Was with my ex bf for almost 4 years..lived with him, did the wife thing...no ring. Came down to straight up asking him if he saw us ever getting married. He said no. I moved out almost immediately. Lesson was learned. From there on I made a vow to myself that I would never move in with another boyfriend. He would need to be at LEAST a fiancé. No ring no living together. Fast forward to today I've been with my now fiancé for not even a year before he proposed. As they say.."if he wanted to, he would".. My point: lay down your boundaries and requirements in the beginning and stick to them. You'll weed out the ones who aren't worth your time and eventually come across the one who is.

I have a 3 steps advice. Tell the guy beforehand that you want to get married and you’re not interested in a boyfriend. Never ever live with a guy without being married. And lastly start hurrying to get married very early on, because good men are taken away very fast. And I garantie you that you’ll be successful, just be smart about the process and honest.

He's not proposing because he doesn't see you as WIFE Material. Period.

I have heard men say they would live with many types of girls, but very few they would marry. Something to consider when so many girls seem very fast at shacking up. You don't want to waste the best years of your life on these types.

This is so good! I often fumble over word choices. Please keep the advice coming

My sister-in-law was dumped by her fiance soon after he started in a new job. One night he just didn't come back home when the company had had a little party. He had had a mutual interest going on for weeks with a co-worker. Then he explained; well, I couldn't leave you any earlier because I wasn't sure if that new girl would like me or not. At least he was honest.

When you spell it out like this, it all makes sense! TYFS! 😊🧡😊

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Your voice is so calm and soothing. You put across things so calmly. It doesn't hurt to hear the truth. Love your content! ❤❤❤

I think this is all just common sense and we already know why he's not purposing. You hit the nail on the head, pointing out that we're ignoring the signs of differing values or expectations. In that same way we're ignoring the oh-so obvious behaviors, procrastination, in some cases outright lies, that give us the answer we didn't want to hear. I appreciate your bluntness. I think it's just time to move forward with our lives, weigh the pros and cons of staying in a relationship that will never provide assurance of partnership and belonging. If you make your intentions known, your relationship is 1-2 years in and you're receiving an out right rejection, excuse, or he requires proof of your worthiness by moving the goal post every time you "cause doubt"(more accurately defined as Everytime you do/don't do something he can add to the list he believes substantiates avoiding commitment to you) you know why. And I'm starting to realize that "why won't he purpose?"isn't the right question anyway." Why am I waiting for him to purpose?" is the appropriate question to ask.

I am thankful to you for mentioning the point that We as women need to take care of ourselves and it has less to do with making men getting attracted but more to do with how we then feel and perceive ourselves of high quality and that creates magnetism and aura which does attract potential mates.

In addition to this excellent advice, every woman needs to learn the characteristics of a narcissist and what love bombing is. Lots of good videos on KZfaq

I needed this so badly, thank you.

Inspector gadget. 😂. Honestly somehow you just randomly appeared in my KZfaq feed about a month ago. Not quite sure why. But, I’m fascinated listening to you, you’re so articulate, well spoken, smart and beautiful. Like I said before - memorizing. You should be a host for a show on live TV - I can almost guarantee you’ll get a position - any genre. Plus, keep your KZfaq channel. Anyway, like I said before you have a gift. Cheers Marg, have yourself a wonderful day.

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My very best friend didn't live with her boyfriend she gave him a year. On their one year anniversary they took a wonderful weekend vacation. He proposed on the deck and she almost lost the one of a kind ring that he had designed for her. She was going to dump him when they returned home. Her mom told her to wait and get a great vacation from him! Mom was in on the proposal ❤🎉

They want to waste their time with a fun mate. :) Most of these men are covert narcissists who rest in their feminine energy and will trigger you to step in your masculine and run you dry. After you get emotionally depleted and you have adrenaline fatigue he calls you sick and leaves. (That’s what my father did to his ex spouse) they never really love you. They enjoy their time with you Until they find “that” mate. Don’t waste your time and lower your value with these leaches. Make it about you. It isn’t about them. Don’t settle for potential. Focus on their character and morals. Protect your peace and mental health. I never cared about marriage and never romanticised the idea of it. I simply live my life and I think there is always that one who god wants you to be with for some reason.

Not being married is benefiting us right now but after school I do want that

Thank you

Massive disparity in wealth is a reason men can be hesitant however this only applies to a minority of a population, especially if in addition you've have had a great childhood upbringing, close to family and then have either worked for or been fortunate to have an abundance of wealth. To marry the wrong woman can completely turn your life upside down. With wealth out the picture though yes you should be finding it easier to commit to marry.

A sister I never had! ❤

Just seen a video of a women saying she waited 8 years and didn't even have a wedding 💀

Beautiful and smart 😊

I stayed with a man for five years because I thought my effort was enough. I thought him asking for us to live together meant we were making a commitment to each other, to grow together with or without marriage. I was very wrong. He was not as committed as I was. He left me.

He doesnt have long goal plans. I built him up and then what the next girl gets proposed, i guess i should change my name to the BRIDGE OR A welcome MATT.

Reason #1: There absolutely no benefit for a man to get married, just liability.

