3 Clues an INFP-T is also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

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3 Clues an INFP-T is also a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) // A Highly Sensitive Person, or HSP is a term coined by psychologist Elaine Aron. According to Aron’s theory, HSPs comprise about 15% - 20% of the population. A Highly Sensitive Person is a personality trait known as sensory-processing sensitivity or SPS. Those with high levels of SPS display increased emotional sensitivity, stronger reactivity to external and internal stimuli-pain, hunger, light, and noise-and complex inner life.
Most INFPs and INFJs are said to be Highly Sensitive People. So how do you know, as an INFP-T, whether you are also a Highly Sensitive Person HSP?
In this video, I walk you through 3 tell-tale signs that an INFP-T might also be a Highly Sensitive Person. Being an INFP and HSP can have seemingly contradictory traits that can make a person feel misaligned in either disposition.
Are You a Highly Sensitive Person?
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@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

What's your take on this? *Have you noticed any of these cues in your life? Which of your senses is more easily overloaded?* Comment and let me know below. ✨

@kinichris 3 жыл бұрын

You pointed out the distraction of visual clutter, whereas with me, it is audible clutter (such as machine or motorway noise) that agitates. There are many restaurants I don’t go to due to the acoustics of the place, even if the food is great.

@BuildYourOwnSmallBusiness 3 жыл бұрын

Same!!

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

That's so interesting, I think for me audible comes after visual. Visual then heat then audible, in that order!!

@vs9400 3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@MajikNET 3 жыл бұрын

Likewise! For me, it feels like being unable to turn off my "active listening"; so when it's quiet and all I can hear is the ceiling fan rotating or the air-con buzzing away, or when I'm trying to concentrate on something but a new song starts and it drags my attention completely away. I sometimes find myself wearing noise-cancelling headphones without listening to anything just to fabricate that sense of isolation. The problem comes when taking them off and having to re-adjust to the ambient noise. Interestingly, for me, "visual cluttering" is there but definitely less. It manifests as picking up on lots of small details. It's more useful in that sense as it's not as distracting, but it can kick in to overdrive when it comes to interacting with other people, as it's a big part of processing another person's current emotional state.

@diksha2394 3 жыл бұрын

Life feels like a mess when you are affected by audio and visuals both 🙄

@christaprice4090 3 жыл бұрын

Audible clutter is what gets me the most. My poor husband that just wants to watch a hockey game after a long day or work. I cannot stand the sounds of stadium games with announcers!!!!!!! And fun fact...during covid there aren’t huge audiences so they’re piping in FAKE audience noise. Thankfully my husband bought me some noise cancelling headphones for my birthday. Best gift ever.

@diksha2394 3 жыл бұрын

I am an INFP and also an HSP ,I can completely relate to you visual clutter gives me anxiety and makes me very comfortable . I thought I have OCD or what but I can relate to you on work place situation .

@snuffyscorner 3 жыл бұрын

I just took the test and it says I'm highly sensitive. I told my sister years ago that if there is a sudden change of plans that she makes, she needs to give me time to adjust. I tend to pre-think what our day might be like if we have plans and I sort of know what to expect. When the plans change and it isn't me doing the change, I become overwhelmed and tend to have a small melt down. I feel confused lost and disoriented. I'm better now at controlling my reaction but the feelings are still there. I don't like line of sight clutter and deal with it for a short while but eventually I need to straiten it all out. At times I can be very detail oriented and this always confused me because I am most definitely INFP-T and I never could understand this aspect of my personality. Great video thanks so much and I look forward to your next one.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome I'm glad you enjoyed it. And thank you for sharing your experiences.

@mariab.3521 3 жыл бұрын

I am an INFP-t and a hsp as well, my family always made me feel like a drama queen but they couldn’t ever understand how I just feel everything in a very high level

@TheLoungingShaman 3 жыл бұрын

I'm an INFP-T and today before I could settle at my mom's house I had to clean up the counter tops and arrange the dishes! I immediately feel calm after doing it

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

😂 sounds like something I'd do!

