I understand where you are coming from Hannah. I have felt that many times and still do. What things do you feel hold you back the most?

Hah...me too.. Sometimes i feel that I'm my only problem 💔💔

IKR??!!

🤣🤣🤣😆 That describes me to a t!! I've been battling with this same trail of thought over IG. I love connecting on that that platform but goodness sometimes I'm just like what am I doing? Why am I doing this to myself lol!! Thank you lovely for sharing that.

Ms Dory Linda it’s so sweet to know I’m not alone. After my current “final push to the finish & sleep for a week” are over, I need to watch a lot more of your vids. It’s such good stuff & so empowering. ♥️

You are so kind Dana, thank you for saying that. It helps encourage me on for sure 🤗

Ahahah the end is SO ME! i love everything about this comment xD

🤣 it sure makes life interesting doesn't it? I'm glad it resonated with you.

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Claire I think most of us can definitely relate to that. How can we cultivate that same focus early on and eliminate the anxiety? That's the pot of gold I'd like to get to 😊 Thank you for being here and adding to the conversation.

I am working on that same challenge Riaz 😊 I appreciate you being here and adding to the conversation 💯💥

How? I’m struggling... :(

Hi Heni, yes INFPs are deeper thinkers and that process can overstimulate us and cause exhaustion. It's definitely something to watch out for if you're getting stuck in a loop and struggle to commit to a decision. I talked about this in the new video, here it's if you haven't had a chance to see it yet kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aJOllq-TyrimkYE.html It could be that you're experiencing some negative emotions that need to be acknowledged so you can get out of that loop of deep thinking but no execution/action. Hope that gives you a place to start looking at this and understand what might be going on for you Heni 😊👌🏾 Let me know if you need more help.

I'm so glad you've resonated with the videos I've been posting and are gaining some insights from them. Your comment is so inspiring. At such a challenging time we are in, you've managed to spend more time doing things you love and are getting better at all of it. Have you thought of changing the narrative "Like if I’m playing piano I have fun and play it for an hour or so then GET BORED and start drawing for an hour then i go play guitar then I go journal and so forth..." to saying that you COMPLETED? What if, what you identify as "boredom", is actually a feeling to let you know that you have completed the need to do that task and need to move on to the next? What would that feel like? Turning a negative narrative to something freeing and positive? In response to "The problem with this, however, is that it’s very inconsistent. I may draw for 8 hours on one day and then not draw for a week, and I also find it very hard to stick to schedules. I’m trying to see how I can be more consistent..." I would ask, why do you need this "consistency"? How is your current way of doing things negatively affecting you? Feel free to answer here or if it's something you'd rather communicate privately then feel free to email me at hello@dorylinda.com. I'm so glad you are here and thank you for adding to the conversation.

Oh, oh, oh!!! This! I'm so excited by that perspective you had written about! When I stop doing some project or activity before finishing it completely, I actually do feel like, for me, it's kinda completed for now. Like it needs some time to mature enough to be ready for picking up again ;) I don't feel like picking it up before I feel it's the time so much as if it's repelling me ;)

Yes, I sometimes call it breathing time or brewing time 😅

I'm new to this world, I took this test different times but i'm not sure I'm an INFP. It seems too nice to be my personality 😅. But my friend told me I'm like that. What's scaring me is what you wrote. I'm literally the same, I draw, I'm learning to play piano, I play the guitar and I journal a lot. I do the exactly same things you do.

Yap!! Over committing!! I hear you.

The perfection and procrastination struggles are real!! So many of us can relate to these.

Oh yes!! I'm guilty of that too 😅

Spot on!

That's totally me 😂

This is why I just can't imagine a life long career.. & then feel like shit bc I'm failing at being a human. 🤷

I'm in the same boat, I don't know any INFPs IRL and that's why to me this community is so precious. Here we can support and encourage each other in a way that carries us through another day because we truly do understand each other's struggles 🤗

@@MsDoryLinda Exactly, thank you so much ❤

Hi fellow INFP!