I love when you call me "baby". I replayed it 5 times. 😂

I’m at 2nd reason…. And unfortunately I live with him already. He doesn’t want to “ jump into marriage.” Yet we do everything that married people do. So he sees no benefit in proposing marriage and moving forward. Time to change my address. 😢

I had a friend who had children with her boyfriend, they did not even live together in the same house. Her and the kids lived with a family member while their dad was at his own place. Couple years past still dating, she complains to me and another friend of ours from work that she doesn’t understand why he hasn’t proposed but I always was like you should be asking much more than that. Your situation is odd. Turns out he had been cheating on her with a girl best friend that he would swear up and down that nothing was happening. AND to make matters worse, the girl best friend was living with him at one point and my friend had no clue until she caught him in a lie when finding her stuff in his bathroom.

What if you already have kids, live together, do all the wife things and he doesn’t want to get married. I get you said there’s no point to him bc I’m already doing everything and I fully get that but what now?

They always say “war is traumatizing” but they leave out the part that its only traumatizing for the losing side

I was with my ex for 4 years and he didn’t purpose until I told him. Then he finally purposed but bc I had mentioned it a few months back 😭 he was still in the same place financially and was always broke. He kept promising me that he would get a better job but never did and most of the time i bought him expensive things and he didn’t have money to take me out to eat 😑 and I just got fed up and broke off the engagement 😞 I was done and heartbroken 💔

I don’t understand the first one. I think it’s important to put on a dating profile that you have a marriage mindset or that you are seeking a long term relationship with the goal of marriage should things work out. Not saying it doesn’t set you up for success.

It’s been 5 years and I have not been proposed to. We bought the ring back in 2019 but he says “I look at a ring for marriage” and the way I look it is for commitment. I don’t necessarily want to get married but I want to feel wanted and attractive and have the experience of being proposed to and now it’s just getting frustrating and Really unromantic

I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. He is not proposing. How long should you wait for a proposal? He is in his 30s and I am in my late 20s.

Also, if you've ever cheated on him, or if you've ever belittled his manhood, or if you're still close "friends" with former lovers - he may keep living with you, but it'll be a million years before he wants to marry you.

Sorry but this is bullsht. To all the girls out here: talk to your partner instead watching Videos of some strangers who don't know you or your relationship.

Another reason is the sex has slowed, become boring or stopped altogether.

How long should you wait for a proposal in your 30s?

I’m curious about your take on this: my boyfriend of 6 months is scared to get married because he could lose his pension (army). He was with his ex for 10 years, 2 kids no marriage & feels like he dodged a bullet because she wanted half of his pension. Do you think a pre nup could be a good compromise in this situation? I truly feels like I want to ultimate life commitment at some point in our relationship.

The man I am with right now I asked for the 6th time since 2005, when is he going to marry me, always the same answer “we’re together already, isn’t that enough?” I would just turn away and not respond to that because I have no words or clapback for that…yes I am weak….😞

What if he’s fallen out of love but says he doesn’t want to break up? We live together, I’ve been a “cow”, and I don’t know how to turn this around. Can he fall back in love?

He doesn't love her.

98% likelihood that he's going to stay with his wife. Only 2% leave the wife.

Can you do a review of the newest season of the show Ready to Love. Please please please. It just started and Iwould love your assessment.

Reason number one: divorce.

Most of the reasoning comes from the fact that men fear being ransacked in the divorce courts. The stories out there are absolutely harrowing.

11years later, 2boys still nothing😢

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If girls are offering wife experience for free/ why should a guy marry

Many men just want to be with everbodies va-jj.

"We forget that men are human beings. They have emotions." Damn, never thought I'd hear those words out of a woman. She still won't change to faciliate those emotions though. lmao

I feel bad for the guys. Guys do so much for us. In most cultures around the world romance seems to focus on us while guys have to do it all: approach us, ask us out, pursue us, court and romance us, pay for everything, propose, save like 3 months of their salary to buy us a ring, talk to both families, etc. And all we do is show up to the date? Thats cold haha! I might get weird looks from friends but I do those things for the guy I am seeing just like he does for me. Come on girls. Lets put some effort for the guys just like we expect from them. Relationship are not all about us.

women grin the same way when they are sitting next to their divorce lawyer. if she wants to get married in church in front of God and family, fine. but never sign the marriage license. the power immediately shifts into her hands. in the back of their minds, if the marriage fails, there will be a payoff.

Why don’t women propose instead of waiting and dropping hints?

Not swallowing and no ana1.

2:22 you cant get anymore wrong than this

Young married guy here, high value, all the 6's. Everything she said is true.

Haha. Trust me , i walked enough distance to know where that road went. They all lead to the same place

No no no… its not that you (she) were suppose to be beautiful… its that each time you lie to me i raise my standards for how physically attractive i want them to be until you cant meet my criteria anymore

#1 reason. You are not faithful.

My reason I wouldn’t propose, some of you women really love having multiple male “friends”, and I don’t like to share my woman. To me, that shows she’s not really committed to me or respects my feelings. I’m of the belief that men and women cannot be truly platonic friends. We are sexual beings and it’s not a question of if it will get sexual, only when.