A Narcissist is like a car that has a disconnected alternator. The battery needs to be recharged by another battery constantly.

I have almost turned into a psycho trying to get him to admit his mistreatment of me, he stands to lose everything but will not budge! Lord help me, I miss the old innocent me, I am so done and so tired!

The more wrong they are, the more they double-down on their wrong ideas.

“They demand you share their delusion”. That sums up my experience. If something reflects badly on him, it is to be ignored or blamed on others. If you don’t play along, the ugliness that’s spills out is disturbing.

Only someone who has been manipulated by a narc can understand the righteous anger present in this video. Thank you my man

If they know you are the type to question them, they will choose to spend time with other people.

A narcissist's play book 1. Lie to make u trust and love. Appear to be human. 2. Systematically destroy your confidence, relationships with family and friends, and punish u for objecting to abuse. Display disgust and contempt for your vulnerability. And tell u that that ur thoughts, opinions, feelings r wrong/insignificant. During this stage they force feed u their delusional version of themselves where they exist, therefore they r entitled, to EVERYTHING including ur soul. If u even attempt to have a boundary it will be destroyed with more punishment to follow for attempting to be an individual. Your lack of cooperation in your own destruction, whether perceived or actual, constitutes further emotional abuse, sometimes physical abuse, as deemed necessary by your Lord and master. Lest we forget, any secret u may have shared (remember they gained ur trust) or even a random, made up story they invent is leverage and threatened to be exposed in a way that will humiliate and destroy any potential success or happiness with ur employment, finances, or relationships co-workers and/or friends (if u have any left), however it hurts u the most. It is also the perfect time to remind u they r ruthless and getting even, for them, is going to be atomic in nature. So u may as well fall in line. After they have seen you suffer enough to satisfy their evil thirst for your hemorrhaging eruption of pain and despair. They will be ready to receive the apology they deserve for having offended their delicate, fragile, hysterically delusional, disproportionately grandiose and totally unwarranted self image. Sadly, if u aren't ready to admit ur error in an attempt at self preservation it'll be time for round 2 of 'seek and destroy'. And if u have kids, they r next. Maybe that will get ur attention! Because they can't actually FEEL (not even for their own child) anything unless they r destroying someone (which is pleasurable, for them, to be clear) and this will suffice for now. Delivering pain thru a surrogate is so much more interesting for the abuser. And it allows for the distinct pleasure of damaging 2 people simultaneously for maximum effect. Win. Win. When u reach ur limit, bc u will before they do, most assuredly. U probably have no one left in ur life to support u bc the abuser made sure that everyone knew WHAT u were REALLY like, according to their account of selfless struggles, trying to help u but u just didn't want to be a better person in spite of how hard they tried. Also they r probably spreading lies about things u supposedly said or did to anyone who didn't buy the other bullshit. And if anyone else gets their feelings hurt, it's collateral damage, and it's also YOUR fault. Effectively destroyed. Victory rhetoric spewed by the vindictive mouth which supports all of the unfounded, unearned fantastical fables of imaginary success they believe regarding their supreme intellect and infinite knowledge of all things, at all times, in every possible scenario, in every dimension of existence. 