@@tiger1ac 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻

I met 3 at once, we happened to very casually and suddenly turn into a friendgroup before we knew we all were INFP's. Then it made sense. And then I had to leave the country 😂😭

The contradictions we face hey!! It definitely helps to know when to halt exploration, zone in what's at hand and get that finished. Otherwise we feel frustrated that we never fully get to see our visions come to fruition.

Glad you can relate and feel connected here with like minded and wired people!!

Awwww, I'm glad you got to experience that 🤗

I'm so glad you feel seen and you found this validating.

Oh I'm so glad, thank you and welcome 🙏

I feel that too... I really enjoyed the video and I am related 100%... finally someone who understand me... so glad I am here :))) ... Found another good reason I never finished the University :))

@@alin6187 I'm so glad you're here too 😊 and are finding confirmation to what you've felt and known all along 😀

That's a good problem to have 😉

You might find video helpful as well kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aJOllq-TyrimkYE.html

Awww, thank you 😊 It sure can get overwhelming, I find the remedy is in developing better self awareness of how we function, that way we are not in resistance to it, but go with what's already working.

Oh you're most welcome! I'm glad you're now able to see that nothing is wrong with you.

Sounds like you have a great variety and balance to your life. To determine whether you may be an ENFP or INFP I'd look into the cognitive functions stack and see how those align with you.

Sounds like a great strategy.

I hear you Jenny ☺ We can all definitely work to improve ourselves. Thank you for being here and for commenting 🙂

Why? Couldn't be procrastination our best friend? She needs some friends too... :))

I think it very much depends on your path, for some it does have positive effects, and for others it might not. Hence the reason I made the video to show why it has its benefits for INFPs.

You're welcome Jennifer 😊

You are most welcome, glad I could echo what you've been sensing.

Same here! As creatives that tends to be our process.

From a Christian perspective, I tend to look at challenges as buffers, to keep us leaning and connected. I see them as ways to developing faith. When I look at them that way they stop being hinderances and become opportunities for growth. It's simple just not easy. So I completely understand where you're coming from.

I'm so glad you enjoyed this Susan, and I'm with you on that we don't truly multi-task. We are automating one aspect and paying full attention on the other. We are not simultaneously fully attentive to two different tasks. Thanks for sharing your insights.

Thank you 😊

I'm so glad you feel understood. You might also enjoy Lauren Sapala KZfaq channel. She creates content specifically for INFJ and INFP aspiring writers. I've found her content really helpful in my writing process.

@@MsDoryLinda thank you so much for taking the time to write me back! Much appreciated, I will look into that.

😅 that's awesome Venisha, it's so good to be seen and validated, right!? I'm glad this hit the right note with you 😉

Great points and recommendations, thank you for sharing these ☺️ For some personality types though they do need variety and they do gain more momentum and fulfillment that way. So even though they're not multi tasking per se, they do have a few pots on the stove at the same time. There's never a one size fits all even within same personality types as there are so many nuisances to take into account. So it's important for each person to weigh all aspects and put a plan together that's customized for how they're uniquely wired.

