Trying to make everything perfect kills any attempt of doing something at all!

Wow, I didn't realise that there was any relation between INFP, Imposter Syndrome AND perfectionism, but it makes sense because I can absolutely relate. Thanks for sharing this!

Your vulnerability in this video is SO beautiful and SO powerful. I am also a highly sensitive INFP who struggles with IS. Thank you for breaking it down like this for us to learn how to work through it and move past it.

Do ALL INFP's struggle with perfectionism, imposter syndrome and procrastination? Because it feels like it 😅 I'm a student, lockdown hit me hard as all my worst habits flourished (hermit mode? Disappearing for 5 months??? Yeah) and I'm trying lately to get into a semi-functional routine. If I don't have external forces guiding me, I really struggle to keep to my own word. I've been beating myself up over this so bad, because my roommates make it look so easy - just go to sleep earlier, wake up earlier, do things on time, don't procrastinate or doubt yourself or push yourself to an unhealthy limit - and I feel like such a failure next to them. I do think though, something clicked that you said in another video - I need to recognise that my lifestyle might not fit a 9 to 5, no matter how much I force it. If I can embrace my natural creative rhythm, maybe I can stop feeling so damn guilty all the time. Thank you - I have a feeling I'll be bingeing all the video's on this channel!!! Xx

I have also felt that I am learning a lot but not executing due to fear of rejection.

I've been dealing with these issues since 7th grade or even younger and I've always been so frustrated about myself thinking why am I like this. But when I recently found out that I'm an INFP and that somone like you talk about these stuffs, it's making me understand myself more and push myself to thinking what I'm feeling is completely fine and there are so many others out there who experience the same thing and that I am not alone. Thank you so much...

Perfection is such a creativity killer. I am sharing with my sister who has similar issues. Saved this for future reference. So useful.

I don't remember how old I was when I first experienced imposter syndrome, but I remember feeling like a monster in sheep's clothing. By the time I was 10 the feeling got strong and I was so nervous that other people would see me for who I was and judge me. It would be years before I learned about imposter syndrome and that lots of people had experienced the same thing as me. I'm so glad I found your channel! Through my life I've been called lazy and "slow" but I've always felt like I was better than that, despite feeling a strong hatred for myself and endless loneliness. I'm starting to understand that there is nothing wrong with me, I just need to build the right environment around me for my body, spirit and mind to blossom ✿ Thank you for sharing knowledge and compassion ♥

I can definitely relate to the parts about being a life long learner yearning for further information all the time, and the natural creative. And I think, for me, they blend quite a lot. When I was in college, I started out in interior design... but because of the combination of my health and a learning disability related to numbers and lines, I eventually had to switch gears and move onto the next degree I'd planned. My intention was to get degrees in interior design and English, and take photography courses during the summers. Life didn't turn out that way. My time in school taught me some tremendously valuable lessons, but simultaneously, my health declined. I was just starting a new career, and less than 6 months after graduation with my master's degree, state law changed requirements. So, I wrote books until I no longer could. Writing books was part of my initial goal, but those were in conjunction with designing interiors and doing the photography and text for books on specific topics within the trade. Instead, I ended up writing Christian time travel. Even now, I don't usually call myself an author despite that I am. I call myself a writer because I grew up hearing that unless you make atleast as much money as Louis Lamour or Tim LaHaye, you should just give up. That understanding of the writing world by some of my family members has consistently led me to use their language, feeding into the feeling of being an imposter. So, no matter how many authors I know, how well known they are, or where we met, I often don't think that I should be sharing shop talk with them... especially now that writing is on hold. And knowing that most of those authors live with imposter syndrome, too, doesn't seem to help. It helps me empathize with them, but not necessarily make me feel better that I'm not the only one.

I totally agree with problem #2, learning but not executing. I'm obsessed to learning a lot of stuff, academics, psychology, self-help books that it came to the part that its hard for me to create ideas. I can say I have knowledge on this area, I consume a lot of information but it's not keeping in me, the ideas are there but it's not as strong because I don't put it into practice, nor execute them. I'm still facing this problem currently, letting what I learn go to waste, I should execute them instead.

This was an eye-opener, i always get INFP on these tests but i´ve never really understood why we´re called perfectionists cause i feel like i´m the furthest thing from that but you manage to explain it in a way that makes sense. I can relate 100% to the impostor syndrome and getting stuck in learning instead of executing, just never thought of it as related to perfectionism.

Impostor syndrome is a dream killer! I don't let it ruin my life anymore :) Loved your insights!

I relate to all 4 of these. But Learner and Unconventional are probably the ones that hold me back the most.

I really felt this. I now realise that I exhibit the INFP lazy perfectionist paradox.