3. Now that ur only hope is that there will be an end to the torture, some day, some way... They will suddenly stop and apologize with empty words and say they didn't mean it (plz note that there won't be an apology for a specific action, e.g lying, abuse, attempting to coerce, extort, attempting to impose their will. That is viewed as potential ammunition that can b used against them later when they r telling u that u r crazy and they never did anything to hurt u. They may even deny an apology was ever spoken. Thankfully, u already look crazy for putting up with their shit so it's an easy sell... But for now the sudden relief from the pervasive torture literally shocks u and completely confuses u. To be clear it is their plan to effectively disregulate ur ability to make rational, logical, self preserving decisions as well as impair your ability to think clearly enough to state facts that refute the coming lies. And so it begins, in the suspended moments of time that u try to understand that the attack on ur existence has halted, they use that as a segway to begin to subtly insert themselves back into ur life. And sadly, they r the ones delivering u from the unbearable relentless torment. Also a strategy to confuse logic. You are desperate for relief and u r just grateful for the end of it. Leading to displaced gratitude. Make sense? No. But how could u make sense of any of this as it is happening?And this is the most important part! REMEMBER!!! THEY R ALSO STILL THE SAME DEMENTED SUBHUMAN THAT HEARTLESSLY INFLICTED ALL OF THAT PAIN AS PUNISHMENT FOR YOUR FAILING TO CONFORM TO THEIR ARBITRARY, FLUID, DESTRUCTIVE SET OF STATED AND UNSTATED RULES. THE LATTER PURPOSED SO U MAY ATTEMPT TO GUESS AND OFTEN FAIL WHILE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HEAD TRIP WE WILL BE GOING ON THAT DAY. So the fraudulent proclamations of enlightenment delivered with the compliments u have been starved of, on top of self serving, deliberate lies designed to delay and prolong ur pain upon discovery at a later date, the perpetually evasive validation that U yearned for have finally come to fruition along with a reprieve from the previously described torture ... Finally, he understands what U needed. And the proof is that he can verbalize it! U were the best thing that has ever happened to him. He only hurt u bc he was so hurt by losing u...(this is another way of blaming u for MAKING them behave like a satanically possessed, bloodthirsty demon). And here is one more chance (to play head games, manipulate, coerce, and overtly force and inflict their self serving demands and narcissistic ideals on u, against ur will, just for their sick pleasure) for the love they already knew u wanted but will never deliver bc it is within their power to destroy u at their leisure. They r masters of deception, ur no match for them. They have been improving and honing their acting skills since they were old enough to realize they didn't FEEL anything and needed to learn how to imitate human feelings like empathy and compassion. They r broken on a cellular level and even the professionals admit it is a waste of time and resources to attempt to help them as they see no problem with their behavior. In their view, if u r stupid enough or weak enough to be a victim then u deserve whatever u get. They will exploit any and all weaknesses they have discovered in u (remember the trust). And if u make the mistake of having ANY reaction or emotion that reveals ur humanity they see it as just another vulnerability for inflicting more pain( which is ALWAYS and will FOREVER be the primary objective). So if u believe the ass load of heaping bullshit, that is their pathetic attempt at sucking u in for more amusing torture prepare to repeat steps 1-3 as many times as they want, for as long as they choose, in whatever twisted manner they like. As for me, I'd rather burst into flames and descend from the sky like a shooting star than spend another millisecond of my precious life energy thinking about or in the presence of my my emotional sadist. Lastly, I forgive u. Because my peace resides within me, cultivating love for me. Beholden to none but me. Eventually forgetting you.