True. Well said. In my opinion, Variety is a form of mental break or vacation. Multitasking can be a form of mental escape from stress. Too short of it, can lead to exhaustion. Too much of it, 😆🌴😂🏝️💖🏖️, everyone would love that, but it takes away two (very) valuable assets from us; that is, our time (the clock ⏰ is marching forward), and our health (in AI language, we can call that our "battery life"). A mental break is absolutely necessary from ones long term goals and plans. And sometimes, our side projects line up to become valuable assets for us in the long run/term. However, too many short term projects, takes away time, energy, health, from the main goal. The only exception is when these short term projects assist us in developing our long term goal, consciously or subconsciously. No activity is a waste, however, every activity comes at the cost of time, and energy, (health-battery life). So we must make sure that what we are doing is worthwhile; and whether we like it or not, the question will keep haunting us, 'are we making the best use of our time, energy, and resources?'. INFPs are gifted at getting easily distracted. So this is an important issue to address. In order to succeed in life, infps must complete projects, and keep developing skills that will make them or keep them moving towards their main goals in life; to keep them financially independent, and help them to harness their creativity even when they grow frail, old and weak. We don't have a choice sometimes. It's necessary to give our time and energy to seemingly distracting tasks that are necessary. But the sweet thing is that these tasks may subconsciously become our greatest gifts and talents or contributors to our life's long term goals. Shiny Object Syndrome affects people who always do better at seeing things happening outside what they are doing ad-interim or they are stuck in mundane routines for any reason. This is a huge distraction. They fail to develop skills to work effectively. I guess the cross road between all endeavors is re-evaluating ourselves from time to time and making sure that we are moving towards our main goals in life as quickly as we can. No activity can be classified as a recipe for failure in life, every task helps us in some way. However, the quickest way or approach to succeed in life, is to focus on one thing at a time, completing tasks that help us to grow 🪴 in what we value. An example is this, a person decides to help the old, the poor, the sick, the needy, the orphans, the travelers, the weak, the handicapped. His friend decides to help, just the old. Both of them will contribute significantly to society and help people. But the first one, will not be able to build an old home or a nursing home as quickly as the latter. There are so many things to do. It's impossible to move forward or make a significant impact in any of the myriad of tasks. Because ones time and energy, is spread out, his or her attention is divided, and spent on multiple tasks. But eventually, it's all about what we value. Both Individuals in this example (above) may be happy with their accomplishments. Here is the subconscious mind asking us a subtle valuable question?. 1. Does this task make you happy? Yes. Then multitasking (or sticking to one task) may be your thing. But there is a difference between long term happiness and short term happiness. We must make sure we are focused on "long term happiness". Our daily activities, will not take us far as quickly as demand presents, if so many secondary tasks are lined up ahead of us. It's like moving in a serpentine fashion towards a fixed target. 2. Does our current activity make us complete long term projects? Yes, but it always takes longer for multi-taskers, Projects suffer when time and energy is drained by new or secondary tasks. In life the ones who gain valuable skills, become doctors, professionals, lawyers, business tycoons, leaders etc. But it is amazing to note that even the poorest of the poor are satisfied with their life's achievement. It's all up in the mindset. They may not be financially independent or leading multinational corporations, but they have achieved the happiness each one of us struggles for. In summary, It's essential not to get side tracked during mental breaks or multitasking, it's more important, in my opinion, for INFPs to stick to one long term non-negotiable goal (at a time) like it's the true north, or most revered goal and value), on a compass 🧭 in your hand - your life compass. INFPs who have reached their full potential in life may look back and see that it was skills that they developed, which yielded the most significant impact on their life. I do not worry a lot, because we all gravitate towards what we are best at...what is easy for us and fuels our passion. One goal at a time is the best way to move forward in this age of redundant information and technology. Those who have several projects going on, learn it eventually, at the expense of time and energy, that those who developed a specialized set of skills quickly become independent financially in societies sooner and they make bigger impacts and fulfill their responsibilities more aptly. We age. One person keeps helping others and doing tasks. The other develops a skill to be special at something. It's hard to say which is better, but the latter is more likely to be Independent and financially buoyant, if confounding factors are excluded. I have gotten good at writing long lengthy boring epistles - it's my thing... And i have been warned countless times, wasting ones time will have repercussions when one is old. So we must think hard and plan for our future and old age. Everyday, if what we do makes us long term happy, meaning our activities align with our long term goals. , Then we must complete tasks and bring the mental picture of success to reality. Thank you doc, 😌🌴 this was kind of like therapy for me...😎👍🏖️💖 I appreciate you discussing this topic with us.

You're welcome. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏🏾 😊

Glad it was helpful!

I'm glad you enjoyed it 🙂

You are so welcome! I'm so glad we here as a community get to be part of your moment of focusing on self love. I'm glad you are here and thank you for sharing this insight 🤗

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Right!! That's the feedback I get from most creative intuitive people. I feel like we perhaps need to change the language around this. Maybe it isn't procrastination per se just a different way of working 🤷🏾‍♀️

You are so welcome 🙏

Little astronomer, welcome 😄 I'm glad you are finding yourself in all this. And thank you for letting me know that you're enjoying the content.

Welcome aboard!

