious topics and then finishing them with a joke without letting the straight face slide.

The island in my kitchen has served as an effective barrier between me and certain repulsive persons.. I can use it to maneuver myself out of the room as they move deeper into the kitchen, limiting interaction with them. I definitely struggle living with people who say they love and care about me but then shut me down anytime I try to share my thoughts or feelings because they're old and emotionally immature. It tells me they only want relationship on their shallow terms, so I keep my distance.

The existence of children - Is that brilliant poetic licence being inserted there? - great writing and dead pan on delivery - the humorist in you just can't sit quiet

Someone once wrote that if a person avoids you don't try to interact with them at all ever again. You have your answer.

A college psych prof. once told me that pursuing an advanced degree in psych was evidence of a severely flawed human.....I don't think he was joking.....

When they look like a deer in the headlights when you want to get close.

If somebody is holding 10 signs that say they are repulsed by me... I'm gonna take their word for.

Very difficult to listen to. My step-mother showed all these signs towards me from the time she married my father when I was ten. Then there was the more obvious unquestionable stuff she did when there were no witnesses.....

Your description is very accurate. That is how I react to employees who conspired to have me fired, but failed. I avoid eye contact,put distance when they approach & see past them as not there. I feel disdain, disgust & repulsed . Most of all distrust. I know its obvious & blatant. Don't care if it hurts them. They betrayed me. I am indifferent to them & they are irrelevant. It's the price of being a hater.

Some people only interact with you if you have something they want. If they think they can use you or manipulate you. It may be a positive thing to repulse a predator.

Called the persons phone while they were pretending to be on a call?! 🤣🤣🤣 thats ice cold! ❄🧊

I believe there are many reasons someone would want to stay or get away from someone, none of which would have anything do do with what we would consider "repulsed." Avoidance in and of itself is simply not wanting to be around that person as they make you uncomfortable. It may not be physical or moral. You just may not like them. Maybe they talk too fast, maybe they are mentally unbalanced, maybe they talk about things you have no interest in, or are someone you don't identify with on any level due to their profession, connections, status or control. None of these is moral or physical. Sometimes we just don't vibrate with their patterns.

To my horror, I’ve just discovered why everyone treats me this way.

1. Physical proximity, continous distance 2. Failure to engage in meaningful interaction 3. Rapid unnecessary disengagement 4. Lying about availability 5. Pretending to be on cell phone or other technology 6. Never sharing personal information 7. Fascial expression (scrunched/closed or open) 8. Perception of transgression or having committed something morally wrong 9. Negative body image for ownself translates to others 10. Nausea and vomiting BONUS: May include pretending, deception in order to remove oneself from other

I got "that look" from women I went to school with but after many years in the service I am not in that bad of shape for my age.I saw 2 of these women a short time ago and after realizing who they were I was the one repulsed. Yuck !

As a social outcast I'm an expert at being on the receiving end of this

Omg! This is hysterical! I’ve felt (and displayed) disgust for some people but I truly can’t remember if anyone is/was repulsed by me. Probably because I don’t care 😂🤣

When I was a little girl of 7, I was wall-eyed (one wandering eye). That bothered some people. We were preparing for our First Communion day, and I happened to be in the church at the same time as "Rosemary," another girl in my class. To practice for my First Communion, I extended my tongue for the bishop to put the host on my tongue. Suddenly I heard "Rosemary" make one of those holier-than-thou sounds, "Huuuuuuuuuu. I'm going to tell on you when we get back to school that you stuck your tongue out at Jesus." (It was Friday after school). I felt horrible all weekend & suffered in terror as to what was going to happen on Monday. Monday came, and we were all back in the classroom. "Rosemary" stood up and very snot-ally announced in front of the entire class to the nun that I had stuck my tongue out at Jesus. Horrified, I stood up & told the nun that wasn't true -- that I had been practicing for my First Communion. To my surprise, the horrified nun ANGRILY chastised "Rosemary" in front of the entire class, clearly recognizing that I was a decent person & "Rosemary" was a trouble-making little snot. I was only defending myself, not wishing anyone any harm, but I have to admit I did get some kind of satisfaction out of that exchange. I wonder whatever happened to that repulsive little snot, "Rosemary."

4:54 is when he starts.Your Welcome

Forgive me but I laughed so much, this sounded like the all time greatest comedy routine In the world

I was once repulsed by a street magican. He did a small bit of magic for my friend and I. I could not wait to flee from his close presence. He both repulsed me and scared me. Months later one night I could see him in the distance pulling folks up to demonstrate his magic ability for donations. I again wanted to get away from the area quickly. There was just something about this man that did not appeal to my senses.