I'm thankful everyday that i learned "their" handbook. Took 40 years to appreciate how beautiful life is.

Thank you for saying serial killers like Ted Bundy are boring and unworthy of all the attention they receive. I have been exasperated for years by the many films made about them.

You mention the childlike reactions but when you catch a glimpse of that narc smirk that plays on the corners of their mouth usually right after they get their way or the reaction from you that they were pushing for... It's diabolical Richard diabolical!

"A shutting down of discussion" - or actually never starting lol You can hear the panic in their voice when you want to talk as an empathic peson, having 'unmasked' them. And then? Projection, triangulation, gaslighting, blame shifting, denial etc

“Have they ever lied in such a way to cause them to gain and me to be hurt or to lose?” ... Game changer.

coercive pressure to manipulate you into feeling like you owe them.

“These people are all front.” Periodt

My ex narc was NEVER wrong and PERFECT. He was always in control and would get angry if you objected to his decisions.

I was in a very terrible relationship with a narcissist, thank god i left him, that time i didn't know about narcissistic world, the more i know about narcissism the more i feel proud about my decision.

19 years in this kind of relationship and almost 3yrs in divorce process. I'm exhausted but I'm strong..

condescension is their main mode. they give you the biggest sob stories, yet are self-inflated at the same time when you expect accountability from them.

The use of philanthropy, charity etc. is an exellent point. Spiritual groups too are a magnet for these monsters.

I love how you didn't forget intellectual theft. This is one of their favorite tatics.

Once I realised it was the meat suit I was in love with I moved on there was NOTHING inside.

«Shut up and obey»», so true. 12 years of that.

The ex covert narc I was with for 4 1/2 yrs was generous until he wanted me so badly to move in with him, then he was so selfish. Wanted me to pay all expenses on his house each month, never took me out just the 2 of us, only when he was treating others to dinner. He received a huge promotion and didn't even take me out to dinner to celebrate. I just spent the relationship watching him be generous with his money to others, mostly who didn't deserve it. I was so confused. I didn't realize it was a show. This was one of many puzzle pieces that fell exactly in place to covert narcissism.

Thanks for your dedication to helping mankind... You're a good man.. brother.. 👊😎

I needed that. Was losing faith, this world really is beautiful, I was watching the trees before listening to you, and they are glorious, apple and cherry blossom are in full bloom, Sun is shinning and its a good day to be alive. Thank you.

My experience of my ex, was that of being idealised and then disgarded so many times over alot of years. It leaves u in a state of devastation and trying to put your broken self worth back together again. But I stay positive and keep on going, a little older & wiser 💗🌅 x

"Criminally inclined scumbags!" Exactly!!!! I couldn't have said it better myself.

Fighting the Demons of the Apocalypse. That's my man.

My mother would deliberatly do charitable things in front of me and watch for my reaction... I could see it but I would feel guilty for thinking she was just performing for applause, she was though, it was just performance art.

Among many of the cruel things my ex said when he discarded me was “I just don’t want to have to care about you anymore”… I was grieving the loss of my daughter and career… a few months later he was out supporting a charity event for a widow and her children.. everyone thinks he’s sooo kind and charitable. No, he’s just a great actor who craves adoration. I lost count of the times he mentioned how much money he’d raised for different charities. His charity didn’t extend to me.

God you’re good at this Richard. I can see the “ Gates’ “ from where I’m sitting.

The 3rd reason is why nothing in government changes for the better.and I totally agree with your view of psychopaths. They are just evil. The lowest of the low.

One of the most useful (imo), albeit simplest, mantras is, "No one is responsible for my happiness but me." We've a finite amount of time breathing on this rock; whomever is reading this in pain, confusion, or fear, your time is accounted by and for you alone, may the rest of yours it be in peace

Isabelle Nazare-Aga, French psychotherapist said something about the fascination with narcissists that was very profound. We usually do get fascinated with these people when we are not fully healed. But especially when we have no idea what they are about and that such evil exists in this world. She said that people who fascinate us, don't make us grow, they reduce us. And that is so true. We get reduced by them to the extent they traumatize us because we feel ' less than' before we get involved with them. And once we heal and really understand on the emotional level that we are all human beings in socks 😉, the fascination wears off naturally. And yes, it's true that they are boring. They make themselves interesting only by mimicking and stealing someone else's good traits. In other words, by vamparizing and sucking our milkshake. It's all front as you said. Thanks for keeping it real Richard!

One of my narcs has educated himself on narcissism, and now I’m constantly (even more so!) second guessing him because I’ll think he’s “better” but after time he shows himself again. It’s as if he’s learned so much about narcissism that he tries to do the opposite of a narc... but it’s soOoOooOo obvious lol

There you go, Rick has blown the cover of all these terrible dog mothers BRILLIANT

Brilliant! I’m struggling to escape the narcissists death grip and this helps.Thank you Richard Grannon for keeping it real!