@vs9400 3 жыл бұрын

I had never heard of HSP before finding your channel. According to the test I'm highly sensitive. This explain a lot, such as being unable to watch any movie where people scream, feel pain, any kind of violence... And I also cry when I see people crying even though I have no idea why they're crying. 😂 And yes, I'm INFP-T.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Oh I'm so glad you found the link!! I'm sure it will be a whole new world of self awareness opening up for you now. I can't stand seeing people in pain either.

@zeph2785 2 жыл бұрын

Well put, 💯 ✌️

@Softening.into.His.Glory. 3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely uncomfortable with rapid change in nearly every case, despite that change is something that I also thrive on. But I like knowing ahead of time, or having input on that change. Visual and auditory clutter and overload have always been a problem. Both are considered to be learning curve issues. Subtle details, I can pick up while I sometimes miss bigger details. Yet, I'm definitely a big picture thinker. I've tested as highly sensitive spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and to the environment itself. That's both a blessing and a hardship, depending on the outlook and situation.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that. So interesting to learn how we can relate and still have our own twists in different areas.

@BuildYourOwnSmallBusiness 3 жыл бұрын

6:58 I think you're talking about decision fatigue. Yes, that's a real thing. ;)

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Yes I don't want to exhaust myself and experience that!!

@moonbeanification Жыл бұрын

I'm an INFP and HSP. Visual clutter is *overwhelming* to me. I literally can't think straight or function in a cluttered environment. I'm grateful to be reminded that it's not my 'fault', it is simply how I am wired. Thank you Doreca! ♥

@pointofnoreturn3103 Ай бұрын

I actually scored around 75% on the HSP test! And, yes, I am an INFP. I am a CNA who works for older people in their homes. Recently, during an in-service, when we introduced ourselves, they asked us to say what we like the most about our job. I said that I like how my job changes for each person I work for. And, it can change from day to day working for the same person. I love acquiring new information! That would be how the P aspect in INFP comes out in my personality. How the HSP in me comes out would be the third thing that you mentioned in this video. I can immediately tell by feeling the vibrations that the person is giving off, combined with seeing their body language, where the person is currently at emotionally, what kind of day they have had, etc., before they have said a word! It just is something that IS. I would also add that I think I am an introvert (I) BECAUSE I am an empath. You NEED to have some down time, because you have been a sponge all day long, especially when you have come across negative energy! Negative energy can potentially overwhelm me. There isn't a thing in the world that I could do to change this about myself! But, that is okay! I am one of the fortunate few who loves their job! This feeling that I am doing my part to make the world a better place brings me happiness! And, the bonds that I have with my loved ones gives me my strength. Life IS what you make of it! Thanks for making this video! Take care. Susan

@MsDoryLinda 12 күн бұрын

I love that Susan. Life IS truly what we make of it!!

@ainomariaaurora9748 3 жыл бұрын

This explained everything!!! 🤯 I can relate to every point in this video. I have known for a long time that I'm an HSP. Then I explored the Myers-Briggs and found out that I'm an INFP-T! Everything makes sense now 😅

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad! Those lightbulb moments are amazing, aren't they!!

@aviator1787 3 жыл бұрын

this might just be a quirk, but fluorescent light (like in office buildings or markets) not only strongly irritates me-it makes me sad, like my surroundings are bereft of humanity. i’ve learned not to complain about such things because lots of people don’t see the big deal. PS - thanks for this video and for your channel!

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

You're right, most people can't relate.

@Foodpermaculture 3 жыл бұрын

I love your channel, your energy and tone of your voice. You should read audiobooks. Ps visual clutter bothers me a lot, and it takes an explosion to make me tidy it if I made a clutter. Also, someone elses "in order" is clutter to me. visually, i like empty tables, floors, rooms.

@MsDoryLinda 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. 💓

@mysensitivebrain4817 Жыл бұрын

First of all, your voice is so calming, I love it! I’m an INFP-T and an HSP, you were on point 👌🏼 thanks for the video!

@MsDoryLinda Жыл бұрын

You're welcome. And thank you 😊

@namelessgrace6319 3 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your channel so much. And your voice is so calming! Lol thanks for the videos. :)

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

You are welcome 😊

@teresalutz6070 3 жыл бұрын

This is 100% relatable!! As soon as you said clutter you had me, nice to know I'm not alone. Thank you 😊♥️

@lindseyrandall2107 3 жыл бұрын

I am a INFP-T and highly sensitive and all these were true for me. Clutter is my worst nightmare. It can literally completely unmotivate me just by having a dirty area.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Yap, clutter makes me moody!!