Problem #3 “Competency looks like executing everything on their own” This I can deeply relate, and having depression makes it all the more difficult and worsens the imposter syndrome for me. It makes me feel as if admitting I need rest is just me making excuses not to be working and being productive

I do all of this!!! I'm a professional artist. It was and is very hard for me to even say that about myself. I had a hard time with this in Art School and I had to really learn that I don't have to do everything. I still to this day struggle with this. I have now come to a point that I really have to hire people to do some of things that I don't know how to do or don't want to do or take the time out to learn and master a new skill set. I'm very much of a perfectionist when it comes to some things. If I see someone doing it in a way I wouldn't do it or it is not getting done in time I have to step in. Which I know, I can't always do nor do I really want to. As for living like an impostor I have run into this a few different times in school and doing jobs I really didn't like doing and didn't feel I was really getting anything out of it. Also doing are I remember even saying to myself and sometimes to other people that I wanted to be a Master in any of the arts that I was interested in. I'm a dancer, Stand up Comic, Fine Art Photographer, designer, sculpted, painter, (learning again how to sew, knitting, crochet, leather working I hope to make coat's and some clothes, bags or anything I come up with) wood working, Architecture, interior design, play a few different instruments, love all types of music, actor, writing, motorcycle riding, soccer, field hockey, swimmer, I have been performing since I was a kid, traveler (this is what I can think of off the top of my head) etc.....(My poor parents) LOL!!! Right now I am working on 7+ different projects. I have always been that way my family never could understand this and would ask me why all the time and teachers. I do remember telling a gallery owner why I work this ways because they said I lost interest...NO not at all. I just sometime get stuck on how to do something and move on to another project until I figure it out and go back to it. I work in a "Circle" is the best way for me to say it. I also don't really like to talk about all the things I have done or planning on doing because of "Naysayers"!! They really affect me. This has happen to me all my life and stops me from even trying. I have to really push myself through it and sometime just to prove them wrong more so when I was younger. I have figure a lot of this out without any help. I find it interesting to find someone talking about this. I think I only talked about this with one friend one time years ago in art school. I'm very glad I end up going to the art school I did. I learned so much about myself and how strong I really am! I could also train myself to do much more than I though I could ever do with and without help. Also to see that some things I am just not that good doing and it was ok.Also being ok saying it as well. :)

I just found your channel and I feel so seen. Extremely heard, extremely relatable, I feel so human right now because i truly thought I was just incapable of life. Finding this channel is coming at the right time in my life where I’m trying to transition out of this job and into a new career

That fear you described in your chest, is exactly what I feel in my body, manifested as physical pain. I'm working through recovery in a community of fellow chronic pain sufferers and according to many psychosomatic practitioners, the primary cause for pain is fear/anxiety. And of course, goodist/perfectionist personality types experience this the most. I've been reading all of the comments under your videos and it seems sooo many of us INFP-T tyoes suffer from anxiety and other psychosomatic disorders. Other intuitive- feeling types experience this as well. All of this is so mind-blowing. Connecting all of these dots are helping me.

I relate to perfectionism and always learning. Asking for help is not a problem for me. My takeaway is that I shouldn’t set unrealistic goals. Thanks very much for this valuable piece of information

Imposter syndrome and "the learner" can really keep us stuck! Next thing you know years go back without any action being taken. I have learned over time that it is better to not do everything on your own, but to having help with getting you to your goal faster.

I’m so happy I found you. You’ve put a lot of things into perspective for me.

Hey I am INFP. I discovered your channel half hour ago. And yeah! Now I am happy that after taking a long break out of infp stuff, I decided to come KZfaq and try to find some solution for my weaknesses and other problems. Thank you for sharing all those with people like us. I highly appreciate your help for infps and other similar types. 💜

Thank you so much for making this video , to be honest i genuinely feel this thing and i feel its really holds me to let go and accept that i would make mistakes sometimes

I totally relate to what you said. I have been feeling like an impostor in the job that I do. My job is a blend of modeling, reporting, conceptualizing ideas which I enjoy, and analyzing data, thinking out load and a lot of meetings(with groups) which is where I struggle. Have been feeling that I don't belong here and not doing justice to the role. Have discussed this with my boss who says I am doing alright and it takes years to be really great at something. But the pep talk didn't work and I decided to take a few months break from work and figure out if I should do a career change or stay in a similar role. I watch your videos and they are great help. Cheers to the great work you do.

my goodness this is all so accurate! I have always felt like my employer is going to find out that I actually don't know what I am doing despite my years of experience and legitimate qualifications and will decide someone else can do the job better. It can be so stressful.

the unconvetional and the natural problem are probably my problem. I tend to not ask for help and try to do everything my own, eventho i know i quickly get the answer by asking. Once i am stuck then i become really stressed. I'm always scared that i'll look so incompetent and nosy for asking too much help. trying to change though, but hard;;

Imposter syndrome is REAL!!! I've had it before too... great video - thank you!

A friend of mine introduced me to the term when she was congratulating me on my accomplishments and I didn’t seem happy about them. I’m always learning and not executing. I’m afraid of being deemed incompetent if I mess up the first time. I’m always afraid of failing and it not knowing what I want as a career makes it worst. For a long time I’ve felt like I want to be a nurse but there are obstacles I need to overcome. In the meantime I need to make money and me and Corporate America do not match. I have an MBA and hate it.