RE: Bundy, don't forget the part where he'd bury them in the woods and come back to.. do things to them later. Yeah, really 'cool' guy :/ something tells me that's not in the Effron movie. The continued romanticization of serial killers befuddles me

Funny enough, I work for judges. The great ones are you quick to say “I don’t know” or “I was wrong.” A lovely group

threat of inflicting self harm is often their most powerful weapon

"You're just another hairless ape in a pair of socks"

Vote with your feet.

The rules of a narcissistic, psychopathic, totally sick, power hungry, monstrous tyrant should be taken and shoved up his bottom. Very well said. You have really taken my understanding the narcissist to a whole new level. I can truly relate to you.

World-wide narc attack. Thx for your work richie

I no longer associate with person's who lack the capacity to love. It's a great rule and the consequence is that you are loved.. .Peace to all

A certain bespectacled technocrat springs to mind when I listen to this..

Grew up with one of these……lucky me.

Once, with my narc ex husband, I was so confused as to what was going on during and argument and when I called him out and said “you’re actually a F**ing coward” - I swear his eyes changed and the rage was insane. I glared right back into his empty eyes and thought to myself “there it is, there’s the trigger and the truth.”

i had a 10 year on / off relationship with a covert Narc - ended in 2016 - last year i worked with another lady in my profession- pretty quickly i realized with her "my way" or the highway attitude and occasional anger outbursts & constant proclamations that she was the victim in many situation that i was now in a work relationship with a Narc - so i was ready when she pulled the rug out from under me. This year i am working at another place and the lady in charge is....a huge Narc - it's her way - there is no other way - she has major anger outbursts - she gaslights and lies constantly - even her right hand lead guy- of 10 years - said "everything she says is a lie" , she told me the most fantastic unbelievable story - so much so that it has to be completely untrue. i am off right now due to Covid 19 - i have no intention of going back there. They are everywhere ! Very often in positions of power , which they abuse. I do not let them get to me now, never let them now anything personnel, always smile and nod but inside know - they are gaslighting, lying, and trying to manipulate you.

Brilliant ....my God wake a few more people up!!

I went up against my narc psychiatrist and paid dearly. I settled a lawsuit against him. They are in the perfect position to harm.

I got the tingling feet and shaking hands when I heard him say "second lie.. is realted to time" "timelessness"

Hello Richard, my name Nick Hill and have watched most of your videos! and found this one is dead on to explain my x wife! I have returned into this relationship three times of my life and having four children with her! throughout my in's & out's with it has taken it's toil on me! i was thinking i was superman to be there for my children & grandchildren too! but now here a month ago she came up me to and told me she had something to say to me! looking up to her eyes and her saying i never loved you and never wanted your children! something happen that day to me! i started to stutter and lose my balance standing! one month later finding myself ordered out of her house and almost losing my mind! now try to make come back after her lies to my children and making my oldest be leave that i was crazy and my oldest children be leaving it calling the police to have me arrested for the first time in my life! doctors told me sorry and police too! what a roller coaster ride! i'm lucky to be alive! but i have many problems still with my health. Thank you for letting me make my comment.

The truth set me free!! Thanks Richard!! They refuse to be just normal.

I guess many people will talk about themselves but it’s noticeable when someone shows disregard or minimizes everyone else.

Richard that was wonderful your covertly guidance to understanding of the real narcissist in our lives are. Thank you from Texas

I hear you, Richard. They might be calling the shots, but we have the right to explore our choices. Thank you!

Thank you so much for all the work you do!

To everyone else they pretend to be kind, sensitive, harmless, and humble... They are extremely deceptive. The one I knew laughed as he was lying about cheating on me. He couldn’t leave a voicemail about his fake alibi without laughing uncontrollably. They are sadists and frauds.