@keyfiender799 Жыл бұрын

I subscribed instantly. Thank you!!

@MsDoryLinda Жыл бұрын

Welcome!

@moonbeanification Жыл бұрын

Doreca, you are an angel and your videos are a balm to my soul. Thank you! ♥

@kensears5099 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, this filled in an important piece of the puzzle, thank you!

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Oh I'm glad, you're welcome Ken. 😊

@sarahruiz8356 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely rings true. I am an INFP-T and HSP. Clutter, noise, smells and temperature all affect me greatly. This video makes me feel better because I've often thought that I'm just more of a complainer when it comes to those things. I don't mean to be a negative or critical person, but in a group I'm often the only one pointing out poor lighting, uncomfortable temps, strong smells, too much noice or an annoying sound, etc.! It all makes sense now! I also need to have the perfect "set-up" if I'm going to get any real work done. For example, I need a comforatble chair, comfortable clothing, good temp, good lighting, no clutter, etc. in my desk / work area before I can focus. It sometimes takes me forever to get started on work, because of this tendency. So interesting, thanks for your insights and videos!

@MsDoryLinda 2 жыл бұрын

I completely get that. I declutter my space and get my mind decluttered through journaling before I start my day too. It makes a huge difference to my productivity.

@peterloveson8075 2 жыл бұрын

oh yea i def am all the above. I found out about 3 years ago and have been trying to devour any and everything on the topics so i can know how to better understand myself and my daughter. I see so much go myself in her and its hard seeing how people treat her so knowing myself helps me understand her (as frustrated and sometimes unable to help that i feel)

@MsDoryLinda 2 жыл бұрын

Yes we parent so differently the more we can embrace ourselves. I believe my daughter is HSP too.

@Tori-je1dm 3 жыл бұрын

As an INFJ how do I best treat an INFP HSP? Especially when I'm working with them? I try to get a project done but they just don't respond to emails etc because they feel overwhelmed. Also you have the most soothing voice. :)

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Tori I'd communicate expectations right from the beginning. Specify if you'd need a response in what time frame etc. If they don't have a time frame and it isn't urgent in their mind, then they'll go by their own time frame which might a whole lot longer than yours. And thank you 😊

@aminuonize7836 3 жыл бұрын

Your voice is soothing

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

💞 thank you

@carmenmedlin7687 3 жыл бұрын

I'm INFP-T and also definitely highly sensitive. I can't deal with visual clutter at all, it's like the state of my outer environment is going to also be the state of my inner environment. I won't be able to focus. It calms me to organize things. My husband has zero problem with visual chaos, so it's a challenge for us sometimes. I have a hard time with audio chaos also, and just overstimulation in general such as being in crowds, shopping, etc. I don't know if this is common for HSPs, but I even have overstimulation with different textures on my skin. I cannot wear clothing with mixed fabric textures (such as cotton + lace, knit + uncovered elastic), clothing with tags or anything remotely rough, it can make me panic! I did not know this stuff was a whole personality trait. I thought I was just weird. :)

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

You're definitely not weird. I've heard quite a few people mention fabric, tags, just general issues with fabric. I used to find myself wear something but could only tolerate for a short period of time. I couldn't wait to get home and take it off 😅

@soffaerie 3 жыл бұрын

It makes all sense! I identify with all 3, but specially the 3rd item.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing that 😊

@arrow1042 3 жыл бұрын

My version of visual clutter is people walking around me when i'm trying to focus and do something. I can't stand seeing them even in my peripheral vision. It makes me think to move out so im alone in a house.

@MsDoryLinda 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's really hard to concentrate when that is something that truly bothers you. 😕 So what can you do to block out tines that you can focus with zero distractions?

@_samarajoyce 3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely love your channel and it’s given me so much clarity to figure out that I’m not the only person going through all this. What a confusing time when we don’t realise that people don’t feel/see things the same way we do. I’m wondering if anyone has the same problem as me which is working a full time job and having all these ideas to make their own business but doesn’t have enough energy to go home and work on these side hustles? I always just thought I was lazy but maybe I’m looking at it wrong. Contemplating if I should quit my job to focus on this for a while? 😂

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

There's definitely a process moving from the full time work to self employment. I'll be running a workshop soon to show people exactly how to do that. So be on the lookout for that.