You are so welcome! I'm glad to hear that 😊

*Glad you enjoyed it!*

I'm so glad it resonated with you and thank you for letting me know too. It encourages me to keep creating content that helps us 😊

I'm glad this resonated with you Melissa 😊

It sounds like pulling away helps you find a better perspective with your work. So perhaps scheduling that into your work so you have time for the work to "breathe", intentionally, might be the way to go.

Welcome. I'm so glad this resonated with you 💗

🤣🤣 I absolutely love that, procrastination has it's advantages, doesn't it! I'm so glad you're here and have joined the community. I look forward to getting to know you and your journey 🤗

Sounds like you found a system that works

Thank you 😊

Most welcome! ❤️ Can’t wait to check your next video 💕 Have a wonderful day 😍 Stay safe and healthy 😘

Awesome Natalie, out of those contradictions which ones could you relate to the most?

Glad it resonated with you. What MBTI type are you?

Oh yes, I'm fighting that urge right now!! With the social isolation I almost feel like I don't want the mundane and need something new and exciting 😆

That is such a great way to go about it. Somedays I feel like I have a drive to explore so much and when I leave some aside and return to them later I feel the momentum is gone or I'm no longer in flow and don't have the same ideas popping. So you're right, it can definitely be a challenge.

Gabi thank you 🤗 Procrastination can be a beast for sure. Have you watched the other video I did on Procrastination? If not, here it's kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aJOllq-TyrimkYE.html It really helps when we can identify what predicts procrastination because then we have a chance to look into that aspect of our life, you know!

😂🤣 Elizabeth, it's that last minute push that seem to squeeze the best out of us sometimes right ✅

@@MsDoryLinda agreed 😂😂

I love this observation, thank you for sharing!! So, I suppose as I'm reading this I'm wondering, do you experience any anxiety or overwhelm during those time crunch moments or do you only experience flow you've described? I'd really like to pull apart what evokes flow and what evokes anxiety during those times. You know?!

It's definitely interesting how we think we can multitask right? In actuality, what we are doing is simply shift attention from one thing to another (which would explain why your mind feels disorganized). Another explanation is that we're only truly paying attention to one thing while applying automaticity on other tasks. We can't truly be fully engaged in two different things at the same time right?! Although we do try 😄

Thank you Ciara 😊 That's so interesting, I'm thinking it must be the NF aspect. What is helping you overcoming that aspect? I'm always interested to hear what's working for others.

Ms Dory Linda I’m doing something I’m really passionate about, so it makes me want to overcome my lack of follow through, especially because I’m a mom so I barely have any time to work on it. I’m hungry to work on it when I finally have time!

@@CiaraRubin that makes so much sense. I'm a mom too so I can relate to what you're talking about. 💯🤗

Thank you Leila 😊

💞 The struggle is real.

Yes. It takes a lot for us to just focus on one thing. Even when I'm doing that, I tend to stay open to ideas that may come through for other projects. Now I know not to start them, but to write those ideas down and execute them later. So I get both, the fun and excitement of new ideas, and fulfillment of seeing things through, whenever appropriate. Because sometimes some things naturally just develop overtime, and are supposed to be worked as and when they call for it. I'm glad you enjoyed this and could resonate with the concepts 🤗

Ms Dory Linda Yes! Writing ideas down is a must, I have an idea file. I agree with all you said!

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Glad to hear it.

Alika, I'm glad this resonated with you. You're certainly amongst your people here 💫🤗

We all definitely struggle with these aspects.

I'm so glad this resonated with you Mariel 🧡

Sounds like you've found a rhythm that helps you work with your motivation and also hit the targets you have for the bigger picture. That's really good 👍 👏

That's so interesting, I think that's a natural way us intuitive creatives work. I bet sometimes those songs 🎵 you've left unfinished were probably a sounding board or inspiration for something else. I like to think they fulfilled their purpose 😄. The only time I see this way of working as problematic is when it's actually procrastination triggered by the fear of completing that project. The trail of thought is, if I finish it then it can be judged, then potentially rejected, which means they're rejecting me. Now, if that happening, then that's detrimental to the creative process. But if it's not from this place, then I think it's actually a healthy and natural way us intuitive creatives operate.