You've hit the nail on the head especially with the perfectionist bit. Such enlightening info.

I love your point on setting realistic expectations, so important. There's so much more value when we dive in and take action rather than preparing and preparing until something is perfect. So relatable and thanks again for these motivating tips. :)

As an INFJ I also deal with imposter syndrome. And I am also very creative and perfectionistic. .

Alright Ms Dory, you are speaking to me. Fighting back the tears. This is so true. Just dealt with this last week.

Thanks for sharing this! I thinks it’s tough especially when you transition into a new environment or new stage in your life. I have been dealing with this over the past little bit at work actually ✨

Aw man, I am “The Expert Learner” I have a HUGE issue with execution. I will read and take every course and feel as if I STILL don’t have enough information or know enough to execute. I had no idea this was related to imposter syndrome.

This is mind blowing 💔

Learning learning learning, I used to panic and overwhelm myself with knowledge because I never felt like I knew enough, I decided it was to do with fear of not being prepared or potentially good enough, I saw it as trying to feel more secure and safe within the world. Also I have a thing where I don't feel like I need a teacher especially when it comes to personal growth, tho there are times that I feel so overwhelmed with life I search for one but I feel they either don't know as much as I do already or they don't understand me and what I need and that is frustrating mostly I find myself just being reminded of what I already know I need to do 😊 I do find it hard if I find something difficult in an area I usually do or understand easily and can get overwhelmed with feelings and have to breathe and tell myself it's part of the process just keep going and it will become clearer.... I had a lady say to me on a course when I was overwhelmed that she felt I was the kind of person that usually was good at everything and when I find something difficult I struggle, I had to say to her that's not right, actually at the moment my life is very full and quite difficult and I want this thing I'm interested in learning to be easy because I do not have the extra energy right now to put into something that is difficult...

i recently came across your videos, and i just wanted to say that you're amazing! i'm grateful for your channel because all of the infp videos i've watched so far have been so relatable and affirming. i've been struggling with my confidence in the workplace because i don't feel as productive as i should be, but your videos have helped me be more accepting of myself. thank you :')

One of my favorite quotes is perfect is good, done is better. Great topic!

This was really an eye opener! Thank you for your insight!

Loved the breakdown you had for this very important topic!

Love the idea of focusing on growth and learning ! :)

Wow, I never realized there were so many triggers. Thanks for bringing awareness!

I really resonate with the learner. Great video such a important topic

I think Im a little bit of it all...thanks for this clip

Great video! I definitely had it when moving into my new area of work, but the more I work with different women and get really positive feedback it gets so much better :)

Thank you so much for opening up about how impostor syndrome manifested in your life! I have a similar experience with anxiety. I think they are definitely linked

Oh, this is a really good video. I've been struggling with imposter syndrome lately and I've never had it before. It's certainly a new experience that I'm going to try and nip in the bud early. I struggle with accepting that things take the time I have to teach myself to be patient.

Your videos really resonate with me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

Such a great Video! New sub here! Imposter syndrome is the worst and defintely a NEW Phenomenon for me in my business!

Thank you for this video. I resonate the most with the learner.

I've been watching several of your videos, and I love how you explain things! I am so excited to have this channel now to watch when my "INFP-ness" gets overwhelming. 😅😊 Thank you!!

Loved your breakdown! Trying something new will bring out many insecurities and it is of great value to be aware of!

This is such an important topic!

Every single thing was me! I needed this so much!

Very informative video!

thank you.

I can definitely identify with the perfectionist/high goal setter tendencies✋🏾 This is helpful. #newsubbie

Thank you for sharing your story. Writing is very helpful for me as well. Impostor syndrome is something I struggle with at the moment as I'm training to become a hypnotherapist. I can definitely relate to perfectionism ahah. And also with the learner I guess 😂 I have also a hard time to ask for help. All you discussed is really spot on. Thank you for the tools. Indeed remembering that my failures are actually something I can learn from is really helping me. And preventing from putting too much pressure on myself. Being realistic is definitely something I need to work on, thank you for the video, really helpful 🙂 Nice Job

I'm really in the verge of crying watching this video 😭 but I'm with my family and it will be so ridiculousof me to cry suddenly 😅

wow interesting, some of my closest friends are INFPS

I’m not sure if this is related to imposter syndrome or not, but I find myself trying to prove to myself that I’m an INFP... almost trying to validate my identity? I don’t know.. is this something my other INFPs experience?

😭.. I don't really understand what is imposter syndrome...but since my school years i always doubt about everything i achieved. I never feels like i deserve it. Then when i am doing my degree, i am struggling and i feels like i don't have mastered any skills in my life. I feel useless. Is it how imposter syndrome?

What if i don't really have an imposter syndrome? What if I'm just really stupid :((