@lolifeac256 3 жыл бұрын

For me is the motion surrounding me. I used to get bad motion sickness when I was a kid, tho i can handle travel motions well when I get older. Also conflicts with people except close friend or family, like in workplace or neighborhood

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I'm the same with motion sickness. I still get that even when I sit at the back sit of the car. It's much better if I'm the one driving.

@nuruljannahali5607 2 жыл бұрын

I think I can relate to the visual clutter if only it relates to the things I'm working on. And I'm not a organize person. For example, building legos. I have this tendency to sort the blocks according to shape and color, before stacking them up. Also whenever I am working with massive data, i will have trouble if the data is not sorted out or arranged in certain manner. I kinda feel overwhelmed if jumbled up data or blocks. 😅

@-_Alina_ Ай бұрын

I love your voice!

@MsDoryLinda 12 күн бұрын

Thank you

@romancuison5065 3 жыл бұрын

Omg my name is Connie and i know exactly what you mean when we have visual clutter... but for me its when im so overwhelmed that my house is an organized chaos.. and when ive had enough time to recover i start to clean up to the point that my windows are washed..

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! And it feels good doesn't it?! I usually feel like I can breathe again!!

@Cosmickittyyy 3 жыл бұрын

I’m an infp T and my boyfriend is an INFP-A He doesn’t mind clutter as for me I have meltdowns. My brain just can’t process and I can’t function with mess around me. I’m also very energetically sensitive so I can feel my surrounding with my eyes closed. It can affect me greatly, especially if I haven’t done my regimen of clearing up my energetic boundaries. But, my boyfriend is much more tolerant and doesn’t have much sensitivity to it. I think he may be highly sensitive just not to the degree that I am.

@BuildYourOwnSmallBusiness 3 жыл бұрын

6:14 Yes! Yes! Yes! I stack my dishes!!!!

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Ha!! Glad to hear I'm not alone in that!!

@aminaelo 3 жыл бұрын

oh my.. with the way my desk looks right now i can tell that I am no HSP 😂

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@Lindalindali 8 ай бұрын

You can be a HSP even if you're a bit messy, I think. As long as you're the one initiating the mess - at least that's my experience

@BuildYourOwnSmallBusiness 3 жыл бұрын

4:38 -That's precisely why I could not rent a 'hot spot' at a flex space. In order to get a dedicated space, I would have to pay $$$ :(

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Me neither, I could never see myself settling in enough to do any decent work in that setting.

@NarutoUzumakiofficial Жыл бұрын

yup i'm both. Idk if it's good or bad. but there is a lack of understanding for both INFPs (in general) and HSPs. people never understand why i hate loud music, why i hate meaniness, fighting, conflict (also survivor of abuse). I can 'go with the flow' but change is very hard depending what it is. Liek if it's just adventuring and something doesn't happen perfectly that's fine i'm happy just to see nature, and be able to enjoy it. but other changes yeah it can be overloaded. the visual one yeah i'd say that's true for me as well. I also do programming (and graphic design) to much information i can't process. However at the same time i'm very very disorganized. I think it depends on the healtiness of the mind. For me cleaning takes a lot of mental energy the 3rd one yeah to but it depends on the task.

@MsDoryLinda Жыл бұрын

So interesting how we can share similar characteristics yet experience them differently. Eg. I find cleaning, organizing very relaxing. I have been decluttering my home and it has been the most therapeutic experience ever.

@NarutoUzumakiofficial Жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda I should try the declutter thing. My room could use it. I do hear it is very claiming from many

@airari24 3 жыл бұрын

I am an INFP-A but all this clicks intensely with me; I've had an inkling I may be a HSP. I used to get so frustrated not only by the sensory/mental overload, but the lack of understanding I'd get from others for it. I used to get so frustrated I didnt feel/react like others, but now I know more or less how I work in the regard and try to adjust as necessary

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad that self-awareness is helping you navigate your life in a way that's working for you.