Dr. G-- It's not always the person FEELING the disgust that is the problem. It can be the person TRIGGERING the disgust that is the problem. I'm going through this with someone right now. I don't want to be around this person, because I believe they are MEAN and that triggers bad memories of family for me . I try to avoid this person but he/she still tries to talk to me.

I'm repulsive to many. So I just sit at home now.

I'm sooo grateful, that you mentioned that looking at the baseline of someones behaviour is important, Dr. Grande. Interpreting too much into nonverbal behaviour puts even more pressure on people like me who habitually feel strong discomfort in every day communication, and aren't fully capable of masking this. I'm the type of person that hides on bad days in corners and closets, if necessary and almost always tries to escape from certain types of communicating with others, as this is hard work for me. Saying "Hi" must be enough sometimes. Genetically predisposed hypersensitivity to interpersonal akwardness. That's all. Dr. Grande, everything would be so much easier for me, if you were a bit repulsive, too. Or in short: ❤

For the first time in my life I experienced the scrunched nose repulsed reaction. I ran into the mother of my daughter's classmate. Her child knew me and said hi and asked about my daughter. I smiled and responded to her, I work in their classroom and knew her very well. The mother then said "we should get together soon", with a fully scrunched nose and a very painfully fake smile. I was taken aback since it was so unnecessary to even say that. It still bothers me from time to time.

I'm not sure I agree with you 100 percent on this one. There are a lot of people out there who don't respond well to being rejected upfront. Sometimes it's best to make up an excuse not to talk to a person rather than tell them you are not interested for your own safety. In a perfect world though honesty would be the best policy.

I knew from the title this was gonna be gold, did not disappoint. 😹😹

"So you don't know if you have kids?" "Well, there's no way to be SURE of these things..." That was my lol moment. Your deadpan comic delivery is hilarious every time 😂😂😂

Dr. Grande, I have discovered while watching several of your analysis videos that you have a very dry sense of humor having a straight face or a slight smile. It's funny and refreshing😉

Your delivery is always so precise & intelligently explained! Thank you for sharing & for your effort!

Made even funnier by your straight face. Loved the last bit

Repeated attempts to engage someone in conversation after it’s obvious you are not interested is predatory . Then them trying to prove that you aren’t really busy or on your phone, is going to get them your disgust One thing is for sure if you make it clear you are uninterested in them and they keep trying shows they are only concerned with how they feel and what they want. If we are talking about a male asking a woman out and she says no thank you and he keeps trying will get her disgust, anger eventually .Basically we are all allowed to have boundaries no means no. People should not have to suffer others desires to make that person feel better .

Thank you for mentioning the connection between physical disgust and moral disgust. Now I understand someone who was paranoid about bacteria and always moralizing, too.

I’m a repellent, finally I have a word for it.

Lol...he makes it so clinical

When Dr. Grande's stifling a chuckle multiple times throughout a video, it's going to be an intriguing and maybe unusual topic. Thanks for another insightful analysis!

Apparently I’m disgusted by my significant other ... guess it’s time to move on

Dr. Grande, Thanks for your wide variety of topics. Your channel is never boring. 👍

I love how you can put your professional viewpoint on a video with a topic like this.

Appreciative of the great variety of your content Dr. Grande, this keeps your channel so very interesting and that keeps me tuned in as one of my favorite channels 🙂❤️

This is probably my favorite video of yours! It was extremely detailed & hysterical!

I so can appreciate your efforts in remaining professional and trying to keep straight face and get through the content.

This could be also called "10 ways people react to you being a psychopath/narcissist/sociopath"

I love this channel more and more every day.

The few times Ive encountered disgust and especially repulsion its usually the repulsed who end up showing themselves or are known as a repulsive/disgusting human. The rare times in my life that Ive seen the "disgust face" is usually from someone who wears that face often. The person falling into that category of not being a very happy individual in the first place and very low self esteem. Goes back to if someone is cutting others down for certain faults its many times that the person doing the judging has those same traits they are disgusted by. We see ourselves many times in others. We are all on this crazy life bus together and should realize that we all have disgusting characteristics from time to time.

Didn't even need this video to figure that out, but I appreciate the effort.

I feel moral disgust and physical disgust often. The repellent. Awesome 😎 This video is hilarious.

I really enjoy the variety of subject matter on this channel. I didn’t expect this topic but it’s useful and fascinating. Thanks again, Dr. Grande 🙏

Thank you again for confirming interactions that I've experienced but lacked the correct word to describe the feeling 🤦🏾‍♀️. WOW! Now I know exactly how to respond.

I first found one of your videos yesterday. I like that you speak clearly, and in language that is concise.