"You're just another hairless ape, in a pair of socks" I said this to myself while on mushrooms the other night, and think it often. Is it from somewhere? Also, the "it has always been this way and always will be this way" thinking is upsetting, and dangerous. To live with someone who so extremely lives in finite to thaty degree, forgetful of the vast universe around them (Hard to see the universe when one cant see past one's own nose), is dangerous. I would go as far as saying, should be considered potentially life threatening, as this thinking as put me in more genuinly life threatening situations than I can count, and I am sure others can relate to that, and hugs to those watching and really understand the cold, still, gripping, anxious, heart slowing fear that comes with it. The anger in this resonated. Love to you brother. Thank you so much for being willing to talk about this and express vulnerability. These feelings can be hard to deal with. hard to come to terms with. Hard to repeat. Thank you.

Meghan Markle sueing the papers is like watching it all play out. Doesn't matter the cost, just have to win.

Richard- you explain it all so well!

This explains why trying to communicate with my ex and discussing any issues was impossible. The "great sin" in asking questions. Omg the or else is the scariest part!

I just run away from my ex narcissistic husband who started putting his foot on my face and kicking me in my private and threatened to write to my employer to tell them I'm an aggressive person for simply I put him back in his place for his abuse and hiw he sadistically relate to me how he had intimate encounters how and where and with his exes.this disgusted me and I was finally sick.He drained away my money,mental health and self esteemed.

I knew a lady who went from a "caring" RN to a surgical/prescribing/practitioner what everah, blah blah blah and now she's an expert in every area and if you don't kiss her ring, ya know the rest. And yes, she was an abused child. I don't know if she's killed anyone with her new all knowing knowledge, because I quit trying to be her friend, she was trying to project her childhood pain on to me and I'm not the one who hurt her. I wasn't able to heal her of that either though, I think she thought I was going to. Nah Gahnna Do it ( Dana Carvey lol ).

I use to call my life with my husband being in his "cartoon...

You've just described the " WHO " and " Bill Gates "✌🤔

9:30 Serial killer John Gacy was a so-called pillar of his community, and was honored by Chicago's Mayor Daley. When the bodies were discovered on his property, his neighbors were all shocked that this supposedly wonderful, generous scoutmaster and part-time clown could possibly be a killer.

Great points! But I’ve got lost for a bit after minute 11. First of all they are not ’human’ like you. They are distinctly ’unhuman’. If they were human, human psychology would apoly to them and it doesn’t. Then, ’People get hurt’, ’people cry’ etc. This is exactly how the psycho sounds. They justify the pain they inflict on others by ’people get hurt’, ’life is tough’, ’I am not legally obligated’, ’I am not morally obligated (because I follow my own ’moral’) etc. In other words ’I’m free to do what I want and no one is my master’ is a narcissist’s/psychopath’s mantra. This statement about ’people get hurt but that’s life’ is not applicable to a narcissistic relationship. The narcissist does not ’get hurt’, they get narcissistic injury. That is completely different. To justify anyone’s pain by saying ’life is tough’ and ’not my problem’ is the definition of narcissism. And in my experience they use this ’transient’ nature of everything always as a way to escape responsibility for anything.

Cheers Richard. I enjoy your honesty. For me it’s 7 years out of that relationship but had a child. Your work helped me to realise what I was dealing with. Thankyou

Even if you're married you don't have to do something that hurts you and that it's in conflict with your boundaries.

Dealing with court & a narcissist is EXPENSIVE and utterly exhausting. Document everything, all communications. All interactions. You have to show the court that what you're saying is the truth, what they're saying is fabricated and twisted. Truth is on your side but you have to keep it organized.

Just found you. Thank you for your channel. Your ability to articulate the mentality of these people's dispositions is very different than most teachers and coaches regarding the spectrum of narcissism. Most therapists don't have any idea the depth and diversity of this psychopathy. Thank you.