@alin6187 3 жыл бұрын

26/27 @ HSP test, as I expected haha :)) It's very hard for me to adapt to sudden changes(especially when the change is completely different from what was expected before)... it's like my brain is driving with 100 km/h in one direction and can't switch that fast to another one. Firstly it needs to push the break pedal... to stop... relax for a bit... and just then to drive in another direction. And when you add an urgent task needed to be done once with this, I usually feel some kind of adrenaline rush in my brain. Regarding the visual clutter, shortly: I really hate it! But when visual clutter meets procrastination, the second one win :)) But not entirely!! At my desk or in my room if there are a lot of things or clothes, they can stay there an entire week or even more but if I see one garbage(details...) like a useless sheet of paper or some tissues, I can't go outside and leave them there. And about details... it's interesting... it depends on the kind of details, if there are details of a big picture that doesn't have a strong meaning or interest for me, I can be blind at something that is in the front of my eyes; but for something that I care... a different story...

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing how selective we can be right!!

@partydecorbyveespace2561 3 жыл бұрын

Notification gang 🥰🥰

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Yaaaaasss!! Thank you for being here.

@user-jx2dt2pn1u 3 жыл бұрын

Great video! Seems like I am not HSP based on what I got from this video. It comes to my notice that, as you mentioned, INFP may struggle with details, especially at work. I am wondering if there is any way we can improve this? Thanks a lot.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

It's definitely worth taking Dr. Elaine Aron's test I've linked in the description as there are more characteristics of being HSP than the fee I mentioned. As far as improving with details, I'd recommend monotasking, working on one task at a time, if you have the tendency to multitask.

@user-jx2dt2pn1u 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda Thanks a lot!

@pietrofancello3262 2 жыл бұрын

Hey! Could you insert subtitles? Even the automatic ones (at the moment the automatic subtitles appear in Indonesian language). I am Italian and I'm both INFP-T and HSP most likely, I'm interested in the subject but without subtitles I can't understand everything you say. Thank you :)

@MsDoryLinda 2 жыл бұрын

Hey, thanks for flagging that up. Not sure why or how they were Indonesian 🤷🏿‍♀️ but I've uploaded English subtitled so should be fixed now. 🌟

@bueaty3656 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t know if I’m a HSP but I am definitely sensitive. The first two apply to me surprisingly well. With the second one I can have a messy room/desk but it has to be an organised mess. So a pile of random papers on the side or pile of clothes in one place than everywhere. When anything becomes an unorganised mess even if there nothing more added just that it’s no longer piled together etc then I hate it and I can’t think clearly. I don’t know if the third one apply to me but I’ve never been able to answer the question of if I’m a big picture or little detail kind of person.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

The third one is usually a tricky one for most!! What do you think people who know you would say?

@bueaty3656 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda hmm I think people might say I’m more of a small detail person. Though I asked my sisters and they said I’m both but in a bad way both 😅

@jfly1133 3 жыл бұрын

MS. Dory Where can we find an accurate type indication test?

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

What are you looking to type?

@jfly1133 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda personality 16 types

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

MBTI has a lot of controversy on its validity and scientific backing so I wouldn't say there are "accurate" tests but there are tests said to be more reliable than others. I personally haven't compared any so I can't recommend based off personal experience. I find Personality Junkie and their work helpful so maybe start there and see where it leads you.

@jfly1133 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLindaThank you!!

@elizabethfoster4333 3 жыл бұрын

I just took the test that you linked and scored quite highly (24) as an HSP. I'm also an INFP-T so this wasn't a huge surprise! However I did notice that a lot of the symptoms the test included I would have attributed to having an anxiety disorder (not officially diagnosed). Now I'm wondering if I actually do have anxiety or am just an HSP - or both?! Any thoughts on if/how the two might be connected?

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I'd seek an official diagnosis from someone who works with HSPs so you can know for sure. But out of curiosity, which aspects make you feel like you could also have an anxiety disorder?

@elizabethfoster4333 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda Thank you so much for taking the time to reply to me! It's mostly the aspects to do with sensory overwhelm. When I'm feeling anxious, then loud noise or crowded places exacerbate the feeling and make me overwhelmed. If I'm going through a good patch in my mental health then I'm less likely to be triggered by those things. Also being shy and sensitive as a child which was partly due to crippling social anxiety. I suppose I'm unsure whether it's anxiety which causes the overwhelm, or being an HSP which causes anxiety...