@@MsDoryLinda Thanks for enlightenment ma'am 😊

You're welcome 😊

Leann that's awesome, so amazing how we can relate so well to these challenges huh?! I'm glad this resonated with you 😊

I'm glad you love the content. I now make content specific to an entrepreneur career path. I explain more in this video kzfaq.info/get/bejne/l5eZqN15r8XKoYE.html

Sounds like you've found rhythms that work for you. Most of us INFPs work in circles and go through projects and hobbies and draw out what we need and move on. It's like drinking half a glass of water and then leaving the rest. There's no need to "finish" the water that's in the glass if the amount drunk fulfilled the purpose of quenching the thirst right?

@@MsDoryLinda that makes sense. A lot of the things I have left undone have that similar feel. Thank you for a better perspective on that. I have always been in a mentality that things you start must be finished due to I think culture around me. Oh, I have scored infp on many tests. Usually heavily on each of the 4. I think twice I got a score a bit closer to the middle on the e or i, but that happened when I was feeling very lonely.

You'll feel right at home here 😊 I'm glad that perspective was helpful 🤗

Totally!! That's my process too. It's how one idea builds on another and evolves into a workable one. Sometimes it takes me weeks to "complete" and idea. It trickles down bit by bit and I just record and let it sit, until I get a feeling that it's done.

@@MsDoryLinda yeah, I know that. And often that "perfectionism" also keeps driving these ideas forward and they are getting improved and improved and improved upon. I have a long-term project, which is more like a hobby, and for this this the perfectionism is actually desirable. Stuff like that would rarely work in an ordinary job.

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I'm curious, which aspect is the most frustrating for you? Do you actually want/need those projects finished? Or do you feel projects should be finished regardless of whether you want/need them? In which case you're frustrated that you aren't doing that?

Ms Dory Linda I'm mostly frustrated with how I just easily lose the motivation to complete it. I just feel like I'm supposed to be finishing something I started regardless whether I want or need to finish that certain project. And even though I have done it a lot, the thought of the growing amount of unfinished projects I have also overwhelms me and just adds to that frustration. But it's also funny how that frustration turns into some kind of motivation for me to finish those projects.😆

@@nabi7486 that's what I see most of us struggle with... the feeling of, "I'm SUPPOSED to finish"! What I've started asking is what does finish fulfill? Could the purpose of doing that project be fulfilled even if the project isn't "finished"? 🤔 Maybe we need to start asking ourselves what's the purpose of what we do rather than the mechanics of it. You know!!

Yes there's. I'll definitely work on a video on that. Thank you for suggesting the topic.

I hear you. Have you been able to pinpoint why you self sabotage?

@@MsDoryLinda yes i have . I examine my weaknesses and go against them but its still a battle everyday

There is no perfection in this human experience, so long as we're growing and still moving towards where we want to go, each step counts 🙏 ✨

Oh yes!! I remember doing those workouts planners, follow them for like a week and slowly abandoning them 😂 Have you tried, just getting into a rhythm of what works and seeing what that looks like for you?

@@MsDoryLinda It seems like I want a schedule and routine, but then I do not. I am thinking of maybe setting weekly or monthly goals, for example, toning workout 2 times a week. Thanks for the reply!

Instead of goals maybe call them intentions and see how that feels for you. For most goals feel like something they must achieve, and feel like they've failed when they don't. Intentions feel like something you're going towards without the judgment of achievement or not.

@@MsDoryLinda Thanks! Any tips for balancing hobbies? Do you think theme days/ assigning days like Monday is sewing and Saturday is gardening or having intentions like garden 2 days a week and sew once a month is better? Thanks!

Theme days and blocking days have worked best for me. I don't have to do that thing on those days but they act as guidance and takes away the chaos of not knowing when I can do what.

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I'm sorry it feels painful for you.

I'm glad you allowed this comment to stay. You're not alone in this. I've received notifications multipe times of comments that I later never find because people have come back and deleted them. When we're willing to just show up, it shows we're growing in allowing ourselves to be present and take space in this world, just as we are.

Thank you so much!