I am myself have training as a Registered Nurse [my BSN] and have always been told there was a need to have "professional boundries" between myself and the patient/client ... (I instinctively felt there was something wrong in doing this). I am always careful to maintain boundry's regarding my role to help (and not merge a personal rel'p to free them from the need for reciprocity; there is none - my place is to help], but I never, ever but myself above them and had no trouble sharing my own experience ... to show compassion. The walls constructed are for control & power. This serves no purpose in healing. We Are All the Same 99.95% Genetically. The sooner we realize we're all connected and together we grow together, we'll see miracles like never before.

It’s strange how they have no concept of time. Strange watching them in when you know.

Roared with laughter ..." you are just another hairless ape in socks ..". You read my mind Richard, yes I was thinking of using this phrase as a f*** off you deluded meglomaniac, go bully someone else because I will not allow it. Brilliant as ever. Thanks.

Thanks Rich... what a Gateway to clarity this is. 🧡

This video gives me hope. Richard you have integrity and passion. Thank you for standing up Using your platform and gifts to enlighten the masses in a smart and deep way. This was very moving and truth personified.

Yes, in their eyes we are literally just "extensions" of them. Not seperate individuals but believed to be a literal part of them that they are convinced they can control. I remember when in their company experiencing it like they at all times were determined to pull me onto their "planet", that there was no other space in which to interact, no way I could stay on my "planet" whilst in their company, but on their "planet" there was no oxygen.

This is so true & I must say it was a very healing and gut wrenching laugh when I heard your message about shoving the truth up the narcissist’s “bum”.🤣🤣 Richard Grannon you are great speaker!!

Yesssss!!!! I’m so happy I watched this video this morning. Thank you, thank you! I broke up with my children father for good and he’s putting me through hell! One day he is trying hard to be nice, the next he is screaming that I’m nothing! We still live together until I can move all my babies stuff and mine across the whole country. This gives me awareness that I need to stay strong. I applaud you for making these videos. Thank you. It’s making more sense out of this nonsense!!!

Thank you..❤️☘️

You are so right they are boring! I see this now! She even tried to show this then would disappear to live that other life.

Richard....You are so Real! I am another Velveteen Rabbit....Always. Do not change ..... Ever "D"

Richard thank you for being you. You have made a difference in my life . 🙏🏻

This grandma loves listening to you, Richard, thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience to help people heal. You’re doing a good work❤️

20 years....he discarded me in a vile way. Thank god for that despite the pain I am going through. He was diagnosed autism but I found out that he is a vulnerable/shy/fragile/covert narcissist...the worst kind

What a beautiful sight...out of the window. 👌🏻

Richard I love your videos with all the humour makes it a treat to watch and hear your views

Beautiful ending message man I’d love to hear that more

True... It claimed to be my guardian angel in physical form.🙄😭

They are never wrong.

Dear Richard you so much for all you do for us and for this insight you 'coincidentally' shared during present circumstances. Your calmness and clarity is uplifting. Made me feel a lot better :) Much love❤️

Beautiful sunset.

Loving this channel! Thank you 🙏

and remember Darren - I SEE EVERYTHING!! I heard those words again on the Omnipotence point. A chill went down my spine. Great content though - thanks...

I like your new quality camera 📷 very nice! 💖

This is my favorite one of your rants. I am getting so much value from that entire, 'let's help them shove it further up their behind'-part. Gonna listen to it several more times. I was feeling a bit stuck with that place in me, but now I can set those thoughts free and move on. Thanks again!

I just spit out my soda when you said special and unique!!!!! oh my gosh it's so hard deep down I know there's no one home behind those beautiful blue eyes.

This has made me feel a lot better, safer and reassured that actually he is NOT God. I realise I have felt so threatened because he had me believing he was so powerful. No, he is just human. He's quite stupid actually I am realising. He is not going to control me or my little boy ever again. I can heal. I can move on. We can live a happy life with him meaning nothing to me anymore and no Influence in my life anymore. This is great relief. Thank you for the safe feeling I need to help pull me through the divorce battles ahead. X