@elizabethfoster4333 3 жыл бұрын

Also I'm new here and just wanted to say how lovely it has been to find this channel and community and realise I'm not alone in the way I experience the world! I don't know any INFPs in my day to day life!

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

@Elizabeth you're so welcome. I'm glad you're here. Have you read Elaine Aron book yet? hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-person/ Getting familiar with the personality might be so helpful since so many people tend to be misdiagnosed. So I'd try to find a psychiatrist/psychotherapist who specializes in HSPs.

@elizabethfoster4333 3 жыл бұрын

I haven't read it, but I certainly will :) thank you for your advice!

@vii6429 3 жыл бұрын

Hello! I am an INFP-T but I'm not a HSP😊. In fact I actually really do focus on the big picture. My mother gets really mad at me for not finding things that are right in front of me😅😅 But I actually wanted to ask about something else. So I've watched all or most of your videos, and they're all incredibly helpful, and you ALWAYS make me feel understood. It's actually scary sometimes how accurate some of the things you say are. But um... could I ask for help finding a job that suits me? The thing is I get SUPER obsessed with sonething and then get bored with it. And I would actually see this as a positive quality if it wasn't foe societal expectations and the fact that I can't get anything done😅. Getting away from the point. Um so I can't decide what job or even career path I wanna do!! I am 15. And I'm supposed to apply to sixth form colleges very soon. For GCSE I took -Drama -Italian (but I don't think I'll do an exam on that due to covid) -Triple science (I CHOSE THIS INSTEAD OF ART. What is wrong with me!!) As well as the core subjects like English, Maths, RS etc. And um. Well I was thinking maybe I could go into like idk theatre, art or english and if it doesn't work out I could teach the subject instead. But I still don't know what to do😂😂 like, which one I want to choose...and I don't know what to do and I'm stressing because all my friends know what they want to be when they're older. I swear if societal pressure didn't exist life would be so much easier. I would become an eco-minimalist, do whatever part time job I want, and volunteer most of the time so I don't get bored, but I still do something good. But that's not possible. I am actually very worried because my cousin failed to graduate on time (he did graduate recently though) and everyone is judging him because he chose to do something different from what he said he would do (he didn't like law school and wants to join the military). And idk it's just all very stressful. Because I STILL DON'T KNOW what I wanna do with my life!! Ugh sorry😅 this comment is so longgg🥴😣

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you're finding value in the videos. From what I'm hearing you say, it's coming across as though the issue isn't a struggle with not knowing what to do in terms of your passion but more to do with following a path that can be accepted by the society standards. That's a much deeper exploration, I couldn't possibly mentor you through this comment thread. Having cycles with interests seems to be a shared experience amongst us intuitives, it's just a matter of learning how long your particular ones last so you can enter and exit situations more fluidly. So I don't foresee that as being the most challenging aspect for you. The hardest part, I think, is a personal journey to come to a place where you might have to ask yourself what path can't see yourself live outside of? Are you prepared to face whatever comes with that? I know it isn't an easy decision. I have been there. So I would encourage you to examine what does success, joy, fulfilment look like to you? Perhaps start there?

@vii6429 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda thank you so much!! Omg I'm so glad I found youuu😭😭 I will start making mind maps and lists with potential jobs and what sparks joy for me tomorrow!! (Hopefully. If I don't procrastinate🥴) By the way, I noticed you reply to every comment!! And I really appreciate that, but I just want to let you know that if you ever need a break or if you just don't feel like replying you do not have to do it😊 we understand.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you get some clarity 🙂 That's so kind of you to say and I appreciate the support. Comments were a lot easier when the community was smaller, as we grow I might have to limit to a certain time frame.

@gehdochnicht 3 жыл бұрын

INFP and HSP are almost synonyms. I don't think it needed any explanation.

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

They definitely have similar characteristics but they're not the same thing. It's helpful for those developing their self awareness to know there're distinctions.

@gehdochnicht 3 жыл бұрын

@@MsDoryLinda OK, well I've never met an INFP who wasn't a HSP

@MsDoryLinda 3 жыл бұрын

Oh I see, that explains it.